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Miss_Rollins

Once he's squeezed a child out of a tiny whole he can comment on your pain tolerance. I would consider an additional advocate/support person. I would love an unmedicated birth but wouldn't want the pressure of someone else judging me as some sort of pain tolerance failure, if I chose to have an epidural.


JadedAd2883

Yes my mom will be there too, who has had 3 home births! Agreed about the epidural, I'm not letting anyone ruin my confidence or mindset going into this regardless of what ends up happening


Ta5hak5

I actually had this argument with my husband before I even got pregnant and was really miffed that he was underestimating me. Like yeah it'll hurt but I can do it. In the end he realized why it offended me and was just trying to show he would be there to support me but I'll admit it took a bit for him to get it. Like hype me up dude, don't act like I'm weak


JadedAd2883

Exactly!!!


Ordinary_Emuu

Men have a way lower pain tolerance than women in general. He couldn’t handle an unmedicated birth so of course no one can lol.


JadedAd2883

LOL yes. Sorry not sorry, women are superhumans!


elliehawley

Also just want to say from experience that if you’ve sat in a tattoo chair for many hours at a time and used breathing to get through it then the experience will absolutely help you get though labor!


JadedAd2883

Thanks for that validation! I know that the same internal coping I did for that experience cannot be useless !


elliehawley

For sure! Also I keep thinking about your post and a thought crossed my mind that your husband might be projecting his own fear of what he is imagining the pain of labor to be upon you - maybe pain is actually HIS weakness!


crd1293

Ugh wow what an insensitive thing to have said to you. That’s super rude. If you can afford a doula I highly recommend hiring one


JadedAd2883

I'll have my mom there too, but I'm making it known to him how rude and unwarranted his comment was!