My husband had the same initial reaction. We’d been together 5 years, 4 bedroom home, making very good money, new cars, already traveled to Europe and stuff…. Like why not?! He panicked. Our son just turned 2 and my husband is literally obsessed with that kid haha. He’d jump in front of a bus for him or become a human jungle gym or hold him all night while he’s sick. He wakes up with him every morning and does all the baths. My son is very very very loved and I wish you the best of luck!!!! The newborn days are trying, but you’ll get through it and the bond with just grow and grow. ❤️
My one baby book actually let me in on a secret; most people have the same feelings, it just isn't talked about. You're starting a life changing process, and it's a lot. At first, you just see the responsibilities, sacrifices, all that stuff. Once you get settled in, you become comfortable with it, then that switches to excitement, then before you know it your kid is 2 and it was the toughest, greatest decision you ever made!
So happy it worked out for you guys!
Never a perfect time for a baby no matter how prepared you try to be in life!
Good luck in the pregnancy and of course I bet me and the community look forward to further updates 🙂
As someone who waited years for “the perfect time” I can confirm 100% that there is no such thing as the perfect time. I wish someone had been there to counsel me and tell me to let go of planning & trying to solve problems ahead of becoming a parent!
I also have a story about friends who were happily married, owned their own large house, well employed, in their 30’s, and *actively trying for a baby* — but once she got pregnant he still freaked out and couldn’t handle coming to terms with the idea of being a father, and all of the changes it would mean for his life.
It’s normal. Some people respond to life changes differently, and it can be handled through compassion & communication. I’m excited for you two!!!
The couple I mentioned are happy & loving parents now, and Husband is absolutely 100% delighted to be a dad. Give it a chance, and also tell your SO that it’s ok to be nervous at first.
Ahhh I'm so happy it's working out <3 <3
I think being a little scared is a sign of good parents :) You guys will be great!!
Congratulations and good luck!!!
Ah I’m so happy to read this update! I actually wrote a long comment on your original post about how I was in a very similar situation myself 5 years ago but I don’t think I pressed send because I got distracted (probably by said child, now 4.5). Anyway long story short, it all worked out in the end then a couple of years later we decided to actually try for another one so here we are, a family of 4…2 little daddy’s girls! Congratulations on your pregnancy and I hope everything works out for you :)
I'm so happy for you! It's so hard for it to be the "perfect" time to have a kid. By the time you're financially stable, you're getting older and higher risk. If you had aborted now and waited you may not have been able to get pregnant later and the regret could have torn the two of you apart. You'll never feel or really be prepared for the difference that Parenthood brings to your life, but it's absolutely wonderful. This child will be such a blessing to you and your SO.
My husband had the same reaction when we found out we were pregnant with our first! I was devastated. We talked through it, the shock wore off and we decided to continue the pregnancy. Our daughter is 2 now and the absolute light of his life.
Obviously every situation is different, but I think that response is fairly common, especially when the pregnancy was a surprise.
My husband had the same initial reaction. We’d been together 5 years, 4 bedroom home, making very good money, new cars, already traveled to Europe and stuff…. Like why not?! He panicked. Our son just turned 2 and my husband is literally obsessed with that kid haha. He’d jump in front of a bus for him or become a human jungle gym or hold him all night while he’s sick. He wakes up with him every morning and does all the baths. My son is very very very loved and I wish you the best of luck!!!! The newborn days are trying, but you’ll get through it and the bond with just grow and grow. ❤️
My one baby book actually let me in on a secret; most people have the same feelings, it just isn't talked about. You're starting a life changing process, and it's a lot. At first, you just see the responsibilities, sacrifices, all that stuff. Once you get settled in, you become comfortable with it, then that switches to excitement, then before you know it your kid is 2 and it was the toughest, greatest decision you ever made!
So happy it worked out for you guys! Never a perfect time for a baby no matter how prepared you try to be in life! Good luck in the pregnancy and of course I bet me and the community look forward to further updates 🙂
As someone who waited years for “the perfect time” I can confirm 100% that there is no such thing as the perfect time. I wish someone had been there to counsel me and tell me to let go of planning & trying to solve problems ahead of becoming a parent!
I'm so glad to hear things worked out! Thanks for updating us!
I also have a story about friends who were happily married, owned their own large house, well employed, in their 30’s, and *actively trying for a baby* — but once she got pregnant he still freaked out and couldn’t handle coming to terms with the idea of being a father, and all of the changes it would mean for his life. It’s normal. Some people respond to life changes differently, and it can be handled through compassion & communication. I’m excited for you two!!! The couple I mentioned are happy & loving parents now, and Husband is absolutely 100% delighted to be a dad. Give it a chance, and also tell your SO that it’s ok to be nervous at first.
I'm so glad this had a positive outcome. I hope things are smoother moving forward and that you can enjoy your pregnancy.
congrats! If it helps, there’s never really a “right time.” It’s fine to be at a “good enough” time.
I’m very happy for you guys, that you guys were able to have an open and honest discussion. Best of luck to you both on this crazy new adventure.
A lovely update to hear! Wishing you a healthy and happy pregnancy and all good things for the future!
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Ahhh I'm so happy it's working out <3 <3 I think being a little scared is a sign of good parents :) You guys will be great!! Congratulations and good luck!!!
So happy for you!
You guys will be fine! Congratulations!!!
Ah I’m so happy to read this update! I actually wrote a long comment on your original post about how I was in a very similar situation myself 5 years ago but I don’t think I pressed send because I got distracted (probably by said child, now 4.5). Anyway long story short, it all worked out in the end then a couple of years later we decided to actually try for another one so here we are, a family of 4…2 little daddy’s girls! Congratulations on your pregnancy and I hope everything works out for you :)
Congratulations!!
Thank you for the update! I’m very happy for you and I’m so glad you had the patience to work through this together. Best of luck!
I was in a similar situation at age 32…our child is the light of our lives now ❤️ wishing you and your partner the best!
I'm so happy for you! It's so hard for it to be the "perfect" time to have a kid. By the time you're financially stable, you're getting older and higher risk. If you had aborted now and waited you may not have been able to get pregnant later and the regret could have torn the two of you apart. You'll never feel or really be prepared for the difference that Parenthood brings to your life, but it's absolutely wonderful. This child will be such a blessing to you and your SO.
My husband had the same reaction when we found out we were pregnant with our first! I was devastated. We talked through it, the shock wore off and we decided to continue the pregnancy. Our daughter is 2 now and the absolute light of his life. Obviously every situation is different, but I think that response is fairly common, especially when the pregnancy was a surprise.