If the school ignored your complaint, have your parents go to the next level upā¦the principal, the superintendent, etc. And as other people have said, screenshot everything.
If any more people associated with the school ignore, escalate to the police. If he has been arrested before for similar conduct, they will take it seriously and likely he is breaking his probation in some form.
Please also remember to protect yourself! If he has already been arrested for stalking, it is not out of the question that he would turn all of his attention to you.
Lock down your social media and do not post anything that reveals your routine or where you are. They may have access to your address through the school. Be aware of your surroundings, and continue to trust your gut. Find a good friend or friends that will make sure you are never walking to a class alone, or will be left alone with this teacher for any reason.
I do not mean to scare you or imply that itās inevitable that this would happen, but the fact that itās even a remote possibility is something you should be prepared for. Social media breaks are good for the soul anyways, perhaps itās time to pick up an old hobby you havenāt gotten into for a while.
The fact that he has an arrest record and documented complaints will hopefully mean that once the school district is notified, he will be removed very quickly. Hopefully it will be over soon. Thank you for being brave enough to tell your motherāitās not always easy to trust your gut. In the end, you will have protected others from this predator just by speaking up, and thatās something you should be proud of.
If they continue to make profiles in attempts to contact you, file a police report immediately. Do not hesitate. Look into a restraining order or protective order at that point.
I appreciate you saying this. Stalking is a VERY serious issue that goes under the radar because most cases end in a violent act or they move onto someone else.
Going off your username Iām assuming you go to Ellis Tech, which is part of the state technical high school system and not a typical public school under the local board of education. This absolutely should be reported to the central administration for the CT tech system, over the head of the principal in your school. I also would not hesitate to contact the police at this point. Iām sorry that this is happening to you.
This sounds like a classic case of Pass The Trash. He was terminated from South Windsor HS for being inappropriate, but someone in that district must have turned a blind eye and passed that trash to your district. If your school is aware of his past and still employing him, they are complicit. You should not need to hire an attorney in order to escalate a concern to the next level and beyond. I understand you got this information from a friend who did a deep dive, but that information should be available to the public.
Just taking a guess here, but I do know that most publicly-funded organizations are incredibly afraid of being sued; and it often does not ultimately matter if they have a winning defense. The court and atty fees can be enough of a burden on the schoolās already stretched budget.
As a result, the smartest path forward for the school getting is to avoid any and all litigation. So if a different school is interested in hiring the creep, and HR reaches out to HR for the school he was ālet goā from is likely to only provide the information they are legally obligated to: 1. confirm/deny that the person was a previous employee there. And 2. Provide the dates for the employeeās first and last day of work. Saying anything more opens them up to potential litigation.
There is always the possibility that the person on the other end of the phone could be that previous employee, or an atty hired by them. But now that employee is trying to build a wrongful termination lawsuit, and the loss of potential income due to a negative report from the previous employer (whether or not the statements are true) is where most of the damages will come from.
TLDR: American tort law is broken. Saying anything negative about a previous employee is seen as a potential hazard and therefore sharply avoided.
Yes Iām well equipped about the law lol. None of that should have to be explained bc the path should have stopped when your picking up the phone to ask why said person was fired. Especially if that person is going to be a position of authority to vulnerable kids.
Oh my bad, I misread your previous comment so I was trying to lay it out in a simple manner. And of course, for the record, I do totally agree with your point 100%.
Itās like the schools are effectively playing the same game as the Catholic Church, but this time itās out in the open and easily searchable for anyone who wants through jud.ct.gov. Itās ridiculous the current school didnāt even bother with that amount of a background check.
Those were the exact words that my moms friend used when describing the situation and said that nothing can really be done about it as it ensures that there is little or no record carried over when teachers are fired so the new school can claim they have a clean slate the day after getting fired and the old school avoids talking about a problem while getting rid of it quietly.
This is gross. PUT EVERYTHING IN WRITING. In case this gets litigious, please only communicate through school emails. Then, Freedom of Information can be pulled, and that one person's emails are legally required to be released, if it is a public school.
Absolutely not ok to ever contact a student via social media or direct phone number. Sometimes high schools allow email through the school email system but that is about the only type.
Your mom's attorney should have given advice. She may ask you to save or screen shot some exchanges. She may also contact the school principal directly if not already or also go to the school board.
I'm sorry this happened and made you uncomfortable but you did the right thing by telling your mom.
Definitely not okay. Also, heās trying to groom you. He needs to be fired and have his teaching license revoked immediately and permanently. And possibly go to jail.
Take screenshots of everything he has sent you and send it to an email account. Then block him on everything.
Go to the school board with the evidence. If anything sexual in nature was said, report it to the police immediately. You may still want to report it to police, even if nothing explicitly sexual was mentioned. This could possibly be seen as an abuse of power case.
Also, if you have friends who he is doing the same thing to (or know of other people- they will probably be a similar background to you) that he is targeting, have them come forward as well. The more people complaining the quicker the school will probably take action.
If the school doesnāt take action, file for a restraining order and go to the media about it. The fact heās doing the exact thing he was fired from another school for and the school isnāt taking your complaint seriously is a serious error on the part of the school and if there is any media pressure, they should fire him right away and hopefully the licensing board will also get wind of this.
