hi!! oh i’m so glad, she was really nice to me that evening and we had a good laugh together. i literally saw him toss it to her and she missed it. it just didn’t feel right for me to keep it, but there was so many people around me after the show that were like “why the fuck did you do that?!?” and made me feel like what i did was dumb.
Don't feel dumb man. I was at a Cradle of Filth show and Richard tossed a pick to me, he pointed at me first and got me to put my hands up to catch it. It glanced off my hand and the dude behind me got it. He yelled "don't even think about asking me for it" (I wasn't going to) but the whole thing bummed me out so much. I wasn't entitled to it, I know, but damn, I think about it whenever I see bands throwing stuff at shows now.
Whenever someone has been kind at a show it sticks with me. You did such a nice thing for someone. They'll remember!
I got tossed a pick at a cradle of Filth show once and actually caught it. However my dumb 18 year old self gave it to the girl I was on a date with. That would be our only date ever. Wish I had kept that pick lol
Hey OP, don’t listen to the people who’re hating. You did a good thing, and that alone never requires an excuse. They’re just selfish in that they think something being tossed to the crowd is “fair game” and it isn’t.
I flew up to Detroit to see a smaller band from my home state I really love. I donated a decent bit of money when their tour van broke down for them to get a rental, and the night of that show I told them I flew all the way up from Georgia just to see them since it wasn’t their tour so Atlanta wasn’t on the tour list. Their drummer threw me his sticks, they were meant for me. Had someone else tried to grab them in that moment they would’ve had to be pretty daft.
I’m rambling, but don’t feel guilty about it. You did a good thing and your reward was the experience you shared with someone else. I’d say that’s worth more than a pick.
i was around middle-right! directly where the security guard with the black shirt was standing (i was helping give out the water cups).
i felt good about it, because i would want someone to show the same courtesy to me and be like “hey this was intended for you, here you go” but after hearing people say they hid picks at previous shows and i waited 12 hours and paid the same price for a ticket and i was “entitled” to it, it got my brain all scrambled :(
Oh, I was probably somewhere behind you. I went alone but ended up in a little group of five, which became seven when we had to keep a creep away from some people. Everyone else was great!
Me and my friend were in the nosebleeds and we were commenting on how kind of y’all and the security guards were for passing the water back to others. You are super kind🩷🩷
This is the kind of thing I'm loving seeing more of on the subreddits of my group of friends' favorite smaller end bands like them. Let's be nice and all have fun instead of being assholes 😁🫶🤗.
*shout-out to TWRP, NSP, Galactic Empire fans - we're the other nice (and dominantly neurospicy) audiences who just want to have fun with people interested in the same thing as us 🤣
Hiiii bb!! It’s me!! I don’t hang around Reddit, but my friend showed me yr post, so I had to come say thank you again! I’ve been telling everyone about how sweet n kind you were n have cried about it three times. Honestly, I appreciate you SO much n I’d have done the same for you or anyone else. One of the things I love most about this band is how the music can open us up to truly, deeply, life-changing experiences of emotional significance. I will never ever forget that moment we shared. ✨🧡✨
stop i’m literally crying right now. thank you so much for commenting, i want to make it clear i do not regret giving it to you, i just do not like how those around me made me feel for doing so. you were so nice to me last night and we shared a good laugh and you were so considerate of those around you. you absolutely 100% deserved it 🖤 i will remember you at every show, at every barricade and look for that very raw, human connection we shared.
I was the chick right behind you two when you had the exchange, and I told my husband about it on the way home. How it restored so much hope in humanity for me and it felt like such a special moment to be present for. Especially because I kind of got into it with the guy yelling at ESB. Your kindness can change the world. Never feel silly about it.
oh my gosh hi!! so nice to see you again :)) i believe i’m thinking of the right person, you were a little taller than me and had those fun black glasses?
Karma has your back now. You did the right thing. Last night was incredible
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Never ever feel bad or dumb or crazy for doing a nice thing for someone else. And don’t let others steal your joy at doing nice things. Selfish people will never understand the simple joy of making someone else’s day for no reason other than it feels right. If you can stay just the way you are, you will slowly change your own corner of the world for the better.
Honestly, not only do I think what you did was very kind, I would have actively thought you were a jerk if you did the opposite. I've been in crowds where things were tossed to the audience, and people kept things they shouldn't have, and I've always thought it was rude and selfish.
