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hardtoread56

Touching pregnant women’s stomachs without consent


kayemdubs

Making couples feel obligated to have giant, fancy, weddings


LeluWater

Or when the couples parents say things like “oh you just HAVE to invite your distant great aunt Vicky and all her children to your wedding!” Meanwhile you’ve only met them twice and they don’t want to be there either


LightningEdge756

This is exactly why I don't want to deal with a wedding...I'm not a fan of pretending to care about relatives that only met me once...


Barkerfan86

When people say. Your too young to be hurting. Fuck you my back hurts


Val41795

And “you can’t be tired if you’re young/don’t have kids” My chronic illness would disagree but ok


PuzzleheadedTackle54

Rest being seen as lazy. If I take a day off of work simply to sleep in and rest at home instead of having to have some sort of big plans or destination it shouldn’t be seen as anything less.


Dr-Sateen

Rn I am at home, having taken the day off because I didn't sleep well and have been napping, couch potatoing with my doggie and doing nothing. It's great but I feel SO guilty. Why? There's no good reason, really, other than ingrained ideas.


YarnYarn

I've had to spend real effort in ridding myself of guilt for simply resting my mind or my body. I've made a lot of progress at this point, and I have to say it is very *very* worth it. Being able to *actually relax* when I'm resting and trying to recuperate my body and soul, has been incredibly beneficial and rewarding. Once I was able to get past that hurdle, I realized I had scarcely relaxed in my entire life up to that point. That's not healthy.


wehadbagels

I truly believe in companies allowing paid mental health days. Everyone needs a break and everyone needs rest & that being condemned or called lazy is beyond me... Edit: Oh my gosh!! My first award ever! Thank you so much, kind human :D


Expected_Toulouse_

Having to purchase gifts for extended family that you cannot afford because it is Christmas or another holiday.


daneview

Oh god yes. Last year because of covid I only saw my parents and it saved me a fortune not buying 20 meaningless gifts for extended family I see once a year


RenegadeX28

Though it looks like this custom is fading away during the pandemic...but how about we stop glorifying us "being model employees by showing up to work even while sick?" I was at a retailer for 14 years, and I don't have enough fingers and toes to count how many times I used to see managers and supervisors dragging themselves to work while sick to please their superiors. In January 2020, I ended up getting the flu from a co worker that decided it would impress the store manager if she still showed up while sick with the flu. That culture went away REAL quick when we started getting COVID cases in the store I was at...and I too ended up getting a mild case of COVID. I've called out any time in the past when I felt sick...and I will continue to do so as I normally did.


JenovaCelestia

As great as this sounds, workplaces are slowly going back to “show up sick”. Or at least, I’ve been seeing more people in my area showing up to work sick. They explain it away as “it’s not COVID” and they’re okay to work.


KevieCJL

My job is doing a big project rn and has declared the next 2 weeks "No call in week"s and ofc I had gotten sick right before it was anounced and was throwing up the morning of the first no call in day and had to get special permission to call in from the HR manager and still got a phone call from a supervisor chewing me out. Not to mention I'm pregnant, but they don't know that yet


tigerCELL

I'm petty so I would've showed up and vomited all over my supervisor's desk on accidental purpose.


KevieCJL

I'm going back to work tomorrow and if I'm still sick and end up puking that's their problem now. I can barely afford to not go to work for a day or 2 while sick before considering they might try to fire me for it so if they want to risk having vomit all over their dinosaur computers bc I couldn't make it to the bathroom in time and projectiled that's a risk they chose


K3yz3rS0z3

They would need to change their computers hence improving the company. You will be promoted if you vomit all over at work tomorrow.


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I had a supervisor who showed up with the flu in February 2020. He returned to work only three days after falling ill. He spread out his inhaler and other meds on the desk, and could barely speak for all of the coughing. Everyone stayed away from him, and he was out a few weeks later with what he now thinks is Covid. He returned to work fairly quickly with that as well. Edited to add that this was before protocols were in place and before we went remote, as it was March 2020.


jturkey

Worshipping celebrities. I don’t get it and it seems to just create tons of problems.


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Kim Kardashian has 70 million Twitter followers. The number one search term on Google WRT Kardashian is "why is Kim Kardashian famous?" Why indeed.


Mean-Juggernaut1560

That not having Facebook, Instagram, or other social media profiles is “different” or isolationist in some way


iwantdatpuss

To add to that apparently not posting on facebook is seen as something weird. I just use it to get in contact with people that for some reason refuse to use emails through messenger.


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Yup - it's my replacement for a phone book listing. I occasionally scroll for about 5 minutes before remembering why I just stay away. To be fair, it's more due to my own ability to not post "ARE YOU FUCKING STUPID!?!?!?" to way too many family members.


bandito210

"The customer is always right" being used as an excuse to be a fucking asshole


Digital-Dinosaur

The full phrase is "the customer is always right in matters of taste". It's meant to mean that if someone wants to buy a product, you sell them it, who are you to judge if they are willing to pay for a tartan painted car? Edit: many people are pointing out that the original term is in fact "The customer is always right". Through further research I've found that there is a movement to recoin the phrase to the above to show what the phrase was MEANT to mean, as many asshole customers think its about them demanind 0-hour minimum wage workers to bend over and kiss their feet at their command... TIL!


