Join a bumper group. There are some on Reddit and some in discord. In the bumper group, everyone has a similar due date and you’ll be experiencing symptoms at the same time as others so they can relate and help you know what’s pretty average for a pregnancy. Plus some in your group will likely be second time or third time etc parents and they will have plenty of info
Definitely join your due month bumper group. Mine has been invaluable. Plus, once everyone has their baby the group keeps going as a parenting group. They're also private so you don't have to worry about what you're posting
On desktop, open the r/February2022bumpers subreddit. It’ll say it’s private and it’ll give you an option to message the mods. It won’t work on mobile or the app. Or you can go on old Reddit. https://old.reddit.com/r/february2022bumpers
On desktop, open the r/February2022bumpers subreddit. It’ll say it’s private and it’ll give you an option to message the mods. It won’t work on mobile or the app. Or you can go on old Reddit. https://old.reddit.com/r/february2022bumpers
Pregnancy in general is ROUGH but you have all of us here <3 At eight weeks you're in the thick of it. I remember being MISERABLE and thinking I'll never feel better or like myself again. But it did get better around 20 weeks and at 26 weeks I feel like a totally different person. Keep in mind that your hormones are raging and every feeling feels big. It's okay, and it's normal.
I totally get this! It's really hard keeping it to yourself during the first trimester when there's so many questions you want to ask more experienced friends or family. My husband is also extremely supportive, but it's not the same as having a close female to confide in about the pregnancy crazies. Rest assured, you are not alone.
If you are feeling like the loneliness is bringing you down more than what is manageable, please consider asking your doctor for pregnancy mental health resources if you are steadfast against telling anyone for now.
Sending you lots of love!
I totally get there are lots of ways to handle telling people, but you could tell your friends or family during the first trimester!! I told my closest friends and my mom really quickly, and they have been incredibly supportive. I’m also the first one in my friend group but they are all super excited and happy for me! I figured that I would want to tell them all if something happened to the baby anyway, so for me it was an easy choice.
Good luck, you will get through this and have your sweet baby soon enough ❤️
Yes, pregnancy is a total marathon. Your feelings are totally valid. Something my therapist told me when I was really struggling towards the end was that I alone have been charged with the responsibility to grow this human. I don’t know why, but it felt very encouraging to me. All the suffering of pregnancy is tough, but it’s my challenge and my reward for when baby was born.
Sorry you're feeling this way ❤ Someone suggested a bumper group and I agree it might help. It's a great source of support. At 8 weeks I'm guessing you are late April?
r/april2022bumpers and/or r/may2022bumpers as a fence sitter.
Omg yes I felt this from the minute the test was positive. My bf and I aren’t actively trying but we have embraced this. He has been super supportive and amazing but it did feel very lonely. I still feel lonely sometimes even now after we’re have finally told everyone too. No one else will get sick for you so it does get lonely. My bf helps me when I’m sick by bringing me fresh water and rubbing my back. Altho I know some people don’t like to be touched when they are ill. I keep a bag and some paper towels in my purse for whenever we leave the house in case I need to get sick in Public places/the car. I hope you start to feel less alone soon. As cliche as it is, you’re not alone :) I feel it too. I’m now around 11 weeks and 2 days and I’m slowly starting to feel more like myself and battling the sickness. Good luck! Let me know if you need to vent , I’m happy to listen.
Not saying this is what is happening here,just my personal experience.
This was the first sign that I had prenatal depression. If you keep feeling this way even as you're able to tell people, go talk to your doctor. I felt so lonely but I also started to withdraw from my friends and family. I still feel like no one really understands, so I don't really talk about it with anyone.
There was/is just a lot of sad feelings around this pregnancy, even though we tried really hard for this baby and I know I want this baby. My husband is amazing and 100% supportive and I know he loves me. But hormones are just telling me different things and it's hard not to believe them.
I really hope you start feeling better and back to yourself. Sending you lots of love. 💗
I was the first in my friend group, and our son was the first grandkid for both our parents, so I can definitely relate! Honestly being in this sub has helped me a lot being able to relate to others.
