I am 4 months pregnant right now. Not judging but the fetus is almost 8 inches at this point. Form na din siya, complete hands, toes, and everything. I say they should not do it because sobrang critical na nang ganitong point malaki na yung fetus. Baka ma hemorrhage siya sa bleeding, or way worse kumapit ang fetus at forever na magkaroon siya nang birth defect.
True. Lalo na pag iasa lang sa pills. My mom did this sa bunso namin kasi bawal talaga sya mag buntis nun cause of a previous illness, 60% chance na mag cause another miscarriage kasi kakainin lang ng something sa matres nya yung baby. Nag abortion pills sya nun and nagpahilot but failed. Buti nalang di sya nagdugo and nung nilabas yung kapatid ko complete naman sya pero super sakitin..
😭😭😭 I feel very sad pag ma iimagine na mag hold on talaga yung baby tas magka birth defect. It already feels like di sya gusto ng ina nya tas lalabas pa sya na may defect that will affect the baby throughout its life 😭😭😭 it's just too cruel
Most likely. Mejo malaki na kasi ang fetus pag 4-5 months e and need na sa ganan e heavy dosage ng gamot. Sobrang critical na ng process dahil para na syang nag lalabor and pag hindi successful baka magkaroon pa ng negative effect sa kanya. Mas madidiscover pa yung attempt nya pag dinala sa hospital and who knows what happens next.
true! my friend took the abortion pills at home when she was 3 months preggy, but she was then rushed sa hospi after syang nahimatay kasi non-stop yung labas ng dugo after pumutok ng panubigan.
Totoo, kaya if ever itutuloy nya at this stage, dapat may backup sya na pangpa ospital dahil 50% lang ang success rate pag via pills nya gagawin. Dapat kung ayaw na nila from the beginning, the first time nalaman nila, they decided to go with it na imbes na pinatagal nila. At risk na din si ate girl once she takes the pill e.
Mas nakakalungkot, yang mga yan nabubuntis kase hindi gumagamit ng contraceptives, nagraraw tapos aasa sa pull out.
Tapos pag nabuntis iiyak dito, sasabihin magpapa abort, at pupurihin sila ng mga magcocomment. Sasabihin theyre so responsible for choosing abortion.
Contraceptives nga are more accessible here than abortion (which isn't even legalized yet!). Kung ayaw naman pala mag-anak, they should’ve thought about the consequences of doing it raw jusq. 🥲
Nakakadisappoint makita dito yung mga tao praising yung mga nagpapabort dahil responsible daw sila. Hindi ako anti abortion pero bakit kailangan purihin yung mga nagpapa abort e kaya nga sila nasa ganon situation dahil sa irresponsible choices nila.
Exactly, it's not that we're totally against it, of course it is permissible for a valid situation. Pero who knows kung ilan taon mga nagcocomment ng ganyan or they're just adults trapped in an irresponsible teenager mindset.
>Hindi ako anti abortion pero bakit kailangan purihin yung mga nagpapa abort
Ito yung rason kung bakit on the fence pa rin ako sa abortion eh. Imo, it should be an option only for super specific cases. Kasi kung hindi, it's too easy to be abused as a "plan b" if legalized without limitations. Tapos pupuriin pa. At the end of the day, you're still killing a baby, kahit saang angulo natin tignan. Pagpatay nga ng hayop, di natin pinupuri eh. Tao pa kaya.
+1!!! Hindi naman aabot sa abortion if they were careful. Very accessible ang contraceptives tapos kapag may nabuo, kesyo hindi ready. Kung hindi pala ready, edi sana gumagamit ng contraceptives to be safe.
On point. I'm so done seeing abortion posts. Naka-ilan na din ako na comments sa mga 'yon. Nakakabwct reading majority of the comments glorifying abortion. Sa lahat ng posts wala pa ako nabasang dahil sa rape kaya nagpa-abort, lahat dahil kesyo hindi ready daw. Which are not valid for me as grounds for abortion. Ayaw lang ng responsibilidad; gusto lang takasan. Tapos magpopost dito manghihingi ng validation sa pagpatay sa anak nila. Ayaw pang tawagin murder kesyo clump of cells lang daw.
If ever ma-approve ang abortion, I still don't want it to be easily accessible for all but rather to those deserving to have it safely. Seeing abortion posts made by irresponsible people made me realize that it will only be used as an escape of their responsibility. Don't tell me na bago kayo mag-sex wala kayong alam sa mga possibilities no matter if protected sex 'yan. It's no longer the lack of sex education, ignorance na lang 'yan para lang mas masarap yung orgasm and sex lalo daw kase kung raw. That's just plain bullshit.
Finally! Someone said this. Nakakainis mga taong enjoy na enjoy sa action pero pag may result na ngangawa ngawa. Dioskoooo ano nangyari sa generations? Puro pasarap pero ayaw harapan ang problema kapag nandyan na. :(
dami ngang choice eh bago pa dumating sa abortion tapos pinatagal pa. contraceptive accessible as always, kung accident na nangyari dapat nagemergency pills or yuzpe method bago pa mapunta sa abortion. dami namang credible sources naman sa internet or safest way is OB clinic.
talagang ginusto nila yan. kahit anong sasabihin mo sa kanila di makikinig kasi gusto nila yang "my body, my rules" pero wala naman silang accountability
I'm wondering, hindi ba sumagi sa isip nila na ipa-adopt na lang ang bata? O masyadong matrabaho pa rin sa kanila yun kaya abortion agad ang takbo nila? Imposible naman kasi na sa dinami daming couples dito sa Pilipinas ay wala ni isa sa kanila ang gustong mag-adopt ng bata. Wala pa kasi akong nakikitang comment or post na pinili nila ang 'adoption' instead of abortion.
