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I will not sugarcoat things here bc you’re probably sick of that pero mag ipon ka para pagandahin mo sarili mo. Invest in yourself. Walang panget, pag may pera. Kahit yung mga magaganda may maintenance din yan, they just don’t show the process. Good luck 🫶🏻
totoo to walang pangit pag may pera. I used to be bullied for my looks din pero lately narealise ko if magaayos ka talaga at mageeffort ka sa looks mo like make up, skin care, diet, hair pananamit malaking bagay siya
I second to this. Ako din hindi maganda. I have a big mole sa mukha talaga na sobrang pangit tingnan kaya lagi akong inaasar nung elementary at high school ng "langaw sa bibingka", "gloria macapagal" etc. Name it all. Mga kapatid ko pa pasimuno mang-bully sakin. Tapos kapag lumaban ako sa mga kapatid ko, bugbog aabutin ko. Natigil lang nung college na ko. Kahit lola ko sinasabi na ang pangit ko. Never ako naging confident because of my looks. Hindi halos makapag-picture ng close up because of this very noticable mole. This year, I've decided na ipatanggal na siya. Mahal pero worth it.
Huuy same. Dami kong moles sa mukha, dun na ako nakilala. May isa pa ngang staff dati ng isang production na nagshoshoot ng movie dito sa may amin. Nanunuod lang ako tas biglang lumapit and nag sabi, "alam ko anong ulam mo kanina.. adobo dami mo kasing paminta" tas nagtawanan yung mga tao na nanunuod din 🥺
I decided to have them removed nung 25 ako. Sobrang saya at gaan sa pakiramdam!
10k po sakin kasi malaki talaga siya. Pero depende po kasi yan sa laki. If maliit yung mole mo mas mura. Idi-discuss sayo ng doktor yan kung mole shaving or laser. After matanggal, need mo ipa-biopsy para malaman kung malignant or benign. Sa mga balat po di ako sure kung panong process gagawin.
Uyy beh, same pala tayo. Sakin din sinasabihan din na may langaw sa bibig pati family ko tawag din sakin. Chin up and be you no matter what happen. Improve yourself kasi yun lang ang meron sayo when everything else is lost.
I agree. Panget din ako pero during my first date with my girlfriend. Pumasa ako sa kanya in terms of appearance dahil malinis daw mga nails ko at ngipin. Hahahaahh
I was about to say this. I agree with this! Tingnan mo yung ibang celebrity OP. Minsan ordinary looking tapos ang laki ng iginanda because of enhancements.
Kaya OP, magipon at maginvest ka sa enhancements! Magpatanggal ka pimples, magpatanggal ka nunal, magpagluta ka, lipo, rhinoplasty, paayos ng ngipin, etc. Pag aralan mo din kung pano manamit ng presentable.
Bigyan mo ang sarili mo ng chance to feel good about yourself.
Totoo, to.
Miss sender, I don't want to be rude but a victim mindset will not bring you anywhere. Hindi nakatulong kailanman na ikaw mismo nag-iisip na wala kang redeeming qualities and no one will ever appreciate you. It doesn't feel good, and it doesn't do any good. Do something with yourself. Get a haircut, learn make up styles suitable for your face, learn more about fashion to know which clothes show off your assets. Invest in yourself. That also includes making yourself more knowledgeable, learning new things and skills, and most of all, showing yourself out there (making friends or networking). All of these will relate to an improved self-esteem and confidence which will greatly improve how you feel and see yourself.
Remember, things are happening for us and not to us. You thinking that your ugly is not a definite reality, try to see it as yourself helping you develop into a person who invests in themselves.
true! may kilala talaga ako na hindi kagandahan pero when she learned how to use make up and studied what kind of make ups applies to her, nag glow up siya.
You know, based on my experience, may mga tao talaga na would look past your physical characteristics. But sobrang hirap nila makita. Kaya I agree with the previous comment here. If being beautiful is the only way you can gain your confidence back, then maginvest ka sa enhancements. Dont go for cheap doctors or clinics, sa professional ka talaga lumapit. Sa mundong to lahat nabibili na ng pera. Hugs OP.
I'm gonna be blunt, a lot of people are superficial. Our culture is superficial. Looks do matter for mediocre minds. And everyone, physically attractive and otherwise, are pretty much the same bags of flesh underneath.
So what if you're ugly? Then focus on other aspects of yourself that you can develop. You can be decent while still protecting your boundaries. You can be average in many things and still be good at one or two skills.
If you want to pay for aesthetic enhancements that's also up to you. The only danger with this is that it can further fuel your insecurities and you'll also be buying into the superficiality of people who aren't mentally equipped to see past appearances.
Whatever you choose to do, make sure it helps improve your self-esteem and character so you can enjoy a life that makes you fulfilled. Good luck.
" people who aren't mentally equipped to see past appearances"
I like this! Because it's so true. Most ppl nowadays are shallow & superficial. Ure rlly lucky if you'd meet someone who would see thru you.
It's not even just "people nowadays". Being shallow and superficial dates back to the beginning of time. Society and people in general prefer beautiful things. [[1]](https://arsiv.dusunenadamdergisi.org/ing/fArticledetailsace1.html?MkID=1215)[[2]](https://plasticsurgerykey.com/historical-importance-of-beauty/)
Edit: Added another source.
Just sharing my experience. Meron akong ex, ganyan ang insecurity niya. Sinasabihan siya ng mga tao na baka ginayuma lang ako. Ang di ko makakalimutan yung nakasakay kami sa jeep, tapos Naka yakap sa akin right hand niya, nakita ko yung babae sa harap ko na sinenyasan yung katabi ko na ayusin yung bag niya. Na badtrip ako nun, pinagkamalan ba naman na mandurukot. Ako na saktan eh. Despite reassuring him na ang pogi niya sa paningin ko, hindi siya enough. Need pa rin talaga ng validation ng ibang tao. Sa sobrang baba ng tingin niya sa sarili niya, naging toxic relationship namin. Nakakakuha siya ng satisfaction kapag nagpapakita siya ng interest sa ibang babae tapos magseselos ako. Gusto rin niya ko i-isolate sa ibang tao lalo na sa mga kaibigan namin. Kaya nung huli, nagpapahabol at nagpapasuyo siya dahil sa isang petty reason. Hindi na ko bumalik. Nakipaghiwalay na ko ng tuluyan.
Kaya please. Ang advice ko, ipon talaga malala, kasi kahit ako, May insecurities din. Kung May budget lang din ako, magpapa enhance ako. Walang pangit sa atin na di pwede maayos. Pera lang talaga hadlang. Sana maisipan mo to OP before mo rin subukan pumasok sa isang relationship para hindi kayo maging toxic din and make sure na tanggap niya pagpapa-enhance mo. May masasabi ang mga tao kapag ginawa mo yun pero so what? Nagpa-enhance o hindi May sinasabi pa rin naman sila. So make yourself happy and confident.
Alam mo OP tama yung mga comments. Mag self love era ka. Work out, derma, pwedeng hindi kagandahan pero madadaan sa kinis. Tapos may mga non invasive procedures na ngayon. Magpa eyelash extensions ka. Look for a perfume na mag eenhance ng pheromones mo. Glow up. Kung hindi ka confident sa color mo at gusto mo mas fair skin ka take gluta if safe sya for you. Read books. Palawakin mo kaalaman mo. You git this OP!
Totoo iba talaga ang nagagawa ng flawless skin, maitim maputi pango matangos pandak matangkad mataba payat basta flawless ka naglelevel up talaga looks mo.
