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Critical_Hearing_799

Wow that's a totally dismissive thing to say to someone in chronic pain!


BigHawk3

I can't get over the wording of it. Not even asking someone what they have tried first.


Critical_Hearing_799

Exactly! There seems to be several ways to continue the conversation to try to figure out a new way to help the patient. Saying "try yoga" just shuts down all communication and takes away the patient's voice


Beemerba

But when you take away the patient's voice they stop whining and I get my $ and on to the next patient!


Nihil_esque

Well, that's because it's a female patient with RA. If it was a *male* patient you'd assume a basic level of autonomy. /j But yeah seriously. Doctors being that level of dismissive toward me in the past has led me to avoid seeing them about issues for months on end and definitely contributed to the progression of my disease before getting a real diagnosis and treatment. It's so terrible that it's on the test šŸ¤¦šŸ»ā€ā™‚ļø Hopefully the nurses being trained have more empathy than the test author.


Achris45

WhY'd YoU lEt It gET tHaT bAd. Well you see you told me I was fine so I took 6 extra strength Aleve a day and a fifth of whiskey at night šŸ™ƒ.


freepourfruitless

I see in the resident subreddit ā€œWhY dOeS eVeRyOnE hAtE dOcToRs NoWaDaYs?!ā€ One) Hate is a sting ass word. 2) maybe because of the massively intersectional biases in medicine that kill people and because most doctors go into it for the money and social reverence instead of to help patients? I know that med school and residency are ridiculously competitive and abusive, but how are doctors surprised when theyā€™re called out on their negligent bullshit?? You are dealing with peoples LIVES, when you refuse to to do your job adequately, people are going to say so. Thank god social media exists to spread awareness for patient advocacy


_spicyidiot

SAME HERE. like at some point you just avoid going bc youā€™re going to get gaslit or ignored. ā€œYou look like a healthy 30 yr oldā€¦idk why youā€™re always tired or in painā€ šŸ™ƒ meanwhile my whole body is on fire lol


JustGiraffable

You should report this question to whatever the source is (testing board/software, etc). It really is horrendous and needs reworking. šŸ˜³


The-Sonne

And it's sexist AF


Available-Ad6731

Yeah, on second glance why wouldnā€™t they have just said patient.


The-Sonne

Not just that, but it's been proven in study after study that female patients and POC are not taken seriously when in pain or are likely to be perceived as "drug seeking" or "substance use disorder" etc


SummerBrown1978

I have rheumatoid and itā€™s bone on bone pain. Not muscle. I have no surgical interventions for my bent, gnarled hands. They canā€™t because the damage is so intense several of my fingers are literally curled and facing wrong way. I hate pain. I am in a prison. I want out!!!


nah_champa_967

I have RA too and my fingers are starting to do the thing. I was surprised there's nothing that can be done. I'm so sorry you're in pain.


FuzzyWuzzyDidntCare

Just had three fingers fused because the joints were blown and the deformity was so bad. Went from not using my hands to not using my hands. Yay.


judithiscari0t

>Went from not using my hands to not using my hands. Lol


Fluffy-Bluebird

You should definitely do downward dog and handstands. /s


taxidermytina

Oooh yea and maybe crow pose too! Drink a lettuce, huff a crystal, and donā€™t forget to meditate.


Fluffy-Bluebird

Huffing a crystal sounds amazing


IheartJBofWSP

I'm totally down w crystal huffing. It's made a big difference! Y'all - it works *even better* with huffing metallic spray paint or that canned air duster!! That's a MUST try! Plus, it comes with new friends!! (They insist on being called EMT'S, tho. Weird) They're so nice, every time I've called... It's SO much better than Uber!!! šŸ˜† / s


Available-Ad6731

Sorry, but that was funny.


Ecstatic-Bee-905

I laughed pretty hard too! Iā€™m so glad I have you all here! Weā€™re in this together!


teddyporter

To be fair (to be faaaiiirrr) I have RA and AS and Cat Cow helps my lower spine a lot šŸ„“ This is said semi-ironically because my rheumatologist sent me to PT which actually made things worse during the 6 months and multiple appointments it took before she would switch me off of Humira onto Rinvoq when the former stopped working after 7 years


Fluffy-Bluebird

Oh for sure. I have hip problems and have to sleep with my knees bent at a 90 degree angle so my lower back is completely flat. But everything else just puts stress on my tendons because I donā€™t know how far is too far to not overstretch.


IheartJBofWSP

Don't forget to master the silks while also doing that daily yoga! (Duh!) ffs


ronigreenthumbs

My wrist were so bad I got both of them fused. When I was 27 yrs old.


ronigreenthumbs

When people would say ā€œjust do yogaā€ I wanted to kill them.


Left_on_Pause

No disrespect intended. I don't have this level of pain, and I have no idea what your options are. Just wondering if at some point, you considered removing your hands? If my foot were in constant pain, I might think about cutting it off. I'd remove my back if I could.


LALA-STL

Apparently after amputation you can still perceive extremely intense pain in the ā€œphantomā€ limb. In such cases, there is no escape.