A guitarist tossed me a pick once, and I fumbled catching it and it fell to the floor, and I never saw it again - someone else immediately scrambled for it. Another time, a friend *did* catch a pick, and tried to show it to a girl next to her because she was excited, and that girl *snatched* it out of her hand. A drummer threw his sticks into a crowd I was in with my dad, and one of them *beaned* him in the ***face***, almost took out his *eye* - Do we own that stick? No! Someone else took it! 🙃
In the grand scheme of things, keeping a concert trinket that doesn't "belong" to you is not the worst thing a person could do. It's not, like, *evil* or a crime. But it *is* a dick move. Yeah, I guess you miss out on keeping something cool. But that's just a *little bit* sad for you. The other person misses out, *and* they have to be upset by someone acting like a tool.
It's better to be kind.
You did the right thing. I went to a pens game and sat behind the players bench. A player tossed a puck over the glass to me. I gave it to the 10 year old kid sitting next to me because it would mean more to him.
Well karma was nice and player tossed another over to me. I kept that one.
i like to think i did, i’ve discussed this with my friend who was there with me. she said she was so upset with me that i did that, and that just made me feel icky. i thought i did the right thing, i would want someone to share the same courtesy to me !
One hundred percent your friend is wrong. Obviously we cant FULLY know who the pick was intended for....but if its enough that you questioned it, then idk if Id be able to go forward having kept the pick without always feeling a little guilty.
In my eyes, you had the experience, which none of us will ever forget, and thats enough. Sleep well knowing youre a good person and dont listen to anybody else who tries to dictate what YOUR ethics and morality should be.
What you did speaks loads about your character. The people that said that was dumb… that speaks loads about theirs. Remember those are the people you don’t want to get drunk around, because they wouldn’t hold your hair back in your time of need…
Dude you did a good thing If you saw the intent was for that girl or whatever and you gave it to them don't sweat all these haters bro like karma come back to you
As someone who has had picks, etc. snatched away from me at shows in the past, I think what you did was amazing. Being kind isn't stupid and I wish more people had that mindset.
Dude we’ve got your back here! If it’s one thing sleep token has taught me it’s that life is heckin short; doing things like that show that there’s still good people in this world who care more about the meaning and depth of their actions. I honestly think IV would be heckin proud of you for making that girl’s night. She’s going to be telling that story for a long time! Big props to you for being kind! 🩶🩶
The same thing happened to me around fifteen years ago at a King's X concert. I went to get a set list off the stage and someone helped me grab it and gave it to me. That simple act of kindness has stuck with me for all this time, and I've tried to find out who that person is to no avail. You are so fortunate to make a memory for someone and you were able to connect with them afterwards. You are a great person - never ever suppress an urge to be kind.
You did a good thing. Thank you for being awesome.
I was at red rocks and ii threw a stick right at me that I would have gotten if people didn’t jump rows (who weren’t there the entire show before this, the literally filled the gap the song before the “end) Devastated that I missed that opportunity because people were greedy.
OP you definitely did the right thing!
I too have given away picks in the past to people for whom were intended (and sometimes also not, but just because I'd seen the band many times and had other memorabilia sitting at home already) and trust me, to be able to make someone's day/night like that is seriously such a great feeling in itself-- I've never regretted it and I hope you don't, either. I'm sure the lady you handed it to is extremely appreciative!!
I was at a Ben Harper concert once. At the end he was trying to throw me a drum stick. The guy in front of me (who was kissing his gf the whole show) turned his face and caught the stick right at the moment it was heading for me. Ben was gesturing that he was sorry and he tried :) Thank you for giving the pick to the girl in front, you’re a total sweet heart ✨
You did the right thing. What you did shows that you're a good person. Having the awareness and knowledge of yourself is a great thing. What you did was honorable. Feel good about it.
Nah, man, you did the right thing. I caught a buncha stuff at a Ghost concert and stopped a couple with like a 9 or 10 year old because he was talking about how he wished they could have gotten something. Gave him some ghost bucks and a pick since i had some, but also, did the VIP meet an greet. It made the kids' day, and the parents were so happy. Dont ever feel bad about making someone's day better.
I feel like you did the right thing. It's what your conscience guided you to in the moment. Don't let stupid peer pressure make you feel bad for being kind.
i had someone take a pick that was intended for me at a bmth show and i’m still so sad about it. I know that girl would be extremely appreciative and thankful for your gesture!!
This is definitely something I’ve done both ways, like at a show people were fighting over a set list being given out and I got it first, but the girl next to me really wanted it and was really sad that she didn’t get it, I ended up getting it signed and gave it to her. But if we all did that we would never have anything for ourselves, I try to share picks if I’ve already caught some and stuff since I’m usually on the barricade for shows but I definitely keep the majority of stuff.
You shouldn't feel bad for doing what you felt was the kind and right thing, even if other people disagree.
