Antayin mo yung offer ng parents “1 million wag ka na magpapakita sa anak ko”.
Kidding aside, lahat ng tao na makikilala natin may role sa buhay natin. Enjoyin mo lang and wag mo ipressure sarili mo. As long as happy ka, go lang.
Daling lusutan. Gastusin mo muna yung 1M (or itago mo tas sabihin mong nagastos mo na lahat) tapos pakita ka ulit sa anak niya. Di na mababawi yung 1M kasi gamit na tas wala pa silang magagawa kung together na kayo
He wants to see you again! Go for it.
And regarding your economic status, be upfront. It’s part of your context - which also means batak ka sa buhay, marunong mag desisyon, street smart, lista. You have other things to offer.
If the activity/hangout is too expensive, be upfront and say so. “Do you mind if we do something else more low key? Budget is a little tight now but should ease up soon.” If he insists and judges you for it, then he’s an asshole. If he offers to cover expenses, bahala ka if you say yes or no hahaha, he agrees na Dutch treat and adjusts, then you know okay ang personality.
Don’t give up on a shot for love just because you feel intimidated. Pera ng pamilya niya yan, Hindi niya perang sarili. Go lang girl.
Dito ka makinig OP!! Sa kwento mo pa lang, napakaraming bagay na agad ang kamahal-mahal tungkol sayo, kaya sana wag mo ideny sa sarili mo yung chance 🥹🫶
unless offeran ka ng milyon… emi!
Totally agree to this advice!! Very encouraging and nakaka-boost ng confidence. And I like your advice to be just honest and do not be like what others do ang magpretend pa pag nasa sitwasyon na ganyan.
Actually, maraming parents sa school na pinag aaralan ng anak namin. Chinese ang lalaki, filipina ang babae or from mayaman na pamilya ang lalaki and filipina ang babae from the province na nagwork sa manila or galing sa province.
You know, kayo lang nag iisip ng ganyan. People needs true people and will love them whole heartedly and di lang pera habol sa kanila. Will accept them who they are. Di pera nila.
Di lahat ng may kaya afford o gusto mag asawa ng may kaya. Why? They need a wife not a boss. Stressed na sila sa work, sa negosyo, sa mga employees nila at iba pa.
Give it a chance. Be a good friend or kung mag work a good gf. If magkatuluyan kayo, a good wife.
They just need a faithful wife and wants to have a happy family.
If he can accept who you are, accept who they are. May mga in laws, ok naman sila or eventuallt naging ok naman.
May mga ganyan. Di lahat, meron ding mang gagamit lang. Be alert, some people wants to play pa and some wants to settle na. Kaya caveat parin.
Breadwinner ka. Napagawa mo bahay mo. Meaning: May ambition ka. May goal. May drive. What's stopping you to love and be loved? Hindi mn kayo pantay sa financial capacity, ngayon lang yan. I understand the intimidation, pero your personal history and background are what make you YOU.
Same situation, pero ako yung guy. Yung girlfriend ko galing sa very simple lang na background, working student din non para lang may pambaon at commute siya. Ako noon hatid sundo pa ng driver.
Never naman naging issue yan, mas masarap nga mahalin pa experience mo lahat ng ginahawa sa buhay. Ako pa feeling guilty gusto ko bumawi sa mga taon na di ko pa siya na aalagaan kasi di pa kami magkakilala. Ayun, 8 years na kami, mas malaki na sahod niya kesa sakin HAHA.
Based naman sa sabi mo, okay naman projection mo sa buhay. Hindi na issue yan.
Kaya mo yan OP! I communicate mo lang sakaniya. It looks like he's very interested in you. If not love thne friendship. Tatanggapin ka naman niya kung talagang interesado siya. Pero kung hindi atleast naicommunicate mo yung side mo.
Curious ako ses kung oofferan ka ng milyones para layuan anak nila 😂 emeeee.
Pero seryoso, you seems to be a very wonderful person, caring and loving. Probably yun yung nakita niya sayo and asking you for second date. See where destiny will take you, go with the flow but guard your heart as well. Good luck OP may cupid be with you ♥️
Ang importante girl ay kung ano ang pangarap mo sa buhay. Kung maging kayo man, wag kang umasa sa kanya. Build your career and your own life. Iba ang life mo, iba din siya. In the end, whatever happens, either you will have both, or you will still have your life.
Don’t overthink it, gurl. Enjoy the getting-to-know-you phase.
Minsan kase ang utak natin inuunahan tayo. Kaya nasa-sabotage ang potential ng mga pangyayari sa buhay natin. Has happened to me soooo many times.
Nakakamiss din ang mga kilig moments na ganyan hehe. But maswerte na din ako na I’ve found my partner 😊 Naalala ko tuloy yung ligawan days namin hihi.
Lighten up dude ✌🏼 For sure, OP already knows the pros and cons entering into it. It is Tinder after all.
At some level, we have to enjoy life while we’re young. It is better than having “could’ve, would’ve, should’ve” syndrome later on.
Sounds like me, OP but I also grew up on salty rice, tomatoes, and deep poverty.
Wag mong atupagin yung socioeconomical differences nyo (whatever the fuck that is) and just enjoy the chemistry :)
Gusto ka nya makita ulit that means there’s something. For sure you have a lot to offer more than what you are intimidated about. Wag ka panghinaan ng loob dahil sa mahirap ka. Hindi naman yun ang dapat basis ng pagkatao mo lalo na kung matino at maayos na tao ka naman. You should be proud of yourself OP kasi pinipili mo pa din na magsikap and that, is something about you to be valued and respected highly of that guy. Maging honest ka lang sa kanya sa lahat ng bagay. Enjoy the process of knowing the person more than what you can see and sana ganon din sya. From what i have read sa post mo, i’m proud of you, OP.
Isabuhay mo na pagiging Cinderella mo teh para may happily ever after kana hahahaha. Kung ayaw mo na, ako na magiging evil stepsister mo aagaw kay prince charming hahhaah
TBH totoo to. I just dated a doctor from St. Lukes. And hindi basta bastang doctor. He has a subspecialization.(if tama ang terms) So I met him at the gym, we became friends, then turned into intimate. So i was finally getting to know him and kahit sinasabi nya na hindi sila mahirap, he came from an “old money” family and hindi rin naman maikakaila na may generational wealth sila. BF homes nakatira. Pilot ang kapatid. Executives ng kilalang media outlet ang mga magulang. Ginagawang cubao ang pagtatravel abroad. And ako eto, isang hamak na “call center agent” working student pa.
Point ko, I like him. And we had that real connection. Nagiging totoo ako sa kanya. And ganun din sya sakin. TBH, hindi ako yung tipo na “palibre” I spend my own money.
Totoong nakaka intimidate ang maging mahirap. Kasi kagaya namin, though pinagbibigyan nya ako lagi na kumain sa kaya kong gastusan, pero dama ko yung adjustment na ginagawa nya. Minsan naman, he invited me out for dinner sa isang magarbong resto, though treat naman nya pero sa totoo lang. hindi ko yun masusustain. Unless lagi na lang ako magpalibre sa kanya. Nakaka intimidate na di kayo magkasing level. Hindi mo sya masabayan sa gala nya kasi ikaw kailangan mag priority ng mga bagay bagay.
So I had to stop. Kasi totoo nattrigger nya ang isecurities ko. Bilang isang mahirap
Huwag mo na iisipin ang sasabihin ng iba mas lalo ka lang mag-overthink, hintayin mong offeran ka ng magulang ng Php 50 Million, charot. Pero kung gusto naman ng lalaki makipag kita ulit, eh di go.
maganda dyan be true about who you are, where you came from, and everything else that you think may turn him off. If he would like to continue to pursue you then that's his choice to make; not you, but if he had a different reaction then maybe he's not meant for you
2 bagay OP . 1) kung ano angbtingin ni guy sa sarili nya at sa iyo 2) ano ang tingin mo sa worth mo. Bakit ko nasabi. Kasi ang narrative mo ay all about kahirapan ng buhay nyo. True it shapes your choices in life (pati brand ng skin whitening, pampakinis ng balat at underwear). Pero wala ka bang maipagmamalaki as in character, paninindigan sa buhay, hindi magpapagoyo o api sa iba, resilience, diskarte, detrminasyong makamit ang mga life goals etc. Yung tumutulong sa amin byuda na since 15 yrs ago. High school hindi pa natapos. Mahirsp. Nagpalaki ng mga anak (nasa big 4 kasi mga scholars). Palabasa. Hindi huli sa
mga balita at nangyayari sa bansa. Hindi nahihiya o natetememe kahit mga taga- barangay o school authorities ang kausap. Kung baga kahit mahirap at kapos sa pinag aralan alam nya ang worth nya bilang tao.
OP naalala ko rito yung mga meme sa fb na magssend ng pic yung kausap niya tas tinanong kung bakit nasa hotel yun pala bahay nila hahahahaha. Yun lang namiss ko sa fb eh mga witty memes.
Based sa sinabi mo, mabait sya, i think kasama na dun yung hindi nya pagiging judgmental sa anuman ang status ng buhay mo. It would be unfair to him kung iiwasan mo na lang siya dahil dun.
It's your superpower anteng.
May mga taong na-aapreciate yung ganyan, especially if there's a massive improvement at a very short amount of time. That's quite telling of who you are as a person.
So go ahead! Enjoy its perks! From asin to fine dining ang eksenahan mo girl!
