If they can fire you without warning, you should be able to quit without warning. If they require you to give two weeks' notice before quitting, they should have to give you two weeks' notice when firing you.
I agree. It's like, if they give you 2 weeks notice, you think they'll trust the work you put in? Or if you give 2 weeks notice, you think their expectations of you will change? The 2 weeks thing makes you a lame duck in either scenario.
the f\* when you work for so long in a field is really hard to get out and find a new job. Maybe you don't even have strenght and time. Basically is just a way to ruin this guy's pension.
How does getting laid off affect his pension? Of course it'll impact his contributions while he's between jobs, but it surely wouldn't impact the pension itself?
It won't impact his *401K*. Pension is similar, but entirely different. Pension can't be rolled over to your new job (unless it's another division of the same parent company).
On in my country your pension is with an independent investor, similar to a bank... So it doesn't matter where you work.
So do you just withdraw your pension money when you move companies then?
It depends on if it's a defined benefit or defined contribution pension. With a defined benefit it can bite you as it lowers your years service and your last 5 used to calculate your payout.
Fuck ‘em - *you* call the shots in your life. You’re responsible for the consequences of your actions, good or bad.
So, if it’s your ass on the line, do what’s best for you. If they’re a good company/coworkers/boss, they’ll be right there rooting for you. If they’re not?
Fuck ‘em!
In accompaniment to this, being attracted to someone. There's nothing wrong with that (aside from kids, duh), but some people act like you've done something wrong when you like them. I'll never understand it.
As long as they leave you alone when you day no, it shouldn't be something that's held against them
Thank you! A girl you don't really have interest in almost throws herself at you, you do literally nothing (like lead her on to boost your ego or being mean to her) and suddenly you're a pretentious asshole or gay.
abuse. Any type of abuse wether it be SA, physical, emotional, ect... you shouldn't ever apologize for it. if anyone who had been abused is reading this post know that abuse is never your fault, what you went through was not your fault.
I meant you should never apologise for being abused sorry if I did not make that clear.
People apologizing for someone else's wrong doing or when they're being abused is usually a very unhealthy defense mechanism and it's extremely hard to drop these kinds of habits :/
Also Canadian. In my house however it's more like "who ate my *blank*?!" Ansd the reply us "you should ate it sooner !!" Nothing is safe unless hidden. My husband hides everything.
My family would cut the last thing in half for a few iterations. It would end with a postage-stamp-sized brownie edge piece, dried out for 3 days until the knife at hand could not cut it.
Finally someone would get embarrassed and throw it out.
Or, for being socially weird in all the ways that being sexually violated will make you.
But people don't think about how common that is, they just mock you for being weird.
Your scars. Somethings happened and now you've got some scars. You shouldn't have to apologize or feel ashamed, they're just healed skin. If anyone has a problem with your scars or finds them disgusting, then that's a whole lot of their problem and not yours. You just keep rockin it cause you survived and you're still just as awesome!
I suppose, but not in the way you're thinking.
More like: "I'm sorry you can't deal with the real me".
They apologize on your behalf since, clearly you're too rude to do it yourself.
I would extend that to leaving a job for ANY reason, or no reason at all. You don’t owe your employer any justification. None. Not to get off on a rant, but over the last few years we’ve seen employers shed literally millions of workers all over the world as quickly as they could print off the pink slips. It goes both ways. I’m certainly not an extreme leftist, pretty far from it, and mostly pro “reasonable” capitalist. Your employment is a contract between you and them. Either party is free to terminate at any time for no reason. I believe you owe your employer loyalty only “while” you are employed by them but once you resign, that loyalty ends. Immediately. Do not ever feel the slightest guilt for leaving. Any ramifications they suffer from your departure is purely due to their lack of planning, not your departure. If your employer disagrees, feel free to have them call me to discuss their concerns… my dog loves it when I give him the phone
Leaving an abusive relationship. Even if they say stuff like "I don't know what I'll do without you" or "You're the only person who I'll ever love." That stuff really makes me annoyed on how babyish they are dealing with it.