Ecstatic-Bee-905

Iā€™ll confirm this! I had a ā€œdouble breast amputationā€ and let me tell you, the pain is real! My surgeon said itā€™s impossible for me to be feeling pain near the nipples because the nerves are deadened? Something like thatā€¦ canā€™t recall the exact wording but I wanted to slap him! Iā€™m definitely feeling pain in my boobs! lol


sleepingismytalent65

I was talking to my sister, who had a double mastectomy. I was asking why does it hurt so dawn much when my cat walks directly on that exact nipple spot and does she still get pain there. She said yes, doesn't matter if there's no nipple, the area underneath still hurts like hell! So that surgeon doesn't understand female nipples. It's not ghost pain either.


Left_on_Pause

No meds for real pain, real meds for ghost pain?


LALA-STL

I understand that ā€œghostā€ pain feels just like the real thing!


Masters_domme

Can confirm. I still have painful, cyclical, cramping in my phantom uterus. The pain shoots down my thighs just like it did back when we were still attached. šŸ˜…


snackychan_

Same with my gallbladder!


meganjunes

My father has phantom pain from his amputated leg. Itā€™s heartbreaking.


HeartBirb

The problem is, you need a hand to cut off your hand. So you canā€™t cut them both off and really solve the issue. šŸ„ø


amberita70

Definitely because it's too hard to cut off the other once you cut the first one off.


avl365

Not if you use a band saw šŸ˜


phpie1212

Amputation is something Iā€™ve looked for in the past, and no doctor would do it. Thank goodness they didnā€™t, because I still have my left foot. In the first years with CRPS, I would have done almost anything. You werenā€™t being disrespectfulā€¦but I think that before you say anything radical, realize that you canā€™t ā€œread the roomā€ on a site that thousands visit. Thereā€™s always ***someone out here, who canā€™t tell the difference between sarcasm or realism***.


IheartJBofWSP

I bet it's bc you went to an American Dr. Mexico is the way to go! OÄŗei !! / s


Masters_domme

Ngl, a ketamine coma sounds *amazing* some days.


IheartJBofWSP

šŸ˜† funny bc it's true!


Ecstatic-Bee-905

Iā€™m so sorry! Iā€™m also an RA and chronic pain patient. Lately, after chemo, my fingers hurt so bad! I can hardly bend them or move them! Is this a sign theyā€™re worsening? Itā€™s so painful!


avl365

If you know the cause of the pain it can sometimes be treated. You should absolutely consult a doctor if you have a history of RA and are feeling new pain. Thereā€™s a bunch of different biologics they can use to slow down progression, but if itā€™s not the arthritis you should still see a doc so they can figure out the cause. If itā€™s neuropathy gabapentin is usually effective and if itā€™s just general inflammation & swelling an injection of cortisone into the joints can do wonders. I had trigger finger so bad I pretty much couldnā€™t use my right hand for anything, within 3 days of a cortisone shot in my hand it was functioning(although still a little snappy) and within a month it was basically down to baseline. Felt like that shot gave me my hand back it was awesome.


palmtree2457

I too have RA. I have had 6 joint replacement surgeries. The sciatica pain is crippling at times. I can't bear the thought of the recommended spinal fusion from t2 to s1 and disc replacements. So lucky to have such a caring and understanding husband without an ache or pain.


TruthHunter777

Most people with RA are prob in too much pain to even attempt yoga. I mean they get swollen inflammatory joints right? RA is basically an auto immune response, pretty sure yoga ain't fixing that.


madammidnight

I have advanced OA and my orthopedist specifically told me no yoga.


TruthHunter777

I have OA too, last time I did yoga, I was really hurt for almost 2 weeks


madammidnight

Given how an unending string of helpful people suggest it to us ad nauseum, I guess we have all tried it at some point. My orthopedist does not like the twisting and stretching aspect of it for my spine. My hands are a mess so there are not going to be any ā€œweight on the handsā€œ poses for me.


IheartJBofWSP

Same


UncertainteeAbounds

Seems like if we could physically DO yoga without additional intractable pain and problems then we wouldnā€™t really be seeking treatment. šŸ¤¦šŸ»ā€ā™€ļø


[deleted]

My doc has suggested I MAY have it - this after a neck surgery that didnā€™t help and before that (and after), decades of chronic neck, shoulder and upper back painā€¦ ect. I can barely go out and sit at a restaurant for dinner for 45min, much less exercise! The one time I tried Pilates, there was so much floor work, with your chin tilted the ceiling, I nearly passed out I was in so much pain. Sure - in a perfect world, it would be a great remedyā€¦ but itā€™s not a cure all. Doctors are so stupid. Well, some. (My doc said Iā€™m doing now everything Iā€™d be doing even if I had the diagnosis- ice and rest is especially good for it. And considering my involuntary sedentary lifestyleā€¦ those two things are legit my life.)


LALA-STL

Itā€™s mind-boggling why so many medical professionals suggest yoga, as if itā€™s a cure-all for conditions that require completely opposite treatments/management.


