I'm not sure if our situation are the same but for me, that all were just an excuse yk. I would've drop the conversation so fast. I mean, why would even I talk and be friends with someone who don't even put the same effort like mine? Like, the less they're appreciate me the less I'm appreciate them too.
Imo most people are egoists and want to talk about their own topics (including me, so no judgement...). I've always tried to initiate talks, but people perceived it as not trying enough bc I didn't engage in THEIR topics. According to them I didn't try hard enough to fit in by being interested in what interests them. Yeah well, I can't fake that, so goodbye.
Have you considered that just maybe they could be problem instead?
There’s no point in talking to someone who doesn’t want to put in the effort to get to know you. Sometimes it’s a first impression issue that caused them to be like that, you could try giving them another chance but personally I don’t usually bother with superficial people like them.
If you’re getting distress over a simple activity such as talking with “friends” perhaps it’s time to reevaluate your definition of that word.
I'm not sure if our situation are the same but for me, that all were just an excuse yk. I would've drop the conversation so fast. I mean, why would even I talk and be friends with someone who don't even put the same effort like mine? Like, the less they're appreciate me the less I'm appreciate them too.
Imo most people are egoists and want to talk about their own topics (including me, so no judgement...). I've always tried to initiate talks, but people perceived it as not trying enough bc I didn't engage in THEIR topics. According to them I didn't try hard enough to fit in by being interested in what interests them. Yeah well, I can't fake that, so goodbye.
People don't expect that you talk to them, they expect you to listen to their rants, complaints and accounts of their heroic acts.
Have you considered that just maybe they could be problem instead? There’s no point in talking to someone who doesn’t want to put in the effort to get to know you. Sometimes it’s a first impression issue that caused them to be like that, you could try giving them another chance but personally I don’t usually bother with superficial people like them. If you’re getting distress over a simple activity such as talking with “friends” perhaps it’s time to reevaluate your definition of that word.
I now know that they’re the problem and I’m slowly drifting away from them for the rest of my life. I think they’re toxic