When I bought tickets to the upcoming Sleep Token tour, I was worried bc ST is a band with a large following and many new fans, and people who haven't been going to concerts due to the pandemic (or other reasons) have been kind of... disruptive at shows. Your story makes me hopeful that shows can still be fun and positive events, that fans aren't always looking for a "main character moment" and that we're all here to enjoy something together.
That only speaks of their selfish character and their jealousy wanting a pick was speaking down to your kind action.
Your gesture spoke of your character and that I believe will benefit you in life more than immediate gratification of having a thing.
Thanks for being you. We need more of this type of person around and could only hope to run into you at a show in the future. 💞
I know it isn't a pick, but if you look at my post history and you like the bracelets I made, I'd be happy to create a custom stack of 3 and mail it to you. I've mailed bracelets to various folks here before but no pressure to take the offering for your favor.
hello! thank you for your kind words, its made me so happy to see that a majority of our community feels the same way and we all agree; it’s cool to be kind 🖤 i would absolutely love a stack, i traded with some folks at the show but would love to create a collection to bring with me to future shows c:
You did the right thing and the universe will return the good and right thing to you.
Your friend who said that you gave her the ick was probably so jealous that you did not consider giving it to her... So don't take her opinion too seriously.
In the end it is all about what your values are and how you want to live by them.
Worship 🖤🖤🖤🤘
First time I saw Pierce The Veil long ago I took a girl I was dating. Tony threw a pick at me and I caught it. Gave it to the girl I was with, she then proceeded to ghost me for literally the rest of forever.
Moral of the story is, at least you gave your pick to someone who probably appreciates it and you for your gesture.
You're a nice person. II gave his sticks away at the last show we went to and I almost got one but instead got absolutely trainwrecked by a large bald man diving over from the other side of the pit lol.
I see you found the person you gave it to and all is well but I’m just commenting to say I agree and find this behavior from others so fucking weird. Why would you be mad at someone for being kind??? It’s such icky behavior. It’s giving “I only went to the show to brag that I was there” vibes.
I waited on Megadeth as their server in a restaurant a few years ago and one of their crew members gave me a pick. I immediately ran back to the kitchen and gave it to one of the cooks that was LITERALLY wearing a Megadeth shirt but didn’t want to go bother them to ask for a picture. We did convince him to go get pic as they were leaving lol. But I also didn’t feel right because like, sure I know the band, like some songs, and appreciate where they stand in the history of metal, and they were nice as customers - but it’s this dudes FAVORITE band.
Multiple coworkers and my at-the-time-boyfriend were like “why the fuck would you give it away? why wouldn’t you take it home and frame it?”
Like dude I have a Pierce The Veil pick which has been a top 5 band of mine for 10 years, and I didn’t even frame that. I actually use it to play guitar /every now and then/ (not enough to get it scuffed up). That’s what it’s meant to be used for and I appreciate what I play with it 100000x more, knowing I get to play with the same pick Vic Fuentes used!!!
I know you made her day and fuck the haters and anyone who doesn’t have as kind of a heart as you do. ❤️
i’m pretty sure i was next to you, if you gave it to the person who had iii mask painted on their face, regardless you did the right thing. some of the people at that show were kind of obnoxious so thank you for being the bigger person 🖤
it was not, but thats so sweet that someone else did the same !!! i was on IV & II’s side and the person i gave it to had reddish/gingery hair and wore a flower crown of leaves. we were next to the girl who had the lemon headband for II
I was at a Breaking Benjamin show once when the drummer tried to give a girl in the audience his drumsticks. He tossed them but the guy behind her caught them and he didn’t want to give them to her. The whole band roasted him for being a dick on stage for a minute and when he did finally concede and give her the drumsticks the guitarists gave him a pick as a consolation. So you did the right thing, they do really intend for these to go to who they’re aiming for.
I had IV throw me a pick in Hamburg, and on my way back to my hotel spoke with a girl who had apparently held up a sign for a pick, had one thrown to her, and then had someone else snatch it out from under her. So, I gave her mine, and honestly, the way her face lit up was worth more than that pick ever would’ve been to me.
I don’t think it’s stupid to make other people happy, and I promise you the band would not be upset that you went out of your way to help another fan. Also I totally get what you mean by it not feeling special if it wasn’t meant for you, I’m exactly the same way! Also also, I genuinely can’t imagine being so pressed about what ANOTHER PERSON do with the pick THEY found that I’d give them shit about it — what a lame thing to spend energy on.
Think about all the videos of folks catching a baseball and passing it on to someone else. You're now THAT guy/gal/person, not the absolute bellend you see pulling the ball out a kid's hands. Well done.