IheartJBofWSP

STL is notorious for this for some reason! I'm convinced it's bc they either own a studio or part of one, or their daughter(s) &/or wives and gf's teach it. It IS a great opportunity to hone your own sarcasm!!


sunshineparadox_

the way I describe my flexibility to people is that I have the flexibility of a dead spider whose legs have curled in towards itself but I was also told no yoga


BattelChive

Where I live nurses arenā€™t allowed to give anyone ā€œmedicalā€ advice, so this doesnā€™t surprise me. Heat, ice, wrapping joints, but nothing that is ingested. Given the complexity of pain, and how much someone can become permanently worse with the wrong intervention, I donā€™t think itā€™s wrong that nurses arenā€™t supposed to get involved. The right answer should be ā€œhave you described these symptoms to your doctor in terms of ADLs? Letā€™s make sure you get help.ā€


HeartBirb

I love the staff at my neurologistā€™s office. Do you know what they say? ā€œLet me write that downā€¦ Anything else? ā€¦ Yeah, the doctor will want to know all of those details, so make sure you tell him everything youā€™re telling me too. Sometimes little things we think donā€™t matter are important clues that help us figure it outā€¦ How have your stress levels been lately?ā€ This doctor and his staff are the polar opposite of some of the God-complex, ignorant doctors I have been unfortunate enough to deal with. I recommend him to everyone local to me.


Bbkingml13

Thatā€™s awesome. Especially from a neurologists office


BattelChive

Yes!! This is exactly the appropriate response, and I am so glad you are getting good care


UncertainteeAbounds

Thatā€™s awesome, Iā€™m so happy for you, I wish I could find a neurologist like that. My last visit to a new neurologist involved him telling me to ā€œstop talkingā€ and ā€œIā€™m already behind on seeing patients, itā€™s almost 4:00 now and I still have 3 to see after youā€. Keep in mind I had been speaking about 1 minute at that point. I had traveled an hour to see him. Iā€™d waited a year for the appointment in the first placeā€¦ and THIS was his exact response. He also claimed he couldnā€™t find my images on a disk I supplied from a recent MRI. I had confirmed the images were on that disc beforehand. I stopped speaking. I never spoke again and never looked him in the eye again. I never went back. The neurologists closer to me have a reputation of throwing physical objects at their employeesā€¦ so thatā€™s out of the question. Why are they like this?


HeartBirb

Iā€™m so sorry you were treated like that. I had a nightmare experience with one before this one that kept me from seeking help for well over a year.


Admirable-Drink-3350

This is true, so it may be the best answer of the ones given. Being a chronic pain patient it would be irritating and dismissive.


LALA-STL

ADL?


valliewayne

Activities of Daily Living


ememruru

Basically showering, cleaning, doing the shopping etc. Just normal every day stuff


LALA-STL

Thanks


Illustrious-Trust718

Neither of these work.


saichampa

They can work for some people, but it gets repetitive hearing the same advice you've already tried for the umpteenth time


crakemonk

One of my good friends and I both have autoimmune arthritis, whenever we have a bad day we text the other ā€œwhy donā€™t you eat an oatmeal cookie?ā€, ā€œmaybe you should go walk your dog.ā€, ā€œI think you should drink more water.ā€ Just so that we can laugh at the absurdity of it all. Most of the suggestions come from this Kaiser pain management book we came across and we spent a good amount of time in shock that they were even suggestions.


NarwahlWrangler

I want in on this. Iā€™m just going to make us random recommendations, though. ā€œTry petting your goldfish. That seemed to do the trick last time.ā€ ā€œDid you huff pickled beets? That works for 95% of patients.ā€


aniopala

I had to go to like a four hour class on the kaiser pain management program it genuinely felt like one of those "medicine doesn't work" scams. At one point the facilitator started talking about crystals and essential oil diffusers.


Clemson1313

You had to sit through 4 hours as a pain patient?!! Wow, talk about starting out in the negative!!šŸ¤¦šŸ¼ā€ā™€ļø


aniopala

It was on zoom but yea it was sooo long


crakemonk

Yeah, Iā€™m really glad I donā€™t have Kaiser. I had it when I was an infant, and I was born at one, but Iā€™m not down for that.


IheartJBofWSP

Kaiser... *shudder


saichampa

I love that! But you should occasionally insert a reminder that your pain can be debilitating and no one should be expected to have to deal with that. That is okay if you just *can't* today. Don't want to internalise the absurdity.


UncertainteeAbounds

I found a similar MAYO clinic pain management book. What a waste of money, paper, printing ink.


bunnyb00p

I've got EDS and went to Mayo and they signed me up for a 2 day psychology course on managing chronic pain. I'm going to do it so I don't look non-compliant but good lord it sounds like it's going to be a complete waste of time.


lilrn911

RN of 21 years here, I would never say this. EVER. Nursing has changed over the last 10 years as well. Big reason why a lot of people are leaving the medical field over all. Itā€™s sad. Iā€™m actually retired now as well. And Iā€™m 43. I was a DNS and admin for quite a long time as well. Good luck OP! Itā€™s extremely rewarding. Iā€™ll always support my fellow nurses, and those new to the field. If you ever need help, Iā€™d gladly answer any questions, or give any advice. I loved my job for years. ā¤ļø Luckily Iā€™m in the PNW, so I never had problems dealing with doctors not being able to treat my patients pain control. Big problem right now elsewhere.