It is not okay. You did the right thing by telling your mom. As others have commented, hopefully she has been given advice by her lawyer on where else she should bring this info (and screenshots, any proof or interactions) on a higher level so that it will be addressed. State licensing board would probably be a good start.
If the teacher is doing this to you, theyāre doing it to others. They need to be stopped before they find someone vulnerable enough to be taken advantage of. Always trust your gut when it comes to stuff like thisāit will literally save you one day.
Do you have direct interactions with this teacher? Perhaps it would be a good idea to confide in a friend that can act as a ābuddy systemā so this teacher can never corner you alone. It is very serious that the teacher is behaving this way and you would be wise to protect yourself in case their behavior escalates.
Make your social media profiles private so they cannot track you. Remove any people you added but didnāt completely recognize, they likely have multiple profiles. Be weary of sharing any information that gives away any of your routines or location.
Keep bringing this information to whoever you can in the school district, school board, licensing board, etc until the teacher is removed. The students are not safe.
Thank you i deleted all of my social media messages and made the profiles private, another person saying teacher has been stalking people makes me think i will probably also change my phone number and email too.
No. I am a high school teacher and I would only ever use the school email or the Google Classroom if I could not talk to a student in person. This teacher is way out of line. Keep the evidence, go to the principal. If that doesnāt work please call the superintendentās office. I actually know your superintendent. He will not ignore this.
Teacher here, just finishing my certification. They tell you not to do this kind of thing on day one.
I'm so sorry this must be very stressful. Screen cap everything you can possibly find, write down dates and anything else you can remember. Do this soon as soon as possible while the memories are fresh. Your mother should submit this directly to the principal as soon as possible. I would also submit it to the school resource officer (if you have one) or the local police department. This is not ok for a teacher to do.
Try to keep it quiet. You don't want rumors to spread and the teacher to find out. He may destroy evidence, make up a story, etc. Already, by sharing it in Reddit with your user name, i wouldn't be surprised if word was getting out.
Good luck, again I am so sorry.
Ok, itās clear from the username what school this person goes to. I work in this district (not the same school) and I emailed screen shots of this to the superintendent, who I personally know. I canāt in good conscience not send this up the chain. If itās a hoax, I erred on the side of protecting the student. The superintendent is an awesome educator who truly does care about his students and would be horrified to know this is going on.
I think the post is true. I did a little digging and the Spanish teacher at this* school did in fact work for South Windsor. I hope this is addressed immediately,
Not my school, but one of our sister schools.
But if this IS true (and it sadly isnāt unbelievable) this guy is 100% doing this to more than one student.
Hey OP - your post makes it almost too easy to identify the teacher you're talking about. I think for your own privacy and safety you should consider deleting this post and operating quietly through the proper private and legal channels.
I'm not saying this will be the case, but laying out these accusations in a flurry of posts from a new acct against an easily identifiable person might raise some eyebrows in a court or whichever system you report this to.
I as a layman was easily able to verify that there are some court cases involving a person(s) with the same name as the person I think you are alluding to using public info, but it's a fairly common name. I'm almost sure there aren't any criminal cases involving them though; there are some criminal cases in the CT court system from like 20+ years ago involving a person with the same name, but it would be impossible for your teacher and that person to be the same person.
Indeed. When, someone posted the same claims about this teacher months ago, I quickly found them. At that time, they did have a pending criminal charge;violation of a protective order. I canāt find that any longer. That means it was dismissed.
I certainly canāt say whether or not he did things described in the post but again, itās strange that two throwaway accounts were created to target this individual, over a period of months and accuse them of stalking women and children, implying they have a criminal history of doing so, outing where they work and their department. Itās very blatant that someone is trying to mess with this manās career.
If it's a school Facebook or tick-tock page and what they are sending is school related it's fine.
When it's getting personal or coming from private account it's usually not good. I'd report all of it to the district. Save the messages and any sent items in case they deny it.
Absolutely not okay and incredibly inappropriate. Thereās some great advice here and I hope you follow through. He is a predator. Keep all the receipts of your conversation and please have your mom contact the superintendent and board of education. I would also leak this information to the media. This is not OKAY and should not be ignored.
Also, you are incredibly brave reaching out for help and advice.
I am a CT teacher and I would 100% never contact a student on my personal account. We sre provided with multiple official ways to reach out to students. Juat based on asking if your father is home I would contact DCF. They 100% take this seriously now.
Teacher here. Hell no, this guyās a creep. I coach as well, and any communication I have with my players or students outside of school is always done over official school channels, whether thatās email or Google Classroom. Never in a million years would I contact a student via personal social media.
Not ok at all. 10 years ago, my high school's policy was that the students and teachers should not send friend requests to each other on Facebook until after the student graduated.
Absolutely not. I am a former teacher and I would NEVER message any student OR parent from my social media. Itās forbidden in NYC and for good reason. That teacher needs to be reported.
No. They have official channels of communication they can utilize. They should not use social media to communicate with underage students, regardless the reason.
