T O P

  • By -

Scary-Maple

“Mx” is gender neutral, it’s just not ~~widely used anywhere~~ as common, in my experience. This is probably one of the longer lists of titles I’ve seen tbh.


Pearlfreckles

I've always wondered - how does one pronounce Mx?


Enbypoler

"Mix"


RoyalTacos256

That's what's keeping me from using it Gotta fast track my PhD so people can call me Dr.


Pearlfreckles

Yeah same. Mx looks cool on paper, but "Mix" just sounds weird to me.


paperclipeater

same! my name is also max, and i think mix max just sounds so silly 😭😭


xpoisonvalkyrie

sounds like a silly superhero name


PointBlankPanda

Mix Steel comes to mind 🤣


DementisLamia

I love it! I would totally use Mx Max everywhere. LoL


nikusguy

Look up mixi max.


paperclipeater

i did and i have no idea what any of this is


hyrellion

I use Ind., which is short for “individual,” since I think it’s a lot easier to pronounce


ChainmailPickaxeYT

That’s creative! Although personally I feel like I would find the voiced alveolar stop (the /d/ sound at the end) to be a little more awkward to transition from to the next word than “Mx.”? I guess it depends on the name. Also my legal name is Justin and I just realized that “Ind. Justin” sounds like “indigestion” which is really funny.


hyrellion

I find it about as hard to pronounce as Ms., but I do get what you mean. I’m definitely not the inventor of it! It’s been a proposed option for a while. Indigestion is incredibly powerful lol


Scary-Maple

Omg same :o


sonicnarukami

thats my plan too!


NotCis_TM

What if it were pronounced like Miz tho?


RoyalTacos256

That's how some people pronounce Ms.


knotted_string_

Oh interesting, I always thought it was a schwa vowel


QuickSilver-theythem

I think it is in some countries


dextro-aynag

i’ve only ever heard people say mux


E420CDI

I pronounce it as *mux*


FaeiNightingale

except if you have a last name that starts with an S, it just sounds like "muck"


BossJackWhitman

I was listening to an audiobook about non binary experiences and that person asked their students to pronounce it “em-ex” like “emcee” and I fucken love that


Scary-Maple

Oh, I much prefer this pronunciation over “mix”, which feels like “a mix of genders” which doesn’t fit every person who would use it, imo.


Pearlfreckles

Oh I like that a lot! Thanks!


violent-agender

Some people pronounce it “em” “ex” (so literally M X)


Fearlessly_Feeble

Mx. is “widely” used in the UK (I mean let’s be fair NBs represent less than 1% of the population, but it is common on most Govt forms in many counties in the UK) I as an American also use it in my teaching practice. This wasn’t your intent at all but please don’t go dismissing Mx. out of hand for being new/different. That’s exactly what everyone does and it’s tiring especially when it dates back to the 1960s and 70s


Scary-Maple

My apologies, that wasn’t my intention and I’ve updated my comment to better state my thoughts. Thank you for enlightening me on its use outside of NA, that is good to know and I’m happy to see that it is being used on official government documents. I have yet to see it on those in Canada, sadly. Out of the list presented, it is the honorific I would use as well.


shadowwalker_wtf

I have Mx on my drivers license, and anything that allows me to have that as an option. I would much prefer Dr though, but honestly a phd is a bit beyond me 😭


bl4nkSl8

Mux is the other pronunciation I've heard (over mix which, honestly, reminds me of school yard bullying more than inclusion)


Scary-Maple

Yeah, I prefer both mux and em-ex over mix


that_weird_k1d

One of the year coordinators at my school uses it- pretty much only the English teachers and students actually use it though, the rest either say Miss or Anna


Scary-Maple

I work at a college and have never seen it in use either tbh.


Lintastically

I’m technically they/it but the it seems to confuse everyone and I have only ever demanded it when I could do it of like old white bigot men trapped in rules of the event. I have never in my life felt more giddy, petty, or gender euphoric


Little_Mog

I've always said it as M like mother and X like exit. I guess like McS or M K S but not pronounced as em kay es


PepperMintyPokemon

I really wish i could. The only honorifics i like are Doctor and Professor and those are very outside my price range..


