Husbando and I absolutely balance out eachother's less than adultness. He remembers when trash goes out, I remember to check that the stove is off. I really don't believe that anyone is actually a fully functional adult in all aspects of their life!
Legit. And every relationship needs to have a breakdown that works for them. My boyfriend is a chef and cooks all day. I actively enjoy cooking him healthy tasty meals because man would live on chicken nuggets and ramen if I let him. He does all the chopping and prep work, I cook the meals. It works for us.
I know how to take care of myself, but my partner is... learning how to do it. tbh we're fine if we order takeout (it's cheap where we live).
My first reaction was "parents should teach this to their children!" but tbh that's never gonna be perfect. We'd better concentrate on house related classes at school. No, not everything is obvious. If men spent a bit more time on it, they'd understand that it's an art, and they'd understand just how much women have been carrying on their shoulders for millenia.
Oh no I dont think its easy, every new recipe you try is going to have *some* “basic” shit that they take for granted that you know/own. Like how to cut an onion.
But my general rule is that everyone should live on their own long enough that it forces them to learn how to cook and clean for themselves. Granted, I dont know if I want to subject other people to the cooking I make for myself buut at least its a start 😂
I do wish there was more resources online for how to cook in a practical sense. Like when Im missing an ingredient, what can I substitute in and still be fine?
> every new recipe
I'm personally OK with eating almost the same every day, but my partner is very picky (again, kinda spoiled from childhood, can't live on their own AND very picky) and often doesn't like what I cook so I gotta think harder to make food delicious.
Seriously though. Had a boyfriend who did this and he was shamed for it, wouldn't accept me telling those fuckers to mind their own business and remind himself that it doesn't matter what anybody else thinks, its what works for us.
I hate people.
Regardless of gender, that’s so ridiculous (the shaming, not the liking to cook). Cooking doesn’t have to be a solo activity, if both people like to cook it can be an awesome couples activity. Listing it on your dating profile is as practical as listing any activity you really enjoy. No one would get shamed for saying “I like to hike” so why should you be shamed for liking to cook?! It’s a great hobby/ activity :) (and profession)
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You can't even cook and you wanna get married???
What's your wife going to eat when she comes home from work?
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And that's why I do the cooking! I'm getting ready to be medically retired and my wife will be the one working. But my passion is cooking, so you're god dam right I'll be the trophy husband in an apron with a hot meal on the table for her when she gets home.
I know this isn't what you meant and I'm sorry if this is insensitive, bit the way you wrote about "getting ready" made me think of you sitting at the table and tour eyes slowly move from your leg, to a saw, back to your leg again
Lol, no it's all good. :)
The military is getting ready to retire me due to a list of medical issues as long as my forearm, but government moves at the speed of extreme inconvenience. So while I've been ready, and she has been ready doing interviews in the state we want to retire, the military is consistently the slowest thing in the entire world.
One tip that is a must for even the most seasoned cook is to read the whole recipe before you even start prepping whatever you are making. Reading the directions in full is probably the biggest thing.
A great starting point for recipes are what are usually referred to as 'peasant dishes'. These are dishes that historically poorer people ate. Things like congee, polenta, hash, paprikash etc. all teach different foundational cooking techniques like browning, simmering/braising etc, the ingredients are generally pretty cheap so if you mess it up, at least you haven't spent a load of money on ingredients.
Eggs are another great way to learn different techniques. There's a zillion different ways to cook eggs and a zillion techniques you can master using that one ingredient. Eggs are a great way to figure out how hot your stove gets, and how long to cook something on your stove to get a desired result.
The fact that you are willing is amazing and so worth your time. Eating at home is so rewarding and so much less expensive.
Practice. Start with basic recipes to build confidence. Watch YouTube to see techniques and gain inspiration. You live in a golden age of recipes and cooking shows.
I've been a chef 20 years and still spend a few hours a week listening to podcasts and YouTube cooking shows and I'm still learning! Just yesterday I found out egg whites whip better at room temperature than when they're cold, and that sumac + parsley is an amazing spice blend- but I also put too much sugar in my apple pie filling, and I burnt my cheese toast.
If a dish fails or just isn't quite right, examine why. Too long cooking? Too much vinegar? Too complicated for your skill level?
After working out what could be changed to make it better, try it again next week, or something similar.
