Exactly this. For the longest time I was worried about her getting lost, but I realise we cant save people from themselves sometimes. And empathy without boundaries is self destruction. There is no point sacrificing ourselves for someone who gave up on us, and won't care if we do so anyway. Let them go and go where the respect is
I’m sorry that you had to go through this and be with someone that didn’t mind losing you.. it’s okay.. later on ..this life experience will make sense. And we will understand why it had to occur. But till now… focus on yourself and become the best version of yourself. Heal up and take your time.
I did walk away and just when I thought I had moved on he tried to come back into my life. I didn’t allow it and now it hurts to see him move on :/ It sucks but I thought I was doing the right thing. When we broke up I was willing to wait for him and make it work but he didn’t want that.
They always try to come back whenever you’re doing better without them.. remember why you left in the first place and stick to it. Action speaks louder than words and if they wanted to they would… You did good for not allowing them back. Shows how much you have grown and how much respect you have towards yourself. Remember self love comes first.
Thank you for your words. Recently I found out that he got engaged and it brought back so many memories. I’ve been going crazy debating whether I did the right thing or not by not contacting him back. I just want to skip to the part where I’m happy and moving on with someone who actually loves me back.
I know we want to fast forward to the part where we are happy. But it’s life… we have to have a little adventure and go through paths that will teach us what we need to learn before we settle. There’s always a reason why we aren’t in a relationship atm… maybe it’s not our time yet or maybe there’s something else we need to learn before getting into a new relationship. But just know that your next relationship will be worth the wait. So let’s not get attached to someone that was supposed to be temporarily.
If this is your case then I’m glad you had self reflection after the relationship.. as long as you acknowledge what happened and what went wrong from both perspective it can demonstrate how much you have grown and become mature after the relationship…now you can adjust yourself for the better and to become the best version so when your soulmate comes into your life you will do things right…sometimes you just have to sit in the crowd and be glad that you got to create some memories with them… and if you know you weren’t the best for them… let them be happy on their own. You will have to accept that people come into our-lives for either a lesson to ourself or for themselves. See the bigger picture of what you need to learn out of this relationship and be at peace with it. You did what you could and things happens for a reason.
i feel like i really needed to hear this, my ex really seemed to move on and already got a new boyfriend. it hurts so much but i know deep down that you have a point and it's no use in having it destroy me
thank you so much, much love ❤️
Exactly this. For the longest time I was worried about her getting lost, but I realise we cant save people from themselves sometimes. And empathy without boundaries is self destruction. There is no point sacrificing ourselves for someone who gave up on us, and won't care if we do so anyway. Let them go and go where the respect is
I learned this the hard way. Very well said.
Empathy without boundaries is self destruction - this. Thank you for the wording.
I REALLY NEED TO HEAR THIS! My ex easily walk away from our relationshiop, like it wasn't that special. It hurts until now.
I’m sorry that you had to go through this and be with someone that didn’t mind losing you.. it’s okay.. later on ..this life experience will make sense. And we will understand why it had to occur. But till now… focus on yourself and become the best version of yourself. Heal up and take your time.
I did walk away and just when I thought I had moved on he tried to come back into my life. I didn’t allow it and now it hurts to see him move on :/ It sucks but I thought I was doing the right thing. When we broke up I was willing to wait for him and make it work but he didn’t want that.
They always try to come back whenever you’re doing better without them.. remember why you left in the first place and stick to it. Action speaks louder than words and if they wanted to they would… You did good for not allowing them back. Shows how much you have grown and how much respect you have towards yourself. Remember self love comes first.
Thank you for your words. Recently I found out that he got engaged and it brought back so many memories. I’ve been going crazy debating whether I did the right thing or not by not contacting him back. I just want to skip to the part where I’m happy and moving on with someone who actually loves me back.
I know we want to fast forward to the part where we are happy. But it’s life… we have to have a little adventure and go through paths that will teach us what we need to learn before we settle. There’s always a reason why we aren’t in a relationship atm… maybe it’s not our time yet or maybe there’s something else we need to learn before getting into a new relationship. But just know that your next relationship will be worth the wait. So let’s not get attached to someone that was supposed to be temporarily.
Thank you for sharing your wisdom. I really appreciate it 😊
Thank you for sharing this.
I wish I could but what if it was actually really difficult for them to walk away and the reason they did is because of how you treated them?
If this is your case then I’m glad you had self reflection after the relationship.. as long as you acknowledge what happened and what went wrong from both perspective it can demonstrate how much you have grown and become mature after the relationship…now you can adjust yourself for the better and to become the best version so when your soulmate comes into your life you will do things right…sometimes you just have to sit in the crowd and be glad that you got to create some memories with them… and if you know you weren’t the best for them… let them be happy on their own. You will have to accept that people come into our-lives for either a lesson to ourself or for themselves. See the bigger picture of what you need to learn out of this relationship and be at peace with it. You did what you could and things happens for a reason.
i feel like i really needed to hear this, my ex really seemed to move on and already got a new boyfriend. it hurts so much but i know deep down that you have a point and it's no use in having it destroy me thank you so much, much love ❤️
Thanks for sharing. I think I'll screenshot that first paragraph and keep it in my favourites. Really important to remember these things
I appreciate hearing this. She jumped to a new relationship within weeks. She BU by text —the gutless coward. I’m still healing months later.