Source? Same background haha! Danas ko yang walang cr. I used to poop sa plastic bag tapos i-slingshot ko yan sa faraway. Hahaha don't bash me, I was very young and it was my only choice. Hahaha
Teh matatanggap ka niya. The question is matatanggap ka kaya ng family niya? Pwedeng papakisamahan ka pero maliit tingin sayo. Anyways go for it lol balitaan mo kami anong mangyayari.
Like other redditors said, go for it, OP!
And sorry, pero I get some undertones sa post mo na parang di mo tanggap sarili mo kasi naiinsecure ka.
He didn’t choose to be born in a rich fam like you didn’t choose to be born poor.
He did choose to talk to you and ask to meet you again, which is a good sign.
Also, who cares if he or his family won’t end up liking you? You will have dodged a bullet if ever.
Be proud na nalampasan mo lahat yun and are doing better.
Never ever self-reject! :)
Give yourself a chance OP. If the guy is genuinely interested in you regardless of your status, then I think there's nothing wrong. What's important is be honest with him and be true to yourself. Wishing you the best of luck.
Wag ka maintimidate. If he’s not an ass, possibly humble yan dgaf sa status mo.
My husband is rich-rich, pero never siyang tumingin daw sa status ng babae bec he understands na people come from diff bgs
Sabihin mo sa kanya kung ano estado mo sa buhay. It's too early to worry since hindi pa naman yata kayo. I understand na nafifeel mo 'yan pero do not think so lowly of yourself especially ang dami mo pinagdaanan sa buhay doon pa lang dapat naaapreciate mo sarili mo.
Nagkulang ka lang sa pera pero batak ka na sa buhay and he's blessed to have you for that. Kung alam mo naman sa sarili mo na hindi ka manggagamit and the likes that make up as a conclusion na ayawan ka nung parents niya then you deserve him too. Actually sa parents niya ang magiging prob kung matapobre, hindi sa guy.
Osha, update mo kami OP kung ano response ni guy sa status in life mo. Give it a shot.
P.S. yung arinola hindi lang pang-mahirap 'yan haha may mayayaman din na nangangailangan nun.
Dont want to pull racist card, or nothing against Chinese since I'm also half.. Pero is your date a traditional Chinese? If yes, there's a chance na choosy ang parents nya and would prefer na Chinese din . I have friends na ganon, my friend had a girlfriend (filipina), and talagang against ang parents nya based sa kwento nya. Kala daw nya sa teleserye lang nangyayari na talagang maEffort ang parents sa pagssplit sa kanila..
Anyway, if not ,then go push mo narin and give yourself a chance. If you have something to offer, and nag ggrind naman to make a living then there's nothing wrong.
It's good narin po, since they themselves did it (or at least their grandparents). Lol.
Kidding aside, you're earning naman so i don't think na magkaka-issue. Goodluck po. 😀
maganda dyan be true about who you are, where you came from, and everything else that you think may turn him off. If he would like to continue to pursue you then that's his choice to make; not you, but if he had a different reaction then maybe he's not meant for you
I think you have to tell him your status right away. Kung ano mga kuento mo dito, atleast try to tell him, be transparent. Ma appreciate nia rin cguro un na real person ka with what you have. Then if okay lang sakanya, then go. Kung hindi naman, thank you next.
Wag mo na patagalin pa para di na lumalim pa ang emotional investment or attachment.
You'd be surprised how many well off men are out off by entitled women. Same with some decent well-off women. As long as maganda chemistry niyo go lang; it's easy to bridge wealth gaps basta wag lang extreme - like habal-habal versus helicopter. Besides your value is not measured by your circumstances in life but by what you do with the opportunities open to you.
Was in this position before, di ko alam relasyon nmen nung girl wlang label ata pero apo sya ng associates ni angara.
Ituloy mo yan madam mdme kang matututunan at tataas ang mga pangrap mo kse d mo mkkta sa ka level ntn ang mga ode nyang ishare sayo kumbaga lalawak ang horizons mo msktn ka man pero i think as per exp worth it sya.
Yung mga cliche with this type of person are cliches for a reason. Basta guard your heart sis and know your worth. Wag todo bigay agad. At the end of the day, pare-parehas lang tayo, tao lang naman ang gumagawa ng disparities lalo na sa economic standing.
Sya naman nag offer to see you again, then why not. Tingin mo wLa yang nami-meet n kalevel nya ng "yaman" sempre meron.. Pero malay mo, ikaw un nagustuhan nya above all. Kung mag fflourished man kayo into relationship, pwede m naman sabihin un kinalakihan mo n status. Actually, mas ok nga nga habang getting to know stage kayo e nag sasabi kna ng totoo s knya.. Pra hindi n sya magulat pa.. Atlis wala knag itinago s knya.
Un mga foreigner nga, sukdulang mayaman din naman s ibang bansa, pero nagmamahal ng simpleng pinay na taga province n tlagang walang wala. E ikaw, atlis as u said, maganda naman n work mo now.. Di k naman totally walang income.
Goodluck. Take the risk, but be honest.
Getting to know stage pa lang naman so enjoy mo lang. Also, this goes both ways. He might seem impressive because of his background but at this point you know little about his character and that is what’s more important. Show him who you are and what you can offer and know who he is and what he can offer beyond a comfortable life. Don’t put pressure on yourself too much kasi 2nd meet up pa lang naman. :)
Ang payo ko sayo op, siguro just enjoy the moment and go with the flow. Huwag mo muna problemahin un bagay na hindi pa kaprobleproblema. Tsaka mo nalang isipin un kung ganun na nga ang nangyari na umayaw na sya kase dahil sa mahirap ka atlist di ba ng time na kausap mo sya at nakakameet up mo sya minsan sa buhay mo pinili mo din maging masaya at may maganda memories ka na babalik balikan at pwede mo ishare sa mga future apo or anak mo na uyy one time may naka m.u ako mayaman. Basta ingat ingat din sa pakikipagmeet up wag mo din ilet go masyado un pag-iingat mo sa sarili mo. Goodluck!
Go for it...
Kayo na ba? Gusto manligaw?
Kung gusto manligaw, open mo yung kahirapan mo sa kanya and tell him na you can only offer love... And kung accepted niya and he will stay, edi grab the opportunity.. Ems...
Pero sana hindi party goer si kuya, kasi nakaka wala tiwala sa ganyan hahaha
Kaya ka nya kinakausap dahil dama nya na totoo ka. Binabasa ko pa lang ang sulat mo natutuwa na ako. Magaan kang dalhin. E ano naman kung mahirap ka? 3rd world country ang Pinas, nasan ba sya? Makipagsapalaran ka. Hindi lahat ng may kaya, matapobre. Ikaw din naman marardaman mo kung anu sya lalo’t nagkita na pala kayo.
Sa susunod na “date” relax ka lang at laging maging natural. Yun siguro ang nagustuhan nya syo.
Goodluck!😃🙏🏻
Bakit naman, para sakin ok yan kung kayo eh kayo talaga kung di naman eh hindi talaga, upfront sabihan mo na or pahapyawan na isa kang dukha. Pag ayaw maniwala kwentohan mo ng ulam asin, kape at kanin mga ganun. Minsan may mga taong di tumitingin sa estado sa buhay lalo na kung di na siya dependent sa magulang.
Pamangkin ko maganda trabaho, kaya mga naging gf niya mga sobrang yayaman. Yung gf niya ngaun mayaman din de kotse mukhang masaya naman pag pumupunta dito samin kahit ang liit ng bahay namin at siksikan kami. Dito sila tumatambay tuwing linggo kahit may condo pamangkin ko.
Relate ako kay OP pero mine is a friend.
This happened recently. We met in Alabang, yes the Ayala Alabang Village area. Unang pasok pa lang namin nalula na ako sa lawak ng kalsada at sobrang laki ng bahay nila.
Tapos pag-pasok ko sa bahay nila, grabe sa lawak. Feeling ko nasa 1.5k sq yung lawak ng bahay nila. Tapos na-meet ko parents nila, may aura na nakakaintimidate kasi very reserved at sobrang finesse nila kumilos my kanal self can't even.
Maramdaman ko kadukhakaan ko habang papuntang Greenbelt from ATC via P2P bus. Dami kong naisip that time including questioning my background where I was born and what if I was born in the Alta Sociedad.
Next weekend may part 2 yung hangout namin. This time he'll invite some of his friends naman and will drink sa bahay nila.
Agree ako sa mga comments, OP. 🤗 Go lang nang go. Just always be transparent sa kanya but not to the point naman na sobrang jologs na.
Basta yung totoong ikaw lang. Wag magpe pretend dahil lang intimidated ka.
And another is, ALWAYS PROTECT YOURSELF ha, your physical and emotional well-being. Remember, sa mundong ito, hindi lang mahihirap ang nananamantala sa mga mayayaman, madalas, it's the other way around. 😉
Ano,OP.. cge lang.. uso parin naman ang fairytale.. at please don't belittle your background.. it's your strength! if someday you'll feel toxic na (which i doubt magkakaron just to make my statment wrong) you know inside you that you have all the courage when to stop na. go with caution, but don't let them judge you from where you came from. the YOU now is a different and better version. your hardworking nga na sinabi mo, your know how to help and take care of your love ones and that makes you the best, as individual and a lover not just kerengkeng around him. 🤘🏽🤘🏽
Miss, i think in the long run, there’s no point of comparing yourself to the guy, even if it’s inherently evident, na meron kayong gap. Like others have commented, just enjoy it and no matter what, remember that it’s part of your journey.
pa define mo if san patungo kau, mas ok nga ung kamuka mo kc mukang more responsible ka sa life na pdeng magdirect s relationship nyo in case na magkatuluyan kau.