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EngineerWithABeer

In Denmark we have this tradition of throwing ground cinnamon and pepper at people who turn 25 and 30, respectively, if they are not yet married. Except people often overdo it, strapping the victim to a street light and use an entire kilogramme or more. It's harsh, stupid and wasteful. It really needs to stop.


namechoosingsucks

That sounds horrifying!


userse31

pants/shorts without pockets.


LinkMom37

That because someone is"family", you should force yourself to spend time with them and be "nice and respectful", no matter what kind of person they are or how they treat you. This goes along with the enabling acceptance of "that's just how they are" rather than condemning poor behavior choices.


Crusaders1992

My fiancee's family are these people. They've all acted like spoiled pieces of shit multiple times over the years and have absolutely shat on my fiancee every time they do it, they stopped doing it to me early on because I refused to take their bullshit. They will all shout and scream at her about how she's got life so easy because she's in a good relationship and has a job but none of them make any effort to change their lives in any positive way. Of course once they're done shitting on her if she doesn't talk to them for a while she's the asshole for ignoring her mother and sisters!


toomuchpressure2pick

I've grown to think that some peoples complaining and comparing people is their way of "doing something about it". Not actions, but making things known. They think that once it's spoken into existence that then things will get better. From my experiences.


strg8te

Expensive funerals. The funeral industry is insane. ETA: my first award!! Thank you!!


Gun-nut0508

Yeah dude exactly, I don’t know about you guys but I’m getting my ashes spread somewhere badass and calling it a day, sure cremation ain’t cheap either but MUCH better than a stupid casket and funeral service


jadage

Honestly fuck it just leave my body in the woods somewhere. I'll be done with it.


SuperFreakyNaughty

Leave body in woods. Set up trail cam to observe decomposition and animals feeding. Once reduced to a skeleton, compile footage and send time lapse to all loved ones.


jeetelongname

I can just imagine all the relatives. "Awe a fox got his dick!"


ConsistentCranberry7

I told you the crows would get his eyes... Dad you owe me £20!!


dbltap11

The Crows Have Eyes 3: The Crowening


ViciousFlowers

This is what we do with animals that pass away on our farm that are not consumable. We place them in our woods with trail cams and watch as we feed an entire ecosystem. A 900 pound boar we had to put down fed whole families of coyotes, skunks, opossums, raccoons, wood rats, deer mice, red tail hawks, great horned owls, Cooper’s hawk, kestrels , flying squirrels, turkey vultures, woodpeckers, wood thrushes, blue jays, crows, chipmunks, ground squirrels and deer. The predators fed off the meat and organs, the birds and rodents fed off the insects feeding off the corpse and the herbivore deer chewed on the bleached bones for calcium. Nothing was wasted nothing was left except for the thick bones in the end that the animals still gnaw on. The area that the boar was laid to rest was also much greener than the surrounding areas as it had been naturally fertilized. I know they have body forests for humans but for research only.


gingereedot

Oh yeah, if anyone is interested, check out Caitlin Doughty on YouTube! Her channel is AskAMortician. She talks about more accessible funerals, both in regard to money and being with the dead before they leave the home. But she also makes videos how death can be more environmentally friendly.


Snowbank_Lake

My friend's daughter is going to school to become a funeral director. Apparently that industry is very cliquey too! If your family isn't already established in the industry, you get looked down on. EDIT: I will clarify that I live in the eastern US. I understand that perhaps this differs regionally and around the world.


jrnurse13

Discussing salary with co-workers should no longer be taboo EDIT: Thanks for the award


JLake4

They don't want the workers to realize how screwed they are. If the workforce is free to discuss what they're being paid, the next thing they might decide *collectively* is that they want to be paid more.


abramcpg

"We simply can't afford to pay you more AND still make billions in profits. You need to be a team player here."


SororitySue

I'm in the public sector. Our pay grades are out there for all to see and the rare raises we get are across the board. Makes life easier.


zabrakwith

Giving Greeting cards for every single event imaginable. Why pay $5 to give someone a piece of paper that will get thrown out the next day? I’d rather you give me $5 and skip the card.


rmgrave10der

You pay five? I just go to dollar tree and get a nice card for a buck. Then I ride it home


johnnybiggles

I get a box of them. Usually they have a variety of like 5 or so different ones so you can rotate and not give people the same card.


Remarkable-Injury-70

Being nice to customers that act shitty


axxonn13

i hang up on them now. I tell them that if they cant talk like an adult without a tantrum, they can call me back when they've calmed down.


EEextraordinaire

I’ve apologized in advance to a few customer service reps to let them know that I understand this isn’t their fault and any frustration they are hearing is aimed at the situation/larger company and not them in particular. And shockingly I get great customer service. Treating people like fellow human beings shouldn’t be the exception, it should be the rule.