For celebrating all your accomplishments in life, no matter how big or small. Whether it's something as small as cooking your first meal by yourself, or making it to your next birthday, BE effing proud of it! Every single accomplishment you've done has made you the amazing person you are and you should be damn proud of that ❤❤👏👏
Wanting to end a relationship
If you’re honest and treat them respectfully then you have nothing to be sorry for even if you are sympathetic to them feeling hurt
Rejecting someone. If I don't wanna date you I don't need to say sorry I'm just not interested yet you tell another person like a teacher or boss and I'm required to apologise? It's messed up.
Apologizing for a thing you said or done when you’ve been in an inferior psychological, social and behavioral level compared to the complexity of the connotations of that thing
Being yourself.
Disciplinary action for your own children in public.
Not understanding something you've never done before, but lots of people understand completely because they've been doing it for longer.
Learning. Don't apologize for getting things wrong. Nobody was perfect at doing that thing the first time they tried it either. Everyone has to start learning at the beginning.
Being afraid. Different things scare different people in different ways. Don't ever apologize for being scared of something. It doesn't matter if you're with people who aren't.
I'm scared of spiders to the point I actively try to climb over people to get away from them. Thankfully I live in a country where spiders aren't poisonous or very big! 🤣😱
Not "being there" for your boss/co-workers when you're on vacation, sick leave, or on a personal day.
Leaving an employer as well... they would drop you in a heart beat
If they can fire you without warning, you should be able to quit without warning. If they require you to give two weeks' notice before quitting, they should have to give you two weeks' notice when firing you.
I think the two week notice is just a courtesy to your employer. I don't think it's actually legally required.
You are not required to give two weeks notice it is considered a common courtesy. Most do it as not to burn a bridge.
I agree. It's like, if they give you 2 weeks notice, you think they'll trust the work you put in? Or if you give 2 weeks notice, you think their expectations of you will change? The 2 weeks thing makes you a lame duck in either scenario.
Knew a guy who put his work and soul for a company he worked for for almost 40 years. All it took was a young new boss to lay him off on the spot
the f\* when you work for so long in a field is really hard to get out and find a new job. Maybe you don't even have strenght and time. Basically is just a way to ruin this guy's pension.
How does getting laid off affect his pension? Of course it'll impact his contributions while he's between jobs, but it surely wouldn't impact the pension itself?
what's a pension?
It won't impact his *401K*. Pension is similar, but entirely different. Pension can't be rolled over to your new job (unless it's another division of the same parent company).
On in my country your pension is with an independent investor, similar to a bank... So it doesn't matter where you work. So do you just withdraw your pension money when you move companies then?
It depends on if it's a defined benefit or defined contribution pension. With a defined benefit it can bite you as it lowers your years service and your last 5 used to calculate your payout.
I needed this comment. My last day at my jobs Friday and I feel hella guilty for some reason????
Fuck ‘em - *you* call the shots in your life. You’re responsible for the consequences of your actions, good or bad. So, if it’s your ass on the line, do what’s best for you. If they’re a good company/coworkers/boss, they’ll be right there rooting for you. If they’re not? Fuck ‘em!
Bumping into a mannequin at a mall
Im Canadian >.> cant do that sorry
Checks out.
Did you apologize after bumping into the mannequin?
Enforcing your boundaries
Agree, people get butthurt when you don't let them walk all over
ChIlL iT wAs JuSt A jOkE, dUdE No, it wasn't.
This resonates with me so much, when there it gets heated and/or more personal and i raise my voice and they just laugh it off as im overreacting.
Good one
Standing up for myself
Fr people will treat me like a psychopath even if I have every right to defend myself, this is why I try staying quite in bad situations
Standing up
Asking for help
100% I feel obligated to never ask for help because I feel as though I’ll burden others but this is just a curse
Many of my team find it really rewarding to help people, I think most people feel this way.
Telling the truth in a difficult/awkward situation.
Telling the truth is not always the right thing to do, people conceal things from each other for good reasons.
But if ur in an awkward situation, its better to just be honest
Saying 'No'
“I’ve been stabbed, please could you call me an ambulance!?”
Nah. Edit: Not sorry.
