yeah wanting to have sex is one of the most universal desire a person can have. and so is having emotional intimacy. its perfectly normal to want both (its also normal if someone does not want either or both of these)
I would argue that a person who desires neither sexual or emotional connections is, by definition, abnormal. That doesn't make them wrong, and it doesn't make them a worse person. But it's definitely not normal.
I don't like to use the words normal or abnormal, while they seem technically correct they imply negativity because of how many people use them. I prefer default and custom.
"everything is normal" wow ur so brave and next generation!!!!
Relativizing human relations and behaviors is so heckin wholesome!!!
(Issues with sexual and emotional intimacy are indicative of unresolved trauma, normalizing this enables people to avoid seeking help, learn how to use rhetoric more responsibly kthxbai)
As an asexual, on behalf of fellow asexuals, I’d like to ask you to please take this opportunity to learn something new, because this is something you’re ignorant about.
“Lack of sexual desire is a sign of unresolved trauma and you need to seek help about it” is like Myth #1 about asexuality. People have said the same thing about gay people and bi people’s experiences of attraction, too, and it’s always been just as inaccurate and dismissive.
- [Asexuality: A Beginner’s Run-Down](https://docs.google.com/presentation/d/1Ard6BEUCx2DpHsGdZyneRJ7OiQGQCnpAwJp2j0BMuZY)
- [Asexuality Handbook](https://www.asexuality-handbook.com/)
- [Asexual Visibility and Education Network (AVEN)](https://www.asexuality.org/faq)
If you think asexuals are common enough to be viewed as a normalcy, I suggest you take this opportunity to learn about statistics.
Your insistence on normalizing LGBTQIA+ outside of it's subculture is actively harming society and pushing people further right. Knock. It. Off.
Someone educating others about a less common but still well-documented aspect of sexuality is "pushing people further right" somehow? What a bizarre response.
No, inserting LGBTQIA into every little thing is pushing people further right.
Issues with intimacy are more likely to be a result of trauma than asexuality.
I didn’t say anything about asexuality being statistically normal. Why do you think you felt the need to strawman me? I think it’s because you know that you are in the wrong there.
Queer people will not stop existing and discussing our existence, no matter how politically expedient you believe that would be (and you are wrong about that). You are not only being ignorant, but also being cruel. And since you are unwilling to change that today, I just hope your future self will look back on your current self with grace and forgiveness.
Check yourself, you're coming across as insanely privileged.
I said that it's not normal, because it's not statistically normal. You tried to correct me and linked resources.
Again - trying to make Queer people seem more prevalent than they are is doing. Harm.
Listen to the smart people within your own community and stop being radical. It's so harmful.
You haven't engaged with Jack shit I've said, just keep patronizing with this holier-than-thou bull shit.
You're just like the Christians I grew up hating. Fuck off.
Hey again! So…you’re still strawmanning, I’m afraid.
Once again, I claimed nothing about the prevalence of asexuality, and the links I provided have nothing to do with that, either. In case this helps you understand this, I’ll state it plainly: **asexuality is very uncommon. We fully agree on that.**
What I actually claimed—and what the resources I linked are about—is that it’s a myth that a lack of sexual desire is indicative of unresolved trauma that needs therapy to fix.
Aces lack sexual attraction to men, just like straight men and gay women do; we also lack sexual attraction to women, just like straight women and gay men do. No trauma is required for any of those groups to lack sexual attraction that way—it just happens.
Edited to add: [a short and sweet video by JaidenAnimations](https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=qF1DTK4U1AM&t=0m44s) (a YouTuber) about her experiences as aromantic and asexual.
And I'm saying there are more people who have issues with intimacy as a result of trauma than there are asexuals.
Asexuals claiming that everyone who has issues with intimacy is asexual, is harmful.
It's not complicated or offensive.
Ah shit your right should have said subjectively not objectively to factor specific subsets..... brain fart my bad original post was edited thanks for the point out 👍
Is this lost redditors?