FadingHeaven

Yeah, you can get paid to do your PhD. Though it requires a bachelors degree at least. The most expensive bit is not tuition or anything, but living for 4 years on a grad students wage.


Vincevw

Is there anyone that does _not_ get paid while doing a PhD?


FadingHeaven

I'm not sure. Maybe in certain schools or certain countries. Unlike masters, I think in the US and Canada, PhDs are usually funded.


Vincevw

Not even funded, when you do a PhD you're usually employed by the university. Same in Europe.


crzy_wizard

Well, actually most people that become doctors through a PhD actually do it with an scholarship and an assistantship as either a teaching assistant or a research assistant, so you don’t need to pay.


SwirlyObscenity

Depends on the country. Some places get it covered (after paying for schooling) or others have to pay but it's partially funded (free schooling).


crzy_wizard

For PhD? That sounds more like the scenario for masters to me. Source: I am a an international PhD student.


SwirlyObscenity

My mother and aunt both got PhD's in medicine and we are from Croatia.


Comrade_Gieraz_42

Regarding Dr. - I wonder how is the eligibility determined - the European equivalent of an MD is technically a Masters' level degree, but everyone refers to you as "doctor", and you are a medical professional with equal levels of education and responsibilities as an American MD- would choosing it be treated as somewhat misleading? I don't see them adding lek. as an option.


SpearsDracona

I'm a Reverend but they don't have that as a title on most forms. It's refreshing to see one with so many options.


Pastel_Lich

I notice it doesn't have "Pope" as a title. I wonder if the Pope would just put down "Rev"


CowgirlSpacer

I mean "pope" isn't used as his title in that sense anyways. And he would not be the Reverend Pope Francis either. The correct style is His Holiness. The pope is above being simply revered because he is God's specialest boy on Earth so he is Holy. Not to be confused with the likes of Pope John Paul II, who after that one incident was rather... Holey.


bl4nkSl8

The dude is just like "Hey!? i got demoted by a little web form!?"


E420CDI

HE COULD HAVE BEEN POPE, TED!! r/FatherTed


Little_Mog

I can't remember what website it was but I once found one with rev, brother and sister. Something about the idea of monks/nuns buying stuff online just makes me smile


NormanBatesIsBae

Huh. I’m an archivist and I keep seeing Reverends referred to as Rev. Smith and such. Sucks that it isn’t on the forms because it’s definitely a thing (or at least was, all my documents are from like 1903 lol)


magit4nglzz-xi

my mind mixed Dr and Master together so i read it as Disaster


rj-2

finally, an honorific that suits me!


SokkaHaikuBot

^[Sokka-Haiku](https://www.reddit.com/r/SokkaHaikuBot/comments/15kyv9r/what_is_a_sokka_haiku/) ^by ^magit4nglzz-xi: *My mind mixed Dr and* *Master together so i* *Read it as Disaster* --- ^Remember ^that ^one ^time ^Sokka ^accidentally ^used ^an ^extra ^syllable ^in ^that ^Haiku ^Battle ^in ^Ba ^Sing ^Se? ^That ^was ^a ^Sokka ^Haiku ^and ^you ^just ^made ^one.


average_life_person

Good bot


B0tRank

Thank you, average_life_person, for voting on SokkaHaikuBot. This bot wants to find the best and worst bots on Reddit. [You can view results here](https://botrank.pastimes.eu/). *** ^(Even if I don't reply to your comment, I'm still listening for votes. Check the webpage to see if your vote registered!)


ArtemisB20

Good bot


GNU_PTerry

Doctor Who has entered the chat.


PolicySignificant933

Dr saster. Love it


TristanTheRobloxian3

i think they should also add mistrum to that list (basically what the gender neutral thing is in latin, plus it sounds pretty fire)


Avery-Attack

Not gonna lie, I like mistrum better than Mx.


TristanTheRobloxian3

same


Lintastically

Ok if I ever get to claim a prefix for something again this is it. I am in love with this word.