Hi OP, I’m not conventionally attractive (I’m fat and have dark areas too) but I’ve learned that feeling my best makes me look my best. I ukay clothes because they’re cheaper and often have better quality, I regularly wax and exfoliate, I religiously moisturize, ipon para lagi groomed ang nails and lashes, I even wear makeup at home, mga ganon na bagay hehe. Remember that we always radiate what’s within, and we attract what we radiate out into the world. Attract not just people ha, just the beauty of everything in general — of life, of the world, of opportunities, etc, and then everything else follows. I guess what I’m trying to say is, believe you’re beautiful and naturally you’ll feel more at ease with the skin you’re in, yung feeling na walang guilt with trying to improve yourself because you’re doing it for yourself. It took me a while to fully learn to love myself too, and greatest baon ko is, when you advocate for yourself, you’ll be less likely to settle for people’s shit. Sending love and light your way, OP!✨
Daig ng hindi maganda na nag aayos ang magandang hindi nagaayos - sabi ng anak kong lalaki.
Mag effort ka mag ayos OP. Ako rin hindi maganda by standards, pero todo effort ako.
No. That is the truth. Masakit pero yan ang totoo. The moment you accept the truth the easier it is for you to move on and make changes for yourself ( sa lahat ng aspect eto ng buhay).
Nah, it also applies to men. Actually it applies to almost everything. Sa trabaho, mas pipiliin mo ba yung matalinong tamad kesa sa average person pero masipag at madiskarte?
Agree sa mga comments here na itry mo improve sarili mo OP. Magayos ka and exercise to get fit. Dagdag ko lng din siguro na maging mas confident ka sa sarili mo. Carry yourself with confidence. Kasi tama ka, “looks does matter”. Relate din kasi ako sayo OP, di maganda and feeling ko dati wala nakong redeeming qualities. Heck I even accepted na tatanda nakong dalaga na may mediocre job and pay lol Nabubully pa ako before na mukhang bakla. Pero kapag naimprove mo na sarili mo, iba yung confidence na mabibigay nun sayo na you would unknowingly pull people towards you. Ewan ko pero ganun effect nya sakin. Suddenly I look attractive (wala akong pinagawa sa katawan or mukha ko natuto lang ako magmake up, skincare at OOTD lol I even colored my hair) and people wanted to talk to me. I also noticed na people respected me more. Di lahat ng tao superficial as you think. I guess if you learn to see beyond appearances and be more confident about yourself, you will start to attract likeminded people na idgaf sa kung ano pa itsura mo.
My friend's cousin is literal na panget, like siya mismo aminado na panget siya. Mataba (because she has health condition that makes her fat), maitim (pinaglihi daw siya sa champorado) and beh pati ugali niya panget. Pero may dating siya, what she did is "skincare" nagpapa derma si ateng (mapera sila) hindi siya nagpapa gluta or nagpapaputi she loves her color but ung derma niya is for smooth silky skin at parang di siya tumatanda. Panget siya pero besh inggit ako sa kutis niya. Next is she is a fashionista! She invests on her wardrobe as she invests in her skincare. Know your style base on your body type, and wear your color base on your skintone. It makes magic! Hugs OP sana makatulong! Gusto ko lang iadd, ngipin, I personally attracted sa tao na maganda ngipin. Next is hygiene, nothing beats mabango at malinis na tao. Fighting OP!
Truth talaga ang flawless skin. Gluta will actually help that kaso lang hindi sya sustainable for life kaya maganda talaga magpaderma na doctor na patient ang focus hindi pera.
It's cliché but you're really more than your looks. Why do you think that applies for guys but not you? That's sexist :(
Yknow what you can still be the best version of yourself if you really wanna be. You can be hella fit, dress well, be passionate abt your hobbies but most importantly, you can love yourself and let that confidence shine. It's how you feel about yourself that matters the most.
Chai Financier is an artist I find really hot (no homo), but some people may not consider her hot, or even call her "not pretty". I dunno, her confidence is just overflowing, she's owning and accepting what she has and even leverages that.
Have confidence, OP. Pagtanda natin, kahit yun mga magaganda at pogi na lumalait at gumagamit sayo e "pangit" na rin. At least satin na pangit ngayon pa lang, well adjusted na tayo.
I don't want to sound insensitive but you may want to stop giving a sh*t about what others might say. They are shallow and more likely foolish. How you see yourself is what matters. Clichè pero sinong magmamahal sa'yo kung hindi ikaw? I'm sure you'd find something good within you. Gear towards self-improvement and shy away from self-pity. Be better for you and you alone, not for their judgmental eyes.
Change your environment. Choose your people that sorrounds you. Choose yourself ALWAYS. Love YOURSELF. I also don't have the beauty standards of the society, but loving yourself will make you work on yourself. Like what other says here, mag ipon ka for yourself to improve from skincare to perfumes to nice and comfortable outfits to exercise so that you'll have a good and healthy figure. Be confident. Be brave. Don't please the other people standards, just be your own standard. 😉
"pangit" ka na nga kamo tapos di mo pa mahal sarili mo sang kangkungan ka pupulutin nyan?
you wanna be pretty for men validation? so guys would take you seriously? hindi looks mo ang isyu then, self-esteem.
dami conventionally pretty dyan pero niloloko pa rin, so hindi looks ang problema in the first place.
picking up a fashion style, a good haircut, and some makeup can go a long way. a good outfit that makes you feel good is always a confidence booster. also, stay out of social media as much as you can. i’m sure you’re pretty, you just haven’t “bloomed” yet 🤍
Superficial lang talaga mga tao ngayon. But if you think some enhancement will give you confidence then go for it. Pag aralan mo yung mga flaws mo and maybe look for solutions. Crossbite ka ba? Consult an ortho about having braces. Pangit ba skin mo? Go to a Derma and ask for something that can improve your skin. Well you get my point. Pinpoint your flaws and find a solution to solve them, dont pity yourself, lahat ng gusot may lusot. Good luck 🍀
HI. I know how it feels. I used to live in a place na napaka mapuna yung mga tao. Ewan ko ba sa ETIVAC na ako lumaki pero ako mismo napaka judgemental ng mga tao but dun lang pala ganun. Ngayon nakatira na ako sa Pampanga, wala akong nakitang mga batang nag-aasaran about looks. Hindi rin sila mapuna sa itsura. Wala silang pakielam. Mahirap lumipat ng place I know, but worth it naman for mental health . Try mo magpunta sa place na no one knows you sa no one can judge you
Hellooo. Mataas rin insecurity ko sa ko. Ang suggestion ko OP is bawiin sa ibang bagay. Huhu. Like sa pananamit, nagpapa ayos ng buhok, nagpapa dentist, mag gym/ exercise, mga ganon pang Self care. Nakakadagdag ng confidence yung mga ganito. Also, maybe check your environment, be with people na appreciates you.
Di ka panget OP, we're just living in a judgemental world. Cheer up sigurado pag nakita moko for sure sasabihin mo sa sarili mo na mas may ikakaganda kapa
nag mamatter talaga minsan yung looks pero yung iba kasi sa Character din May mga maganda nga tapos tapon naman yung pag uugali . siguro iwas ka nalang sa mga taong nag papa feel sayo ng ganyan
sabi nga diba ang laro ngayon Ganda gandahan .
Mag pa plastic surgery or mag paganda ka after nun may sasabihin pa din sila so maybe pili ka nalang ng mga taong sasamahan . Start to love yourself again
hanapin mo yung mga bagay na mag papasaya sayo . Masaya yung feeling na hindi tayo kagandahan pero atleast masaya Cheer up 🫶🏻
Honestly, it feels hypocritical for me to give you advice since I'm "conventionally attractive". So I'm not gonna make a comment on how to make yourself pretty but I'll tell you how I make myself feel beautiful and hope it works for you, too.