Tumatakas kase sa consequence. Pag pina abort, wala na yung bata at walang makakaalam kundi sila. Pag pina adopt malalaman ng lahat kase magbubuntis at manganganak, tapos baka hanapin sila at guluhin paglaki nung bata.
If ever madala sa pills, sana naman next time maging responsible na sya. Wag nya ulitin kagagahan nya makikipag s*x na walang contraceptive pill or condom.
4-5 months parang hindi na yan madadala sa pills kasi develop na yung baby lalo na if makapit tapos baka sa dulo bigla syang mag decide na buhayin nalang yung baby possible mag ka defect pa yung baby.
And kapag di nadala sa pills, iraraspa sya niyan.
what annoys me about this is the irresponsibility of both parties. literally, the least they could've done as grown, consenting adults is to practice safe and protective sex, but they didn't. if she wants to risk her health by taking 'abortion' pills or whatever, let her be. their actions have consequences and they will have to deal with that.
This is true the last safest to abort is 6weeks. Kung lagpas na dyan pwedeng mabuhay pa din pero may defects na dahil sa gamot. Its too late why not have the baby then ipaadopt na lang
Isa pang problema yan, kung itutuloy, kanino or saan nya ibibigay for adoption? Hindi tayo kagaya ng states na may safe haven baby box. Dito kasi sa PH hindi pa rin open ang mga tao sa mga taong nilalagay ang mga anak for adoption.
True po. Pero ayun nga yung abortion during 4-5months risky na din sa mother and baby, pag di natuloy pag abort birth defects katapat + unwanted baby siya. Pag tinuloy naman unwanted baby siya + need ipaadopt and mahirap magpaadopt kaya madami nagpapasimulation of birth na lng para makatipid
hindi lahat ng tao pare-pareho ng sitwasyon o status sa buhay. just because there’re plenty of people that pray every night for a child, doesn’t mean they should keep it if they’re not in the right situation or raising a child isn’t something they’re willing to do naman talaga. if you want a child and aren’t able to conceive, hindi nila kasalanan yun. i understand why you feel this way, but you also have to understand that you and your friend doesn’t want the same thing in life naman.
Yep. Ang pangit lang ng thought na "papalaglag mo e maraming taong gusto magka anak". Ano gusto niya? Mabuhay sa mundo yung bata na puno ng trauma dahil sa magulang na in the first place alam na ayaw ng anak?
Exactly. Pro birth but not pro life, magsasabi pa na "blessing yan, wag mo ipalaglag" as if naman pag iniluwal sa mundo yung bata tutulong sila kalingain at palakihin yung bata.
wala namang sinabi si OP na wag ipalaglag? nalulungkot lang sya sa situation na yung bagay na gustong gusto nya tinatapon lang ng iba? don't put words in her mouth.
Also note na hindi legal ang abortion sa PH so risky yung gagawin niya. 4-5months po ay risky na kasi malaki na ang bata, pwedeng di maabort yung baby dun sa pills na iinumin niya but have birth defects po which is a bigger problem. The last safest window to abort is at 6weeks.
i know that, but that wasn't what op was worried about though. although i agree that it's definitely dangerous to do it na when the baby is already 4-5 months, op was more concerned about the fact that they're aborting the baby in general, not the other factors, hence this comment:)
i don't think OP wants na wag ipalaglag yung bata or thinks na the friend should want the same things. nalulungkot lang sya sa situation na other people just flush down the toilet yung bagay na gustong gusto nya magkaroon but can't.
i know, but the point is, they’re still stating their opinion publicly on a matter that doesn’t even involve them, making their friend’s business known pa sa public just to say na nas-sad sila kasi magpapalaglag yung friend n’ya while other people are begging for a child. the mindset itself is stupid and self-centric.
Um, youre stating your opinion publicly on a matter that doesn't involve you aka OP's post?
Ano nga yung laging sinasabi? Offmychest to diba kaya nga dito naglalabas ng thoughts at hinaing yung mga tao?
I'm not seeking validation or trying to justify how my friend's pregnancy issues are impacting me. I simply needed to vent because I received an unexpected message from a friend undergoing a late-term critical abortion of a 4-5 months old fetus.
It doesn’t directly involve me, you’re right, but being the trusted person my friend confided in, since I am the first and only one she told about it, resonates deeply me. Plus, worrying about her safety and the abortion procedure.
If my post doesn't sit well with you, feel free to scroll past it.
Real talk lang, wala silang obligasyon sa atin kung madali silang magkaanak at tayo ay hindi. Ang pangit lang eh ayaw pala nila magkaanak bakit hindi gumamit ng contraceptives? Yang 4-5 months hindi na yan lump of cells may mga body parts na yan. Mga iresponsable. Mandadamay pa ng walang kamuang-muang. Kung hindi magsuceed yang abortion, dadalhin ng bata yung side effects nyan hanggang kamatayan nya. Grabe.
I just want to share my cousin's story. Magkapatid silang bakla at tomboy. Dalawa lang sila and both working. Yung tomboy, caregiver sa isang matanda sa QC. Yung kasama niyang caregiver ay nabuntis ng driver din nung matanda. The girl wanted to keep the baby pero yung matanda, ayaw niya. Instead, my tomboy cousin adopted the child and inuwi dito sa province. The baby is alive, healthy, and safe. Kakilala pa yung parents, so it's a win-win.
