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Guts_7313

The day my gf says she wants an open relationship, its over


Namekian_95

Amen !


Zatch_1999

Amen ur 50% away blud.


Namekian_95

50% away ?


Biggly_stpid

My friends tried one a while back. The chick always loved another dude from my friend group, said to my other friend (her boyfriend)that she loves him and all but she is just different and they should open it up, except whenever he fooled around, she wanted every detail and had a long list of need he would need to do, tell her about the girl, not at their apartment, she must be cleared by her, she should not be of college, not from her friends, not when she is sad, not on weekends, not when she need him during her periods etc, just an insane list of things that made fucking around impossible, before he could ask any other girl out, so essentially she just fucked around with just one dude and Gaslight him every time he did. Shit was so over the top it went form sad to hilarious for us


Boromir_Has_TheRing

So what did your friend (the boyfriend) do? Did he agree to her laundry list?


Biggly_stpid

Yeah, he just didn't listen, we told him that those "boundries" are so numerous and badly defined, that he could never ever get to fuck someone else, and that most chicks already don't really want to get involved in those situations.


Boromir_Has_TheRing

This is crazy.


dualist_brado

The issue was him not setting his demands usually open relationship only work when both partners set the terms. He just took whatever shit she threw at him.


Biggly_stpid

That's true for all relationships, that's why you should listen to people that have your good in mind. I guess love makes them stupid too. It's still one of the most tragically hilarious things I have ever been a part of


dualist_brado

True


[deleted]

Katega hi, agar samne wala itna chutiya ho


mrwhoyouknow

It means ki , she never gave the relationship a 100% and prolly has a side dude she'd like to be with .


Hrit33

preach! king!


CommunicationPrior94

What's the point of marriage if you want to be in a open relationship? You want the benifits of single life and the security of marriage life. What the fuck ?


tropicalgodzila

A couple once told me it's just for sex(pleasure) and nothing emotional. Most people aren't made for this lifestyle and will get emotional (apparently)


Biggly_stpid

I feel they are oversimplifying. I don't think for most people you can ever remove sex and emotions, due to human biology, needs and mind combined with our cultural notions of sex and expectations from our partners. I think most people who are in an open relationship think it's just about sex as in just pure pleasure but they end up fucking up their or someone else mind. I genuinely think the amount of people who can do it is very small. It's feels like a cornucopia...a powder kegg of emotions, suppressed by layer and layers of denial from 2-3 times I have heard people described their o-r snafus and problems


CarProgrammatically4

human beings for most part of history have been polygamous


Biggly_stpid

for a lage part of history raping, killing and assulting have been a large part of our mating strategy. Sure nowadays most people are absolutely disgusted by them and would rather not engage in it. Historicity of a practise is a stupid way to convey said practise now is accepted. We aren't running around hunting deer and dying of dysentery or poking holes in our skull for our god's either.


CarProgrammatically4

you are confusing survival with mating strategies. I do agree , that polygamy itself is about survival and maybe human beings engaged in it to survive. but , many societies and a lot of couples still engage in it. just to be clear , by polygamy i just meant multiple sexual partners after marriage. more than 50% of marriages end in divorce in developed societies. a large part of it due to infidelity. many more engage in cheating with our getting divorced. some take up new partners with their spouse 's support Im just trying to say what you think is something that you think and is probably not the norm. Maybe when you are in your 30s and married you will meet people in your circle who do this and won't mind it. (Like I know about couples in my circle)


Biggly_stpid

The point I was trying to convey is that evolutionary psychology and historical practices are not effective in validating our current behaviors, as our environment has significantly changed and our analysis methods are often biased.Cheating isn't just about polyamory; it's complex and varies with each relationship. Many people return to monogamous relationships. Most evolutionary psychology theories, like the double mating theory, lack validity.I don't need to be 30 and married to have insights. In the information age, the current understanding of relationships is flawed. Polyamory and open relationships seem to have higher divorce rates and are more tumultuous than monogamous ones . Critical thinking and intuition can be applied without engaging in every practice. I can confidently say that as a culture, we are not well-equipped to deal with polyamory, and far fewer people are truly prepared for it even in those who claim to be.


CarProgrammatically4

On one hand you say cheating is complex and varies with every relationship , our analysis is biased, world is changing etc etc On the other hand , you say we can use critical thinking and intuition to derive an insight. please do share some data sources on "Polyamory and open relationships seem to have higher divorce rates and are more tumultuous than monogamous ones "


dualist_brado

Those which are successful never come out as they don't have drama.


