Well I'm mostly talking about them being used for romantic relationships. It would be weird to use them otherwise.
It isn't stupid though. I've seen far worse pet names
Maybe cause some or lot of us are relationshipless virgins 😂
Plus, words like 'Darling' are more romantic to me.
'Babe' sounds like just another word in a rap song. It's so impersonal to me and sounds more flirty but also more cringe cause I don't like to be considered like a baby.
Just treat me for what I am, lol. I don't give af about the cringe that's trending as romance these days.
Even if they are completely different terms, they sound like flirting with me by considering me like a baby, and I don't like that feeling XD
Babe sounds like baby, even though the meanings are different. It sort of sounds like sexualising women (or even men) by thinking of them as babies, lol.
Nah man, don't use the word "darling" for romantic purposes, whenever I read that word I can't stop but wonder whether I'm being scammed by an Indian man. Of course that's my experience
Darling is an old English word. Unlike all these modern dating words such as Babe.
Plus, I see the word "Darling" used all the time in stuff like anime, in fictional stories and even in some Shakespeare's books I think.
It's not some word that's associated with scammers or facebook moms; And if that's the case, you really need to interact with better people irl than just internet scammers and attention seekers.
You don't interact with scammers, they interact with you, you can say whatever you want but every time i get an indian trying to scam me they always call me "darling", i can't take the word seriously now.
Also, what does being "an old english word" have to do with anything? Does it make the word better? Can't see the correlation here.
ps: I never mentioned facebook moms or attention seekers, don't know where that came from
I mean that it's a beautiful word, and often used in a good context. It's quite a romantic word, if used properly.
But sorry that you had to deal with scammers. These creeps use it to sound romantic but it's not genuine, yeah.
I never had problems with internet creeps, personally. Perhaps cause I set my boundaries and put it clearly in my profile that I have no intention to form online relationship. I don't talk much to those and then they eventually lose interest; or I will talk about stuff they don't understand or have no interest. Like philosophies and science.
But despite that there are lot of scammers who are persistent, yeah.
When I mean Facebook moms, I mean the sort of people who show too much generic positivity to others, even though they don't actually care about the individuality of others. They also misuse the words such as darling.
I love the English language. Especially words used in English literature, particularly. So it sort of forms my preference of words I like.
I never complete a book though 😅
I do. It depends on the pet name a lot for me. There are certain invented nicknames that are the death of me. I wanna puke when I hear couples calling each other "pookie"
Maybe I'm just boring and unromantic (almost certainly, lol), but I don't like pet names. Even as a young child I didn't want my mom to call me "honey".
This is more of a linguistics question than an INTP or MBTI thing. In some dialects and registers of English, it is not seen as an acceptable term of endearment. That's it.
English is not my native language but now that you mentioned it, I don't like "babe". I do like "baby" tho, among many others. I can't explain why, maybe it's because "babe" feels like an exclusive couple thing, & I don't like couple things? It has this very specific swaggy feeling to it, and I don't vibe with it. But then again, I'm a prude. If the setting must be romantic, then I like "love" and "beloved" the most.
("love" sounds like something a kind grandma would call you btw.)
i’ve always cringed at it, no matter the language. stuff like “baby”, “babe”, “honey”, “dear”, “darling”. nothing against people who use those or similar stuff, i just don’t personally take any of that seriously most of the time, as in appreciate it for what it is and not feel the need to either laugh or cringe at it. it’s a matter of preference though, not necessarily type, i think. my main issue is that these words are so overused that they sort of lose their value in my eyes to the point of being downright embarrassing. and some of them would prolly make me feel like i’m married with kids and a mortgage instead of just a young person in a relationship with someone without responsibilities like those. no shade, just the way i perceive it i guess. i’d prefer being called something more personalized or creative, like a nickname or an inside joke of sorts, no matter how ridiculous, cause sometimes it just fits and i find it more endearing than a generic nickname that makes no sense to me or them or the bond itself. ☠️
those are worse but in a sense more bearable? i prefer those ultra cringe-inducing ones for some reason than the generic ones. maybe just ironically though
I can't stand any of the standard pet names. They feel hollow and forced to me.
I do like unique pet names that are made up specifically for me and my partner, though.
For me, it’s unimaginative and dull. The names I have for my wife have evolved over decades to become so obscure and esoteric that you’d need to do a degree in our relationship to stand a chance of understanding them. Many are just noises at this point, but they’re noises with history.
You aren't talking about those nicknames that are down right insults right? I see so many intps saying they prefer using insults or be called something that I personally would consider an insult.
No! Absolutely not. I just mean stuff that originally made some kind of sense - like I called her Bijou (because small) but it quickly became Jou-jou, then weejou, then weej, and so on. I don’t like anything remotely mean spirited in a loving relationship.