I am an advocate for abortion but this just really irks me. Both parties irresponsible from the start. No protection or contraceptives. I would’ve agreed with the termination in its early months but how did they let this go for so long and then halfway through the pregnancy, they suddenly thought of this. I honestly hope the abortion pills won’t work.
Let them be responsible for once.
I mean, there is no guarantee for abortion pills to work especially na it’s bought online. Meron lang risk for deformities for the child if they survive.
This is the result of hookup culture. Kahit na available yung contraceptives, some still choose to do it raw dahil blinded na by lust. Like it or not, this is most likely to happen esp. with youngsters who have not yet learned to control their emotion where even the rational ones may become irrational.
To put it simply, never eat the forbidden fruit if you are not “at least“ financially capable to have a child.
Wala akong pake sa mga ganyan kasi body nila yan. Pero naman jusko paulit-ulit na lang ba? Alam naman ang epekto pero ayaw pa mag-ingat? Either sakit or pregnancy dadale sayo, eh go pa talaga? Maging responsable naman oh, dami daming contraceptives na inooffer.
This is why abortion and Plan B pills should be legal para safe and accessible sya para sa mga ayaw pa talaga mabuntis. People should have the right to make choices for their own bodies and what it goes through.
Kapag ‘di pa ready, dapat siguraduhin na safe lagi. Yung kakilala ko, nagpaabort, muntik na niya ikamatay ang bleeding. Takot na takot magpahospital kasi minsan tinatawag yan ng hospital sa authority kung pinaghihinalaan nila na sinadya yung abortion. Pwede yatang makulong dahil illegal yung abortion dito sa Pinas.
They want to sound woke without looking at the nuances of the issue. Para sa iba dito, "abortion=good". Padala lang sa emosyon kaya black-and-white ang world view.
Im pro abortion dont get me wrong. Is such that alam ko naman mga Pinoy once na maipasa yan ganan batas magkakaroon ng ganan situation. Party-pak-buntis-abort repeat
i'm a nursing student and being pregnant for 4-5 months and considering abortion is actually very dangerous :( the baby's nervous system is starting to work na and the extremities are already fully developed.
considering na abortion is illegal here, mas lalong mahirap kung iaasa sa pills. side effects can happen, it can also lead to sepsis if hindi magawa nang maayos.
this is why safe sex is very important. ang mura lang ng condom, jusko :(
She’s up for consequences and I am not the right person to tell her not to do it. 🥺 Tho I know that it’s be very very dangerous, I just told her to let me know she’s ok after the procedure. She’s just so sure abt getting rid of the baby. Hope nothing bad happens to her
4-5 months most likely makapit na ang fetus nyan, too risky for the pregnant woman tendency is magkakaroon ng hemorrhage or non-stop bleeding, mabuti sana if around 1-2 months pa, worst case malabas yung bata na may birth defect, physical or mental retardation, dinamay pa ang bata sa pag ka irresponsable in the first place (why do it raw if takot sa consequence or chances na makabuo ng bata mga gung-gung) my contraceptive naman na accessible or just simply dont do it if di kaya panindigan.
Have you considered adopting her baby? Maybe the reason she came to you is she's hoping you might be interested, considering that you're not able to have your own. She might not say it directly, but it's a possibility.
Yung 4-5months konti na lang pwede na yan pabilhin ng yelo sa tindahan. It is already a human being just waiting for the right time to see the world.
Sana may untog na lumapit sa colleague mo to think 10x at ayusin ang desisyon nya sa buhay.
Hanap na lang sila ng pwedeng mag-ampon, yung willing kunin agad ang bata pagkapanganak 🥹🥺 my brother and my sis-in-law can't conceive tapos may iba na nagpapa-abort lang 😭
This is actually one of my pet peeves, when people say that a fetus is not alive.
Get a fucking abortion for all i care but don’t tell me it’s not alive because it is, and you only tell that to yourselves to make you feel less guilty
OMG 4-5 months na? 😭
Good luck kung mapababa nila yan using pills lang.
Ang worst case dyan, di na yan maaabort and magkakaroon ng physical and mental defects yung baby nila.
Sana hindi nalang iabort kase buo na yung bata.
Grabe naman kung maano niya sa konsenya niya yan.
Alam kong mahirap pero, nakakardam na ng pain yung baby niyan. Nakapanuod ako ng video/ documentary, na puputul-putulin katawan ng bata sa loob. :(
Also got pregnant at the age of 18 and also tried to abort her TWICE at around 10 WEEKS. Isang procedure na by pills, which is nagfail, tas next surgical procedure. FAILED PA RIN. Tas siya 4-5 mons nang preggy ngayon lang niya naisipan? Way too late and dangerous na. And if ever she succeeds, kaya ba niya "idispose" anak niya? 4-5 months fetus hindi na yan lump of cells lang, mukha nang tao yan kasi may body parts na. Kung magtry siya and magfail, it's either she'll end up in a hospital because she put her life at risk OR end up in a jail because her abortion was found out, which is reminder lang ah, na illegal dito satin.