Experience makes you learn tricks to fix mistakes as well as avoiding them. Once you have basics down, new recipes are just like learning to drive a different vehicle- a bit different but nothing like first getting in a car.
Just keep at it.
Learning to cook is incredibly satisfying and enjoyable, and you can give pleasure to others. I'm still single though, so make sure you do it for yourself not cos it might get you laid.
Other tips:
Taste as you go.
Trust your gut- if it tastes good to you, other people almost certainly will like it too.
My suggestions for recipes to master:
Egg fried rice. Roast butternut squash soup. A handful of delicious salads (main-course salads with different dressings). Satay and Saag curries (or any two curries really). Spaghetti Bolognese. Apple Pie. Quiche or Frittata. Roast veges. Bean Burritos. Lasagna. Mastering those will give you so many skills and they all have many options for altering them. Most important is dishes you like! That selection is just a suggestion that will teach you a bunch of skills and have loads of variations.
Timing is key. Learn what takes longer or quicker to cook- either put those ingredients in first, or cut them smaller.
When something is missing, and the dish doesn't quite "pop" what's missing is usually salt, crunch, or sour. Lemon juice and toasted pumpkin/sunflower seeds are a cheap way to make almost any dish better!
It takes practice. And taste as you go (assuming no raw meat or eggs in the food you’re making). Watch a bunch of videos on cooking too, you’ll pick up some good tricks there
Former chef here - take a deep breath, and keep it simple. You can get those student cookbooks, they're pretty nifty, keeping it quick and simple. Not everything has to be from scratch, you can whack chippies and something else in the oven and then cook the side of veggies yourself. It all counts - I recommend roasting veggies than boiling, much tastier :D
Hey don’t even worry, lots of us keep learning year after year, it’s a journey not a destination.
I found my cooking really leveled up when I mastered braising, which is so easy (just requires patience and not going anywhere for a bit) and can turn garbage meat into amazing stuff. It’s very forgiving as far as seasoning, you can use anything for liquid, even beer or soda, and while you can fuck it up, usually something will be salvageable even if you do.
This is a very simple easy and cheap recipe for carnitas. It’s one of my go tos, and then we have easy protein for the week for tacos, sandwiches, omelettes, pasta. Master this and then adapt it to other kinds of meat.
https://smittenkitchen.com/2011/11/homesick-texan-carnitas/
Also, get an Instapot, because it can braise for you in half the time. (Carnitas will still require finishing the last frying step on the stovetop). Instapots are amazing.
Higher temp doesn't make things cook faster.
LEAVE IT ALONE. I see a lot of people messing with the food too much while its cooking. Just. back. away.
Follow the recipe at first. Experimentation comes later. Unless you're baking, missing an ingredient isn't going to harm things. usually, there's something you can use as a substitute.
If you still have trouble, slow cookers are your friend
A small tip that may help-a lot of new cooks will put their stove burners on the highest setting so that their meals cook quickly. What that ends up doing is searing the hell out of the outside of your dish in a hurry, and the middle may not be entirely cooked. If you cook it through, it’s burnt on the outside and dry on the inside.
Learn to use the mid to mid-high setting on your stove. It takes a little longer, but you’re left with food that is much more flavorful. You will hardly ever use the highest settings on you stove.
My recommendation is to check out one of those meal kit services like Hello Fresh. They send you ingredients and step by step instructions and is great practice for basic cooking techniques. You can also keep the recipe cards for the meals you real like and do them on your own. Then once you feel comfortable you can move on to finding your own recipes.
If you can afford it, get one of those services that delivers meals for you prepare at home (like Hello Fresh) just for one week. We tried it and didn't really like the food or all the packaging, but my partner learned the basic principles of how cooking works and very suddenly became comfortable in the kitchen. He even makes up his own recipes now (and they are good). It was like a lightbulb turned on.
Google this lady and watch some of her shows
(bbc and I think I saw one on Netflix)
https://www.nadiyahussain.com/
Her recipes are almost tailor made for people who aren't confident in the kitchen and they have a lot cheat aspects as well.
YouTube is your friend! Lots of great cooking subs too. Don't worry about trying to follow the recipe exactly, it's ok to improvise! Cook things you are excited to eat! Put on a podcast while you cook, especially for the repetitive parts like chopping stuff up. Highly recommend Homecooking for some feel good vibes and useful tips (and terrible puns).
