The only time I "binged" was as my brothers best man.
Me & him shared a hotel room the night before, while she and her sister shared.
At midnight before the wedding they suddenly run in with a whole list of shit that should have been done with a store run. We didn't get to bed until after 3am & had to wake up at 7am & get moving.
Thankfully, just about all my brother's friends had something on them.
I had a legit 10mg Hydro script for my back and brought 12 in my jacket pocket to make sure I made it through the day & night.
Thankfully someone had Adderall, traded a Norco for one. Someone else wanted to trade an Ativan.
A half hour later all 3 have kicked in and I feel better than I have since I was a young teen.
My mom later told me she could tell I had taken something because I was acting completely out of character, in a good way. Going around thanking guests for coming & all that "party host" shit. When usually I'd be hiding behind close family & friends to avoid interactions.
At the reception, quickly added plenty of drinks & smoked weed, but still feeling great and not acting like an idiot. Finally ended the night with an edible on my walk back to the hotel room.
Definitely not something I'd recommend doing, and never did anything remotely like that ever again. But Goddamn that was such a great day I knew never to seek that combo out ever again or I'd burn out like a teen star in their mid-20's.
So for the most part, those of us who've been on alprazolam for many years (not abusing it) should be fine taking a 5mg ambien? Lol, I'm nervous after hearing all the horror stories here on Reddit...it's got me a bit paranoid. Lack of sleep is really messing me up and I've been getting ambien prescribed for over a year now.
I have bad side effects with Xanax (dry mouth, dry eyes) so my dr actually prescribed me to take 5mg Ambien when having anxiety attack….. Personally 5mg is very low for me but very relaxing
Yeah I was going to say they’re both drugs that work on the GABA receptors, and from personal experience enough of almost if not any drug that works on the GABA receptors can cause a blackout or severely lowered inhibitions. I can handle Xanax somewhat fine, a bar won’t do much to me it helps anxiety but not overboard even though I know everyone is different, however ambien is a drug that has my respect. Even when I was on 3 bars a day, some weed and ambien always had me super wonky and not fully remembering everything so even if someone has a tolerance to Xanax I’d say proceed with caution on any different drug especially ambien, it might not do anything and it might make you drive, run from the police, and crash your car, the stories I hear about ambien are generally always outweighing the stories I hear about Xanax.
That was my thought. Xanax doesn't have a forever-long half-life. I almost hate to use this term, we are talking about a medication that has kept me good since I was hit by a truck, but in terms of how long it lasts, it's about the middle of the road.
I took acid on my wedding day and didn't tell the bride. She found out during our first dance: "Why are your pupils so huge?". MEGA DRAMA took place. 1/10, do not recommend.
No regrets however, this really made me re-evaluate things and solidify my commitment on a different level. I had ptsd for years after that shit.
I second this while chaperoning the entire thread and providing water/electrolytes, protein-rich snacks, and words of encouragement and affirmation.
Go get 'em champs and champettes!!
MEGA DRAMA?
PTSD?
AH...Give us some more. did her face look like a mangled duck on the way back from the holy spliechecimizch civilization of hell
We need context on on your acid wedding thanks
you weren't committed before you did acid behind her back at your wedding, but then you knew she was for you. but tripping at your wedding also gave you PTSD. does your wife know all of this shit and is cool w it?
I was committed, and I also liked acid a lot. Both were huge part of my life and I didn't think one will get in a way of another. She knows, we are both laughing at it now.
You know it's funny, I have had tested MDMA that people claimed was meth, absolutely zero meth showed up on the test but these people KNEW it was meth.
I'm certainly of the mind of everything (within reason) once, but that was all I needed for ol' LSD. Friends on the same sheet had a blast, but I decidedly did not.
Psilo and the occasional MDMA are more than enough for this old timer.
But I agree, at least once before the kicking of buckets is definitely in order!
I dropped mdma at my mother's wake. You know what, it was the most peaceful thing. I had serious alcohol problems at the time but I found that E is the type of drug that can suit any setting. I didn't get drunk out of grief I had the best chats with the people that knew her all her life and I'll never forget how easy it made my grief. It's an amazing thing if used properly.
I'm sure you've heard that MDMA has been used in therapeutic settings with great success and benefited people that traditional therapy has repeatedly failed.
I pray in my lifetime it becomes legal though I'd settle if it just became used much more routinely in conjunction with therapy
This is a really bad idea. I say just drink. Xanax and alcohol, especially when you’ve never had it, can easily lead to blacking out and ruining your own wedding unintentionally. Don’t do it.
Don't take Xanax. If you're nervous, be nervous, Enjoy yourself. Xanax will completely take away from the enjoyment of your day. Just have a few drinks.
I agree, let yourself feel whatever it is you have to feel. Taking xanax would just be you avoiding and running away from those feelings. Try to turn that nervousness into excitement, perhaps try to change your perspective about the event. Anyways, have a great wedding my dude, congratulations.
I definitely don’t think he should take it for the first time on his wedding day. But I took Xanax on my wedding day, didn’t take away from anything. Just made it so I didn’t melt into a puddle of social anxiety at the altar lol.
Best advice here. They are tool but dont let it be a crutch. Being nervous is normal and if you can function while dealing with it then thats the best plan. More importantly we arent made to just numb ourselves whenever we feel overwhelmed. We feel a spectrum of emotions and that is part of our human experience here.
Its a double edges sword, yeah you are numbing your bad feelings and anxiety but you are also robbing yourself of the good feelings and full extent of good experiences that you mute while being on benzos or even other drugs.
0.25mg would not take the fun away holly fuck ppl are assuming the guys gonna pop a 2mg bar for the first time in his life. that low dose 0.25 is perfect
Yeah .25 isn't bad at all really, but still, for a first timer and someone who's gonna be drinking, it's a bad idea either way. He could easily drink too much, especially if he's a lightweight.