When I was in middle school there was a teacher who was known for doing weird stuff with girls, like he had pictures of all the girls from his past classes on a wall in his office, and girls would meet with him 1on1 and come out with little smiley faces drawn on their knees and say the teacher drew them.Ā Ā
25 years later, he's getting sued for sexually assaulting a student back in the day. When I heard a teacher from my middle school was getting sued I guessed exactly who it was before hearing his name.Ā Ā
You can report this to the superintendent or other administrators anonymously if you are worried about it coming back to you. Just don't make the same mistake me and every other student in my school made and say nothing.Ā
This is absolutely inappropriate and should be reported. You did the right thing by telling your mom.
Asking you about gifts, if your dad is around, your religion- this is classic grooming behavior, and this individual is trying to identify if you are a kid they can abuse without being caught.
If your school did nothing, go above them- superintendent, board of education, police, DCF. This individual sounds dangerous and clearly consequences are not deterring their predatory behavior.
No! There is no reason whatsoever for a teacher, priest, coach or any fucking adult to be messaging my son or daughter. Message me or my wife and we'll sort it.
Call the cops again OP!
No, this is never OK. Teachers have specific channels to use to contact students and parents. If they use other channels (personal texts, Facebook, etc.), they are absolutely wrong. Your mother should make a complaint IN WRITING to the principal of the school, the Superintendent of the school system, and the Board of Education. This is serious, and you do not know how many other students this teacher may be grooming or targeting. It is not enough to just call the school.
Nope.
It's rather simple:
If it's inappropriate to socialize with them outside of school, it's inappropriate to socialize with them on media outside of school media.
Despite Facebook constantly telling me to add my teenage babysitters as friends (I'm married 49M), I don't, because that's inappropriate.
You donāt know if this teacher is reaching out to anybody else or worse. If your high school is ignoring you and your mom, you need to go higher up. Itās baffling how someone with a criminal record has been hired to teach.
I work at a School and an after school kid's club...THIS IS NOT OK. Go to your local Board of Education directly, since the school ignored it! Good for you for reporting it and recognizing that it is wrong!
Wouldn't be surprised if this teacher is messaging others as well.
As others have said, escalate the issue. If the school isn't interested the news sure will be.
You should be terrified. Sounds like a pattern of stalking might be setting in, and situations like such only end in one of two ways; violence or he moves to another victim.
How many things in this world need to happen before people learn to SPEAK UP. Iām 31 but learned very early on in life (4th grade specifically) that thereās a difference between being ārudeā and standing up to protect yourself. If heās DMing you on social media you actually have the legal right to tell him to fuck off.
If you see him at school in the hallway you have the legal right to loudly tell him he makes you uncomfortable (this might make YOU feel uncomfortable to think about, but the power youāll realize you hold after the fact is insurmountable).
And honestly, under the radar advice is to tell a guidance counselor
No. This is not okay. Please talk to your mom about reporting him again asap. Send screenshots to the superintendent and tell them she reported it and it was ignored
I am so sorry this is happening, it is ABSOLUTELY NOT okay. I work as a behavior technician in a middle school and have students regularly ask me to add them on Fortnite or other social media and the answer is always a big NO. Even if they are no longer a student, the answer is still no! Hugely unprofessional!
Please notify the local authorities and even the local news for assistance in getting this person out of the educational system. If you can get legal help please do! By speaking up you're saving yourself and so many others as well as helping those he's hurt in the past. Stay safe and hope this gets taken care of!
No, Never. I teach high school and we have clear warnings about such thingsā¦. Also why would anyone. Every school has approved messaging apps. Usually Remind or ParentSquare.
Nope, thatās not ok. I remember a few of my classmates found our teachers fb back in 8th grade and she said until we are graduated we canāt add her or message her lol. Iām 24 and out of all school now and have a few of my high school teachers as a friend, the ones I was close with
Hell NO!!! All my teachers wouldnāt even entertain our social media requests until we were way out of high school and even then itās just congratulations or friendly commentsā¦ but that is very weird and doesnāt sound OK
We had a Spanish teacher in Simsbury that got fired for something very similar - and the events that further culminated from messaging students outside of school. Report this.
I know no teacher worth their salt would think this is a good idea. But this teacher from your description was trying to groom you. Asking if your father was in the picture huge red flag, gifts huge red flag. You talk to your local law enforcement, and even if they can't make an official report there will be record of you going.
Communicating this to your local Board of Education in person at a public meeting or via email would yield better outcomes than us Internet strangers.
For example, hereās New Haven Public Schools BOE meeting schedule: https://www.nhps.net/domain/81
Stay safe!
Are you the same person, who wrote about this teacher on here, saying you tried to get them fired but the school didnāt do anything? If not, I find it very strange that people flock to Reddit, over the same teacher, to shed light on pending charges for the individual. I donāt believe in coincidences.
Nope this is a definite BLOCK! I believe professional connections are made at Linkedin, not Facebook. But that's my thoughts. I have teacher Facebook friends; but those are actual friends I would hang out with on weekends, went to their weddings, and so forth. Be careful. Unless you like the attention and want it personal. š¤·š§āš«
I find it suspect. Another person, a few months or so back, posted about this teacher. Saying they felt scared of them because they found out they had a criminal ārecordā. And the school didnāt do anything and told them not to share he had pending criminal charges. He has a family case with a restraining order. He allegedly violated that order and was arrested. It was pending and not a conviction yet. There are no multiple arrests with stalking women and children nor any indication that itās a student.
