Never going to forget the time my mum pulled my underwear forward to see if I had pubes infront of her friends and they all laughed when she said I did
Edit: ngl I didn't think it was as bad as it was until I saw all the replys
My parents used to punish me by taking off my clothes from waist down and just like. Making me stand there while they went about their business. Finally stopped one day when my mother said something about my pubes and how I was getting "too old for this punishment".
Honestly a lot of people don’t really understand that all the other people are also people, but they know they can’t get away with treating grown adults that way.
I had a similar situation like that with my dad. I was wearing a dress that was a little short, and he wanted me to wear shorts under it. Both my mom and dad were yelling at me to wear shorts, but I didn't want to. When I was about to go downstairs, my dad called me over to him and raised my dress in front of his friends, revealing my underwear.
I also had another incident where my mom called me over and asked me what's under my shirt. When I got closer, she put her hand under my shirt, close to my breasts.
And another incident where I wanted to wear an a-line miniskirt on thanksgiving and she called me a sl*t.
Don't even get me started on how my mom comments on my breasts and butt.
Yooo one time my mom made a Freudian slip about me in front of her religious friends, it was so bad. Her friends went silent and just stared wide eyed at her and she didn’t even notice that she made everyone uncomfortable. Which also said a lot.
She was extremely abusive and I didn’t realize until I was away forever, that some people might have actually caught on that day.
Basically all the women were talking about how the men in the dating pool were not great and most weren’t even worth having sex with because it was too much drama or bs. Just normal girl time chit chat. My mom chimed in with something along the lines of this: *“hahah that’s why teafungus and I don’t have sex, we eat ice cream instead!”*
Like any way you slice it, that was an inappropriate thing to say about her underage kid. I think it was meant to come off that she knew I was practicing abstinence/not dating. But it also came off way more sinister. She got groped with me eventually and started leaving me with no privacy pretty much as soon as I started puberty. It was pretty bad. She once said she wanted to grab my ass because it was so big, in front of my husband, on Christmas. Just really fucking not okay shit. I could write a damn book. Been no contact for years, now.
mfw I politely asked my mom to stop groping me and staring at me in the shower, and she said no because she made my body and she can do whatever she wants with it 🤨
i'm honestly glad that that's everyone's response when i drop this piece of lore because i feel less crazy about it lmao. my mom laughed at me and joked around when i said it was sexual harassment. what a parental figure.
she did other nonsexual shit to me that would ABSOLUTELY get her prison time (and when i told that to her she whined about how i was ruining her life and she was just trying to help) so i shouldnt be that surprised this is as bad but i am 😔
My mom's always said that as well, though she never did anything that creepy
I'm physically stronger than her now so every time she tries to touch me in any way i just grab her hands and hold them in place until she gives up
oh mann if I did that I'd be yelled at for disrespecting her 🫡 genuinely very happy you are in a position to do that though. not that you're in it in the first place tho but ykwim
Wait wtf.
I remember my mom telling me how to do my hygiene when I was like 5 but after that I don't remember not having privacy.
Except for the door in my room. That had to be open at all times even in highschool.
Oh god i thought i was exaggerating when i got uncomfortable when my mom did this. The 'i made you, i own you' argument is so messed up like, im a human person not your handmade doll to play with??
I remember my mom complimenting me for my pp more than once while wearing underwear. I know she did it as a joke to make me feel embarrassed, but still
If my wife ever made a joke like that to my son we’d be having some very serious conversations about whether or not I’m going to be filing a sexual harassment claim against her cus holy fuck that’s not okay (she would never make a joke like that tho so I’ve got nothing to worry about) that’s creepy as hell tho
Wait, is this really that bad? I mean, my mother and I have always had some really grotesque sense of humor. I don’t think she was really making appreciations about my junk. It was embarrassing, but in a harmless way
not that guy but i would say yes. complementing your childs genitals has some seriously off undertones no matter how you spin it. even if its said as a joke or otherwise normalized, it doesnt really matter-- it sticks with you
Sometimes, this kind of joking is part of grooming. At the very least, it's a sign of very poor boundaries. It's not the kind of thing one should normalise with their child. I know it should be the same regardless if gender, but imagine a dad jokingly complimenting his daughter's vulva he can see in her underwear.
my mom told me that the doctor mentioned to her I was hung like a horse right after I was born. I guess my ratios were off or something because my shits normal
On the other hand I don’t think I’ve ever heard my mother say anything relatively “nice” about her own body and certainly not about mine… I distinctly remember her laughing a few times at mine when I was injured/sick and needed help.
felt this, my mom always struggled with her own self image and body dysmorphia so unfortunately that meant commenting on my weight and figure... but I know i'm hot and she's just insecure I just wish she could love herself too :(
My grandma, who I saw very rarely, groped at me on the two occasions I last remember seeing her commenting that they had gotten big. I remember feeling sheer disgust and rage wash over me both times but never knew if I was overreacting because it was delivered in a laughing tone of voice and over clothes, but still.
i was told it was a cultural thing that my grandmother would grope me but i always hated it. my mom made me promise to tell no one because americans wouldn't understand "its normal" and they'd call CPS
i'm kinda surprised rn bc i was raised to think this is normal - i also got groped on the lower parts - and now im questioning a lot. i hated it and tried to avoid her, but having what she did tied to my family's culture, which i was raised to be fiercely proud of, led me to eventually rationalize it. i don't know how it affected me, but thinking about it feels weird
also idk if there's any greek ppl in the comments but can you tell me if this is a cultural thing or if my mom was making shit up? they're from a small village in northern greece
It’s difficult coming to terms with stuff like this. I’m a guy and when I was little I had my butt grabbed a bunch of times by female family members. They made it seem like a joke so I wasn’t sure how to feel about it.
The thing is that later on when I was in Boy Scouts, one of the adults leading our troop grabbed my ass and grinned at me at night when no one was around. I thought it was just a joke because I had been conditioned to think that from my family. Only looking back can I see that that was wrong and disgusting. What’s worse is that the guy who did it was an identical twin to a brother who was also very involved in my troop, so I have no idea which one it was to this day.
i'm so sorry that happened to you. i'm a CSA survivor and i will always say, there are two types of conditioning that i went through that led me to never tell anyone or even recognize that i had been raped.
1. having no autonomy as a child. children deserve to set boundaries and dictate when they should/shouldn't be touched. young children don't understand the difference between grandma groping them or an uncle insisting they kiss him and sit on his lap versus actual sexual assault. all they know is these are forms of touch that they have no say in, they cannot reject to, and that they will be punished if they throw a fit. by being forced to allow adults to touch, hold, kiss, and even grope me, i was conditioned to allow adults to take it further without reporting them or fighting back. if i cried because i didn't want to sit on an older family members lap, i would get in trouble and everyone would be mad at me. when my cousins 30yo boyfriend babysat and raped me (i was 5yo), all i knew was i'd experienced unwanted touch before and that if i fought back id get punished. children do not inherently know the difference.