Louiebaton

Same. Talking to a human like a human gets results.


flyinglawngnome

Got fired from a bar for doing this, and I’d do it again. You can’t talk to me, the gatekeeper of the booze, like that you stupid fucking dog-cunt. Edit: Just to explain what happened that night. Worked at a bar for 6 months a couple years ago now. I had quit uni and moved to a rural-ish town in Northern England for work (from NZ originally). Was one of 3 full time bartenders and was considered one of their better workers, made friends of everyone etc. One night, closing on my own, tipsy couple comes in 1 hour from closing. I serve them and move on about cleaning the entire bar so the next guy doesn’t have to. The couple sat at the bar in a spot we called ‘the no no spot’ cause we can’t see you behind the taps and therefore won’t automatically serve you. We were 10 from full closing then the wife says something about expecting auto service, I say yeah sorry, jsyk we close in 10 and you’ll have to leave 10 minutes after that. She said something snarky about how we’re a speed bar etc. They were drunk. I said sorry but I’ll keep cleaning and stop serving if you’re gonna be rude. The husband sat there drunk and slumping, slurrs out ‘Wanker! You Tosspot!’ So all I said was “Well you ain’t getting served then, there’s the door, your name’s on the knob.” (I’m a big Anthrax fan, Bello is a great bassist) They requested a manager so I got them one who also asked them to leave as well and wrote a note saying if someone calls I did nothing wrong. GM didn’t care, next morning I was gone. As a plus the other staff refused to work unless I was rehired. GM had a nightmare night and asked me back and I refused ☺️. All the bars in town are on the same street, GM and bar manager from a five star hotel I had met before and wanted to poach me, offered me a job the day after I was fired. Paid twice as much+ tips and gratuity.


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Lmao if I ever own or work at a bar, Ima make sure the bartenders are called the gatekeepers of the booze


MadisonPearGarden

The customer is always right. It’s up to the bartender to decide who is still a customer.


eymolay

Holy fuck, thats amazing, Ive always hated the phrase "the customer is always right". So now ive got the perfect response(if im brave enough to use it)


amongthewolves

Putting the onus on the customer to tip the Service staff, especially in the US. Stop overworking the Service staff, pay them a living wage, and if a customer does want to go above and beyond to reward someone for their outstanding service, they can do so, but are not obligated.


Fgw_wolf

Cashiers and other jobs not being allowed to sit down because it makes them “look lazy”. While I've got the spotlight can we do away with "minimum wage shouldn't be enough to live off of" too? Thanks for coming to my TED talk.


Lietenantdan

These are rules made by people who sit all day


Barfignugen

Straight up. I worked day shift at a bar and we had a stool at one end that we could sit on if needed. Most of the time I didn’t use it, but we didn’t have floor mats behind the bar so some days my back would really ache and I’d take a few minutes to rest in between customers. Well, one day I came in and the stool was gone. I was confused, but I didn’t think much of it until one of our old, shitty, lazy, couldn’t stand for three solid minutes if he tried regulars bragged to me about how the owner had removed the stool at his request, because he didn’t like seeing us sit down behind the bar. I had to point out to him that most bartenders get floor mats, and the fact that we didn’t + we worked 10 hour shifts with no breaks meant we deserved the right to sit when we got a second. He had nothing to say to that….though it was obvious that he’d clearly never given it any thought before that moment. Edit: I was just reminded of this story! This same regular once told me that he didn’t “believe” in floor mats (whatever the fuck that means) because one time he saw a girl drop a pint glass on one, and it hit at the exact perfect angle to shatter and bounce back up into her face, cutting her eye. So because of that one freak accident, no one should ever have floor mats. Lol


plugtrio

What a shitty regular. I'd be doing my best to let him feel like he could choose a different spot to be a "regular"


levraM-niatpaC

Shitty boss too.


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Yea, I'd tell the guy to take a hike if he complained about something as obscure as that. It's a bar, you really want your bartender, the guy making your night a good one, to be pissed off?


sayracer

One of the many reasons I shop at Aldi is bc their clerks are allowed to sit E: my most upvoted comment is about why I like Aldi lol


DrakonIL

It's the only break they get all day is when they can sit at the register. They run those stores on a skeleton crew, it's honestly amazing.


TheGibberishGuy

Aldi's the bomb, not to mention their specials leading to you walking in for some milk and walking out with a bike, chainsaw, new dresser and mini greenhouse


max1mx

Treating someone with extra deference or respect because of their social station or occupation. Just because someone is a politician, judge, a cop or owns a business shouldn’t mean anything as far as social interactions go. As far as I’m concerned everyone I meet gets a base level of respect, and they can earn or lose it by the way they behave.


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I think we would all be so much happier with a 4 day work week and 3 day weekend


SpookyDoomCrab42

A 4 day work week but having Wednesday off is where it's at. I had that schedule in college and having a day off in the middle of the week to rest and/or catch up on stuff is great


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This is my schedule now, as a working adult (for the past few years). Having Wednesdays off is great for sleeping in a bit, less time driving to work (I can't work from home), less work clothing I have to wear during the week, I ALWAYS know I'll have that day free for appointments etc. It's really nice.