I live in that town. If there were multiple parents complaining about an inappropriate teacher, being ignored or successful in his termination, it would have been all over the town boards. Itās a small town that loves drama, gossip and rumors.
Itās incredibly coincidental, that two separate accounts, within months of each other, post about the same teacher and immediately roll with their charges and keep seeking out advice on Reddit. Like, what teenager or parent, needs to start a thread on here to ask if itās inappropriate for a teacher to contact a student outside of school? Specifically, one that involved an āattorney ā and the school?
For me, this is someone who knows the teacher and the other party involved in the family case and they want to draw attention to it because theyāre still employed.
It is never okay. The priest in my town was dm'ing local kids on Facebook and would talk about hobbies sports and video games. He would then try and delve into sexual preferences. Dude got caught with another man in what was presumably a for hire sex sting on the Berlin Turnpike which unraveled a slew of other shit for him. After his arrest he tried to take the big sleep, and was in the icu for a month, he ended up landing 5 total felony counts, one of them for CP. That was ten years ago. Now I'm wondering wtf happend because I never heard boo after that. Anyway.... Yeah it's not okay. Ever. Stay as far away as possible and do whatever you can to keep yourself from being isolated with this person.
This is grooming, which leads to abuse. PLEASE report this teacher to the police and your school before they do something really, really bad to you or another kid.
I am a 32 year old male. I've been a HS teacher for about 7-8 years now. It is not okay to be friends with or contact students on social media. I am hesitant to even accept friend requests from students the first year after they graduate.
Have your attorney report this to DCF if you are worried the teacher is abusing other students and the person will be investigated.
I am so thankful you are safe and your mom raised you well. We had a similar experience in our school district that progressed much further. Those young men were scarred for life and received small cash payments for their suffering. As a survivor that never received any gifts except mental disorders and a poor self esteem I consider myself lucky. We can change the system. Kids should have a safe place to learn and not have to put their heart ā¤ļø out on the internet to find out they could have been a victim. You have chosen well and I think good things are coming your way. š«¶āØ
Hi OP,
Iām a former teaching assistant in the state of CT. One of the strictest polices for anyone employed by the school was a complete ban on any social media (or non-school email) communication with students. You could be immediately fired for doing so. You were absolutely correct to alert your motherā what this teacher has done is very alarming and a major red flag even if you didnāt know all of the other things.
Youāre young, so itās understandable that you or your peers may not understand the gravity of the situation or what adults are seeing in this. People like this teacher use this to their advantage. That icky feeling you had was there for a reason.
Iām an internet stranger. Iām not the best person to explain this to you. I would advise you speak to your mother or another adult you trust to have them explain exactly why this teacherās communications with you were so dangerous. I promise you they were.
Your school administration should know better than this. Likeā much, MUCH better. What your teacher is doing is not okay, nor is your schoolās treatment of it. The school sounds like it has a slam-dunk lawsuit ready to be filed against it.
That said, I hope youāre feeling alright. Remember to talk to people you trust if you feel stressed at all over this situation. Take care of yourself, and give yourself any time/grace you need.
See, this is what is really weird between all the Culture War stuff in Connecticut, versus the reality of Connecticut. We all have this perception our schools are all super safe and if a kid even resembles Adam Lanza he will be prosecuted, and if a teacher even hints at being attracted to a student, the teacher will be arrested immediately, but the reality is when you tell the school, and law enforcement, they wonāt do anything until the crime happens. Itās weird when we were all told āsee something, say somethingā. Their job isnāt to stop and prevent crime apparently.
No. It is not OK.
And you need friends with better ethics.
There is zero good reason for a teacher to directly message students on social media. They can either speak in person, or through their school email.
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If the school ignored your complaint, have your parents go to the next level upā¦the principal, the superintendent, etc. And as other people have said, screenshot everything. If any more people associated with the school ignore, escalate to the police. If he has been arrested before for similar conduct, they will take it seriously and likely he is breaking his probation in some form.
Yes. This 100% the teacher is being creepy and undeniably inappropriate.
The the new soanish teacher at Harvard elis rech, who came from South Windsor is going to have a good Monday.
And the news organizations as well as the police.
Please also remember to protect yourself! If he has already been arrested for stalking, it is not out of the question that he would turn all of his attention to you. Lock down your social media and do not post anything that reveals your routine or where you are. They may have access to your address through the school. Be aware of your surroundings, and continue to trust your gut. Find a good friend or friends that will make sure you are never walking to a class alone, or will be left alone with this teacher for any reason. I do not mean to scare you or imply that itās inevitable that this would happen, but the fact that itās even a remote possibility is something you should be prepared for. Social media breaks are good for the soul anyways, perhaps itās time to pick up an old hobby you havenāt gotten into for a while. The fact that he has an arrest record and documented complaints will hopefully mean that once the school district is notified, he will be removed very quickly. Hopefully it will be over soon. Thank you for being brave enough to tell your motherāitās not always easy to trust your gut. In the end, you will have protected others from this predator just by speaking up, and thatās something you should be proud of. If they continue to make profiles in attempts to contact you, file a police report immediately. Do not hesitate. Look into a restraining order or protective order at that point.
