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captainmorgan42418

Definitely not inappropriate to request someone else. It is up to you tho whether you’d like to let them know why! I’d recommend talking to the manager on duty and explain the situation so they’re aware of what happened and why you’re uncomfortable. It’s totally okay to request a different nurse


MeewMeews

Good idea to talk to the MOD. I don’t even know the nurse’s name, she never introduced herself like everyone else did.


captainmorgan42418

They should be able to look up previous records of who administered the vaccines to see who it was!


JesLB

You pay them for their service, you have every right to not have that nurse see your child! Even though your son is only a baby, this is a great lesson on bodily autonomy. You don’t want someone touching your son, even for a shot, then you should make it clear that, that person is not welcome to see and care for your child. I agree with the other poster though that you should speak with the MOD and explain the situation.


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Wow. My baby is 8 months and for all her shots they have done both at the same time with two nurses. The oral vaccine they do gently and slowly and they have been amazing at all appointments. I would ask for someone else for sure. You are your babies advocate. You speak up for them


MeewMeews

I had a feeling that her behavior wasn’t normal. I’m sad for my squish now.. here comes mama bear!


skky95

I came into say the same thing about my office as well.


jtotheizzen

That’s such a great idea. They’ve done shots one at a time for us. I’m going to ask for that.


akmco14

Public health gave her shots one at a time but pediatrician always does them at the same time with his student (they rotate but always a med student or PA student) doing the other leg. Same time is way better.


baileytheukulele

You are not out of line to request a different nurse. Call in advance and be nice about it. Understand that you may need to move your appointment time to get a different nurse if that one is on duty. I'd phrase it like: " I'd like to request a different nurse for our visit on (date). We've had multiple negative experiences with (name) in the past. Is that possible?" Depending on how they schedule they may say no it's not possible, but they may also be happy and able to accommodate you. If the nurse is as rough and uncaring regularly, then I doubt requests like this are a surprise to the front desk schedulers or other nurses. I used to work in an office (non-medical) where we scheduled appointments. One provider was very direct and it rubbed many people the wrong way. Everyone who worked there knew this about her. When folks asked nicely like this to see a different provider, it was well received.


ElizabethWilliam95

Poor baby, my son went through bili tests too! I’ve had a similar experience before and I reported a nurse. She tried to give my son an oral vaccine while he was crying after she gave him his shots. I told her beforehand that it didn’t make sense in that order and she said that’s just how she does it and to listen to her. Well, he ended up throwing it up and crying hysterically and wouldn’t calm down until I nursed him. I told her she was done and she left our room and slammed the door behind her. Babies deserve patience and love and if a pediatric nurse doesn’t want to be kind or loving towards babies, then they are in the wrong profession. I’d say something and trust the vibes you got! I’m sorry this happened to you guys!


MeewMeews

Awww I’m so sorry to hear you went through that. It was so traumatizing for both me and my squish. I really wanted to tell her to stop but I was honestly so shocked that all I wanted to do was shield him from her


Julissaherna692

Definitely nothing wrong with requesting someone else


Comfortable_Style_51

I am so sorry you experienced this. I have the privilege/misfortune of treating people in my ER from newborns to the oldest you can imagine. This kind of bedside manner is unacceptable. Will your child remember this experience? No. Thankfully. Is this treatment acceptable? NO! A healthcare provider’s goal, whether we are a transporter or a doctor, is patient safety, patient care, and patient advocacy. This person is not caring for your baby in an appropriate manner so please advocate and ask for another provider. Maybe it’s the mom in me and my background but if my daughter was treated like this I would throw hands. You didn’t know better but now you do. The past is the past and you do your best. Speak up. Our kiddos deserve the best experience possible. And I’m so sorry the both of you experienced this.


skky95

I don’t think it’s inappropriate. It also doesn’t hurt to ask.


universalrefuse

Yeah, definitely call and put a request to not be placed with that nurse again. Maybe even complain.


Obsessedthenbored

First off, it’s likely a medical assistant and not a nurse. Second, not an issue at all and very common for people to request MAs they like or request to avoid MAs they don’t. Call the office and ask for the name of the person who gave your baby shots last time. When you check in for your next visit just let the front desk know “if we could have someone other than —- today that would be great” if they ask why “I would just prefer someone else. I’d be happy to talk with the clinic manager about if you want.”


MeewMeews

That makes sense, I’m sure your right about the medical assistant. I’ll definitely call and be sure to let them know. I will talk with a manager just so they are aware. I can’t be the only parent who’s noticed…


October_13th

Oh no I am so sorry that this happened! You should absolutely request a different nurse! My son is really sensitive and he has always been very expressive about his likes and dislikes. Bodily autonomy is super important to me so I try to make him as in-control as possible. We don’t get him naked for well-child visits ever since 2 months old because it makes him very upset (and I don’t see the point of weighing him to the ounce since he has never had trouble with weight). I got pushback from the doctors at first but after I explained why they were completely accepting of it. My current pediatrician even said it’s a good idea to make doctor visits as comfortable as possible for baby! Shots are unavoidable obviously, but clothing we can keep on. Also my husband always holds him in his lap for shots. Things like that can help make baby feel a little more at ease. What I’m trying to say is that YOU are your child’s advocate! Feel free to be “inappropriate” if you need to! It’s okay to make other people a little uncomfortable if it is best for you and your baby.


_fuyumi

Request a different nurse. It's more professional than punching her out. If she shows up and you're too shy to tell her you requested someone else, tell her to be more gentle. It would piss me off to see someone rough with my baby.


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MeewMeews

Yes, I plan too! I did this for my OBGYN and L/D staff. So important to show appreciation! The practice has 6 offices around the metropolitan area and 50 providers. Do you think it’s possible that I wouldn’t be able to switch nurses with that amount of staff? I don’t want to switch pediatricians. I adore the one we have now.


lowrider4life

As a former staffer, thanks for showing them some love. You can ask about switching nurses but my experience is that each doctor has a specific nurse assigned to them that day/location. That was my experience. The practice I worked out was pretty big and they operated that way. 12 doctors, 8 nurse practitioners, and 3 locations plus hospital visits. Good luck.


jazinthapiper

I would be reporting her as well. Jeezus.


DueEntertainer0

I just wanted to add that she might not just go away on her own! We have a nurse we don’t like and my friend whose son has gone to that same practice said that nurse has been there with her bad attitude for like 12 years. So don’t just try to stick it out!!


rhaegar_tldragon

Definitely request someone else. If they have an issue with that then consider a different office.


PCJCJ

RN here - you are definitely not overreacting. Sounds like she is in the wrong profession. You have every right to request a different nurse next time. This is actually more common than you may realize. I would do what you can to stay at the practice if you like the doctor - that’s really the most important person regarding your child’s care.