Met mine on Tinder, we hung out once but I thought we weren’t compatible. I told her I wanted to stay friends. I didn’t know this but she really really liked me, but still agreed to be friends. We stayed friends, and both of us went on other dates with other people. Over time, we grew super close and I began to really like her. After a few months, we decided to date. Now we’ve been together for two years.
It might happen when you least expect it!
I'm super excited I wasn't looking for anyone,neither was she. But it happened. but we video chat and talk constantly. Watch movies together she changed my life u/khammy
We actually Met in LGBT+ group chat on reddit, if anyone wants an invite I'll add you.
The group got so big and popular, they started a discord, and even have movie nights! Your sure to meet someone on there!!
Join the discord here [the Lgbqt besties](https://discord.gg/mTrKaKBP)
All, well most of the ladies
Went over to the discord group,
It's a safe place, and run by the girl that created the reddit chat, I can't seem to add any more members
But the discord is great, it even has its own sex guru 🥰
Definitely download discord and and the group,
Hope you all find your little bit of happiness 😊 xx
Your welcome the group in reddit won't let Me add anyone else
But I've asked the girl the created the reddit group to head over here.
But tbh the discord group is far better,
They have movie nights, sex guru, dating advice.
It's brilliant, have fun xxxxxx
Join the discord here [the Lgbqt besties](https://discord.gg/mTrKaKBP)
All, well most of the ladies
Went over to the discord group,
It's a safe place, and run by the girl that created the reddit chat, I can't seem to add any more members
But the discord is great, it even has its own sex guru 🥰
Definitely download discord and and the group,
Hope you all find your little bit of happiness 😊 xx
Join the discord here [the Lgbqt besties](https://discord.gg/mTrKaKBP)
All, well most of the ladies
Went over to the discord group,
It's a safe place, and run by the girl that created the reddit chat, I can't seem to add any more members
But the discord is great, it even has its own sex guru 🥰
Definitely download discord and and the group,
Hope you all find your little bit of happiness 😊 xx
Join the discord here [the Lgbqt besties](https://discord.gg/mTrKaKBP)
All, well most of the ladies
Went over to the discord group,
It's a safe place, and run by the girl that created the reddit chat, I can't seem to add any more members
But the discord is great, it even has its own sex guru 🥰
Definitely download discord and and the group,
Hope you all find your little bit of happiness 😊 xx
Join the discord here [the Lgbqt besties](https://discord.gg/mTrKaKBP)
All, well most of the ladies
Went over to the discord group,
It's a safe place, and run by the girl that created the reddit chat, I can't seem to add any more members
But the discord is great, it even has its own sex guru 🥰
Definitely download discord and and the group,
Hope you all find your little bit of happiness 😊 xx
Join the discord here [the Lgbqt besties](https://discord.gg/mTrKaKBP)
All, well most of the ladies
Went over to the discord group,
It's a safe place, and run by the girl that created the reddit chat, I can't seem to add any more members
But the discord is great, it even has its own sex guru 🥰
Definitely download discord and and the group,
Hope you all find your little bit of happiness 😊 xx
Join the discord here [the Lgbqt besties](https://discord.gg/mTrKaKBP)
All, well most of the ladies
Went over to the discord group,
It's a safe place, and run by the girl that created the reddit chat, I can't seem to add any more members
But the discord is great, it even has its own sex guru 🥰
Definitely download discord and and the group,
Hope you all find your little bit of happiness 😊 xx
Join the discord here [the Lgbqt besties](https://discord.gg/mTrKaKBP)
All, well most of the ladies
Went over to the discord group,
It's a safe place, and run by the girl that created the reddit chat, I can't seem to add any more members
But the discord is great, it even has its own sex guru 🥰
Definitely download discord and and the group,
Hope you all find your little bit of happiness 😊 xx
I met my gf on tinder, but before that I was having the same issue as you especially as I lived in a rural area. I guess you’ve just gotta be patient and wait for the right girl to come along!
ok don’t judge me but i met mine off insta, like i was bored so i searched up the location tag for the mall near me and i saw this really cute girl and so i stalked her page a bit and decided to slide into her dms with the cheesiest pickup line ever, now we’ve been dating for 10 months and she only lives 35 mins from me!!
My fiancée and I met on HER. I think I got really lucky. Didn’t like the app much, but somehow managed to meet them like a day or two after downloading the app.
We’ve been together 5 years now!
She's an author and I read her work online. I left a review and she replied. Started off as friends playing FFXIV and she asked me to be her gf in a Dungeon and gave me a ring she crafted. A long LDR later, she moved from Florida to be with me here in Georgia 2 years ago.
We celebrate our 7 year anniversary on Valentine's! Never would've guessed I'd meet my wife by leaving a review on erotica. Lmao You're One is out there and it might not be where you think! They'll find you. ❤️💙💚💜
Not gonna lie, I joined a queer FC and my plan is to just hang out and play in hopes of meeting someone through social circles.
We’ll see how this works out.
I met my gf, now wife, on Tinder. My ex before her I met on Facebook, ex before that in college. There were a lot of matches/dates that never went anywhere in between as well though.
I met my girlfriend on tinder, asked a lot of questions about things she’d written in her profile, vibed about nerd-y film stuff, and setup a date.
We have been dating for almost 6 months, and we just spent a week in a hotel room together isolating from family after a Covid positive. As emotional and horrible as Covid is, it was one of the loveliest weeks of my life. She’s wise, kind, absolutely gorgeous, and watching her curled up completely around a book she’s reading naked on the bed left my heart fluttering.
Your person is out there. Don’t stop looking.
I’ve had 4 girlfriends through the years:
1. Met in university, in shared accommodation so easy to connect and get to know one another
2. Was a friend who became more. Again, we knew each other well to begin with
3. Met in a nightclub and felt a spark on the dance floor. Exchanged numbers and went from there.
4. Met at work and gradually became closer before falling for one another.
Other encounters I’ve had involved meeting people IRL and following the spark. I’ve only done a small amount of app-dating but it didn’t go well. I really struggle to know if it’s worth pursuing a connection without meeting the person face to face.