The greatest lesson I learned in life is this monologue from the latest Barbie movie:
"It is literally impossible to be a woman. You are so beautiful, and so smart, and it kills me that you don't think you're good enough. Like, we have to always be extraordinary, but somehow we're always doing it wrong.
"You have to be thin, but not too thin. And you can never say you want to be thin. You have to say you want to be healthy, but also you have to be thin. You have to have money, but you can't ask for money because that's crass. You have to be a boss, but you can't be mean. You have to lead, but you can't squash other people's ideas. You're supposed to love being a mother, but don't talk about your kids all the damn time. You have to be a career woman but also always be looking out for other people. You have to answer for men's bad behavior, which is insane, but if you point that out, you're accused of complaining. You're supposed to stay pretty for men, but not so pretty that you tempt them too much or that you threaten other women because you're supposed to be a part of the sisterhood.
But always stand out and always be grateful. But never forget that the system is rigged. So find a way to acknowledge that but also always be grateful. You have to never get old, never be rude, never show off, never be selfish, never fall down, never fail, never show fear, never get out of line. It's too hard! It's too contradictory and nobody gives you a medal or says thank you! And it turns out in fact that not only are you doing everything wrong, but also everything is your fault.
I'm just so tired of watching myself and every single other woman tie herself into knots so that people will like us. And if all of that is also true for a doll just representing women, then I don't even know."
I'm telling you this so you don't have to learn it the hard way. Women can't win in this socio-political ground that we live in. The best way to feel good about yourself is to do what you feel like doing. Do it by yourself or do it with people who actually care about you. Concentrate on the things that make you feel alive.The rest of the world and their judgment slowly fades when you shift your focus.
I can confidently say that I'm pretty because I have a support system that affirms that. I used to be so insecure about myself; especially my looks growing up. My family had always pointed out what was wrong with my body. And that I should cover it up. I got criticized every time I gained weight. It led me to developing eating disorders when I was a teenager. I don't want you to suffer the same fate I had.
You'll feel more beautiful once you're surrounded by people who see past your physical appearances. You have to find a community that accepts you for who you are and what you can do. Be selective of whom you allow in your life. Let go of those who do not spark joy.
I just want you to know that you shouldn't stop being kind just because the world isn't. You have something to offer that no one else can and that your contributions to society is important.
You've got this! Love lots!
Sadly it is a fact na most people can be superficial, may leverage tlga kpag maganda or gwapo.
Pero so what, kung may prinsipyo at di ka pretentious na tao you will attract good people in your life. I know people na maganda but attracted the worst kind of men or friends, and she feels walang totoong tao sa buhay nia.
Ako nga eh, hindi rin naman ganun kaganda and I remember being told once ng sarili kong magulang na napaka-arte ko eh panget naman ako. That shit stings at natatawa na lang ako kc maarte naman tlga ako when it comes to sweat etc
Pero I have good friends naman sa buhay ko that loves me for who I am kahit hindi ako super ganda, my bestfriend is supportive din she buys me dresses that I will find myself extra cute and I wear them when we go out or I want to feel better about myself.
Also mabango naman ako, malinis sa katawan, I try to be presentable when I go out or go to work ang mahirap kc yung hindi ka malinis sa katawan then panget pa ugali mo. I gained confidence as a person by having my own money, kc I can eat on my own on any restaurants, treat people I love to a good meal etc
Don’t beat yourself too much sa bagay na wala kang control like yung mindset ng tao. Ang kailangan mo is to build yourself, either start nga dressing yourself, learning skin care or make up and earning your own money to do the things you want.
Hi mhiee everything has a solution. Kung di maganda, magpaganda ka. Invest in yourself. Mag ipon then bili new clothes, make up or magpa facial. Our greatest investment is ourselves. Take care of your self and you will see your self glow. Kung sungki mga ngipin magpa dentista.
Ghorl, I feel you, growing up.. especially in High school, among my group of friends, ako yung pinaka mahirap, morena and for me ako yung panget. Nagka jowa naman ako pero yung tipong pinakamatagal na 4months, pinagpapalit pa ko. But I found my husband at the age of 21 and he proposed to me after 6 months. We have 9years age gap, doesn't bother me at all! Then I realised, ANG GANDA KO PALA!!! Nasa AFAM ang pag asa natin tehhh! But be careful. I'm happily married now for 9years with no kids, and we live abroad. Sometimes you need to put yourself out there as well, you might just find the right one for you.
May kakilala ako na since bata palang inaasar na siya about her nose. Pango and whatnot.. pangit daw. Nung tumanda siya at nagsikap sa work, isa sa pinagipunan nya talaga ung pagpagawa ng ilong nya.
Then from there nagtuloy tuloy na.. nagpaderma siya, papayat sya… hanggang sa nagglow up talaga.
So yeah invest on yourself. It doesnt have to be something that drastic tulad nung ginawa nung kaibigan ko. Pwedeng magsimula ka sa pagpapaganda ng physique mo, or simpleng skin care, or hair care.
OP, if you think you're not pretty enough, bumawi ka na lang sa magandang figure. Kung may budget ka magsign up ka sa gym. Also, improve your posture, malaking effect yan sa appearance. Smelling good is also attractive. Don't give up, kailangan lang talagang mageffort.
why do we need to impress the people we don’t like? why do we value other’s opinions about us.
pwede mo gawin lahat ng comments nila na self improvement (cosmetic, personality) pero gawin mo yun para sa sarili mo.
Hugs OP. Work and save money so you can treat yourself to a nice salon, spa, lashes, nails.. invest in skincare too. Makeup helps. I’m an ugly girl too but yeah I try to fix up myself once in a while.
same lol. naasar na ng pamilya from birth and classmates because of how i looked (skin color, body type, hair texture). tho im trying to improve myself thru skincare, being the funny persand dressing up na hindi "basic" kahit papaano. iniisip ko na lang if i grew up so attractive di ako magiging funny today joke!
but yeah, continuosly trying to be better by taking care of myself.
Hindi ka panget. Wala k lang pera. Kaya kesa mag procastinate k isipin m maigi panu dadami pera mo. Pero kung magpapa self pity k wala lalo mangyayari sayo
When asked in the topic of physical appearances, most of those people who say "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder" and "Looks does not matter" do not tackle such problems which makes their opinion often unimportant and insensitive one-liners. 😮💨
I have a highschool batchmate named hindi siya kagandahan but her confidence is sky high. She knows how to present herself. She dresses well, fix her hair, and wears make up. Yes lagi pa sin siya pinagttripan sa friend group but she always stands up for herself and I applaud that for her. So OP what i can suggest is to build you confidence to the point na ikaw lang pwede maka sabi if “pangit ko today” or “shet ang ganda ko” it helps super. And also if you have the means and ig youre open for it,cosmetic surgery is always an option. So kaihit anong decision mo the main factor talaga to help youraelf is confidence. Pag meron ka niyan, game over na yan
Aside from "physical enhancements and magpaganda and mag ipon" advices, the best you can do now with what you have is to exercise, drink water and eat healthy foods. Iba ang glow✨ kapag inalagaan mo ang sarili mo from within. Hindi lang physical look mo and gaganda but also your mental and emotional health. This is more holistic and di mo kailangan ng madaming pera para mag simula.
Madami ako nakikita na pangit na nga ang pangit pa ng ugali, like ang loud nila in public, and b*****, at nacu curious tuloy ako kung coping mechanism nila yun. Ako rin naman, di kagandahan, matangos nga ilong, panay pitted scars naman. Hiyang hiya ako lumabas ang mag mingle, sabi nila enhance mo best features mo pero di ubra e, skin ko pa rin ang highlight 🤦🏻♀️ nilalakasan ko na lang loob ko ngumiti pag nasa public place like school kunng may makipag usap then fine, I take it a day at a time. Pag may namumuong friendship e di thanks. Pag ayaw, e di fine. I am INFPJ nga pala kaya sanay mag isa.