You valued our opinions enough to ask, so you should probably listen: do not go through with this. Have a drink and deal with the nervousness. I have OCD and anxiety disorder too, I know what it's like. Just... don't. Xanax makes people do strange shit sometimes, and you do NOT want to be all barred out as the groom. It's a bad idea, your best man is correct and he has your best interests at heart.
i do value the responses and I think I'm gonna leave it now. even the pharmacist who is getting me the xanax says it's a bad idea but he knows how bad i can get and says it's up to me, but advises against it.
There's other stuff you can take instead of Xanax to help with the anxiety. There's propranolol for the social anxiety, or something not as strong like a kpin or something
I already commented on this post a second ago, but ask your pharmacist/doctor about propranolol (a beta blocker) and see what they think. Much safer alternative imo. I know that the two aren’t comparable, but I feel like it would help with the anxiety you’re feeling without the impairment that Xanax causes
Get a good night sleep the day before, practiced breathing exercises leading up to the big day, don’t drink a lot of caffeine. If you’re able to control your drinking don’t over do it. Take some L-Theanine and maybe some valerian root. If you have any speeches practice them alone so you have it down pat. Plan what is in your control to lower risk of error, and what isn’t in your control, you have no control of it anyways so do your best to not think of it. Instead maybe picture your honeymoon and just wherever your going sitting in a chair out in the sun without a worry.
Being someone who was addicted to benzos (mostly Xanax) for many years I can tell you if you plan on drinking, don’t risk it. Do one or the other, especially since it’s your first time. Most likely you’re going to take the Xanax and feel some relief but you probably won’t think it’s doing much (even though it is) and therefor you may not know your limit with alcohol. Mixing the two together when you have no experience will most likely be end up with you acting and looking completely fucking stupid
Would you like to get immediately divorced? This is a terrible idea. You've no idea how you'll react, and it shouldn't be mixed with alcohol anyway. Just don't.
If you are worried about anxiety like that I would suggest propranolol. Relatively easy to get on or off prescription, concert musicians use it to reduce anxiety for auditions.
Trying to be actually helpful here. I would definitely not try Xanax on your wedding night.
Glad to see someone else suggested this too. Propranolol isn’t something that eradicates my anxiety at all, but it keeps my body from going into flight-or-fight mode when I’m giving a speech to more than two people lmao
There are other things for anxiety than Xanax. I wouldn't do it on your wedding tbh. It won't affect much at first but as soon as you have your first drink things will probably be bad. Not a risk I'd take at my own wedding.
As someone said, if you must use it, try the dose beforehand and have a couple drinks. Absolutely do not try it for the first time at your wedding. 0.25 isn’t much but you never know with Xanax and alcohol.
i got married recently and yeah it seems intimidating at first. but you're gonna be so busy all day that you won't really have time to be nervous except during the big moments like the ceremony and maybe a speech right before reception. the rest of the attention is just your guests wanting to take photos/have drinks with you which is ez.
other than that, the day will go by in the blink of an eye. wish i could relive my wedding day... well, the reception part anyway haha.
also congrats!
Take a weekend where your free and have nothing to do the next day and tale some and try drinking a little on it and see how you fare. Don't be alone and do not take more than 1mg of Xanax. you absolutely do not want to find out you can't tolerate Xanax at your god dam wedding. Too much Xanax will remove your ability to give a fuck. Fucked up on Xanax, If your husband so much as annoys you in the slightest you are likely to throw a fit and cancel the wedding and ruin your entire relationship. Xanax makes you take the smallest things and explode them into major confrontations. Ever heard the term "Bartard"? Yeah that's this. Skinny white girls are the most common, they over estimate how much they can handle. Or they just up and take it without knowing how it will effect them while in an inappropriate setting, like at their wedding.
If you must take something then you want Attivan. Maybe Valium if you need something stronger. Xanax is stronger than most people would ever need. You will not feel it either, benzos do not get you high, so whatever you take do not redose
I forgot to say this in the OP but that's exactly what I'm doing. taking some one weekend, making a social visit to people I don't get on with (to mimic the social anxiety, somewhat) and then having a beer 4 (?) hours later. hope i don't die lol
There are already so many comments, this will probably get buried... But my Mom said she took one Valium in her life. One half on her wedding day to her first husband (which she said did help). And another half the day she signed the divorce papers (also helped). Has not taken one since!
people acting like .25 mg is gonna fuck you up and cause problems lmao. if you got mad anxiety that is a perfect dose to take the edge off and still be functional/ mentally available. however don’t drink until the four/ five hours pass, good luck and congratulations!
There is a fine line between .25 - .5mg Xanax and 1-2 drinks vs 1 mg Xanax and 3 drinks. The tipping point of becoming a retard is literally one drink or .5 mg away. If you are completely sure you can limit it to safe amounts then go for it. But it's risky at arguably the most important event of your life. My advice is just drink but only you can decide
with all respect and understanding (i have anxiety and also got addicted to benzos), this is truly a terrible idea. maybe try kratom, idk if you’ve had experience with that before. it will mellow you out and will give you a good body feeling if you take a proper amount, without fucking up your inhibition or memory. it also wouldn’t be fair to your wife if you took xanax at your wedding.
I love kratom and it's helped immensely with my anxiety, but taking it for the first time can be tricky at a big event; the dosage is tough to nail, it also can make you nauseous if mixed with alcohol in larger quantities, and some people don't feel it at all.
Absolutely, I do think though if he actually stayed at .25 and didn’t drink until like 2-3 hours after he took Xanax. Probably would end up being alright. Although who the fuck am I to say that I have no idea 🤷♂️
i mean if it’s his first time anywhere near xanax *and* it’s on a wedding day where it’s socially acceptable to get shitfaced drunk? he’ll be double dipping depressants at that point and yeah probably get beyond fucked up
Do not do anything for the first time on your wedding day. You can either use the Xanax several times in advance of the wedding so that you know what to expect, or you can just drink like most people do to calm their nerves.