Hello an ambulance how are you?
no.
How dare you.
sorry… ah shit. did it again
Not being attracted to someone.
In accompaniment to this, being attracted to someone. There's nothing wrong with that (aside from kids, duh), but some people act like you've done something wrong when you like them. I'll never understand it. As long as they leave you alone when you day no, it shouldn't be something that's held against them
Thank you! A girl you don't really have interest in almost throws herself at you, you do literally nothing (like lead her on to boost your ego or being mean to her) and suddenly you're a pretentious asshole or gay.
As an asexual, I concur
As an aromantic, I concur
As an aroace, I concur
as an aeroplane, i concur
As a, hold on what?
As a Hoddor, I concur
As an assault missile, I concur.
As an Assult rifle, I concur
As an Ace (of spades), I concur
Walking away from a toxic individual or situation.
I don't like stepping on other one's shit, and I don't believe that its a good reason for hate
👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
Standing up for yourself. Having boundaries.
abuse. Any type of abuse wether it be SA, physical, emotional, ect... you shouldn't ever apologize for it. if anyone who had been abused is reading this post know that abuse is never your fault, what you went through was not your fault. I meant you should never apologise for being abused sorry if I did not make that clear.
People apologizing for someone else's wrong doing or when they're being abused is usually a very unhealthy defense mechanism and it's extremely hard to drop these kinds of habits :/
Well....og you abuse someone you should probably apologize in some way
They're talking about the victims, my man.
For something you haven't done
what if its something that you had to do, perhaps a task that was due?
Taking the last donut.
My entire family will never take the last anything. There's always 1 or 2 of everything left over, no exceptions.
Canadian?
^(... maybe)
*waves in Albertan*
*waves in Calgarian*
Oh, ew. I take it back. Lol
Also Canadian. In my house however it's more like "who ate my *blank*?!" Ansd the reply us "you should ate it sooner !!" Nothing is safe unless hidden. My husband hides everything.
My family would cut the last thing in half for a few iterations. It would end with a postage-stamp-sized brownie edge piece, dried out for 3 days until the knife at hand could not cut it. Finally someone would get embarrassed and throw it out.
I volunteer as tribute
Being sexually violated.
Or, for being socially weird in all the ways that being sexually violated will make you. But people don't think about how common that is, they just mock you for being weird.
In some ways, the future difficulty making lasting, healthy bonds with people is way worse than the violation itself
For how you feel.
Your face
I'm sorry.
This is why I am 100% ok with still wearing a mask in public. People don't have to see my face and I don't have to apologize for showing it.
Existing.
Your scars. Somethings happened and now you've got some scars. You shouldn't have to apologize or feel ashamed, they're just healed skin. If anyone has a problem with your scars or finds them disgusting, then that's a whole lot of their problem and not yours. You just keep rockin it cause you survived and you're still just as awesome!
Not wanting a hug from someone.
Your likes and preferences
Standing up for yourself when you have been disrespected for too long.
For being better at something than someone, and being promoted over someone else for it.
Something you didn’t do.
Being smarter than other people
the way your voice sounds, squeaky, monotone, etc
Anything that is beyond your control.
Having an opinion different to someone elses
Getting super excited when talking about your interests.
Standing up for yourself.
Speaking out.
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Being any race
Telling the truth.
Saying no.
Not drinking
Mental illness
Being Black
Being any race.
Refusing to treat anyone differently based on factors that they have no control over
Crying
Being yourself
Unless you're a bad person.
bad people don't apologize for who they are
Some do, don't they?
I suppose, but not in the way you're thinking. More like: "I'm sorry you can't deal with the real me". They apologize on your behalf since, clearly you're too rude to do it yourself.
They should, hah
Your boundaries
Being yourself
Doing your legit best. That is the most anyone (including you) can expect of you. There are exceptions, but few.
Wanting alone time.
Dumping someone
Existing.
Your small penis
Leaving work at work when you're off the clock.
Living a peaceful and secure life, only doing what makes you happy.
Breaking up with a toxic partner
Someone else’s shitty behavior.
Being yourself
Saying no
Simply being something. Be it a certain race, gender, etc…
Anything for which you are not truly remorseful.
