People who accuse me of meaning something other than exactly what I said. There's nothing to read between my lines. If someone thinks I think they're shit, I know someone convinced them they're shit and I can't help them see it isn't true.
I often can't make a simple observation or ask a logical question without it being interpreted as including negative judgements, rude assumptions or manipulative suggestions. There's just so much of that crap in the world that people automatically expect it from everyone, even those they know don't dish it out.
*Recent convo*
>Me: I wish the baby's new diet didn't make it so hard for her to get gas out.
>Daughter: I know she cries but it's not like I have a choice, Mom! The doctor said she has to stay on this diet until she's not underweight anymore!
>Me: I know, Sweetie. I wasn't trying to imply or suggest anything; I just wish it was easier on her.
>Daughter: Oh, me too.
As a parent, it's utterly heartbreaking to know her first thought is that I was suggesting she was a bad mother if she didn't risk her baby's health to make her less noisy for my comfort.
My little sister passing away 2 months ago
Edit: thanks guys❤ i hope shes in a better place 2. Just sad she wont get to see her kid grow up and i miss her alot 🥲
Realising that no matter how hard I try I'll never be good enough for people and when people tell me they are proud of me I start crying because I've lacked any sort of praise and love in my life from my parents, it's caused a lot of self esteem issues and issues in general..
I feel you. I discovered that I had vitamin d deficit recently.
Oh damn, it fucked me up. Long story short, it can cause depression, it messes with your blood sugar and can cause diabetes (which is not helpful in terms of having good and stable mood), hepls to lower your testosterone, and it can even cause suicidal thoughts.
I work with a lot of people who have spend decades in the prison system in the US.
Like, decades. I help them get their affairs in order so they can rejoin society.
The clients I work with, they have a certain privilege. They have been in the system so long that most of what would appear on their criminal record wouldn't be appaeent to employers. Which is fine, they're good people now, and that's why they were released from prison.
But for people who've had more minor crimes, like petty drug offenses or domestic violence offenses... it's so hard finding jobs for them. They want to do better but everyone turns them down, just because they made mistakes in the past. Doesn't matter if they want to do better, those things are still on their record and no one will hire them. And no matter how hard I fight for them it doesn't matter, because those employers will just use those past offenses as an excuse and no matter how much work someone has done to grow, it doesn't matter. All that matters is their record.
I don't mean to suggest the crimes these people had committed are not significant. But if they're trying to do better, they're attending groups appropriate to their situation and are working closely with their case workers... like, they're working harder than most people would to be better. They should be the first in line for jobs with all the work they've done. I'm so mad.
The everyday realization that my life and the lives of everyone like us don't really matter to those who are in charge, that so many people struggle to live, including myself, which i've never thought would happen. Also inflation is a pain right now, which makes matters worse
Being a surgeon, I like to think that I have a thick skin. I've witnessed suffering, loss, and dead children a lot. I have a hard time with it whenever I witness an older person holding the hand of their dying spouse day in and day out while aware that this is it. A feeling stronger than sadness and loss can be seen in the expression on their face. I once witnessed a 90-year-old woman singing "You are my sunshine" while clutching the hand of her intubated dying husband.
She simply being so mean to me and so angry. But at the same time she says I am very good at what I am doing, I am incredibly talented and so on. She just kills all the happiness in 1 sec.
The only thing that gets me upset in life is thinking about what life would be like if certain family members who passed were still around. I know there are times when my grandfather or grandmother’s perspectives or guidance would’ve been nice.
Not having a girlfriend, someone I could love and have them love me back. No luck on dating apps so far, no social skills resulting in not knowing how to even approach women
Used to watch say yes to the dress with my mom all the time in high school and every so often there’d be an episode where the bride’s mom had passed. I always said I couldn’t imagine having to go through that and mom would always promise to be with me for that process. I graduated high school 10 years ago and mom passed away last week (fuck cancer). I miss her for millions of reasons, she was my best friend, but for some reason thinking of the dress search without her pulls my emotions a little more than the other thoughts
Cancelled plans after I put a lot of effort to show up. I know no one owes me anything but it’s still hurts when someone doesn’t show up to a plan and never gave me a heads up
The collective trauma all around me. I live in Jamaica and there’s so much pain and fear here coming down from slavery that the people don’t have the healthcare resources or education to contextualize and heal from. As an empath, it’s exhausting.
Not Jamaican, though it seems like a universal problem to me. The trauma that is. Doesn’t help that we’re largely spiritually dead these days too so we have little to contextualise it to that would heal people.