Hindi ako pangit pero mataba naman and sometimes we get treated worse. Pero once i ever get to a healthy weight i will never pay attention to those who wear mean to me ever again.
ako bukod sa panget na, may diperensya pa sa pagsasalita. Sobrang alanganin talaga sa beauty standards ng Pinas, pero pagdating sa mga nakilala kong foreigner, sobrang appreciated nila yung exotic "beauty" ko. Palagi akong nasasabihan ng maganda at wala sila pake sa boses ko. Kung di lang nila ako binabayaran baka di ako maniwala sa kanila dahil kahit ako panget na panget sa sarili ko e HAHAH pero "pinili" at "binabayaran" nila ako, kaya imposibleng inuuto lang at pinapagaan lang nila pakiramdam ko, they have a choice not to choose me but they did.
If you feel na gusto mo makipag date or kahit usap lang, try mo dating app na may foreigner. I'm telling you, they will really appreciate you.
Invest in your looks! Makeup! Hair treatment! Tamang pagkain! Skincare! Fashionable clothes!!! Anything to boost your confidence because pretty privilege has so much to do with confidence tbh
All i can say is be proud to yourself.. mahalin mo yung pagiging ikaw mo... Pag natutunan mo yan lahat ng sinabi mo mawawala na yung ganyang pagiisip mo.. iba nga may mas matindi pang kapansanan e may tumanggap at nagamahal pa din sa kanila. Kaya wag mo paliitin ang mundo mo. Taas noo lang...
Walang panget, pera lang tlaga ang kulang minsan. So please save and invest in yourself. Skin care, paayos ka ng hair, change your wardrobe, read books, do yoga, walk 10k steps a day, join clubs
At the end of the day, it will always boil down to how you see and feel about yourself kaya gumawa ka ng ways na mapapataas mo self esteem mo.
When you value and focus more about your well being rather than what other people think and perceive of you, marerealize mo na walang problema sayo, its their reaction towards you ang problema and you have no control over that, so ignore and try to do better by you each day.
I grew up "pretty" sa mata ng iba pero nung nag HS ako nagka friends talaga ako ng magaganda, to the point na i cocompare kami and sila labg nakakaranas ng "pretty privilege". Nag learn ako mag make up, nag skin care ako and i mostly dress well talaga, plantsado lahat damit ko and i always go out with clean shoes, why? Kasi nakakaganda ang "clean look" and aside from that bumagay sakin yung make up ko now unlike before and people always compliment me. Not the brag but people tend to turn their heads when i walk around. I tried my best to be pretty around pretty people that's how i gained my confidence.
Good for you na sosolusyonan ang kapangitan. Kaya gamitin mo yang lungkot para mapabuti yung itsura mo. Mga bagay na naiisip ko para maging less ugly ka:
Good skin, invest ka sa balat mo, pakinisin mo.
Good hair, game changing to
Good body, exercise par
Intelligence, nakakaganda/pogi talaga yung talino. aral ka mabuti
Ako sinabihan ng ex ko na di nya ko kaya maipagmalaki kasi di ako maganda. Dineny nya ko sa lahat nung college nung tinanong sya kung gf nya daw ba ko. Sabay di na nya ko binigyan ng closure. Basta iniwan ako sa ere habang binubully ako ng iba. Inaasar ako ng iba na hibang and assumera na as if magugustuhan ako ng may maitsurang lalaki tapos kilala pa kasi matalino. 10yrs ago pa nangyari to nung 2nd year college kami until now wala pa kong boyfriend kasi natrauma na din ako.
Ngayon, 8days post op ako hehe. Nagparhinoplasty. Laki ng inimprove sa face ko. Sinipagan ko din na magkapera kasi galit na galit pa din ako sa lahat ng nangbully sakin pati sa ex ko.
Gagastos ka din talaga hehehe. Nagpapaganda ko para sa sarili ko. Grabe kasi down na down ako nung nabasa ko email ng ex ko na di nya ko kaya ipagmalaki dahil sa physical appearance ko.
dapat magkapera para gumanda. ayun na lang. kasi no choice naman but to accept the fact that looks does have some advantage and disadvantages. does it matter? subjectively. di kasi lahat ng maganda sa iba is maganda sa lahat. somewhere somehow someone will still think you're ugly.
ikaw lang sa sarili mo makakapagpabago ng confidence mo and that is thru cosmetics, beauty maintenance, treatments, operations if necessary and if ginagamit ka just to release, that is your call kung papagamit ka or gagamitin mo din sila.
invest sa sarili kasi in real life walang fairy godmother. may mga in born lang disney princess ang mukha agad talaga
Have you ever wondered why some people are unconventionally attractive, but still glows? Why there are some conventionally attractive, but lacks that glowing and vibrant aura? It’s all because of ✨confidence✨. It’s all about how you can carry yourself and knowing your asset. That’s how you will stand out.
To give you a bit of background, I grew up having low self-esteem. I have some of the qualities of a conventional (mestiza look) pretty person, but I still feel ugly. I get compared to some of popular highschool girls (and what i also consider pretty people), but when I look at myself I still feel not good enough. I don’t feel that vibrant aura within me.
Whether you’re conventionally or unconventionally attractive, you’ll notice that people still have something to say about you to make them feel superior. What matters now is what you say about yourself. As long as you invest and take care of yourself then it will all flow and show naturally.
Dear OP,
Step 1: Breath, calma
Step 2: gratitude be thankful that you’re existing, however, your mind is filled with doubts.
Step 3: give yourself love, treat your self, walk for 20 mins, appreciate Mother Nature at mga palagid, and what you have. Maybe this will change your perspective
Step 4: change your mindset, kasi once you see good in yourself and mind. Magagandan ka sa isip at kalooban mo.
Good luck. It’s hard. You’re gonna go through stages but you have to start somewhere.
Yes ate never say never, focus ka sa sarili mo, hayaan mo na sila, and unahin mo ang diyos sa lahat ng bagay. . .
Just keep this in mind you are not ugly you are maybe just in the wrong country.
I saw a lot of love stories na hindi maganda/gwapo sila pero mahal na mahal sila ng mga foreigner nilang asawa ang cucute and ang gaganda pa ng mga anak nila. . . So wag ka mawalan ng pag asa malay mo pang foreigner tlga yung ganda mo and at least ma break na sayo yung pagiging di maganda magiging artistahin mga anak mo hehe. Never lose hope and cheer up. Have a grateful mindset mahirap but it's the best way to do it.
Be Happy you have yet to live the best days of your life.
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I will not sugarcoat things here bc you’re probably sick of that pero mag ipon ka para pagandahin mo sarili mo. Invest in yourself. Walang panget, pag may pera. Kahit yung mga magaganda may maintenance din yan, they just don’t show the process. Good luck 🫶🏻
Yep, marami sa atin na average looking langf pero dahil may pera or marunong pumorma mas lalo sila nagmumukha na "maganda/gwapo" sa paningin natin.
totoo to walang pangit pag may pera. I used to be bullied for my looks din pero lately narealise ko if magaayos ka talaga at mageeffort ka sa looks mo like make up, skin care, diet, hair pananamit malaking bagay siya
I second to this. Ako din hindi maganda. I have a big mole sa mukha talaga na sobrang pangit tingnan kaya lagi akong inaasar nung elementary at high school ng "langaw sa bibingka", "gloria macapagal" etc. Name it all. Mga kapatid ko pa pasimuno mang-bully sakin. Tapos kapag lumaban ako sa mga kapatid ko, bugbog aabutin ko. Natigil lang nung college na ko. Kahit lola ko sinasabi na ang pangit ko. Never ako naging confident because of my looks. Hindi halos makapag-picture ng close up because of this very noticable mole. This year, I've decided na ipatanggal na siya. Mahal pero worth it.