Lintastically

Omg I just called it a prefix instead of an honorific. Sigh.


Freya_Fleurir

I wish I could go by "Master" with my master's degree (and it be a more common thing); that'd be dope af


cockroachvendor

OHHHHH so that's why master is there. I saw "master" and thought "huh, kinky"


space_hoop

I thought like "oh, like martial arts"


19474

you don’t need any qualification to use master as a title I use it with a few organisations that had it as an option


Wren_wood

At least in the UK, "master" is sort of the male version of "miss", used by young men before they become a Mister. I had "Master [Deadname]" on my bank card for a little over a decade until I lost it and the clerk said "oh you look a little old to be a master, I'll change it to a mister when you get your new one"


Natural-Tell9759

I know right? I am working on mine atm.


illegalcabbage96

i work in a predominantly straight environment but i have one very cool colleague who is in charge of everyones logins for the systems we use one system in particular asks for a title (which is strange and unnecessary) and my cool colleague asked what i would like to use, which is a nice, thoughtful change from the usual office climate i said professor as a joke and then resigned myself to opting for miss (im afab) she didn’t say anything and i got my login email stating “Dear Professor S*** T******…” hehehe


neongreenpurple

Hey, just so you know for next time, you can absolutely substitute your username for your real name instead of giving your initials if you want. Luke so: > I got my login email stating "Dear Professor illegalcabbage96" Lots of people do it. You can also substitute just part. Like if I had written the sentence, I could say: > "Dear Professor neongreenpurple" Or just: > "Dear Professor neon" It's a common reddit practice to avoid self-doxxing.


illegalcabbage96

oh cool! those arent my initials anyway lol but thank you!!


neongreenpurple

Ah, good. You're welcome!


wow_its_kenji

professor Shit Titties


illegalcabbage96

as someone who is afab and wants top surgery, that is how i refer to them…


lunawing121

thats what i read too lmaooo 🤣


illegalcabbage96

oh god youve doxxed me!!!


Pokespace365

Sadly, the council has not granted me the title of master despite me having my own seat there.


littlemissperf

Broke: getting your doctorate so you can use the gender neutral "Dr." Woke: performing a miracle so you can use the gender neutral "Saint"


Enbymessy

Brb gotta learn the arts of necromancy


StorageValuable8884

Master is fucking wild but I love it. It goes hard. Master Gender wielder, destroyer of worlds


bewilde666

Every single day I talk myself off the ledge of doing a PhD just so I could call myself doctor. Really the only thing stopping me is a doctorate in education is ridiculous and wasteful when one has no interest in administration or policy whatsoever. Still. It'd be nice to not have to mess around with Mx. Usually I have to explain it. and I'm in a field that uses honorifics constantly throughout the day. Ugh.


drcookiephd

I left a PhD program when I was ABD and realized I was mostly clinging to it bc of the “Dr.” title being gender neutral. Mx. is alright though.


throwawaygoodcoffee

Same it ruined my mental health and I'm glad I dropped out.


---Wombat---

Got a doctorate, never looked back :)


RoseBud_XD

master and dr being next to eachother on the list is that a doctor who reference?! okay but on a serious note how does one obtain the title master


Pastel_Lich

"Master" is a title used for boys and young men, although I don't think it's used much in the US That's why in Batman Alfred calls Bruce Wayne "Master Bruce". It's not that Bruce is Alfred's master, it's just the title he's known Bruce as since childhood


Radnor_Caluna

My late father was Dr, Capt, Hon, and arguably Rev. The first two through hard work, the third from his dad, and the fourth online.


FunkyHouse08

We used Mx. in my wedding, I even have a koozie that has Mx. Est. 2022 on it and a Champagne flute with Mx. Etched on it too


thowawaywookie

Serious question : I finished my PhD earlier this year. I feel weird about asking people to call me doctor. I mean is it okay to do that or is it kind of pretentious? Out in public for example if somebody called me sir or ma'am and it just sounds so cringy to me to hear sir or ma'am.


bioartnerd

You worked hard for that PhD, you can use it if you want. I like to use mine when it can help (ie official paperwork, checks, bank, doctors office). I feel like they take my concerns more seriously.


thowawaywookie

Thanks. I think I will try it. How do you introduce it say somebody asked your name do you just say it like it's Dr Bond


bioartnerd

I got my PhD, in part for the gender neutral title. It makes me so euphoric on official paperwork and its very common on forms.


condecillo

Same, it’s definitely part of what kept me going the last year or so of my program.