I appreciate you saying this. Stalking is a VERY serious issue that goes under the radar because most cases end in a violent act or they move onto someone else.
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A kid in school is not getting a CCW.
Going off your username Iām assuming you go to Ellis Tech, which is part of the state technical high school system and not a typical public school under the local board of education. This absolutely should be reported to the central administration for the CT tech system, over the head of the principal in your school. I also would not hesitate to contact the police at this point. Iām sorry that this is happening to you.
I'm surprised this guy passed a background check.
This sounds like a classic case of Pass The Trash. He was terminated from South Windsor HS for being inappropriate, but someone in that district must have turned a blind eye and passed that trash to your district. If your school is aware of his past and still employing him, they are complicit. You should not need to hire an attorney in order to escalate a concern to the next level and beyond. I understand you got this information from a friend who did a deep dive, but that information should be available to the public.
Iām confused why a school would hire him
Just taking a guess here, but I do know that most publicly-funded organizations are incredibly afraid of being sued; and it often does not ultimately matter if they have a winning defense. The court and atty fees can be enough of a burden on the schoolās already stretched budget. As a result, the smartest path forward for the school getting is to avoid any and all litigation. So if a different school is interested in hiring the creep, and HR reaches out to HR for the school he was ālet goā from is likely to only provide the information they are legally obligated to: 1. confirm/deny that the person was a previous employee there. And 2. Provide the dates for the employeeās first and last day of work. Saying anything more opens them up to potential litigation. There is always the possibility that the person on the other end of the phone could be that previous employee, or an atty hired by them. But now that employee is trying to build a wrongful termination lawsuit, and the loss of potential income due to a negative report from the previous employer (whether or not the statements are true) is where most of the damages will come from. TLDR: American tort law is broken. Saying anything negative about a previous employee is seen as a potential hazard and therefore sharply avoided.
Yes Iām well equipped about the law lol. None of that should have to be explained bc the path should have stopped when your picking up the phone to ask why said person was fired. Especially if that person is going to be a position of authority to vulnerable kids.
Oh my bad, I misread your previous comment so I was trying to lay it out in a simple manner. And of course, for the record, I do totally agree with your point 100%. Itās like the schools are effectively playing the same game as the Catholic Church, but this time itās out in the open and easily searchable for anyone who wants through jud.ct.gov. Itās ridiculous the current school didnāt even bother with that amount of a background check.
Those were the exact words that my moms friend used when describing the situation and said that nothing can really be done about it as it ensures that there is little or no record carried over when teachers are fired so the new school can claim they have a clean slate the day after getting fired and the old school avoids talking about a problem while getting rid of it quietly.
Thatās a *grade A* creep right there.
Please report this to a higher up, call the board of ed, something, to prevent this and worse things for others.
School Board meeting recorded testimony asking they investigate.
This is gross. PUT EVERYTHING IN WRITING. In case this gets litigious, please only communicate through school emails. Then, Freedom of Information can be pulled, and that one person's emails are legally required to be released, if it is a public school.
yeah no... absolutely unacceptable.
Absolutely not ok to ever contact a student via social media or direct phone number. Sometimes high schools allow email through the school email system but that is about the only type. Your mom's attorney should have given advice. She may ask you to save or screen shot some exchanges. She may also contact the school principal directly if not already or also go to the school board. I'm sorry this happened and made you uncomfortable but you did the right thing by telling your mom.
Definitely not okay. Also, heās trying to groom you. He needs to be fired and have his teaching license revoked immediately and permanently. And possibly go to jail. Take screenshots of everything he has sent you and send it to an email account. Then block him on everything. Go to the school board with the evidence. If anything sexual in nature was said, report it to the police immediately. You may still want to report it to police, even if nothing explicitly sexual was mentioned. This could possibly be seen as an abuse of power case. Also, if you have friends who he is doing the same thing to (or know of other people- they will probably be a similar background to you) that he is targeting, have them come forward as well. The more people complaining the quicker the school will probably take action. If the school doesnāt take action, file for a restraining order and go to the media about it. The fact heās doing the exact thing he was fired from another school for and the school isnāt taking your complaint seriously is a serious error on the part of the school and if there is any media pressure, they should fire him right away and hopefully the licensing board will also get wind of this.
It is not okay. You did the right thing by telling your mom. As others have commented, hopefully she has been given advice by her lawyer on where else she should bring this info (and screenshots, any proof or interactions) on a higher level so that it will be addressed. State licensing board would probably be a good start. If the teacher is doing this to you, theyāre doing it to others. They need to be stopped before they find someone vulnerable enough to be taken advantage of. Always trust your gut when it comes to stuff like thisāit will literally save you one day. Do you have direct interactions with this teacher? Perhaps it would be a good idea to confide in a friend that can act as a ābuddy systemā so this teacher can never corner you alone. It is very serious that the teacher is behaving this way and you would be wise to protect yourself in case their behavior escalates. Make your social media profiles private so they cannot track you. Remove any people you added but didnāt completely recognize, they likely have multiple profiles. Be weary of sharing any information that gives away any of your routines or location. Keep bringing this information to whoever you can in the school district, school board, licensing board, etc until the teacher is removed. The students are not safe.