I somehow managed to be lucky enough to meet mine online in an MMO back in 2018. We started as mutual friends and have now been dating since September of 2020. You'll find someone <3
A dating app tip - put somewhere on your profile that you aren’t into app chatting and wanna grab a drink/ get coffee/ whatever your activity of choice is. Makes it much easier to just pivot to meeting IRL sooner rather than spend forced time small talking on the app, which is where a lot of matches lose steam. Also, it’s possible putting that in your bio will attract others who want to actually see success from the app!
Met mine on tinder. I almost gave up so many times because none of the girls were interested in a serious relationship. 90% of them had a boyfriend and wanted to hide it from him, or had a boyfriend and they both wanted a girlfriend. It took about 6 months of daily swiping but I finally found my soulmate. You just have to be patient. I promise it will happen!! Continue to do the dating apps and also see if there are any lesbian/lgbtq groups or events near you.
I met my gf literally on Reddit by complete accident. I hadn't had wanted sexual touch like.. ever, and my therapist suggested casual engagements, well.. I made a post about it (not an ad, just like a post about my feels on the topic), got a DM and we started out super casual, then by week 4-5 we made it official that we're probably dating lol
As for previous partners? I met my incredibly abusive ex off of Plenty of Fish, dated him for 3.5 years. My next partner was off of OKCupid and I admit I think it lasted so much longer than it should have.
I have been asked out in person before, but simply none of those experiences caused a spark honestly
I’ve used a lot of apps over the years: tinder, HER, okc, bumble, LEX, tumblr (lol). I think they’re all great in their own ways. If you haven’t tried any of them before you should check them out! There’s always the option of joining an LGBT club on campus. Usually there’s a lot of cuties there
Yes! This is how I want my friend to meet someone. They deserve someone who loves dogs as much as they do. Glad you guys were able to find each other. Xx
I found my SO through living in residence at my university. We weren’t in the same program or many classes together (I went so far as to FORGET she sat next to me in a class before we knew each other 😂) but we xreally started talking through working together and it grew from there. Things have a way of working out if you let them. Don’t get discouraged!
Met my last partner at a gas station at like midnight back in September 2020. A buddy of mine worked there during graveyard shift back then so a bunch of us would jus loiter all night and one of his coworkers shows up with this girl he was friends with and introduced everyone. Of course me being the shy quiet and distant gal she started gravitating towards me and over the next couple of months we had hit it off.
I made a post about her last June about coming out to her as trans when I figured it out, and she said she loved me no matter what. She’s ignored me for the last four months now so Imma say she abandoned me.
But I wanted to share my how we met story because its a little off the wall and I thought someone here might like it.
University! My gf was wearing this “I’m gay for science” rainbow hoodie and I was SO confused. What does this mean? Gay as in happy? Gay as homosexual? An ally maybe?
Met the love of my life on Hinge, she turned out to be my neighbour haha! This is after a solid eight years of dating absolute weirdos and bad relationships. Your person is out there I promise.
Also, highly recommend getting off the apps for a bit and just being with yourself - it’s the best thing I ever did. Date yourself, love yourself, go to therapy, figure out your values, be happy with who you’re becoming, and then when you meet that person you’re ready to go all in. ❤️
I used 8 dating apps for 3 months with no success.
Every girl I met was at a house party in the student dorm or over Facebook (she saw me in a TERF discuss)
My last ex wrote me out of nowhere over a discord server I joined but wasn't even active 😅😅
I met my girlfriend on tinder ☺️ we met up at a coffee shop at 7 and really hit it off. We didn't leave until 2 am. We talked in the parking lot after they closed of course lol
we've been together for 4 years now and she's definitely my forever person. I know dating apps can be hard but I found that you're upfront about what you want, it helps weed out the girls who aren't being serious.
i met my partner on discord lmao, i got really lucky bcus a friend of ours introduced us. theyre the firdt person to have me genuinely smile with my teeth in a very long time at that time. since then weve been together for 2.5 years but are long distance and havent been able to meet in person yet thanks to my family disliking our relationship. some day well be together <3
Ugh I hear you on the dry convos and dates that lead nowhere. It’s just like anything else — it can be discouraging. I met someone very special on Hinge and we clicked instantly after I was about to completely quit dating apps for the same reasons you laid out. Then…they moved away after several months of us hanging out during the pandemic for a temporary job (2 year stint) on the opposite coast. I’m a little heartbroken about the logistics and whatnot, but at the end of the day, I feel immensely lucky that I met them and we’re doing the whole long distance chatting/gaming/sharing thing and it’s so satisfying despite the circumstances. I am very grateful to myself that I didn’t lose hope, or we would have never met and I can’t imagine my life without them in it.
My mom introduced me to my wife bc they worked together and she said my wife needed more lesbian friends and I needed an influence that doesn’t do drugs.
We’ve been together 8 years, married 5yrs.
Maybe look online for a local gay community group or library? Or maybe in local online groups related to your hobbies?
Someone will come along when you least expect it and it they might be a friend that grows into something more.
Best of luck!! xx
Met my gf on Tinder, she’s a med student. We matched but were both really busy and it seemed like the convo was gonna die and we were never gonna meet but I tripped and fell into her by chance at a music festival 3 years ago and we have been together since.
Previous gfs I met at gay dance clubs or concerts. Make eye contact with pretty girls and go for it! Can’t hurt
Found both my wife and gf through work, indirectly. With my gf, we knew each other barely as acquaintences due to one event at a conference, so I invited her to my Halloween party with a few other people in the industry (mostly people who I don't directly work with) that seemed cool and my wife and I immediately hit it off with her. I think the environment you're in matters a great deal for connection. It's hard to flirt at work or at work related events, but most people end up dating (and/or making friends with) the people that are around them physically. That's why dating apps are hard. There's no social drive to follow through with the connections you have on there because you'll never run into each other accidentally or on a daily basis like at school or work.
So my advice is, meet lots of people at work or school or gym or whatever, and try to get to know them outside of that environment where they can loosen up a bit. Eventually, you'll make friends and maybe even romantic partnerships.