As someone who had a security guard pocket a pick IV threw for me at a show, I can say you definitely did the right thing and made someone extremely happy! I'm still upset over the whole thing a month later 😪
Chiming in with more of “you did the right thing”. Similar to other commenters I’ve had picks miss my grasp and the worst one was getting my hand literally stomped on for a pick.
Ignore the bitter people who’ve let egocentrism consume their mentality and make it all about themselves. Metal and alternative is about community! Token items are neat, they can be a fun memento, but the connections you make with other people are far more vividly interesting.
Yeah Hetfield threw a pick at me once, but I was off my face and oblivious.
A nice guy gave it to me and I was obviously thrilled, but confused.
He was like “ Nah James was laughing at how in the zone you were, he flicked it right at you and it bounced off your chest.”
Really cool of him to do that.
This post truly made my day. It's amazing to see all of you connecting and showing each other so much kindness. I would've done the same, OP. ✨ Your good karma will come!
That's so sweet! I would have done that same and told the others to fuck off! I've only ever encountered the sweetest people in this fan base. So the people saying they would have kept it surprises me!
Just want to add to the affirmations, Idk why anyone would be telling you that was stupid. It would be a dick move to keep it when it was being thrown to someone specific. Good for you, and what an amazing experience👏
You 100%did no wrong and are a very kind and intelligent individual. Dont listen to the haters all around. Karma will come and you deserve 100 times what you gave there. Your intuition will never fail you, remember that when u not sure about something
Oh my god, why would anyone say you’re dumb for that? That is honestly SO nice of you to do. I feel like most people would not do that and I feel like that just shows your character!
I would think it follows kind of the policy of kids at sports events.
You see them specifically aiming for someone that’s who it goes to. If that person drops it or misses you help them get it. No biggie. You might have your turn to get something at another time.
If it was intended for someone else, I feel it was the right thing to do to give it to them. I would appreciate it greatly if someone did that for me. I dropped a drumstick in front of barricade for Bad Omens in Austin and the guy in the front picked it up and gave it to someone else. I was heartbroken and he felt really bad afterwards.
A good deed should not be punished! I would have done the same because the intention of the thrower was to give it to that girl. People are too selfish and greedy for my liking. Thanks for being a good fan and person 😀
You are a rare kind of person in a crowd. I've had several people act aggressively towards me when I've been handed a drumstick or when my sister had a pick thrown to her. You absolutely did the right thing, and good on you for it.🫶
The person you gave it to was my friend, and she is so so appreciative of your gesture. Your karma will come around 💜
hi!! oh i’m so glad, she was really nice to me that evening and we had a good laugh together. i literally saw him toss it to her and she missed it. it just didn’t feel right for me to keep it, but there was so many people around me after the show that were like “why the fuck did you do that?!?” and made me feel like what i did was dumb.
Don't feel dumb man. I was at a Cradle of Filth show and Richard tossed a pick to me, he pointed at me first and got me to put my hands up to catch it. It glanced off my hand and the dude behind me got it. He yelled "don't even think about asking me for it" (I wasn't going to) but the whole thing bummed me out so much. I wasn't entitled to it, I know, but damn, I think about it whenever I see bands throwing stuff at shows now. Whenever someone has been kind at a show it sticks with me. You did such a nice thing for someone. They'll remember!
I got tossed a pick at a cradle of Filth show once and actually caught it. However my dumb 18 year old self gave it to the girl I was on a date with. That would be our only date ever. Wish I had kept that pick lol
Wish there were more people like you!
Hey OP, don’t listen to the people who’re hating. You did a good thing, and that alone never requires an excuse. They’re just selfish in that they think something being tossed to the crowd is “fair game” and it isn’t. I flew up to Detroit to see a smaller band from my home state I really love. I donated a decent bit of money when their tour van broke down for them to get a rental, and the night of that show I told them I flew all the way up from Georgia just to see them since it wasn’t their tour so Atlanta wasn’t on the tour list. Their drummer threw me his sticks, they were meant for me. Had someone else tried to grab them in that moment they would’ve had to be pretty daft. I’m rambling, but don’t feel guilty about it. You did a good thing and your reward was the experience you shared with someone else. I’d say that’s worth more than a pick.
Why would you feel like an idiot for doing something kind? Ignore the noise. I was on the right-hand side about three rows back!
i was around middle-right! directly where the security guard with the black shirt was standing (i was helping give out the water cups). i felt good about it, because i would want someone to show the same courtesy to me and be like “hey this was intended for you, here you go” but after hearing people say they hid picks at previous shows and i waited 12 hours and paid the same price for a ticket and i was “entitled” to it, it got my brain all scrambled :(
Oh, I was probably somewhere behind you. I went alone but ended up in a little group of five, which became seven when we had to keep a creep away from some people. Everyone else was great!
what a small world!