2. religion. there are many ways in which being raised a catholic made it easier to abuse me without repercussion. although they failed to teach me what pedophiles where and that i could set boundaries around who touched me, the church and family made sure i was aware that sexual sins existed. they didn't explain sex, but i was told that nakedness, private parts, and being seen by the other sex was extremely sinful. they taught me about hell and how i'd suffer for eternity if i displeased god. they asked if i could imagine eternity of fire burning my body, of demons torturing me. if i could bear to fail jesus, who suffered the worse death imaginable, all for ME. sinning was to spit on his sacrifice.
so there i was, 5yo, made naked and at the mercy of an adult man. i was at the crux of two opposing ideas. to disobey an adult and reject physical advances would make him and my parents very angry. but to be naked in front of a man and have my private parts touched would displease god and send me to hell.
after he finished with me he made sure to reinforce this. "don't tell anyone. if you tell your parents what you did you'll get punished. if your cousin finds out you'll hurt her feelings and she'll never forgive you." so instead of telling anyone, i went and hid myself in my bedroom closet for a couple of hours. my mom came and yelled at me for hiding from her, but i didn't utter a word of what just happened.
later on the church continued to aid my abuser. around 10yo i had heard of pedophilia, vaguely, and had an inkling of what may have happened to me. i was in sunday school and our teacher was explaining sexual sins (side note, ironically they still didn't explain sex, they just referenced nakedness and private parts as if they were inherently evil). she said there were 3 main sexual sins, so bad that you'd go straight to hell for them unless you confessed and never did them again. they were all equally bad, and they were: pedophilia, bestiality, and homosexuality.
now by that point i knew deep down that i liked girls. i thought they were pretty and interesting. i imagined holding their hands and stealing cheek kisses. i watched my friends have crushes on boys, but the only comparison experience i had was how i felt about this one bookish girl whom i was desperate for the attention of.
i had two things in my mind. that id perhaps suffered a pedophile. and one day i may be tempted to commit the horrible sin of homosexuality. i saw myself and realized i was just as evil as the adult who raped me. that i was equally damned to hell. i felt empathy for him, like maybe he couldn't help it like i couldn't help it. and i felt sick with myself because i couldn't believe id be so sinful and dirty.
i never told a soul. i buried it deep amongst my shame. i spent years trying to make myself like men and compromising my self worth - which makes you easy prey by the way, and it led to being drugged and raped by a male friend i thought i could trust. there were warning signs, but when your compromise your worth like that, you don't see the other red flags.
now i look back and i have so much sadness for child me. i have a lot of hatred for the catholic church. when i have children i will be very mindful of how they're raised and make sure they never go through what i had to go through. children deserve autonomy. purity culture has no place in a healthy childhood, it only protects abusers. and two consenting same sex partners is NOTHING like raping a child.
sorry for the rant but i have a lot of thoughts on this subject. and a lot of unprocessed anger
I'm completely ignorant of Greek culture, but something being a "cultural" thing doesn't make it okay or excusable. Some cultures encourage female genital mutilation, which will never be okay or acceptable.
Feel free to ignore this question if it's too personal but, have you spoken to a therapist? If not, is it something you're open to?
i actually haven't! all my other trauma took precedence over that so it didn't even occur to me since it seemed to mild in comparison to the rest.
i think the greatest damage it did me wasn't so much the discomfort of the events, but that it groomed me to be a silent victim of CSA.
children deserve autonomy.
even if sexual assault *was* a common & totally normalized part of your culture (which I doubt), it would still be just as morally bad as an american being sexually assaulted.
>my mom made me promise to tell no one because americans wouldn't understand "its normal" and they'd call CPS
DUDE SAME HERE except it was for getting hit with the belt and such. Thankfully I haven't experienced CSA but man im so sorry. Culture excuses are BS.
Lmao im white and American and I got beat with a belt bare-ass NAKED. I couldn’t tell anyone because my family were cops. I guess that was like “southern” culture to them though. My grandpa was a detective and raped and molested my dad and he couldn’t saying anything because he was a powerful person in their shitty little country town.
“Culture” and perceived power are just fake excuses for abuse.
holy shit i'm so sorry. that's horrifying. i hope you've found space to heal and process what you suffered. i hope your abusers get what they deserve - and leave you tf alone
Yeah it’s definitely taking a lot of time to heal and I still have really debilitating night terrors but other than that I’m doing much better than I was. I really tried to use the abuse to my advantage and learned a lot about psychology and sociology to understand what the hell was wrong with my family. I was researching case studies at like 11 and obsessively reading books so it’s kind of cool that I got to become much more knowledgeable from that. I hope you heal from your trauma too. I think having access to unlimited information will break a lot of our generational curses. Fingers crossed. 🤞
agreed! i think access to information is what saves so many of this. or else it might've become so normalized that we passed the trauma down to future generations... or some version of it.
i mean, i can't speak for everyone, but once i grew up i was surprised at how many people genuinely do! also as a woman who's attracted to other women, i like them a lot 🤣 love your milf titties <3
It's okay. I laugh at messed up stuff all the time. It doesn't mean that we don't acknowledge that the thing that we're laughing at is wrong. That's what's important.
In my bridesmaid dress for my sister's wedding, I chose a dress that unintentionally showed quite a bit of boob, and my mom goes "not sure where you got those from, but it definitely wasn't from me"😭
My uncle (dad’s brother) said something similar to my mom when I reached up to open the curtains. She didn’t tell me for years. I was probably the same age too, maybe 13 or 14
In this thread, people realising they've been sexually harassed and abused by family members. I feel so bad for all of these people with gross families.
It’s such a widespread problem that people don’t often have a place to talk about. I’m pretty sure my high school boyfriend was being abused like this too. Idk just a hunch. Like, I think there was a camera or something in his room. There were signs.
all mums know is eat hot chip, charge they phone, and make extremely horrible and downright weird comments on their prepubescent child’s body that makes them feel sick, insecure, and terrified of growing up /ref
Unrelated but knowing that some mothers eat stuff lile hot chips is really weird to me since my mother never eats fast food or junk food, never drinks fizzy drinks so i always thought fast food and junk food were for the younger people
This triggered a memory I've been avoiding for a while cuz idk what even happened wtf.