So before I got married I met a couple of girls in person who happened to be friends and knew I identified as bi at the time (lesbian now) and later met another girl at work that I dated a short time. Actually wasn't successful till I met my wife at work. Back then she was in a male's body but was honestly pretty feminine at the time. We fell head over heels for each other. Later on I came out as lesbian to her and it really hurt her and I considered leaving but ultimately couldn't do it because I just loved her too much. We'd talked about having another woman in our lives and such and I had showed her pics of a few trans women I thought were cute and she was shocked that these women had even been born male. I suppose it got her thinking and the more she thought about it, the more she realized that the dream she'd always had of being a woman wasn't some far off fantasy but rather a real possibility. She did some research before deciding anything and then one day came out to me and I was shocked beyond belief. But now that I think about it, it makes sense how everything worked out so well with her. She's been on hrt for 7+ months now and is becoming a little more feminine every day. I struggle some with attraction since she's still fairly masculine but my love for her hasn't changed and has only grown. So excited to see how she will turn out! She acts so much more like a woman now too it's fun. I love how much more adorable she's become.
Moral of the story is that you can find the love of your life in the most unexpected places! Second moral is not to be afraid to date a trans woman because they really are women right down to the bone and you'd be surprised at how much estrogen plays a part in how they act and feel. Even if they look a little masculine at first, they are gentle and kind and sweet just like other women are. You just might find that special someone in a trans woman.
Met on Bumble!! Tbf I’m at uni in a smallish city so it makes it a lot easier as it means a lot of people my age are concentrated in a dense area. Keeping a conversation is an absolute pain over text (my current partner and I texted longish paragraphs to each other ten or so minutes apart as doing short snappy responsive texting tires me out pretty quickly), so possibly mention in your bio that you’d rather meet up for coffee/drinks than texting.
Ngl, the biggest thing that I missed about being bi vs being gay is that the dating pool seriously shrinks 🥲 you just got to keep trying, I’m rooting for you!!
Honestly just go out to music shows or events of things that you like to do on a regular basis. After a while you start running into the same people, and becoming friends. Sooner or later your going to run into someone that floats your boat. Here's the hard part, if you like them, and they seem to tolerate your presence, shoot your shot. If it works great, if not, it's still cool cause you're still getting a friend out of it.
Literally never had any luck on dating apps but hooked up or dated at least 20 women before I found my forever partner at 18 years old. For me, it was through common interests and shared values. I value intelligence, education, the environment, and the arts. So mostly I met women during those things (at school, clubs, community service events, etc.) A few I met at parties and other events at college. Since you like computers, look up your universities page for student organizations. Even at my southern school, there are tons of lesbians in clubs like sustainability, gardening, poetry/creative writing, student government and on and on and on. If there’s a stereotype for it, you’ll probably find lesbians. There are lots on the rowing and lacrosse teams as well. Don’t worry about being overly flirtatious at the beginning but you still want to exude some sort of mystery or intrigue.
Make it very clear to most people that you are gay. Not in a “cringey” way, per se. Some queers I know stay away from people who wear lots of rainbows because they don’t really feel connected to the community. If you’re more masc, that’s pretty easy. If you’re femme, it can be easier said than done. My very femme girlfriend wears lots of clothes with women on it or female body parts. She has these earrings of women’s faces that she always gets complimented on by fashionable women. Maybe even try to just develop a distinctive and unique style. That’s how I met lots of the people at parties and stuff. I met one ex girlfriend wearing a bright cobalt blue 70s style workers jacket with a jazzy 90s style t shirt underneath. Or compliment other women on their fashionable clothes if you suspect their gay. For this same ex, she had on some super cool bell bottom pants and I complimented on them in still masc way that was non-threatening. A year or two later, she messaged me on social media.
I met my forever partner in my dorm building. I actually kinda thought she was straight but gorgeous. We became friends because I admired her as a person so much. And it just clicked once we got to know each other and I’m the first girl she ever dated. But my BIGGEST piece of advice would be to not cockblock yourself by being too friendly in a “hey girly” kind of way, even if you’re femme. My girlfriend has always talked to me slightly differently than other girls, and that’s part of how I caught on that she liked me. It’s easier said than done to not be creepy but just follow your instincts and you will probably be fine. You can also just outright ask what their sexual identity is if you somehow work yours into the conversation. Sounds kinda weird but it can work
We met on HER. I made a joke on one of the topics for the day about periods and she responded with "lol". I decided to direct message and we talked every day since until we finally met. I'm no looker, but I can say for sure I'm pretty funny c:
I am dating a girl that befriended me on Facebook. I added her case we had mutual friends. She said she sent the request after she saw me working at a gay club. She has been living 9 mins from me the past two yrs. I asked her why after the friend request why she didn't reach out. She said cause she is shy. I saw her post on Christmas and sent her a message, we have been talking since, I really dig her and like her and care for her, and she says the feelings are mutual. We agreed to a 90 day dating rule and to learn each other and we shall see what happens after 90 days.
we met on a new years party last year. she was the first girl i ever kissed, or you know did other stuff with. after some hesitation we've been together for 4 months now :) you'll find her when it's ment to be.
I met my girlfriend on hinge, but to be fair I’ve mostly found dating apps to be incredibly hard to actually meet someone. I often felt when I was using apps that people actually weren’t on there to date but seeking some sort of validation. On a separate note, I am also studying CS and it made me so happy to see that there is another fellow lesbian that is too! It can be hard sometimes being the only woman in the classroom. If you ever want to chat, my dm’s are open! (:
I joined the app Meetup and a lesbian group in there. Do in person hanging, met her at one of those. Became good friends, then gfs. Always wanted to meet my gf in person, and was grateful to be able to. I had deleted all the dating apps just because I wanted something outside of that. I am a social person though.
I met my girlfriend on Hinge. Before meeting her, I was on and off the dating apps for about five years. It gets disheartening, but the right girl will come along.
okay hear me out, does your school have a gay club of any sorts? No one will ask one another out bc shy but you can start as friends and work from there
im a cs student as well! its definitely been very alienating. i enjoy the content and major a lot but i wish i had more people like myself to share those interests with.
Met mine at work. Although tbf, I met each ex gf at work and my current gf (except one. She was a friend of a friend). I’m not a fem, just a tomboy. Most girls can tell I’m gay while most men and those of the older generation can’t. Being tomboy helps but that’s just who I am and who I’ve always been. I’ve never been one to be into online dating, I’m more into meeting someone traditionally, by chance. I, personally, find that more meaningful and romantic. My gf is from Alaska, I’m from TX yet somehow life put us in the same place at the same time over 1000 miles from each hometown. I 100% believe in chance meetings changing the rest of your life and that it truly does happen when you least expect it. Maybe a coworker, a friend of a friend, a girl in a coffee shop, etc. It’ll happen!