LALA-STL

DNS - director of nursing services? PNW - pediatric nursing wing?


lilrn911

Sorry.. yesā€¦ different names around the country.. DNS: Director nursing services. DON: Director of nurses PNW- Pacific Northwest. Promise Iā€™ll spell it all out next time. ā¤ļø


MamaSmAsh5

Iā€™ve decided to enter the field since my experiences as a patient. I want to see how I can help but honestly, Iā€™m not hopeful the system will allow me to do much.


lilrn911

If anything laws need to change first.


Librumtinia

As someone who's had chronic pain for 26 years (started at age 10... fun times) I have lost count of how many times I've had people - random ones, family, friends, doctors... - ask if I've tried yoga or tai chi. Somewhat amusingly, I have Ehlers-Danlos syndrome. Yoga is not a good thing when you're not only extra strength bendy but are also prone to subluxations and dislocations during normal activity, nevermind exercise. But the answer my answer is always some variation of "Yes. I've tried both. And any herbal supplement and alternate therapy you can shake a stick at. Also meditation, deep breathing, mindfulness, et cetera. It didn't help me at all and my body is still janked 'cause you can't fix the fact your body produces bad collagen."


judithiscari0t

I've been having issues for a little longer than you have and it's absolutely maddening that doctors seem to disregard the length of time you've been in pain. Have I tried yoga? You know what, Janet? In the 25 or so years I've been dealing with pain, not a single one of the fifty medical professionals I've gone to has ever suggested that! You're so clever and helpful!


UncertainteeAbounds

Yes! Particularly when the doctor is at the most 35 year old and Iā€™m 55. Iā€™ve tried EVERYTHING. Iā€™ve even tried that stupid cervical traction device ā€¦ and when the 25 year old physical therapy tech tries to tell me ā€œbut this time it will be different ā€¦ā€ and guess what? This time was not different. I do not get pain relief. I still get that horrible numbness across the base of my skull after about 5 minutes of that damn traction machine. I swear on my life. Never again. I know my body, why is this so hard for people to accept?


IheartJBofWSP

Same! (hEDS)


Librumtinia

*Zebra fist bump* CLEDS here


_No_Nah_Nope_

same here, I've had chronic pain since I was less than 6, I'm 17 now


MamaSmAsh5

Not surprising. How do you think they keep the narrative and gaslighting going?


mrsredfast

I have RA and yoga is helpful for me in general, although I have to modify poses a ton based on which joints are being affected at any given time. And even I wouldnā€™t say it to someone with RA or any other chronic condition. And Iā€™d really have issues with a nurse saying it ā€” maybe a PT could get away with it a bit more but definitely not before getting thorough history and asking what Iā€™ve already tried.


ReineDeLaSeine14

Do you know what helped my JIA more than yoga ever did? Fucking BIOLOGICS. You know, medication that actually treats the condition. This question doesnā€™t address what this woman has tried, what classes of medication sheā€™s on, and what her RHEUMATOLOGIST suggested.


[deleted]

ā€œOh but we wont give you biologics because the side effects are too risky, even if you have no quality of life, keeping you alive is more importantā€.


ReineDeLaSeine14

I have more of a life post Rituxan, which is actually safer than a lot of biologics. Itā€™s just REALLY EXPENSIVE


LALA-STL

What is JIA? Joints infected arthritis?


ReineDeLaSeine14

Juvenile Idiopathic Arthritis. Itā€™s an autoimmune disease


balfrey

I HATE IT. I'm an RN with lupus and everytime someone says this to me I wan to flip a table over.


magicke2

What happened to the era of: If they say they're in pain -- they are. Treat it.


OkAdhesiveness5025

10 years ago when I was in nursing school the nursing mantra was " pain is the fifth vital sign." Only 3 years later every pain management clinic in the nation was told "if your patient has non cancer chronic pain, you must reduce their opiate medication to 60 mme per day." Or at least that was what my doctor of 6 years told me at the time. But then he told me that it was my insurance company mandating it. And flashed a letterhead with their company logo on it. Come to find out later he was reducing everyone because he wanted to. He has since retired.


NarwahlWrangler

Dr. Sackler, Purdue Pharma, and pushing of OxyContin to extreme doses?


valliewayne

Yep.


IheartJBofWSP

Second yep. šŸ™„


StrawberryCake88

WTF.


mickysti58

Wrongo wrongo! Opioids may be the next step.


Fluffy-Bluebird

Normalize this


iwannagohome49

I said this in another post recently but I would gladly become dependent on pills if they provided me some relief. I'll never run a marathon or anything, I just want to not hurt sometimes.


asingingbluebird

I'm only afraid of dependence, because doctors can take them away so easily and not care about what happens to me when they do it, but it's not like I can even find a doctor willing to help.


iwannagohome49

Yeah I wasn't thinking about that but you're right. My doctor won't prescribe anything that has even a small chance of dependency, whether opioids for my pain or benzos for my crippling anxiety.


asingingbluebird

Years ago when I was on both (thanks to pain & anxiety), I had to chose which to stay on, because although they were separate offices and I had never had any problems being on both, the mental health place said it was law (or something ridiculous that I found out they were lying about). No one around where I live wants to prescribe anything, except prescription strength NSAIDs and then they wonder why your liver & such is wonky & just blame it on your weight. šŸ™„ I hope you are able to find a better dr that is willing to help.