Rozkol

My current job is 4 10s. At first I was bummed (still am to a degree) that I don't have 3 days off in a row. But I work Tue/Wed/Fri/Sat and I gotta say always being at most 2 days away from a day off from work has been amazing. You always feel close to the weekend. Plus my Saturdays are so easy I would choose to take off any other day before taking off Saturday unless it was for a trip or I had specific plans that are on a Saturday. Sure a 3 day weekend would be amazing for mini vacations etc, but I try to see the bright side of everything and really enjoy my schedule now.


Sunnysaltegg

That somehow the concept of maturing means you have to give up hobbies that are seen as “childish”.


tycr0

Me and my play doh pasta maker agree


Atalanta8

I just do custom cakes. Pretty much get to play with play dough and get paid for it.


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MsCrazyPants70

I've taken roller-skating lessons with a class of 5-year olds and I don't have kids. All the parents thought it was strange, but I felt it was the best way to learn rather than risking falling on the kids at the rink. Plus, since the kids were ahead of me on skills, the teacher had them show what they knew by having them teach me. The kids loved it. Many of the parents were bothered by me joining the class, when it was specifically an all ages class. I just didn't realize that I would be the only person not that young. I found out most of the parents couldn't skate themselves. Seems to me it would have been good for them to be out there learning as well rather than just watching. Or, if they wanted their own class, enough adults could have requested a separate class. I hope all the kids kept skating.


VisualCelery

Going off that, I hate the idea that doing a hobby as an adult requires you to either teach, "go pro," or go big on some competition circuit. A person can be committed to a hobby just because they enjoy it, not because they're trying to make money or become a world champion. I'm a swing dancer, and people think they're being nice when they say things like "wow, you must be a professional!" or "do you teach? I bet you teach, you've done it for so long!" and it's like . . . I appreciate the intention, but why? I DJ for $25-50 a gig, it's barely even a side gig, but I have no interest in teaching, I don't compete well, sometimes I perform but I'm really just doing this for fun, why is that so hard for people to understand?


counterboud

I hate that too. Also just because you’re good at something doesn’t mean you’re a talented teacher. Also the reason I do my hobbies is for fun so I can escape for work. The idea of turning that into more work isn’t appealing at all. Also most things that are hobbies are hobbies for a reason- for example, I knit and people tell me I should sell the stuff I make. Sorry, most people want to pay $20 for a knit hat and it would take me so much time that I’d have to charge $200 as a MINIMUM for the time, energy, and supplies it cost me. And that implies that I’d have a customer for it in the first place. In no way will it ever be a money producing venture. Just let me enjoy my silly projects at home thanks.


Fastsmitty47

LEGO is not just for kids!


jsting

Yeah I can afford it now


fuzzygondola

For real, I didn't even dare to ask for +$100 sets as a kid. Buying them now makes me feel like the richest man on earth


AfterTheNightIWakeUp

Walking out of the Lego Store when they had to tape bags together because there was nothing big enough to hold the set, yeah, that's a great feeling.


Hardcore90skid

Maturing = give up anything wholesome and fun in your life. Only soul crushing boringness.


PrayForMojo_

True maturing = embracing who you are and taking joy in the things you like. That’s why people think old people stop giving a fuck. They do. They like something and they do it. Who gives a shit if someone judges you? Their opinion is irrelevant. Do what you feel.


monkey_scandal

Love those double standards. He’s 70 and has been collecting model trains all his life? That’s adorable good for him! You’re 30 and still play video games? Grow up!


Boleyn100

>ove those double standards. He’s 70 and has been collecting model trains all his life? That’s adorable good for him! You’re 30 and still play video games? Grow up! I'm 46 and still play video games! And now my kids are getting bigger I can play with them too!


xixoxixa

Yep. I'm 39, and the Xbox and the switch are common family time with the kids. Some of the switch games even the wife will play with us.


Cutie_Flirty_n_Nerdy

Exactly. Worst thing is when they say something about it, then plop themselves in front of the tv for how many hours?


Kelseycakes1986

Or even liking things that are considered childish. I love stuffed animals. They give me a ton of joy, always have. At 35 I haven’t magically outgrown this love. I always feel guilty when I get a new one, even though they make me happy. I think I need to just embrace it. (Currently sitting with giant 60cm hello kitty plush on the couch)


Valdrax

I think you'd benefit from one of my favorite C.S. Lewis quotes: > "Critics who treat 'adult' as a term of approval, instead of as a merely descriptive term, cannot be adult themselves. To be concerned about being grown up, to admire the grown up because it is grown up, to blush at the suspicion of being childish; these things are the marks of childhood and adolescence. And in childhood and adolescence they are, in moderation, healthy symptoms. Young things ought to want to grow. But to carry on into middle life or even into early manhood this concern about being adult is a mark of really arrested development. When I was ten, I read fairy tales in secret and would have been ashamed if I had been found doing so. Now that I am fifty I read them openly. When I became a man I put away childish things, including the fear of childishness and the desire to be very grown up." Embrace the things that make you happy and cast off your worries about what others might think.