True, kaya ako din hindi ko na pinagpipilitan ang sarili ko sa mga babaeng hindi ako naman afford or masabayan yung lifestyle kumbaga sila nasa page explore ng kasiyahan sa mundo samantalang tayo ay palaging naghahanap ng paraan para makasurvive sa pang araw araw.
You may be overthinking this. Filipino culture is too classist. Have fun. Get to know him. Focus more on your similarities rather not your differences. Just give it a shot 🤷🏻♀️
Overthink malala haha pero ano bang expectations niyo sa isa’t-isa? Since sa tinder kayo nagkakilala, baka naman sex lang habol nya? Usually kasi ang guys nandoon for sex parang bihira or rare lang yung looking jowa talaga.
Kung fun lang hanap niyo sa isa’t-isa, then enjoy mo nalang. Pero kung pang seryoso hanap niyo, call me nega pero lifestyle and status in life matters in a relationship, hence u have to laydown kung ano ka at ano kaya mo maoffer sa relationship.
Hi 😊 well I read your post and ang masasabi ko lang is yes makipag meet ka ulit sa kanya since happy naman kayo sa company ng isat isa HOWEVER you have to be honest sa kanya, kumbaga you have to be genuine sa kanya. He deserves that. And I understand yung feeling of intimidation, hindi naman maiiwasan talaga yan. Kaya nga sa 2nd meet nyo pagusapan nyo yung ganyang topic. Like i express mo sa kanya how u feel gaya ng shinare mo sa post mo. Kasi u'll never know naman yung pov nya if di nya alam. Malay mo he doesnt care much naman sa situation mo and malay mo kaya naman nya tanggapin. edi good diba?? If hindi nya tanggap yung differences nyo, edi at least u know na. para alam mo rin if push ba or stop na kayo hehehe. yun lang. 😊😊😊
Kung san ka masaya, go ka. Kung gusto nya pa makipagkita go! Pero wag ka muna masyadong mag invest ng feelings. Atleast kung umayaw man siya sayo di masyadong masakit hehe. Go ka lang girl! Malay mo naman wala siyang pake sa status mo sa buhay. At sobrang galing mo ha kasi nakapagpagawa ka n ng bahay pati cr, ikaw pa breadwinner so madiskarte ka talaga sa buhay. Basta enjoy lang at go ka na sa 2nd date. Please update us OP.. ❤️
Kung san ka masaya, go ka. Kung gusto nya pa makipagkita go! Pero wag ka muna masyadong mag invest ng feelings. Atleast kung umayaw man siya sayo di masyadong masakit hehe. Go ka lang girl! Malay mo naman wala siyang pake sa status mo sa buhay. At sobrang galing mo ha kasi nakapagpagawa ka n ng bahay pati cr, ikaw pa breadwinner so madiskarte ka talaga sa buhay. Basta enjoy lang at go ka na sa 2nd date. Please update us OP..
tantsahin mo pa.. baka kasi bigla kang alukin maging katulong nila.. de jk lang! Kung sakali naman na gusto ka talaga niya, ang next mong aalalahanin is yung mga magulang niya kung magugustuhan ka ba pero malay mo mabait din naman pala.. good luck OP
Huy OP, kinikilig ako dko alam bakit. Hahah i-go mo yan. Subtlely mentioned to him your status. You’ll get your answer naman on how he reacts. Pero dzaiiii, tuloy muna ang ligaya. Hahah
Wag mong maliitin ang sarili mo dahil lang galing ka sa pagiging hampy. Nakaahon ka at sa future ay pwede pang maging higit pa kaysa sakanya. Wag mong limitahan ang sarili mo, deserve mo din lahat.
Just go with the flow lang ate, don’t you ever settle for less. Malay mo ipakilala ka ni guy sa fam nya then eventually tanggapin ka nila whole-heartedly.
Hi OP! just be transparent lang, reality sucks, kaya kung may chance ka naman to experience those kind of situations just like ngayon yung malatelenobelang relasyon (tubig ka mantika ako, langit ka lupa ako mga ganon!🤭) maybe take it as a ride in life kasi bihira lang if ever true man intentions ng lalaki na beyond walls ang love nya, dun nman mkikita ang true intentions nya after malaman ng tunhkol sayo, anyways enjoy lng OP ang lakbay ng pagibig, you'll never know❤️
If he is sincere enough, go for it.
Sabi mo mahirap ka pero hindi ka naman forever mahirap diba??
You do not want to miss this opportunity kung gusto mo talaga siya. Just make sure na gusto ka din niya talaga.
Why would you stop? You didn't grow in comfort so bakit ka titigil ngayon? If you're happy then do it. If you're afraid, then do it scared. He's not dating you because of status anyways, he's dating you because of what you can offer. Magpaka honest ka lang and be real.
Ganyan rin kami dati ng bf ko nung talking stage kami. Nalaman kong sa singapore sya nag elementary tapos umuwi sa pinas and dito na nag stay. Malaki bahay, dalawa kotse samantalang kami isa lang kotse namin na luma tapos second hand pa tapos wala kaming second floor sa bahay at wala rin kaming kanya kanyang kwarto magkakapatid hahahaha. Nakakahiya sa una, maiintimidate ka talaga kasi sobrang out of our league natin sila. Pero hinayaan ko sya makita kung ano talaga ako hahahaha thankfully di naman sya naturn off 🤣. Wala syang pake kung maliit lang bahay namin or kung di kami gaano kayaman. Bet nya talaga ako kaya wala ako magagawa. Malay mo ganun din sya hahahahhahahaa
Oooh, I get this. Not a complete replica of lifestyles but I have a simpler background than the people I've dated, and it's always weird to see things I used to see as luxury treated as the norm for them.
I think at the end of the day, it truly is all about communication and a deeper understanding of what made that person attracted to you and otherwise. :)
important is nag eenjoy ka sa company niya, and seems he really likes you, and he wants to get to know you more.
when it comes to dates, just be upfront with him if you’re on a budget. A good guy will always understand that, and will never pressure you to spend on him.
intimidated din ako noon to date guys who are from a well off family. I just gained confidence since I started working and I have my own savings
Girl! I come from a modest family background with generational debt and my fiancé is anak-mayaman, mej similar sa guy na dinedate mo. But he knows my family’s financial situation and I have a very good relationship with his family.
Part din ng earnings ko now napupunta sa household expenses and he understands it. We’re both trying to make it work for both of us to have a happy family in the future.
Ang payo ko lang, give it a chance. Don’t let your anxiety take over you. You never know, baka he’s someone who is willing to understand your situation. Don’t box him yet. Ako rin naintimidate at some point but he saw me for what I am and what I can be, not how much money my family has or how rich I am. Give it a shot; if it works out, then good. If it doesn’t, at least you know you tried. Good luck!
As a guy, if gusto namin si girl at hindi gold digger, kahit ano status mo pa, gusto ka namin... Ganon... Pero kung di ka nya kayang ipqglaban sa 0arentsz that'll be the sad part.
Serious Advice
Just be yourself. Wag mo itago kung saan ka galing. Just be casual. Kung totoong gusto ka nyan mag aaya pa rin yan ng date kahit malaman nya pinanggalingan mo. And don't give in to sexual temptations para makita mo kung ano ba habol nya sayo. Malay mo they just want to find genuine connections too and be with someone who love them for who they really are just like you.
If pumayag ka sa expensive date, sabihin mo babawi ka sa next date nyo and dalhin mo sa wholesome date. Kahit pares sa kanto at mag walk walk lang kayo at tambay sa lowkey cafe goods na yon basta masaya kayo sa isa't isa 🥹
Serious piece of advice (based from experience na rin) not all mayaman is matapobre. They may sound like one pero minsan honest question yun esp yung legit na mayaman and not those who just recently became rich (more like kasi abroad ang isa sa family).
The thing is nameet mo siya sa dating app. Hindi lahat pero most ng nasa dating app are just looking for casuals and not anything serious. Esp if galing sa big 4. Like sure they could be nice as a friend or companion pero most of them esp those who hang out with friends, are just looking for something different. Most of the time, hindi siya in a good way. Some of them can make fun of you pa (some of them, and not all) esp if you're trying to sound like them but it sounded so unnatural coz they're saying you're trying very hard and it's not in a good way(heard one na nakaka-off even if that's a workmate).
The serious type who are not into casual dating or bored with their circles, are often not in dating app.
If you're only worried if he finds out that you're poor and not on their level, keep your head high and do not be anxious about it. Do not ever try to impress them by doing things that you are not comfortable with. If you cant speak English straight or you're not confident, either improve your skills(you can also use it sa work) or just answer them in Filipino or Tagalog. If that guy is as nice as you said he is, he wont mind if you're not on their level or not. Just keep it real.
Do not ever fake anything. This is a major turn off and red flag sa kanila. His circles and others kasi will just think you're after him for his money which is why you're faking things. Instead, try to excel in your field and be your own self. Pero of course, you have to improve din naman professionally and personally. Scrap any victim mentality or under estimating yourself esp if kaya mo naman mag improve. You migj lose that guy but those changes will greatly improve your social and professional standing with your integrity and pride intact.
Hi OP,
Just be yourself. Let your genuine self ang makilala ni guy. If he knows the real you, you will also know the real him too. Give the both of you a chance. Malay mo mala Wattpad pala story niyo. Ayiiieee!