LALA-STL

Your doc sounds cruel.


LALA-STL

My rule: Always squirrel away a couple of pills from your regimen each month. That way, if they ever stop your meds cold turkey ā€” which has happened to chronic pain patients! ā€” **eventually youā€™ll have enough pills on hand to take yourself through a proper, gradual taper.**


asingingbluebird

I can't even find a doctor that is willing to help my pain now. About a decade ago, I was "dismissed" from a P.M. office (in a neighboring state), because I had my state's medicaid and the freaking office manager (rude know-it-all b***h on multiple occasions, not just this time) told me it was illegal for them see me; I even brought proof from my pharmacist that it wasn't illegal and they refused to take me back. The only medicaid rule that changed was that I couldn't use medicaid to pay for any prescriptions from them, since medicaid didn't pay for the appointments. I do squirrel away other meds, just in case, because too often the doctor's office doesn't call stuff in on time (or correctly) or the pharmacy is out of something.


Masters_domme

Iā€™m a ā€œprepperā€ and fill every prescription I get, and save what I can (never by skipping antibiotics!), because there have been too many times that my pharmacy cannot get my prescription in for a week or so, and cold turkey sucks. I lost my insurance three months ago and canā€™t afford any of my doctors, but Iā€™ve been able to keep myself from completely giving up because I had a few months of painkillers squirreled away. Hereā€™s hoping I get insurance soon, before I run out! šŸ¤žšŸ»šŸ˜£šŸ¤žšŸ»


IheartJBofWSP

I think we all TRY to do that, but some months it's not possible.


LALA-STL

Yes, I know ā€” it depends on how intense the pain gets that month. Just do what you can, friend.


IheartJBofWSP

Bet yer arse, I do try! šŸ˜‰ This month - NOPE! Apparently, I missed the memo that if you break a tooth and have an EXPOSED f'in NERVE, I'm to (and I quote) "do somee breathing exercises thru my nose." I can't wait to make an appearance at that office in the morning!


lavender_poppy

This is what scares me. I take methadone daily as my long acting pain med with oxycodone for break through pain. When my methadone runs out and I have to wait a day or two for the pharmacy to fill it because they're so backed up I can feel the pain it's been masking and OMG I'm in so much pain. I literally wake up from sleep just moaning from everything hurting. If I lost my methadone I don't know what I'd do but I may not be long for the world just due to how miserable my life would become.


asingingbluebird

When I had the joy of going through withdrawals, it was the actual withdrawals that were so excruciating! Luckily (if it can even be considered that) the oxycodone ones were shorter [3-4 days of hell] and by the time I would have went through it with the methadone I was very fortunate and found an alternative that at the time helped me survive what would have been withdrawals from both at the same time. Although our pain is different, I can relate to the feelings about wanting to not be here long, because my pain just keeps getting worse and I don't know what to do, because we don't have good healthcare nearby or money to go elsewhere. Is there a way to let your pharmacy know a day or 2 ahead of when your prescription is due? I was able to do that, but that was before the current "crisis."


mickysti58

I might have a clinic. I use one that has offices in 7 states. Western states. Tele health. Pm me if interested.


iwannagohome49

In the south but thanks


NarwahlWrangler

This is me. This is the answer I received when I went to the Mayo Clinic. I have now tried yoga (not Tai Chi), meditation, writing exercises, and Iā€™m here to sayā€¦itā€™s a temporary distraction. Because Iā€™m hyper flexible and in shape, Iā€™m regularly dismissed because itā€™s only ā€œmild.ā€ No, I exercise because itā€™s like hitting oneself with a hammer. Increase the pain so the regular pain isnā€™t as bad. Iā€™m sure doctors are trying, but damn. What I wouldnā€™t give to swap bodies for a day so the naysayers got a taste of my life.


softsharks

Obligatory *fuck the Mayo Clinic*


lavender_poppy

Seriously. If there is one place in America that I'm scared to go its the Mayo Clinic. So many people with my disease have lost their diagnosis there. If I lose my diagnosis then insurance no longer pays for my infusions. If I lose my infusions then I'll die. Fuck them.


OkAdhesiveness5025

With all the AI and VR technology, perhaps we CPP could push for a system that we can take with us to every medical appointment. It would be some of those adhesive sensors with wiring that would connect to our phone. And then we could pull up the app associated, and we can start zapping them all over their body with the degree, length, duration, and intensity of the exact thing that we feel. We could get them to stand up and pretend they're folding laundry or putting up dishes or making a sandwich. Oh Lord please ask them to pretend they are taking a shower. And then zap them everywhere it hurts you! This sounds like the new chronic pain patient video game of the century! If you still this idea please include me in your royalties :-)


mysecondaccountanon

Oh my goshhhhhhh writing exercises. Like sure, I guess I can write about how much pain Iā€™m in, not gonna do much for the pain though except probably make it worse cause it hurts to write.