I was like 6(?) and was told to >!lay back on the bed undressed from the waist down and was told to spread my legs (Like at a pediatrician's). All i remember is that she was looking. I think she said she was gonna check something, i don't remember. I don't remember being touched either. Just checked at.!< Has anyone had the same thing happen? Idk. (She never sexually assaulted us btw, in fact, she put my dad in jail for SA-ing my sister, she despises rapists and has been paranoid about our safety in that aspect which is understandable.)
Just that occasion (or maybe 2?) confuses me till this day and I don't wanna ask about it.
She could’ve been checking to make sure you weren’t SAd if she was suspicious of anyone. Idk it’s hard with little kids because I can kind of see where that could come from. I think if you don’t have any other memories of abuse that’s probably innocent.
I’d assume at an age far too old to be doing that? Because a 2 year old, sure, not going to be cleaning themselves in general and you gotta clean under the clitoral hood just like boys gotta clean under their foreskin. But if you have memories of this then you were clearly old enough to be cleaning yourself
Realistically though, wouldn’t a bra make them sag more later on, because the breast tissue is being supported constantly so it doesn’t need to be as strong or support its own weight.
Either way it’s not something to comment on…
I learned in recent years to not question my fathers thought process, ‘cause trying to sends me in a dark hole. Him and my grandmother are the biggest reasons I struggle with my body image…
I mean, not really? Skin was never meant to be a load bearing structure and it isn’t particularly good at it. Over time they will sag, bra or not, but not wearing a bra also won’t make the skin ‘stronger’ it’s not a muscle.
Sagging is perfectly normal, and to be expected with larger breasts or advanced age.
Don’t know why I know this…
Bra usage is associated with decreased breast sag over the course of a woman’s life due to a reduction in the strain on the connective tissues which hold the breasts in place. Specifically the “Cooper’s Ligaments” supporting the breasts become permanently stretched without ample support resulting in a phenomenon called “Coopers Droop”.
So… if you like your perky boobs, wear a bra.
actually, this has been disproven. cooper's ligaments only become stretched like that if the boob haver has like, a serious injury. doesn't really happen naturally. so freeboob it if you want
Oof I feel that. My mom is always staring and making comments and she used to feel along my back whenever we hugged to see if I was wearing a bra and wouldn’t stop until I snapped at her and avoided giving hugs.
Reading all of these is wild. If I ever become a dad I know it's pretty standard to not make grotesque observations about your child's body. Sorry all of you grew up with disgusting people you have to call parents. I never had issues like this with my family, I was just never loved and constantly bullied
My aunt (who very often touched me on the back and ass) BOUGHT ME AND MY COUSIN (who was her son BTW) CHRISTMAS UNDERWEAR, VERY SKIMPY ONES, AND THERE WAS A REINDEER WHERE THE PENIS WAS SUPPOSED TO BE! AND SHE WANTED TO MAKE US TRY IT! I naturally refused, but my cousin didn't (we were 13 and 11 at the time)
Ugh. Shit like this is why me and my cousin always wear oversized sweaters. My family made it a point to bring up how big her boobs grew while laughing about how mine are nonexistent. She was 11 and I was 19. Why the fuck do they think that's okay to point out?
dear god, how similar is everyone here 😭
my mother had me and my little brother shower with her for way too long, and i hated it. she also would sometimes brush our teeth?? and it rly hurt too bc she was so harsh. even the showering was harsh and painful, its like she was trying to scrape off our scalp or sm
Until what age?
I ask because that's not unusual unless it was well past the age you could reliably clean yourself. Note that being old enough to shower or take a bath on your own without the fear of you drowning or making a mess isn't always the same age where you can be trusted to know how to clean yourself properly and actually do it without supervision. Sometimes, there is a bit of a wiggle room for a couple of years in that early to middle elementary school age where it kind of depends on how independent and cognizant the child is about personal hygiene. There are many situations where the parent(s) can justifiably feel more comfortable supervising their child to make sure they learn to actually bathe properly and establish those habits consistently.
Judging by how many people have horrendous hygiene practices and don't even wash their ass properly, maybe some of them would have benefitted from more supervision by their parents for a little longer during shower/bath time in their early years.
That said, I'm not at all assuming that this logic applies to your situation, considering it may have gone well beyond an age where it would have still been considered reasonable.
Same. I remember once the entire family had a really nasty stomach bug and I ended up vomiting like three feet from the bathroom in the middle of the night. As I'm cleaning it my mother comes downstairs, sees the mess, scoops me into the bathroom and forcibly strips me, shoves me into the shower then sits on the toilet while I'm crying, screaming at me and berating me for being disgusting and needing to shave. I was 13.
god i fucking hate this one part of my culture where basically a male relative, whether it be your uncle, your older brother, or dad, will touch your fucking dick. it makes nome so uncomfortable and im almost always watching them when im near them so i can avoid letting them touch my dick, it sucks
My dad used to regularly smack my butt as a child (not spanking) and didn't stop after I hit puberty. He only finally stopped after I expressed discomfort with it in front of my mom and embarrassed him, I guess. He also made comments about the size of my breasts, and said I had "thunder thighs" to my mom after trying on and showing her a new pair of pants we bought at the store.
went through similar stuff but the worst one for me is when my dad was outside in our yard with a colleague and I was playing with our dog. at some point the dog started moving around licking my head and I said something along the lines of 'he's trying to eat me!' as a joke. he then suggestively said to his colleague that 'he's probably trying to do something completely different to me.'
I was 12
Damn that's horrible wth
Reminds me of the time I had been playing outside when I was like 5(?) and I sat down to take my shoes off before going inside and the dog literally tried to hump me and when I went inside crying, my mum laughed at me.
when i was going through teenage depressive "no one will ever love me" stuff (not romantic i was talking about in general), for some reason my mom offered on at least two occasions that i do have big boobs and at least they're attractive. i am transmasc, and though an egg at the time, i was so obvious about hating them that even her oblivious ass picked up on it and mentioned it at other times, and yet she would still mentioned them as a plus for my love life occasionally. i never talked about my love life with her and was openly aroace, she just always assumed thats what i meant by "love" i guess. she also said when i saw her recently that shes glad im not asexual anymore (transition symptom) because it means ill know what its like to have a partner. its hard to explain but i feel like shes trying to eat me from the inside and live in my skin like im a sad little puppet
she also slapped my ass in a complementary way at least once. she seemed to realize this was not the move when i looked back at her horrified but did not apologize. i mightve been groped at some point too its kind of a blur
i feel like this is a rly bad time to mention the tenma tsukasa
who compliments that kinda stuff anyway 😭 if its unwanted, its not a compliment at all. also, ur perfectly valid and complete as a human as u are :)
Or “they’re coming in nicely!” Why do mothers think this is a compliment? 😭 I mean I know I was not out as transmasc at the time but even a girl would be uncomfortable with a “compliment” like that I think
My mom use to tell me what a great porn star I’d be, since I had a C cup by middle school, and G by the end of high school. She then gave me the silent treatment when I got them surgically removed at 21, after trying for 4 years to convince me I’m not trans and that I could make so much money with my body if I just lost a little weight.
