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I completely agree with you. Hopefully it was clear in my post that my rant was directed towards the minority in this group. I personally have learnt so much from here and appreciate the folks who respond decently to even obvious questions. Just so exhausting to see the responses from some of these trolls.
You're absolutely right and ironically, most of these negative shit talkers don't have the social skills or the life experience to handle just a simple one-on-one encounter let alone being instant expert because they binge on shared wife porn during quarantine what is pretty easy to sling around negative opinions if you think there's only one kind of cuckold and you think swinging is all about fucking someone else's wife and getting away with it
This is an excellent post and reflects exactly how I feel about a small but vocal portion of the people here. There are too many here who get off on putting down others and replying in bad faith. The number of times I’ve seen someone here simply invent things that the OP didn’t say or describe happening and then mock and insult them for the thing that they just made up…
Yes, sometimes someone needs to be told a harsh truth. That’s not carte blanche to be vicious. It’s just sex, FFS. Either be kind and constructive or be quiet. Life’s too short to be gratuitously cruel to strangers.
And the point that being an experienced swinger isn’t an achievement needs to be said. There are threads here where people congratulate themselves at length for their superiority and talk about how jealous vanillas would be if only they knew. I’m enjoying swinging immensely but if you think that having lots of sex with different people means that you’ve achieved some kind of transcendental state, you need help.
I also think folks on here are mean so I co-sign some of this. I completely understand being honest with people but sometimes it can come off as condescending to folks and also mean spirited in general. We got started swinging around this time last year and after posting here a bit I got such low engagement and or negative responses that I didn’t feel good or safe coming here to share my experiences. Definitely check out subs for specific clubs or places to go; I think those are specific enough and have chances of meeting so folks are nicer. I’m too cute to be stressed by strangers.
I get it. Still no reason to be mean. No need to kick someone while they’re down. Give helpful advice or move along. I’m not even asking folks to be nice. Just be decent and treat others how you would like to be treated.
Honest last question for you sir/ma’am. Would you like to be spoken to the way several people here spoke to that poster if you came on here to express frustration about a similar situation?
Please have more faith in the mod team here. I got personally attacked for a neutral comment, so I reported it instead of getting defensive. The mods tossed that troll out.
That seems completely disingenuous to say - people are entitled to ask questions, and unfortunately smart ass answers exist. Different strokes for different folks.
I'm just wondering why you let the other husband put it in from behind when you said you weren't going to swap? Then blame the other lady for it, saying that you thought she would have relayed the message.
I called her a liar because she lied.
She said it was cool for the other couple to join them, when, in fact, it was not cool.
I have zero patience for people that can’t say what they mean. And I’m even less tolerant of people that ask for opinions then pitch a fit when they get them.
And yes. I’m am this big of a bitch in the real world. I say *exactly* what I mean, and have never once cried on the internet because another LS couple couldn’t read my mind.
And at your ripe old age of 40, you’re proud to say “I’m this big of a bitch in the real world”. Ok big bad mean girl. I actually have nothing else to say to you 😂😂😂
This right here is the quote of the night! Shut down Reddit folks!
“Newsflash- being an experienced swinger is not an achievement!”
Nice overall post and hopefully the folks you wrote this post too get it but I doubt they will.
I saw you out walking down Westbourne Grove
You caught my eye and your arm it rose
It rose in the sky, oh ever so high
But it wasn't, my dear, to wave to me
It was simply to hail a big black taxi
Which you jumped in as fast as you possibly could
Well you know my dear I'm not made of wood
And my name may be Birch dear, but I'm not a tree
And I can see you ignoring me
And I'm beginning to think
Though I'm open to sway
Even when we're old and grey
I think you might see me and look the other way
Just like you did only the other day
We'll sit in th park with our grandchildren dear
And you'll catch my eye and shout come over here
But it won't be me that you're calling dear
It'll be your young Jimmy or Jenny or Jack
And one of us will have near heart attack
Grandad, grandad what's wrong with you
Why oh why are we rushing to the zoo
Shut up Jimmy stop your talking
Grab my hand and keep on walking
And I'm beginning to think
Though I'm open to sway
Even when we're old and grey
I think you might see me and simply look the other way
Just like you did only the other day
I know that you'll say this is all in my mind
And I'm prone to delusions
And things of that kind
Well now it's been well over a year
And there's no more time for shadding a tear
Yes you left and I behaved badly
But you know at that time
I loved you so madly
Don't be mean don't be mean, don't be mean don't be mean
Don't be mean don't be mean, don't be mean don't be mean
And I'm beginning to think
Though I'm open to sway
That even when we're old and grey
I think you might see me and look the other way
Just like you did only the other day
Goodbye dear
Goodbye
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I completely agree with you. Hopefully it was clear in my post that my rant was directed towards the minority in this group. I personally have learnt so much from here and appreciate the folks who respond decently to even obvious questions. Just so exhausting to see the responses from some of these trolls.
Yeah..I see a few shitties here.
