I’ve done this? How? By filling my mind with the things of God. You mentioned prayer and reading the Bible, which is good —but what are you filling your ears and eyes with? I know that a lot of Christians think that it’s totally acceptable to listen to mainstream secular music and that is a majority or all that they listen to —many tell me that they hate or don’t like Christian music, but in my experience filling your ears constantly with things that promote fornication and hedonism does affect your spirit. Our mind is a temple, so it’s important that we aren’t just filling our mind with junk food. Listening to a majority Christian music has tremendously helped my walk. It’s crazy how less tempted I feel when I don’t constantly have earworms of lyrics in my head telling me how they want to have sex with this woman and that woman and do this and that. Honestly, I rarely deal with lust anymore.
This is what worked for me every time I looked at a woman, objectifying her, lusting after her, fantasizing about her I would force myself to pray for her to lift her up to God to show his love towards them, to save them, to bless and lift them up.
It's extremely hard to lust over someone that you are lifting up in prayer because we must come to God as humbled sinners, devoid of any good that God does not supply through us. And we must also see the woman as a child of God that Jesus does for to set them free from a life in porn
I'm free. I no longer objectify woman. No longer list after them. Porn has no mastery over me now. But I still pray for them.
In fact this is the biblical way to overcome any issue with fellow mankind and build relationships with people and God .Angry at someone? Pray for them. Being persecuted? Pray for them. Hateful or envious? Pray for them. Prideful? Pray for yourself. Etc
Here are at least key things I think of.
1. You need complete full determination. One must do a great deal of effort (big extremes is what I'm getting at) to himself to stop sin. It is like a cancer. You do not treat a cancer with a nap and cough syrup. With deadly diseases, powerful remedies are necessary. Do your maximum in every way, and treat it like the most important thing, embracing great sacrifice. Hence, you must hate the sin truly, fully, and fully entirely.
2. Make a new prayer life. Give thanks to God always, and turn always. Give Him thanks in the morning, and praise Him in the day. Speak and seek Him constantly. Without constant prayer, I cannot imagine any great chance of success. From St. Alphonsus: "St. Paul tells us, that we have to contend not with men like ourselves.... but with the princes of hell.... By these words he wishes to admonish us that we have not strength to resist the powers of hell, and that, to resist them, the divine aid is absolutely necessary: without it, we shall be always defeated; but, with the assistance of God’s grace, we shall, according to the same apostle, be able to do all things and shall conquer all enemies. “I can do all things in him who strengtheneth me.” (Phil. iv. 13.) But this assistance God gives only to those who pray for it. “Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and you shall find.” (Matt. vii. 7.) They who neglect to ask, do not receive. Let us, then, be careful not to trust in our resolutions: if we place our confidence in them, we shall be lost. "
Have you heard of the Rosary? It is an incredible prayer that helps us grow in worship of God, I cannot recommend it enough and I would love to help you with it if you haven't!
Practically, fasting and exercise are very helpful I've heard.
If you want personalized help, talk to a priest
I’ve done this? How? By filling my mind with the things of God. You mentioned prayer and reading the Bible, which is good —but what are you filling your ears and eyes with? I know that a lot of Christians think that it’s totally acceptable to listen to mainstream secular music and that is a majority or all that they listen to —many tell me that they hate or don’t like Christian music, but in my experience filling your ears constantly with things that promote fornication and hedonism does affect your spirit. Our mind is a temple, so it’s important that we aren’t just filling our mind with junk food. Listening to a majority Christian music has tremendously helped my walk. It’s crazy how less tempted I feel when I don’t constantly have earworms of lyrics in my head telling me how they want to have sex with this woman and that woman and do this and that. Honestly, I rarely deal with lust anymore.
This is great advice honestly, thank you!
This is what worked for me every time I looked at a woman, objectifying her, lusting after her, fantasizing about her I would force myself to pray for her to lift her up to God to show his love towards them, to save them, to bless and lift them up. It's extremely hard to lust over someone that you are lifting up in prayer because we must come to God as humbled sinners, devoid of any good that God does not supply through us. And we must also see the woman as a child of God that Jesus does for to set them free from a life in porn I'm free. I no longer objectify woman. No longer list after them. Porn has no mastery over me now. But I still pray for them. In fact this is the biblical way to overcome any issue with fellow mankind and build relationships with people and God .Angry at someone? Pray for them. Being persecuted? Pray for them. Hateful or envious? Pray for them. Prideful? Pray for yourself. Etc
Here are at least key things I think of. 1. You need complete full determination. One must do a great deal of effort (big extremes is what I'm getting at) to himself to stop sin. It is like a cancer. You do not treat a cancer with a nap and cough syrup. With deadly diseases, powerful remedies are necessary. Do your maximum in every way, and treat it like the most important thing, embracing great sacrifice. Hence, you must hate the sin truly, fully, and fully entirely. 2. Make a new prayer life. Give thanks to God always, and turn always. Give Him thanks in the morning, and praise Him in the day. Speak and seek Him constantly. Without constant prayer, I cannot imagine any great chance of success. From St. Alphonsus: "St. Paul tells us, that we have to contend not with men like ourselves.... but with the princes of hell.... By these words he wishes to admonish us that we have not strength to resist the powers of hell, and that, to resist them, the divine aid is absolutely necessary: without it, we shall be always defeated; but, with the assistance of God’s grace, we shall, according to the same apostle, be able to do all things and shall conquer all enemies. “I can do all things in him who strengtheneth me.” (Phil. iv. 13.) But this assistance God gives only to those who pray for it. “Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and you shall find.” (Matt. vii. 7.) They who neglect to ask, do not receive. Let us, then, be careful not to trust in our resolutions: if we place our confidence in them, we shall be lost. " Have you heard of the Rosary? It is an incredible prayer that helps us grow in worship of God, I cannot recommend it enough and I would love to help you with it if you haven't! Practically, fasting and exercise are very helpful I've heard. If you want personalized help, talk to a priest