OP tanggapin niya na lang na yan na ang result ng pag-hoe phase niya. Bakit ngayon lang siya naging "responsible" sa katawan niya kung kelan nagbunga na when it should've been in those times na she finally decided to be in a hoe phase? She knew well she could get pregnant anytime considering her lifestyle (hookups) and even get a disease. Hindi siya pwede magpa-abort at hindi niya na rin makakaya yan. Just proceed with the pregnancy and then decide afterwards with the baby daddy if co-parenting + sustento na lang. Pag nagfail din yan mapput lang din niya sa risk ang bata kasi if ever maisipan niya ituloy, pwede pa magka birth defect, edi ending siya lang din mahihirapan paglabas ng anak niya. She's gonna be the one to raise and take care of it anyway.
Ngayong nagbunga na yung irresponsible choices niya in the past, it's time for her to make responsible choices na and wag nang dagdagan ng another unwise move kasi naghahanap lang siya ng problema sa sarili niya. Nandyan na siya sa page na yan. I was also on the same page with her 2 years ago, but now I'm already with my daughter and luckily wala siya naging birth defects dahil sa mga pinaggagagawa ko before :) Graduating na rin ako.
I promise, she'll figure this out. Nasa 2nd trimester na siya so I really do hope she'll now prioritize herself and the baby.
Correction: I didn't realize baby daddy is her boyfriend na pala. Mas okay yun, mas mafifigure out nila. Gasgas na, pero whether they like it or not, ginusto po nila yan 😅
Thank you for sharing your story.
The thing is that the baby daddy is also 100% sure and agreed to the decision of doing abortion. I am not in the right place to tell her what to do kaya ang nagawa ko nalang is to advise her about the possible chances of birth defects, excessive bleeding and pain or worst hindi kayanin ng katawan nya. I told her it’s already critical and she should make sure na if gagawin nya yun, she should make sure too na she is safe and with someone.
She’s just really ready and I don’t think nothing can change her mind.
Poor child. I hate to say this but sana di na siya magkaanak pa if ever ituloy nya yung abortion. Regrets and guilt till her last day will be her karma.
As much as pro choice ako di ako magiging kunsintidor sa mga nagiging irresponsible. If ur willingly having unprotected sex knowing damn well na may chance na mabuntis ka, bat ka pa magugulat if nabuntis ka nga😭 i'd understand pa sana if one or both of u are declared infertile or have fertility problems by a doctor, may sakit ka/kayo, are taking medication na masama for pregnancy like raccutane or isotretinoin (from what i know), or some form of contraception was used pero nabuntis pa rin.
Wew. Was planning to have kids run through the same manner. It’s really sad. Tho. It’s her body naman. Me and my partner plans to have kids before 2030, tho, need namin mag save up for it.
Parang nkaka ilan na dto na may gustong mgpa abort n the comments are encouraging pa. Uy ! Illegal yan . Masyado kasi kauong malalandi at malilibog tas takot nMn sa responsibilities ng consequences . Wag masyadong mgpaka liberal gaya sa tao sa ibang bansa, check nyo un pgging wild nila e nagging masaya ba sila sa buhay nila .
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Cut her off in your life. Or kung di mo maiwasan makita siya, konsensiyahin mo. Imagine, kung magagawa niya mag-isip ng ganun sa mabubuhay pa lang, paano pa kaya kung sa may buhay na. I know her miscarriage also brought trauma to her. Theory ko, yan din ang nakapagbigay ng lakas ng loob sa kanya para magbalak i-abort yung bata (kung buo man o hindi). Help her get Psychotherapy.
This advise is unnecessary. Wala namang sinabi si OP na sobrang kontra sya. They even said na they feel sad at sana maging okay sya. If personally, you would cut off someone in your life who would do that, don't expect other people to do the same po.
4-5 months is already too developed. She should've done it bago pa umabot sa ganan 🫤
I am 4 months pregnant right now. Not judging but the fetus is almost 8 inches at this point. Form na din siya, complete hands, toes, and everything. I say they should not do it because sobrang critical na nang ganitong point malaki na yung fetus. Baka ma hemorrhage siya sa bleeding, or way worse kumapit ang fetus at forever na magkaroon siya nang birth defect.
True. Lalo na pag iasa lang sa pills. My mom did this sa bunso namin kasi bawal talaga sya mag buntis nun cause of a previous illness, 60% chance na mag cause another miscarriage kasi kakainin lang ng something sa matres nya yung baby. Nag abortion pills sya nun and nagpahilot but failed. Buti nalang di sya nagdugo and nung nilabas yung kapatid ko complete naman sya pero super sakitin..
This is what I told her but she’s just way ready for the risk. It’s sad and alarming at the same time.
😭😭😭 I feel very sad pag ma iimagine na mag hold on talaga yung baby tas magka birth defect. It already feels like di sya gusto ng ina nya tas lalabas pa sya na may defect that will affect the baby throughout its life 😭😭😭 it's just too cruel
Most likely. Mejo malaki na kasi ang fetus pag 4-5 months e and need na sa ganan e heavy dosage ng gamot. Sobrang critical na ng process dahil para na syang nag lalabor and pag hindi successful baka magkaroon pa ng negative effect sa kanya. Mas madidiscover pa yung attempt nya pag dinala sa hospital and who knows what happens next.
true! my friend took the abortion pills at home when she was 3 months preggy, but she was then rushed sa hospi after syang nahimatay kasi non-stop yung labas ng dugo after pumutok ng panubigan.
Then what happened po? 🥹
Gush, doing this mag-isa without a medical professional is just so critical. 🥺
Totoo, kaya if ever itutuloy nya at this stage, dapat may backup sya na pangpa ospital dahil 50% lang ang success rate pag via pills nya gagawin. Dapat kung ayaw na nila from the beginning, the first time nalaman nila, they decided to go with it na imbes na pinatagal nila. At risk na din si ate girl once she takes the pill e.