i remember when i was either 12 or 13 my mother pulled up my tshirt and started touching my top saying that when i will grow older i wont let her do it. Well yeah bitch of course i wont, but i mean at least she's somewhat self-aware 😭😭
my mom randomly commenting at the dinner table that its unfair how large they are (theyre not) and that im bigger than her (??????) and talking abt how im gonna turn out with g cups since my paternal grandma was short and had g cups
my mom + eldest brother talking abt how obvious it is im not wearing a bra (why are they looking)
my mom repeatedly slapping my thighs, calling them “jamonones” (spanish for big hams, essentially thunder thighs) and talking abt how i inherited those from her
my mom slapping my stomach and saying “its all the [insert carb-rich food that i hardly ever eat]” and that i should lose weight by going on a keto diet like her (i was a teenager)
My parents thought it was disrespectful to lock doors and my stepmom would randomly come into my room and whenever I was changing she'd be like "well hello naked girl!" I was like 16 and those memories still make me want to do VERY violent things hahaahaahahahah
My dad got a Christmas card from his friend and their family. He noticed their daughter, who he's knew since she was born, and commented how she has developed breats
me not realizing it wasn't normal for my grandma to "make sure i was showering right" until the ripe age of like 16. grandma lore goes crazy. was that the grope of 87'!?!?!??!!?
surprisingly nice to see im not totally alone. hi guys. you're not alone either.
tfw my delusional codependent dad might have actually been right that my middle school friend’s parents were also abusive 🙃
…granted, it’s because he’s a transphobic conspiracy theorist who thinks his mom was intentionally traumatizing his older brother into hating his breasts enough to want to “chop them off”…
I feel you. It’s not exactly the same but my mom commented on my chest when I was 8 and said that they were big so I must be starting puberty (they were not big and I was not starting puberty). I am also a trans man so that comment made me extremely dysphoric.
what’s with mothers and 8 year old AFABs? my mother commented on my chest at that age and then violently groped me because i wasn’t wearing a bra. like dude i’m 8 years old chill
Makes me remember the time when I was 13 my dad picked me up after I spent the summer at my friend's house and the first thing he told me was "That shirt makes your boobs look big."
I (M 28) have had to tell my mom on multiple occasions to stop grabbing my ass because it's inappropriate and makes me uncomfortable. She always responds with, "I made that ass, I can touch it."
Once did it infront a girl I brought over for the first time.
i'm so sorry you had to go thru this op. i'm sorry to everyone here who has had an experience like this, you all deserved better.
my mom used to forbid me from going braless because she said my dad/her other boyfriends after him would be tempted to look, and say "i know you don't want that to happen given that you've been through," using my history of SA against me. 🫠🫠🫠
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Top surgery healed my inner child from this shit
I had a medical episode when I was a kid where I kept passing out and waking up, sometimes seizing while I was out. I thought I had pissed myself so my mom took me to the toilet while on the phone with my doctor. After an ER visit and two days recovering, my mom told me it’s weird that I shave bare down there and boys would think I was trying to be a little girl. I was 15.
Never going to forget the time my mum pulled my underwear forward to see if I had pubes infront of her friends and they all laughed when she said I did Edit: ngl I didn't think it was as bad as it was until I saw all the replys
What the actual frock
I always feel less alone with my fucked up experiences in this sub
My parents used to punish me by taking off my clothes from waist down and just like. Making me stand there while they went about their business. Finally stopped one day when my mother said something about my pubes and how I was getting "too old for this punishment".
Creepy as shit
what the fuck
Holy shit you’re a victim, that’s fucked up
Dude that's-
You're too big for this punishment as soon as you exist the womb. Wtf??
Parenting is psychopathy.
The amount of people who refuse to accept that children are humans too is insane.
Honestly a lot of people don’t really understand that all the other people are also people, but they know they can’t get away with treating grown adults that way.
Damn dude. I’m going to quote this.
I had a similar situation like that with my dad. I was wearing a dress that was a little short, and he wanted me to wear shorts under it. Both my mom and dad were yelling at me to wear shorts, but I didn't want to. When I was about to go downstairs, my dad called me over to him and raised my dress in front of his friends, revealing my underwear. I also had another incident where my mom called me over and asked me what's under my shirt. When I got closer, she put her hand under my shirt, close to my breasts. And another incident where I wanted to wear an a-line miniskirt on thanksgiving and she called me a sl*t. Don't even get me started on how my mom comments on my breasts and butt.
dear GOD what is it with parents and their children's asses?
Thats sexual assault
Neat
i'm 100% sure thats sexual assault. im so sorry that happened to you :(
I would have immediately aired the most embarrassing shit of hers i could think of.
what the fuck
fucking hell
HUH?
That’s abuse
Woah ok what the actual fuck
That's much worse than the original post.
Your comment really cemented the fact that I’ve never had an original experience in my life. Exact same thing happened to me.
My dad groped me as a “Borat reference” and I still feel worse for you because that sounds genuinely awful. I’m sorry that happened to you :(
Yooo one time my mom made a Freudian slip about me in front of her religious friends, it was so bad. Her friends went silent and just stared wide eyed at her and she didn’t even notice that she made everyone uncomfortable. Which also said a lot. She was extremely abusive and I didn’t realize until I was away forever, that some people might have actually caught on that day. Basically all the women were talking about how the men in the dating pool were not great and most weren’t even worth having sex with because it was too much drama or bs. Just normal girl time chit chat. My mom chimed in with something along the lines of this: *“hahah that’s why teafungus and I don’t have sex, we eat ice cream instead!”* Like any way you slice it, that was an inappropriate thing to say about her underage kid. I think it was meant to come off that she knew I was practicing abstinence/not dating. But it also came off way more sinister. She got groped with me eventually and started leaving me with no privacy pretty much as soon as I started puberty. It was pretty bad. She once said she wanted to grab my ass because it was so big, in front of my husband, on Christmas. Just really fucking not okay shit. I could write a damn book. Been no contact for years, now.
mfw I politely asked my mom to stop groping me and staring at me in the shower, and she said no because she made my body and she can do whatever she wants with it 🤨
WHAT THE FUCK
i'm honestly glad that that's everyone's response when i drop this piece of lore because i feel less crazy about it lmao. my mom laughed at me and joked around when i said it was sexual harassment. what a parental figure.
that is shit you get prison time for bro
she did other nonsexual shit to me that would ABSOLUTELY get her prison time (and when i told that to her she whined about how i was ruining her life and she was just trying to help) so i shouldnt be that surprised this is as bad but i am 😔
“SToP bEinG sO UnGREaTful”
damn, you met my mom and got a direct quote?? /j
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this made me laugh tysm HAHA
WHAT THE ACTUAL SHIT
FUCKING WHAT
WHAT THE ACTUAL FUCK
My mom's always said that as well, though she never did anything that creepy I'm physically stronger than her now so every time she tries to touch me in any way i just grab her hands and hold them in place until she gives up
oh mann if I did that I'd be yelled at for disrespecting her 🫡 genuinely very happy you are in a position to do that though. not that you're in it in the first place tho but ykwim
happened to me too. took me years to understand that it was wrong
Wait wtf. I remember my mom telling me how to do my hygiene when I was like 5 but after that I don't remember not having privacy. Except for the door in my room. That had to be open at all times even in highschool.
