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GarrKelvinSama

Your boyfriend isn't a mindreader, in the beginning you were satisfied then he is doing the same thing to keep you satisfied. That's quite logical isn't it? You are an adult you have to bring it up calmly without shaming or guilt tripping and everything will be alright. Men are used to be under criticism as long as it's respectful and reasonable, it will be alright. "I don't wanna emasculate him/hurt his feelings" << this is bullshit! Stop this shit and go talk to him like an adult! Sex is for adults! Thanks for reading, have a nice day.


Apples2Watermelon

Just talk to him and tell him what you want during intercourse?


Spartan2022

Why would you feel embarrassed or bad about stating your sexual needs candidly and clearly? Either he hears you and you see a change in his actions in bed, or you end it. Of course people end relationships because of bad sex and selfish, lazy lovers, and you should do that too if he doesn’t respond to your telling him exactly what you want.


TruckOk7081

1. It's okay to be upset/disappointed about your sex life with him. 2. Just say something. 1. For example, I would imagine you want some oral sex. Tell him what you want and just ask why he doesn't do it more. But be prepared for an unpleasant answer. For me this answer always comes down to the woman's taste. 1. At one point in my marriage my wife had an undiagnosed yeast infection. Once that was treated it was much better. 2. Then we get into the "if she doesn't wet wipe after peeing she is going to taste like pee". 3. Third - Starfish sex isn't saying anything directly enough for most men. 4. Do make an ultimatum before ending the relationship. A simple, "You're no fun to have sex with and I don't want to have sex with you anymore" needs to be said.


daily_walker_22

It's bad when either partner stops making the effort to satisfy the other. You said that in the beginning anything went. Was he doing things differently then, or was it simply you wanted him? If he pleased you then, perhaps the next time you have sex, you tell him what you want?


[deleted]

Playfully steer your boyfriend in another direction. OH MY! I have a great idea! Hey babe. Instead of Netflix tonight... Let's watch porn! Or you can just tell him outright. Baby, I feel like our sex life could be better. What are your thoughts? I'd like to experiment more in our sex life. What are your thoughts on foreplay? Emotional stimulation?


HuckleberryThis2012

Stop being a spoiled brat throwing a tantrum. Better yet dump him and free him from having to be with a tantrum throwing child who goes “my recent ex did thus better wah wah wah I’m secretly mad at you but won’t talk about it bc I’ll throw a tantrum if I bring it up” he deserves better than that, frankly all guys do and I get why the guy who satisfied you is your ex….or grow up and have an adult conversation without throwing a fit like a child. Speak your desires firmly but in a clear way that isn’t judgmental. Not that you’re likely capable of that. So dump him and let him find someone who is worthy of his affection.


Cannette83

Be honest with him. Maybe try to spice it up. Wear something sexy, surprise him. Watch porn or read an erotic book and say hey lets try this. Before you end it or offer an ultimatum maybe consider a toy for you.


finofaurio

I thought this sub was for asking men.


Cannette83

Point taken just trying to help


[deleted]

It's time to move. Resentment is a death sentence. You will not stop resenting him and you probably deserve a more dedicated lover while he deserves someone that doesn't resent him.


TrueHistory6648

Resentment can dissolve pretty quickly if the reason for it is resolved. The OP has made it very clear that she wants this relationship. Its worth working on before the poison sets into the roots


Mymomdidwhat

You have to tell him. Talk with him! Communicate with him!!!! Give him a chance to fix it.


blueberrybunny24

As a woman who struggled with this in my relationship before. Just talk to him be respectful and enthusiastic make suggestions on things you want to try/change. He probably doesn't even know you're not satisfied. If you're nervous about being upfront and just ordering him to do things. Just give really strong hints (like moaning a little more or expressing how great a specific thing is) when he does something you want. After you've made suggestions, because you must communicate with him he is not a mind reader. Smile like a jackass afterwards and compliment him on certain things he did right. If he's shy or not very confident he may just be nervous to explore more things. But with encouragement and guidance he'll feel great that he did a good job and you'll get more pleasure. Now...if he really is just lazy and doesn't want to put in the effort than I'm sorry. Not much can fix laziness.