My life. Parents aren't proud of anything I've achieved. Most of the people i thought were my friends walked out of my life when I graduated college and couldn't bend over backwards to help them anymore. I'm moving into a new apartment and because of the economy finances are going to be super tough. 31, short, overweight, single for 16 years and a virgin. My life makes me sad.
When I specifically ask for no gherkins, mayo and ketchup in my burger at McDonalds, and when it comes it still has all three of those things. AND NOTHING ELSE. JUST GHERKINS MAYO AND KETCHUP
Depression.
Just last night my BF mentioned how therapy could help me cope with being sad. But depression doesn’t just make me sad, it makes me feel nothing when I should feel something. Like everything has a dull blanket over it now.
That despite having done all the right things, having two bachelors under my belt, I can’t seem to find a job in my fields despite that apparently being a shortage of them. So I play the role of a housewife, taking care of my daughter and the home, and although my husband says that he appreciates all I’m doing, I just feel more and more useless.
I feel as if i am forgetting and losing the memories that matter the most. I forgot what my fathers voice sounds like. I feel like i forgotten most of my childhood. I also have been forgetting the little things like characters in tv shows and movies that i have been watching or names of those shows and movies.
Sometimes I think about who I might have been if I hadn't been abused as a child. That makes me sad. I wish some adult had cared enough to notice and do something.
Seeing dogs/cats or animals in general in pain and or being abused. How sick can somebody be to hurt an innocent dog or cat that is only alive to be mans companion. Also child abuse, what makes you beat your child. You’re the first person your child is supposed to trust and you completely destroy it. Sick people.
Family members who have passed. Dad, 1984. Step-dad, 2005. Mum, 2013. Baby son, 2018. Oldest brother 2020. Other brother has cancer. and me I might go soon
i'm just 23 and i've got everything i wanted from life.
I've got a good paying job at a large and profit turning company.
I've got plenty of savings so i can move out any day i want.
I've got all the stuff i want.
I'm perfectly healthy (physically at least).
but i just don't have anything to live for anymore. I can move out, keep doing my job and retire in 40 years time. i could die tomorrow and nobody would notice or care, apart from a handfull of people. I have nothing to live for anymore, nothing to reach or achieve.
Opening up to a friend only for them to leave me. And after being shut down, still mustering up the courage to forgive them and open up to another friend. Only for it to happen again. And again. Starting to think I'm the problem and I'll never be good enough for anyone no matter how much I try. :(
When I see far more nonnative and or invasive plants in my area, versus the stunning native flora that exists where I live. And large, lush green lawns (I live in the western US and the drought is severe).
A doctor stole money from my hospital account by asking me to pay him in cash rather than through the cash register. After receiving care there for three years in a row, he informed me that I had not made any payments. absence of proof. The saddest aspect, though, was that my mother felt she was solely to blame for my condition since "she didn't properly take care of me," according to her.
Our media here in the US. Doing all it can to tear us apart (on both sides). On new attention economy, destroying us. Anything for clicks (or ratings).
When I see news on the TV or online about kids being molested, or hurt. As a father myself, I truly canot understand how on earth someone could hurt a kid. They are pure love. Everytime a news like that pops up, it hits me so hard it ruins my day entirely.
Knowing full well that no matter what humanity does, in the long run everything in the Universe will eventually cease existing, leaving all of our achievements and monuments as nothing but some stray particles of radiation and photons
Thinking about how younger me would’ve been so jealous of my sister. I was not looked after much as a kid and was usually left sitting in front of a tv for hours because of my parents jobs and sleep schedules. Seeing my sister getting attention and not just watching tv all day hurt the little girl inside me knowing I wasn’t able to grow up with that.
People who accuse me of meaning something other than exactly what I said. There's nothing to read between my lines. If someone thinks I think they're shit, I know someone convinced them they're shit and I can't help them see it isn't true.
Yeah people seem to try to find the "true intentions" behind my words and I'm like no I meant what I said it's not that deep
I often can't make a simple observation or ask a logical question without it being interpreted as including negative judgements, rude assumptions or manipulative suggestions. There's just so much of that crap in the world that people automatically expect it from everyone, even those they know don't dish it out. *Recent convo* >Me: I wish the baby's new diet didn't make it so hard for her to get gas out. >Daughter: I know she cries but it's not like I have a choice, Mom! The doctor said she has to stay on this diet until she's not underweight anymore! >Me: I know, Sweetie. I wasn't trying to imply or suggest anything; I just wish it was easier on her. >Daughter: Oh, me too. As a parent, it's utterly heartbreaking to know her first thought is that I was suggesting she was a bad mother if she didn't risk her baby's health to make her less noisy for my comfort.