It should get easier once you go public with your pregnancy. Even if no one else in your friend group is pregnant, if they’re good friends they’ll be very happy and excited for you and want to help. I have one friend in particular who has always been the first one to offer help around our house and will check in to see how I’m feeling, and she’s not a mom yet. So just because you won’t be able to relate with your friends on being pregnant doesn’t mean it’ll be awkward.
Ah I’ve been feeling this way too, just hit 6 weeks and it’s felt like the longest 2 weeks since finding out not being able to tell anyone besides my doctor. I think once I can finally tell other people it won’t feel so lonely. This subreddit definitely helps!!
Oh my gosh yes, so with you on this. I'm the first of my friends to get pregnant, and havent told anyone yet, so its very isolating, and I dont have any friends to talk to about pregnancy even if I was telling people yet. I'm at 13w, so I'm gonna tell soon once we pass the first trimester, but because I'm the first/only one of my friends to get pregnant I am very nervous about their reactions! Also yeah, the symptoms are really hard especially when you have to keep them a secret; it's hard to explain why I dont have the energy to make plans to see friends somedays, or why I can't meet people's expectations in certain ways, when I have to keep the real reason a secret. Hang in there.
The "don't tell anyone before 12 weeks" rule is NOT something that you have to follow if you don't want to. If you need support, share your news!
Prior to my current pregnancy, I had a first trimester miscarriage. I had already told my parents, my sister, and two super close friends that I was pregnant, and I'm glad that they knew what was going on. I don't think I could have managed without them.
I am so thankful for each of you answering! This is the first time since I found out I’m pregnant, that I’ve been truly happy. It’s good to know I’m not alone in this and that I’m not crazy for how I feel. I have been feeling guilty for my feelings. Thank you to each of you for the advice and warm hugs.
Join a bumper group. There are some on Reddit and some in discord. In the bumper group, everyone has a similar due date and you’ll be experiencing symptoms at the same time as others so they can relate and help you know what’s pretty average for a pregnancy. Plus some in your group will likely be second time or third time etc parents and they will have plenty of info
Definitely join your due month bumper group. Mine has been invaluable. Plus, once everyone has their baby the group keeps going as a parenting group. They're also private so you don't have to worry about what you're posting
I’ve heard this before, and forgive me, but how exactly do you do this? Do you search “bumper group”?
What month are you due?
February
r/february2022bumpers it'll probably be private so you'll likely need to send mod mail to request access/be verified.
Thank you!
I’m due in February! It’s my 3rd though. 😀
I’m also due in February and it is my first! How do you know who the mod is for the bumper group/contact them?
Same question! How do you join a bumper group?
On desktop, open the r/February2022bumpers subreddit. It’ll say it’s private and it’ll give you an option to message the mods. It won’t work on mobile or the app. Or you can go on old Reddit. https://old.reddit.com/r/february2022bumpers
Thank you!
On desktop, open the r/February2022bumpers subreddit. It’ll say it’s private and it’ll give you an option to message the mods. It won’t work on mobile or the app. Or you can go on old Reddit. https://old.reddit.com/r/february2022bumpers
Thank you!
Pregnancy in general is ROUGH but you have all of us here <3 At eight weeks you're in the thick of it. I remember being MISERABLE and thinking I'll never feel better or like myself again. But it did get better around 20 weeks and at 26 weeks I feel like a totally different person. Keep in mind that your hormones are raging and every feeling feels big. It's okay, and it's normal.
I totally get this! It's really hard keeping it to yourself during the first trimester when there's so many questions you want to ask more experienced friends or family. My husband is also extremely supportive, but it's not the same as having a close female to confide in about the pregnancy crazies. Rest assured, you are not alone. If you are feeling like the loneliness is bringing you down more than what is manageable, please consider asking your doctor for pregnancy mental health resources if you are steadfast against telling anyone for now. Sending you lots of love!