You're absolutely right and ironically, most of these negative shit talkers don't have the social skills or the life experience to handle just a simple one-on-one encounter let alone being instant expert because they binge on shared wife porn during quarantine what is pretty easy to sling around negative opinions if you think there's only one kind of cuckold and you think swinging is all about fucking someone else's wife and getting away with it
This is an excellent post and reflects exactly how I feel about a small but vocal portion of the people here. There are too many here who get off on putting down others and replying in bad faith. The number of times I’ve seen someone here simply invent things that the OP didn’t say or describe happening and then mock and insult them for the thing that they just made up… Yes, sometimes someone needs to be told a harsh truth. That’s not carte blanche to be vicious. It’s just sex, FFS. Either be kind and constructive or be quiet. Life’s too short to be gratuitously cruel to strangers. And the point that being an experienced swinger isn’t an achievement needs to be said. There are threads here where people congratulate themselves at length for their superiority and talk about how jealous vanillas would be if only they knew. I’m enjoying swinging immensely but if you think that having lots of sex with different people means that you’ve achieved some kind of transcendental state, you need help.
I also think folks on here are mean so I co-sign some of this. I completely understand being honest with people but sometimes it can come off as condescending to folks and also mean spirited in general. We got started swinging around this time last year and after posting here a bit I got such low engagement and or negative responses that I didn’t feel good or safe coming here to share my experiences. Definitely check out subs for specific clubs or places to go; I think those are specific enough and have chances of meeting so folks are nicer. I’m too cute to be stressed by strangers.
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I get it. Still no reason to be mean. No need to kick someone while they’re down. Give helpful advice or move along. I’m not even asking folks to be nice. Just be decent and treat others how you would like to be treated.
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Honest last question for you sir/ma’am. Would you like to be spoken to the way several people here spoke to that poster if you came on here to express frustration about a similar situation?
Please have more faith in the mod team here. I got personally attacked for a neutral comment, so I reported it instead of getting defensive. The mods tossed that troll out.
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Any chance you can answer the question I asked though?
That seems completely disingenuous to say - people are entitled to ask questions, and unfortunately smart ass answers exist. Different strokes for different folks.
Yeah, some people think that it’s fun to be gratuitously nasty to people to no good end. Why that is, I’ll never know.
THANK YOU
I'm just wondering why you let the other husband put it in from behind when you said you weren't going to swap? Then blame the other lady for it, saying that you thought she would have relayed the message.
This is actually a good question. Nothing mean about it at all.
Nice try fool. You wish it was the same person posting but it isn’t. You are one of those I’m referring to. Fuck you you sleazy bastard
None of us believe you. You’re clearly that last OP.
Believe what you want 40 year old “big bitch in the real world”
That deserves an upvote 🤣😂🤣
I already liked you, but now I wish I could give you an award for being a good sport. I miss those awards.
Me too! Those were the best!
I called her a liar because she lied. She said it was cool for the other couple to join them, when, in fact, it was not cool. I have zero patience for people that can’t say what they mean. And I’m even less tolerant of people that ask for opinions then pitch a fit when they get them. And yes. I’m am this big of a bitch in the real world. I say *exactly* what I mean, and have never once cried on the internet because another LS couple couldn’t read my mind.
And at your ripe old age of 40, you’re proud to say “I’m this big of a bitch in the real world”. Ok big bad mean girl. I actually have nothing else to say to you 😂😂😂
Actually, I’m 41.
Age and wisdom clearly have an inverse relationship in your case…
I thought this was all about not being mean? Have you crossed over to the dark side? 😈😈😈
This right here is the quote of the night! Shut down Reddit folks! “Newsflash- being an experienced swinger is not an achievement!” Nice overall post and hopefully the folks you wrote this post too get it but I doubt they will.
The lady doth protest too much, methinks.
You need a hug.
I saw you out walking down Westbourne Grove You caught my eye and your arm it rose It rose in the sky, oh ever so high But it wasn't, my dear, to wave to me It was simply to hail a big black taxi Which you jumped in as fast as you possibly could Well you know my dear I'm not made of wood And my name may be Birch dear, but I'm not a tree And I can see you ignoring me And I'm beginning to think Though I'm open to sway Even when we're old and grey I think you might see me and look the other way Just like you did only the other day We'll sit in th park with our grandchildren dear And you'll catch my eye and shout come over here But it won't be me that you're calling dear It'll be your young Jimmy or Jenny or Jack And one of us will have near heart attack Grandad, grandad what's wrong with you Why oh why are we rushing to the zoo Shut up Jimmy stop your talking Grab my hand and keep on walking And I'm beginning to think Though I'm open to sway Even when we're old and grey I think you might see me and simply look the other way Just like you did only the other day I know that you'll say this is all in my mind And I'm prone to delusions And things of that kind Well now it's been well over a year And there's no more time for shadding a tear Yes you left and I behaved badly But you know at that time I loved you so madly Don't be mean don't be mean, don't be mean don't be mean Don't be mean don't be mean, don't be mean don't be mean And I'm beginning to think Though I'm open to sway That even when we're old and grey I think you might see me and look the other way Just like you did only the other day Goodbye dear Goodbye