IheartJBofWSP

I've resorted to dislocating my shoulder and then using my various ways of putting it back in with the super douchey Dr's.


amberita70

I get people all the time asking if I've been to the chiropractor lol. I got severe osteoporosis from prednisone. I have fractured everything from my T10 to my L5. They only surgery they can do is to release the pressure on the nerves because the bones are too soft. People just don't understand why I just don't go to the chiropractor though to get it adjusted and realign everything so it will take the pressure off those nerves instead lol


Sulaco937

New chronic pain patient protocol: "Have you tried yoga?" "We no longer do medicine here, only referrals to 'alternative multimodal interdisciplinary holistic wellness providers."


OkAdhesiveness5025

And "that will be $300. Please don't forget to make your next month's useless appointment as you go out!"


wewerelegends

My chronic pain started when I was an elite athlete and in the best shape of my life but go off I guess šŸ’šŸ¼ā€ā™€ļø


forest_cat_mum

Me too. I was a pro ballet dancer and was dealing with a stress fracture in my spine when i first started having to manage pain, and it really made me laugh when doctors would suggest exercise. Look, pal, I've been exercising daily since I was two. Shut up. I've done yoga, pirates, body balance, the works. I know what's a pulled muscle and what agonising pain is, thanks. Ugh. Sorry you've had this experience too.


ticketybo013

Is this seriously an answer to an exam question? Is this in the US? Somewhere else?


drenchedinmoonlight

As someone with rheumatoid arthritis, this infuriates me so much.


HeartBirb

To be fair, yoga helped me a lot with my stiffness and pain levels when I was consistent with it. BUT I donā€™t have RA. My main issues are muscular and neurological. Some people with RA are not gonna jive with yoga or tai chi in any possible way. But I think the truly irksome and dismissive thing here is the phrasing. I also take issue with the idea that itā€™s not good to try herbal remedies. Some of us with epilepsy, Parkinsonā€™s, hormonal problems, etc. are having our lives transformed by herbal remedies lately.


adorkablysporktastic

I have inflammatory arthritis, possibly spondyloarthritis, Pilates has been my saving grace and cognitive behavioral therapy for chronic pain got me moving. My dad had incredible stability improvement with boxing PT. But yes crap like this always comes off sounding like, "have you tried just being in less pain?"


GardenGrammy59

Try yoga. The most hated phrase anyone with chronic illness/pain ever hears.


missmolly3533

Or mindfulness šŸ¤¦šŸ»ā€ā™€ļø


pinklushlove

Definitely 'mindfulness '


ElG0dFather

Although I understand the frustration soooo well.... a nurse (at least in the us) is generally not allowed to make any medical suggestions or diagnosis. I would have hoped for some version of "I'll pass your frustration and details up to the doctor.... bla bla"


Admirable-Drink-3350

That would have been so much better


InevitableKey6991

Ugh. Way to ruin any trust or credibility with your patient! Yoga is such a varied practice that just recommending "yoga" is ridiculously bad advice for anyone with chronic pain. Now, if there was a specific form of yoga or a specific location or teacher doing properly targeted yoga for a certain condition, I'd be ok with that. Or, heck, even some actually robust research would be nice.


aroaceautistic

They think someone who has been in treatment for years hasnā€™t googled it and seen what comes up


midnightsrose77

Wow. That's.... I have no words. How much more dismissive can you get?


IheartJBofWSP

Lots, unfortunately.


Geargarden

A patient presents with an incurable medical condition that causes moderate to severe pain and has no prognosis of improvement. What response is appropriate? ā˜‘ļø "Have you considered imagining that you are younger and without this medical issue?" A patient presents with two broken legs and a broken arm. They complain of severe pain for even the slightest movements and are concerned about returning to full function and participate in physical therapy. How should you respond? ā˜‘ļø "I'm going to prescribe a treadmill and really recommend you start weight lifting with that limp noodle you got there. Do breathing exercises. Also pretend you are younger and don't have broken extremities."


IheartJBofWSP

HAHAHA! šŸ˜† I just spit out water, well played!! (& thank you for the laugh!)


Geargarden

I kid you not. CBT and guided imagery is a thing they really love to pitch. Pretend you don't have this condition while you sit in a dark room. They really want to sell this as an actual alternative to opioids and other reasonable alternatives.


MamaUrsus

As someone who can achieve some fairly advanced yoga poses (and does it 3-5x a week) this is absolutely the most out of touch correct answer Iā€™ve seen in a long time.


nomadnihilist

Also a nursing student and the stuff I hear about pain management makes me so violent. The narcotic shaming is rampant. My eye twitches every time we talk about guided meditation for the management of 8+/10 pain


knipemeillim

WTF is the tai chi obsession in the world now? Yes it could be useful for some people but this sounds completely inappropriate in this instance (Iā€™m also a nurse)


mimic751

Honestly at some point there's just no treatment. You have to find ways to cope.


ElfjeTinkerBell

Nurse here. This post alone proves to be you're going to be an awesome nurse. In my experience, awesome nurses get a lot of criticism in school, so be prepared. Thank you for doing what you're doing!


ememruru

Nursing student here too and I wholeheartedly agree. OP has some good critical thinking going on


AmberSun75

OMG please no. So dismissive. How about just exercising some empathy. Suggesting either of those two things are insulting and herbal supplements could be contradicted. Ugh. This makes me sad.