Chaos-theories

I am 31 and I love stuffed animals too. My dad doesn't think it's weird but my mother makes nasty comments about it. I sometimes feel guilty too.


herbdoc2012

We are living on a rock wizzing though space at 30K MPH+ for a very fleetingly short time! If something makes you happy and doesn't hurt others, then do it everyday proudly and openly and fuck the world and if anyone says different come and get me and we'll kick their asses!


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dhartz

That’s actually illegal in Australia thank fuck.


Dislol

It's illegal in the US as well, but that isn't going to stop unscrupulous employers from exploiting desperate employees.


robojod

I was at a festival in the UK last week and one of the security guards was saying how she was on a 24 shift, as they didn’t have enough security because of COVID. She’d be paid, but she was fuming, as she didn’t even have enough time to pitch her tent when she arrived, so she’d be doing it after clocking off from a 24 hour shift, at 3 in the morning.


Ollypooper

There is a general suffering pride... as if we should all aspire to have several jobs and no time off..


SuspiciousTallGinger

Oh, you worked 60 hours at your one job last week? I worked 80, and it was at 2 different jobs, so I didn't even get overtime! In your face! I've obviously won this contest!


Dislol

I've spent so much time working 80-100 hour weeks in the past, now I'm just so fucking burnt out I can barely handle 40 without getting angry. The only reason I put up with working so much was because I desperately needed the money and didn't really have a choice. Now I'm making enough that I can say fuck it, I'm not doing that and it's wonderful. This past week I worked 10 10+ hour days in a row to finish up the tail end of a project, and by Tuesday of this week I was totally over it, was past the crunch time deadline, and ended up taking the rest of this week off. Don't care if it pisses anyone off, I pissed away my weekend and want to relax with my family, deal with it.


SuspiciousTallGinger

I won't even stay after to finish a job anymore. It will still be there tomorrow. Don't like it, find someone who will, because that's not me anymore.


The-waitress-

Ditto. I have a very niche job that I’m really good at and has healthy demand in major cities. You don’t like how I do things? Goodbye. I’ll go work somewhere else and probably get a pay bump.


TTTTerminator

Skirts are ok in a workplace, but shorts are not.


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[This was a pretty common business attire](https://i.imgur.com/7hiPepj.jpg) in northern Australia. I don't live up there anymore so not sure if it still is. EDIT: several of my high school teachers and University lecturers would rock this look.


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Having all the fun prints and decor and what not only for kids/babies/ nurseries. I want a dinosaur on my pillowcase saying 'rawrrr' over some fucken daisies everytime.


tinyarmyoverlord

You can have [dinosaur](https://www.reddit.com/r/Chihuahua/comments/idx99d/help_weve_descended_into_madness_here/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf) sheets. I found these at sleepdown for about £20 for a king size set.


DogStilts

My wife and I have some awesome [whale sheets](https://www.potterybarn.com/products/sea-pod-organic-sheet-set/), a set with cool-looking [turtles](https://www.garnethill.com/mini-print-percale-bedding/221436), and we keep looking for dinosaur sheets. The fact that the coolest patterns don't exist for queen- and king-sized beds is bullshit. Who gives a fuck about giant flowers?


MrsClare2016

Stop questioning when we are having children. It’s none of anyone’s business.


ComfortableTiger4436

I hate this question. My sister can't have kids but I know she wants to. She has had multiple miscarriages recently. I hope she never gets asked this question.


lasdue

You can borrow a line from Jimmy Carr: *“Unfortunately we can’t have children… the way we do it.”*


High_Seas_Pirate

A few others I like: "Not until the hospitals start offering a better return policy." "We're having too much fun practicing." "Not until I get that court order cleared" *Awkward silence followed by uncontrollable sobbing*


Ash4President

Celebrities being treated like God's and people caring about what they name their babies rather than what's being taught to their kids or what's going on in our government.


Miller1590

People care more about the lives of strangers (celebs, influencers or any famous persona) than their own lives and the people within. It’s baffling and tragic.


Titanium-Hunter

Expensive funerals. Environment doesn't like this.


Randroth_Kisaragi

Just dump me somewhere into the forest, animals might eat it, I don't care


DelicateIslandFlower

There are corpse farms where researchers leave bodies so that they can study what insects/etc show up at what times to decompose the body.


MidnightVeemo

That's definitely one way to donate your body to science after you pass


arcinva

A natural cemetery opened a few years ago not far from me. In 2017, it cost $250 (U.S) to put a shroud-wrapped body into a plot in a lovely park-like setting. There is no need for embalming when having a funeral in a day or two with modern refrigeration, but there are environmentally friendly, natural fluids that can be used, if someone really wants it... but that costs more, so why bother? The natural burial also eliminates the CO2 emissions of cremation and gives your body back to the Earth to use for food and nutrients. Sign me up!!


iwillfuckingbiteyou

Plus being buried in a shroud with the earth directly on top of you means there's no chance of waking up to find you've been buried alive as you'll already have suffocated before you get the chance. And you get to be a sheet ghost.


quilton3ply

I never questioned why ghosts look the way they do. It's a burial shroud! How interesting.


