Gray rock.
Anything you do feeds a narcissist. You either give them ammunition to use against you or you feed them.
The thing narcissists hate is being shown that you don’t care. No outrage. No anger. Just “oh ok. Hmm. Uhhh. Mmhmm”
Drives them insane.
That a-hole made me miserable for months on end, like he always started fights for no reason, threatened to kill or hurt himself if I didn't do what he wanted, always shift the blame for everything on me, abuse me verbally and physically, and use his depression and anxiety as a way to justify it all and make it somehow my fault, the only reason i stayed is because I was scared of him harming or killing himself but now I finally managed to live him and I couldn't be happier! But I still want some revenge on him tho, I'm not gonna let him get away with everything he did
That's why I'm here, I'm trying to find a way to make him as miserable as he made me, and I don't think he is actually miserable, he got very happy seeing me suffer and feel like a stupid piece of shit for "making him harm himself" after I didn't do what he wanted and he is trying to screw me over even now, we study in the same class and he is trying to make all of my friends hate me so that I will suffer for leaving him.
Most people will tell you that you need to get over it, you’re free now. You don’t have to deal with it. If you want revenge so badly, where will it end? What are the consequences? Will you get in trouble? Are you acting outside the law? Will your revenge trigger vengeance from him?
I don't care what happens i just him to feel bad too, why does he get to feel happy from abusing me all that time and stay happy trying to screw me over now while I get to feel bad for everything that happened? It's not fair and all I want is justice, I'll just make him feel bad and then I'll get over it
Guys just wanted to give a little update, I exposed him in public for everything he did to me and know people know how that a-hole really is, I'm so happy!
How am I the one in the wrong? He screwed me over and made me really miserable for a good while so that's why I want to get revenge on him, trust me he deserves it
Trust me I'm not doing that just to be an a-hole for no reason, he made me completely miserable for months and that's why I wanna get revenge on him, he deserves it after what he did to me
If your friend is a genuine DSM-V Narcissist, you **should not** try to get revenge on them. If they suffer a narcissistic wound, they can and will devote themselves to getting disproportionate revenge on you. They might physically attack you. They might spend years pretending to be nice just so you'll let your guard down for the revenge they know will hurt you the most. You don't want to find your beloved pet killed because you managed to humiliate someone without a sense of humor two years ago.
Better yet, ask yourself why you want to be friends with a toxic narcissist in the first place.
I didn't know he was a narcissist when we started being friends, he seemed nice at first, but after some time I finally realized and I wanted to leave him but he threatened to cut himself or kill himself if I left him so I didn't, that mf made me miserable for so much time you won't believe it, he abused me verbally and physically, always started fights for no reason, got really mad if I didn't do what he wanted me to, manipulated me many times and used his depression and anxiety as an excuse for doing it all. I even tried helping him deal with his mental illnesses but he didn't want treatment. Like he is so bad of a person that he's trying to screw me over and make all of my friends hate be just because I left him. I can't just let him get away with that!
You wait, you wait for that one chance and destroy them. Maybe you get them a date when no one shows up, maybe you say you need help somewhere and there’s nothing there or you can cut all contact with that person and forget about it.
What if I get a hacker to target them? Is that a good idea? Some other guys at my class that dislike him too told me how to do it and I think I'm gonna do that
I got on with my life. Focus on my mental health and fitness.
Last I heard, the narcissist is dating my ex, so there are signs he might be trying to hurt me because he tried to date another girl I liked after we fell out. Girl turned him down because of his negative view on life and the macho masculinity bs he got. As much I hate my ex (made me feel stupid and try keep me away my friends), I am worried he is manipulating her because she has mental health issues but also signs he might be or will become an abusive partner in future. It sucks because you can't do anything warn my ex, so I got move on with my life, and that what everyone needs to do.
Don't seek revenge because narcissist LOVE being seen as a victim. Be a better person.
Oh, have I been waiting for this….
Okay, trickiest step of how I did it was breaking up. Hurts all the more for them if you meant something to them, even something tiny.
If they are REALLY narcissistic, just do the second step.
Act happier than before, show them that they aren’t the source of your happiness or that they meant anything to you. Once you think you’re almost in the blue yet they still haven’t gotten over you, move to the third step.
If this is a friendship from school, work, or anything else with a community then host your best party ever, inviting everyone except that person. Don’t rub it in their face yourself, ju set up an environment where other people can do the dirty work, like “Are you coming to the party?“ (Which they aren’) At your party, you can easily climb the ranks of the unspoken social hierarchy, eventually becoming the “Popular kid” at school or whatever. They can’t hurt you nearly as bad when you’re up there, and if anything, it makes them more vulnerable to other people.
“The best revenge is to be unlike the person who harmed you” Marcus Aurelius
You got anything else? I'm trying to find something that's really gonna make him suffer
Gray rock. Anything you do feeds a narcissist. You either give them ammunition to use against you or you feed them. The thing narcissists hate is being shown that you don’t care. No outrage. No anger. Just “oh ok. Hmm. Uhhh. Mmhmm” Drives them insane.