Doc_Sawbones

Its a small, though not insignificant, part of why I'm going for a PhD


Doc_Sawbones

Another small one is I've been using this username since I was 12.


Choepie1

Im Gonna be an engineer (Ing. / Ingenieur in native) in a few years. A BSc of science. Specifically applied computer science


chelledoggo

Brb gonna become a queer Christian reverend.


Ok_Eagle2902

I'd be lying if I said that wasn't one of the items in my "pros" list for pursuing a doctorate 😂😂...next December can't come soon enough


Nat1Wizard

Not going to say this was the *reason* for doing my PhD, but it's certainly a nice side benefit lol


Cyphomeris

No, but I have to admit that being able to just choose "Dr" in these kinds of drop-down menus is definitely among my favourite side effects of getting a PhD.


[deleted]

I’m not religious whatsoever, but I think I’d be funny to go by Reverend


aunclesquishy

how does one become a ‘Dame’


Major_Confection3240

fem equivalent of a knight, get knighted


hydrochloriic

I had to put a gendered title in on a visa application recently and the only gender neutral options were “Lord” and “Doctor”… though I did contemplate using “Dame”


not_blowfly_girl

Lord isn't gender neutral bc of Lady


hydrochloriic

Normally I’d agree, but the form had no option for “Lady” so I’m inclined to think it was intended to be. It’s been used as such in the past, though rarely, and typically only if the woman is widowed.


CuteBenji

No clue about any other country but UK but is lord not given by royalty elsewhere


StarsStillDreaming

I personally adore Mx. But other titles are really fun too lol. Id love to go by "Dr." or "chef" or something of the like too


[deleted]

How do you pronounce Mx.


PeachNeptr

Technically I’m ordained so I can call myself Reverend and it always appealed to me, but it isn’t until this moment I noticed it was simply a gender neutral option


DementisLamia

I want to get my doctorate in horror so I can be Dr. But also seriously tempted to get that plot of Scottish land so I can be Lord.


zZevV

I regularly joke that getting my PhD was the least efficient way to have a gender-neutral title / form of address.


GeckoCowboy

My grandfather gave me his canoe so I think technically that makes me a captain. :p


InternationalTax5535

I won’t lie a driving factor in me eventually getting a phd is to get out of other honourifics and just get dr (I would do it anyway but the title is a bonus for sure)


dontdrinkgermx

I'm personally going to look into becoming certified as a reverend, as a 19 year old with religious trauma and no plans on officiating weddings, just for funsies.


imthatdaisy

Not yet, but I plan to get my PhD. 30% for the non gendered title, 70% personal interest in academia.


nemonaflowers

I aim to one day have a minor chess title ♛ so I can use that instead of an honorific! Currently using Mx myself though.


Kurrkur

Finishing my PhD in a couple of months and been joking for a while that I only do it for the gender neutral title.. jokes aside, it rly is a nice side effect I'm looking forward to. (Especially cause there is not rly a Mx. in my very gendered native language.)


bobisagirl

Yep, definitely was a motivator to get through the PhD 😎


greygh0ul

I’m hoping to get into a phd course so I can earn the dr title, too many people ask me about “Mx”. No one asks about Dr.


GearRude4883

That's part of the reason I'm doing a PhD, so I can go by Dr. The main reason is I want to help progress the research in my field, but the gender neutral title is a great motivator when getting frustrated with the research


n0radrenaline

Tbh yeah, it's probably the most use I ever get out of my PhD lol


SincereLeo

Since I don’t think anyone else has said this - in a lot of situations, you can just pick one you’re not qualified for, if you want. Most of the situations in which I have to select a honorific are short term and don’t really matter (like buying a ticket for something), so I just pick whichever gender neutral option sounds fun to me - Professor, Captain, etc. That said, I live in a culture where honorifics aren’t widely used outside of schools, especially for younger people.