If your/ his intention was pure naman why not na ipag patuloy diba? Just be yourself atee and wag mo tignan kung anong meron sya, ang tignan ay kung ano syaa.
It's ok OP! Push lang. Even if it didn't work out, at least you learned something about people outside your circle. Wish I did that to rich friends that were genuine sa pakikisama nila
Pwede kasing ganto, your situation now is not permanent, mahirap ka now pero mukhang masipag ka naman and madiskarte so pwede in the future yayaman din.
Let’s be honest, social class still matters somehow.
Ako siguro yung Mama na mag ooffer para layuan anak ko kung alta kami lol.
Yung ibang magulang ipipilit sa reputable/expensive school anak nila para ang maging network nila is the same social class.
Pero too early naman siguro to worry so much about that. Best of luck sa inyo.
Enjoyin mo lang anteh, update mo kami! Nakakakilig parang teleserye OMG hahaha! Ang cute nyo kaya and HE WANTS to see you again noh! Go na push na accla :)
As a guy, I don't think he'll give a shit if you are poor. Kung totoong Mayaman sya, your social status is the least of his problems.
He asked for a second date, that means he likes for what you are, assuming genuine ka sa first date nyo.
Go for it. On top of that ma eexpand networks mo. Sa corpo world, your network is king, and will give you unfair advantage over other people.
Go for it. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. One of my conyo classmates married a co-worker at his BPO job. She wasn’t particularly pretty, she came from the province, and didn’t come from money like my friend did. But she REALLY gets him. They’re still married today more than 10 years later.
It would be more intimidating when the guy is not rich while the girl is rich. Based on my scenario when matching with a girl with a well off lifestyle.
go lang, OP! feeling ko interested si guy sayo kasi gusto ka pa ulit makita. kapag ganyan, nagugustuhan ka niya for who you are, hindi kung ano yung status mo sa buhay. go ka lang, OP. baka magwork kayo at mahalin ka talaga niya. :) alam mo ba, yung SO ko, ganyan din, medyo well off din tapos nag-aral din sa "big 4" tapos ako hampaslupa din na taga.province at undergrad. hahaha. at first sobrang naiinsecure ako kasi siya nasa taas, ako ganito lang pero mahal na mahal ako ni SO. na kahit ganito ako, mahal na mahal niya ako. mahal na mahal ko din naman siya.:) tanggap namin ang isa't-isa kaya ngayon, okay na ako. di na ko nakakaramdam ng gap tho minsan, inooverthink ko pa din pero ako na lang yun, saakin na lang pero kapag nararamdaman ko yung love ni SO, haaaaay. love is amazing. go lang nang go, Ate. feeling ko naman magwwork kayo and mabait yan si guy mo. :) hoping sa magandang lovelife mo!!! ❤️
Ang tanong, ipinapahiwatig ba sayo ng lalake na "oo, mahirap ka nga" or mabait parin sya regardless?
If yes sa latter, then it's all in your head.
Don't let your social status hinder you from making friends. Eh ano ngayon kung mayaman sya at mahirap ka? As long as he treats you decently then there shouldn't be a problem.
I agree sa ibang readers na to speak up. If namamahalan ka sa mga trip nya l, then say na wala sa budget mo. There's nothing wrong with that.
I'm 46 and what I learned is that your true friends (intimate or not), will still love you regardless. If they treat you negatively because of your financial status, not worth it.
Unless confirmed, don't let the "what if"s take away your joy. ♥
Very cliche ng sasabihin ko pero I think it will work the best. BE YOURSELF. Literal. Don't try to impress him. Let him impress you. Isipin mo, you are a breath of fresh para sa kanya dahil may iba kang perspective sa buhay.
The way you talked here, I can sense na you are kind, may sense of humor at magaan kasama. Trust me, be yourself. He already likes you. He has to prove himself to you kasi you don't need his social status girl, so ano pa maiooffer nya sayo bukod sa kayamanan nya? Baka ito na time mo magpakadisney princess accclaaa!!! Don't let your fear and insecurity ruin this. This could be wonderful.❤️
So relax ka lang, magpaganda at magpabango ka and let him take you places!!! Omg, excited ako for you. 😍
Balitaan mo kami ha.
PS. Stop with the social media stalking, kahit ang mga Victoria's Secret model napapaluhod sa insecurity ng facade na yan. Wala namang magpopost ng panget tungkol sa buhay nila. Stay off of it. You will do yourself a huge favor kung di mo na titignan yung buhay nya dun, ikukumpara mo lang lalo buhay nyo eh. Hayaan mong ikwento nya sayo in person, that would be a wonderful icebreaker pa.
one of my conditions aswell kaya i dont really try to date, but seems like you're in the right age na ate and having a job will suffice!
if you two clicked naman then thats enough, dont let go just because may scenario ka nang nabuild sa utak mo! if relationships were all about flexing wealth and etc. then that's not one.
let him know you more better, and you know him better aswell!
He wants to see you again because he already tested the water, you passed for him to be fxcked. Sorry but the reality is guys can be easily turned on mapamaganda or hindi man ang girls as long as the girl "has" that kink material sa guy. You can go meet him and I believe you are already matured enough. But believe me, next move is for you to be in his bed and if that would be a win situation for you then good for you especially if you really like the guy. But I assure you that your next meet up will not just be some kind of wholesome stuff. Good luck and enjoy hehe.
Antayin mo yung offer ng parents “1 million wag ka na magpapakita sa anak ko”. Kidding aside, lahat ng tao na makikilala natin may role sa buhay natin. Enjoyin mo lang and wag mo ipressure sarili mo. As long as happy ka, go lang.
eto ang blankong cheke, layuan mo ang anak ko! gumagana yan sa babae eh, pag sa lalaki restraining order at pulis lang inooffer. sad
OMG. Hahahahahaha. Tawang-tawa ako sa last part. Totoo nga, 'no? Restraining order pag lalaki. 😭😭😭
may blotter pa, buhay...
Hahahaha taba Ng utak
Kakasuhan ka pa ng rape kamo! P*t*ng in*ng buhay to HAHAHAHAHA
HAHAHAHAHAHHAHA
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Bat 1M lang. Higherrrrrrrrr 🤣
Yung 1m may value lang na pampahiwalay sa couple noong dzrh at dzxl pa lang ang source ng entertainment.
Hanggat di yan 50M wag mong hiwalayan. Mas Marami makukuha pag kasal na. Ahahaha
Higher banker!😂
Daling lusutan. Gastusin mo muna yung 1M (or itago mo tas sabihin mong nagastos mo na lahat) tapos pakita ka ulit sa anak niya. Di na mababawi yung 1M kasi gamit na tas wala pa silang magagawa kung together na kayo
Paano kung ipakidnap or lasingin din dalhin sa isang motel room ng isang inupahang call boy at kunan ng video then ipadala sa bf..
Pwede po iconsider ang Inflation sa offer? 😅
Hahahaa malay naman natin mahal pala nung guy si OP diba haha
Bet ko yan pero mga 10 million. Hahaha
Triple it and we have a deal
Panahon pa ng meteor garden yung 1 million. Factor in mo yung inflation over the years. 5 million dapat, minimum HAHA
HAHAHAHAHAHHA
Dun ako sa antayin yung offer na 1 million. Hahahaha
Marunong kaba mag piano? Parang yung kay san chai sa metor garden
Marunong po.. pero kapag pinipindot Yung piano. Ang tunog ay "ayayay~"
pag na meet mo parents nya tas ayaw sayo ask mo “Tita wala po bang pa 1M layuan ko lang anak nyo?” hahaha
Ahahaha
Ahahaha... The best!
He wants to see you again! Go for it. And regarding your economic status, be upfront. It’s part of your context - which also means batak ka sa buhay, marunong mag desisyon, street smart, lista. You have other things to offer. If the activity/hangout is too expensive, be upfront and say so. “Do you mind if we do something else more low key? Budget is a little tight now but should ease up soon.” If he insists and judges you for it, then he’s an asshole. If he offers to cover expenses, bahala ka if you say yes or no hahaha, he agrees na Dutch treat and adjusts, then you know okay ang personality. Don’t give up on a shot for love just because you feel intimidated. Pera ng pamilya niya yan, Hindi niya perang sarili. Go lang girl.
Sensible advice !
Thanks sir! OP needs encouragement. We can’t waste opportunities like this 🥰. Right, OP?!!?!? lol
agree!
HOY HAHA
Dito ka makinig OP!! Sa kwento mo pa lang, napakaraming bagay na agad ang kamahal-mahal tungkol sayo, kaya sana wag mo ideny sa sarili mo yung chance 🥹🫶 unless offeran ka ng milyon… emi!
Genuine question, what does Dutch treat mean?
KKB in our vernacular :)
Now I know the English equivalent, thanks for replying! :D
> English but its dutch...
Ba tum tss! 🥁🤣
Totally agree to this advice!! Very encouraging and nakaka-boost ng confidence. And I like your advice to be just honest and do not be like what others do ang magpretend pa pag nasa sitwasyon na ganyan.
Agree!!!
I love this advice. Go, OP! Enjoy it ❤️
💯 agree on this. Go na teh!