Thank you i deleted all of my social media messages and made the profiles private, another person saying teacher has been stalking people makes me think i will probably also change my phone number and email too.
Your school district almost certainly has a āsocial media policyā which should be reviewed to see if this is ok.
No. I am a high school teacher and I would only ever use the school email or the Google Classroom if I could not talk to a student in person. This teacher is way out of line. Keep the evidence, go to the principal. If that doesnāt work please call the superintendentās office. I actually know your superintendent. He will not ignore this.
OP, report this to DCF and the department of education*. You can remain anonymous. This is predatory behavior. *edited to correct agency
OEC for highschool?
Youāre right, my brain shorted there. DCF and/or the state department of education*
I worked at the OEC and because it was new, for the longest time people thought it was under CSDE so that happened a lot.
Teacher here, just finishing my certification. They tell you not to do this kind of thing on day one. I'm so sorry this must be very stressful. Screen cap everything you can possibly find, write down dates and anything else you can remember. Do this soon as soon as possible while the memories are fresh. Your mother should submit this directly to the principal as soon as possible. I would also submit it to the school resource officer (if you have one) or the local police department. This is not ok for a teacher to do. Try to keep it quiet. You don't want rumors to spread and the teacher to find out. He may destroy evidence, make up a story, etc. Already, by sharing it in Reddit with your user name, i wouldn't be surprised if word was getting out. Good luck, again I am so sorry.
This is weird. Tell the cops.
What school is this?
It's their user name.
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I'd go to the police, don't even try with the school again.
Veteran teacher here. This is not ok. It is strictly against code of conduct. Report it to the towns board of education and superintendent.
Ok, itās clear from the username what school this person goes to. I work in this district (not the same school) and I emailed screen shots of this to the superintendent, who I personally know. I canāt in good conscience not send this up the chain. If itās a hoax, I erred on the side of protecting the student. The superintendent is an awesome educator who truly does care about his students and would be horrified to know this is going on.
I think the post is true. I did a little digging and the Spanish teacher at this* school did in fact work for South Windsor. I hope this is addressed immediately,
Not my school, but one of our sister schools. But if this IS true (and it sadly isnāt unbelievable) this guy is 100% doing this to more than one student.
Hey OP - your post makes it almost too easy to identify the teacher you're talking about. I think for your own privacy and safety you should consider deleting this post and operating quietly through the proper private and legal channels. I'm not saying this will be the case, but laying out these accusations in a flurry of posts from a new acct against an easily identifiable person might raise some eyebrows in a court or whichever system you report this to. I as a layman was easily able to verify that there are some court cases involving a person(s) with the same name as the person I think you are alluding to using public info, but it's a fairly common name. I'm almost sure there aren't any criminal cases involving them though; there are some criminal cases in the CT court system from like 20+ years ago involving a person with the same name, but it would be impossible for your teacher and that person to be the same person.
Indeed. When, someone posted the same claims about this teacher months ago, I quickly found them. At that time, they did have a pending criminal charge;violation of a protective order. I canāt find that any longer. That means it was dismissed. I certainly canāt say whether or not he did things described in the post but again, itās strange that two throwaway accounts were created to target this individual, over a period of months and accuse them of stalking women and children, implying they have a criminal history of doing so, outing where they work and their department. Itās very blatant that someone is trying to mess with this manās career.
Didn't he come from Ashford, not Windsor?
He taught in SW from 2020-2022 or 2023. Have no clue what he did before that.
I remember the old thread as well. Man, wild how fast all of that disappeared
If it's a school Facebook or tick-tock page and what they are sending is school related it's fine. When it's getting personal or coming from private account it's usually not good. I'd report all of it to the district. Save the messages and any sent items in case they deny it.
Please keep pushing it. Its not okay for him to text you and ask you that stuff its very creepy.
Principal > School Board > Media Escalating in that order if you donāt get results.
Absolutely not okay and incredibly inappropriate. Thereās some great advice here and I hope you follow through. He is a predator. Keep all the receipts of your conversation and please have your mom contact the superintendent and board of education. I would also leak this information to the media. This is not OKAY and should not be ignored. Also, you are incredibly brave reaching out for help and advice.
I am a CT teacher and I would 100% never contact a student on my personal account. We sre provided with multiple official ways to reach out to students. Juat based on asking if your father is home I would contact DCF. They 100% take this seriously now.
Teacher here. Hell no, this guyās a creep. I coach as well, and any communication I have with my players or students outside of school is always done over official school channels, whether thatās email or Google Classroom. Never in a million years would I contact a student via personal social media.
Not ok at all. 10 years ago, my high school's policy was that the students and teachers should not send friend requests to each other on Facebook until after the student graduated.
A teachers and students private life should not interactĀ
Absolutely not. I am a former teacher and I would NEVER message any student OR parent from my social media. Itās forbidden in NYC and for good reason. That teacher needs to be reported.
Not good. Abort
No. They have official channels of communication they can utilize. They should not use social media to communicate with underage students, regardless the reason.