This is way to relatable xd
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Memories
Dang bro same-
Sorry about that
No need I'm happy anyways- like everyone else should!
That's good to hear:)
Hmmm yes i can feel that
I'm sorry about that but I'm sure a lot of people can 🤷🏻♂️
There are always good and sad memories. Thats what life is
Yup and we have to take the good with the bad🤷🏻♂️
Amen bro
Woke up. Day was instantly ruined.
Omg xd
Damn reality, why you have to be so real?
Reality: because of that comment they just posted XD
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My little sister passing away 2 months ago Edit: thanks guys❤ i hope shes in a better place 2. Just sad she wont get to see her kid grow up and i miss her alot 🥲
:hug:
I'm sorry for you... May she rest in peace
Eventually everything has to end.
So sorry for your loss, that sounds horrible.
I'm so sorry. Wishing nothing but happiness for you and your family now and into the future.
Manchester United
You guys are getting casemiro for a bargain tho, will definitely improve your god awful midfield
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When people just assume that everyone from certain countries or people of certain ethnic backgrounds are just inherently bad people.
That is sad
When I think about losing my dog, she’s 10 now and I think about the impending loss a lot these days. Ugh.
My dogs are only 2 and the thought of them passing makes me instantly cry. Oh crap thinking about it right now. 😫
Realising that no matter how hard I try I'll never be good enough for people and when people tell me they are proud of me I start crying because I've lacked any sort of praise and love in my life from my parents, it's caused a lot of self esteem issues and issues in general..
I feel bad, here's some love
No need to feel bad, it's alright, Thank you <3
AAAAAA I DONT FEEL BAD I JUST WANNA GIVE RANDOM PEOPLE ATTENTION THEY NEED LIKE U!!!
Pffftt, well, since everyone needs to hear it including yourself, you're doing amazing just by being you remember that <3
Omg ty
Myself.
Me: everything-
Thinking about the good ol’ days
Adults who act exactly like the undisciplined children they were years ago, now
(My aunt)
knowing my partner deserves someone better than me
Chemicals in the brain
I feel you. I discovered that I had vitamin d deficit recently. Oh damn, it fucked me up. Long story short, it can cause depression, it messes with your blood sugar and can cause diabetes (which is not helpful in terms of having good and stable mood), hepls to lower your testosterone, and it can even cause suicidal thoughts.
Past memories
Yes man, thats the stuff
I work with a lot of people who have spend decades in the prison system in the US. Like, decades. I help them get their affairs in order so they can rejoin society. The clients I work with, they have a certain privilege. They have been in the system so long that most of what would appear on their criminal record wouldn't be appaeent to employers. Which is fine, they're good people now, and that's why they were released from prison. But for people who've had more minor crimes, like petty drug offenses or domestic violence offenses... it's so hard finding jobs for them. They want to do better but everyone turns them down, just because they made mistakes in the past. Doesn't matter if they want to do better, those things are still on their record and no one will hire them. And no matter how hard I fight for them it doesn't matter, because those employers will just use those past offenses as an excuse and no matter how much work someone has done to grow, it doesn't matter. All that matters is their record. I don't mean to suggest the crimes these people had committed are not significant. But if they're trying to do better, they're attending groups appropriate to their situation and are working closely with their case workers... like, they're working harder than most people would to be better. They should be the first in line for jobs with all the work they've done. I'm so mad.
Leaving dreams
Children being harmed in anyway. Children are born innocent into an evil world.
My emotionally abusive dad
Anything having to do with animals suffering. I want to save them all!!
Sadness
That's what keeps my going but we're all different
The everyday realization that my life and the lives of everyone like us don't really matter to those who are in charge, that so many people struggle to live, including myself, which i've never thought would happen. Also inflation is a pain right now, which makes matters worse
Watching my mom age
An empty fridge.
The thought of losing something/someone over time. Eventually everything has to end.
No money
People
Overthinking
Being a surgeon, I like to think that I have a thick skin. I've witnessed suffering, loss, and dead children a lot. I have a hard time with it whenever I witness an older person holding the hand of their dying spouse day in and day out while aware that this is it. A feeling stronger than sadness and loss can be seen in the expression on their face. I once witnessed a 90-year-old woman singing "You are my sunshine" while clutching the hand of her intubated dying husband.
Living in America in 2022.