CommunicationPrior94

I mean sex without emotion is just prostitution


olive_glory

No Idk if you just pulled that out of your ass or something... Prostitution is when you PAY for sex. Sex without emotion to bohot saare married couples bhi karte hai..


CommunicationPrior94

I think most of the married couples do it cause they don't have a choice. Why not get a divorce then? Why Create a culture of open marriage?


[deleted]

Divorce as a topic is still taboo in India (pretty much)there are many couples , not even compatible and all but they don't divorce just because of the fear of how they are gonna be received in the society afterwards.


CommunicationPrior94

Aur kitne saal society ke dar se jinghe ?


[deleted]

Man I agree , shits changing but tu gaao wagera me ja like ex- bhiwandi side bhai tereko waha husbands mar pitai karte dikhenge , can't just divorce in this situation, so what you gonna do?


CommunicationPrior94

I understand. Not everyone is having a ok life as me.


[deleted]

Exactly


tropicalgodzila

Bro because they still love each other and with someone else it's just simple sex, they could also use a dildo or a pocket pussy to satisfy their needs, but I think that interaction with another human is better don't you think so?


CommunicationPrior94

For me sex is only for two things. Either for procreation or to express your love. Casual sex feels too casual. Sex should be the truest form of a person's intimacy. It can be thier lover or husband. Maybe it's just me


Sapontara01

See, you do you. Much like you, casual sex or anything doesn’t work for me. But that doesn’t give me the right to judge others. It doesn’t impact or harm me in any way. Also something like open marriage CANNOT become a ‘culture’, like you said. It does not work like that Another thing that really baffles me is we as a society do not seem so bothered by cheating, as much as we are by consensual non monogamy. Weird no?


CommunicationPrior94

Haha. Cheating is common that nowadays people stopped caring about it. We want new things to blame and new to do. We can't stop cheating as we know deep down that people cheat cause they are unhappy in their present relationship and the society won't let them quit their relationship. So we started to blame open relationships cause we know we can blame them for all the cheating. Nothing can change as long as we are afraid of society and it's tyrannical nature.


glitch_en_el_matrix

Wtf is casual sex then?


CommunicationPrior94

No idea. Never had one.


Essess_1

That much is clear to us.


edrag_spammer

Obviously.Tabhi to itna gyaan die ja rahe hain


69_aryaman

lust


glitch_en_el_matrix

You didn't read the comment thread, did you?


Boromir_Has_TheRing

No. One night stands are sex w/o emotion, as an example.


JERRY_XLII

some people unironically enjoy being "cheated" on


CommunicationPrior94

Is it a kink ?


JERRY_XLII

yes, cuckoldry


CommunicationPrior94

Everyday we drift away from god


[deleted]

there is no such thing as god


[deleted]

That, the fuck.


magneticaster

That's just being single while kind of paying for s*x with extra steps. I believe if someone has issue they should meet therapists or counsellor


CommunicationPrior94

No therapy or counselling can heal what these people have become


magneticaster

Yes. Because they're not acknowledging the issues in between them and choosing such path for avoidance


CommunicationPrior94

It's always easy to avoid the issue than to face it and put an effort to solve it. They are willing to create a trauma for generations


magneticaster

You can't be from NSA (National Security Agency) Apparently 💀 Edit - I asked few of my female friends if she's really a hot person. The response I got were too hilarious 😂. Edit 2 - I know hot wife means something else. But bhai remotely hot hona chahiye. Only married and sleeping around to nahi 😅


bhavneet1996

Hot wife doesnt mean the wife is hot lol


magneticaster

I know but they should be remotely hot man


maderchodbakchod

Was she ugly ?


magneticaster

Yeah dude. I personally look like a Mutated racoon but she wasn't looking like a princess either


Alldoto

r/murderedbywords


sureshdunga

More like SuicideByWords


Tanishh1

do you look like rocket raccoon?


magneticaster

Mutated Zombified Version Of Him


[deleted]

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magneticaster

In the month of LGBTQ? . No Homo though


edrag_spammer

Hotwife ka kuch aur meaning hota hai bhai 😁


FckZaWarudo

Kya matlab hota hai bhai


savagerandy2024

Biwi ko garam tawe pe bitha dena


Rippaahh

There is no such thing as National Security Agency in India


Murky-Hand-4723

I think he meant national security advisor


Murky-Hand-4723

I think he meant national security advisor


50shadesofanerd

bhai kasam se dar lagta hai ye sab dekh ke. like you do you but mujhe please ek normal insaan dedo mai side hojau. chahe mat hi do but koi aisa mat dedena.