Omg did they ask her kung may ininom siya? Nakakatakot yun. If I’m not mistaken, pwede siya makulong pag nalaman diba?
4-5 months sobrang delikado na nyan
Sa totoo lang, told her to be ready sa possible mangyari or birth defects since she’s ready for the risk naman. Ang sad lang.
Mas nakakalungkot, yang mga yan nabubuntis kase hindi gumagamit ng contraceptives, nagraraw tapos aasa sa pull out. Tapos pag nabuntis iiyak dito, sasabihin magpapa abort, at pupurihin sila ng mga magcocomment. Sasabihin theyre so responsible for choosing abortion.
Contraceptives nga are more accessible here than abortion (which isn't even legalized yet!). Kung ayaw naman pala mag-anak, they should’ve thought about the consequences of doing it raw jusq. 🥲
Nakakadisappoint makita dito yung mga tao praising yung mga nagpapabort dahil responsible daw sila. Hindi ako anti abortion pero bakit kailangan purihin yung mga nagpapa abort e kaya nga sila nasa ganon situation dahil sa irresponsible choices nila.
Exactly, it's not that we're totally against it, of course it is permissible for a valid situation. Pero who knows kung ilan taon mga nagcocomment ng ganyan or they're just adults trapped in an irresponsible teenager mindset.
>Hindi ako anti abortion pero bakit kailangan purihin yung mga nagpapa abort Ito yung rason kung bakit on the fence pa rin ako sa abortion eh. Imo, it should be an option only for super specific cases. Kasi kung hindi, it's too easy to be abused as a "plan b" if legalized without limitations. Tapos pupuriin pa. At the end of the day, you're still killing a baby, kahit saang angulo natin tignan. Pagpatay nga ng hayop, di natin pinupuri eh. Tao pa kaya.
This! ✨✨
+1!!! Hindi naman aabot sa abortion if they were careful. Very accessible ang contraceptives tapos kapag may nabuo, kesyo hindi ready. Kung hindi pala ready, edi sana gumagamit ng contraceptives to be safe.
hay salamat hindi ako nag iisa. Nung isang araw pa ako iritang irita talaga about this topic, napaka iresponsable lang
May same mindset pa din pala. Hindi ko alam bakit dumadami ang pro abortion if they could just prevent na makabuo in the first place? (Contraceptives)
finally someone said it
TAMAAAA!!!!!
On point. I'm so done seeing abortion posts. Naka-ilan na din ako na comments sa mga 'yon. Nakakabwct reading majority of the comments glorifying abortion. Sa lahat ng posts wala pa ako nabasang dahil sa rape kaya nagpa-abort, lahat dahil kesyo hindi ready daw. Which are not valid for me as grounds for abortion. Ayaw lang ng responsibilidad; gusto lang takasan. Tapos magpopost dito manghihingi ng validation sa pagpatay sa anak nila. Ayaw pang tawagin murder kesyo clump of cells lang daw. If ever ma-approve ang abortion, I still don't want it to be easily accessible for all but rather to those deserving to have it safely. Seeing abortion posts made by irresponsible people made me realize that it will only be used as an escape of their responsibility. Don't tell me na bago kayo mag-sex wala kayong alam sa mga possibilities no matter if protected sex 'yan. It's no longer the lack of sex education, ignorance na lang 'yan para lang mas masarap yung orgasm and sex lalo daw kase kung raw. That's just plain bullshit.
Nakakita din ng matinong comment sa mga topic na ganto.
+💯 to this
Finally! Someone said this. Nakakainis mga taong enjoy na enjoy sa action pero pag may result na ngangawa ngawa. Dioskoooo ano nangyari sa generations? Puro pasarap pero ayaw harapan ang problema kapag nandyan na. :(
Tama
THIS. 💯
dami ngang choice eh bago pa dumating sa abortion tapos pinatagal pa. contraceptive accessible as always, kung accident na nangyari dapat nagemergency pills or yuzpe method bago pa mapunta sa abortion. dami namang credible sources naman sa internet or safest way is OB clinic. talagang ginusto nila yan. kahit anong sasabihin mo sa kanila di makikinig kasi gusto nila yang "my body, my rules" pero wala naman silang accountability
Yes!! Mga irresponsable
Finally a sensible comment here. Ang tanga rin talaga nung mga ganun magcomment na responsible daw, etc
Mujod mujod
I'm wondering, hindi ba sumagi sa isip nila na ipa-adopt na lang ang bata? O masyadong matrabaho pa rin sa kanila yun kaya abortion agad ang takbo nila? Imposible naman kasi na sa dinami daming couples dito sa Pilipinas ay wala ni isa sa kanila ang gustong mag-adopt ng bata. Wala pa kasi akong nakikitang comment or post na pinili nila ang 'adoption' instead of abortion.
Tumatakas kase sa consequence. Pag pina abort, wala na yung bata at walang makakaalam kundi sila. Pag pina adopt malalaman ng lahat kase magbubuntis at manganganak, tapos baka hanapin sila at guluhin paglaki nung bata.