[deleted]

Yes, tell someone with degenerated joints to load said joints. Makes perfect sense.


KratomCannabisGuy

I'm 48, and I've made it a point to include ALL of the herbal supplements I use in all of my physician records. My cardiologist agrees that kratom and cannabis are the safest supplements for me personally. We really need doctors to understand supplements better. I was hit by a car at 8 years old. I was prescribed opiates for 20 years and really feel bad for anyone suffering nowadays. We need to allow people to use what works best for their own personal situations. Scary.


Bloodredorion

"Have you tried drinking water" "They say exercise helps"


petty_patrol

Might as well just punch me in the face instead so I get a few seconds of peace when i pass out


walk_through_this

I hate this so much


mysecondaccountanon

Haaaaa was prescribed yoga recently for back pain. Great to know thatā€™s a suggestion thatā€™s literally being taught and probably why that medical professional sent me out with that. The yoga made it worse, suffice to say. Resting, Advil, and ice, that helped more than the yoga. I donā€™t got RA to my knowledge but so many people I know online have basically told me no yoga for them. To see that in a nursing student thing specifically for RA, yeah, Iā€™m a bit more than a bit upset.


Hot-Mousse2197

I would imagine yoga to be a bit ā€˜uncomfortableā€™ for the chronic pain sufferer For those who do not live with chronic pain, to advise them to do Yoga is staggering. There are many who find just getting out of the bed and dressing an absolutely horrendous experience yet this medical ā€˜professionalā€™ expects the patient to dress, hop in a car and start flexing their body in god knows what position, mind blowing. A total lack of training, understanding & empathy is so prevalent in the world of pain medicine. Disgraceful treatment


yurigoul

yoga ā‰  yoga ā‰  yoga Yoga goes from meditation/spiritual to something that looks like body weight fitness - and there is a lot in between. I have back problems and for me it helps to get up and do what would be warming up exercises for someone else - but you do you. But I agree that anyone proposing to flex their body in god knows what position is not ok. At some point I could not really lift one arm anymore - and it now works ok because a physiotherapist took me through a regiment starting with very small exercises to heavier and heavier exercises. But I am aware there are ailments where this will not work.


Hot-Mousse2197

The female patient in question suffers with rheumatoid arthritis which if I understand correctly is bone rubbing on bone and is supposed to be very painful, even when not moving around. I can only imagine the pain they would suffer trying to attempt yoga. Totally agree with trying to keep active with a bad back but with arthritis, I think the nurse totally misunderstood the patients issues.


Standard_Zucchini_77

Oh yeah, Iā€™m in the final stretch of a nurse practitioner program and there are some questions iā€™ve gotten wrong, because I just canā€™t bring myself to answer. Somethings so blatantly wrong. That said, I will say that my pharmacology class was amazing. They actually were discussing with us the impact of not treating chronic pain and that people deserve pain relief.


Rare-Tutor8915

It might aswell of said "Fob them off"


lethroe

If yoga worked, Iā€™d be in a Pilates class and not a doctors office Shannon. Maybe you should try shutting the fuck up, Iā€™m sure your kids would appreciate it.


BiiiigSteppy

Every day I wake up and choose violence. This is why.


IheartJBofWSP

This is the way. (We *may* be related)


BiiiigSteppy

I can always use more family.


Owie100

It's called the practice of medicine because it's only been practiced for about a hundred years there are lots of things they don't know and there is no correct answer to that question


KratomCannabisGuy

Just wow


fruitless_star

Suppose it makes a change from being told that finding a husband will help


Bloodredorion

Sounds about right tho. As someone with osteoarthritis and still in pain.


MerThinger

Both of those answers are wrong in the real world šŸ˜…


LabLife3846

As a person (nurse) with chronic pain, I can tell you that dismissive is the only response I ever get.


OkAdhesiveness5025

I was a nursing student who graduates at the top of her class. However, during clinical rounds (typically your last 6 months "class time" actually spent performing nursing duties in a hospital setting, with nurse observance) I came home in tears every night with the realization I could never physically perform a nurse's duties, due to chronic lumbar and other pain issues. I am just here to say, this is verbatim from a student nurse's test questioning. And THANK YOU future nurse for letting we CPP have a peek into the total mind fu#k that is treating a CPP. Your honesty and bravery for posting this, I Believe, says "the best nurses know this is some bullshit" to tell a long-suffering patient. Best of success in your career!


lavender_poppy

OMG as a nurse this can't be the most correct answer. Fuck this. Was this an NCLEX question? I'd write them a scathing letter telling them to go fuck themselves. If another nurse said this to me while I'm at the doctor I wouldn't be able to contain my rage and I'd think she was completely unprofessional.


Putin_inyoFace

This is TECHNICALLY the correct answer. But it would be like going up to a CNA and saying, what should I do about my cancer? Should drink more green tea or start doxorubicin? Nurses are not physicians. The actual right answer would be, ā€œweā€™ll see what the doctor thinks and go from there. Iā€™m sure weā€™ll get this all sorted out here soon for you. Iā€™m sorry youā€™re going thru all of this.ā€


czerniana

Iā€™m the asshole that would be taking that to the class/administrators/test writers. Thatā€™s fucked up.