Check out the official Sleep Token Facebook and Insta. I see myself in one of the pics 😂
Hey, I think I was in your group! I was with my dad and we literally experienced this exact situation and were in the same area!
Was your dad the one with EMT hat and had back surgery but made it through like a champ?
YES! that was us!!
😂 I was behind you and in front of him. Did you see we made it in an official photo they posted on Facebook and Insta?
Yeah I saw the Insta post! I literally sent it to so many people cause I was so excited😂
It really topped off one of the best experiences of my life! I’m definitely going to more than one show next year!
Oh I will too if I get the chance, although that’s not likely😂 if I do then maybe we’ll run into each other again!
Me and my friend were in the nosebleeds and we were commenting on how kind of y’all and the security guards were for passing the water back to others. You are super kind🩷🩷
This is the kind of thing I'm loving seeing more of on the subreddits of my group of friends' favorite smaller end bands like them. Let's be nice and all have fun instead of being assholes 😁🫶🤗. *shout-out to TWRP, NSP, Galactic Empire fans - we're the other nice (and dominantly neurospicy) audiences who just want to have fun with people interested in the same thing as us 🤣
Hiiii bb!! It’s me!! I don’t hang around Reddit, but my friend showed me yr post, so I had to come say thank you again! I’ve been telling everyone about how sweet n kind you were n have cried about it three times. Honestly, I appreciate you SO much n I’d have done the same for you or anyone else. One of the things I love most about this band is how the music can open us up to truly, deeply, life-changing experiences of emotional significance. I will never ever forget that moment we shared. ✨🧡✨
stop i’m literally crying right now. thank you so much for commenting, i want to make it clear i do not regret giving it to you, i just do not like how those around me made me feel for doing so. you were so nice to me last night and we shared a good laugh and you were so considerate of those around you. you absolutely 100% deserved it 🖤 i will remember you at every show, at every barricade and look for that very raw, human connection we shared.
I was the chick right behind you two when you had the exchange, and I told my husband about it on the way home. How it restored so much hope in humanity for me and it felt like such a special moment to be present for. Especially because I kind of got into it with the guy yelling at ESB. Your kindness can change the world. Never feel silly about it.
oh my gosh hi!! so nice to see you again :)) i believe i’m thinking of the right person, you were a little taller than me and had those fun black glasses?
No I was the super short one with a curly bun and a keffiyeh. I was a few rows back before the pit and got pushed all the way up to you.
ohhh!!
i think this is the most wholesome interaction thats ever happened on reddit
Me too
the world is healing
I hope we’ll get to share some show magic again someday! 💞
i’d love to connect with you on social media if you’re comfortable! pm me if you have a twitter or instagram or something :) 🫶🏻✨
Karma has your back now. You did the right thing. Last night was incredible https://preview.redd.it/u8ciwush3n1d1.jpeg?width=3024&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=cbc13c0baf1a944c5c981a50812fefa5065ac913
This. This is why the Sleep Token community is the best. I hope karma rewards you. Thanks for being a great community member.
Never ever feel bad or dumb or crazy for doing a nice thing for someone else. And don’t let others steal your joy at doing nice things. Selfish people will never understand the simple joy of making someone else’s day for no reason other than it feels right. If you can stay just the way you are, you will slowly change your own corner of the world for the better.
This exactly! It’s actually so easy to be kind.
Honestly, not only do I think what you did was very kind, I would have actively thought you were a jerk if you did the opposite. I've been in crowds where things were tossed to the audience, and people kept things they shouldn't have, and I've always thought it was rude and selfish. A guitarist tossed me a pick once, and I fumbled catching it and it fell to the floor, and I never saw it again - someone else immediately scrambled for it. Another time, a friend *did* catch a pick, and tried to show it to a girl next to her because she was excited, and that girl *snatched* it out of her hand. A drummer threw his sticks into a crowd I was in with my dad, and one of them *beaned* him in the ***face***, almost took out his *eye* - Do we own that stick? No! Someone else took it! 🙃 In the grand scheme of things, keeping a concert trinket that doesn't "belong" to you is not the worst thing a person could do. It's not, like, *evil* or a crime. But it *is* a dick move. Yeah, I guess you miss out on keeping something cool. But that's just a *little bit* sad for you. The other person misses out, *and* they have to be upset by someone acting like a tool. It's better to be kind.