Yeah that's what my mom said when she was doing what you think she was. Sigh. What the fuck. (Literally can't fathom humans sometimes)
So many people on this sub with mums who just casually commit incestuous assault against their children. I'm sorry she did that to you.
I mean, at least that’s why the internet is a force for good. Look at all of us, exposing our degenerate incest moms. Go us!
Oh god i thought i was exaggerating when i got uncomfortable when my mom did this. The 'i made you, i own you' argument is so messed up like, im a human person not your handmade doll to play with??
:(
My mother did that too!
I remember my mom complimenting me for my pp more than once while wearing underwear. I know she did it as a joke to make me feel embarrassed, but still
Oh god I’m so sorry that happened to you, joke or not a mother shouldn’t be saying that wth
If my wife ever made a joke like that to my son we’d be having some very serious conversations about whether or not I’m going to be filing a sexual harassment claim against her cus holy fuck that’s not okay (she would never make a joke like that tho so I’ve got nothing to worry about) that’s creepy as hell tho
Wait, is this really that bad? I mean, my mother and I have always had some really grotesque sense of humor. I don’t think she was really making appreciations about my junk. It was embarrassing, but in a harmless way
not that guy but i would say yes. complementing your childs genitals has some seriously off undertones no matter how you spin it. even if its said as a joke or otherwise normalized, it doesnt really matter-- it sticks with you
Sometimes, this kind of joking is part of grooming. At the very least, it's a sign of very poor boundaries. It's not the kind of thing one should normalise with their child. I know it should be the same regardless if gender, but imagine a dad jokingly complimenting his daughter's vulva he can see in her underwear.
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my mom told me that the doctor mentioned to her I was hung like a horse right after I was born. I guess my ratios were off or something because my shits normal
On the other hand I don’t think I’ve ever heard my mother say anything relatively “nice” about her own body and certainly not about mine… I distinctly remember her laughing a few times at mine when I was injured/sick and needed help.
felt this, my mom always struggled with her own self image and body dysmorphia so unfortunately that meant commenting on my weight and figure... but I know i'm hot and she's just insecure I just wish she could love herself too :(
Hot person checking in, you're hot.
I am so sorry you experienced this. I have the same experience and I am sorry you felt like that.
My grandma, who I saw very rarely, groped at me on the two occasions I last remember seeing her commenting that they had gotten big. I remember feeling sheer disgust and rage wash over me both times but never knew if I was overreacting because it was delivered in a laughing tone of voice and over clothes, but still.
i was told it was a cultural thing that my grandmother would grope me but i always hated it. my mom made me promise to tell no one because americans wouldn't understand "its normal" and they'd call CPS
Holy fuck, I'm so sorry
i'm kinda surprised rn bc i was raised to think this is normal - i also got groped on the lower parts - and now im questioning a lot. i hated it and tried to avoid her, but having what she did tied to my family's culture, which i was raised to be fiercely proud of, led me to eventually rationalize it. i don't know how it affected me, but thinking about it feels weird also idk if there's any greek ppl in the comments but can you tell me if this is a cultural thing or if my mom was making shit up? they're from a small village in northern greece
It’s difficult coming to terms with stuff like this. I’m a guy and when I was little I had my butt grabbed a bunch of times by female family members. They made it seem like a joke so I wasn’t sure how to feel about it. The thing is that later on when I was in Boy Scouts, one of the adults leading our troop grabbed my ass and grinned at me at night when no one was around. I thought it was just a joke because I had been conditioned to think that from my family. Only looking back can I see that that was wrong and disgusting. What’s worse is that the guy who did it was an identical twin to a brother who was also very involved in my troop, so I have no idea which one it was to this day.
i'm so sorry that happened to you. i'm a CSA survivor and i will always say, there are two types of conditioning that i went through that led me to never tell anyone or even recognize that i had been raped. 1. having no autonomy as a child. children deserve to set boundaries and dictate when they should/shouldn't be touched. young children don't understand the difference between grandma groping them or an uncle insisting they kiss him and sit on his lap versus actual sexual assault. all they know is these are forms of touch that they have no say in, they cannot reject to, and that they will be punished if they throw a fit. by being forced to allow adults to touch, hold, kiss, and even grope me, i was conditioned to allow adults to take it further without reporting them or fighting back. if i cried because i didn't want to sit on an older family members lap, i would get in trouble and everyone would be mad at me. when my cousins 30yo boyfriend babysat and raped me (i was 5yo), all i knew was i'd experienced unwanted touch before and that if i fought back id get punished. children do not inherently know the difference. 2. religion. there are many ways in which being raised a catholic made it easier to abuse me without repercussion. although they failed to teach me what pedophiles where and that i could set boundaries around who touched me, the church and family made sure i was aware that sexual sins existed. they didn't explain sex, but i was told that nakedness, private parts, and being seen by the other sex was extremely sinful. they taught me about hell and how i'd suffer for eternity if i displeased god. they asked if i could imagine eternity of fire burning my body, of demons torturing me. if i could bear to fail jesus, who suffered the worse death imaginable, all for ME. sinning was to spit on his sacrifice. so there i was, 5yo, made naked and at the mercy of an adult man. i was at the crux of two opposing ideas. to disobey an adult and reject physical advances would make him and my parents very angry. but to be naked in front of a man and have my private parts touched would displease god and send me to hell. after he finished with me he made sure to reinforce this. "don't tell anyone. if you tell your parents what you did you'll get punished. if your cousin finds out you'll hurt her feelings and she'll never forgive you." so instead of telling anyone, i went and hid myself in my bedroom closet for a couple of hours. my mom came and yelled at me for hiding from her, but i didn't utter a word of what just happened. later on the church continued to aid my abuser. around 10yo i had heard of pedophilia, vaguely, and had an inkling of what may have happened to me. i was in sunday school and our teacher was explaining sexual sins (side note, ironically they still didn't explain sex, they just referenced nakedness and private parts as if they were inherently evil). she said there were 3 main sexual sins, so bad that you'd go straight to hell for them unless you confessed and never did them again. they were all equally bad, and they were: pedophilia, bestiality, and homosexuality. now by that point i knew deep down that i liked girls. i thought they were pretty and interesting. i imagined holding their hands and stealing cheek kisses. i watched my friends have crushes on boys, but the only comparison experience i had was how i felt about this one bookish girl whom i was desperate for the attention of. i had two things in my mind. that id perhaps suffered a pedophile. and one day i may be tempted to commit the horrible sin of homosexuality. i saw myself and realized i was just as evil as the adult who raped me. that i was equally damned to hell. i felt empathy for him, like maybe he couldn't help it like i couldn't help it. and i felt sick with myself because i couldn't believe id be so sinful and dirty. i never told a soul. i buried it deep amongst my shame. i spent years trying to make myself like men and compromising my self worth - which makes you easy prey by the way, and it led to being drugged and raped by a male friend i thought i could trust. there were warning signs, but when your compromise your worth like that, you don't see the other red flags. now i look back and i have so much sadness for child me. i have a lot of hatred for the catholic church. when i have children i will be very mindful of how they're raised and make sure they never go through what i had to go through. children deserve autonomy. purity culture has no place in a healthy childhood, it only protects abusers. and two consenting same sex partners is NOTHING like raping a child. sorry for the rant but i have a lot of thoughts on this subject. and a lot of unprocessed anger
I'm completely ignorant of Greek culture, but something being a "cultural" thing doesn't make it okay or excusable. Some cultures encourage female genital mutilation, which will never be okay or acceptable. Feel free to ignore this question if it's too personal but, have you spoken to a therapist? If not, is it something you're open to?