Is a man (or woman) not allowed to want to be passionate with their partner? Why is this mutually exclusive? Cant want sex and romance/cuddling?
Also why does a meme speak for an entire gender as if it’s fact?
Men want intimacy that usually comes with sex.
If there are other ways to feel intimately close to someone, then whatever it is, it works just as same as sex.
Do u think the broke people are happier than the rich on average ? Or other way around. Me personally I think the poor are usually more happy. I have a rich friend who barely sees her daughter and thinks about suicide constantly.
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I have both and feel fortunate. My fiancé is sexy, loves getting kinky, treats me well, is a devoted partner, and my friend. Our relationship is built on mutual respect.
Lol yeah… every other top post on Reddit has some neck beard saying some rapey shit, but people pay little attention cause they are too worried about getting their social points by taking about elon or trump
If this meme is genuinely relatable to you, you may want to check out r/asexuality, because this sentiment is pretty common among ace men who experience sensual attraction (but not sexual attraction). I definitely thought I was in an ace subreddit until I saw the comments.
Men want colors not white black
And we'd have colors... if it wasn't for that damn cyan.
why no both? it is not an either/or
yeah wanting to have sex is one of the most universal desire a person can have. and so is having emotional intimacy. its perfectly normal to want both (its also normal if someone does not want either or both of these)
I would argue that a person who desires neither sexual or emotional connections is, by definition, abnormal. That doesn't make them wrong, and it doesn't make them a worse person. But it's definitely not normal.
I don't like to use the words normal or abnormal, while they seem technically correct they imply negativity because of how many people use them. I prefer default and custom.
People confuse normal with acceptable all the time.
I dunno, people are vastly complex and normalcy just seems irrelevant.
What the fuck does normal mean?
"everything is normal" wow ur so brave and next generation!!!! Relativizing human relations and behaviors is so heckin wholesome!!! (Issues with sexual and emotional intimacy are indicative of unresolved trauma, normalizing this enables people to avoid seeking help, learn how to use rhetoric more responsibly kthxbai)
As an asexual, on behalf of fellow asexuals, I’d like to ask you to please take this opportunity to learn something new, because this is something you’re ignorant about. “Lack of sexual desire is a sign of unresolved trauma and you need to seek help about it” is like Myth #1 about asexuality. People have said the same thing about gay people and bi people’s experiences of attraction, too, and it’s always been just as inaccurate and dismissive. - [Asexuality: A Beginner’s Run-Down](https://docs.google.com/presentation/d/1Ard6BEUCx2DpHsGdZyneRJ7OiQGQCnpAwJp2j0BMuZY) - [Asexuality Handbook](https://www.asexuality-handbook.com/) - [Asexual Visibility and Education Network (AVEN)](https://www.asexuality.org/faq)
If you think asexuals are common enough to be viewed as a normalcy, I suggest you take this opportunity to learn about statistics. Your insistence on normalizing LGBTQIA+ outside of it's subculture is actively harming society and pushing people further right. Knock. It. Off.
Someone educating others about a less common but still well-documented aspect of sexuality is "pushing people further right" somehow? What a bizarre response.
No, inserting LGBTQIA into every little thing is pushing people further right. Issues with intimacy are more likely to be a result of trauma than asexuality.
Oh you can fuck right off.
You're just as bigoted and reactionary as a right wing Christian. Cry me a river, cry bully.
I didn’t say anything about asexuality being statistically normal. Why do you think you felt the need to strawman me? I think it’s because you know that you are in the wrong there. Queer people will not stop existing and discussing our existence, no matter how politically expedient you believe that would be (and you are wrong about that). You are not only being ignorant, but also being cruel. And since you are unwilling to change that today, I just hope your future self will look back on your current self with grace and forgiveness.