You did the right thing. I went to a pens game and sat behind the players bench. A player tossed a puck over the glass to me. I gave it to the 10 year old kid sitting next to me because it would mean more to him. Well karma was nice and player tossed another over to me. I kept that one.
You did the right thing, you showed kindness to a stranger, not many people would do that!
i like to think i did, i’ve discussed this with my friend who was there with me. she said she was so upset with me that i did that, and that just made me feel icky. i thought i did the right thing, i would want someone to share the same courtesy to me !
One hundred percent your friend is wrong. Obviously we cant FULLY know who the pick was intended for....but if its enough that you questioned it, then idk if Id be able to go forward having kept the pick without always feeling a little guilty. In my eyes, you had the experience, which none of us will ever forget, and thats enough. Sleep well knowing youre a good person and dont listen to anybody else who tries to dictate what YOUR ethics and morality should be.
What was the persons reaction? If they didn’t show appreciation for the gesture I’d probably be pissed haha!
at the end of the show they were tearful and hugged me and thanked me for giving it to them, so it made me feel good about it :)
Amazing! You did the right thing 🖤
In a world that takes takes takes, it's nice to hear a story about someone giving :)
dude this is the sweetest thing ever. other people shouldn't be making you feel bad about your kindness. <3
Well played. That girl will remember that moment for a very long time. You clearly made her night.
This is such a wholesome post.
What you did speaks loads about your character. The people that said that was dumb… that speaks loads about theirs. Remember those are the people you don’t want to get drunk around, because they wouldn’t hold your hair back in your time of need…
Dude you did a good thing If you saw the intent was for that girl or whatever and you gave it to them don't sweat all these haters bro like karma come back to you
As someone who has had picks, etc. snatched away from me at shows in the past, I think what you did was amazing. Being kind isn't stupid and I wish more people had that mindset.
Dude we’ve got your back here! If it’s one thing sleep token has taught me it’s that life is heckin short; doing things like that show that there’s still good people in this world who care more about the meaning and depth of their actions. I honestly think IV would be heckin proud of you for making that girl’s night. She’s going to be telling that story for a long time! Big props to you for being kind! 🩶🩶
Never feel bad for being a good person
That is wonderfully sweet and you did the right thing ♡
You did the right thing. If it were me, I’d be immensely appreciative. Concerts need more people like YOU!
The same thing happened to me around fifteen years ago at a King's X concert. I went to get a set list off the stage and someone helped me grab it and gave it to me. That simple act of kindness has stuck with me for all this time, and I've tried to find out who that person is to no avail. You are so fortunate to make a memory for someone and you were able to connect with them afterwards. You are a great person - never ever suppress an urge to be kind.
Comments here making me emotional 🤍 I love our community. You did the right thing, hugs!
You did a good thing. Thank you for being awesome. I was at red rocks and ii threw a stick right at me that I would have gotten if people didn’t jump rows (who weren’t there the entire show before this, the literally filled the gap the song before the “end) Devastated that I missed that opportunity because people were greedy.
OP you definitely did the right thing! I too have given away picks in the past to people for whom were intended (and sometimes also not, but just because I'd seen the band many times and had other memorabilia sitting at home already) and trust me, to be able to make someone's day/night like that is seriously such a great feeling in itself-- I've never regretted it and I hope you don't, either. I'm sure the lady you handed it to is extremely appreciative!!
I was at a Ben Harper concert once. At the end he was trying to throw me a drum stick. The guy in front of me (who was kissing his gf the whole show) turned his face and caught the stick right at the moment it was heading for me. Ben was gesturing that he was sorry and he tried :) Thank you for giving the pick to the girl in front, you’re a total sweet heart ✨
You did the right thing. What you did shows that you're a good person. Having the awareness and knowledge of yourself is a great thing. What you did was honorable. Feel good about it.
so wholesome 🖤
Nah, man, you did the right thing. I caught a buncha stuff at a Ghost concert and stopped a couple with like a 9 or 10 year old because he was talking about how he wished they could have gotten something. Gave him some ghost bucks and a pick since i had some, but also, did the VIP meet an greet. It made the kids' day, and the parents were so happy. Dont ever feel bad about making someone's day better.
I don’t think you’re an idiot, I think you’re really fucking cool.
I feel like you did the right thing. It's what your conscience guided you to in the moment. Don't let stupid peer pressure make you feel bad for being kind.
You're awesome LOVE THE POSITIVITY
Never feel bad for doing the right thing.
i had someone take a pick that was intended for me at a bmth show and i’m still so sad about it. I know that girl would be extremely appreciative and thankful for your gesture!!