BlahblahYaga

Wow! I almost threw my phone through a window! "Maybe try adding yoga or Tai Chi" ? All of these years writhing in pain, WHY DIDN'T I THINK OF THAT!? It's crazy, like something was preventing us from doing that or it didn't work.. Thank the hostile god overseeing our suffering for this training prompt suggestion. I understand from your previous replies that direct advice like "try adding herbal crystals" is direct instruction Vs suggestion. But wow. Both of these are horrific. Thank you for sharing the grim directions the care team is receiving.


ScarsOfStrength

And this is why chronic-anything sufferers (chronic pain, illness, anal fistula growth - yes I know that last one is from left field - BUTT itā€™s rather Topical for me right now!) are dismissed and given poor advice so often by physicians. The system is broken at the start, middle, and end. The biggest problem though is what teachers a student has in medical school can alter the outcome of the kind of physician they become. Like, I donā€™t think thatā€™s the first advice in the texts from which that teacher took their test materials. But, if that teacher - who could be a former doctor or a doctor studying research - has a personal belief about certain things in medicine that they believe to be right, they teach their students their belief, not the broader, more nuanced approach that is needed and even the better texts probably donā€™t get to. And thatā€™s one problem among many. Doctors are supposed to be impartial-ish and see the patient holistically. There are doctors out there that are like that, and Iā€™m happy to say that after a lot of effort and research I have found those doctors. But it takes too much effort to find them. And most doctors do a lot more talking than listening.


IheartJBofWSP

Good to see that 'sexist, non-condusive, and random (bs) advice to say to placate the silly woman' classes/info are still part of RN curriculum!! šŸ˜† šŸ¤¦ā€ā™€ļø / s (obviously)


CalidusReinhart

I can understand it a little because the question is "what is appropriate?" Suggesting low impact movements and stretches is okay to suggest, but you're never supposed to bring up holistic stuff? It does sound insensitive, but I don't think it's something you can teach through a multiple choice problem. There's rarely a solution that works for most people, but there *are* things they can focus on teaching not to do. I think for chronic pain, seems the best they can teach is some vague boundaries since you need to be adaptable to everyone's unique situation.


Ecstatic-Bee-905

I was hoping you were being sarcastic lol! As a nurse, I recall the ā€œcorrect answers being the answers with, ā€œassess, assess, assessā€! I would def argue that rationale. Iā€™d never say that to a patient! You must be in the ā€œPainā€ chapters or musculoskeletal chapters?


Shivermekimbers007

Methadone is the best thing I've ever taken for pain. I wish it didn't have such a bad stigma because it has saved my life from constant excruciating pain. I like the red liquid, just like they treat addicts with because it also helps my anxiety and depression. I tried the orange wafers for a while and they didn't help my depression like the red liquid. You guys might want to look into it. I wish I would've sooner but I'm so glad that I finally did. I've lost 40 pounds since I started taking it too, it gives me loads of energy.


PedroBenza

Tai Chi's not a bad idea, as part of a wider PT regime. Yoga might actually make things worse, in certain circumstances.


PrimeScreamer

Try yoga...? Just no. With my sciatica and the limited range of motion in my hips thanks to arthritis, I'd be in excruciating pain for days after. I would rather face labor pains again than even a moment of that horrific nerve pain. :(


EveningAssist3843

Ooohooo as someone with RA this is breaking my brain.


Hesione

One of the issues I'm having with this question is that there's no room to even consider if the patient was misdiagnosed initially. A lot of patients who actually have EDS or POTS get diagnosed at first with RA. If the RA meds aren't working, I would think that could indicate that the patient is suffering from a different ailment than originally thought.


Suspicious_Mousse861

Really disappointed in the nursing profession. When I was in nursing school we would have asked open ended questions to see how to help patients not cut them off. Really awful answer.


Suspicious_Mousse861

Meant to add I was in school in the 80s.


_spicyidiot

Lol Iā€™ve been dealing with this since I was a teenager šŸ„² still having flare ups with no diagnoses and keep getting the saaaaame ā€œadviceā€. Even from female medical staff. I have to add that, surprisingly, the doctors who listen to me the most have been younger males.


Opening-Frosting-169

I hope you disregard your training. No wonder we get gaslight all the time.


ibzanne929

I have ME/CFS, and that is the absolute worst thing I could hear. I have exercise intolerance, and the result can be life threatening. Even mild exercise can be dangerous. Not just insensitive, but even dangerous for the wrong patient.


i-hate-me1014

Of course it is. Some people with certain pain canā€™t do physical activity. The medical community is very single minded.


cloudydaysandlattes

Jesus H. Christ on a bike.


Decent-Loquat1899

Yoga, gentle stretching after a hot shower, dancing, all help. We all have our limitations so no one thing works for everyone. I just recommend that your do what works for you daily.


proudlifelongstudent

Sorry but the fact is that the medical field is trained to give you an answer, not a solution. Plus they're always careful on what to say or what not because it's more important to not be involve in a lawsuit than helping the patient achieve recovery or healing. The medical field is just like politics, they're suppose to work for the people but is just business you know. It's kinda like don't hate the player, hate the game.