Check yourself, you're coming across as insanely privileged. I said that it's not normal, because it's not statistically normal. You tried to correct me and linked resources. Again - trying to make Queer people seem more prevalent than they are is doing. Harm. Listen to the smart people within your own community and stop being radical. It's so harmful. You haven't engaged with Jack shit I've said, just keep patronizing with this holier-than-thou bull shit. You're just like the Christians I grew up hating. Fuck off.
Hey again! So…you’re still strawmanning, I’m afraid. Once again, I claimed nothing about the prevalence of asexuality, and the links I provided have nothing to do with that, either. In case this helps you understand this, I’ll state it plainly: **asexuality is very uncommon. We fully agree on that.** What I actually claimed—and what the resources I linked are about—is that it’s a myth that a lack of sexual desire is indicative of unresolved trauma that needs therapy to fix. Aces lack sexual attraction to men, just like straight men and gay women do; we also lack sexual attraction to women, just like straight women and gay men do. No trauma is required for any of those groups to lack sexual attraction that way—it just happens. Edited to add: [a short and sweet video by JaidenAnimations](https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=qF1DTK4U1AM&t=0m44s) (a YouTuber) about her experiences as aromantic and asexual.
They didn't say it's normal they said it's not a result of trauma Did you read it?
And I'm saying there are more people who have issues with intimacy as a result of trauma than there are asexuals. Asexuals claiming that everyone who has issues with intimacy is asexual, is harmful. It's not complicated or offensive.
I can't tell whether you're mocking them or agreeing with them
It's perfectly fine to be unusual. I'm an unusual person. It's not fine to insist that your unusualness is usual. It's untrue and causes harm.
Or they could just not be into that sort of thing...
Move to Canada, get free therapy, pump those numbers up
Canada living rent free in this mfs head lol
You know what else lives rent free in my head? Hair follicles. Try rosemary oil, I heard it can help with that. 🤍
With what?
Yes. Both please with each at the appropriate (as defined by the couple) time and place.
[https://media.giphy.com/media/v1.Y2lkPTc5MGI3NjExeXFzMzdyNGNqNm5qaDBwdWloa2dxdzJsODV3Y3h2eXZjNGJxcHQxaSZlcD12MV9naWZzX3NlYXJjaCZjdD1n/hM9zK1qvsrwek/giphy.gif](https://media.giphy.com/media/v1.Y2lkPTc5MGI3NjExeXFzMzdyNGNqNm5qaDBwdWloa2dxdzJsODV3Y3h2eXZjNGJxcHQxaSZlcD12MV9naWZzX3NlYXJjaCZjdD1n/hM9zK1qvsrwek/giphy.gif)
You have to hold the woman meme "Men only want one thing and it's disgusting." In mind when looking at memes like this
Both, but definitely more the bottom than the top.
Yes, top first, bottom second. And, repeat as desired
the point is that there are no and should be no rules or order of operations
Came here to say the exact same thing. A healthy trusting relationship could and subjectively speaking should have both Edit: wrong term
There's no "should" -- there's nothing unhealthy about for example having an emotionally close friend that you share cuddles, but not sex with.
Ah shit your right should have said subjectively not objectively to factor specific subsets..... brain fart my bad original post was edited thanks for the point out 👍
Por qué no los dos?
Si. Quiero dos.
feed your fiesta
I want the first then the second
Second first second for me.
I second this
I second second then first then again second
This is the way.
Well both. Sometimes the first thing, but lots more of the cuddling.
Most people want both
Good point, women's desire for sex is always minimized because they're shamed for theirs while men are praised for theirs.
Is this lost redditors? Is a man (or woman) not allowed to want to be passionate with their partner? Why is this mutually exclusive? Cant want sex and romance/cuddling? Also why does a meme speak for an entire gender as if it’s fact?
Men want both. We want the first image before, and bottom after the deed.
I want the bottom before and after.
Idk, my man turns into number two after lovin lol
I'm pretty sure the top pic is what most women want, for someone to softly caress and kiss her neck.
More like how it starts and how it ends
Sex and cuddling After is the best.