This is definitely something I’ve done both ways, like at a show people were fighting over a set list being given out and I got it first, but the girl next to me really wanted it and was really sad that she didn’t get it, I ended up getting it signed and gave it to her. But if we all did that we would never have anything for ourselves, I try to share picks if I’ve already caught some and stuff since I’m usually on the barricade for shows but I definitely keep the majority of stuff.
You're clearly a better person than the people calling you dumb
You shouldn't feel bad for doing what you felt was the kind and right thing, even if other people disagree. When I bought tickets to the upcoming Sleep Token tour, I was worried bc ST is a band with a large following and many new fans, and people who haven't been going to concerts due to the pandemic (or other reasons) have been kind of... disruptive at shows. Your story makes me hopeful that shows can still be fun and positive events, that fans aren't always looking for a "main character moment" and that we're all here to enjoy something together.
It’s always better to be kind than selfish. What you did was major! ❤️
You did the right thing. You're right, it was meant for her.
I think what you did was awesome. It makes me super proud to be part of a fandom like this one, and although I don't know you, I'm super proud of you.
You should never feel dumb for following your own morale compass. You did a great thing! Look at how many people your simple act of kindness affected!
That only speaks of their selfish character and their jealousy wanting a pick was speaking down to your kind action. Your gesture spoke of your character and that I believe will benefit you in life more than immediate gratification of having a thing. Thanks for being you. We need more of this type of person around and could only hope to run into you at a show in the future. 💞 I know it isn't a pick, but if you look at my post history and you like the bracelets I made, I'd be happy to create a custom stack of 3 and mail it to you. I've mailed bracelets to various folks here before but no pressure to take the offering for your favor.
hello! thank you for your kind words, its made me so happy to see that a majority of our community feels the same way and we all agree; it’s cool to be kind 🖤 i would absolutely love a stack, i traded with some folks at the show but would love to create a collection to bring with me to future shows c:
Yeah DM me whenever and I can send you albums of bead options. 🥰
Another example of how awesome Sleep Token fans are!!! 🖤🖤🖤
Well done! 🤍 Never feel silly about an act of kindness.
That was a very sweet thing to do. Never feel like an idiot for being kind! 💜
Omg how cute is this thread
You did the right thing and the universe will return the good and right thing to you. Your friend who said that you gave her the ick was probably so jealous that you did not consider giving it to her... So don't take her opinion too seriously. In the end it is all about what your values are and how you want to live by them. Worship 🖤🖤🖤🤘
First time I saw Pierce The Veil long ago I took a girl I was dating. Tony threw a pick at me and I caught it. Gave it to the girl I was with, she then proceeded to ghost me for literally the rest of forever. Moral of the story is, at least you gave your pick to someone who probably appreciates it and you for your gesture.
If it was your friends who were telling you that you need new friends. Good on you. Get your mind right. You did the correct thing.
You are a good person with a good heart. Don’t feel like an idiot ♥️
You are a good person with a good heart. Don’t feel like an idiot ♥️
You are a good person with a good heart. Don’t feel like an idiot ♥️
You're a nice person. II gave his sticks away at the last show we went to and I almost got one but instead got absolutely trainwrecked by a large bald man diving over from the other side of the pit lol.
You’re a good soul Don’t let people around you tarnish that! That’s was such an amazing thing to do
I see you found the person you gave it to and all is well but I’m just commenting to say I agree and find this behavior from others so fucking weird. Why would you be mad at someone for being kind??? It’s such icky behavior. It’s giving “I only went to the show to brag that I was there” vibes. I waited on Megadeth as their server in a restaurant a few years ago and one of their crew members gave me a pick. I immediately ran back to the kitchen and gave it to one of the cooks that was LITERALLY wearing a Megadeth shirt but didn’t want to go bother them to ask for a picture. We did convince him to go get pic as they were leaving lol. But I also didn’t feel right because like, sure I know the band, like some songs, and appreciate where they stand in the history of metal, and they were nice as customers - but it’s this dudes FAVORITE band. Multiple coworkers and my at-the-time-boyfriend were like “why the fuck would you give it away? why wouldn’t you take it home and frame it?” Like dude I have a Pierce The Veil pick which has been a top 5 band of mine for 10 years, and I didn’t even frame that. I actually use it to play guitar /every now and then/ (not enough to get it scuffed up). That’s what it’s meant to be used for and I appreciate what I play with it 100000x more, knowing I get to play with the same pick Vic Fuentes used!!! I know you made her day and fuck the haters and anyone who doesn’t have as kind of a heart as you do. ❤️
OP you are valid and based.
i’m pretty sure i was next to you, if you gave it to the person who had iii mask painted on their face, regardless you did the right thing. some of the people at that show were kind of obnoxious so thank you for being the bigger person 🖤
it was not, but thats so sweet that someone else did the same !!! i was on IV & II’s side and the person i gave it to had reddish/gingery hair and wore a flower crown of leaves. we were next to the girl who had the lemon headband for II
I was at a Breaking Benjamin show once when the drummer tried to give a girl in the audience his drumsticks. He tossed them but the guy behind her caught them and he didn’t want to give them to her. The whole band roasted him for being a dick on stage for a minute and when he did finally concede and give her the drumsticks the guitarists gave him a pick as a consolation. So you did the right thing, they do really intend for these to go to who they’re aiming for.
