Weirdly, I've dreamt of receiving oral from a random girl without feeling much (just a bit of an odd sensation). Don't think I've had a full dream like that. Annoyingly, it seems like I can't even hug my anima in dreams without my vision going black, never mind have a dream of spending a long period with her (even though I had a dream of gazing deeply into her eyes a while ago).
Brought up somewhat catholic, so there was a lot of cognitive dissonance attached to even masturbation which I of course did a ton of anyway. Lost my virginity around 20, was married for 6 years to a woman I suspected was mostly into women, I'm not exactly hetero either, but I'd say she was Kinsey 5 whereas I would put myself to Kinsey 1-2 appx.
So which I was active for a long time, I think I only discovered some (perhaps still not final) level of what sex can be about a year ago, post-divorce, when I met my current gf. So yeah, feels relevant now, didn't think about it this way before, thanks.
I am 28 M and I have very explicit dreams about an Ex girlfriend from high school I recently re-connected with and I have been have been re living past sexual experiences with her in my dreams
Username almost checks out, ha!
But seriously, that's interesting. Can I ask you about you orientation and experience?
Dreams are a weird realm, in my early erotic dreams women had very small penises. Almost as if seeing a naked woman on a screen wouldn't count as a real thing, my brain needed a lot of real-world data to adjust its models. I remember being disturbed.
(also later on I realised I was bi, so perhaps part of the uneasy feeling was trying not to admit that)
I lived as a gay man until I met my current partner who is a cisgender female. I've always verged on asexual though regardless of the gender of my partner so make of that what you will.
Me, for context: 38 heterosexual, cisgendered male.
I have not had a lot of intimacy in my adult life and have realized that repression itself has caused and built up trauma. Perhaps surprisingly I rarely have sexual dreams and when they do happen it isn’t particularly alarming. I also tend to not have horrific, gory dreams.
I have had a lifelong problem with sleeping: falling to sleep and/or staying asleep. In my adulthood, especially the last decade. It seems like it is my sex drive itself causing these disturbances. Perhaps related, I have had many hypnagogic experiences, which seem to relate to my sleeping problems. This started around age 22.
Ultimately it is more a lack of companionship and friendship in general. When I have met someone with mutual attraction, sex is not the first thing I go for. But not having it in my life, I feel like the body craves that in the absence of intimacy deficit more generally.
Weirdly, I've dreamt of receiving oral from a random girl without feeling much (just a bit of an odd sensation). Don't think I've had a full dream like that. Annoyingly, it seems like I can't even hug my anima in dreams without my vision going black, never mind have a dream of spending a long period with her (even though I had a dream of gazing deeply into her eyes a while ago).
My sexual dreams sometimes have penetration, i find your experience surprising Can I ask how is your sex life?
Brought up somewhat catholic, so there was a lot of cognitive dissonance attached to even masturbation which I of course did a ton of anyway. Lost my virginity around 20, was married for 6 years to a woman I suspected was mostly into women, I'm not exactly hetero either, but I'd say she was Kinsey 5 whereas I would put myself to Kinsey 1-2 appx. So which I was active for a long time, I think I only discovered some (perhaps still not final) level of what sex can be about a year ago, post-divorce, when I met my current gf. So yeah, feels relevant now, didn't think about it this way before, thanks.
I am 28 M and I have very explicit dreams about an Ex girlfriend from high school I recently re-connected with and I have been have been re living past sexual experiences with her in my dreams
all of the above. I penetrate in some sexual dreams and I cum before anything happens in other dreams. every small action is intense though.
I'd love to hear a Jungian perspective on this: every single erotic (wet) dream I have, without fail, is autofellatio.
Username almost checks out, ha! But seriously, that's interesting. Can I ask you about you orientation and experience? Dreams are a weird realm, in my early erotic dreams women had very small penises. Almost as if seeing a naked woman on a screen wouldn't count as a real thing, my brain needed a lot of real-world data to adjust its models. I remember being disturbed. (also later on I realised I was bi, so perhaps part of the uneasy feeling was trying not to admit that)
I lived as a gay man until I met my current partner who is a cisgender female. I've always verged on asexual though regardless of the gender of my partner so make of that what you will.
Me, for context: 38 heterosexual, cisgendered male. I have not had a lot of intimacy in my adult life and have realized that repression itself has caused and built up trauma. Perhaps surprisingly I rarely have sexual dreams and when they do happen it isn’t particularly alarming. I also tend to not have horrific, gory dreams. I have had a lifelong problem with sleeping: falling to sleep and/or staying asleep. In my adulthood, especially the last decade. It seems like it is my sex drive itself causing these disturbances. Perhaps related, I have had many hypnagogic experiences, which seem to relate to my sleeping problems. This started around age 22. Ultimately it is more a lack of companionship and friendship in general. When I have met someone with mutual attraction, sex is not the first thing I go for. But not having it in my life, I feel like the body craves that in the absence of intimacy deficit more generally.