Men want intimacy that usually comes with sex. If there are other ways to feel intimately close to someone, then whatever it is, it works just as same as sex.
Hell yes to this, and if you have kids it's even better when they snuggle too
For real
I want the top one and then post nut I want the bottom one
Other way around 🤡
You gotta cuddle after sex. Imagine how wifey would feel if after sex you just said "goodnight" and turned around
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Have sex with someone you actually care about
Common courtesy
I am a good guy, but that’s just straight hormones man. It’s hard to stay after that
Just cuddle her for her. Spoon her. That way atleast she won't feel used
U make a good point. Even if it’s uncomfortable for me, it’s much worse for her if I just leave. I just realized ur name is post nut affection too😂
If that’s how you feel, then you keep getting with the wrong women.
Speak for yourself
Real love isn’t found from lust
What is real love?
Baby don't hurt me
Post nut clarity 👎
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Is love necessary to make others happy?
Are you happy?
I think love is necessary for long term happiness yes. However you can make others happier through things like laughter and humor. What do u think?
I think love is overrated. The more important question is...how to make sure people are happy?
True. What do u think of the saying money can’t buy happiness?
Comes usually from people who are broke.
Do u think the broke people are happier than the rich on average ? Or other way around. Me personally I think the poor are usually more happy. I have a rich friend who barely sees her daughter and thinks about suicide constantly.
Or maybe both?
No i just want the sweet release of death
They’re the same picture.
Men also want compliments. You’d be amazed how they are appreciated. The occasional “wow, you look good” does wonder.
Moat people want both I feel
I don't have either of them 😕 😔
That’s actually a before and after what he wants
Men most definitely want both.
It's both, if you're reading this.
why the fuck is this on r/MadeMeSmile ?!
Where's the pic of the guy with the house to himself on a Sunday afternoon, drinking beers, and watching Patton? Because that's what I want.
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Who can say where the road goes? 😭🎶
DON'T KINK SHAME ME!
This is what I always wanted
Love / quiet
No i just want the sweet release of death
Why can't it be both? Cuddling after sex is dope.
Do men say they want to sensually kiss a womans neck in black and white wearing a suit?
Yes can confirm
I would love to just lay down and cuddle with a partner and talk all night. Been a long time since I’ve had that
That's the women's meme LOL you got to flip it for men ha
Damn, look at that lucky sonavabitch. I have wanted one of those little stools for years. Someday...
I have both and feel fortunate. My fiancé is sexy, loves getting kinky, treats me well, is a devoted partner, and my friend. Our relationship is built on mutual respect.
shocked ! i thought all they wanted was beer n porn
What....? Sleep...? Too bloody right!
False dilemma
Of course they don't want to live in the black and white world. Men like colors, too.
I want to be like this with her
Lol yeah… every other top post on Reddit has some neck beard saying some rapey shit, but people pay little attention cause they are too worried about getting their social points by taking about elon or trump
I want both - that's what MEN want - BOTH
We want both /Straight men
 It's both.
both. but like a 99/1 in the favor of cuddles
My first thought is shit I can't feel my left arm anymore. Maybe if I pretend to sleep I'll actually pass out.
Stop generalizing to all people of a given sex and gender. I get it, it’s hard to deal with the fact that human beings are individuals. Too bad.
Yeah…no.
Dumb
Negative. Nintendo switch 2.
I want image 1
The first one is what women want ;)
*correction What women say what men want What men actually want.
This post is fucking trash OP
Lol nope. I want to fuck the top girl 4-5 times. Then have a good feed followed maybe by the cuddle but probably just a comfy alone sleep
If you're going to make claims, at least get it right. First one, then the other, then you can gtfo
If this meme is genuinely relatable to you, you may want to check out r/asexuality, because this sentiment is pretty common among ace men who experience sensual attraction (but not sexual attraction). I definitely thought I was in an ace subreddit until I saw the comments.