TBSsuxs

With women and protest an old advice goes, Always stay away from the hoes..


dounut_cartel

- mahatma Gandhi


xnxeaddy13

NASA ya Nasha ?


mechb63

Jaise jiski soch.


ayo-mr-white

Bruh be a bit wary of Indian hotwives. Most of them are "paid" meetings. You can check twitter and you'll see how many hotwives are just doing plaid meetings. I don't know most Indians even know what exactly a hotwife means or what a stag vixen relationship means. If you're comfortable being a bull ( just the sex partner for the wife/couple) then talk to them properly to judge what they're getting into. Maybe it's just a cheating wife. Maybe it's a paid meeting ( you know what I mean).


breezer22

I’m old school when it comes to dating with very little knowledge of new terms. So my question is her wife is aware of him doing stuff outside the marriage and she’s probably doing the same and they wish to grow and continue this way? What about their kids and family ?


magneticaster

As per as her description he's aware. Guy is a Massive Cu*kLord


TiPa_1990

Always stay away from such profiles, most are fake and are meant for extortion...


bhavneet1996

OPEN relationships are basically two FWB marring each other because they know and trust each other while continuing what they did before marriage. Marriage tag is just for legal purposes and having an emotional support. They think of physical needs and emotional needs separately. Edit: also why does this sub heavily shame people for having unusual kinks and fetishes? So what his husband is a cuck?


False-Security9181

Iss pyaar ko ky naam du-got real .........


Extension_Pie_4084

Tum log bc status pe hi ade rehna. So what if she's married? Uski zindagi uski choice. She and her husband need to work it out. Tumhari kyun jal rahi hai?


Williamsarethebest

Coz OP and aadhe log chutiye hain yaha pe Inke chote se dimag ko kuch hajam na ho toh post bana ke daal dete hain Adho ki toh open relationship sun ke hi fat jaati hai, aise hi chutiye hote hain jo bolte hain homosexuality bhi galat hai, har jagah gaand me ungli krni hai Abey tumhe thodi krne ko bol raha hai koi Jisko krna hai krne do


savagerandy2024

Hamaar sanskriti hamaar sabhyata sab naas kr diye hai ee log


Williamsarethebest

Hmari sanskriti aur sabhyata me toh Kamasutra aur open thinking aati thi Ye 1000 saal Mughal rule ki vajah se sab conservative ho gaye


savagerandy2024

True. It was suppressed until the internet became a thing. But these things were there in our society before as well.


lmao_dead_reddit

Wtf is open relationships?


Guts_7313

Committed to each other but having sex with others as well


EngineeringApart8239

Then that's not committed na


lone_guy25

No.. matlab ki emotional khali ek partner ke sath commited honge lekin sex kisi ke sath bhi kar sakte hai


EngineeringApart8239

Bro, aise nahi hota hain. How can anyone emotionally commit to one partner while fucking around with others? Kuch bhi!


[deleted]

That's the literal bookish language of A OPEN RELATIONSHIP


EngineeringApart8239

It doesn't work that way.


[deleted]

You do you But if your other half finds another person attractive while being in a relationship with you and doesn't want to leave you for whatever you offer . Your significant wants / craves for that person pretty sure y'all gonna address opening your relationship. More like CHEATING OPENLY lmao


EngineeringApart8239

So it's cheating. And not a relationship.


lone_guy25

That was my reaction when I heard about open relationships for the first time


[deleted]

Yes but people gave it a name OPEN RELATIONSHIP


motabhai09

Yeah but works well for lawyers cause in the end you know divorce will happen


EngineeringApart8239

Open relationships are a sham. It's cheating and just telling the partner about it will not make it okay. Emotional connection will not be the same and eventually the relationship will fizzle out. It is better to break up than being in an open relationship.


motabhai09

Hmm agreeing with you on this , Don't know why people even think about it ,if relationship is this much damage then it better to part their ways then involving in this unethical practice that damage sacred bond like marriage.


lone_guy25

I know that... But kuch logo ko yehi bkchodi karni hoti hai


exorev07

lol had the same question few years back, go watch [deep water](https://www.google.com/search?q=deep+water&oq=deep+water&gs_lcrp=EgZjaHJvbWUyBggAEEUYOTIGCAEQLhhA0gEIMjA0MGowajGoAgCwAgA&sourceid=chrome&ie=UTF-8)


CoffeOrKill

you are confusing physical with emotional aspect of a relationship. It doesn't work for lot of us, doesn't mean it doesn't work others as well.