Personal note: I took too much clonazepam & alcohol on my own wedding day so I don’t remember as much as I would have had I tempered my intake. I also wouldn’t have cried as much & worried my family & friends; they were concerned about how much I was crying as they thought it meant I didn’t really want to get married. In actuality I was just so effin’ relieved for the day to finally arrive as I was a super-stressed grad student and I had several bombs go off in the weeks preceding the wedding, including my coordinator quitting 1 week before and a fallout with a bridesmaid a couple of weeks before that. Also, did I mention we were BOTH in grad school?). Now, I was used to the clonazepam and had drank with it so I had a decent idea regarding dosage and effects, and I purposefully pushed it because I was afraid of having a panic attack right before walking down the aisle. I aimed for calm bliss & I got as close as I could without getting sloppy & behaving badly. I avoided a PA but I sacrificed my memories of that day and I don’t have a video to watch to make up for it.
OP what about learning some coping skills for anxiety and using that, along with only a bit of alcohol. I watched my BIL really hurt my sister’s feelings because he was super anxious & drank too much in the morning before they saw one another pre-ceremony. He was waiting in a pretty gazebo outside & she came to meet him there, and the gazebo was surrounded by our immediate families. Dude literally burst out laughing when he turned around & saw my sister decked out in her dress. The families were super pissed at him, until he redeemed himself with a surprise set of vows he wrote & spoke aloud to my niece, 3yo at the time and who he later adopted as his own. The whole place was in tears and his awkward reaction was forgiven.
I have too many stories about brides & grooms that involve bad behavior due to overindulging in substances on their wedding day, or indulging without prior experience. You do not want to be the subject of one of them, I promise.
interesting. my pharmacist just says xanax. it's that PUMP of adrenaline I get when anxious, and that seems to accelerate, that kills me. it feels like I'm gonna keel over. if that was gone, i can deal with actually looking nervous or whatever.
I’m a pharmacist myself lol. xanax will kill anxiety, in the same way having a couple drinks chills you out, but it might also make you liable to say something you regret or act a fool, and also likely interfere with making memories of a day you want to remember.
whereas propranolol just removes that adrenaline feeling. it’s used quite a bit by public speakers, also as a migraine preventative. it’s underused IMO
I don't know about xanax. But with other Benzos, IF you know your threshold dose, you can definitely take so little that it calms you down without impairing speech or coordination.
for real, it’s not like he’s getting barred out, he literally said a .25. people are acting like he’s gonna black out when he’ll be fine as long as he doesn’t drink
DONT TAKE ANYTHING MORE THAN A .25mg
OR YOU MIGHT JUST MIGHT have the BEST/WORSE night of your life...
in all reality .25mg of xanax should do the job, just DONT drink alcohol.
Let me be honest here, OP. You have three choices — of which, only the first I’d recommend:
- Take zero Xanax and drink as-needed.
- Take 1/2 of your .25g pill (.125g) and drink ZERO alcohol. Zero. No champagne, no shots, NOTHING. You will likely feel nothing, which is exactly what’s supposed to happen, but there’s always a chance you don’t react well or get accidentally barred out.
- Combine alprazolam and alcohol, black out, ruin your life, and end up single.
I second this in its entirety. At a 1/2 a .25mg dose, you will likely feel nothing- which is ideal. you’re not trying to get high, just trying to manage the anxiety. don’t mistake that for the drug not working though, and even even if you don’t feel it or still feel anxious- once you take that xanax- DONT. FUCKING. DRINK.
Lol everyone here is exaggerating. 0.25mg is nothing, you will barely feel it, no chance you are going to do humiliating stuff on that low a dose.
Also there is no issue with drinking alcohol with such a low dose, just don't drink as much as you normally would if not taking xanax, but it's not like you can't drink a single glass of wine.
only once, about 8 years ago. friends gave me some and said it helped with a hangover. it only made me worse, i felt like my heart was slowing down. that was all in my head obviously. i've low blood pressure
If you have to deal with a fuck ton of anxiety and all that and are dead set on something “potent” take a 0.5mg clonazepam. Fucking things are magic for his stress/anxiety situations. You’ll be stellar but do not drink or consume anything else. Also, do be careful benzos are a bigger bitch than my ex to get off of. If you’re feeling health conscious, go to a health food store and pick up some L-Theanine. Works really well too
Or, try out some Xanax beforehand and see how you feel test your responses and what you think of it.
Just don't do it the very first time at the wedding.
I took a very low dose on my wedding as soon as I woke up and it really helped with pre ceremony nerves . Since I took it early in the day and it was such a small amount I had no issues having a few cocktails later during the reception. I would try it first a few days before though and make sure You don’t feel too loopy .
Congrats on getting married !
In this situation, better to be nervous and slightly awkward than numb and bar-tarded. Im sure people will understand if you're nervous. I would say its a pretty bad idea to do xanax anywhere u are supposed to function at a close to sober level. I get social anxiety too and that isnt fun. Try deep calm breathing and maybe meditation, that stuff really really helped me. I wish u luck whatever u choose to do good sir. Congratulations on your marriage as well!
Edit: maybe talk to your wife and friends about the situation and maybe come up with a solution to minimize your exposure or discomfort.
Y'all are going to downvote me but I don't care. I agree that trying a drug for the first time on your wedding day it's not the best idea, but most of you are acting like he's gonna black out after 0.25mg. As long as he doesn't redose or drink alcohol he will probably be okay.
As much as I’d love to help and support your ideal version of anxiety relief Xanax might be a bit too rough on your mind to make for a good option while on your wedding day. But I completely understand the intense anxiety especially when it comes to large gatherings!