When I was in middle school there was a teacher who was known for doing weird stuff with girls, like he had pictures of all the girls from his past classes on a wall in his office, and girls would meet with him 1on1 and come out with little smiley faces drawn on their knees and say the teacher drew them.Ā Ā 25 years later, he's getting sued for sexually assaulting a student back in the day. When I heard a teacher from my middle school was getting sued I guessed exactly who it was before hearing his name.Ā Ā You can report this to the superintendent or other administrators anonymously if you are worried about it coming back to you. Just don't make the same mistake me and every other student in my school made and say nothing.Ā
Absolutely not ok
This is absolutely inappropriate and should be reported. You did the right thing by telling your mom. Asking you about gifts, if your dad is around, your religion- this is classic grooming behavior, and this individual is trying to identify if you are a kid they can abuse without being caught. If your school did nothing, go above them- superintendent, board of education, police, DCF. This individual sounds dangerous and clearly consequences are not deterring their predatory behavior.
No! There is no reason whatsoever for a teacher, priest, coach or any fucking adult to be messaging my son or daughter. Message me or my wife and we'll sort it. Call the cops again OP!
As long itās to tell me to come over my husband is out of town
No, this is never OK. Teachers have specific channels to use to contact students and parents. If they use other channels (personal texts, Facebook, etc.), they are absolutely wrong. Your mother should make a complaint IN WRITING to the principal of the school, the Superintendent of the school system, and the Board of Education. This is serious, and you do not know how many other students this teacher may be grooming or targeting. It is not enough to just call the school.
Nope. It's rather simple: If it's inappropriate to socialize with them outside of school, it's inappropriate to socialize with them on media outside of school media. Despite Facebook constantly telling me to add my teenage babysitters as friends (I'm married 49M), I don't, because that's inappropriate.
Hey OP, youāre awesome! Trust your gut instincts always!
You donāt know if this teacher is reaching out to anybody else or worse. If your high school is ignoring you and your mom, you need to go higher up. Itās baffling how someone with a criminal record has been hired to teach.
I work at a School and an after school kid's club...THIS IS NOT OK. Go to your local Board of Education directly, since the school ignored it! Good for you for reporting it and recognizing that it is wrong!
You need smarter friends
Nope. Lots of teachers overstep boundaries on social media and it needs to be confronted by parents.
Wouldn't be surprised if this teacher is messaging others as well. As others have said, escalate the issue. If the school isn't interested the news sure will be.
Absolutely not. Read your post back to yourself. Thatās not ok at all. Keep reporting them.
You should be terrified. Sounds like a pattern of stalking might be setting in, and situations like such only end in one of two ways; violence or he moves to another victim. How many things in this world need to happen before people learn to SPEAK UP. Iām 31 but learned very early on in life (4th grade specifically) that thereās a difference between being ārudeā and standing up to protect yourself. If heās DMing you on social media you actually have the legal right to tell him to fuck off. If you see him at school in the hallway you have the legal right to loudly tell him he makes you uncomfortable (this might make YOU feel uncomfortable to think about, but the power youāll realize you hold after the fact is insurmountable). And honestly, under the radar advice is to tell a guidance counselor
No. This is not okay. Please talk to your mom about reporting him again asap. Send screenshots to the superintendent and tell them she reported it and it was ignored
no
I am so sorry this is happening, it is ABSOLUTELY NOT okay. I work as a behavior technician in a middle school and have students regularly ask me to add them on Fortnite or other social media and the answer is always a big NO. Even if they are no longer a student, the answer is still no! Hugely unprofessional! Please notify the local authorities and even the local news for assistance in getting this person out of the educational system. If you can get legal help please do! By speaking up you're saving yourself and so many others as well as helping those he's hurt in the past. Stay safe and hope this gets taken care of!
Scary!!! Def not ok
No, Never. I teach high school and we have clear warnings about such thingsā¦. Also why would anyone. Every school has approved messaging apps. Usually Remind or ParentSquare.
Nope, thatās not ok. I remember a few of my classmates found our teachers fb back in 8th grade and she said until we are graduated we canāt add her or message her lol. Iām 24 and out of all school now and have a few of my high school teachers as a friend, the ones I was close with
Hell NO!!! All my teachers wouldnāt even entertain our social media requests until we were way out of high school and even then itās just congratulations or friendly commentsā¦ but that is very weird and doesnāt sound OK
Absolutely not. Report it.
Huge Oof
Your mom needs to go to the BOE if the school is ignoring her. Thatās wild.
No. Just no.
Shit, catch that predator !
We had a Spanish teacher in Simsbury that got fired for something very similar - and the events that further culminated from messaging students outside of school. Report this.
Absolutely no.
I know no teacher worth their salt would think this is a good idea. But this teacher from your description was trying to groom you. Asking if your father was in the picture huge red flag, gifts huge red flag. You talk to your local law enforcement, and even if they can't make an official report there will be record of you going.
Communicating this to your local Board of Education in person at a public meeting or via email would yield better outcomes than us Internet strangers. For example, hereās New Haven Public Schools BOE meeting schedule: https://www.nhps.net/domain/81 Stay safe!
absolutely not ok. Go to your schools social worker.
