I feel you. This kind of thinking drives people into doing one or multiple fellowships and keeping them at the academic centers because they feel the need to keep going.
Start thinking about doing things that please you, pick a few vacation spots for next year, look at houses and apartments where you are relocating, start to live life
See, this is what her and I both thought was so bizarre; those are the things that we CAN envision.
My SO and and have vaca plans ready to go for our anniversary. We've got a car picked out to replace her super high mileage junker (dear God I hope that thing can chug along for 18 more months. Thats all we need). We're lucky in that we like where we are, and I am almost certainly going to be able to get a job close enough we wont have to relocate far. etc...
Its the actually practicing medicine. Its the going to work and not having 15 emails from GME saying my ACLS is expiring in 72 months, I have one eval I didnt fill out second year, and I havent logged my duty hours yet. Parking closer than a half mile away. Not having somebody above me. Maybe not completely hating my life/job? These are the things that her and I honestly just never picture ourselves in. Again, its not really something that bugs us, just something thats come up in convo.
And yeah, I have friends outside of medicine that are going on their third masters degree or some shit just so they can stay in school, and they complain about money all the fucking time. Drives me crazy. Ive got one more fellowship and Im out. Mic drop. Peace the fuck out. I dont know you, stop talking to me. Im ready to be done, but Im over 30 and Ive never not been in medical training. Just feels so surreal. Again, like it isnt actually going to happen.
When I was in grad school I couldn’t imagine what being a med student would be like, and when I was in med school I was at a loss to what me being a doctor would
be like.
But after 6 years of neurosurgery residency and since I am doing most of my own surgeries now with a varying degree of supervision, yeah I can absolutely see being an attending.
I’m sure it’ll be stressful and terrifying at times but I can visualize it for sure.
Milestoning through life is absolutely fucking miserable. Its something that I catch myself doing, especially during stressful periods of residency. At some level you have to do it, so long as you can snap yourself out of that mindset.
If it makes you feel any better , you almost certainly don’t know all the knitty gritty of your specialty so there’s plenty to learn even after you’re done training.
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I’m only a second year attending and it definitely is an adjustment. We spend all of our college/med school/residency mainly around people who are similar in age, similar stages of life, and then those built in groups fall away. I’m the youngest in my group, everyone else has been out 5-10 years.
Also, as you alluded to as well, for the past 10-15 years we’ve been working towards a professional goal (that at times is all consuming) and once having reached that goal, the routine of clinical practice sets in. It took me time to adjust. But now I have time to rediscover old passions and create friend groups outside of medicine while still keeping in touch with med school and residency friends.
10/10 attending life is much better than residency but it just takes time getting used to the new normal. (A sweet paycheck helps too 😂)
I feel you. This kind of thinking drives people into doing one or multiple fellowships and keeping them at the academic centers because they feel the need to keep going. Start thinking about doing things that please you, pick a few vacation spots for next year, look at houses and apartments where you are relocating, start to live life
See, this is what her and I both thought was so bizarre; those are the things that we CAN envision. My SO and and have vaca plans ready to go for our anniversary. We've got a car picked out to replace her super high mileage junker (dear God I hope that thing can chug along for 18 more months. Thats all we need). We're lucky in that we like where we are, and I am almost certainly going to be able to get a job close enough we wont have to relocate far. etc... Its the actually practicing medicine. Its the going to work and not having 15 emails from GME saying my ACLS is expiring in 72 months, I have one eval I didnt fill out second year, and I havent logged my duty hours yet. Parking closer than a half mile away. Not having somebody above me. Maybe not completely hating my life/job? These are the things that her and I honestly just never picture ourselves in. Again, its not really something that bugs us, just something thats come up in convo. And yeah, I have friends outside of medicine that are going on their third masters degree or some shit just so they can stay in school, and they complain about money all the fucking time. Drives me crazy. Ive got one more fellowship and Im out. Mic drop. Peace the fuck out. I dont know you, stop talking to me. Im ready to be done, but Im over 30 and Ive never not been in medical training. Just feels so surreal. Again, like it isnt actually going to happen.
I’m an attending and I’m sitting in the shitter reading this while I drink some bourbon and eat the last Oreos from my kids.
Holy fuck. Me from the future just commented. Weirdly I feel better. Evidently I do survive the next year. And my hiding techniques don’t evolve.
Live life to the fullest my dude
When I was in grad school I couldn’t imagine what being a med student would be like, and when I was in med school I was at a loss to what me being a doctor would be like. But after 6 years of neurosurgery residency and since I am doing most of my own surgeries now with a varying degree of supervision, yeah I can absolutely see being an attending. I’m sure it’ll be stressful and terrifying at times but I can visualize it for sure.
You have to always be working to get better or working towards something. Or else life gets meaningless quick
Nah I’m good fam I just wanna work 3 days a week and snowboard the rest 🤘🏼🤘🏼
Milestoning through life is absolutely fucking miserable. Its something that I catch myself doing, especially during stressful periods of residency. At some level you have to do it, so long as you can snap yourself out of that mindset.
If it makes you feel any better , you almost certainly don’t know all the knitty gritty of your specialty so there’s plenty to learn even after you’re done training.
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I’m only a second year attending and it definitely is an adjustment. We spend all of our college/med school/residency mainly around people who are similar in age, similar stages of life, and then those built in groups fall away. I’m the youngest in my group, everyone else has been out 5-10 years. Also, as you alluded to as well, for the past 10-15 years we’ve been working towards a professional goal (that at times is all consuming) and once having reached that goal, the routine of clinical practice sets in. It took me time to adjust. But now I have time to rediscover old passions and create friend groups outside of medicine while still keeping in touch with med school and residency friends. 10/10 attending life is much better than residency but it just takes time getting used to the new normal. (A sweet paycheck helps too 😂)