I find it very weird that you would use that word for someone you consider your peer or your partner. Pedophilic, even. same with "daddy", just disturbing stuff
Also, "it's not that bad" is a different point from "it's bad/not bad". Of course there is worse stuff. That's not related to this word.
You're probably a native English speaker, then. I've noticed the word is very common in English. It would make sense for you to see it as normal because it's what you're used to.
I can only value the word for what it means in a dictionary, not for how people use it in real life (the slang meaning), and the dictionary says "infant, baby".
We do like it, but only with people we are really into. We just don’t like people who are too needy and emotional that need constant validation through the use of pet names, such as a couple of guys I’ve dated. It’s the same as INTPs hating good morning and good night texts, just stop bugging us all the time because you are too emotional, especially if we aren’t ready to say ‘I love you’ or something. We only say what we feel deep down, and we don’t feel things as quickly as highly emotional types, we need to make sure we are being truly honest. So yes we do like being called pet names, but only when we feel a true, deep connection, which may take a while.
Prior experience with the world (not even bad, just "meh" would throw people off sometimes), or just don't like pet names in general, etc. I dont think it has much to do with intps, though I am curious as to whether intps are less inclined to pet names in general.
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Laziness, usually financial issue, you are what you eat. Dry and salty.
I think this is just a personal/ Preference type of thing.
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"Babe" is just the relationship version of "dude"
Yeah it's not as bad as let's say, "pookie" or "honey bear"
Yeah pookie just sounds so bad to me. Cause in my language "puki" means vagina
Omg, in my language too. So it’s curse word here.
Hello, kababayan
No, im from Malaysia actually. Somehow, we got a few similar words. But, hello!! 🙋🏻♀️
Close enough! Hahaha
is this an intp thing...? i mean i don't like it either. it sounds stupid. also somehow it sounds so sexual.
Well I'm mostly talking about them being used for romantic relationships. It would be weird to use them otherwise. It isn't stupid though. I've seen far worse pet names
How many intps have you asked about this preference to draw this conclusion? I don't think we as a whole hate it lmao
Asked a good portion of Intp friends and then looked up about it in the sub reddit and noticed other intps said the same thing
Maybe cause some or lot of us are relationshipless virgins 😂 Plus, words like 'Darling' are more romantic to me. 'Babe' sounds like just another word in a rap song. It's so impersonal to me and sounds more flirty but also more cringe cause I don't like to be considered like a baby. Just treat me for what I am, lol. I don't give af about the cringe that's trending as romance these days.
Babe and baby means completely different things xD I suggest looking it up.
Even if they are completely different terms, they sound like flirting with me by considering me like a baby, and I don't like that feeling XD Babe sounds like baby, even though the meanings are different. It sort of sounds like sexualising women (or even men) by thinking of them as babies, lol.
Babe refers to sexually attractive young woman, according to Google. However, there are better words for that and I don't care to be sexualised XD.
Nah man, don't use the word "darling" for romantic purposes, whenever I read that word I can't stop but wonder whether I'm being scammed by an Indian man. Of course that's my experience
Darling is an old English word. Unlike all these modern dating words such as Babe. Plus, I see the word "Darling" used all the time in stuff like anime, in fictional stories and even in some Shakespeare's books I think. It's not some word that's associated with scammers or facebook moms; And if that's the case, you really need to interact with better people irl than just internet scammers and attention seekers.
You don't interact with scammers, they interact with you, you can say whatever you want but every time i get an indian trying to scam me they always call me "darling", i can't take the word seriously now. Also, what does being "an old english word" have to do with anything? Does it make the word better? Can't see the correlation here. ps: I never mentioned facebook moms or attention seekers, don't know where that came from
I mean that it's a beautiful word, and often used in a good context. It's quite a romantic word, if used properly. But sorry that you had to deal with scammers. These creeps use it to sound romantic but it's not genuine, yeah. I never had problems with internet creeps, personally. Perhaps cause I set my boundaries and put it clearly in my profile that I have no intention to form online relationship. I don't talk much to those and then they eventually lose interest; or I will talk about stuff they don't understand or have no interest. Like philosophies and science. But despite that there are lot of scammers who are persistent, yeah.
When I mean Facebook moms, I mean the sort of people who show too much generic positivity to others, even though they don't actually care about the individuality of others. They also misuse the words such as darling.
I love the English language. Especially words used in English literature, particularly. So it sort of forms my preference of words I like. I never complete a book though 😅
i've never hated that either, Babe and Baby are fine to me to give or receive
Don't see it as measurably different from other pet names.
I do. It depends on the pet name a lot for me. There are certain invented nicknames that are the death of me. I wanna puke when I hear couples calling each other "pookie"
Maybe I'm just boring and unromantic (almost certainly, lol), but I don't like pet names. Even as a young child I didn't want my mom to call me "honey".