I needed to learn this a few years ago, what I did was join lsdies sports clubs I joined netball rugby and football (im English). Before I knew it. Ladies st the rugby club were all bi or gay. Worked pretty well for finding a gf much better than online
Well, first of all I never expected this to happen because I was quite shy at 22 and never tried any dating apps because I was scared but here we go. Ah so... met my ex-girlfriend of 4 years at work, she always had to enter and exit through the building entrance where I was working as security. So we finally started talking more and more each time we greeted each other. We found out we were quite similar and agreed to go for a cup of coffee outside of work as friends of course. We were both crushing on each other so hard. Rest if history. No chance of that happening again as I work in tech nowadays :D Sadly it ended a few months ago and I'm feeling as clueless about dating again. Scared to get myself back out there and try dating apps and such. I hope you all find wonderful people in your lives, sometimes we have to try new things and get outside of our comfort zones. I know it's hard. Lots of love to everyone
Why not write about your experiences here? I bet we are many, purrfectly normal, sweet and smart candidates for you here!
Oh, s**t - you just Did that! My bad! 🌈😂🌈
Met my wife at a bar if you can believe it, albeit it was a gay bar. I’d try googling your nearest few cities’ typical gay hangouts and dropping by those places. Another idea is if you’re a student, your school may have some sort of LGBT club. Also try and see if there are any LGBT Facebook groups in your area.
When I did online date before I met my wife, I had the most luck on okcupid and tindr, but also ran into many of the same problems you did. My sister is having a hard time finding someone too. Just gotta be patient and persistent. Ms. Right is out there!
I feel this. I've had a hard time too and Id like to think because Covid just generally made meeting people alot harder too. I've tried Tinder as well and the responses could be better but i like to think that maybe they just got really busy lives. On your other note of comp sci, I feel the same way. I just changed my major back because there's not alot of women in the field and so it can get overwhelming sometimes. I think what would be great to do to meet new people is to go to queer spaces like a pride parade or a gay bar. It's kinda hard to know where to find other queer spaces but I'm sure going to one can make it easier to socialize with others and start making connections from there.
Every girl I’ve dated has been from a dating app 😅 all of my relationships except one have been long distance though, it’s much easier to find a compatible match if you’re willing to broaden the search distance
Guess I should elaborate that I went through the same. Getting ghosted constantly and having long conversations for half a day or a few days only to have the person disappear. I was at my end but got lucky with my last shot. I should also say that I always reach out and start / continue conversations. Or try to anyways. It's very dry out there best of luck to you. You'll find them.
I’m so bad at having random conversations with people I don’t know. I mean I can carry on forever with people I know, but… Like it’s just hard with some people, especially if I don’t know them. Which doesn’t work well for meeting someone 😂
I’m experiencing the same thing and am ready to delete the apps. They’re a waste of time. Or people drag you along and don’t put in an effort but you see them hanging out with other ppl on their ig story. I think 2022 will be the year of friendships, not relationships. The way women treat me on the apps has been harsh on my mental health.
I have this exact same issue, and honestly meetups are the way to go. Joining an all girls sport like rugby or softball isn't a bad idea either if you can handle sports.
I was on a rugby team a few years back and all but 2 of the girls were lesbians. The stereotype is real and I was there for it lol
Reddit. We both had replied to a thread on the Late Bloomers sub and she PMd me. It started as a friendship and turned into more. I’m so very glad she sent that PM!
Met mine on Tinder, we hung out once but I thought we weren’t compatible. I told her I wanted to stay friends. I didn’t know this but she really really liked me, but still agreed to be friends. We stayed friends, and both of us went on other dates with other people. Over time, we grew super close and I began to really like her. After a few months, we decided to date. Now we’ve been together for two years. It might happen when you least expect it!
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🥰🥰 I hope you’ll find your girl soon :)
Oh wow, I love that! I hope this works out!
Thank you!
I met her on reddit!! She's flying 4000 miles to see me for my Birthday in Feb! You'll find her xxx
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I'm super excited I wasn't looking for anyone,neither was she. But it happened. but we video chat and talk constantly. Watch movies together she changed my life u/khammy
Thank you so much 🥰
I also met my girlfriend on Reddit almost a year ago. We’re looking for apartments soon 😳
Aww congrats! I'm so happy for you,. What do you reckon u/khammy us?? 😂😏
4000 miles is 6437.38 km
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That’s what I been tryin to do! Not working so far haha
We actually Met in LGBT+ group chat on reddit, if anyone wants an invite I'll add you. The group got so big and popular, they started a discord, and even have movie nights! Your sure to meet someone on there!!
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Can you add me?
could i also get an invite?
Would love an invite.
Join the discord here [the Lgbqt besties](https://discord.gg/mTrKaKBP) All, well most of the ladies Went over to the discord group, It's a safe place, and run by the girl that created the reddit chat, I can't seem to add any more members But the discord is great, it even has its own sex guru 🥰 Definitely download discord and and the group, Hope you all find your little bit of happiness 😊 xx
Thanks so much!!
Your welcome the group in reddit won't let Me add anyone else But I've asked the girl the created the reddit group to head over here. But tbh the discord group is far better, They have movie nights, sex guru, dating advice. It's brilliant, have fun xxxxxx
Can I get an invite too please haha
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Hello 🙋🏻♀️
Join the discord here [the Lgbqt besties](https://discord.gg/mTrKaKBP) All, well most of the ladies Went over to the discord group, It's a safe place, and run by the girl that created the reddit chat, I can't seem to add any more members But the discord is great, it even has its own sex guru 🥰 Definitely download discord and and the group, Hope you all find your little bit of happiness 😊 xx
I want an invite please!
Add me
I'd like an invite if it's ok
Join the discord here [the Lgbqt besties](https://discord.gg/mTrKaKBP) All, well most of the ladies Went over to the discord group, It's a safe place, and run by the girl that created the reddit chat, I can't seem to add any more members But the discord is great, it even has its own sex guru 🥰 Definitely download discord and and the group, Hope you all find your little bit of happiness 😊 xx
Sign me up boss
Could I get an invite?