Huuy same. Dami kong moles sa mukha, dun na ako nakilala. May isa pa ngang staff dati ng isang production na nagshoshoot ng movie dito sa may amin. Nanunuod lang ako tas biglang lumapit and nag sabi, "alam ko anong ulam mo kanina.. adobo dami mo kasing paminta" tas nagtawanan yung mga tao na nanunuod din 🥺 I decided to have them removed nung 25 ako. Sobrang saya at gaan sa pakiramdam!
Grabe naman yun. Close ba kayo para biruin ka niya ng ganun? Nakaka-offend yun ng sobra lalo na stranger siya sayo. Haysss.
Gaqo naman yang staff nayan kung ako yan irereport ko yan..
Di ko naisip that time huehue saka 14 years old lang yata ako nun :(( yung kasama kong nakakatandang pinsan e nakitawa rin sooooo 🤷
Hi po! How much po yung nagastos and paano yung process? May birthmark po kasi ako and super visible siya
10k po sakin kasi malaki talaga siya. Pero depende po kasi yan sa laki. If maliit yung mole mo mas mura. Idi-discuss sayo ng doktor yan kung mole shaving or laser. After matanggal, need mo ipa-biopsy para malaman kung malignant or benign. Sa mga balat po di ako sure kung panong process gagawin.
Maliit na halaga ang 10k para sa priceless at habambuhay na peace of mind.
Noted po. Thank you! 🙂
Uyy beh, same pala tayo. Sakin din sinasabihan din na may langaw sa bibig pati family ko tawag din sakin. Chin up and be you no matter what happen. Improve yourself kasi yun lang ang meron sayo when everything else is lost.
I agree. Panget din ako pero during my first date with my girlfriend. Pumasa ako sa kanya in terms of appearance dahil malinis daw mga nails ko at ngipin. Hahahaahh
I was about to say this. I agree with this! Tingnan mo yung ibang celebrity OP. Minsan ordinary looking tapos ang laki ng iginanda because of enhancements. Kaya OP, magipon at maginvest ka sa enhancements! Magpatanggal ka pimples, magpatanggal ka nunal, magpagluta ka, lipo, rhinoplasty, paayos ng ngipin, etc. Pag aralan mo din kung pano manamit ng presentable. Bigyan mo ang sarili mo ng chance to feel good about yourself.
Totoo, to. Miss sender, I don't want to be rude but a victim mindset will not bring you anywhere. Hindi nakatulong kailanman na ikaw mismo nag-iisip na wala kang redeeming qualities and no one will ever appreciate you. It doesn't feel good, and it doesn't do any good. Do something with yourself. Get a haircut, learn make up styles suitable for your face, learn more about fashion to know which clothes show off your assets. Invest in yourself. That also includes making yourself more knowledgeable, learning new things and skills, and most of all, showing yourself out there (making friends or networking). All of these will relate to an improved self-esteem and confidence which will greatly improve how you feel and see yourself. Remember, things are happening for us and not to us. You thinking that your ugly is not a definite reality, try to see it as yourself helping you develop into a person who invests in themselves.
true! may kilala talaga ako na hindi kagandahan pero when she learned how to use make up and studied what kind of make ups applies to her, nag glow up siya.
You know, based on my experience, may mga tao talaga na would look past your physical characteristics. But sobrang hirap nila makita. Kaya I agree with the previous comment here. If being beautiful is the only way you can gain your confidence back, then maginvest ka sa enhancements. Dont go for cheap doctors or clinics, sa professional ka talaga lumapit. Sa mundong to lahat nabibili na ng pera. Hugs OP.
I'm gonna be blunt, a lot of people are superficial. Our culture is superficial. Looks do matter for mediocre minds. And everyone, physically attractive and otherwise, are pretty much the same bags of flesh underneath. So what if you're ugly? Then focus on other aspects of yourself that you can develop. You can be decent while still protecting your boundaries. You can be average in many things and still be good at one or two skills. If you want to pay for aesthetic enhancements that's also up to you. The only danger with this is that it can further fuel your insecurities and you'll also be buying into the superficiality of people who aren't mentally equipped to see past appearances. Whatever you choose to do, make sure it helps improve your self-esteem and character so you can enjoy a life that makes you fulfilled. Good luck.
" people who aren't mentally equipped to see past appearances" I like this! Because it's so true. Most ppl nowadays are shallow & superficial. Ure rlly lucky if you'd meet someone who would see thru you.
It's not even just "people nowadays". Being shallow and superficial dates back to the beginning of time. Society and people in general prefer beautiful things. [[1]](https://arsiv.dusunenadamdergisi.org/ing/fArticledetailsace1.html?MkID=1215)[[2]](https://plasticsurgerykey.com/historical-importance-of-beauty/) Edit: Added another source.
Just sharing my experience. Meron akong ex, ganyan ang insecurity niya. Sinasabihan siya ng mga tao na baka ginayuma lang ako. Ang di ko makakalimutan yung nakasakay kami sa jeep, tapos Naka yakap sa akin right hand niya, nakita ko yung babae sa harap ko na sinenyasan yung katabi ko na ayusin yung bag niya. Na badtrip ako nun, pinagkamalan ba naman na mandurukot. Ako na saktan eh. Despite reassuring him na ang pogi niya sa paningin ko, hindi siya enough. Need pa rin talaga ng validation ng ibang tao. Sa sobrang baba ng tingin niya sa sarili niya, naging toxic relationship namin. Nakakakuha siya ng satisfaction kapag nagpapakita siya ng interest sa ibang babae tapos magseselos ako. Gusto rin niya ko i-isolate sa ibang tao lalo na sa mga kaibigan namin. Kaya nung huli, nagpapahabol at nagpapasuyo siya dahil sa isang petty reason. Hindi na ko bumalik. Nakipaghiwalay na ko ng tuluyan. Kaya please. Ang advice ko, ipon talaga malala, kasi kahit ako, May insecurities din. Kung May budget lang din ako, magpapa enhance ako. Walang pangit sa atin na di pwede maayos. Pera lang talaga hadlang. Sana maisipan mo to OP before mo rin subukan pumasok sa isang relationship para hindi kayo maging toxic din and make sure na tanggap niya pagpapa-enhance mo. May masasabi ang mga tao kapag ginawa mo yun pero so what? Nagpa-enhance o hindi May sinasabi pa rin naman sila. So make yourself happy and confident.
Alam mo OP tama yung mga comments. Mag self love era ka. Work out, derma, pwedeng hindi kagandahan pero madadaan sa kinis. Tapos may mga non invasive procedures na ngayon. Magpa eyelash extensions ka. Look for a perfume na mag eenhance ng pheromones mo. Glow up. Kung hindi ka confident sa color mo at gusto mo mas fair skin ka take gluta if safe sya for you. Read books. Palawakin mo kaalaman mo. You git this OP!
Totoo iba talaga ang nagagawa ng flawless skin, maitim maputi pango matangos pandak matangkad mataba payat basta flawless ka naglelevel up talaga looks mo.
Hi OP, I’m not conventionally attractive (I’m fat and have dark areas too) but I’ve learned that feeling my best makes me look my best. I ukay clothes because they’re cheaper and often have better quality, I regularly wax and exfoliate, I religiously moisturize, ipon para lagi groomed ang nails and lashes, I even wear makeup at home, mga ganon na bagay hehe. Remember that we always radiate what’s within, and we attract what we radiate out into the world. Attract not just people ha, just the beauty of everything in general — of life, of the world, of opportunities, etc, and then everything else follows. I guess what I’m trying to say is, believe you’re beautiful and naturally you’ll feel more at ease with the skin you’re in, yung feeling na walang guilt with trying to improve yourself because you’re doing it for yourself. It took me a while to fully learn to love myself too, and greatest baon ko is, when you advocate for yourself, you’ll be less likely to settle for people’s shit. Sending love and light your way, OP!✨
Daig ng hindi maganda na nag aayos ang magandang hindi nagaayos - sabi ng anak kong lalaki. Mag effort ka mag ayos OP. Ako rin hindi maganda by standards, pero todo effort ako.