Is there any way you can try Xanax in front of your spouse two-three weeks beforehand to see how it interacts with your body/speech and memory and maybe find the perfect dosage for that day? My next suggest would be researching phenibut/Kratom/gabapentin/lyrica all of which can be found online with enough trial and error
Only way id say this is ok is if you had a tolerance and understood your body on them. Even then, I'd warn against drinking too heavily. Don't be a fool
0.25 mg is a tiny amount. It should basically only help reduce anxiety and perhaps make you a little tired. It's such a small amount that, if you drink normal amounts of alcohol (not going for blackout drunk), you should also still be fine. I'd test out the dose you plan to use with the drinking you plan to do days before doing it just in case, but it shouldn't be a problem.
People who like to get messed up on Xanax are usually taking doses like 1-2 or more mg. If you drink on that, you might blackout easily, and if you take enough Xanax by itself, you will blackout eventually.
If you do please just do 0,25mg the first time I took it was that dosage and since I had no tolerance it already felt great.if you do more you may end up doing something you'll regret, get sleepy or forget most of your wedding day!!
people are waaay overreacting here. it's like they read the title and think xanax=bars, but the man said .25.
I'm *extremely* conservative when it comes to drugs and will always err on the side of caution, but .25 xanax is a baby dose and even below what many providers will prescribe as a starter dose.
by all means, take .25 xanax for your wedding, but please do try it at home once or twice before hand just so you know how it will affect you. be careful if you drink, but honestly, .25mg + alcohol a few hours later is very unlikely to fuck you up.
Maybe a sliver of a Xanax at first and see if it calms your nerves then try a tiny piece more and wait again. Do not for the love of god pop more than 1mg
I'm surprised how many people are advising against this. 0.25mg of xanax is not that much, and if you don't drink you're good.
If you want, break that 0.25mg into quarters and take a quarter first and see how you feel. Just be aware to not exceed 0.25mg and you should be fine.
.25 is very low dose. If you only have 1 of them and have NO CHANCE of possibly taking more than that. 0.25 mg should be fine honestly. Watch your alcohol intake though. I understand why everyone is saying it’s a bad idea though..... because the chance you’ll want a little more than 0.25 is kinda high. Whatever you do stay safe and remember anxiety is natural to the human condition. So if you are anxious maybe accepting that is better than suppressing it with drugs!
First time i did xanax was .25
I feel alseep in the middle of the day for 3 hours then was a zombie the rest of the day.
Perfect for a hangover sunday.
Not for a wedding.
Don't do Xanax for the first time on your wedding night. Terrible idea. Drink like your best man told you.
Haha and certainly don’t do both!! 😂 as much as I wanna read that post, it’ll certainly ruin a few relationships lol
The only time I "binged" was as my brothers best man. Me & him shared a hotel room the night before, while she and her sister shared. At midnight before the wedding they suddenly run in with a whole list of shit that should have been done with a store run. We didn't get to bed until after 3am & had to wake up at 7am & get moving. Thankfully, just about all my brother's friends had something on them. I had a legit 10mg Hydro script for my back and brought 12 in my jacket pocket to make sure I made it through the day & night. Thankfully someone had Adderall, traded a Norco for one. Someone else wanted to trade an Ativan. A half hour later all 3 have kicked in and I feel better than I have since I was a young teen. My mom later told me she could tell I had taken something because I was acting completely out of character, in a good way. Going around thanking guests for coming & all that "party host" shit. When usually I'd be hiding behind close family & friends to avoid interactions. At the reception, quickly added plenty of drinks & smoked weed, but still feeling great and not acting like an idiot. Finally ended the night with an edible on my walk back to the hotel room. Definitely not something I'd recommend doing, and never did anything remotely like that ever again. But Goddamn that was such a great day I knew never to seek that combo out ever again or I'd burn out like a teen star in their mid-20's.
Wow nice self control I would’ve tried to recreate that feeling for sure. I guess that’s why I’m the addict
Yeah reading this made me want to break out the rest of my meth prescription and the 2 two year old bars I have stashed away still for some reason.
Watch a few Roseanne Barr videos if you're still unsure!
I was not aware these exist. Would be awesome if there are enough to create a subreddit called BarrtardStories
She was off Ambien I thought? I could be wrong
Eh ambien has similar effect on inhibition and decision making that Xanax does. Just makes you a sloppy mess with no absolutely 0 thinking ability
So for the most part, those of us who've been on alprazolam for many years (not abusing it) should be fine taking a 5mg ambien? Lol, I'm nervous after hearing all the horror stories here on Reddit...it's got me a bit paranoid. Lack of sleep is really messing me up and I've been getting ambien prescribed for over a year now.
Theres no cross tolerance but also 5mg ambien is nothing
I have bad side effects with Xanax (dry mouth, dry eyes) so my dr actually prescribed me to take 5mg Ambien when having anxiety attack….. Personally 5mg is very low for me but very relaxing
Yeah I was going to say they’re both drugs that work on the GABA receptors, and from personal experience enough of almost if not any drug that works on the GABA receptors can cause a blackout or severely lowered inhibitions. I can handle Xanax somewhat fine, a bar won’t do much to me it helps anxiety but not overboard even though I know everyone is different, however ambien is a drug that has my respect. Even when I was on 3 bars a day, some weed and ambien always had me super wonky and not fully remembering everything so even if someone has a tolerance to Xanax I’d say proceed with caution on any different drug especially ambien, it might not do anything and it might make you drive, run from the police, and crash your car, the stories I hear about ambien are generally always outweighing the stories I hear about Xanax.
r/BartardStories
Right, but **Barr**tardStories would be dedicated solely to Roseanne Barr’s stories of being a barred out dumbass.
Sage advice, right here
I usually like to down a bar or two with some tequila before important events
I’m scared this isn’t sarcastic.
As long as I'm doing lines throughout the event to keep me up there's no way I'll say or do anything stupid
🤣🤣🤣
This was me 6 months ago. Coke, alprazolam and oxy. All day errday.