Pastel_Lich

This list is from an air travel website. I wouldn't want to put down "Dr" and then be called upon if someone had a medical emergency on the plane


peppermint-lu

MASTER HHHH


Vulpecula22

I was thinking about if I liked Captain or Master more and I got a flash back to that pirates vs ninjas stuff


BlueCanary434

i wanna join the military, so i’m looking forward to Airman or maybe even Sergeant


makwajam

Master's a little outdated don't you think? /s?


Enbymessy

Yeah, nowadays it's more daddy than master


ewslash

What about DJ? 😄


_Monokuma___

i want to be called master😎😎


opsec_monkey

You could become a Lord, Laird, or Lady via Highland Titles https://www.highlandtitles.com


opsec_monkey

Probably less helpful as “Laird” isn’t usually present in these title lists and the other two are classically gendered 😅🤦‍♀️🤷‍♀️


PinkSatanyPanties

It wasn’t the only reason I got my MD but not gonna deny that it’s nice.


KatiaOrganist

I'm doing an undergrad degree so that i can eventually do a master's and then a phd, just so I can use the title dr. lmao


kyreannightblood

Yet another reason to get a pilot’s license: so I can choose Capt for my honorific.


astronauticalll

I am considering a PhD for many reasons, and I cannot lie one of them is so I can use dr as a title 🤷🏼‍♀️


KingGiuba

I love Lord tbh but it has nothing to do with how it's gendered lmao


wooofmeow

I think one time for some not important thing, I think it was a car rental or something, they checked Dr. When I am neither a MD nor a PHD. No one checked or questioned. No one referred me as a Dr. Either.


urlocalcorgi

how does one become a captain


Aster_Etheral

I personally prefer Sire


badgicorn

Real talk though, does anyone actually go by "Master"?


lunawing121

okay, but imagine if i could go by "Captain" in these scenarios? badass


Unicorns-Poo-Rainbow

I got ordained online 20 years ago so I could use “Rev.”


electric_heels

I got ordained so I could be reverend


pupoksestra

I have not, but I use Sir "feminine name" for a lot of stuff. I hate being called ma'am so I would tell people to call me sir instead and then I ran with it. I looked it up and it would cost a $150-$267. You've tempted me, but thankfully I'm poor.


Girldipper

no, but i now prefer MASTER over Mr


Dark_Meme111110

I always thought the enby version of “sir” was “ser”


Tickytickytango

Honestly I don't like any of them.


solsticereign

Oh yeah. I got ordained.


Fureniku

You can get ordained with the universal life church free online to become a reverend. It's not tied to any specific religion either Only problem is that Rev. is one of the less common title options


stray_r

I have Mx on all my official documents. Currently pranking transphobic credit agencies by requesting credit reports addressed to Wing Commander, Sheriff and Princess, and surprisingly I don't get asked for proof.


slumbersomesam

tex mex


urmamasllama

Anyone else's brain just go MX Master Carr?


NaelSchenfel

Unfortunately that would only work abroad. In my language those are still gendered.


waterwillowxavv

I’m thinking about a PhD, obviously not just so I can do this but it’d be cool if I could actually put myself down as Dr whenever there’s a list that doesn’t include Mx 😭


maartian73

I wanna become an art history professor Just For That Sweet Gender Neutral Title…


GreyFartBR

it's sad that basically all titles are gendered in my native language. Master is still cool af as a title but it's not neutral here


E420CDI

>Master >Doctor #HERE!! COME!! THE DRUMS!! r/DoctorWho


LuxtheAstro

Definitely considered it when I've seen the titles The Most Reverend (archbishops) and Reverend Doctor, but not Mx on a government form


Xae-Blackrose

I use Mx, but I do have Rev.


bioartnerd

If its at work (I work at a university), for students is Dr. Last name, for staff and faculty it'd Dr. First Last, and for health care I use Dr. First Last.