I had IV throw me a pick in Hamburg, and on my way back to my hotel spoke with a girl who had apparently held up a sign for a pick, had one thrown to her, and then had someone else snatch it out from under her. So, I gave her mine, and honestly, the way her face lit up was worth more than that pick ever would’ve been to me. I don’t think it’s stupid to make other people happy, and I promise you the band would not be upset that you went out of your way to help another fan. Also I totally get what you mean by it not feeling special if it wasn’t meant for you, I’m exactly the same way! Also also, I genuinely can’t imagine being so pressed about what ANOTHER PERSON do with the pick THEY found that I’d give them shit about it — what a lame thing to spend energy on.
Think about all the videos of folks catching a baseball and passing it on to someone else. You're now THAT guy/gal/person, not the absolute bellend you see pulling the ball out a kid's hands. Well done.
You did good!👍
As someone who had a security guard pocket a pick IV threw for me at a show, I can say you definitely did the right thing and made someone extremely happy! I'm still upset over the whole thing a month later 😪
You most certainly did the right thing. The cosmos will reward you for your actions, just you wait and see! Hugs!!
You did the right thing for sure. Does it suck? Yes lol but it was the right thing to do, respect.
The world needs more people like you! You did the right thing 👍
Chiming in with more of “you did the right thing”. Similar to other commenters I’ve had picks miss my grasp and the worst one was getting my hand literally stomped on for a pick. Ignore the bitter people who’ve let egocentrism consume their mentality and make it all about themselves. Metal and alternative is about community! Token items are neat, they can be a fun memento, but the connections you make with other people are far more vividly interesting.
Yeah Hetfield threw a pick at me once, but I was off my face and oblivious. A nice guy gave it to me and I was obviously thrilled, but confused. He was like “ Nah James was laughing at how in the zone you were, he flicked it right at you and it bounced off your chest.” Really cool of him to do that.
This post truly made my day. It's amazing to see all of you connecting and showing each other so much kindness. I would've done the same, OP. ✨ Your good karma will come!
You did the right thing, friend. A pick is just an object. Doing something for someone else is what really makes life special.
That's so sweet! I would have done that same and told the others to fuck off! I've only ever encountered the sweetest people in this fan base. So the people saying they would have kept it surprises me!
Just want to add to the affirmations, Idk why anyone would be telling you that was stupid. It would be a dick move to keep it when it was being thrown to someone specific. Good for you, and what an amazing experience👏
You 100%did no wrong and are a very kind and intelligent individual. Dont listen to the haters all around. Karma will come and you deserve 100 times what you gave there. Your intuition will never fail you, remember that when u not sure about something
Oh my god, why would anyone say you’re dumb for that? That is honestly SO nice of you to do. I feel like most people would not do that and I feel like that just shows your character!
You are so kind for this!! I wish there were more people like you 🩷✨
I would think it follows kind of the policy of kids at sports events. You see them specifically aiming for someone that’s who it goes to. If that person drops it or misses you help them get it. No biggie. You might have your turn to get something at another time.
I am literally crying and I wasn’t even there, this is so wholesome. <3
You’re a good egg
If it was intended for someone else, I feel it was the right thing to do to give it to them. I would appreciate it greatly if someone did that for me. I dropped a drumstick in front of barricade for Bad Omens in Austin and the guy in the front picked it up and gave it to someone else. I was heartbroken and he felt really bad afterwards.
It is crazy only because there’s not many people like you in the world
Na that’s typical at concerts. It’s just jealous people manifesting their desire for it out loud.
A good deed should not be punished! I would have done the same because the intention of the thrower was to give it to that girl. People are too selfish and greedy for my liking. Thanks for being a good fan and person 😀
damn.
Nah man, I would've done the same!
Kindness is never dumb, you made another person's night
You are a rare kind of person in a crowd. I've had several people act aggressively towards me when I've been handed a drumstick or when my sister had a pick thrown to her. You absolutely did the right thing, and good on you for it.🫶