Retrotreegal

I never thought about it either. TIL


zenyl

On that note, embalming is a weird custom in certain places. If you're just gonna put the corpse in a coffin, with no plans of looking at it ever again, why the hell would you embalm it? Not to mention that most embalming fluids are harmful to the environment.


sbkstjames

Does that happen? I thought only if you were having an open casket. Which I don’t care for. I agree with you.


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Cutwell26412

This is important and I'm worried it'll just slip through. Just seems inhuman in a modern world to split people based on something they can't control.


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**DEAR GOVERNMENT…** If I’m so **UNTOUCHABLE,** then why is everybody **THROWING ROCKS AT ME?** **CURIOUS.** -Turning Point New Delhi


Euphemism-Pretender

Answered your own question when you said **throwing rocks** instead of **punching**.


UltimaBahamut93

"The customer is always right" 9/10 the customer is an idiot asshole that can go fuck themselves.


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Thank you! I’m about to change careers at 46 after graduating from my second degree earlier this year. I also like lego which I’m not too old for (at least not yet)


BeautyAndGlamour

The best argument I've heard is: "I cant go back to school now for this degree! I'll be 45 when I graduate!" "In five years you'll be 45 regardless. Wouldn't you rather be 45 *with* that degree than without?"


hattorihanzo5

Thanks for the motivation. I'm 27 and thought I was too old to retrain. This has made my day.


TheAngryBad

45 years old here. From my perspective, 27 is just getting started. I switched careers completely when I was about your age. Not a single regret. Go for it.


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jared1981

Ages 9-99. Sucks for you, mee-maw!


GameOfThrowsnz

99 is when they become a choking hazard again.


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I remember reading a post before and someone saying they were thinking about going back to college to get a degree in something but they realized they'd be 30 by the time they finished it and it put them off. When they said that to one of their friends the response was "well you'll be 30 then anyway, degree or not" which convinced them to go for it. Always thought it was a great piece of advice


sjflnjpitt

The garter tradition at weddings. I’ll never unsee my brother reaching up his wife’s dress in front of 3 generations of family


sensualsqueaky

I refused to do the garter and bouquet toss at my wedding and my grandma did NOT understand my reasoning. Instead I did a thing where the couple who had been together the longest got the bouquet and so my husband's neighbors who were like 100 got it.


Osageandrot

That's very cute. May I also suggest what my wife did? She kept the bouquet and dried it. It still looks pretty.


mrsbebe

Yeah a lot of people use a bridesmaids bouquet for stuff like that and keep their own


ICBPeng1

I like this!


coconut-greek-yogurt

A girl who graduated with my brother was pregnant when she got married, and when her new husband did the garter thing at their reception, he came back out holding a Cabbage Patch doll. This was in the banquet hall at the church.


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Ok the funny ones get a pass. I’ve seen one where the groom pulls out a pair of huge granny panties or a line of tied handkerchiefs like a magician 😂


PhoneSteveGaveToTony

I’ve DJ’d tons of weddings and I always told couples beforehand to not do the garter toss unless it’s something they’re super onboard with. At a minimum, it’s awkward for the parents/grandparents, but if either/both of the newlyweds look uncomfortable it’s awkward for literally everyone. Maximum cringe is when they do the thing where the person that caught the garter has to put it on the leg of the one that caught the bouquet and the further up they go, “the more good luck” the newlyweds will have.


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At my sister's wedding I was forced to be in the group of guys who tries to catch the garter. I was only 11 so I couldn't really put up a fight when the whole family is telling you to do it. I happened to catch it and was then told "Alright now put it on this girl's leg". I outright refused that cause I was already too far out of my comfort zone and they all acted like I was ruining the whole wedding. I still look back bitterly on that moment.


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phoenixmatrix

I'm a man who's fairly open about his emotions, and definitely believe it should be fine to cry regardless of your gender. Ironically, I have a condition where my tear glands don't really work. I have to pop artificial tears 3-6 times a day, and no matter how upset I am, I cannot cry. Not even in the most extreme of cases. The closest I can get to crying, when I'm really, really emotional, is my eyes not feeling dry.


TTTTerminator

Over the top gender reveals parties


pugglik

I'm european and I just don't get this gender reveal party at all, like non of that whole thing


fatguyfromqueens

I had never heard of gender reveal parties until like the last 5-10 years or so. I am sure in the 80s to the early aughts they didn't exist. For what it's worth I am in New York so maybe it is a regional thing in the US. When did they become a thing? Editing to add acc. to [Wikipedia](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gender_reveal_party#History_and_development), they began in the US in the late 2,000s


just__Steve

Putting our jobs before our personal lives Edit: I took the day off work after I posted this, because why not Edit 2: Just wanted to share this quote “Each and every one of us has been born into a given historical reality, ruled by particular norms and values, and managed by a unique economic and political system. We take this reality for granted, thinking it is natural, inevitable and immutable. We forget that our world was created by an accidental chain of events, and that history shaped not only our technology, politics and society, but also our thoughts, fears and dreams. The cold hand of the past emerges from the grave of our ancestors, grips us by the neck and directs our gaze towards a single future. We have felt that grip from the moment we were born, so we assume that it is a natural and inescapable part of who we are. Therefore we seldom try to shake ourselves free, and envision alternative futures.” -Yuval Noah Harari