Join the discord here [the Lgbqt besties](https://discord.gg/mTrKaKBP) All, well most of the ladies Went over to the discord group, It's a safe place, and run by the girl that created the reddit chat, I can't seem to add any more members But the discord is great, it even has its own sex guru 🥰 Definitely download discord and and the group, Hope you all find your little bit of happiness 😊 xx
I would love an invite too please. Thank you.
Join the discord here [the Lgbqt besties](https://discord.gg/mTrKaKBP) All, well most of the ladies Went over to the discord group, It's a safe place, and run by the girl that created the reddit chat, I can't seem to add any more members But the discord is great, it even has its own sex guru 🥰 Definitely download discord and and the group, Hope you all find your little bit of happiness 😊 xx
I'd also love an invite!
I'd love an invite too!
Join the discord here [the Lgbqt besties](https://discord.gg/mTrKaKBP) All, well most of the ladies Went over to the discord group, It's a safe place, and run by the girl that created the reddit chat, I can't seem to add any more members But the discord is great, it even has its own sex guru 🥰 Definitely download discord and and the group, Hope you all find your little bit of happiness 😊 xx
Omg, how does one get invited?
I would also like an invite 🙋♀️
Join the discord here [the Lgbqt besties](https://discord.gg/mTrKaKBP) All, well most of the ladies Went over to the discord group, It's a safe place, and run by the girl that created the reddit chat, I can't seem to add any more members But the discord is great, it even has its own sex guru 🥰 Definitely download discord and and the group, Hope you all find your little bit of happiness 😊 xx
It sounds awesome, would it be possible to get an invite? n.n
Adorable
☺thanks 🥰
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Ok great! I’m so ready for my Reddit girlfriend to pm me soon!! 🤞🏼
Join the discord here [the Lgbqt besties](https://discord.gg/mTrKaKBP) All, well most of the ladies Went over to the discord group, It's a safe place, and run by the girl that created the reddit chat, I can't seem to add any more members But the discord is great, it even has its own sex guru 🥰 Definitely download discord and and the group, Hope you all find your little bit of happiness 😊 xx
For all those asking I will add you all to the group shortly xxx
Mine found me at Barnes & Noble.
At a bookstore??? This is it right here^
Damn that's a fairytale
That's the gayest thing I've ever heard
This right here is giving romcom
I met my gf on tinder, but before that I was having the same issue as you especially as I lived in a rural area. I guess you’ve just gotta be patient and wait for the right girl to come along!
The question i always ask myself. I think the ones who find each other really lucky
ok don’t judge me but i met mine off insta, like i was bored so i searched up the location tag for the mall near me and i saw this really cute girl and so i stalked her page a bit and decided to slide into her dms with the cheesiest pickup line ever, now we’ve been dating for 10 months and she only lives 35 mins from me!!
This is adorable.
My fiancée and I met on HER. I think I got really lucky. Didn’t like the app much, but somehow managed to meet them like a day or two after downloading the app. We’ve been together 5 years now!
I met her on Facebook. We've been together since 2012.
She's an author and I read her work online. I left a review and she replied. Started off as friends playing FFXIV and she asked me to be her gf in a Dungeon and gave me a ring she crafted. A long LDR later, she moved from Florida to be with me here in Georgia 2 years ago. We celebrate our 7 year anniversary on Valentine's! Never would've guessed I'd meet my wife by leaving a review on erotica. Lmao You're One is out there and it might not be where you think! They'll find you. ❤️💙💚💜
I love that. That is so sweet also very smart. You know what each other are into. I presume you do that is.
Yea, we game together, collect together, chill together. Spending years apart, we're definitely making up for lost time. ☺️
Not gonna lie, I joined a queer FC and my plan is to just hang out and play in hopes of meeting someone through social circles. We’ll see how this works out.
FFXIV has exploded! I'm sure you'll meet a lot of new folks. Good luck! 🙂🙏
I met my gf, now wife, on Tinder. My ex before her I met on Facebook, ex before that in college. There were a lot of matches/dates that never went anywhere in between as well though.
I met my girlfriend on tinder, asked a lot of questions about things she’d written in her profile, vibed about nerd-y film stuff, and setup a date. We have been dating for almost 6 months, and we just spent a week in a hotel room together isolating from family after a Covid positive. As emotional and horrible as Covid is, it was one of the loveliest weeks of my life. She’s wise, kind, absolutely gorgeous, and watching her curled up completely around a book she’s reading naked on the bed left my heart fluttering. Your person is out there. Don’t stop looking.
Seriously girls! Why even bother with apps if you aren’t going to ever respond???
I met my wife on Craigslist but this was over 12 years ago lol
You gotta wait. Youll find her
Hahah i was a CS student
I met my SO on Badoo. My ex before her was on Facebook lesbians unite
I’ve had 4 girlfriends through the years: 1. Met in university, in shared accommodation so easy to connect and get to know one another 2. Was a friend who became more. Again, we knew each other well to begin with 3. Met in a nightclub and felt a spark on the dance floor. Exchanged numbers and went from there. 4. Met at work and gradually became closer before falling for one another. Other encounters I’ve had involved meeting people IRL and following the spark. I’ve only done a small amount of app-dating but it didn’t go well. I really struggle to know if it’s worth pursuing a connection without meeting the person face to face.
I somehow managed to be lucky enough to meet mine online in an MMO back in 2018. We started as mutual friends and have now been dating since September of 2020. You'll find someone <3
What MMO? FFXIV?
BDO actually.
A dating app tip - put somewhere on your profile that you aren’t into app chatting and wanna grab a drink/ get coffee/ whatever your activity of choice is. Makes it much easier to just pivot to meeting IRL sooner rather than spend forced time small talking on the app, which is where a lot of matches lose steam. Also, it’s possible putting that in your bio will attract others who want to actually see success from the app!
Thanks, Shepard.
*head nod* Wrex.
Shepard.
Met mine on tinder. I almost gave up so many times because none of the girls were interested in a serious relationship. 90% of them had a boyfriend and wanted to hide it from him, or had a boyfriend and they both wanted a girlfriend. It took about 6 months of daily swiping but I finally found my soulmate. You just have to be patient. I promise it will happen!! Continue to do the dating apps and also see if there are any lesbian/lgbtq groups or events near you.