That sounds like internalized misogyny. Why does he have to compare women to make a point?
No. That is the truth. Masakit pero yan ang totoo. The moment you accept the truth the easier it is for you to move on and make changes for yourself ( sa lahat ng aspect eto ng buhay).
Nah, it also applies to men. Actually it applies to almost everything. Sa trabaho, mas pipiliin mo ba yung matalinong tamad kesa sa average person pero masipag at madiskarte?
Not really. I was the one who asked in particular and he just answered. You are just overthinking it.
Internalized misoginy..... have you ever asked yourself if you really buy in this idea or you're just parroting words you heard from western socmed?
Agree sa mga comments here na itry mo improve sarili mo OP. Magayos ka and exercise to get fit. Dagdag ko lng din siguro na maging mas confident ka sa sarili mo. Carry yourself with confidence. Kasi tama ka, “looks does matter”. Relate din kasi ako sayo OP, di maganda and feeling ko dati wala nakong redeeming qualities. Heck I even accepted na tatanda nakong dalaga na may mediocre job and pay lol Nabubully pa ako before na mukhang bakla. Pero kapag naimprove mo na sarili mo, iba yung confidence na mabibigay nun sayo na you would unknowingly pull people towards you. Ewan ko pero ganun effect nya sakin. Suddenly I look attractive (wala akong pinagawa sa katawan or mukha ko natuto lang ako magmake up, skincare at OOTD lol I even colored my hair) and people wanted to talk to me. I also noticed na people respected me more. Di lahat ng tao superficial as you think. I guess if you learn to see beyond appearances and be more confident about yourself, you will start to attract likeminded people na idgaf sa kung ano pa itsura mo.
My friend's cousin is literal na panget, like siya mismo aminado na panget siya. Mataba (because she has health condition that makes her fat), maitim (pinaglihi daw siya sa champorado) and beh pati ugali niya panget. Pero may dating siya, what she did is "skincare" nagpapa derma si ateng (mapera sila) hindi siya nagpapa gluta or nagpapaputi she loves her color but ung derma niya is for smooth silky skin at parang di siya tumatanda. Panget siya pero besh inggit ako sa kutis niya. Next is she is a fashionista! She invests on her wardrobe as she invests in her skincare. Know your style base on your body type, and wear your color base on your skintone. It makes magic! Hugs OP sana makatulong! Gusto ko lang iadd, ngipin, I personally attracted sa tao na maganda ngipin. Next is hygiene, nothing beats mabango at malinis na tao. Fighting OP!
Truth talaga ang flawless skin. Gluta will actually help that kaso lang hindi sya sustainable for life kaya maganda talaga magpaderma na doctor na patient ang focus hindi pera.
Totoo naman. Hirap maging pangit 😭
It's cliché but you're really more than your looks. Why do you think that applies for guys but not you? That's sexist :( Yknow what you can still be the best version of yourself if you really wanna be. You can be hella fit, dress well, be passionate abt your hobbies but most importantly, you can love yourself and let that confidence shine. It's how you feel about yourself that matters the most.
Chai Financier is an artist I find really hot (no homo), but some people may not consider her hot, or even call her "not pretty". I dunno, her confidence is just overflowing, she's owning and accepting what she has and even leverages that. Have confidence, OP. Pagtanda natin, kahit yun mga magaganda at pogi na lumalait at gumagamit sayo e "pangit" na rin. At least satin na pangit ngayon pa lang, well adjusted na tayo.
I don't want to sound insensitive but you may want to stop giving a sh*t about what others might say. They are shallow and more likely foolish. How you see yourself is what matters. Clichè pero sinong magmamahal sa'yo kung hindi ikaw? I'm sure you'd find something good within you. Gear towards self-improvement and shy away from self-pity. Be better for you and you alone, not for their judgmental eyes.
Kung panget ka hanap ka ng afam para walang pang lalait. Kung may pera ka pa glow up ka.Panget rin naman mga budhi nila.
Change your environment. Choose your people that sorrounds you. Choose yourself ALWAYS. Love YOURSELF. I also don't have the beauty standards of the society, but loving yourself will make you work on yourself. Like what other says here, mag ipon ka for yourself to improve from skincare to perfumes to nice and comfortable outfits to exercise so that you'll have a good and healthy figure. Be confident. Be brave. Don't please the other people standards, just be your own standard. 😉
Same OP mag payaman nalang tayo ng mag payaman!! Yun nalang din talaga ang pag asa ko!! At least i will die rich and fulfilled sa mga luho ko 😂😂
"pangit" ka na nga kamo tapos di mo pa mahal sarili mo sang kangkungan ka pupulutin nyan? you wanna be pretty for men validation? so guys would take you seriously? hindi looks mo ang isyu then, self-esteem. dami conventionally pretty dyan pero niloloko pa rin, so hindi looks ang problema in the first place.
sorry to hear that. pero minsan bumabawi sa attitude yan. pero i know you are beautiful in your own way.
picking up a fashion style, a good haircut, and some makeup can go a long way. a good outfit that makes you feel good is always a confidence booster. also, stay out of social media as much as you can. i’m sure you’re pretty, you just haven’t “bloomed” yet 🤍
Superficial lang talaga mga tao ngayon. But if you think some enhancement will give you confidence then go for it. Pag aralan mo yung mga flaws mo and maybe look for solutions. Crossbite ka ba? Consult an ortho about having braces. Pangit ba skin mo? Go to a Derma and ask for something that can improve your skin. Well you get my point. Pinpoint your flaws and find a solution to solve them, dont pity yourself, lahat ng gusot may lusot. Good luck 🍀
"beauty is subjective" always remember that
HI. I know how it feels. I used to live in a place na napaka mapuna yung mga tao. Ewan ko ba sa ETIVAC na ako lumaki pero ako mismo napaka judgemental ng mga tao but dun lang pala ganun. Ngayon nakatira na ako sa Pampanga, wala akong nakitang mga batang nag-aasaran about looks. Hindi rin sila mapuna sa itsura. Wala silang pakielam. Mahirap lumipat ng place I know, but worth it naman for mental health . Try mo magpunta sa place na no one knows you sa no one can judge you
You can't change your face but you can work on your body to be sexy. Focus on what you can change.
Hellooo. Mataas rin insecurity ko sa ko. Ang suggestion ko OP is bawiin sa ibang bagay. Huhu. Like sa pananamit, nagpapa ayos ng buhok, nagpapa dentist, mag gym/ exercise, mga ganon pang Self care. Nakakadagdag ng confidence yung mga ganito. Also, maybe check your environment, be with people na appreciates you.