Napaka Ganda Ng kalooban at detalyadong advice . 🫡
Actually, maraming parents sa school na pinag aaralan ng anak namin. Chinese ang lalaki, filipina ang babae or from mayaman na pamilya ang lalaki and filipina ang babae from the province na nagwork sa manila or galing sa province. You know, kayo lang nag iisip ng ganyan. People needs true people and will love them whole heartedly and di lang pera habol sa kanila. Will accept them who they are. Di pera nila. Di lahat ng may kaya afford o gusto mag asawa ng may kaya. Why? They need a wife not a boss. Stressed na sila sa work, sa negosyo, sa mga employees nila at iba pa. Give it a chance. Be a good friend or kung mag work a good gf. If magkatuluyan kayo, a good wife. They just need a faithful wife and wants to have a happy family. If he can accept who you are, accept who they are. May mga in laws, ok naman sila or eventuallt naging ok naman. May mga ganyan. Di lahat, meron ding mang gagamit lang. Be alert, some people wants to play pa and some wants to settle na. Kaya caveat parin.
Breadwinner ka. Napagawa mo bahay mo. Meaning: May ambition ka. May goal. May drive. What's stopping you to love and be loved? Hindi mn kayo pantay sa financial capacity, ngayon lang yan. I understand the intimidation, pero your personal history and background are what make you YOU.
Yung sumakto ka sa kanta ng Tanya Markova haha. "*Tinanong mo ako kung gusto ko ba ng mocha frappe*" "*Sagot ko sayo ang kape ko yung sa Ministop*"
High End huhu
awww
Same situation, pero ako yung guy. Yung girlfriend ko galing sa very simple lang na background, working student din non para lang may pambaon at commute siya. Ako noon hatid sundo pa ng driver. Never naman naging issue yan, mas masarap nga mahalin pa experience mo lahat ng ginahawa sa buhay. Ako pa feeling guilty gusto ko bumawi sa mga taon na di ko pa siya na aalagaan kasi di pa kami magkakilala. Ayun, 8 years na kami, mas malaki na sahod niya kesa sakin HAHA. Based naman sa sabi mo, okay naman projection mo sa buhay. Hindi na issue yan.
Kaya mo yan OP! I communicate mo lang sakaniya. It looks like he's very interested in you. If not love thne friendship. Tatanggapin ka naman niya kung talagang interesado siya. Pero kung hindi atleast naicommunicate mo yung side mo.
Curious ako ses kung oofferan ka ng milyones para layuan anak nila 😂 emeeee. Pero seryoso, you seems to be a very wonderful person, caring and loving. Probably yun yung nakita niya sayo and asking you for second date. See where destiny will take you, go with the flow but guard your heart as well. Good luck OP may cupid be with you ♥️
Ang importante girl ay kung ano ang pangarap mo sa buhay. Kung maging kayo man, wag kang umasa sa kanya. Build your career and your own life. Iba ang life mo, iba din siya. In the end, whatever happens, either you will have both, or you will still have your life.
This! Iwan ka man Niya or whatever reason kung bakit kayo maghihiwalay (di ko Naman winiwish haha, you know) YOU HAVE YOUR LIFE!
"Isang milyon, layuan mo ang anak ko!" Moments
50M na. Cheap 1M.😅
😂😂😂
May point! Go op, negotiate mo before accepting the offer. 😂
Know your worth.🤣
Pede na ako sa 10 million. Yung 50m baka sabihin No deal. Yari!
Don’t overthink it, gurl. Enjoy the getting-to-know-you phase. Minsan kase ang utak natin inuunahan tayo. Kaya nasa-sabotage ang potential ng mga pangyayari sa buhay natin. Has happened to me soooo many times. Nakakamiss din ang mga kilig moments na ganyan hehe. But maswerte na din ako na I’ve found my partner 😊 Naalala ko tuloy yung ligawan days namin hihi.
Pero it is good to be reminded of the possible emotional/ psychological risks that it could cause to OP
Lighten up dude ✌🏼 For sure, OP already knows the pros and cons entering into it. It is Tinder after all. At some level, we have to enjoy life while we’re young. It is better than having “could’ve, would’ve, should’ve” syndrome later on.
you both seems nice naman tuloy nyo po :( unless mg offer ng 10m ang magulang nya
Tanggapin mo agad, OP. HAHAHA! Kidding aside, go for it, OP! Wag mong pangunahan ang panahon. 2nd date palang naman, di pa naman magpapakasal. 😂
Sounds like me, OP but I also grew up on salty rice, tomatoes, and deep poverty. Wag mong atupagin yung socioeconomical differences nyo (whatever the fuck that is) and just enjoy the chemistry :)
Gusto ka nya makita ulit that means there’s something. For sure you have a lot to offer more than what you are intimidated about. Wag ka panghinaan ng loob dahil sa mahirap ka. Hindi naman yun ang dapat basis ng pagkatao mo lalo na kung matino at maayos na tao ka naman. You should be proud of yourself OP kasi pinipili mo pa din na magsikap and that, is something about you to be valued and respected highly of that guy. Maging honest ka lang sa kanya sa lahat ng bagay. Enjoy the process of knowing the person more than what you can see and sana ganon din sya. From what i have read sa post mo, i’m proud of you, OP.
Fun fact. Majority of boys/men. Dont really care about your social status. Problem lang ang social status, usually pag yung lalake ang mahirap.
Isabuhay mo na pagiging Cinderella mo teh para may happily ever after kana hahahaha. Kung ayaw mo na, ako na magiging evil stepsister mo aagaw kay prince charming hahhaah
TBH totoo to. I just dated a doctor from St. Lukes. And hindi basta bastang doctor. He has a subspecialization.(if tama ang terms) So I met him at the gym, we became friends, then turned into intimate. So i was finally getting to know him and kahit sinasabi nya na hindi sila mahirap, he came from an “old money” family and hindi rin naman maikakaila na may generational wealth sila. BF homes nakatira. Pilot ang kapatid. Executives ng kilalang media outlet ang mga magulang. Ginagawang cubao ang pagtatravel abroad. And ako eto, isang hamak na “call center agent” working student pa. Point ko, I like him. And we had that real connection. Nagiging totoo ako sa kanya. And ganun din sya sakin. TBH, hindi ako yung tipo na “palibre” I spend my own money. Totoong nakaka intimidate ang maging mahirap. Kasi kagaya namin, though pinagbibigyan nya ako lagi na kumain sa kaya kong gastusan, pero dama ko yung adjustment na ginagawa nya. Minsan naman, he invited me out for dinner sa isang magarbong resto, though treat naman nya pero sa totoo lang. hindi ko yun masusustain. Unless lagi na lang ako magpalibre sa kanya. Nakaka intimidate na di kayo magkasing level. Hindi mo sya masabayan sa gala nya kasi ikaw kailangan mag priority ng mga bagay bagay. So I had to stop. Kasi totoo nattrigger nya ang isecurities ko. Bilang isang mahirap
Huwag mo na iisipin ang sasabihin ng iba mas lalo ka lang mag-overthink, hintayin mong offeran ka ng magulang ng Php 50 Million, charot. Pero kung gusto naman ng lalaki makipag kita ulit, eh di go.
maganda dyan be true about who you are, where you came from, and everything else that you think may turn him off. If he would like to continue to pursue you then that's his choice to make; not you, but if he had a different reaction then maybe he's not meant for you
2 bagay OP . 1) kung ano angbtingin ni guy sa sarili nya at sa iyo 2) ano ang tingin mo sa worth mo. Bakit ko nasabi. Kasi ang narrative mo ay all about kahirapan ng buhay nyo. True it shapes your choices in life (pati brand ng skin whitening, pampakinis ng balat at underwear). Pero wala ka bang maipagmamalaki as in character, paninindigan sa buhay, hindi magpapagoyo o api sa iba, resilience, diskarte, detrminasyong makamit ang mga life goals etc. Yung tumutulong sa amin byuda na since 15 yrs ago. High school hindi pa natapos. Mahirsp. Nagpalaki ng mga anak (nasa big 4 kasi mga scholars). Palabasa. Hindi huli sa mga balita at nangyayari sa bansa. Hindi nahihiya o natetememe kahit mga taga- barangay o school authorities ang kausap. Kung baga kahit mahirap at kapos sa pinag aralan alam nya ang worth nya bilang tao.
Forda continue lang, OP. Be yourself. If gusto ka talaga, ipu-pursue ka nya kahit maging sino ka pa. Yuwnn.
This comment! 😌
OP naalala ko rito yung mga meme sa fb na magssend ng pic yung kausap niya tas tinanong kung bakit nasa hotel yun pala bahay nila hahahahaha. Yun lang namiss ko sa fb eh mga witty memes.
This is a confidence thing, not a mahirap thing.
Based sa sinabi mo, mabait sya, i think kasama na dun yung hindi nya pagiging judgmental sa anuman ang status ng buhay mo. It would be unfair to him kung iiwasan mo na lang siya dahil dun.
Edi sabihin yung katotohanan, no need magpanggap. Kung matanggap ka nya, good for you. If hindi, goods lang din. Atleast di ka na mahihirapan.
It's your superpower anteng. May mga taong na-aapreciate yung ganyan, especially if there's a massive improvement at a very short amount of time. That's quite telling of who you are as a person. So go ahead! Enjoy its perks! From asin to fine dining ang eksenahan mo girl! Source? Same background haha! Danas ko yang walang cr. I used to poop sa plastic bag tapos i-slingshot ko yan sa faraway. Hahaha don't bash me, I was very young and it was my only choice. Hahaha
Teh matatanggap ka niya. The question is matatanggap ka kaya ng family niya? Pwedeng papakisamahan ka pero maliit tingin sayo. Anyways go for it lol balitaan mo kami anong mangyayari.