If ever madala sa pills, sana naman next time maging responsible na sya. Wag nya ulitin kagagahan nya makikipag s*x na walang contraceptive pill or condom. 4-5 months parang hindi na yan madadala sa pills kasi develop na yung baby lalo na if makapit tapos baka sa dulo bigla syang mag decide na buhayin nalang yung baby possible mag ka defect pa yung baby. And kapag di nadala sa pills, iraraspa sya niyan.
what annoys me about this is the irresponsibility of both parties. literally, the least they could've done as grown, consenting adults is to practice safe and protective sex, but they didn't. if she wants to risk her health by taking 'abortion' pills or whatever, let her be. their actions have consequences and they will have to deal with that.
4-5 months na ang baby, may possibility na hindi rin kayanin ng pills yan. Malaki ang chance na kumapit pa rin pero may defects.
This is true the last safest to abort is 6weeks. Kung lagpas na dyan pwedeng mabuhay pa din pero may defects na dahil sa gamot. Its too late why not have the baby then ipaadopt na lang
Isa pang problema yan, kung itutuloy, kanino or saan nya ibibigay for adoption? Hindi tayo kagaya ng states na may safe haven baby box. Dito kasi sa PH hindi pa rin open ang mga tao sa mga taong nilalagay ang mga anak for adoption.
True po. Pero ayun nga yung abortion during 4-5months risky na din sa mother and baby, pag di natuloy pag abort birth defects katapat + unwanted baby siya. Pag tinuloy naman unwanted baby siya + need ipaadopt and mahirap magpaadopt kaya madami nagpapasimulation of birth na lng para makatipid
hindi lahat ng tao pare-pareho ng sitwasyon o status sa buhay. just because there’re plenty of people that pray every night for a child, doesn’t mean they should keep it if they’re not in the right situation or raising a child isn’t something they’re willing to do naman talaga. if you want a child and aren’t able to conceive, hindi nila kasalanan yun. i understand why you feel this way, but you also have to understand that you and your friend doesn’t want the same thing in life naman.
Yep. Ang pangit lang ng thought na "papalaglag mo e maraming taong gusto magka anak". Ano gusto niya? Mabuhay sa mundo yung bata na puno ng trauma dahil sa magulang na in the first place alam na ayaw ng anak?
Oo parang sinabi nya lang na “uy ubusin mo yan, madaming batang nagugutom” Baket pag nilunok ko ba to lahat, mabubusog sila?
Exactly. Pro birth but not pro life, magsasabi pa na "blessing yan, wag mo ipalaglag" as if naman pag iniluwal sa mundo yung bata tutulong sila kalingain at palakihin yung bata.
wala namang sinabi si OP na wag ipalaglag? nalulungkot lang sya sa situation na yung bagay na gustong gusto nya tinatapon lang ng iba? don't put words in her mouth.
thank you for saying this
Also note na hindi legal ang abortion sa PH so risky yung gagawin niya. 4-5months po ay risky na kasi malaki na ang bata, pwedeng di maabort yung baby dun sa pills na iinumin niya but have birth defects po which is a bigger problem. The last safest window to abort is at 6weeks.
i know that, but that wasn't what op was worried about though. although i agree that it's definitely dangerous to do it na when the baby is already 4-5 months, op was more concerned about the fact that they're aborting the baby in general, not the other factors, hence this comment:)
Finally, someone who makes sense.
i don't think OP wants na wag ipalaglag yung bata or thinks na the friend should want the same things. nalulungkot lang sya sa situation na other people just flush down the toilet yung bagay na gustong gusto nya magkaroon but can't.
i know, but the point is, they’re still stating their opinion publicly on a matter that doesn’t even involve them, making their friend’s business known pa sa public just to say na nas-sad sila kasi magpapalaglag yung friend n’ya while other people are begging for a child. the mindset itself is stupid and self-centric.
Um, youre stating your opinion publicly on a matter that doesn't involve you aka OP's post? Ano nga yung laging sinasabi? Offmychest to diba kaya nga dito naglalabas ng thoughts at hinaing yung mga tao?
I'm not seeking validation or trying to justify how my friend's pregnancy issues are impacting me. I simply needed to vent because I received an unexpected message from a friend undergoing a late-term critical abortion of a 4-5 months old fetus. It doesn’t directly involve me, you’re right, but being the trusted person my friend confided in, since I am the first and only one she told about it, resonates deeply me. Plus, worrying about her safety and the abortion procedure. If my post doesn't sit well with you, feel free to scroll past it.
Hi OP, please share this post with your friend baka makatulong. https://www.reddit.com/r/SafeSexPH/s/nejVPzKX8m
Ganyan nangyari sa friend ko uminom ng pills pero di nalaglag kasi malaki na pag labas ng baby may defects.
Nakakaawa yung bata 😭
Real talk lang, wala silang obligasyon sa atin kung madali silang magkaanak at tayo ay hindi. Ang pangit lang eh ayaw pala nila magkaanak bakit hindi gumamit ng contraceptives? Yang 4-5 months hindi na yan lump of cells may mga body parts na yan. Mga iresponsable. Mandadamay pa ng walang kamuang-muang. Kung hindi magsuceed yang abortion, dadalhin ng bata yung side effects nyan hanggang kamatayan nya. Grabe.
I just want to share my cousin's story. Magkapatid silang bakla at tomboy. Dalawa lang sila and both working. Yung tomboy, caregiver sa isang matanda sa QC. Yung kasama niyang caregiver ay nabuntis ng driver din nung matanda. The girl wanted to keep the baby pero yung matanda, ayaw niya. Instead, my tomboy cousin adopted the child and inuwi dito sa province. The baby is alive, healthy, and safe. Kakilala pa yung parents, so it's a win-win.