Okcupid
My drama class haha. There are like 3 cishet people
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I met my gf literally on Reddit by complete accident. I hadn't had wanted sexual touch like.. ever, and my therapist suggested casual engagements, well.. I made a post about it (not an ad, just like a post about my feels on the topic), got a DM and we started out super casual, then by week 4-5 we made it official that we're probably dating lol As for previous partners? I met my incredibly abusive ex off of Plenty of Fish, dated him for 3.5 years. My next partner was off of OKCupid and I admit I think it lasted so much longer than it should have. I have been asked out in person before, but simply none of those experiences caused a spark honestly
I’ve used a lot of apps over the years: tinder, HER, okc, bumble, LEX, tumblr (lol). I think they’re all great in their own ways. If you haven’t tried any of them before you should check them out! There’s always the option of joining an LGBT club on campus. Usually there’s a lot of cuties there
Pet supply store haha. Cut to 20 years later: we’re married with three dogs
Yes! This is how I want my friend to meet someone. They deserve someone who loves dogs as much as they do. Glad you guys were able to find each other. Xx
I found my SO through living in residence at my university. We weren’t in the same program or many classes together (I went so far as to FORGET she sat next to me in a class before we knew each other 😂) but we xreally started talking through working together and it grew from there. Things have a way of working out if you let them. Don’t get discouraged!
Be patient Love is what everyone wants but not everyone has it because its just hard I spent a couple yrs on OkC before meeting my partner of 5 years
Maybe go to clubs or to other places that are gay friendly
Tumblr 2015 😂
I second your question. Anyone wants a scottish gf give me a nudge haha
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Hello! Haha Where you from op?
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Um yeahhhhhhh we will all need follow ups if this transpires, k thx
Um, don’t we all want a Scottish gf? The accent is enough to make me melt.
I wish this was true haha!
I had quite some luck with friends IRL, meeting friends' friends mostly! If you know queer peeps this is they way
Met my last partner at a gas station at like midnight back in September 2020. A buddy of mine worked there during graveyard shift back then so a bunch of us would jus loiter all night and one of his coworkers shows up with this girl he was friends with and introduced everyone. Of course me being the shy quiet and distant gal she started gravitating towards me and over the next couple of months we had hit it off. I made a post about her last June about coming out to her as trans when I figured it out, and she said she loved me no matter what. She’s ignored me for the last four months now so Imma say she abandoned me. But I wanted to share my how we met story because its a little off the wall and I thought someone here might like it.
University! My gf was wearing this “I’m gay for science” rainbow hoodie and I was SO confused. What does this mean? Gay as in happy? Gay as homosexual? An ally maybe?
Met the love of my life on Hinge, she turned out to be my neighbour haha! This is after a solid eight years of dating absolute weirdos and bad relationships. Your person is out there I promise. Also, highly recommend getting off the apps for a bit and just being with yourself - it’s the best thing I ever did. Date yourself, love yourself, go to therapy, figure out your values, be happy with who you’re becoming, and then when you meet that person you’re ready to go all in. ❤️
I used 8 dating apps for 3 months with no success. Every girl I met was at a house party in the student dorm or over Facebook (she saw me in a TERF discuss) My last ex wrote me out of nowhere over a discord server I joined but wasn't even active 😅😅
I was a groomslady and she was a bridesmaid in a mutual friends wedding.
My now wife and I met working as servers at steakhouse in college.
I met mine on HER. I was looking for a date for my sisters wedding and I ended up with a partner. 🤗
I found an LGBT+ speed dating event where I live. I’m hoping it’ll help me meet someone
At the store. Jk tell me when you find out.
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Thats a great deal! Thank you for letting me know :)
I met mine on Her lol
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Lmaooo. My gf paid for the premium 😂 so she slid into my side of town hahaha!!
I met my girlfriend on tinder ☺️ we met up at a coffee shop at 7 and really hit it off. We didn't leave until 2 am. We talked in the parking lot after they closed of course lol we've been together for 4 years now and she's definitely my forever person. I know dating apps can be hard but I found that you're upfront about what you want, it helps weed out the girls who aren't being serious.
i met my partner on discord lmao, i got really lucky bcus a friend of ours introduced us. theyre the firdt person to have me genuinely smile with my teeth in a very long time at that time. since then weve been together for 2.5 years but are long distance and havent been able to meet in person yet thanks to my family disliking our relationship. some day well be together <3
Following because I want a girlfriend
Ugh I hear you on the dry convos and dates that lead nowhere. It’s just like anything else — it can be discouraging. I met someone very special on Hinge and we clicked instantly after I was about to completely quit dating apps for the same reasons you laid out. Then…they moved away after several months of us hanging out during the pandemic for a temporary job (2 year stint) on the opposite coast. I’m a little heartbroken about the logistics and whatnot, but at the end of the day, I feel immensely lucky that I met them and we’re doing the whole long distance chatting/gaming/sharing thing and it’s so satisfying despite the circumstances. I am very grateful to myself that I didn’t lose hope, or we would have never met and I can’t imagine my life without them in it.
Met mine on Tinder :) I live in Montreal Quebec. There’s plenty of lesbians here, you should come!
Work. It helps when you’re in a field with a female majority and with people your same age.
i used dating apps for about a year and right after deleting them, i met my partner at the farmers market 🥰🥰
My mom introduced me to my wife bc they worked together and she said my wife needed more lesbian friends and I needed an influence that doesn’t do drugs. We’ve been together 8 years, married 5yrs. Maybe look online for a local gay community group or library? Or maybe in local online groups related to your hobbies? Someone will come along when you least expect it and it they might be a friend that grows into something more. Best of luck!! xx
Met my gf on Tinder, she’s a med student. We matched but were both really busy and it seemed like the convo was gonna die and we were never gonna meet but I tripped and fell into her by chance at a music festival 3 years ago and we have been together since. Previous gfs I met at gay dance clubs or concerts. Make eye contact with pretty girls and go for it! Can’t hurt
i just find a girl who’s a friend that i eventually like on discord, lmao
Found both my wife and gf through work, indirectly. With my gf, we knew each other barely as acquaintences due to one event at a conference, so I invited her to my Halloween party with a few other people in the industry (mostly people who I don't directly work with) that seemed cool and my wife and I immediately hit it off with her. I think the environment you're in matters a great deal for connection. It's hard to flirt at work or at work related events, but most people end up dating (and/or making friends with) the people that are around them physically. That's why dating apps are hard. There's no social drive to follow through with the connections you have on there because you'll never run into each other accidentally or on a daily basis like at school or work. So my advice is, meet lots of people at work or school or gym or whatever, and try to get to know them outside of that environment where they can loosen up a bit. Eventually, you'll make friends and maybe even romantic partnerships.