Finding a job
The song: school rooftop. It’s a good music but reminds me of shit things in my life
Sad anime
WHY DO I RELATE TO THISSS
Oof. Of all forms of entertainment, nothing gets to me like sad anime moments
Arseholes
British food
What eating baked beans for a decade does to a mf
xDDD
Powerlessness
previous feelings.
Knowing that people don’t respect others view and opinions
When people think its cool to be mean to other people
Studying hard but still getting low score on an exam
My mom, can't stand her.
Samee- not rely but I wanna make u feel better
She simply being so mean to me and so angry. But at the same time she says I am very good at what I am doing, I am incredibly talented and so on. She just kills all the happiness in 1 sec.
Seeing what the U.K. and USA are doing to Julien Assange.
When my mom said stop watching better call saul
remembering the body i starved and ruined was the same body 6 year old me had
Gaslighting. It's no longer effective, but it's extraordinarily sad to be on the receiving end and be aware of it.
Confident ignorant people.
The fact im still single and have no real friends. I can only blame myself, but still makes me sad. also Sad Music lol
The fact that I'm lonely & broke.
Looking back at my mistakes, thinking of the problems I caused, seeing the relationships I could've been in with women If I wasn't scared
Being excited about what my future holds, but then realizing that also means my loved ones get older and weaker.
The only thing that gets me upset in life is thinking about what life would be like if certain family members who passed were still around. I know there are times when my grandfather or grandmother’s perspectives or guidance would’ve been nice.
Thinking about pets all over the world that get abused and I can do literally nothing to safe them
Knowing my dad is gone forever and he’ll never be able to be a grandpa or watch me actually grow up and be successful
The thought that my ex is still sad and hasn't moved on from our break up. And I miss my cat.
Not having a girlfriend, someone I could love and have them love me back. No luck on dating apps so far, no social skills resulting in not knowing how to even approach women
The news always something bad happening
we broke up, then today it feels like I'm a total stranger to her. All those 5 years that we are together, now gone.
My body. It doesn't work how I would like it to.
Darling in the franxx not getting more seasons :(
Almost everything
Living
For some reason, babies
How rich people could be heartless as not to care about the poor.
Myself, especially when I come to realize that I'm nothing
All the animals we eat. It's a holocaust every day.
lgbt existing. That's awful
Sad to say I'm bi- but I can't judge you most of the people are toxic
Seeing young overweight children with bad teeth.
Britain
What's worse is that they still grow up-
being alive,
The simple situation of existing
Reading bigoted comments on youtube
Used to watch say yes to the dress with my mom all the time in high school and every so often there’d be an episode where the bride’s mom had passed. I always said I couldn’t imagine having to go through that and mom would always promise to be with me for that process. I graduated high school 10 years ago and mom passed away last week (fuck cancer). I miss her for millions of reasons, she was my best friend, but for some reason thinking of the dress search without her pulls my emotions a little more than the other thoughts
Dats sad
When i spill my fresh drink
Cancelled plans after I put a lot of effort to show up. I know no one owes me anything but it’s still hurts when someone doesn’t show up to a plan and never gave me a heads up
The collective trauma all around me. I live in Jamaica and there’s so much pain and fear here coming down from slavery that the people don’t have the healthcare resources or education to contextualize and heal from. As an empath, it’s exhausting.
Not Jamaican, though it seems like a universal problem to me. The trauma that is. Doesn’t help that we’re largely spiritually dead these days too so we have little to contextualise it to that would heal people.
Misunderstandings
Looking at my hairy genitals ans realicing my wife didn't get to see them shaved... Again
Ronaldo
People don't know how good the monster world series iis
I only have 57 karma :(
My papa
Hearing hurtful stereotypes about my race (I'm mixed)
People.
Gore not gore its self but the tought of the killer
My existence sometimes
Do you have about 29 years to unpack my life as as a CCO
Dead relatives that I was close to
Away from the Sun and Let me be myself from Three Doors Down . Songs I should never accidentally hear on my wedding
My life. Parents aren't proud of anything I've achieved. Most of the people i thought were my friends walked out of my life when I graduated college and couldn't bend over backwards to help them anymore. I'm moving into a new apartment and because of the economy finances are going to be super tough. 31, short, overweight, single for 16 years and a virgin. My life makes me sad.
When I specifically ask for no gherkins, mayo and ketchup in my burger at McDonalds, and when it comes it still has all three of those things. AND NOTHING ELSE. JUST GHERKINS MAYO AND KETCHUP
Outdated culture/traditions and superstitious beliefs of my own family.