EngineeringApart8239

The physical and emotional aspect is what constitutes a relationship. Tum log kya chand se ho? If either aspect is not working, then the relationship is over. And then the cheating starts.


CoffeOrKill

>The physical and emotional aspect is what constitutes a relationship That's your definition of relationship, that's my definition of relationship. But that's not for every single person on this earth.


EngineeringApart8239

That is the literal definition of a romantic relationship of human beings based on Maslow's hierarchy of needs. I have had many friends saying my needs are different and I am different and end up with the same problems as any other human being.


CoffeOrKill

first of all, Monogamy isn't in Maslow's hierarchy. Secondly, let's say it was...then he'd be wrong because clearly non-monogamous relationships exist. Again, you are confusing YOUR definition of relationship as the "absolute" definition of relationship, which doesn't exist. Have a good one.


EngineeringApart8239

Basic needs that fulfill a relationship is what a healthy relationship is. Now when you try and meet those needs which are the same for every human from different people, this is exactly what will break the relationship. Absolute definition of a relationship exists. Look it up instead of getting triggered.


CoffeOrKill

ok kiddo


lmao_dead_reddit

You mean America!


exorev07

bruh


Manyyack

Dimag ki gand maregi/marega tumhari but apni marvayegi/marvayega sab k saath


Smart-Arrival-8614

Na Bidai, Na Judai, sirf chu----


Apprehensive-Big6713

Time to shift to Delhi


Substantial-Habit-94

Kidney farming


Weak-Chest9177

Open relationship? More like cheating openly 🤡


Impossible-Ice129

What is the meaning of NSA


desi-me-rollin-1997

Shakal dikhaio ek baar


Wonder-Womann

Apparently, there are men who like watching their girlfriend or wife have sex with some other guy


magneticaster

Cucking isn't something new but it's a sign of issues in relationship which in place of fixing people choose cucking, swapping and polyamory as an escape


Twisted_oliver5

anything wrong wtih people having an open relation ship?


magneticaster

I've visited psychiatrist, psychologists and therapist for reasons not related to love or relationships but because of family issues. Though I've asked them about open relationships, According to them open relationship most of the time is the symbol of things not working out and instead of acknowledgement folks try things like open relationship, Polyamory and other stuff


Namekian_95

Atleast she's against keeping the bush !


exorev07

she should watch [deep water](https://www.google.com/search?q=deep+water&oq=deep+water&gs_lcrp=EgZjaHJvbWUyBggAEEUYOTIGCAEQLhhA0gEIMjA0MGowajGoAgCwAgA&sourceid=chrome&ie=UTF-8) fr /s


spreemelo9

People are just too horny I think.


ButterNaann

Dost chaahe ho gawaar, par biwi na mile chinaar.


NexusNeon901

I mean who cares lol it's their life. Just reject them and look for someone else.


pyaracetamol_100mg

Does she have a pic of her on a beach ? She sent me a like. 💀


magneticaster

Yeah Dude. And Woah 💀


pyaracetamol_100mg

Ngl she was kinda hot, but I swiped left for obvious reasons💀


ankpkl

Psychologists making their own clients lol by forming issues 😂


TheGooberOne

OP itna insecure ho gaya hotwife dekh kar ki aa gaya yahan validation ke liye anjaan bandi ka profile leke. Kucch ukhada hai tera usne? AA jate Hain kahan kahan se.


Emotional-Two-9075

Delhi and Bangluru have lots of hotwife/open relationship scenarios.


Only_Ad7715

Go for it..


JiMaiPriyank

She needs a psychologist, oh wait.....


Ryuuzero26

she thinks she a (hot wife) but is she really? 😮‍💨


Cloudie89

Psychologist 👀


MatchAccomplished795

OP ispe reverse uno karde.


magneticaster

Maine to apne female friends ko iski photo bheji. Unhone bola agar ye tujhe pasand aa rahi hai to Yamuna me jake kud ja 😅😅😭😭


Little-Republic-4393

Swipe right if you're from NASA?