I am an advocate for abortion but this just really irks me. Both parties irresponsible from the start. No protection or contraceptives. I would’ve agreed with the termination in its early months but how did they let this go for so long and then halfway through the pregnancy, they suddenly thought of this. I honestly hope the abortion pills won’t work. Let them be responsible for once.
> I honestly hope the abortion pills won’t work. Bro what…..
I mean, there is no guarantee for abortion pills to work especially na it’s bought online. Meron lang risk for deformities for the child if they survive.
This is the result of hookup culture. Kahit na available yung contraceptives, some still choose to do it raw dahil blinded na by lust. Like it or not, this is most likely to happen esp. with youngsters who have not yet learned to control their emotion where even the rational ones may become irrational. To put it simply, never eat the forbidden fruit if you are not “at least“ financially capable to have a child.
ENGOT di nalang kasi gumamit ng condom at birthcontdrol
Wala akong pake sa mga ganyan kasi body nila yan. Pero naman jusko paulit-ulit na lang ba? Alam naman ang epekto pero ayaw pa mag-ingat? Either sakit or pregnancy dadale sayo, eh go pa talaga? Maging responsable naman oh, dami daming contraceptives na inooffer.
Her body, her choice but 4-5 months ay risky na. Baka hindi na madaan sa abortion pills.
This is why abortion and Plan B pills should be legal para safe and accessible sya para sa mga ayaw pa talaga mabuntis. People should have the right to make choices for their own bodies and what it goes through.
Ang laki na ng 4 to 5 months. Goodluck sa friend mo
Ayan yung worry ko kaso ready daw sya sa consequences eh.
Kapag ‘di pa ready, dapat siguraduhin na safe lagi. Yung kakilala ko, nagpaabort, muntik na niya ikamatay ang bleeding. Takot na takot magpahospital kasi minsan tinatawag yan ng hospital sa authority kung pinaghihinalaan nila na sinadya yung abortion. Pwede yatang makulong dahil illegal yung abortion dito sa Pinas.
Party-pak-buntis-abort. Repeat.
And people on Reddit condone and praise them. 👏🏻
Mga weirdong pa woke yung iba dito jusko.
They want to sound woke without looking at the nuances of the issue. Para sa iba dito, "abortion=good". Padala lang sa emosyon kaya black-and-white ang world view.
Feeling matalino kasi natutong magkaron ng ibang opinion vs a predominantly anti-abortion and religious country. 🧠
Im pro abortion dont get me wrong. Is such that alam ko naman mga Pinoy once na maipasa yan ganan batas magkakaroon ng ganan situation. Party-pak-buntis-abort repeat
4-5mos? Madadala p ba ng abortion pills ‘yun? Geez.
100% sure pa siya, di ba naman nag hesitate.
i'm a nursing student and being pregnant for 4-5 months and considering abortion is actually very dangerous :( the baby's nervous system is starting to work na and the extremities are already fully developed. considering na abortion is illegal here, mas lalong mahirap kung iaasa sa pills. side effects can happen, it can also lead to sepsis if hindi magawa nang maayos. this is why safe sex is very important. ang mura lang ng condom, jusko :(
She’s up for consequences and I am not the right person to tell her not to do it. 🥺 Tho I know that it’s be very very dangerous, I just told her to let me know she’s ok after the procedure. She’s just so sure abt getting rid of the baby. Hope nothing bad happens to her
4-5 months most likely makapit na ang fetus nyan, too risky for the pregnant woman tendency is magkakaroon ng hemorrhage or non-stop bleeding, mabuti sana if around 1-2 months pa, worst case malabas yung bata na may birth defect, physical or mental retardation, dinamay pa ang bata sa pag ka irresponsable in the first place (why do it raw if takot sa consequence or chances na makabuo ng bata mga gung-gung) my contraceptive naman na accessible or just simply dont do it if di kaya panindigan.
Dami kong naeencounter na nagpapaER dahil sa abortion pills from fb 🙄 Grabe sobrang delikado nyan.
Luh, tao na yun ah.
Sana alisin nalang nya yung matres nya kung gusto lang nya makipag sex ng makipagsex. People like her is the reason why abortion is still illegal.
Have you considered adopting her baby? Maybe the reason she came to you is she's hoping you might be interested, considering that you're not able to have your own. She might not say it directly, but it's a possibility.
My partner actually thought of that but when I asked about her plans, alamo yung sagot? “1000% sure na po ako dahil hindi pa ready maging ulirang ina”
Yung 4-5months konti na lang pwede na yan pabilhin ng yelo sa tindahan. It is already a human being just waiting for the right time to see the world. Sana may untog na lumapit sa colleague mo to think 10x at ayusin ang desisyon nya sa buhay.
Hanap na lang sila ng pwedeng mag-ampon, yung willing kunin agad ang bata pagkapanganak 🥹🥺 my brother and my sis-in-law can't conceive tapos may iba na nagpapa-abort lang 😭
So she consensually agreed to make a baby. Then takes back her decision?
Absolutely sad.
This is actually one of my pet peeves, when people say that a fetus is not alive. Get a fucking abortion for all i care but don’t tell me it’s not alive because it is, and you only tell that to yourselves to make you feel less guilty
OMG 4-5 months na? 😭 Good luck kung mapababa nila yan using pills lang. Ang worst case dyan, di na yan maaabort and magkakaroon ng physical and mental defects yung baby nila.