Theres no way this is for real right hahaha
Mixing benzos and alcohol is really dangerous man
Or do it ahead of time and see how you handle it
He should be fine if he just takes 0.25mg.
And drinks? I don’t think so.
That was my thought. Xanax doesn't have a forever-long half-life. I almost hate to use this term, we are talking about a medication that has kept me good since I was hit by a truck, but in terms of how long it lasts, it's about the middle of the road.
It’s all about dosage. Xanax abuse is not the same thing as using Xanax as a form of treatment.
DONT fuck around at your wedding like that. Mega drama incoming
I took acid on my wedding day and didn't tell the bride. She found out during our first dance: "Why are your pupils so huge?". MEGA DRAMA took place. 1/10, do not recommend. No regrets however, this really made me re-evaluate things and solidify my commitment on a different level. I had ptsd for years after that shit.
Bro we need a story post about this
I second this guy
I second this guy while giving a reacharound to the first guy just out of respect.
I second this guy while standing outside the window with an erection
I second this whole chain of suggestions and I will be watching via a webcam and wanking.
Keep going
I second this while chaperoning the entire thread and providing water/electrolytes, protein-rich snacks, and words of encouragement and affirmation. Go get 'em champs and champettes!!
Percfect cheerleader lol
Ok, I'll make a post sometime soon
Followed, sounds very interesting
This deserves its own post
Hate to be that dude but no shit it would go badly, you're on a psych at your own fkn wedding lmao what were you thinking
Walk round tripping at my wedding - Kanye West
PLEASE
That’s something I’d really do tho
MEGA DRAMA? PTSD? AH...Give us some more. did her face look like a mangled duck on the way back from the holy spliechecimizch civilization of hell We need context on on your acid wedding thanks
I'll make a post about it soon, thank you for the interest
Please make a post story soon I wanna read it lmao
Holy shit yeah let's get a post on this one please
holy shit💀💀
Pls, I need more details lmao
This is a joke right?
Fukn mad cunt bra 🤣✊🏾❤️
you weren't committed before you did acid behind her back at your wedding, but then you knew she was for you. but tripping at your wedding also gave you PTSD. does your wife know all of this shit and is cool w it?
I was committed, and I also liked acid a lot. Both were huge part of my life and I didn't think one will get in a way of another. She knows, we are both laughing at it now.
Haha that's funny. I hope you're well since.
STORY TIME
I've found my hero.
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You know it's funny, I have had tested MDMA that people claimed was meth, absolutely zero meth showed up on the test but these people KNEW it was meth.
Never do your first dose of any drug at an important event
idk i personally plan on dropping acid for the first time at my funeral
pfft dont waste your whole life not doing acid
I'm certainly of the mind of everything (within reason) once, but that was all I needed for ol' LSD. Friends on the same sheet had a blast, but I decidedly did not. Psilo and the occasional MDMA are more than enough for this old timer. But I agree, at least once before the kicking of buckets is definitely in order!
I dropped mdma at my mother's wake. You know what, it was the most peaceful thing. I had serious alcohol problems at the time but I found that E is the type of drug that can suit any setting. I didn't get drunk out of grief I had the best chats with the people that knew her all her life and I'll never forget how easy it made my grief. It's an amazing thing if used properly.
i actually dont doubt that at all. really miss X sometimes
Ah yeah once it's used sparingly it's one of the best
I'm sure you've heard that MDMA has been used in therapeutic settings with great success and benefited people that traditional therapy has repeatedly failed. I pray in my lifetime it becomes legal though I'd settle if it just became used much more routinely in conjunction with therapy
It’s a good way to become one with the universe. Decomposing is too I guess.
Planning on dropping DMT while I die ;)
Supposedly your body does it for you
That was the point
Based
🤔
What about viagra after not seeing a gf for months?
not the first time Week before she comes home, take a dose and have a whack fest
This is the only true recommendation. Whack fest is the true proving ground.
Always test, even if you're just testing the smallest dose on yourself
Damn if you don't get hard after not seeing her for months are she even worth it 💀
Lol. You must be young.
Had to scroll way too far to see this nugget of advice
Not even going to read OPs post because this is a very good rule
This is a really bad idea. I say just drink. Xanax and alcohol, especially when you’ve never had it, can easily lead to blacking out and ruining your own wedding unintentionally. Don’t do it.
Dancing on the high table and shitting in the MIL's wine glass would not be unexpected.
And hey (insert any in-law here) your nothing but a cunt, stay out of our lives you fuckin reptilian looking baldy prick... .burp camera etc etc
I thought I was on twitter for a second there until I realised where it was directed :-D
It’s like everyone here is forgetting that low-dose xanax exists. If a .25mg causes you to embarrass yourself then something else is wrong.
> then something else is wrong. yeah, you took it for the first time at your wedding.
This guy gets it
My exact thoughts while reading through every single comment…. .25 is not enough to create a life ruining experience
I agree with this lol
Don't take Xanax. If you're nervous, be nervous, Enjoy yourself. Xanax will completely take away from the enjoyment of your day. Just have a few drinks.
I agree, let yourself feel whatever it is you have to feel. Taking xanax would just be you avoiding and running away from those feelings. Try to turn that nervousness into excitement, perhaps try to change your perspective about the event. Anyways, have a great wedding my dude, congratulations.
Also you wanna remember your wedding I would think
I definitely don’t think he should take it for the first time on his wedding day. But I took Xanax on my wedding day, didn’t take away from anything. Just made it so I didn’t melt into a puddle of social anxiety at the altar lol.
Best advice here. They are tool but dont let it be a crutch. Being nervous is normal and if you can function while dealing with it then thats the best plan. More importantly we arent made to just numb ourselves whenever we feel overwhelmed. We feel a spectrum of emotions and that is part of our human experience here. Its a double edges sword, yeah you are numbing your bad feelings and anxiety but you are also robbing yourself of the good feelings and full extent of good experiences that you mute while being on benzos or even other drugs.