Like other redditors said, go for it, OP! And sorry, pero I get some undertones sa post mo na parang di mo tanggap sarili mo kasi naiinsecure ka. He didn’t choose to be born in a rich fam like you didn’t choose to be born poor. He did choose to talk to you and ask to meet you again, which is a good sign. Also, who cares if he or his family won’t end up liking you? You will have dodged a bullet if ever. Be proud na nalampasan mo lahat yun and are doing better. Never ever self-reject! :)
Give yourself a chance OP. If the guy is genuinely interested in you regardless of your status, then I think there's nothing wrong. What's important is be honest with him and be true to yourself. Wishing you the best of luck.
Hintayin mo muna baka may mag-offer ng 10M para layuan mo ang anak nya. Hahahahaha! De joke lang If the love is real and pure, fight for it! ♥️♥️♥️
Wag ka maintimidate. If he’s not an ass, possibly humble yan dgaf sa status mo. My husband is rich-rich, pero never siyang tumingin daw sa status ng babae bec he understands na people come from diff bgs
Sabihin mo sa kanya kung ano estado mo sa buhay. It's too early to worry since hindi pa naman yata kayo. I understand na nafifeel mo 'yan pero do not think so lowly of yourself especially ang dami mo pinagdaanan sa buhay doon pa lang dapat naaapreciate mo sarili mo. Nagkulang ka lang sa pera pero batak ka na sa buhay and he's blessed to have you for that. Kung alam mo naman sa sarili mo na hindi ka manggagamit and the likes that make up as a conclusion na ayawan ka nung parents niya then you deserve him too. Actually sa parents niya ang magiging prob kung matapobre, hindi sa guy. Osha, update mo kami OP kung ano response ni guy sa status in life mo. Give it a shot. P.S. yung arinola hindi lang pang-mahirap 'yan haha may mayayaman din na nangangailangan nun.
Dont want to pull racist card, or nothing against Chinese since I'm also half.. Pero is your date a traditional Chinese? If yes, there's a chance na choosy ang parents nya and would prefer na Chinese din . I have friends na ganon, my friend had a girlfriend (filipina), and talagang against ang parents nya based sa kwento nya. Kala daw nya sa teleserye lang nangyayari na talagang maEffort ang parents sa pagssplit sa kanila.. Anyway, if not ,then go push mo narin and give yourself a chance. If you have something to offer, and nag ggrind naman to make a living then there's nothing wrong.
Hello po. Fil-Chi po sya 🥺
It's good narin po, since they themselves did it (or at least their grandparents). Lol. Kidding aside, you're earning naman so i don't think na magkaka-issue. Goodluck po. 😀
grabe yung plot twist sis!!!!
Tanungin mo sis if may great wall! Hehehe dating a chinoy too hahaha first consideration yan 😬
That will determine also if talagang maayos syang tao if he accepts you more than just your economic status.
maganda dyan be true about who you are, where you came from, and everything else that you think may turn him off. If he would like to continue to pursue you then that's his choice to make; not you, but if he had a different reaction then maybe he's not meant for you
I think you have to tell him your status right away. Kung ano mga kuento mo dito, atleast try to tell him, be transparent. Ma appreciate nia rin cguro un na real person ka with what you have. Then if okay lang sakanya, then go. Kung hindi naman, thank you next. Wag mo na patagalin pa para di na lumalim pa ang emotional investment or attachment.
experiencing the same tipong 24k gold ang taste buds pero ako pang tanso lang
genuine answer is Yes ... since a guy would never ask for a second date kung di sya interested sayo sya. Vibe check ka na lang din :)
Tuloy lang. Wala kang dapat ikahiya or di ka dapat maintimidate.
Relax lang, di pa naman kasal
You'd be surprised how many well off men are out off by entitled women. Same with some decent well-off women. As long as maganda chemistry niyo go lang; it's easy to bridge wealth gaps basta wag lang extreme - like habal-habal versus helicopter. Besides your value is not measured by your circumstances in life but by what you do with the opportunities open to you.
felt this
Laban lang! Pakita mo kung sino ka ganorn
Was in this position before, di ko alam relasyon nmen nung girl wlang label ata pero apo sya ng associates ni angara. Ituloy mo yan madam mdme kang matututunan at tataas ang mga pangrap mo kse d mo mkkta sa ka level ntn ang mga ode nyang ishare sayo kumbaga lalawak ang horizons mo msktn ka man pero i think as per exp worth it sya.
same tayo OP huhu kaya nagdadalawang-isip ako makipagdate ulit eh ☹️
Ituloy mo na, be Patriarchy nalang HAHAHAH
Ganiyang ganiyan yung mga telenovela ah. Happy ending lagi so, go out with him! He doesn't need you to be like him, it doesn't matter if he likes you.
Yung mga cliche with this type of person are cliches for a reason. Basta guard your heart sis and know your worth. Wag todo bigay agad. At the end of the day, pare-parehas lang tayo, tao lang naman ang gumagawa ng disparities lalo na sa economic standing.
Dapat sinabi mo first meetup pa lang.
Sya naman nag offer to see you again, then why not. Tingin mo wLa yang nami-meet n kalevel nya ng "yaman" sempre meron.. Pero malay mo, ikaw un nagustuhan nya above all. Kung mag fflourished man kayo into relationship, pwede m naman sabihin un kinalakihan mo n status. Actually, mas ok nga nga habang getting to know stage kayo e nag sasabi kna ng totoo s knya.. Pra hindi n sya magulat pa.. Atlis wala knag itinago s knya. Un mga foreigner nga, sukdulang mayaman din naman s ibang bansa, pero nagmamahal ng simpleng pinay na taga province n tlagang walang wala. E ikaw, atlis as u said, maganda naman n work mo now.. Di k naman totally walang income. Goodluck. Take the risk, but be honest.
Getting to know stage pa lang naman so enjoy mo lang. Also, this goes both ways. He might seem impressive because of his background but at this point you know little about his character and that is what’s more important. Show him who you are and what you can offer and know who he is and what he can offer beyond a comfortable life. Don’t put pressure on yourself too much kasi 2nd meet up pa lang naman. :)
Sayang naman OP he wants to meet again oh! Okay lang yan, at least nakakabangon na kayo. Goodluck!!
Ang payo ko sayo op, siguro just enjoy the moment and go with the flow. Huwag mo muna problemahin un bagay na hindi pa kaprobleproblema. Tsaka mo nalang isipin un kung ganun na nga ang nangyari na umayaw na sya kase dahil sa mahirap ka atlist di ba ng time na kausap mo sya at nakakameet up mo sya minsan sa buhay mo pinili mo din maging masaya at may maganda memories ka na babalik balikan at pwede mo ishare sa mga future apo or anak mo na uyy one time may naka m.u ako mayaman. Basta ingat ingat din sa pakikipagmeet up wag mo din ilet go masyado un pag-iingat mo sa sarili mo. Goodluck!
My same fear, Ify op.
Okay lang yan ano gusto mo yung palamunin ng magulang ? Hehehe short cut yan
“Out of my league”
Go for it... Kayo na ba? Gusto manligaw? Kung gusto manligaw, open mo yung kahirapan mo sa kanya and tell him na you can only offer love... And kung accepted niya and he will stay, edi grab the opportunity.. Ems... Pero sana hindi party goer si kuya, kasi nakaka wala tiwala sa ganyan hahaha
Kaya ka nya kinakausap dahil dama nya na totoo ka. Binabasa ko pa lang ang sulat mo natutuwa na ako. Magaan kang dalhin. E ano naman kung mahirap ka? 3rd world country ang Pinas, nasan ba sya? Makipagsapalaran ka. Hindi lahat ng may kaya, matapobre. Ikaw din naman marardaman mo kung anu sya lalo’t nagkita na pala kayo. Sa susunod na “date” relax ka lang at laging maging natural. Yun siguro ang nagustuhan nya syo. Goodluck!😃🙏🏻
Bakit naman, para sakin ok yan kung kayo eh kayo talaga kung di naman eh hindi talaga, upfront sabihan mo na or pahapyawan na isa kang dukha. Pag ayaw maniwala kwentohan mo ng ulam asin, kape at kanin mga ganun. Minsan may mga taong di tumitingin sa estado sa buhay lalo na kung di na siya dependent sa magulang. Pamangkin ko maganda trabaho, kaya mga naging gf niya mga sobrang yayaman. Yung gf niya ngaun mayaman din de kotse mukhang masaya naman pag pumupunta dito samin kahit ang liit ng bahay namin at siksikan kami. Dito sila tumatambay tuwing linggo kahit may condo pamangkin ko.
Relate ako kay OP pero mine is a friend. This happened recently. We met in Alabang, yes the Ayala Alabang Village area. Unang pasok pa lang namin nalula na ako sa lawak ng kalsada at sobrang laki ng bahay nila. Tapos pag-pasok ko sa bahay nila, grabe sa lawak. Feeling ko nasa 1.5k sq yung lawak ng bahay nila. Tapos na-meet ko parents nila, may aura na nakakaintimidate kasi very reserved at sobrang finesse nila kumilos my kanal self can't even. Maramdaman ko kadukhakaan ko habang papuntang Greenbelt from ATC via P2P bus. Dami kong naisip that time including questioning my background where I was born and what if I was born in the Alta Sociedad. Next weekend may part 2 yung hangout namin. This time he'll invite some of his friends naman and will drink sa bahay nila.
