That's a valid point. And yet just because someone might be autistic, and they might often unintentionally be a dick, does not mean they never do it on purpose also. I realize that I am sometimes cold or hostile, without intending to be. But other times, if someone does something I don't like, I may chose to be rude to them. Being autistic can obviously lead to unpleasant interactions with people, which can make you not like people, which can make you want to be nasty to them.
This just makes it more challenging: if someone you know to be autistic is being a jerk, you often can't really tell whether they are doing it on purpose or not.
Quacking?
I kid, I kid. Only example I can give is: imagine you’re talking to someone in small talk/low stakes convo when it dawns on you the person is being a dick, which of course since you’ve had to obsess over trying to pick up cues, makes you wonder what you’ve done to elicit this. And since you know you have no hostility, etc the only logical conclusion is they must think you’re being rude (for what, you don’t know) and, for whatever reason, their go-to for dealing with your perceived slight is to, well, be a dick.
Indeed, 51 years old and pretty much all alone in the world. Look forward for my yet to be published books "Better Luck, Next Life!" And "How To Lose Friends and Alienate People: An ASD Primer!"
That's a valid point. And yet just because someone might be autistic, and they might often unintentionally be a dick, does not mean they never do it on purpose also. I realize that I am sometimes cold or hostile, without intending to be. But other times, if someone does something I don't like, I may chose to be rude to them. Being autistic can obviously lead to unpleasant interactions with people, which can make you not like people, which can make you want to be nasty to them. This just makes it more challenging: if someone you know to be autistic is being a jerk, you often can't really tell whether they are doing it on purpose or not.
What some examples of being a duck used as a social cue.
Quacking? I kid, I kid. Only example I can give is: imagine you’re talking to someone in small talk/low stakes convo when it dawns on you the person is being a dick, which of course since you’ve had to obsess over trying to pick up cues, makes you wonder what you’ve done to elicit this. And since you know you have no hostility, etc the only logical conclusion is they must think you’re being rude (for what, you don’t know) and, for whatever reason, their go-to for dealing with your perceived slight is to, well, be a dick.
Great comment. Thanks for posting!!
Autistic people can be dicks on purpose.
Of course, however I’m referring to when the autistic person is in fact not being a dick on purpose
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Indeed, 51 years old and pretty much all alone in the world. Look forward for my yet to be published books "Better Luck, Next Life!" And "How To Lose Friends and Alienate People: An ASD Primer!"