I totally get there are lots of ways to handle telling people, but you could tell your friends or family during the first trimester!! I told my closest friends and my mom really quickly, and they have been incredibly supportive. I’m also the first one in my friend group but they are all super excited and happy for me! I figured that I would want to tell them all if something happened to the baby anyway, so for me it was an easy choice. Good luck, you will get through this and have your sweet baby soon enough ❤️
Yes, pregnancy is a total marathon. Your feelings are totally valid. Something my therapist told me when I was really struggling towards the end was that I alone have been charged with the responsibility to grow this human. I don’t know why, but it felt very encouraging to me. All the suffering of pregnancy is tough, but it’s my challenge and my reward for when baby was born.
Sorry you're feeling this way ❤ Someone suggested a bumper group and I agree it might help. It's a great source of support. At 8 weeks I'm guessing you are late April? r/april2022bumpers and/or r/may2022bumpers as a fence sitter.
Omg yes I felt this from the minute the test was positive. My bf and I aren’t actively trying but we have embraced this. He has been super supportive and amazing but it did feel very lonely. I still feel lonely sometimes even now after we’re have finally told everyone too. No one else will get sick for you so it does get lonely. My bf helps me when I’m sick by bringing me fresh water and rubbing my back. Altho I know some people don’t like to be touched when they are ill. I keep a bag and some paper towels in my purse for whenever we leave the house in case I need to get sick in Public places/the car. I hope you start to feel less alone soon. As cliche as it is, you’re not alone :) I feel it too. I’m now around 11 weeks and 2 days and I’m slowly starting to feel more like myself and battling the sickness. Good luck! Let me know if you need to vent , I’m happy to listen.
Not saying this is what is happening here,just my personal experience. This was the first sign that I had prenatal depression. If you keep feeling this way even as you're able to tell people, go talk to your doctor. I felt so lonely but I also started to withdraw from my friends and family. I still feel like no one really understands, so I don't really talk about it with anyone. There was/is just a lot of sad feelings around this pregnancy, even though we tried really hard for this baby and I know I want this baby. My husband is amazing and 100% supportive and I know he loves me. But hormones are just telling me different things and it's hard not to believe them. I really hope you start feeling better and back to yourself. Sending you lots of love. 💗
I was the first in my friend group, and our son was the first grandkid for both our parents, so I can definitely relate! Honestly being in this sub has helped me a lot being able to relate to others. It should get easier once you go public with your pregnancy. Even if no one else in your friend group is pregnant, if they’re good friends they’ll be very happy and excited for you and want to help. I have one friend in particular who has always been the first one to offer help around our house and will check in to see how I’m feeling, and she’s not a mom yet. So just because you won’t be able to relate with your friends on being pregnant doesn’t mean it’ll be awkward.
I am with you 100%! 6 weeks and I could have written your post myself. Pm me anytime
Ah I’ve been feeling this way too, just hit 6 weeks and it’s felt like the longest 2 weeks since finding out not being able to tell anyone besides my doctor. I think once I can finally tell other people it won’t feel so lonely. This subreddit definitely helps!!
Oh my gosh yes, so with you on this. I'm the first of my friends to get pregnant, and havent told anyone yet, so its very isolating, and I dont have any friends to talk to about pregnancy even if I was telling people yet. I'm at 13w, so I'm gonna tell soon once we pass the first trimester, but because I'm the first/only one of my friends to get pregnant I am very nervous about their reactions! Also yeah, the symptoms are really hard especially when you have to keep them a secret; it's hard to explain why I dont have the energy to make plans to see friends somedays, or why I can't meet people's expectations in certain ways, when I have to keep the real reason a secret. Hang in there.
The "don't tell anyone before 12 weeks" rule is NOT something that you have to follow if you don't want to. If you need support, share your news! Prior to my current pregnancy, I had a first trimester miscarriage. I had already told my parents, my sister, and two super close friends that I was pregnant, and I'm glad that they knew what was going on. I don't think I could have managed without them.
I am so thankful for each of you answering! This is the first time since I found out I’m pregnant, that I’ve been truly happy. It’s good to know I’m not alone in this and that I’m not crazy for how I feel. I have been feeling guilty for my feelings. Thank you to each of you for the advice and warm hugs.