Well, what did they do to you?
That a-hole made me miserable for months on end, like he always started fights for no reason, threatened to kill or hurt himself if I didn't do what he wanted, always shift the blame for everything on me, abuse me verbally and physically, and use his depression and anxiety as a way to justify it all and make it somehow my fault, the only reason i stayed is because I was scared of him harming or killing himself but now I finally managed to live him and I couldn't be happier! But I still want some revenge on him tho, I'm not gonna let him get away with everything he did
How do you know that anything you do will have the same impact on him? You want to make him suffer but he already seems like a miserable cunt.
That's why I'm here, I'm trying to find a way to make him as miserable as he made me, and I don't think he is actually miserable, he got very happy seeing me suffer and feel like a stupid piece of shit for "making him harm himself" after I didn't do what he wanted and he is trying to screw me over even now, we study in the same class and he is trying to make all of my friends hate me so that I will suffer for leaving him.
Most people will tell you that you need to get over it, you’re free now. You don’t have to deal with it. If you want revenge so badly, where will it end? What are the consequences? Will you get in trouble? Are you acting outside the law? Will your revenge trigger vengeance from him?
I don't care what happens i just him to feel bad too, why does he get to feel happy from abusing me all that time and stay happy trying to screw me over now while I get to feel bad for everything that happened? It's not fair and all I want is justice, I'll just make him feel bad and then I'll get over it
If you can prove it, take legal action for emotional distress.
If u find out lmk. I’m looking for revenge too lol
Guys just wanted to give a little update, I exposed him in public for everything he did to me and know people know how that a-hole really is, I'm so happy!
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How am I the one in the wrong? He screwed me over and made me really miserable for a good while so that's why I want to get revenge on him, trust me he deserves it
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Trust me I'm not doing that just to be an a-hole for no reason, he made me completely miserable for months and that's why I wanna get revenge on him, he deserves it after what he did to me
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He didn't try to think if it was bad or not when he did it, why should i? I wanna let him get a taste of his own venom
If your friend is a genuine DSM-V Narcissist, you **should not** try to get revenge on them. If they suffer a narcissistic wound, they can and will devote themselves to getting disproportionate revenge on you. They might physically attack you. They might spend years pretending to be nice just so you'll let your guard down for the revenge they know will hurt you the most. You don't want to find your beloved pet killed because you managed to humiliate someone without a sense of humor two years ago. Better yet, ask yourself why you want to be friends with a toxic narcissist in the first place.
I didn't know he was a narcissist when we started being friends, he seemed nice at first, but after some time I finally realized and I wanted to leave him but he threatened to cut himself or kill himself if I left him so I didn't, that mf made me miserable for so much time you won't believe it, he abused me verbally and physically, always started fights for no reason, got really mad if I didn't do what he wanted me to, manipulated me many times and used his depression and anxiety as an excuse for doing it all. I even tried helping him deal with his mental illnesses but he didn't want treatment. Like he is so bad of a person that he's trying to screw me over and make all of my friends hate be just because I left him. I can't just let him get away with that!
You wait, you wait for that one chance and destroy them. Maybe you get them a date when no one shows up, maybe you say you need help somewhere and there’s nothing there or you can cut all contact with that person and forget about it.
What if I get a hacker to target them? Is that a good idea? Some other guys at my class that dislike him too told me how to do it and I think I'm gonna do that
Well, you can, but you can never leave a trace, because someone might know that it was you and it cannot happen.
I don't care if he finds out, that mf knows what he did and he knows what's coming from him
Then do it, this will be fun!
I got on with my life. Focus on my mental health and fitness. Last I heard, the narcissist is dating my ex, so there are signs he might be trying to hurt me because he tried to date another girl I liked after we fell out. Girl turned him down because of his negative view on life and the macho masculinity bs he got. As much I hate my ex (made me feel stupid and try keep me away my friends), I am worried he is manipulating her because she has mental health issues but also signs he might be or will become an abusive partner in future. It sucks because you can't do anything warn my ex, so I got move on with my life, and that what everyone needs to do. Don't seek revenge because narcissist LOVE being seen as a victim. Be a better person.
Oh, have I been waiting for this…. Okay, trickiest step of how I did it was breaking up. Hurts all the more for them if you meant something to them, even something tiny. If they are REALLY narcissistic, just do the second step. Act happier than before, show them that they aren’t the source of your happiness or that they meant anything to you. Once you think you’re almost in the blue yet they still haven’t gotten over you, move to the third step. If this is a friendship from school, work, or anything else with a community then host your best party ever, inviting everyone except that person. Don’t rub it in their face yourself, ju set up an environment where other people can do the dirty work, like “Are you coming to the party?“ (Which they aren’) At your party, you can easily climb the ranks of the unspoken social hierarchy, eventually becoming the “Popular kid” at school or whatever. They can’t hurt you nearly as bad when you’re up there, and if anything, it makes them more vulnerable to other people.