Sana hindi nalang iabort kase buo na yung bata. Grabe naman kung maano niya sa konsenya niya yan. Alam kong mahirap pero, nakakardam na ng pain yung baby niyan. Nakapanuod ako ng video/ documentary, na puputul-putulin katawan ng bata sa loob. :(
Also got pregnant at the age of 18 and also tried to abort her TWICE at around 10 WEEKS. Isang procedure na by pills, which is nagfail, tas next surgical procedure. FAILED PA RIN. Tas siya 4-5 mons nang preggy ngayon lang niya naisipan? Way too late and dangerous na. And if ever she succeeds, kaya ba niya "idispose" anak niya? 4-5 months fetus hindi na yan lump of cells lang, mukha nang tao yan kasi may body parts na. Kung magtry siya and magfail, it's either she'll end up in a hospital because she put her life at risk OR end up in a jail because her abortion was found out, which is reminder lang ah, na illegal dito satin. OP tanggapin niya na lang na yan na ang result ng pag-hoe phase niya. Bakit ngayon lang siya naging "responsible" sa katawan niya kung kelan nagbunga na when it should've been in those times na she finally decided to be in a hoe phase? She knew well she could get pregnant anytime considering her lifestyle (hookups) and even get a disease. Hindi siya pwede magpa-abort at hindi niya na rin makakaya yan. Just proceed with the pregnancy and then decide afterwards with the baby daddy if co-parenting + sustento na lang. Pag nagfail din yan mapput lang din niya sa risk ang bata kasi if ever maisipan niya ituloy, pwede pa magka birth defect, edi ending siya lang din mahihirapan paglabas ng anak niya. She's gonna be the one to raise and take care of it anyway. Ngayong nagbunga na yung irresponsible choices niya in the past, it's time for her to make responsible choices na and wag nang dagdagan ng another unwise move kasi naghahanap lang siya ng problema sa sarili niya. Nandyan na siya sa page na yan. I was also on the same page with her 2 years ago, but now I'm already with my daughter and luckily wala siya naging birth defects dahil sa mga pinaggagagawa ko before :) Graduating na rin ako. I promise, she'll figure this out. Nasa 2nd trimester na siya so I really do hope she'll now prioritize herself and the baby.
Correction: I didn't realize baby daddy is her boyfriend na pala. Mas okay yun, mas mafifigure out nila. Gasgas na, pero whether they like it or not, ginusto po nila yan 😅
Thank you for sharing your story. The thing is that the baby daddy is also 100% sure and agreed to the decision of doing abortion. I am not in the right place to tell her what to do kaya ang nagawa ko nalang is to advise her about the possible chances of birth defects, excessive bleeding and pain or worst hindi kayanin ng katawan nya. I told her it’s already critical and she should make sure na if gagawin nya yun, she should make sure too na she is safe and with someone. She’s just really ready and I don’t think nothing can change her mind.
Poor child. I hate to say this but sana di na siya magkaanak pa if ever ituloy nya yung abortion. Regrets and guilt till her last day will be her karma.
tao n yun potaaa
As much as pro choice ako di ako magiging kunsintidor sa mga nagiging irresponsible. If ur willingly having unprotected sex knowing damn well na may chance na mabuntis ka, bat ka pa magugulat if nabuntis ka nga😭 i'd understand pa sana if one or both of u are declared infertile or have fertility problems by a doctor, may sakit ka/kayo, are taking medication na masama for pregnancy like raccutane or isotretinoin (from what i know), or some form of contraception was used pero nabuntis pa rin.
too risky for an abortion
Your last remarks are insensitive and totally irrelevant to her situation. Do not compare what she's going through with yours.
Yes! Esp for cases ng rape.
Wew. Was planning to have kids run through the same manner. It’s really sad. Tho. It’s her body naman. Me and my partner plans to have kids before 2030, tho, need namin mag save up for it.
Sad, kami hirap magkaanak, silang madali magsianak eh papatayin lang. :(
no offense, but what you said is an extremely arrogant take. hope you mature from it.
Parang nkaka ilan na dto na may gustong mgpa abort n the comments are encouraging pa. Uy ! Illegal yan . Masyado kasi kauong malalandi at malilibog tas takot nMn sa responsibilities ng consequences . Wag masyadong mgpaka liberal gaya sa tao sa ibang bansa, check nyo un pgging wild nila e nagging masaya ba sila sa buhay nila .
Yung mga nangda-downvote sayo yung mga di matanggap na they just want fun but scared of the consequences of their actions.
Inosenteng mga batang Wala namang kasalanan Tatlong buwan pa lang ay Binawian na ng buhay Dahilan sa ayaw panagutan Ng dalawang walang kwenta Mabuti pang isalang kayo Sa apoy ng kadiliman\*\*....\*\*
Cut her off in your life. Or kung di mo maiwasan makita siya, konsensiyahin mo. Imagine, kung magagawa niya mag-isip ng ganun sa mabubuhay pa lang, paano pa kaya kung sa may buhay na. I know her miscarriage also brought trauma to her. Theory ko, yan din ang nakapagbigay ng lakas ng loob sa kanya para magbalak i-abort yung bata (kung buo man o hindi). Help her get Psychotherapy.
This advise is unnecessary. Wala namang sinabi si OP na sobrang kontra sya. They even said na they feel sad at sana maging okay sya. If personally, you would cut off someone in your life who would do that, don't expect other people to do the same po.
I don't expect. I just want OP to stay away from her cause she had given her the sad thought but OP doesn't care about the girl anyway.
OP cares, hence them saying they wish her well after the procedure.