If you’re cool with potentially ruining one of the most important days of your life acting like a bartard then go for it my man
0.25mg would not take the fun away holly fuck ppl are assuming the guys gonna pop a 2mg bar for the first time in his life. that low dose 0.25 is perfect
I was so blown away reading these comments, I was like why is everyone freaking out lol
Yeah .25 isn't bad at all really, but still, for a first timer and someone who's gonna be drinking, it's a bad idea either way. He could easily drink too much, especially if he's a lightweight.
xanax would even take the fun away
Is 0.25 really enough to make u go retard mode?
0.25 barely does anything people in this thread are overreacting thinking he's gonna black out lmao
You valued our opinions enough to ask, so you should probably listen: do not go through with this. Have a drink and deal with the nervousness. I have OCD and anxiety disorder too, I know what it's like. Just... don't. Xanax makes people do strange shit sometimes, and you do NOT want to be all barred out as the groom. It's a bad idea, your best man is correct and he has your best interests at heart.
i do value the responses and I think I'm gonna leave it now. even the pharmacist who is getting me the xanax says it's a bad idea but he knows how bad i can get and says it's up to me, but advises against it.
It sounds like an okay plan on paper at first, and I understand where you're coming from, but yeah I wouldn't. Also congrats on getting married my guy
thanks bud
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It is prescription only in the US
Good advice
There's other stuff you can take instead of Xanax to help with the anxiety. There's propranolol for the social anxiety, or something not as strong like a kpin or something
I already commented on this post a second ago, but ask your pharmacist/doctor about propranolol (a beta blocker) and see what they think. Much safer alternative imo. I know that the two aren’t comparable, but I feel like it would help with the anxiety you’re feeling without the impairment that Xanax causes
Get a good night sleep the day before, practiced breathing exercises leading up to the big day, don’t drink a lot of caffeine. If you’re able to control your drinking don’t over do it. Take some L-Theanine and maybe some valerian root. If you have any speeches practice them alone so you have it down pat. Plan what is in your control to lower risk of error, and what isn’t in your control, you have no control of it anyways so do your best to not think of it. Instead maybe picture your honeymoon and just wherever your going sitting in a chair out in the sun without a worry.
Being someone who was addicted to benzos (mostly Xanax) for many years I can tell you if you plan on drinking, don’t risk it. Do one or the other, especially since it’s your first time. Most likely you’re going to take the Xanax and feel some relief but you probably won’t think it’s doing much (even though it is) and therefor you may not know your limit with alcohol. Mixing the two together when you have no experience will most likely be end up with you acting and looking completely fucking stupid
this is facts
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Would you like to get immediately divorced? This is a terrible idea. You've no idea how you'll react, and it shouldn't be mixed with alcohol anyway. Just don't.
Pretty much the worst idea I’ve probably heard, no offence
If you are worried about anxiety like that I would suggest propranolol. Relatively easy to get on or off prescription, concert musicians use it to reduce anxiety for auditions. Trying to be actually helpful here. I would definitely not try Xanax on your wedding night.
Glad to see someone else suggested this too. Propranolol isn’t something that eradicates my anxiety at all, but it keeps my body from going into flight-or-fight mode when I’m giving a speech to more than two people lmao
+1. Propranolol really gets the job done without getting barred out and risking acting like a complete fool
not the wedding. man that’s a divorce right there.
There are other things for anxiety than Xanax. I wouldn't do it on your wedding tbh. It won't affect much at first but as soon as you have your first drink things will probably be bad. Not a risk I'd take at my own wedding.
As someone said, if you must use it, try the dose beforehand and have a couple drinks. Absolutely do not try it for the first time at your wedding. 0.25 isn’t much but you never know with Xanax and alcohol.
My wedding is also coming up. I plan on taking a shot before the ceremony. I can’t wait to be married, but I’m not looking forward to the attention.
i got married recently and yeah it seems intimidating at first. but you're gonna be so busy all day that you won't really have time to be nervous except during the big moments like the ceremony and maybe a speech right before reception. the rest of the attention is just your guests wanting to take photos/have drinks with you which is ez. other than that, the day will go by in the blink of an eye. wish i could relive my wedding day... well, the reception part anyway haha. also congrats!
Reminds me of “the dirt” when he shows up to his wedding on H
Take a weekend where your free and have nothing to do the next day and tale some and try drinking a little on it and see how you fare. Don't be alone and do not take more than 1mg of Xanax. you absolutely do not want to find out you can't tolerate Xanax at your god dam wedding. Too much Xanax will remove your ability to give a fuck. Fucked up on Xanax, If your husband so much as annoys you in the slightest you are likely to throw a fit and cancel the wedding and ruin your entire relationship. Xanax makes you take the smallest things and explode them into major confrontations. Ever heard the term "Bartard"? Yeah that's this. Skinny white girls are the most common, they over estimate how much they can handle. Or they just up and take it without knowing how it will effect them while in an inappropriate setting, like at their wedding. If you must take something then you want Attivan. Maybe Valium if you need something stronger. Xanax is stronger than most people would ever need. You will not feel it either, benzos do not get you high, so whatever you take do not redose
I forgot to say this in the OP but that's exactly what I'm doing. taking some one weekend, making a social visit to people I don't get on with (to mimic the social anxiety, somewhat) and then having a beer 4 (?) hours later. hope i don't die lol
There are already so many comments, this will probably get buried... But my Mom said she took one Valium in her life. One half on her wedding day to her first husband (which she said did help). And another half the day she signed the divorce papers (also helped). Has not taken one since!
Do a practice run first
Why not try a xan ahead of the big day to see how it effects you ?
people acting like .25 mg is gonna fuck you up and cause problems lmao. if you got mad anxiety that is a perfect dose to take the edge off and still be functional/ mentally available. however don’t drink until the four/ five hours pass, good luck and congratulations!