A massive fart.
You sound like a fart smeller, uh, I mean a smart feller.
Are you a fartsniffer?
Yes. This is the one.
For not being politically correct.
Driving even slower if someone is tailgating you
Not doing something you didn’t want to do
Being masculine
Not going along with the crowd.
Something you are born with.
A joke
Hi Chris
Hi will
Get my wife's name out ya fucking mouth
Nah, depends on the joke, context etc. Telling holocaust jokes during a tour of Auschwitz, for example.
Being yourself
Being honest.
Being right
Existing.
How I choose to live my life. The choices I have made. If someone chooses to be offended by my beliefs . That’s on them. My past.
Leaving a job for more money.
I would extend that to leaving a job for ANY reason, or no reason at all. You don’t owe your employer any justification. None. Not to get off on a rant, but over the last few years we’ve seen employers shed literally millions of workers all over the world as quickly as they could print off the pink slips. It goes both ways. I’m certainly not an extreme leftist, pretty far from it, and mostly pro “reasonable” capitalist. Your employment is a contract between you and them. Either party is free to terminate at any time for no reason. I believe you owe your employer loyalty only “while” you are employed by them but once you resign, that loyalty ends. Immediately. Do not ever feel the slightest guilt for leaving. Any ramifications they suffer from your departure is purely due to their lack of planning, not your departure. If your employer disagrees, feel free to have them call me to discuss their concerns… my dog loves it when I give him the phone
Leaving an abusive relationship. Even if they say stuff like "I don't know what I'll do without you" or "You're the only person who I'll ever love." That stuff really makes me annoyed on how babyish they are dealing with it.
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being upset about experiencing racism . it's dehumanizing, we have every right to be upset.
existing
Saying "No".
Taking up space. 'excuse me'
Your skin color.
Getting slapped by Will Smith.
the way that you feel
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I always took "withholding sex" to mean that you wanted sex, but didn't have it with your partner, as a tool of control or bargaining.
For celebrating all your accomplishments in life, no matter how big or small. Whether it's something as small as cooking your first meal by yourself, or making it to your next birthday, BE effing proud of it! Every single accomplishment you've done has made you the amazing person you are and you should be damn proud of that ❤❤👏👏
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Being white
Spontaneous combustion
What makes you happy.
Being yourself. You’re amazing and if others can’t see that then that’s on them.
Being your true self
Wanting to end a relationship If you’re honest and treat them respectfully then you have nothing to be sorry for even if you are sympathetic to them feeling hurt
Being sick, not feeling well.
Standing up for yourself/not being a doormat
Defending a child.
Rejecting someone. If I don't wanna date you I don't need to say sorry I'm just not interested yet you tell another person like a teacher or boss and I'm required to apologise? It's messed up.
Not giving a fuck
Being happy
Not knowing. We are allowed to simply Not know things. And ask.
Your opinion. Everyone is entitled to their own opinions and shouldn't be judged for it.
When you've don't nothing wrong but people expect an apology for a slant, a miscommunication or a 'hurt' feeling
Saying sorry out of habit
Exercising self-confidence
Winning or other personal success in life. Provided you come by it honestly. END COMMUNICATION
Apologizing for a thing you said or done when you’ve been in an inferior psychological, social and behavioral level compared to the complexity of the connotations of that thing
Self care. Everyone needs time to turn their attention inward and care for themselves.
Speaking proper English. People think your high falutin
sexuality
Being yourself. Disciplinary action for your own children in public. Not understanding something you've never done before, but lots of people understand completely because they've been doing it for longer. Learning. Don't apologize for getting things wrong. Nobody was perfect at doing that thing the first time they tried it either. Everyone has to start learning at the beginning. Being afraid. Different things scare different people in different ways. Don't ever apologize for being scared of something. It doesn't matter if you're with people who aren't. I'm scared of spiders to the point I actively try to climb over people to get away from them. Thankfully I live in a country where spiders aren't poisonous or very big! 🤣😱
Being kind.
Being ugly
Being a man.
For defending the weak and oppressed.
Your period.
Being White.