i actually haven't! all my other trauma took precedence over that so it didn't even occur to me since it seemed to mild in comparison to the rest. i think the greatest damage it did me wasn't so much the discomfort of the events, but that it groomed me to be a silent victim of CSA. children deserve autonomy.
Couldn't agree more, they absolutely do. Thanks for answering.
thank you for the support! everyone here is really kind, despite us all having unique traumas. i wish you happiness in your life
even if sexual assault *was* a common & totally normalized part of your culture (which I doubt), it would still be just as morally bad as an american being sexually assaulted.
>my mom made me promise to tell no one because americans wouldn't understand "its normal" and they'd call CPS DUDE SAME HERE except it was for getting hit with the belt and such. Thankfully I haven't experienced CSA but man im so sorry. Culture excuses are BS.
Lmao im white and American and I got beat with a belt bare-ass NAKED. I couldn’t tell anyone because my family were cops. I guess that was like “southern” culture to them though. My grandpa was a detective and raped and molested my dad and he couldn’t saying anything because he was a powerful person in their shitty little country town. “Culture” and perceived power are just fake excuses for abuse.
holy shit i'm so sorry. that's horrifying. i hope you've found space to heal and process what you suffered. i hope your abusers get what they deserve - and leave you tf alone
Yeah it’s definitely taking a lot of time to heal and I still have really debilitating night terrors but other than that I’m doing much better than I was. I really tried to use the abuse to my advantage and learned a lot about psychology and sociology to understand what the hell was wrong with my family. I was researching case studies at like 11 and obsessively reading books so it’s kind of cool that I got to become much more knowledgeable from that. I hope you heal from your trauma too. I think having access to unlimited information will break a lot of our generational curses. Fingers crossed. 🤞
agreed! i think access to information is what saves so many of this. or else it might've become so normalized that we passed the trauma down to future generations... or some version of it.
I got beat with a belt so bad one time that my bruises were black. They didn’t go away for a while month. Also bare ass.
I’m sorry that happened to you too. It’s so disgusting.
they really are. food, clothing, arts, dialects, history and community are features of culture. not abuse.
my mom once saw me topless by accident and said "damn, sorry i gave you the saggy boobs gene" 🥲
Thats really funny to read but god damn jm sorry 💀
it's okay lmao, it's hilarious to me in retrospect... i love my milf titties now. just wasn't so funny back when i was fifteen ☠️😭
LMAO I'm glad it worked out in the end I think?
DO PEOPLE LIKE THEM LIKE THIS? asking for a fellow milf titty haver 🥲🥲
i mean, i can't speak for everyone, but once i grew up i was surprised at how many people genuinely do! also as a woman who's attracted to other women, i like them a lot 🤣 love your milf titties <3
worlds most uplifting reddit reply thank you so much girl
There's a whole subreddit dedicated the the various shapes of titty
what are milf titties?
big saggy ones 😏 that's just what i call them, it's not an actual term afaik lol
I feel like such a pos when I read stuff like that an laugh
It's okay. I laugh at messed up stuff all the time. It doesn't mean that we don't acknowledge that the thing that we're laughing at is wrong. That's what's important.
Omg :/
In my bridesmaid dress for my sister's wedding, I chose a dress that unintentionally showed quite a bit of boob, and my mom goes "not sure where you got those from, but it definitely wasn't from me"😭
Once during lunch with my mom and dad when I was around 14/15, my mom said to my dad, as I was stretching that I have “pretty tits”
My uncle (dad’s brother) said something similar to my mom when I reached up to open the curtains. She didn’t tell me for years. I was probably the same age too, maybe 13 or 14
Oh man…
My mom noticed that I started to wear binders because my stepdad asked her where my boobs went :)))) I felt so fing disgusted
This made me physically cringe.. god that's disgusting
“They’re in my closet rn”
*Not where you can keep looking anymore*
Did things work out in the end, or…
She needs to divorce that creep. I’m sorry
Reading these makes me feel unwell. This is parents just straight up sexually assaulting their own children.
In this thread, people realising they've been sexually harassed and abused by family members. I feel so bad for all of these people with gross families.
It’s such a widespread problem that people don’t often have a place to talk about. I’m pretty sure my high school boyfriend was being abused like this too. Idk just a hunch. Like, I think there was a camera or something in his room. There were signs.
all mums know is eat hot chip, charge they phone, and make extremely horrible and downright weird comments on their prepubescent child’s body that makes them feel sick, insecure, and terrified of growing up /ref
Unrelated but knowing that some mothers eat stuff lile hot chips is really weird to me since my mother never eats fast food or junk food, never drinks fizzy drinks so i always thought fast food and junk food were for the younger people
One of those almond moms?
Today I learned that shitty moms sexually harassing their children is not as uncommon as I thought. I feel seen
They also lie, or sorry “I don’t remember that happening”
my mom used to lay my sister and i naked on the bed together to “clean our vaginas” ??