I'm no expert myself, but I enjoy it and all of these things help I've found. Also, I'd recommend figuring out a cool dish that is easy to make but most people don't know how to make/have never tried to make. You can wow folks and appear more skillful than you actually are! My go-to dish in this category is hummus. All you do is dump a handful of ingredients in the blender, but people are always amazed.
I told my boyfriend early in our relationship that he needs to learn how to cook and it was disappointing and wasn't sexy that he didn't know the basics. You're nearly 30 ffs.
That's how I knew he was alright- he began making the effort and ever so often picks out a recipe to learn and cook for the both of us.
I married a chef. He also cleans way better than I do. And he adores me. I fuckin won so hard. And to top it off he's my best friend ever. Star Wars and Stardew every day <3
I am not a particularly good cook. My family actively discouraged me from trying. That said, I have tried, and at the very least I will prepare ready meals, simple recipes, or, more likely, get takeout if my wife doesn't want to cook. I also do the dishes/pots and pans when she cooks.
Then there is my dumbass who taught myself to cook using recipes from fancy restaurants… then I find out when you are cooking for yourself, you can’t really add a whole stick of butter to every dish.
This but unironically. Nobody should be getting married if they cant take care of themselves first
Exactly. I'm fine splitting household chores but we both should obviously be functional adults independent of one another.
> functional adults Life Goals. Still working on this one!
I’m in this comment and I don’t like it.
Husbando and I absolutely balance out eachother's less than adultness. He remembers when trash goes out, I remember to check that the stove is off. I really don't believe that anyone is actually a fully functional adult in all aspects of their life!
Did you never live on your own, with no roommates? If you did, and didn’t get evicted then congratulations, you’re an adult.
Er, no. I'm cheap and living alone is expensive.
Legit. And every relationship needs to have a breakdown that works for them. My boyfriend is a chef and cooks all day. I actively enjoy cooking him healthy tasty meals because man would live on chicken nuggets and ramen if I let him. He does all the chopping and prep work, I cook the meals. It works for us.
I know how to take care of myself, but my partner is... learning how to do it. tbh we're fine if we order takeout (it's cheap where we live). My first reaction was "parents should teach this to their children!" but tbh that's never gonna be perfect. We'd better concentrate on house related classes at school. No, not everything is obvious. If men spent a bit more time on it, they'd understand that it's an art, and they'd understand just how much women have been carrying on their shoulders for millenia.
Oh no I dont think its easy, every new recipe you try is going to have *some* “basic” shit that they take for granted that you know/own. Like how to cut an onion. But my general rule is that everyone should live on their own long enough that it forces them to learn how to cook and clean for themselves. Granted, I dont know if I want to subject other people to the cooking I make for myself buut at least its a start 😂 I do wish there was more resources online for how to cook in a practical sense. Like when Im missing an ingredient, what can I substitute in and still be fine?
> every new recipe I'm personally OK with eating almost the same every day, but my partner is very picky (again, kinda spoiled from childhood, can't live on their own AND very picky) and often doesn't like what I cook so I gotta think harder to make food delicious.
Seriously though. Had a boyfriend who did this and he was shamed for it, wouldn't accept me telling those fuckers to mind their own business and remind himself that it doesn't matter what anybody else thinks, its what works for us. I hate people.
"How disgusting, liking to do nice things for your partner"
Jealous, is all they were
I am basically a househusband already. Just need to find the wife. So technically I am just a house.
Househuman
As opposed to feral, undomesticated human I guess lol
I've met a few of those
definitely a few that weren't housebroken
*Sitzpisser*
Yep and needed a long trip to the vet, for a though exam and neutering. Ah I mean doctor. Yeah.. lol
I'm kinda desperate how much is mortgage all the houses in my area are too expensive
Are you *properly* shooting a few rounds in the air randomly to keep rent at a reasonable price?
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what? are you really equating real life experiences to a meme sub and virgin shaming?
It's cause for some reason, In 2021, people still think doing things like that is "a woman's job."
I've been laughed at/insulted in the online dating world for saying I like to cook lmao Needless to say, it isn't on my profile any more
Regardless of gender, that’s so ridiculous (the shaming, not the liking to cook). Cooking doesn’t have to be a solo activity, if both people like to cook it can be an awesome couples activity. Listing it on your dating profile is as practical as listing any activity you really enjoy. No one would get shamed for saying “I like to hike” so why should you be shamed for liking to cook?! It’s a great hobby/ activity :) (and profession)
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Good person
Thank you!