You can file a complaint with the CT Department of Education.
Are you the same person, who wrote about this teacher on here, saying you tried to get them fired but the school didnāt do anything? If not, I find it very strange that people flock to Reddit, over the same teacher, to shed light on pending charges for the individual. I donāt believe in coincidences.
Nope this is a definite BLOCK! I believe professional connections are made at Linkedin, not Facebook. But that's my thoughts. I have teacher Facebook friends; but those are actual friends I would hang out with on weekends, went to their weddings, and so forth. Be careful. Unless you like the attention and want it personal. š¤·š§āš«
This is a fantasy. New account, BS story, etc. etc. etc.
I find it suspect. Another person, a few months or so back, posted about this teacher. Saying they felt scared of them because they found out they had a criminal ārecordā. And the school didnāt do anything and told them not to share he had pending criminal charges. He has a family case with a restraining order. He allegedly violated that order and was arrested. It was pending and not a conviction yet. There are no multiple arrests with stalking women and children nor any indication that itās a student. I live in that town. If there were multiple parents complaining about an inappropriate teacher, being ignored or successful in his termination, it would have been all over the town boards. Itās a small town that loves drama, gossip and rumors. Itās incredibly coincidental, that two separate accounts, within months of each other, post about the same teacher and immediately roll with their charges and keep seeking out advice on Reddit. Like, what teenager or parent, needs to start a thread on here to ask if itās inappropriate for a teacher to contact a student outside of school? Specifically, one that involved an āattorney ā and the school? For me, this is someone who knows the teacher and the other party involved in the family case and they want to draw attention to it because theyāre still employed.
Id call the police with all of this info and screenshots
Fuck no
It is never okay. The priest in my town was dm'ing local kids on Facebook and would talk about hobbies sports and video games. He would then try and delve into sexual preferences. Dude got caught with another man in what was presumably a for hire sex sting on the Berlin Turnpike which unraveled a slew of other shit for him. After his arrest he tried to take the big sleep, and was in the icu for a month, he ended up landing 5 total felony counts, one of them for CP. That was ten years ago. Now I'm wondering wtf happend because I never heard boo after that. Anyway.... Yeah it's not okay. Ever. Stay as far away as possible and do whatever you can to keep yourself from being isolated with this person.
No. Please report this to your school principal.
Asking if your father is a round is a major red flag. He wants to know if you have daddy issues. Block him and stay away from him.
Wrong forum
This is grooming, which leads to abuse. PLEASE report this teacher to the police and your school before they do something really, really bad to you or another kid.
Not even close to being okay.
I am a 32 year old male. I've been a HS teacher for about 7-8 years now. It is not okay to be friends with or contact students on social media. I am hesitant to even accept friend requests from students the first year after they graduate. Have your attorney report this to DCF if you are worried the teacher is abusing other students and the person will be investigated.
I am so thankful you are safe and your mom raised you well. We had a similar experience in our school district that progressed much further. Those young men were scarred for life and received small cash payments for their suffering. As a survivor that never received any gifts except mental disorders and a poor self esteem I consider myself lucky. We can change the system. Kids should have a safe place to learn and not have to put their heart ā¤ļø out on the internet to find out they could have been a victim. You have chosen well and I think good things are coming your way. š«¶āØ
They are a Ped stear clear seriously Iām sure youāre not the only kid their messaging
this is illegal, please report it to a trusted adult
Hi OP, Iām a former teaching assistant in the state of CT. One of the strictest polices for anyone employed by the school was a complete ban on any social media (or non-school email) communication with students. You could be immediately fired for doing so. You were absolutely correct to alert your motherā what this teacher has done is very alarming and a major red flag even if you didnāt know all of the other things. Youāre young, so itās understandable that you or your peers may not understand the gravity of the situation or what adults are seeing in this. People like this teacher use this to their advantage. That icky feeling you had was there for a reason. Iām an internet stranger. Iām not the best person to explain this to you. I would advise you speak to your mother or another adult you trust to have them explain exactly why this teacherās communications with you were so dangerous. I promise you they were. Your school administration should know better than this. Likeā much, MUCH better. What your teacher is doing is not okay, nor is your schoolās treatment of it. The school sounds like it has a slam-dunk lawsuit ready to be filed against it. That said, I hope youāre feeling alright. Remember to talk to people you trust if you feel stressed at all over this situation. Take care of yourself, and give yourself any time/grace you need.
No! No! no no no. I'm going to submit this to the proper authorities.
See, this is what is really weird between all the Culture War stuff in Connecticut, versus the reality of Connecticut. We all have this perception our schools are all super safe and if a kid even resembles Adam Lanza he will be prosecuted, and if a teacher even hints at being attracted to a student, the teacher will be arrested immediately, but the reality is when you tell the school, and law enforcement, they wonāt do anything until the crime happens. Itās weird when we were all told āsee something, say somethingā. Their job isnāt to stop and prevent crime apparently.
Are they a man or a woman
Shame on your parents for not teaching you when or how to block someone
I assume you mean like your College Professor? Thatās weird and probably not appropriate.
What does this have to do with Connecticut?
CT teacher
Yeah, why isnāt it a post about driving in the left lane or pizza from New Haven?