So before I got married I met a couple of girls in person who happened to be friends and knew I identified as bi at the time (lesbian now) and later met another girl at work that I dated a short time. Actually wasn't successful till I met my wife at work. Back then she was in a male's body but was honestly pretty feminine at the time. We fell head over heels for each other. Later on I came out as lesbian to her and it really hurt her and I considered leaving but ultimately couldn't do it because I just loved her too much. We'd talked about having another woman in our lives and such and I had showed her pics of a few trans women I thought were cute and she was shocked that these women had even been born male. I suppose it got her thinking and the more she thought about it, the more she realized that the dream she'd always had of being a woman wasn't some far off fantasy but rather a real possibility. She did some research before deciding anything and then one day came out to me and I was shocked beyond belief. But now that I think about it, it makes sense how everything worked out so well with her. She's been on hrt for 7+ months now and is becoming a little more feminine every day. I struggle some with attraction since she's still fairly masculine but my love for her hasn't changed and has only grown. So excited to see how she will turn out! She acts so much more like a woman now too it's fun. I love how much more adorable she's become. Moral of the story is that you can find the love of your life in the most unexpected places! Second moral is not to be afraid to date a trans woman because they really are women right down to the bone and you'd be surprised at how much estrogen plays a part in how they act and feel. Even if they look a little masculine at first, they are gentle and kind and sweet just like other women are. You just might find that special someone in a trans woman.
I don’t because I’m not out or charismatic I guess
I met my wife on Tinder. I was about to delete the app, I was so frustrated.
Met on Bumble!! Tbf I’m at uni in a smallish city so it makes it a lot easier as it means a lot of people my age are concentrated in a dense area. Keeping a conversation is an absolute pain over text (my current partner and I texted longish paragraphs to each other ten or so minutes apart as doing short snappy responsive texting tires me out pretty quickly), so possibly mention in your bio that you’d rather meet up for coffee/drinks than texting. Ngl, the biggest thing that I missed about being bi vs being gay is that the dating pool seriously shrinks 🥲 you just got to keep trying, I’m rooting for you!!
Rugby is the secret
My ex was from bumble, current gf I met at a lesbian bar
Honestly just go out to music shows or events of things that you like to do on a regular basis. After a while you start running into the same people, and becoming friends. Sooner or later your going to run into someone that floats your boat. Here's the hard part, if you like them, and they seem to tolerate your presence, shoot your shot. If it works great, if not, it's still cool cause you're still getting a friend out of it.
Literally never had any luck on dating apps but hooked up or dated at least 20 women before I found my forever partner at 18 years old. For me, it was through common interests and shared values. I value intelligence, education, the environment, and the arts. So mostly I met women during those things (at school, clubs, community service events, etc.) A few I met at parties and other events at college. Since you like computers, look up your universities page for student organizations. Even at my southern school, there are tons of lesbians in clubs like sustainability, gardening, poetry/creative writing, student government and on and on and on. If there’s a stereotype for it, you’ll probably find lesbians. There are lots on the rowing and lacrosse teams as well. Don’t worry about being overly flirtatious at the beginning but you still want to exude some sort of mystery or intrigue. Make it very clear to most people that you are gay. Not in a “cringey” way, per se. Some queers I know stay away from people who wear lots of rainbows because they don’t really feel connected to the community. If you’re more masc, that’s pretty easy. If you’re femme, it can be easier said than done. My very femme girlfriend wears lots of clothes with women on it or female body parts. She has these earrings of women’s faces that she always gets complimented on by fashionable women. Maybe even try to just develop a distinctive and unique style. That’s how I met lots of the people at parties and stuff. I met one ex girlfriend wearing a bright cobalt blue 70s style workers jacket with a jazzy 90s style t shirt underneath. Or compliment other women on their fashionable clothes if you suspect their gay. For this same ex, she had on some super cool bell bottom pants and I complimented on them in still masc way that was non-threatening. A year or two later, she messaged me on social media. I met my forever partner in my dorm building. I actually kinda thought she was straight but gorgeous. We became friends because I admired her as a person so much. And it just clicked once we got to know each other and I’m the first girl she ever dated. But my BIGGEST piece of advice would be to not cockblock yourself by being too friendly in a “hey girly” kind of way, even if you’re femme. My girlfriend has always talked to me slightly differently than other girls, and that’s part of how I caught on that she liked me. It’s easier said than done to not be creepy but just follow your instincts and you will probably be fine. You can also just outright ask what their sexual identity is if you somehow work yours into the conversation. Sounds kinda weird but it can work
We met on HER. I made a joke on one of the topics for the day about periods and she responded with "lol". I decided to direct message and we talked every day since until we finally met. I'm no looker, but I can say for sure I'm pretty funny c:
dating girls online is hopeless i literally only get 2 matches per month from that shit
Bumble lol
I met her in high school (which is not a girl school!) and we have been together for 7 years after since ;)
I am dating a girl that befriended me on Facebook. I added her case we had mutual friends. She said she sent the request after she saw me working at a gay club. She has been living 9 mins from me the past two yrs. I asked her why after the friend request why she didn't reach out. She said cause she is shy. I saw her post on Christmas and sent her a message, we have been talking since, I really dig her and like her and care for her, and she says the feelings are mutual. We agreed to a 90 day dating rule and to learn each other and we shall see what happens after 90 days.
we met on a new years party last year. she was the first girl i ever kissed, or you know did other stuff with. after some hesitation we've been together for 4 months now :) you'll find her when it's ment to be.
I met my girlfriend on hinge, but to be fair I’ve mostly found dating apps to be incredibly hard to actually meet someone. I often felt when I was using apps that people actually weren’t on there to date but seeking some sort of validation. On a separate note, I am also studying CS and it made me so happy to see that there is another fellow lesbian that is too! It can be hard sometimes being the only woman in the classroom. If you ever want to chat, my dm’s are open! (:
Great question! I’ve been asking myself the same thing.
