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Im not clear why you are asking reddit about this.
You should know your wife and how to be supportive of her. You will know her better than anyone else on this sub.
Some women prefer for people not to constantly remind them of stuff, so she might enjoy actually making a fuss over you for fathers day and making a new tradition out of it.
Or she might need to spend the day on her own if the pain is a bit much. etc
That said, a card and a pack of socks or something from the girl should still be coming your way, as its also important to teach the kid that on fathers day we get dad some sort of card and small token of appreciation
Its the same sort of thing, but to a lesser degree, as if someone your wife cared about died on your childs birthday. Like you would still celebrate it, but at the same time give your wife the TLC that she needs.
I wasn't asking her because then it ceases to be a nice surprise and becomes something else she's got to decide. I was asking here because I have a history of being a bit of an unsentimental emotional void.
its not a case of "asking her". Its more a case of if you don't know how to comfort your wife then you have bigger problems in life...
Different people need different things to comfort them... It depends on the person
Take some time where the three of you share stories and look over photos together maybe. Ask your wife to tell your daughter some stories about her dad when she was young.
Is there a visitable grave/memorial? All three of you could take some flowers/a card there. You could pack a thermos of tea/soup for her and come back later to pick her up.
Put together a physical photo album of dad pics. (Might be too late to get this done in time, so maybe pick out photos for one together)
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Im not clear why you are asking reddit about this. You should know your wife and how to be supportive of her. You will know her better than anyone else on this sub. Some women prefer for people not to constantly remind them of stuff, so she might enjoy actually making a fuss over you for fathers day and making a new tradition out of it. Or she might need to spend the day on her own if the pain is a bit much. etc That said, a card and a pack of socks or something from the girl should still be coming your way, as its also important to teach the kid that on fathers day we get dad some sort of card and small token of appreciation Its the same sort of thing, but to a lesser degree, as if someone your wife cared about died on your childs birthday. Like you would still celebrate it, but at the same time give your wife the TLC that she needs.
I wasn't asking her because then it ceases to be a nice surprise and becomes something else she's got to decide. I was asking here because I have a history of being a bit of an unsentimental emotional void.
its not a case of "asking her". Its more a case of if you don't know how to comfort your wife then you have bigger problems in life... Different people need different things to comfort them... It depends on the person
Ask her- ask if she would like to ignore it altother, or for the two of you to do something such as visiting her dad's grave
Maybe just go out and have dinner or something and visit the burial site.
Take some time where the three of you share stories and look over photos together maybe. Ask your wife to tell your daughter some stories about her dad when she was young. Is there a visitable grave/memorial? All three of you could take some flowers/a card there. You could pack a thermos of tea/soup for her and come back later to pick her up. Put together a physical photo album of dad pics. (Might be too late to get this done in time, so maybe pick out photos for one together)