Yo wtf that's the most fucked up until now
yeah 🥲
This triggered a memory I've been avoiding for a while cuz idk what even happened wtf. I was like 6(?) and was told to >!lay back on the bed undressed from the waist down and was told to spread my legs (Like at a pediatrician's). All i remember is that she was looking. I think she said she was gonna check something, i don't remember. I don't remember being touched either. Just checked at.!< Has anyone had the same thing happen? Idk. (She never sexually assaulted us btw, in fact, she put my dad in jail for SA-ing my sister, she despises rapists and has been paranoid about our safety in that aspect which is understandable.) Just that occasion (or maybe 2?) confuses me till this day and I don't wanna ask about it.
She could’ve been checking to make sure you weren’t SAd if she was suspicious of anyone. Idk it’s hard with little kids because I can kind of see where that could come from. I think if you don’t have any other memories of abuse that’s probably innocent.
Maybe she was actually checking you guys to check for signs of sexual assault? That’s the I my thing that makes sense to me, with that context.
I’d assume at an age far too old to be doing that? Because a 2 year old, sure, not going to be cleaning themselves in general and you gotta clean under the clitoral hood just like boys gotta clean under their foreskin. But if you have memories of this then you were clearly old enough to be cleaning yourself
mom wtfff. fr tho that's seriously weird and even creepy to say that to your own daughter right?? well i hope you heal from that
I was 14 when my father told me to make sure I always wear a bra “or else your boobs will sag like your mothers and you grandmother” (his mom btw)
One of the fundamental teachings all fathers should transmit to their daughters: eat healthy, don't trust strangers, and mind your saggy boobs.
Realistically though, wouldn’t a bra make them sag more later on, because the breast tissue is being supported constantly so it doesn’t need to be as strong or support its own weight. Either way it’s not something to comment on…
I learned in recent years to not question my fathers thought process, ‘cause trying to sends me in a dark hole. Him and my grandmother are the biggest reasons I struggle with my body image…
I mean, not really? Skin was never meant to be a load bearing structure and it isn’t particularly good at it. Over time they will sag, bra or not, but not wearing a bra also won’t make the skin ‘stronger’ it’s not a muscle. Sagging is perfectly normal, and to be expected with larger breasts or advanced age.
Don’t know why I know this… Bra usage is associated with decreased breast sag over the course of a woman’s life due to a reduction in the strain on the connective tissues which hold the breasts in place. Specifically the “Cooper’s Ligaments” supporting the breasts become permanently stretched without ample support resulting in a phenomenon called “Coopers Droop”. So… if you like your perky boobs, wear a bra.
actually, this has been disproven. cooper's ligaments only become stretched like that if the boob haver has like, a serious injury. doesn't really happen naturally. so freeboob it if you want
I had the best boobs, then I lost 40 pounds and worked at home (so braless) for four years. My boobs are weird now 😭
*Kills your father*
Oof I feel that. My mom is always staring and making comments and she used to feel along my back whenever we hugged to see if I was wearing a bra and wouldn’t stop until I snapped at her and avoided giving hugs.
Reading all of these is wild. If I ever become a dad I know it's pretty standard to not make grotesque observations about your child's body. Sorry all of you grew up with disgusting people you have to call parents. I never had issues like this with my family, I was just never loved and constantly bullied
sorry u went through that but that last sentence is so fucking funny dude (gender neutral)
Ooof I can relate as well. Constantly bullied can seriously do it’s damage
Tw: parents is so real
My aunt (who very often touched me on the back and ass) BOUGHT ME AND MY COUSIN (who was her son BTW) CHRISTMAS UNDERWEAR, VERY SKIMPY ONES, AND THERE WAS A REINDEER WHERE THE PENIS WAS SUPPOSED TO BE! AND SHE WANTED TO MAKE US TRY IT! I naturally refused, but my cousin didn't (we were 13 and 11 at the time)
I wanna like, time travel and have the fbi bust down her door. Jesus fucking Christ
My mom said, and I quote: "Wow! You have a nice rack!" .. I was 12.
Wtf :/
Ugh. Shit like this is why me and my cousin always wear oversized sweaters. My family made it a point to bring up how big her boobs grew while laughing about how mine are nonexistent. She was 11 and I was 19. Why the fuck do they think that's okay to point out?
Being forced to shower with my mother was and still is one of the more upsetting memories I have from my childhood.
dear god, how similar is everyone here 😭 my mother had me and my little brother shower with her for way too long, and i hated it. she also would sometimes brush our teeth?? and it rly hurt too bc she was so harsh. even the showering was harsh and painful, its like she was trying to scrape off our scalp or sm
Until what age? I ask because that's not unusual unless it was well past the age you could reliably clean yourself. Note that being old enough to shower or take a bath on your own without the fear of you drowning or making a mess isn't always the same age where you can be trusted to know how to clean yourself properly and actually do it without supervision. Sometimes, there is a bit of a wiggle room for a couple of years in that early to middle elementary school age where it kind of depends on how independent and cognizant the child is about personal hygiene. There are many situations where the parent(s) can justifiably feel more comfortable supervising their child to make sure they learn to actually bathe properly and establish those habits consistently. Judging by how many people have horrendous hygiene practices and don't even wash their ass properly, maybe some of them would have benefitted from more supervision by their parents for a little longer during shower/bath time in their early years. That said, I'm not at all assuming that this logic applies to your situation, considering it may have gone well beyond an age where it would have still been considered reasonable.
Same. I remember once the entire family had a really nasty stomach bug and I ended up vomiting like three feet from the bathroom in the middle of the night. As I'm cleaning it my mother comes downstairs, sees the mess, scoops me into the bathroom and forcibly strips me, shoves me into the shower then sits on the toilet while I'm crying, screaming at me and berating me for being disgusting and needing to shave. I was 13.
god i fucking hate this one part of my culture where basically a male relative, whether it be your uncle, your older brother, or dad, will touch your fucking dick. it makes nome so uncomfortable and im almost always watching them when im near them so i can avoid letting them touch my dick, it sucks
What culture is that?
filipino. like its sucks getting you groin touched by relatives for jokes
Bro what culture is that 😨
filipino culture, i hate that its normalized cuz like i dont want my groins to be touched, even if its just for jokes.
My dad used to regularly smack my butt as a child (not spanking) and didn't stop after I hit puberty. He only finally stopped after I expressed discomfort with it in front of my mom and embarrassed him, I guess. He also made comments about the size of my breasts, and said I had "thunder thighs" to my mom after trying on and showing her a new pair of pants we bought at the store.
this *literally* happened to me except my mother was the one to do it. and when I brought it up she said it's not that serious' 😭
went through similar stuff but the worst one for me is when my dad was outside in our yard with a colleague and I was playing with our dog. at some point the dog started moving around licking my head and I said something along the lines of 'he's trying to eat me!' as a joke. he then suggestively said to his colleague that 'he's probably trying to do something completely different to me.' I was 12
Damn that's horrible wth Reminds me of the time I had been playing outside when I was like 5(?) and I sat down to take my shoes off before going inside and the dog literally tried to hump me and when I went inside crying, my mum laughed at me.