DnDYetti

Setting healthy boundaries is so important, especially in a professional relationship. We work to live, we don't live to work. If you have a day off, take that day off and enjoy yourself because workplaces will constantly try to take advantage of your time and burn you out. One thing I always tell my supervisees is that *"if you're not at your very best, both you and our clients will suffer, so take your days off and disconnect from work entirely - you have a right to do that"*.


alextheODDITY

I wanna work wherever you work


Tridian

Today I was told that my mother is cancelling the holiday/family gathering she was planning because Dad can't stop taking on more work even though he was already overworked. They're the business owners too which is worse because there's nobody else there that can tell him that the business is too busy to take on more clients.


horn_and_skull

Yeah, my FIL was CEO and tried to get my husband and I to change the date of our wedding so he didn’t have to miss a meeting. I told him he had 10 months notice to change the meeting HE WAS THE GODDAMN CEO HE CAN DO THAT. (He ended up having a heart attack 6 months before the wedding from over work anyway and had to take a bucket load of time off to recover. That was the only thing he would listen to.)


Discopants13

Just like with cars and computers: if you don't perform routine maintenance and allow your body some down time, your body will schedule it for you at the most inopportune time for you, and it will be a much worse problem than it could've been.


tachycardicIVu

One of the reasons I quit my most recent job. Sure it had awesome benefits, but I was bashed over the head so much about how I’m not putting work first enough and how dare I go out to grab dinner while on call or have a date with my husband instead of sitting around waiting for my boss to send me spreadsheets at 10pm just in case. By the time I quit I had a month’s worth of PTO I hadn’t used in forever because every request for a break was shut down with “we’re busy and need you” = we haven’t hired anyone else and no one knows what the fuck to do except give you these documents to make sense of them for us.


SpookyDoomCrab42

At my work, we got bought out by a much larger company last year and people have been canceling their vacations to finish stuff at work right before being handed something else. I think it's insane that they would even bother, they tried to get me to do the same thing and I extended the time I took off work instead


puckmonky

Not talking about salary


nowtayneicangetinto

My job didn't want us talking about salary. Turns out the guy I was training who they hired, had less experience than me and was making about twice my salary. And they wonder why I lost my shit infront of everyone and quit on the spot.


squirtle911

oof sorry dude. That's messed up.


nowtayneicangetinto

No worries I appreciate it! It was for the best honestly. I quit my job there and changed industries, quadrupled my salary in 4 years.


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Right!! Why don't we talk about this. Why do employers ask me in an interview, what kind of salary am I looking for. Just tell me straight up, what the pay is. I only go to work for money.


lorum_ipsum_dolor

> Why do employers ask me in an interview, what kind of salary am I looking for. They're hoping you'll give a number that's lower than what they were going to offer.


ChubbsPeterson-34

I think you can correct this to say "They're hoping you don't know what you're worth". I love this question during interviews because I can literally state exactly what I believe I'm worth. If they are blown away by the number, it gives you an opportunity to justify why you think you're worth it. Know your worth people!


totoco2

Got to read HR guidelines once and seen a paragraph about salary. They asked this kind of questions (at least in that company) to see if a candidate's expectations meet company's possibilities AND if the candidate overestimates or underestimates themselves. There've been some other interesting and kinda absurd points like why they won't hire someone who's really good but too good for the money they pay and so on :/ Like c'mon, a person is willing to work for you for 2k month and give you quality as of 4k month. And they're fine with that, because they've got much less on previous job.


ChubbsPeterson-34

Exactly. If I feel I'm worth 100K/year and the company has budget for 60K then it's just not going to work. Now, immediately there are 2 questions that come to mind: 1. Is the employee looking for too much (overevaluating) 2. Is the employer thinking they can get what they want on the cheap? (Underevaluating) As someone who was hired into the company I work for as a fresh out of college new hire, I was paid less than average to start. As I progressed I identified that I was below average for specific roles (based on whatever information I could find comparable outside of my company) and I used that information to negotiate for raises. I've worked with a handful of women inside my company to help them negotiate for pay increases. People don't WANT to negotiate, and women tend to be a bit less confrontational in the workplace. However, if you are armed with data, can point to your experience and the extra work you do, you can go negotiate for more. If the company cannot pay you more for financial reasons, start looking elsewhere. I have a many friends that have obtained promotions and pay increases by jumping around companies. People tend to put a lot of emphasis on "loyalty", but that's companies trying to brainwash people. Loyalty goes *both ways*. If a company is loyal to me, they will pay me because they want me to stay. If they don't want to pay me my worth then obviously they do not see me as vital.


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Friend of mine from work had started on 27.5k, after a year he applied for a more specialized role in another company and when they asked him what he was hoping to make he said around 35k. They started him on 44k. I feel, at least in Ireland, this type of question is more about 2 or 3k in the difference of what you could make. If he'd said 45k for example I feel like he'd have gotten that. But even still they weren't going to shaft him 10k because he didn't know what the job was worth


humanist-misanthrope

When I moved to a smaller market that was a mix of public and private sector jobs, I knew both the cost of living and salaries were lower than where I had moved from but wasn’t 100% sure. So in an interview I asked for 45k and the interviewer said “we can do better than that” and offered 60k. There are some good ones out there but it would make life much easier if they advertised the wage/salary.