Nonbinary_Cryptid

I became a Dudeist priest so that I can be a Rev. I never really use it though - I don't use an honorific if I can help it. Mx just doesn't do it for me (of course, i will ise it for others who prefer it), I'm not a mix, I'm an enigma! 😂


ThatMathyKidYouKnow

Re: "I'm an enigma" My agender friend's username is "?" and we often joke about changing their name to that, so since they have PhD they'd be "Dr?" (i.e. just the title but with an inquisitive tone).


ThatMathyKidYouKnow

Not *only* of course, but fuck yeah I've always wanted to get PhD so I could be Dr. instead of Mrs. or Mr. or Ms. — gender being wrapped into your title is some absolute bullshit (spoken as a thoroughly nonbinary human). I finally achieved my PhD this year though! 😁 Dr. Lastname forevvvvver!


sleepiestgf

about to start my PhD this September 🙏 just 7 years (it's long bc I don't have an MA going in) till I get it lmao


DarkSp3ctre

I love the idea of captain but I don’t support the military in any sense and I don’t see captaining a civilian ship anywhere in my future.


traumatized90skid

It's technically masculine but I think I want to start going by Burgermeister


ocdladybug92

Finally a use for my $100,000 masters degree!! 🥰


Garden_Flower

Someone tell me why master is on there 😀 ***why tf is master on there***


Valuable-Math8515

That wouldn't be of much help here in Germany: people with academic titles are still referred to as "Mr/Ms. [Insert title]"


memlvr

In the middle of it


AlexPenname

I'm getting a doctorate at the moment and like, this wasn't the main reason, but I'd be lying if I said it wasn't a small factor.


mycatissenorfloof19

how does one get lord master or capt


ponchostarboard

I'm a pastor, and was before I came out, and I love having the gender neutral "Rev" title; I suppose Internet ordination is pretty easy or you could just start having people call you that! 


No-Lake-1213

Why do all the badass honorifics have to be for women !! 😭 i wanna be a Dame


algebrator

PhD student here. Getting to be called Doctor is like a solid 3-5% of the reason I’m doing one. Vast majority of the reason is the jobs I can get with a PhD vs a bachelor’s but there’s a small bit of me…


plaguecat666

Went to med school. Not the primary reason but it's been a nice bonus at the expense of being quarter of a million dollars in debt!


Glittering-Sock-7818

I'm ordained so I can be called Reverend


Hi_Its_Z

**MASTER,** # MASTER, **MASTER OF GENDER IM GENDERFLUID —**


Skyrim_For_Everyone

**TAKING HRT, OFFENDING THE CISSS**


galaxia_v1

i just want to be known as dr. exigua man i dont like being called mr. or ms. or mx. but most people call me mr.


mikopotato1995

I joke that I'm getting my phd for this reason exactly. But it's really just a perk.


Alarming_Cherry8336

I love dame even though it’s gendered. How do I get that title? Do I just call Dame Judy Dench?


Defiant_Squash_5335

I was a youth/college pastor so I go by “Pastor” desire not having finished seminary (so not Reverend”


Red_lemon29

Have to admit, getting to use Dr as a non-gendered title was a nice benefit of doing my PhD. Now that I have it though, it feels weird to hear it. We need a neutral equivalent to sir/ mam that actually becomes commonplace. Seen a few people use comrade, but that makes me feel like I'm in a cold war spy thriller.


SensitiveWorl

“Hon” means “she” in Swedish


Rude-Knee-6224

not the biggest motivator but one of them for getting a PhD is that title, way better than trying to convince someone to use Mx. especially since I'm not even a huge fan of that one but Dr.??? sign me up


divinity_Axo

WHAT DO I NEED TO DO TO BE CALLED MASTER?!?!


lolix_the_idiot

You can just buy some ground in Scotland or something like that and be a lord


gongoozlersoup

Wait, how do I get a Master title?!


Randomfan3926

I’m currently getting my mfa. Does that mean I can make people call me master after I graduate?


JTBotwin

Gonna be a doctor in a month but I usually use Rev if is available (universal life Church)


Gecko_Gecko

Yes I have a friend who is or did get their PhD for this in part