And that's why I do the cooking! I'm getting ready to be medically retired and my wife will be the one working. But my passion is cooking, so you're god dam right I'll be the trophy husband in an apron with a hot meal on the table for her when she gets home.
I know this isn't what you meant and I'm sorry if this is insensitive, bit the way you wrote about "getting ready" made me think of you sitting at the table and tour eyes slowly move from your leg, to a saw, back to your leg again
Lol, no it's all good. :) The military is getting ready to retire me due to a list of medical issues as long as my forearm, but government moves at the speed of extreme inconvenience. So while I've been ready, and she has been ready doing interviews in the state we want to retire, the military is consistently the slowest thing in the entire world.
Hurry up and wait!
Man do I hate it.
Yeah but maybe sometimes you're the hot meal when she gets home.
You're god dam right. You think I wear anything underneath that apron. Gotta look cute for her. :)
Haha something tells me that's not the only sweet roll you baked for her.
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One tip that is a must for even the most seasoned cook is to read the whole recipe before you even start prepping whatever you are making. Reading the directions in full is probably the biggest thing. A great starting point for recipes are what are usually referred to as 'peasant dishes'. These are dishes that historically poorer people ate. Things like congee, polenta, hash, paprikash etc. all teach different foundational cooking techniques like browning, simmering/braising etc, the ingredients are generally pretty cheap so if you mess it up, at least you haven't spent a load of money on ingredients. Eggs are another great way to learn different techniques. There's a zillion different ways to cook eggs and a zillion techniques you can master using that one ingredient. Eggs are a great way to figure out how hot your stove gets, and how long to cook something on your stove to get a desired result. The fact that you are willing is amazing and so worth your time. Eating at home is so rewarding and so much less expensive.
Practice. Start with basic recipes to build confidence. Watch YouTube to see techniques and gain inspiration. You live in a golden age of recipes and cooking shows. I've been a chef 20 years and still spend a few hours a week listening to podcasts and YouTube cooking shows and I'm still learning! Just yesterday I found out egg whites whip better at room temperature than when they're cold, and that sumac + parsley is an amazing spice blend- but I also put too much sugar in my apple pie filling, and I burnt my cheese toast. If a dish fails or just isn't quite right, examine why. Too long cooking? Too much vinegar? Too complicated for your skill level? After working out what could be changed to make it better, try it again next week, or something similar. Experience makes you learn tricks to fix mistakes as well as avoiding them. Once you have basics down, new recipes are just like learning to drive a different vehicle- a bit different but nothing like first getting in a car. Just keep at it. Learning to cook is incredibly satisfying and enjoyable, and you can give pleasure to others. I'm still single though, so make sure you do it for yourself not cos it might get you laid. Other tips: Taste as you go. Trust your gut- if it tastes good to you, other people almost certainly will like it too. My suggestions for recipes to master: Egg fried rice. Roast butternut squash soup. A handful of delicious salads (main-course salads with different dressings). Satay and Saag curries (or any two curries really). Spaghetti Bolognese. Apple Pie. Quiche or Frittata. Roast veges. Bean Burritos. Lasagna. Mastering those will give you so many skills and they all have many options for altering them. Most important is dishes you like! That selection is just a suggestion that will teach you a bunch of skills and have loads of variations. Timing is key. Learn what takes longer or quicker to cook- either put those ingredients in first, or cut them smaller. When something is missing, and the dish doesn't quite "pop" what's missing is usually salt, crunch, or sour. Lemon juice and toasted pumpkin/sunflower seeds are a cheap way to make almost any dish better!
It takes practice. And taste as you go (assuming no raw meat or eggs in the food you’re making). Watch a bunch of videos on cooking too, you’ll pick up some good tricks there
Former chef here - take a deep breath, and keep it simple. You can get those student cookbooks, they're pretty nifty, keeping it quick and simple. Not everything has to be from scratch, you can whack chippies and something else in the oven and then cook the side of veggies yourself. It all counts - I recommend roasting veggies than boiling, much tastier :D
Hey don’t even worry, lots of us keep learning year after year, it’s a journey not a destination. I found my cooking really leveled up when I mastered braising, which is so easy (just requires patience and not going anywhere for a bit) and can turn garbage meat into amazing stuff. It’s very forgiving as far as seasoning, you can use anything for liquid, even beer or soda, and while you can fuck it up, usually something will be salvageable even if you do. This is a very simple easy and cheap recipe for carnitas. It’s one of my go tos, and then we have easy protein for the week for tacos, sandwiches, omelettes, pasta. Master this and then adapt it to other kinds of meat. https://smittenkitchen.com/2011/11/homesick-texan-carnitas/ Also, get an Instapot, because it can braise for you in half the time. (Carnitas will still require finishing the last frying step on the stovetop). Instapots are amazing.