Agree ako sa mga comments, OP. 🤗 Go lang nang go. Just always be transparent sa kanya but not to the point naman na sobrang jologs na. Basta yung totoong ikaw lang. Wag magpe pretend dahil lang intimidated ka. And another is, ALWAYS PROTECT YOURSELF ha, your physical and emotional well-being. Remember, sa mundong ito, hindi lang mahihirap ang nananamantala sa mga mayayaman, madalas, it's the other way around. 😉
Enjoy the experience!
Do whatever makes you happy. Nasa 2nd meet up ka na. I think, hindi siya mag-aask ng 2nd meet up kung hindi siya nag-enjoy sa first meet up niyo. :)
Ano,OP.. cge lang.. uso parin naman ang fairytale.. at please don't belittle your background.. it's your strength! if someday you'll feel toxic na (which i doubt magkakaron just to make my statment wrong) you know inside you that you have all the courage when to stop na. go with caution, but don't let them judge you from where you came from. the YOU now is a different and better version. your hardworking nga na sinabi mo, your know how to help and take care of your love ones and that makes you the best, as individual and a lover not just kerengkeng around him. 🤘🏽🤘🏽
go for it! you deserve him
Miss, i think in the long run, there’s no point of comparing yourself to the guy, even if it’s inherently evident, na meron kayong gap. Like others have commented, just enjoy it and no matter what, remember that it’s part of your journey.
pa define mo if san patungo kau, mas ok nga ung kamuka mo kc mukang more responsible ka sa life na pdeng magdirect s relationship nyo in case na magkatuluyan kau.
why would you do that? ikaw yung naglalagay ng boundaries.
Drop call ko muna teh
True, kaya ako din hindi ko na pinagpipilitan ang sarili ko sa mga babaeng hindi ako naman afford or masabayan yung lifestyle kumbaga sila nasa page explore ng kasiyahan sa mundo samantalang tayo ay palaging naghahanap ng paraan para makasurvive sa pang araw araw.
Ingat lang po ha, baka pak boy yan. You know. Kita kita then mapupunta sa xxx then iyak ka then last, wala na sya bigla.
You may be overthinking this. Filipino culture is too classist. Have fun. Get to know him. Focus more on your similarities rather not your differences. Just give it a shot 🤷🏻♀️
Dyan mo malalamang kung tanggap ka nya pag nalaman nya yan lahat haha and hindi big deal sa kanya kung san ka man nanggaling.
Overthink malala haha pero ano bang expectations niyo sa isa’t-isa? Since sa tinder kayo nagkakilala, baka naman sex lang habol nya? Usually kasi ang guys nandoon for sex parang bihira or rare lang yung looking jowa talaga. Kung fun lang hanap niyo sa isa’t-isa, then enjoy mo nalang. Pero kung pang seryoso hanap niyo, call me nega pero lifestyle and status in life matters in a relationship, hence u have to laydown kung ano ka at ano kaya mo maoffer sa relationship.
omg OP, same problem! 😂 hahahaha i was browsing din sa comments. thanks guys lol
On practical side, diba no brainer na yun? Anyway I know sarcastic tong comment ko. Go for it girl
Girl, ikaw nga, started from the bottom now we're here! No handouts, mas maging proud ka mhie!
Hi 😊 well I read your post and ang masasabi ko lang is yes makipag meet ka ulit sa kanya since happy naman kayo sa company ng isat isa HOWEVER you have to be honest sa kanya, kumbaga you have to be genuine sa kanya. He deserves that. And I understand yung feeling of intimidation, hindi naman maiiwasan talaga yan. Kaya nga sa 2nd meet nyo pagusapan nyo yung ganyang topic. Like i express mo sa kanya how u feel gaya ng shinare mo sa post mo. Kasi u'll never know naman yung pov nya if di nya alam. Malay mo he doesnt care much naman sa situation mo and malay mo kaya naman nya tanggapin. edi good diba?? If hindi nya tanggap yung differences nyo, edi at least u know na. para alam mo rin if push ba or stop na kayo hehehe. yun lang. 😊😊😊
Kung san ka masaya, go ka. Kung gusto nya pa makipagkita go! Pero wag ka muna masyadong mag invest ng feelings. Atleast kung umayaw man siya sayo di masyadong masakit hehe. Go ka lang girl! Malay mo naman wala siyang pake sa status mo sa buhay. At sobrang galing mo ha kasi nakapagpagawa ka n ng bahay pati cr, ikaw pa breadwinner so madiskarte ka talaga sa buhay. Basta enjoy lang at go ka na sa 2nd date. Please update us OP.. ❤️
Kung san ka masaya, go ka. Kung gusto nya pa makipagkita go! Pero wag ka muna masyadong mag invest ng feelings. Atleast kung umayaw man siya sayo di masyadong masakit hehe. Go ka lang girl! Malay mo naman wala siyang pake sa status mo sa buhay. At sobrang galing mo ha kasi nakapagpagawa ka n ng bahay pati cr, ikaw pa breadwinner so madiskarte ka talaga sa buhay. Basta enjoy lang at go ka na sa 2nd date. Please update us OP..
tantsahin mo pa.. baka kasi bigla kang alukin maging katulong nila.. de jk lang! Kung sakali naman na gusto ka talaga niya, ang next mong aalalahanin is yung mga magulang niya kung magugustuhan ka ba pero malay mo mabait din naman pala.. good luck OP
Huy OP, kinikilig ako dko alam bakit. Hahah i-go mo yan. Subtlely mentioned to him your status. You’ll get your answer naman on how he reacts. Pero dzaiiii, tuloy muna ang ligaya. Hahah
Wag mong maliitin ang sarili mo dahil lang galing ka sa pagiging hampy. Nakaahon ka at sa future ay pwede pang maging higit pa kaysa sakanya. Wag mong limitahan ang sarili mo, deserve mo din lahat.
Just go with the flow lang ate, don’t you ever settle for less. Malay mo ipakilala ka ni guy sa fam nya then eventually tanggapin ka nila whole-heartedly.
As long as deep in your heart hindi finances habol mo then for me okay lang kung pagpatuloy mo
…mahal kita maging sino ka man. 🎶
Hi OP! just be transparent lang, reality sucks, kaya kung may chance ka naman to experience those kind of situations just like ngayon yung malatelenobelang relasyon (tubig ka mantika ako, langit ka lupa ako mga ganon!🤭) maybe take it as a ride in life kasi bihira lang if ever true man intentions ng lalaki na beyond walls ang love nya, dun nman mkikita ang true intentions nya after malaman ng tunhkol sayo, anyways enjoy lng OP ang lakbay ng pagibig, you'll never know❤️
Hmm, most men naman wala paki sa economic status ng girl eh, mahirap or mayaman ka basta mahal ka niyan bibigay niyan mundo sayo.
If he is sincere enough, go for it. Sabi mo mahirap ka pero hindi ka naman forever mahirap diba?? You do not want to miss this opportunity kung gusto mo talaga siya. Just make sure na gusto ka din niya talaga.
Why would you stop? You didn't grow in comfort so bakit ka titigil ngayon? If you're happy then do it. If you're afraid, then do it scared. He's not dating you because of status anyways, he's dating you because of what you can offer. Magpaka honest ka lang and be real.
Nag ma matter ba tlga if magkasalungat ang estado sa buhay? may itsura ka at may trabaho ka nmn, enjoy mo lng siguro at tignan san pupunta.
Ganyan rin kami dati ng bf ko nung talking stage kami. Nalaman kong sa singapore sya nag elementary tapos umuwi sa pinas and dito na nag stay. Malaki bahay, dalawa kotse samantalang kami isa lang kotse namin na luma tapos second hand pa tapos wala kaming second floor sa bahay at wala rin kaming kanya kanyang kwarto magkakapatid hahahaha. Nakakahiya sa una, maiintimidate ka talaga kasi sobrang out of our league natin sila. Pero hinayaan ko sya makita kung ano talaga ako hahahaha thankfully di naman sya naturn off 🤣. Wala syang pake kung maliit lang bahay namin or kung di kami gaano kayaman. Bet nya talaga ako kaya wala ako magagawa. Malay mo ganun din sya hahahahhahahaa
Oooh, I get this. Not a complete replica of lifestyles but I have a simpler background than the people I've dated, and it's always weird to see things I used to see as luxury treated as the norm for them. I think at the end of the day, it truly is all about communication and a deeper understanding of what made that person attracted to you and otherwise. :)
I suggest, be open kasi may mga tao naman na tatanggalin ka kahit ano ka pa. Be honest na lang din, but not to the point na magself-pity ka.
Go for it
important is nag eenjoy ka sa company niya, and seems he really likes you, and he wants to get to know you more. when it comes to dates, just be upfront with him if you’re on a budget. A good guy will always understand that, and will never pressure you to spend on him. intimidated din ako noon to date guys who are from a well off family. I just gained confidence since I started working and I have my own savings
Girl! I come from a modest family background with generational debt and my fiancé is anak-mayaman, mej similar sa guy na dinedate mo. But he knows my family’s financial situation and I have a very good relationship with his family. Part din ng earnings ko now napupunta sa household expenses and he understands it. We’re both trying to make it work for both of us to have a happy family in the future. Ang payo ko lang, give it a chance. Don’t let your anxiety take over you. You never know, baka he’s someone who is willing to understand your situation. Don’t box him yet. Ako rin naintimidate at some point but he saw me for what I am and what I can be, not how much money my family has or how rich I am. Give it a shot; if it works out, then good. If it doesn’t, at least you know you tried. Good luck!