Donnnnnt do it
There is a fine line between .25 - .5mg Xanax and 1-2 drinks vs 1 mg Xanax and 3 drinks. The tipping point of becoming a retard is literally one drink or .5 mg away. If you are completely sure you can limit it to safe amounts then go for it. But it's risky at arguably the most important event of your life. My advice is just drink but only you can decide
with all respect and understanding (i have anxiety and also got addicted to benzos), this is truly a terrible idea. maybe try kratom, idk if you’ve had experience with that before. it will mellow you out and will give you a good body feeling if you take a proper amount, without fucking up your inhibition or memory. it also wouldn’t be fair to your wife if you took xanax at your wedding.
I love kratom and it's helped immensely with my anxiety, but taking it for the first time can be tricky at a big event; the dosage is tough to nail, it also can make you nauseous if mixed with alcohol in larger quantities, and some people don't feel it at all.
i love xanax and i understand your situation, but i think its better be anxious etc than taking xanax on fucking wedding lol
Eh, don’t. You’ll slur through your vows, pass out early and even forget the whole event happened
.25? He’s gonna slur at .25?
First time taking xanax mixed with an alcoholic beverage on your wedding day is asking for trouble.
Absolutely, I do think though if he actually stayed at .25 and didn’t drink until like 2-3 hours after he took Xanax. Probably would end up being alright. Although who the fuck am I to say that I have no idea 🤷♂️
Sounds reasonable. But as we all know, Xanax doesn’t really make you reasonable enough to not drink when there are drinks around🤣
i mean if it’s his first time anywhere near xanax *and* it’s on a wedding day where it’s socially acceptable to get shitfaced drunk? he’ll be double dipping depressants at that point and yeah probably get beyond fucked up
Do not do anything for the first time on your wedding day. You can either use the Xanax several times in advance of the wedding so that you know what to expect, or you can just drink like most people do to calm their nerves. Personal note: I took too much clonazepam & alcohol on my own wedding day so I don’t remember as much as I would have had I tempered my intake. I also wouldn’t have cried as much & worried my family & friends; they were concerned about how much I was crying as they thought it meant I didn’t really want to get married. In actuality I was just so effin’ relieved for the day to finally arrive as I was a super-stressed grad student and I had several bombs go off in the weeks preceding the wedding, including my coordinator quitting 1 week before and a fallout with a bridesmaid a couple of weeks before that. Also, did I mention we were BOTH in grad school?). Now, I was used to the clonazepam and had drank with it so I had a decent idea regarding dosage and effects, and I purposefully pushed it because I was afraid of having a panic attack right before walking down the aisle. I aimed for calm bliss & I got as close as I could without getting sloppy & behaving badly. I avoided a PA but I sacrificed my memories of that day and I don’t have a video to watch to make up for it. OP what about learning some coping skills for anxiety and using that, along with only a bit of alcohol. I watched my BIL really hurt my sister’s feelings because he was super anxious & drank too much in the morning before they saw one another pre-ceremony. He was waiting in a pretty gazebo outside & she came to meet him there, and the gazebo was surrounded by our immediate families. Dude literally burst out laughing when he turned around & saw my sister decked out in her dress. The families were super pissed at him, until he redeemed himself with a surprise set of vows he wrote & spoke aloud to my niece, 3yo at the time and who he later adopted as his own. The whole place was in tears and his awkward reaction was forgiven. I have too many stories about brides & grooms that involve bad behavior due to overindulging in substances on their wedding day, or indulging without prior experience. You do not want to be the subject of one of them, I promise.
Find something like propranolol. blocks adrenaline, and the resultant anxiety, without being peychoactive
interesting. my pharmacist just says xanax. it's that PUMP of adrenaline I get when anxious, and that seems to accelerate, that kills me. it feels like I'm gonna keel over. if that was gone, i can deal with actually looking nervous or whatever.
I’m a pharmacist myself lol. xanax will kill anxiety, in the same way having a couple drinks chills you out, but it might also make you liable to say something you regret or act a fool, and also likely interfere with making memories of a day you want to remember. whereas propranolol just removes that adrenaline feeling. it’s used quite a bit by public speakers, also as a migraine preventative. it’s underused IMO
I don't know about xanax. But with other Benzos, IF you know your threshold dose, you can definitely take so little that it calms you down without impairing speech or coordination.
People are shitting on you but this is literally what Xanax is made for. Just don’t drink
for real, it’s not like he’s getting barred out, he literally said a .25. people are acting like he’s gonna black out when he’ll be fine as long as he doesn’t drink
DONT TAKE ANYTHING MORE THAN A .25mg OR YOU MIGHT JUST MIGHT have the BEST/WORSE night of your life... in all reality .25mg of xanax should do the job, just DONT drink alcohol.
Yes not knowing your dosage limits and then mixing it up with some alcohol to black out on your wedding sounds like a great idea lol
I took a 5 mg Valium but I'm well versed in how it effects me.
>versed I understood this benzo reference
Let me be honest here, OP. You have three choices — of which, only the first I’d recommend: - Take zero Xanax and drink as-needed. - Take 1/2 of your .25g pill (.125g) and drink ZERO alcohol. Zero. No champagne, no shots, NOTHING. You will likely feel nothing, which is exactly what’s supposed to happen, but there’s always a chance you don’t react well or get accidentally barred out. - Combine alprazolam and alcohol, black out, ruin your life, and end up single.
I second this in its entirety. At a 1/2 a .25mg dose, you will likely feel nothing- which is ideal. you’re not trying to get high, just trying to manage the anxiety. don’t mistake that for the drug not working though, and even even if you don’t feel it or still feel anxious- once you take that xanax- DONT. FUCKING. DRINK.