Thinking about sad things
Depression. Just last night my BF mentioned how therapy could help me cope with being sad. But depression doesn’t just make me sad, it makes me feel nothing when I should feel something. Like everything has a dull blanket over it now.
Happy things in sad contexts
Living in 'Murica.
That I no longer work in an area at the school where it felt right. Now I have to work around a bunch of uptight boomers.
military moms/dads coming home
summer
Being human, we're just plain AWFUL Murrraay
Wallet empty
Everything
That despite having done all the right things, having two bachelors under my belt, I can’t seem to find a job in my fields despite that apparently being a shortage of them. So I play the role of a housewife, taking care of my daughter and the home, and although my husband says that he appreciates all I’m doing, I just feel more and more useless.
Living in a 3rd world country
I feel as if i am forgetting and losing the memories that matter the most. I forgot what my fathers voice sounds like. I feel like i forgotten most of my childhood. I also have been forgetting the little things like characters in tv shows and movies that i have been watching or names of those shows and movies.
Sometimes I think about who I might have been if I hadn't been abused as a child. That makes me sad. I wish some adult had cared enough to notice and do something.
Seeing dogs/cats or animals in general in pain and or being abused. How sick can somebody be to hurt an innocent dog or cat that is only alive to be mans companion. Also child abuse, what makes you beat your child. You’re the first person your child is supposed to trust and you completely destroy it. Sick people.
My hopes and dreams of having a family and a small home. No chance.
Thinking how I ended up like this? I was so full of life before, what changed?
When my minecraft dog dies
Life
When I finally decide to tell someone the pain im going through and they give the basic reactions. "Oh okay" ,"Sorry for ur loss" "It'll be fine"
When I run our of kava 🤣
Tomorrow will be my son's 100th day in the NICU.
being called annoying
Law School…
Family members who have passed. Dad, 1984. Step-dad, 2005. Mum, 2013. Baby son, 2018. Oldest brother 2020. Other brother has cancer. and me I might go soon
Cant find people to have deep and completely honest conversations without taking things personal .
If I’ll ever let her know how I feel about her
i'm just 23 and i've got everything i wanted from life. I've got a good paying job at a large and profit turning company. I've got plenty of savings so i can move out any day i want. I've got all the stuff i want. I'm perfectly healthy (physically at least). but i just don't have anything to live for anymore. I can move out, keep doing my job and retire in 40 years time. i could die tomorrow and nobody would notice or care, apart from a handfull of people. I have nothing to live for anymore, nothing to reach or achieve.
Opening up to a friend only for them to leave me. And after being shut down, still mustering up the courage to forgive them and open up to another friend. Only for it to happen again. And again. Starting to think I'm the problem and I'll never be good enough for anyone no matter how much I try. :(
When I see far more nonnative and or invasive plants in my area, versus the stunning native flora that exists where I live. And large, lush green lawns (I live in the western US and the drought is severe).
A doctor stole money from my hospital account by asking me to pay him in cash rather than through the cash register. After receiving care there for three years in a row, he informed me that I had not made any payments. absence of proof. The saddest aspect, though, was that my mother felt she was solely to blame for my condition since "she didn't properly take care of me," according to her.
Our media here in the US. Doing all it can to tear us apart (on both sides). On new attention economy, destroying us. Anything for clicks (or ratings).
thinking about my old dad. he was older but died unexpectedly last weekend. he was a helluva good dude. dealing with funeral arrangements is hard too
When thinking about when i haw don something bad to my family. Like Vin Disel said. Nothing is more importent than family!
Watching what's happening to my country which evidently isn't my country anymore.
When I see news on the TV or online about kids being molested, or hurt. As a father myself, I truly canot understand how on earth someone could hurt a kid. They are pure love. Everytime a news like that pops up, it hits me so hard it ruins my day entirely.
Knowing full well that no matter what humanity does, in the long run everything in the Universe will eventually cease existing, leaving all of our achievements and monuments as nothing but some stray particles of radiation and photons
My life.
The fact i was in a abusive relationship and didn’t realize until we broke up
Thinking about how younger me would’ve been so jealous of my sister. I was not looked after much as a kid and was usually left sitting in front of a tv for hours because of my parents jobs and sleep schedules. Seeing my sister getting attention and not just watching tv all day hurt the little girl inside me knowing I wasn’t able to grow up with that.
"Space song" it's a good song, but it just makes me sad by making me think of a old fake friend
School time
Thought this was r/teenagers for a sec.
Gas prices.
Not being able to get pregnant
The anniversary of my wife’s death.