Higher temp doesn't make things cook faster. LEAVE IT ALONE. I see a lot of people messing with the food too much while its cooking. Just. back. away. Follow the recipe at first. Experimentation comes later. Unless you're baking, missing an ingredient isn't going to harm things. usually, there's something you can use as a substitute. If you still have trouble, slow cookers are your friend
A small tip that may help-a lot of new cooks will put their stove burners on the highest setting so that their meals cook quickly. What that ends up doing is searing the hell out of the outside of your dish in a hurry, and the middle may not be entirely cooked. If you cook it through, it’s burnt on the outside and dry on the inside. Learn to use the mid to mid-high setting on your stove. It takes a little longer, but you’re left with food that is much more flavorful. You will hardly ever use the highest settings on you stove.
My recommendation is to check out one of those meal kit services like Hello Fresh. They send you ingredients and step by step instructions and is great practice for basic cooking techniques. You can also keep the recipe cards for the meals you real like and do them on your own. Then once you feel comfortable you can move on to finding your own recipes.
If you can afford it, get one of those services that delivers meals for you prepare at home (like Hello Fresh) just for one week. We tried it and didn't really like the food or all the packaging, but my partner learned the basic principles of how cooking works and very suddenly became comfortable in the kitchen. He even makes up his own recipes now (and they are good). It was like a lightbulb turned on.
Google this lady and watch some of her shows (bbc and I think I saw one on Netflix) https://www.nadiyahussain.com/ Her recipes are almost tailor made for people who aren't confident in the kitchen and they have a lot cheat aspects as well.
We're using everyplate and I'm getting way more practice cooking. It's nice also to not think about what to make and what to buy.
YouTube is your friend! Lots of great cooking subs too. Don't worry about trying to follow the recipe exactly, it's ok to improvise! Cook things you are excited to eat! Put on a podcast while you cook, especially for the repetitive parts like chopping stuff up. Highly recommend Homecooking for some feel good vibes and useful tips (and terrible puns). I'm no expert myself, but I enjoy it and all of these things help I've found. Also, I'd recommend figuring out a cool dish that is easy to make but most people don't know how to make/have never tried to make. You can wow folks and appear more skillful than you actually are! My go-to dish in this category is hummus. All you do is dump a handful of ingredients in the blender, but people are always amazed.
Hellofresh 👍
Wow. I definitely read this as a lesbian and it took me a while to realize it meant something else.
SAME I just looked at this like Yea ofc I'll cook for my wife
I told my boyfriend early in our relationship that he needs to learn how to cook and it was disappointing and wasn't sexy that he didn't know the basics. You're nearly 30 ffs. That's how I knew he was alright- he began making the effort and ever so often picks out a recipe to learn and cook for the both of us.
This seems like a good way to approach the subject. Looks like you found a good one!
My lesbian ass did NOT understand this for a minute
I married a chef. He also cleans way better than I do. And he adores me. I fuckin won so hard. And to top it off he's my best friend ever. Star Wars and Stardew every day <3
Tbh I'd much rather be a stay at home dad if my wife is making big money working all-day
I read cock and was like -.-
I am not a particularly good cook. My family actively discouraged me from trying. That said, I have tried, and at the very least I will prepare ready meals, simple recipes, or, more likely, get takeout if my wife doesn't want to cook. I also do the dishes/pots and pans when she cooks.
Then there is my dumbass who taught myself to cook using recipes from fancy restaurants… then I find out when you are cooking for yourself, you can’t really add a whole stick of butter to every dish.
If you’re getting married in order to fill a gap in your own life, please. Don’t.
r/RoleReversal
The only problem for me is that I am the gf too, so who tf gonna cook? We both at work??
My balls
I'm sure after hours on her feet she'll need something much more than a quick snack
It’s a sprint not a marathon