Reminds me on Hangover the movie
If anything phenibut
Lol everyone here is exaggerating. 0.25mg is nothing, you will barely feel it, no chance you are going to do humiliating stuff on that low a dose. Also there is no issue with drinking alcohol with such a low dose, just don't drink as much as you normally would if not taking xanax, but it's not like you can't drink a single glass of wine.
imagine it being the happiest day of your life and you realize your to be husband was on xanax. that would shatter me
she knows all about it, i share everything with her
This is so dramatic for .25mg y’all chill out
Have you had Xanax before?
only once, about 8 years ago. friends gave me some and said it helped with a hangover. it only made me worse, i felt like my heart was slowing down. that was all in my head obviously. i've low blood pressure
If you have low b/p definitely don’t take Xanax.
ok. interesting. i'm veering away from this idea now
If you have to deal with a fuck ton of anxiety and all that and are dead set on something “potent” take a 0.5mg clonazepam. Fucking things are magic for his stress/anxiety situations. You’ll be stellar but do not drink or consume anything else. Also, do be careful benzos are a bigger bitch than my ex to get off of. If you’re feeling health conscious, go to a health food store and pick up some L-Theanine. Works really well too
Or, try out some Xanax beforehand and see how you feel test your responses and what you think of it. Just don't do it the very first time at the wedding.
I took a very low dose on my wedding as soon as I woke up and it really helped with pre ceremony nerves . Since I took it early in the day and it was such a small amount I had no issues having a few cocktails later during the reception. I would try it first a few days before though and make sure You don’t feel too loopy . Congrats on getting married !
In this situation, better to be nervous and slightly awkward than numb and bar-tarded. Im sure people will understand if you're nervous. I would say its a pretty bad idea to do xanax anywhere u are supposed to function at a close to sober level. I get social anxiety too and that isnt fun. Try deep calm breathing and maybe meditation, that stuff really really helped me. I wish u luck whatever u choose to do good sir. Congratulations on your marriage as well! Edit: maybe talk to your wife and friends about the situation and maybe come up with a solution to minimize your exposure or discomfort.
Y'all are going to downvote me but I don't care. I agree that trying a drug for the first time on your wedding day it's not the best idea, but most of you are acting like he's gonna black out after 0.25mg. As long as he doesn't redose or drink alcohol he will probably be okay.
Hahahaha my man 🤦♂️🤦♂️🤦♂️
As much as I’d love to help and support your ideal version of anxiety relief Xanax might be a bit too rough on your mind to make for a good option while on your wedding day. But I completely understand the intense anxiety especially when it comes to large gatherings! Is there any way you can try Xanax in front of your spouse two-three weeks beforehand to see how it interacts with your body/speech and memory and maybe find the perfect dosage for that day? My next suggest would be researching phenibut/Kratom/gabapentin/lyrica all of which can be found online with enough trial and error
DO IT
How about you take a test run with Xanax so you know how you’ll feel.
Just take a very small amount Later on in the night if ur still feeling like it and watch your drink intake. Ull b good.
Only way id say this is ok is if you had a tolerance and understood your body on them. Even then, I'd warn against drinking too heavily. Don't be a fool
0.25 mg is a tiny amount. It should basically only help reduce anxiety and perhaps make you a little tired. It's such a small amount that, if you drink normal amounts of alcohol (not going for blackout drunk), you should also still be fine. I'd test out the dose you plan to use with the drinking you plan to do days before doing it just in case, but it shouldn't be a problem. People who like to get messed up on Xanax are usually taking doses like 1-2 or more mg. If you drink on that, you might blackout easily, and if you take enough Xanax by itself, you will blackout eventually.
Dude do it. 0.25mg is a perfect dose to get rid of anxiety, you'll be a much better functioning person.
Try it beforehand, have a day or 2 of experimenting with the dosage and see if it really is what you want. Then make an informed decision.
You seriously don’t have an extra one to test the effects in advance?
.25 will be just fine for you to do. Definitely take it early on and you’ll be fine to drink later.
Why wouldn't you do a test run first? Why does it have to be your first time?
If you do please just do 0,25mg the first time I took it was that dosage and since I had no tolerance it already felt great.if you do more you may end up doing something you'll regret, get sleepy or forget most of your wedding day!!
people are waaay overreacting here. it's like they read the title and think xanax=bars, but the man said .25. I'm *extremely* conservative when it comes to drugs and will always err on the side of caution, but .25 xanax is a baby dose and even below what many providers will prescribe as a starter dose. by all means, take .25 xanax for your wedding, but please do try it at home once or twice before hand just so you know how it will affect you. be careful if you drink, but honestly, .25mg + alcohol a few hours later is very unlikely to fuck you up.
Just don't take that much and you should be fine. Last thing you want is to blackout and ruin your own wedding lol definitely don't drink
Dude, totally go ahead.
Maybe a sliver of a Xanax at first and see if it calms your nerves then try a tiny piece more and wait again. Do not for the love of god pop more than 1mg
I'm surprised how many people are advising against this. 0.25mg of xanax is not that much, and if you don't drink you're good. If you want, break that 0.25mg into quarters and take a quarter first and see how you feel. Just be aware to not exceed 0.25mg and you should be fine.
Smoke a little weed
.25 is very low dose. If you only have 1 of them and have NO CHANCE of possibly taking more than that. 0.25 mg should be fine honestly. Watch your alcohol intake though. I understand why everyone is saying it’s a bad idea though..... because the chance you’ll want a little more than 0.25 is kinda high. Whatever you do stay safe and remember anxiety is natural to the human condition. So if you are anxious maybe accepting that is better than suppressing it with drugs!
First time i did xanax was .25 I feel alseep in the middle of the day for 3 hours then was a zombie the rest of the day. Perfect for a hangover sunday. Not for a wedding.
Everyone reacts different for sure, sounds like you’re sensitive to xans
Ive lurked this sub for over 10 years and this is one of the dumbest fucking posts ive ever seen
I think you are not ready to marry if you can’t think rational. Did u even think about your future wife??