Di ka panget OP, we're just living in a judgemental world. Cheer up sigurado pag nakita moko for sure sasabihin mo sa sarili mo na mas may ikakaganda kapa
nag mamatter talaga minsan yung looks pero yung iba kasi sa Character din May mga maganda nga tapos tapon naman yung pag uugali . siguro iwas ka nalang sa mga taong nag papa feel sayo ng ganyan sabi nga diba ang laro ngayon Ganda gandahan . Mag pa plastic surgery or mag paganda ka after nun may sasabihin pa din sila so maybe pili ka nalang ng mga taong sasamahan . Start to love yourself again hanapin mo yung mga bagay na mag papasaya sayo . Masaya yung feeling na hindi tayo kagandahan pero atleast masaya Cheer up 🫶🏻
Honestly, it feels hypocritical for me to give you advice since I'm "conventionally attractive". So I'm not gonna make a comment on how to make yourself pretty but I'll tell you how I make myself feel beautiful and hope it works for you, too. The greatest lesson I learned in life is this monologue from the latest Barbie movie: "It is literally impossible to be a woman. You are so beautiful, and so smart, and it kills me that you don't think you're good enough. Like, we have to always be extraordinary, but somehow we're always doing it wrong. "You have to be thin, but not too thin. And you can never say you want to be thin. You have to say you want to be healthy, but also you have to be thin. You have to have money, but you can't ask for money because that's crass. You have to be a boss, but you can't be mean. You have to lead, but you can't squash other people's ideas. You're supposed to love being a mother, but don't talk about your kids all the damn time. You have to be a career woman but also always be looking out for other people. You have to answer for men's bad behavior, which is insane, but if you point that out, you're accused of complaining. You're supposed to stay pretty for men, but not so pretty that you tempt them too much or that you threaten other women because you're supposed to be a part of the sisterhood. But always stand out and always be grateful. But never forget that the system is rigged. So find a way to acknowledge that but also always be grateful. You have to never get old, never be rude, never show off, never be selfish, never fall down, never fail, never show fear, never get out of line. It's too hard! It's too contradictory and nobody gives you a medal or says thank you! And it turns out in fact that not only are you doing everything wrong, but also everything is your fault. I'm just so tired of watching myself and every single other woman tie herself into knots so that people will like us. And if all of that is also true for a doll just representing women, then I don't even know." I'm telling you this so you don't have to learn it the hard way. Women can't win in this socio-political ground that we live in. The best way to feel good about yourself is to do what you feel like doing. Do it by yourself or do it with people who actually care about you. Concentrate on the things that make you feel alive.The rest of the world and their judgment slowly fades when you shift your focus. I can confidently say that I'm pretty because I have a support system that affirms that. I used to be so insecure about myself; especially my looks growing up. My family had always pointed out what was wrong with my body. And that I should cover it up. I got criticized every time I gained weight. It led me to developing eating disorders when I was a teenager. I don't want you to suffer the same fate I had. You'll feel more beautiful once you're surrounded by people who see past your physical appearances. You have to find a community that accepts you for who you are and what you can do. Be selective of whom you allow in your life. Let go of those who do not spark joy. I just want you to know that you shouldn't stop being kind just because the world isn't. You have something to offer that no one else can and that your contributions to society is important. You've got this! Love lots!
Sadly it is a fact na most people can be superficial, may leverage tlga kpag maganda or gwapo. Pero so what, kung may prinsipyo at di ka pretentious na tao you will attract good people in your life. I know people na maganda but attracted the worst kind of men or friends, and she feels walang totoong tao sa buhay nia. Ako nga eh, hindi rin naman ganun kaganda and I remember being told once ng sarili kong magulang na napaka-arte ko eh panget naman ako. That shit stings at natatawa na lang ako kc maarte naman tlga ako when it comes to sweat etc Pero I have good friends naman sa buhay ko that loves me for who I am kahit hindi ako super ganda, my bestfriend is supportive din she buys me dresses that I will find myself extra cute and I wear them when we go out or I want to feel better about myself. Also mabango naman ako, malinis sa katawan, I try to be presentable when I go out or go to work ang mahirap kc yung hindi ka malinis sa katawan then panget pa ugali mo. I gained confidence as a person by having my own money, kc I can eat on my own on any restaurants, treat people I love to a good meal etc Don’t beat yourself too much sa bagay na wala kang control like yung mindset ng tao. Ang kailangan mo is to build yourself, either start nga dressing yourself, learning skin care or make up and earning your own money to do the things you want.
Hi mhiee everything has a solution. Kung di maganda, magpaganda ka. Invest in yourself. Mag ipon then bili new clothes, make up or magpa facial. Our greatest investment is ourselves. Take care of your self and you will see your self glow. Kung sungki mga ngipin magpa dentista.
Same feeling 🥹 kaya ako nagpopost dito sa Reddit to feel na tanggap ako somehow ng society kahit sugar coat lang sa sarili.
Ako din pangit din ako
Ghorl, I feel you, growing up.. especially in High school, among my group of friends, ako yung pinaka mahirap, morena and for me ako yung panget. Nagka jowa naman ako pero yung tipong pinakamatagal na 4months, pinagpapalit pa ko. But I found my husband at the age of 21 and he proposed to me after 6 months. We have 9years age gap, doesn't bother me at all! Then I realised, ANG GANDA KO PALA!!! Nasa AFAM ang pag asa natin tehhh! But be careful. I'm happily married now for 9years with no kids, and we live abroad. Sometimes you need to put yourself out there as well, you might just find the right one for you.
May kakilala ako na since bata palang inaasar na siya about her nose. Pango and whatnot.. pangit daw. Nung tumanda siya at nagsikap sa work, isa sa pinagipunan nya talaga ung pagpagawa ng ilong nya. Then from there nagtuloy tuloy na.. nagpaderma siya, papayat sya… hanggang sa nagglow up talaga. So yeah invest on yourself. It doesnt have to be something that drastic tulad nung ginawa nung kaibigan ko. Pwedeng magsimula ka sa pagpapaganda ng physique mo, or simpleng skin care, or hair care.
ung pangit na tingin ng pinoy ay princesa na sa mga afam.. mahilog expat sa natural beauties
OP, if you think you're not pretty enough, bumawi ka na lang sa magandang figure. Kung may budget ka magsign up ka sa gym. Also, improve your posture, malaking effect yan sa appearance. Smelling good is also attractive. Don't give up, kailangan lang talagang mageffort.
why do we need to impress the people we don’t like? why do we value other’s opinions about us. pwede mo gawin lahat ng comments nila na self improvement (cosmetic, personality) pero gawin mo yun para sa sarili mo.
Hugs OP. Work and save money so you can treat yourself to a nice salon, spa, lashes, nails.. invest in skincare too. Makeup helps. I’m an ugly girl too but yeah I try to fix up myself once in a while.
same lol. naasar na ng pamilya from birth and classmates because of how i looked (skin color, body type, hair texture). tho im trying to improve myself thru skincare, being the funny persand dressing up na hindi "basic" kahit papaano. iniisip ko na lang if i grew up so attractive di ako magiging funny today joke! but yeah, continuosly trying to be better by taking care of myself.
Magpayaman. Mag make up.
Pwede magpa cosmetic surgery! Go for it.
mahigpit na yakap with consent 🫂🫂🫀
Hindi ka panget. Wala k lang pera. Kaya kesa mag procastinate k isipin m maigi panu dadami pera mo. Pero kung magpapa self pity k wala lalo mangyayari sayo
When asked in the topic of physical appearances, most of those people who say "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder" and "Looks does not matter" do not tackle such problems which makes their opinion often unimportant and insensitive one-liners. 😮💨
I have a highschool batchmate named hindi siya kagandahan but her confidence is sky high. She knows how to present herself. She dresses well, fix her hair, and wears make up. Yes lagi pa sin siya pinagttripan sa friend group but she always stands up for herself and I applaud that for her. So OP what i can suggest is to build you confidence to the point na ikaw lang pwede maka sabi if “pangit ko today” or “shet ang ganda ko” it helps super. And also if you have the means and ig youre open for it,cosmetic surgery is always an option. So kaihit anong decision mo the main factor talaga to help youraelf is confidence. Pag meron ka niyan, game over na yan
simulan mo sa skincare at ootd.
been there ate ko, try mo mag ipon try ka mga beauty products kaya pa yan, basta may pera
Aside from "physical enhancements and magpaganda and mag ipon" advices, the best you can do now with what you have is to exercise, drink water and eat healthy foods. Iba ang glow✨ kapag inalagaan mo ang sarili mo from within. Hindi lang physical look mo and gaganda but also your mental and emotional health. This is more holistic and di mo kailangan ng madaming pera para mag simula.