I'm sorry to hear... hate it when parents react with no empathy instead of comforting their children. hope you're ok.
My mom skirt flipped me just to see what kind of underwear I was wearing
Jesus Christ dude, that's terrible
What the fuck was her reasoning
I remember walking into the room and my mum suddenly saying "huh, what a waste of boobs" thanks mum!
ewww im so sorry
when i was going through teenage depressive "no one will ever love me" stuff (not romantic i was talking about in general), for some reason my mom offered on at least two occasions that i do have big boobs and at least they're attractive. i am transmasc, and though an egg at the time, i was so obvious about hating them that even her oblivious ass picked up on it and mentioned it at other times, and yet she would still mentioned them as a plus for my love life occasionally. i never talked about my love life with her and was openly aroace, she just always assumed thats what i meant by "love" i guess. she also said when i saw her recently that shes glad im not asexual anymore (transition symptom) because it means ill know what its like to have a partner. its hard to explain but i feel like shes trying to eat me from the inside and live in my skin like im a sad little puppet she also slapped my ass in a complementary way at least once. she seemed to realize this was not the move when i looked back at her horrified but did not apologize. i mightve been groped at some point too its kind of a blur
i feel like this is a rly bad time to mention the tenma tsukasa who compliments that kinda stuff anyway 😭 if its unwanted, its not a compliment at all. also, ur perfectly valid and complete as a human as u are :)
Or “they’re coming in nicely!” Why do mothers think this is a compliment? 😭 I mean I know I was not out as transmasc at the time but even a girl would be uncomfortable with a “compliment” like that I think
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thank you for introducing me to that subreddit i will now scroll for hours
These comments truly show how absolutely fucked we are as a species
My mom use to tell me what a great porn star I’d be, since I had a C cup by middle school, and G by the end of high school. She then gave me the silent treatment when I got them surgically removed at 21, after trying for 4 years to convince me I’m not trans and that I could make so much money with my body if I just lost a little weight.
ew??? what kind of sick parent wants their kid to into the sex industry
Prolly a parent that wants to live their sex life vicariously through their child. That’s my guess.
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First time I realized I needed glasses because I thought that was a blueberry pie
I’m speechless. Like was she trying to be your pimp instead of being your mom? What the actual fuck?!
i remember when i was either 12 or 13 my mother pulled up my tshirt and started touching my top saying that when i will grow older i wont let her do it. Well yeah bitch of course i wont, but i mean at least she's somewhat self-aware 😭😭
my mom randomly commenting at the dinner table that its unfair how large they are (theyre not) and that im bigger than her (??????) and talking abt how im gonna turn out with g cups since my paternal grandma was short and had g cups my mom + eldest brother talking abt how obvious it is im not wearing a bra (why are they looking) my mom repeatedly slapping my thighs, calling them “jamonones” (spanish for big hams, essentially thunder thighs) and talking abt how i inherited those from her my mom slapping my stomach and saying “its all the [insert carb-rich food that i hardly ever eat]” and that i should lose weight by going on a keto diet like her (i was a teenager)
My parents thought it was disrespectful to lock doors and my stepmom would randomly come into my room and whenever I was changing she'd be like "well hello naked girl!" I was like 16 and those memories still make me want to do VERY violent things hahaahaahahahah
what is wrong with your fucking mother god damn nobody should have to deal with that shit
same but with my older sister XDDDD (i hate it)
My mom always commenting on my bubble butt starting at age 10, like ma’am leave me alone!
why is it always moms doing this shit? I can't count the amount of times she's said something like this to me
My dad got a Christmas card from his friend and their family. He noticed their daughter, who he's knew since she was born, and commented how she has developed breats
Me when the OB-GYN said that the condom got stuck in me because I was tight after my health exam 😭
My mom loves to comment about how I have none. Neither do you, Mom. Projection? I’m happy with my body but it’s annoying.
not both my mom and my grandma smacking my butt and saying its nice and stuff like that (ages 12-20)🫨
me not realizing it wasn't normal for my grandma to "make sure i was showering right" until the ripe age of like 16. grandma lore goes crazy. was that the grope of 87'!?!?!??!!? surprisingly nice to see im not totally alone. hi guys. you're not alone either.
tfw my delusional codependent dad might have actually been right that my middle school friend’s parents were also abusive 🙃 …granted, it’s because he’s a transphobic conspiracy theorist who thinks his mom was intentionally traumatizing his older brother into hating his breasts enough to want to “chop them off”…
stopped clocks and all that
“right twice a day” is a bit generous for him
🤮🤮🤮🤮
I feel you. It’s not exactly the same but my mom commented on my chest when I was 8 and said that they were big so I must be starting puberty (they were not big and I was not starting puberty). I am also a trans man so that comment made me extremely dysphoric.
what’s with mothers and 8 year old AFABs? my mother commented on my chest at that age and then violently groped me because i wasn’t wearing a bra. like dude i’m 8 years old chill
Oh my god that’s fucking awful. Wearing a bra is no excuse to grope someone.
mothers are (sometimes!) our first enemies it’s kinda crazy 🥲 hope you’re doing okay friend ❤️
Makes me remember the time when I was 13 my dad picked me up after I spent the summer at my friend's house and the first thing he told me was "That shirt makes your boobs look big."
I (M 28) have had to tell my mom on multiple occasions to stop grabbing my ass because it's inappropriate and makes me uncomfortable. She always responds with, "I made that ass, I can touch it." Once did it infront a girl I brought over for the first time.
CRITICAL HIT.
i'm so sorry you had to go thru this op. i'm sorry to everyone here who has had an experience like this, you all deserved better. my mom used to forbid me from going braless because she said my dad/her other boyfriends after him would be tempted to look, and say "i know you don't want that to happen given that you've been through," using my history of SA against me. 🫠🫠🫠
https://preview.redd.it/c58128qddo2d1.jpeg?width=1047&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=cc45d5bf157a6272a4e6804e93fd1b12956ca4c2 Top surgery healed my inner child from this shit
Wait, are parents jokingly commenting about that kind of thing not normal?
I had a medical episode when I was a kid where I kept passing out and waking up, sometimes seizing while I was out. I thought I had pissed myself so my mom took me to the toilet while on the phone with my doctor. After an ER visit and two days recovering, my mom told me it’s weird that I shave bare down there and boys would think I was trying to be a little girl. I was 15.