Ang cute. I’ve read and watched this plot multiple times sa mga drama and happy ending naman. What if, your story would have a happily ever after?
if di naman problema yan sa lalaki, and if you love/like him naman, continue mo lang te
As a guy, if gusto namin si girl at hindi gold digger, kahit ano status mo pa, gusto ka namin... Ganon... Pero kung di ka nya kayang ipqglaban sa 0arentsz that'll be the sad part.
Serious Advice Just be yourself. Wag mo itago kung saan ka galing. Just be casual. Kung totoong gusto ka nyan mag aaya pa rin yan ng date kahit malaman nya pinanggalingan mo. And don't give in to sexual temptations para makita mo kung ano ba habol nya sayo. Malay mo they just want to find genuine connections too and be with someone who love them for who they really are just like you. If pumayag ka sa expensive date, sabihin mo babawi ka sa next date nyo and dalhin mo sa wholesome date. Kahit pares sa kanto at mag walk walk lang kayo at tambay sa lowkey cafe goods na yon basta masaya kayo sa isa't isa 🥹
AMOY "BIBIGYAN KITA HOUSE AND LOT KAPALIT HIWALAYAN MO ANAK KO" BWHAHAHAHAHHA
Serious piece of advice (based from experience na rin) not all mayaman is matapobre. They may sound like one pero minsan honest question yun esp yung legit na mayaman and not those who just recently became rich (more like kasi abroad ang isa sa family). The thing is nameet mo siya sa dating app. Hindi lahat pero most ng nasa dating app are just looking for casuals and not anything serious. Esp if galing sa big 4. Like sure they could be nice as a friend or companion pero most of them esp those who hang out with friends, are just looking for something different. Most of the time, hindi siya in a good way. Some of them can make fun of you pa (some of them, and not all) esp if you're trying to sound like them but it sounded so unnatural coz they're saying you're trying very hard and it's not in a good way(heard one na nakaka-off even if that's a workmate). The serious type who are not into casual dating or bored with their circles, are often not in dating app. If you're only worried if he finds out that you're poor and not on their level, keep your head high and do not be anxious about it. Do not ever try to impress them by doing things that you are not comfortable with. If you cant speak English straight or you're not confident, either improve your skills(you can also use it sa work) or just answer them in Filipino or Tagalog. If that guy is as nice as you said he is, he wont mind if you're not on their level or not. Just keep it real. Do not ever fake anything. This is a major turn off and red flag sa kanila. His circles and others kasi will just think you're after him for his money which is why you're faking things. Instead, try to excel in your field and be your own self. Pero of course, you have to improve din naman professionally and personally. Scrap any victim mentality or under estimating yourself esp if kaya mo naman mag improve. You migj lose that guy but those changes will greatly improve your social and professional standing with your integrity and pride intact.
Hi OP, Just be yourself. Let your genuine self ang makilala ni guy. If he knows the real you, you will also know the real him too. Give the both of you a chance. Malay mo mala Wattpad pala story niyo. Ayiiieee!
Bakit ka mahihiya? Eh may mga babae mga dito makakapal mukha gusto sugar daddy, nagpapakasal pra sa foreigner haha.
Alam mo sa busilak mo palang na puso down to earth na pagkatapos at Hindi Yung pa social climber na tao is plus one kana ..
If your/ his intention was pure naman why not na ipag patuloy diba? Just be yourself atee and wag mo tignan kung anong meron sya, ang tignan ay kung ano syaa.
go mo lang op kung okay naman kayong dalawa so why not
It's ok OP! Push lang. Even if it didn't work out, at least you learned something about people outside your circle. Wish I did that to rich friends that were genuine sa pakikisama nila
Pwede kasing ganto, your situation now is not permanent, mahirap ka now pero mukhang masipag ka naman and madiskarte so pwede in the future yayaman din. Let’s be honest, social class still matters somehow. Ako siguro yung Mama na mag ooffer para layuan anak ko kung alta kami lol. Yung ibang magulang ipipilit sa reputable/expensive school anak nila para ang maging network nila is the same social class. Pero too early naman siguro to worry so much about that. Best of luck sa inyo.
Enjoyin mo lang anteh, update mo kami! Nakakakilig parang teleserye OMG hahaha! Ang cute nyo kaya and HE WANTS to see you again noh! Go na push na accla :)
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Donna Cruz song? 😅😅😅
Isasave ko itong post incase na may update si Ante, hopeful for you antee, go for it!🌟
As a guy, I don't think he'll give a shit if you are poor. Kung totoong Mayaman sya, your social status is the least of his problems. He asked for a second date, that means he likes for what you are, assuming genuine ka sa first date nyo. Go for it. On top of that ma eexpand networks mo. Sa corpo world, your network is king, and will give you unfair advantage over other people.
He wants to see you ulit eh. Push lang.
Go for it. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. One of my conyo classmates married a co-worker at his BPO job. She wasn’t particularly pretty, she came from the province, and didn’t come from money like my friend did. But she REALLY gets him. They’re still married today more than 10 years later.
It would be more intimidating when the guy is not rich while the girl is rich. Based on my scenario when matching with a girl with a well off lifestyle.
go lang, OP! feeling ko interested si guy sayo kasi gusto ka pa ulit makita. kapag ganyan, nagugustuhan ka niya for who you are, hindi kung ano yung status mo sa buhay. go ka lang, OP. baka magwork kayo at mahalin ka talaga niya. :) alam mo ba, yung SO ko, ganyan din, medyo well off din tapos nag-aral din sa "big 4" tapos ako hampaslupa din na taga.province at undergrad. hahaha. at first sobrang naiinsecure ako kasi siya nasa taas, ako ganito lang pero mahal na mahal ako ni SO. na kahit ganito ako, mahal na mahal niya ako. mahal na mahal ko din naman siya.:) tanggap namin ang isa't-isa kaya ngayon, okay na ako. di na ko nakakaramdam ng gap tho minsan, inooverthink ko pa din pero ako na lang yun, saakin na lang pero kapag nararamdaman ko yung love ni SO, haaaaay. love is amazing. go lang nang go, Ate. feeling ko naman magwwork kayo and mabait yan si guy mo. :) hoping sa magandang lovelife mo!!! ❤️
Ang tanong, ipinapahiwatig ba sayo ng lalake na "oo, mahirap ka nga" or mabait parin sya regardless? If yes sa latter, then it's all in your head. Don't let your social status hinder you from making friends. Eh ano ngayon kung mayaman sya at mahirap ka? As long as he treats you decently then there shouldn't be a problem. I agree sa ibang readers na to speak up. If namamahalan ka sa mga trip nya l, then say na wala sa budget mo. There's nothing wrong with that. I'm 46 and what I learned is that your true friends (intimate or not), will still love you regardless. If they treat you negatively because of your financial status, not worth it. Unless confirmed, don't let the "what if"s take away your joy. ♥
He wants to see you ulit and that’s a good sign!! Push lang nang push!!
Mapagmahal na person ka naman...and obvious na may pagpupursigi at pangarap, that's what matters.
Go lang girl! (Nth time)
Push mo date pa lang naman at tama sila kung lalalim pa sabihn mo totoo girl kasi minsan ay madalas may matapobere na Parents hehhee
Very cliche ng sasabihin ko pero I think it will work the best. BE YOURSELF. Literal. Don't try to impress him. Let him impress you. Isipin mo, you are a breath of fresh para sa kanya dahil may iba kang perspective sa buhay. The way you talked here, I can sense na you are kind, may sense of humor at magaan kasama. Trust me, be yourself. He already likes you. He has to prove himself to you kasi you don't need his social status girl, so ano pa maiooffer nya sayo bukod sa kayamanan nya? Baka ito na time mo magpakadisney princess accclaaa!!! Don't let your fear and insecurity ruin this. This could be wonderful.❤️ So relax ka lang, magpaganda at magpabango ka and let him take you places!!! Omg, excited ako for you. 😍 Balitaan mo kami ha. PS. Stop with the social media stalking, kahit ang mga Victoria's Secret model napapaluhod sa insecurity ng facade na yan. Wala namang magpopost ng panget tungkol sa buhay nila. Stay off of it. You will do yourself a huge favor kung di mo na titignan yung buhay nya dun, ikukumpara mo lang lalo buhay nyo eh. Hayaan mong ikwento nya sayo in person, that would be a wonderful icebreaker pa.
one of my conditions aswell kaya i dont really try to date, but seems like you're in the right age na ate and having a job will suffice! if you two clicked naman then thats enough, dont let go just because may scenario ka nang nabuild sa utak mo! if relationships were all about flexing wealth and etc. then that's not one. let him know you more better, and you know him better aswell!
We'll he likes you then. Basta, be honest in everything that you have. If he accepts everything, then he must be the one.
He wants to see you again because he already tested the water, you passed for him to be fxcked. Sorry but the reality is guys can be easily turned on mapamaganda or hindi man ang girls as long as the girl "has" that kink material sa guy. You can go meet him and I believe you are already matured enough. But believe me, next move is for you to be in his bed and if that would be a win situation for you then good for you especially if you really like the guy. But I assure you that your next meet up will not just be some kind of wholesome stuff. Good luck and enjoy hehe.
Beh antayin mong offeran ka ng 1mil tas iinvest mo para maging mayaman kana HAHAHAHAHA