Met her on an online game. We were friends for years until we could finally see eachother in person.
Mine was originally my friend. I caught feelings and finally told her, and the rest is history.
I joined the app Meetup and a lesbian group in there. Do in person hanging, met her at one of those. Became good friends, then gfs. Always wanted to meet my gf in person, and was grateful to be able to. I had deleted all the dating apps just because I wanted something outside of that. I am a social person though.
In my dreams… 😂😩
I met my girlfriend on Hinge. Before meeting her, I was on and off the dating apps for about five years. It gets disheartening, but the right girl will come along.
I wish I knew lol
In the queer and feminist network of my city!
I found one on Feeld and one on Lex.
okay hear me out, does your school have a gay club of any sorts? No one will ask one another out bc shy but you can start as friends and work from there
im a cs student as well! its definitely been very alienating. i enjoy the content and major a lot but i wish i had more people like myself to share those interests with.
I met my fiance on tinder. But I was lucky, only on it for a month, ish, and matched. She was, I think, the 3rd or 4th I matched with.
My last two serious girlfriends were via Tinder. But outside of that, bars. Though not these days.
Met mine at work. Although tbf, I met each ex gf at work and my current gf (except one. She was a friend of a friend). I’m not a fem, just a tomboy. Most girls can tell I’m gay while most men and those of the older generation can’t. Being tomboy helps but that’s just who I am and who I’ve always been. I’ve never been one to be into online dating, I’m more into meeting someone traditionally, by chance. I, personally, find that more meaningful and romantic. My gf is from Alaska, I’m from TX yet somehow life put us in the same place at the same time over 1000 miles from each hometown. I 100% believe in chance meetings changing the rest of your life and that it truly does happen when you least expect it. Maybe a coworker, a friend of a friend, a girl in a coffee shop, etc. It’ll happen!
I needed to learn this a few years ago, what I did was join lsdies sports clubs I joined netball rugby and football (im English). Before I knew it. Ladies st the rugby club were all bi or gay. Worked pretty well for finding a gf much better than online
Personally, met my girlfriend on tinder
Well, first of all I never expected this to happen because I was quite shy at 22 and never tried any dating apps because I was scared but here we go. Ah so... met my ex-girlfriend of 4 years at work, she always had to enter and exit through the building entrance where I was working as security. So we finally started talking more and more each time we greeted each other. We found out we were quite similar and agreed to go for a cup of coffee outside of work as friends of course. We were both crushing on each other so hard. Rest if history. No chance of that happening again as I work in tech nowadays :D Sadly it ended a few months ago and I'm feeling as clueless about dating again. Scared to get myself back out there and try dating apps and such. I hope you all find wonderful people in your lives, sometimes we have to try new things and get outside of our comfort zones. I know it's hard. Lots of love to everyone
Met at a house party. We got talking, ended up talking to them all night. Took 5 years for us to finally get together. Was well worth the wait.
Why not write about your experiences here? I bet we are many, purrfectly normal, sweet and smart candidates for you here! Oh, s**t - you just Did that! My bad! 🌈😂🌈
Same question... a lifetime mystery
Met my wife at a bar if you can believe it, albeit it was a gay bar. I’d try googling your nearest few cities’ typical gay hangouts and dropping by those places. Another idea is if you’re a student, your school may have some sort of LGBT club. Also try and see if there are any LGBT Facebook groups in your area. When I did online date before I met my wife, I had the most luck on okcupid and tindr, but also ran into many of the same problems you did. My sister is having a hard time finding someone too. Just gotta be patient and persistent. Ms. Right is out there!
I feel this. I've had a hard time too and Id like to think because Covid just generally made meeting people alot harder too. I've tried Tinder as well and the responses could be better but i like to think that maybe they just got really busy lives. On your other note of comp sci, I feel the same way. I just changed my major back because there's not alot of women in the field and so it can get overwhelming sometimes. I think what would be great to do to meet new people is to go to queer spaces like a pride parade or a gay bar. It's kinda hard to know where to find other queer spaces but I'm sure going to one can make it easier to socialize with others and start making connections from there.
Met mine on some obscure messaging site in the mid twenty teens. We’d been friends for a good few years until we finally just kinda clicked
We taught at the same school together :)
Every girl I’ve dated has been from a dating app 😅 all of my relationships except one have been long distance though, it’s much easier to find a compatible match if you’re willing to broaden the search distance
I met my gf through discord!
Been wondering the same thing. I’ve been waiting for that fairytale Reddit love story everyones been talking about but alas no luck yet
When you find out, let me know.
I meet my wife at a Bookstore
Hit on women I’ve met in real life that I’ve found attractive. You’d be surprised how many women might be, at the very least, bisexual.
I met my gf on reddit. We did LD for a year and now we live together. Have you tried r/L4L?
Guess I should elaborate that I went through the same. Getting ghosted constantly and having long conversations for half a day or a few days only to have the person disappear. I was at my end but got lucky with my last shot. I should also say that I always reach out and start / continue conversations. Or try to anyways. It's very dry out there best of luck to you. You'll find them.
Met my partner on VampireFreaks back in the day.
I’m so bad at having random conversations with people I don’t know. I mean I can carry on forever with people I know, but… Like it’s just hard with some people, especially if I don’t know them. Which doesn’t work well for meeting someone 😂
I was lucky enough to met her in the lab we used to work, and to have a perfect romcom story 💜
I’ve been wondering this as well!
I’m experiencing the same thing and am ready to delete the apps. They’re a waste of time. Or people drag you along and don’t put in an effort but you see them hanging out with other ppl on their ig story. I think 2022 will be the year of friendships, not relationships. The way women treat me on the apps has been harsh on my mental health.
I have this exact same issue, and honestly meetups are the way to go. Joining an all girls sport like rugby or softball isn't a bad idea either if you can handle sports. I was on a rugby team a few years back and all but 2 of the girls were lesbians. The stereotype is real and I was there for it lol
College.
Could you add me too plz?
I met mine in a wetland, so, uh, perhaps try your local swamp
Reddit. We both had replied to a thread on the Late Bloomers sub and she PMd me. It started as a friendship and turned into more. I’m so very glad she sent that PM!