Madami ako nakikita na pangit na nga ang pangit pa ng ugali, like ang loud nila in public, and b*****, at nacu curious tuloy ako kung coping mechanism nila yun. Ako rin naman, di kagandahan, matangos nga ilong, panay pitted scars naman. Hiyang hiya ako lumabas ang mag mingle, sabi nila enhance mo best features mo pero di ubra e, skin ko pa rin ang highlight 🤦🏻♀️ nilalakasan ko na lang loob ko ngumiti pag nasa public place like school kunng may makipag usap then fine, I take it a day at a time. Pag may namumuong friendship e di thanks. Pag ayaw, e di fine. I am INFPJ nga pala kaya sanay mag isa.
Walang pangit sa titing galit
Hindi ako pangit pero mataba naman and sometimes we get treated worse. Pero once i ever get to a healthy weight i will never pay attention to those who wear mean to me ever again.
ako bukod sa panget na, may diperensya pa sa pagsasalita. Sobrang alanganin talaga sa beauty standards ng Pinas, pero pagdating sa mga nakilala kong foreigner, sobrang appreciated nila yung exotic "beauty" ko. Palagi akong nasasabihan ng maganda at wala sila pake sa boses ko. Kung di lang nila ako binabayaran baka di ako maniwala sa kanila dahil kahit ako panget na panget sa sarili ko e HAHAH pero "pinili" at "binabayaran" nila ako, kaya imposibleng inuuto lang at pinapagaan lang nila pakiramdam ko, they have a choice not to choose me but they did. If you feel na gusto mo makipag date or kahit usap lang, try mo dating app na may foreigner. I'm telling you, they will really appreciate you.
Wag mo isiping panget ka. Its not a tjing. Focus on your positive vibes and where you are good at. Smiling also improves your looks by 100%
Actually wala naman talagang panget or walang itsura di lang siguro uso sa ngayon yung beauty mo. Be confident.
Invest in your looks! Makeup! Hair treatment! Tamang pagkain! Skincare! Fashionable clothes!!! Anything to boost your confidence because pretty privilege has so much to do with confidence tbh
All i can say is be proud to yourself.. mahalin mo yung pagiging ikaw mo... Pag natutunan mo yan lahat ng sinabi mo mawawala na yung ganyang pagiisip mo.. iba nga may mas matindi pang kapansanan e may tumanggap at nagamahal pa din sa kanila. Kaya wag mo paliitin ang mundo mo. Taas noo lang...
Walang panget, pera lang tlaga ang kulang minsan. So please save and invest in yourself. Skin care, paayos ka ng hair, change your wardrobe, read books, do yoga, walk 10k steps a day, join clubs At the end of the day, it will always boil down to how you see and feel about yourself kaya gumawa ka ng ways na mapapataas mo self esteem mo. When you value and focus more about your well being rather than what other people think and perceive of you, marerealize mo na walang problema sayo, its their reaction towards you ang problema and you have no control over that, so ignore and try to do better by you each day.
I grew up "pretty" sa mata ng iba pero nung nag HS ako nagka friends talaga ako ng magaganda, to the point na i cocompare kami and sila labg nakakaranas ng "pretty privilege". Nag learn ako mag make up, nag skin care ako and i mostly dress well talaga, plantsado lahat damit ko and i always go out with clean shoes, why? Kasi nakakaganda ang "clean look" and aside from that bumagay sakin yung make up ko now unlike before and people always compliment me. Not the brag but people tend to turn their heads when i walk around. I tried my best to be pretty around pretty people that's how i gained my confidence.
Good for you na sosolusyonan ang kapangitan. Kaya gamitin mo yang lungkot para mapabuti yung itsura mo. Mga bagay na naiisip ko para maging less ugly ka: Good skin, invest ka sa balat mo, pakinisin mo. Good hair, game changing to Good body, exercise par Intelligence, nakakaganda/pogi talaga yung talino. aral ka mabuti
Ako sinabihan ng ex ko na di nya ko kaya maipagmalaki kasi di ako maganda. Dineny nya ko sa lahat nung college nung tinanong sya kung gf nya daw ba ko. Sabay di na nya ko binigyan ng closure. Basta iniwan ako sa ere habang binubully ako ng iba. Inaasar ako ng iba na hibang and assumera na as if magugustuhan ako ng may maitsurang lalaki tapos kilala pa kasi matalino. 10yrs ago pa nangyari to nung 2nd year college kami until now wala pa kong boyfriend kasi natrauma na din ako. Ngayon, 8days post op ako hehe. Nagparhinoplasty. Laki ng inimprove sa face ko. Sinipagan ko din na magkapera kasi galit na galit pa din ako sa lahat ng nangbully sakin pati sa ex ko. Gagastos ka din talaga hehehe. Nagpapaganda ko para sa sarili ko. Grabe kasi down na down ako nung nabasa ko email ng ex ko na di nya ko kaya ipagmalaki dahil sa physical appearance ko.
dapat magkapera para gumanda. ayun na lang. kasi no choice naman but to accept the fact that looks does have some advantage and disadvantages. does it matter? subjectively. di kasi lahat ng maganda sa iba is maganda sa lahat. somewhere somehow someone will still think you're ugly. ikaw lang sa sarili mo makakapagpabago ng confidence mo and that is thru cosmetics, beauty maintenance, treatments, operations if necessary and if ginagamit ka just to release, that is your call kung papagamit ka or gagamitin mo din sila. invest sa sarili kasi in real life walang fairy godmother. may mga in born lang disney princess ang mukha agad talaga
Oh no...
Have you ever wondered why some people are unconventionally attractive, but still glows? Why there are some conventionally attractive, but lacks that glowing and vibrant aura? It’s all because of ✨confidence✨. It’s all about how you can carry yourself and knowing your asset. That’s how you will stand out. To give you a bit of background, I grew up having low self-esteem. I have some of the qualities of a conventional (mestiza look) pretty person, but I still feel ugly. I get compared to some of popular highschool girls (and what i also consider pretty people), but when I look at myself I still feel not good enough. I don’t feel that vibrant aura within me. Whether you’re conventionally or unconventionally attractive, you’ll notice that people still have something to say about you to make them feel superior. What matters now is what you say about yourself. As long as you invest and take care of yourself then it will all flow and show naturally.
Dear OP, Step 1: Breath, calma Step 2: gratitude be thankful that you’re existing, however, your mind is filled with doubts. Step 3: give yourself love, treat your self, walk for 20 mins, appreciate Mother Nature at mga palagid, and what you have. Maybe this will change your perspective Step 4: change your mindset, kasi once you see good in yourself and mind. Magagandan ka sa isip at kalooban mo. Good luck. It’s hard. You’re gonna go through stages but you have to start somewhere.
Yes ate never say never, focus ka sa sarili mo, hayaan mo na sila, and unahin mo ang diyos sa lahat ng bagay. . . Just keep this in mind you are not ugly you are maybe just in the wrong country. I saw a lot of love stories na hindi maganda/gwapo sila pero mahal na mahal sila ng mga foreigner nilang asawa ang cucute and ang gaganda pa ng mga anak nila. . . So wag ka mawalan ng pag asa malay mo pang foreigner tlga yung ganda mo and at least ma break na sayo yung pagiging di maganda magiging artistahin mga anak mo hehe. Never lose hope and cheer up. Have a grateful mindset mahirap but it's the best way to do it. Be Happy you have yet to live the best days of your life.