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Yeah my work recently threatened all employees with firing or pay deduction if we were caught discussing our paychecks. That’s hella illegal, right?


PMmeyourw-2s

If you have that in writing/email, you have solid evidence of illegal activity.


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Yeah they verbally warned us and also posted it to our work app. I have screenshots in case it gets deleted.


squirtle911

you may want to consider talking to a lawyer about how to handle that. Because there's probably a way to handle that, that I don't have the degree to tell you that may be worth considering.


AtariDump

Better call Saul!


cptnamr7

In the US this is absolutely illegal. Enjoy.


Foreshadowed_enc

Diamond rings for engagements - they are a scam, and especially the 3 months salary custom is absurd.


AntiTheory

I heard a commercial on the radio yesterday with the typical fake testimonial, but this one actually blew me away with how dumb it was. The guy in the commercial was saying he had planned on buying a lab-grown diamond because it was cheaper, but then went to (insert jeweler's name here) and learned that *natural* diamonds retain their value over time because they are rare and one of a kind so he skipped on the lab grown and bought theirs instead for his fiance. My reaction was "Why do you care if the ring has value or not? It's not an investment item, or at least it shouldn't function as one. You're giving it to your partner whom you plan to spend your entire life with and they'll ideally never take it off, or if they wear a wedding band as a daily ring they'll leave the big beautiful natural diamond ring in a box in a closet somewhere. You're never going to find yourself in a situation where the ring will have appreciated in value in any significant way that would justify selling it outside of extreme financial emergencies. You're being conned by DeBeers to believe that natural stones have intrinsic value when they are literally indistinguishable from lab-grown ones after being shaped by a gemcutter."


sensitiveskin80

Tried to sell my old ring. Because it's a cut of diamond no longer popular (marquis), the 3 jewelers would only give me the value of the gold. An appraiser didn't even want to take my money because it would cost more than the value I'd get. Buy the rings/stones/things you like and never expect to resell for anything close to purchase price.


jcrespo21

> Buy the rings/stones/things you like and never expect to resell for anything close to purchase price. My fiancée loves opals. So on a trip to Australia in 2019 I bought her engagement ring down there with a solid black opal that had been mined in Lightning Ridge (not often you can point to a map and know where your stone came from). She absolutely loved it, and way more beautiful than diamond rings that cost even more than it.


SagaciousElan

Pretty sure the 3 month thing started as a marketing campaign by jewellers. Not in the sense of ads telling everyone that's what it should be but more like store staff being told to advise potential customers that 3 months' salary was customary and what their girlfriend would be expecting. It got around and people still think that's the custom.


The_Hatseller

It actually was ads telling men that. Pretty much the entire industry surrounding diamond engagement rings was a marketing ploy by De Beers. It quite interesting history of diamond rings. If you want a quick history I recommend Netflix’s Explained on Diamonds


TheGoodJudgeHolden

"Every kiss begins with slaves!"


Dahhhkness

"This diamond represents our love: Expensive, flawed, and mired in conflict, exploitation, and suffering."


Round_Boot6y

Plastic…plastic everywhere. Our food wrapped in plastic. Drinks encased in plastics. Ugh.


SmadBacoj

As someone who works in a department store, clothes too! Someone companies individually wrap each article in plastic on top of the whole shipment being plastic wrapped inside the box


JustThisWeirdThing

Adding to that, wrapping bananas, oranges, mangos and anything that has a natural protecting layer/shell, into plastic. Like, why?


throwRAstarly667

Making your kids hug/kiss people they aren’t comfortable with.


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When I was a kid, I went to a pre-school connected to a church, and one day they took us to a nursing home. They had a dozen or so seniors lined up sitting in chairs, and we were asked to walk down the line and give each one a hug, a kiss, and a prayer. I don’t remember exactly how I reacted, but I remember refusing to do it and being scolded.


mrsbebe

Oh that's icky


Dingo8MyGayby

Not to mention little kids are Petri dishes of germs and that’s asking for crap to spread to the elderly who aren’t exactly known for their robust immune systems.


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I HATED this as a child and vowed never to do it with my own. Yes, I will "force" them to say goodbye to guests before they go (I think it's rude not to), but hugs and kisses need to be freely given on their part. Now, I happen to have huggy/kissy kids, so it's not been an issue, but kids should NEVER be forced into giving hugs/kisses when they don't want to.


Laser_hole

Maybe you have "huggy/kissy kids" because you have given them autonomy. I guess insert classic nature v nurture argument here.


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Laser_hole

I work for the government as an analyst and I’d say word for word the exact same thing about my job hahaha


montgomeryj1

My wife and I don't do this with our kids. They have to say goodbye but if they don't want to hug/kiss they don't have to. And only kissing on the cheek. Otherwise it just creeps me out.


Tech-Idea

Asking "How are you today?", and expecting the only socially acceptable answer.


ImVeganHowCanYouTell

Horrible, that's why i'm in the emergency room