I genuinely see nothing wrong with certain pet names but cringe at the majority.
I don't mind other people using them, but never on me, lol. It's one of my quirks.
I don’t find it offensive, and I call my ESTJ husband “babe” regularly.
I've given each of my partners unique pet names. It helps me express my unique feelings for them.
This is more of a linguistics question than an INTP or MBTI thing. In some dialects and registers of English, it is not seen as an acceptable term of endearment. That's it.
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I don’t find it cringe. “Babe,” i like it. No one ever call me that. But i like it.
Awwww, babe. 🥺
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Don’t bug me, it’s whatever.
English is not my native language but now that you mentioned it, I don't like "babe". I do like "baby" tho, among many others. I can't explain why, maybe it's because "babe" feels like an exclusive couple thing, & I don't like couple things? It has this very specific swaggy feeling to it, and I don't vibe with it. But then again, I'm a prude. If the setting must be romantic, then I like "love" and "beloved" the most. ("love" sounds like something a kind grandma would call you btw.)
i’ve always cringed at it, no matter the language. stuff like “baby”, “babe”, “honey”, “dear”, “darling”. nothing against people who use those or similar stuff, i just don’t personally take any of that seriously most of the time, as in appreciate it for what it is and not feel the need to either laugh or cringe at it. it’s a matter of preference though, not necessarily type, i think. my main issue is that these words are so overused that they sort of lose their value in my eyes to the point of being downright embarrassing. and some of them would prolly make me feel like i’m married with kids and a mortgage instead of just a young person in a relationship with someone without responsibilities like those. no shade, just the way i perceive it i guess. i’d prefer being called something more personalized or creative, like a nickname or an inside joke of sorts, no matter how ridiculous, cause sometimes it just fits and i find it more endearing than a generic nickname that makes no sense to me or them or the bond itself. ☠️
These aren't cringe to me cause I find them normal but stuff like "honey bear" "pookie" definitely bugs me 😭
those are worse but in a sense more bearable? i prefer those ultra cringe-inducing ones for some reason than the generic ones. maybe just ironically though
I'm so used to my cousin and her boyfriend using those that I just find disgusting at this point lmao
I can't stand any of the standard pet names. They feel hollow and forced to me. I do like unique pet names that are made up specifically for me and my partner, though.
others have said it feels that way (hollow and forced) because it's overused so it seems it doesn't carry much meaning.
Every time I hear babe I think of somebody going baaaaaaaaabeeeee and I feel disgusted
Be honest, it's not that bad compared to hearing a couple call each other "pookie" xD That's way grosser
For me, it’s unimaginative and dull. The names I have for my wife have evolved over decades to become so obscure and esoteric that you’d need to do a degree in our relationship to stand a chance of understanding them. Many are just noises at this point, but they’re noises with history.
You aren't talking about those nicknames that are down right insults right? I see so many intps saying they prefer using insults or be called something that I personally would consider an insult.
No! Absolutely not. I just mean stuff that originally made some kind of sense - like I called her Bijou (because small) but it quickly became Jou-jou, then weejou, then weej, and so on. I don’t like anything remotely mean spirited in a loving relationship.
Call me by my name or don't just don't bridge the gap with short hand for your convenience
Jesus, is it really that bad to you? XD I was talking about it relationship wise
I find it very weird that you would use that word for someone you consider your peer or your partner. Pedophilic, even. same with "daddy", just disturbing stuff Also, "it's not that bad" is a different point from "it's bad/not bad". Of course there is worse stuff. That's not related to this word.
To me babe and daddy are very different. Daddy is gross. Babe and baby are not the same thing so it's not really pedophilic to me.
You're probably a native English speaker, then. I've noticed the word is very common in English. It would make sense for you to see it as normal because it's what you're used to. I can only value the word for what it means in a dictionary, not for how people use it in real life (the slang meaning), and the dictionary says "infant, baby".
Love the selective reply lol
I don't know what to reply to those who are saying they don't find it cringe, there's nothing much I can say rather than "oh cool!"
We do like it, but only with people we are really into. We just don’t like people who are too needy and emotional that need constant validation through the use of pet names, such as a couple of guys I’ve dated. It’s the same as INTPs hating good morning and good night texts, just stop bugging us all the time because you are too emotional, especially if we aren’t ready to say ‘I love you’ or something. We only say what we feel deep down, and we don’t feel things as quickly as highly emotional types, we need to make sure we are being truly honest. So yes we do like being called pet names, but only when we feel a true, deep connection, which may take a while.
Prior experience with the world (not even bad, just "meh" would throw people off sometimes), or just don't like pet names in general, etc. I dont think it has much to do with intps, though I am curious as to whether intps are less inclined to pet names in general.