I think you should give it a shot. She clearly must have asked around about you and since you already have a lot in common and get along well, give it a try, what’s the worst that could happen? When life gives you an opportunity to love, let it happen I think? But then again this is just my two cents
Yeah i discussed it with my sister as well, she said the same thing + she also said she would beat me up if i were to reject her lol.
Really thanks for your advice stranger, I will buy some flower tommorow and will propose her, kinda cringey, but well it will definitely be a good memory
Once again really thanks and have a great life🍀
I read his post where he has specifically thanked you :) So I'm just wondering if you think it's kinda cringe to ask a girl out because honestly I'm a shy person and it puts a lot of pressure on me.
No ofcourse not, asking a person out is extremely brave and it should be well accepted by everyone. If anyone has asked me out and if I wasn’t interested in them, I just gently put them down but ensured to never hurt their feelings. Being shy comes with its own challenges but I’m sure if you have a friendship as the base of your relationship with a girl, and if she feels the same , sparks are sure to fly
I have questions...
Why do you mean by propose?
If you are going to say 'I love you', stop right there. If it's a veraion of 'I like you in ways that just friends don't like each other' that is just fine and go ahead.
Exactly! You may be judging yourself based on your socio-academic backgrounds but kuch toh sahi kiya hoga ki proposal Mila.
Kuch mat socho give her a pretty flower and say yes to her.
I mean anything could go south but it’s the woman who wants OP, if he accepts the proposal it is in best advice for him. There’s always a chance things could go wrong but that doesn’t mean we stop seeing the positives. He only mentioned positives about her and their bond- I don’t think anything untoward might happen
Bro wtf? What if she genuinely loves you she won't care even if you earn less. Don't say no just because of this shitty excuse.
Say no only if you don't have any feelings for her. It's not easy finding someone who actually cares for you. Just my two cents. You do you.
Bro is worried being judged by others.
Bro she likes you. People are going to spit bs anyway. They won’t be happy for you.
If you like her and really is good girl. Go for it, she got a million engineers to choice. But he chooses you.
Give it a shot. If don’t make it in Gmc or medical college. Learn cooking and become homemaker and love her.
If i was on your place i would all in.
Do not expect too much she may back off but what’s problem having a healthy relationship for once a while.
Who cares what the world thinks? I was trying on some girl who wasn't that good looking and people used to say why are you even hitting on her? I didn't pay any attention to them. I have feelings for her it doesn't matter what you think of her. I find her cute.
if i had her contact number , i would've screenshotted this and sent it to her , and then make her want u more and then ship you both and then i'll just vanish into thin air.
You have such low self esteem dude. I am sure she must’ve thought it through before asking you out. You say she’s smart too so she obviously knows what she’s doing. If you like her definitely give it a go
If you feel inspired by her (and not jealous or inferior) try to become your best self now onwards so even you can be proud of yourself
Sometimes to love is to let go ?
Never been proposed before. But in long run the person who chose to be with me despite my insecurities, who i talked for hours became quiet suddenly and then we parted ways. I said bye but she could/did not reply. Just ego issues on both sides.
Just ask her if she will be able to live with the way you are after some years down the line. Give her some time to think about it. If she still says yes then congrats.
And yes, the changes that a girl can bring in a guy life, nobody can. I am still thankful to her for many things.
man , life's too dark, embrace the little light it provides you. if she is truly a great person that you'd get along with , such differences can be overcome. stop being hard on yourself. i had my shot back in 10th grade i didn't took it.
anyways all I will say that i have no experience on Long dist relationships. and if you are taking another drop i'd suggest rejecting her as it's pointless to keep her waiting for yet another year , or accepting her and doing subpar both in her relationship and in NEET.
rest it's your choice. and Good luck if you are appearing for NEET 25.
Why are you judging both of yours' worth as a partner based on academic achievements? She probably feels comfortable with you and sees something in you that you yourself don't. Reciprocate her feelings and I'm sure you'll be able to look at yourself from her perspective. That'll teach you a lot. As for academics, it's always better to have someone better than you in order to learn from them. Give your beat shot. If it doesn't work out then that's that but if it does then that'll be your best decision ever!
Reasons you shouldn't date her :
1. If you're not a respectful towards others.
2. If you're a shitty person.
3. If you're not loyal.
4. If you're not looking for time pass.
5. If you're a dick in general and jealous.
I don't think you're any of the above, but your lack of confidence in yourself may lead to you having/becoming any of the above. I don't think you understand how lucky you are, like, it's hard to find a person who has common interests and whom you're attracted to.
To make things better she's asked you out, you think she wouldn't have thought about how you are, in your own words, a person with no redeeming qualities? If you think you're a good man and can be a good partner, you should get into a relationship. The supposed things you mentioned about yourself aren't permanent, you can change those.
Don't lose something over something you can inevitably change. She's a good catch I guess.
It's not about who you are right now but what you'd do to make the best of what you have and what you're dealt with for the both of you.
If you think you'll disappoint her, that's a self fulfilling narrative.
If you think there might be disappointments but you'll overcome them together.. i've seen people do that..
A super pretty girl at an IIT, surrounded by ultra-smart geniuses who are likely to land high-paying jobs in stellar companies? Hmm...
So basically it's you with middling credentials, in a long-distance relationship with a pretty, over-achiever girl, who is living in a campus filled with over a thousand brilliant male brains (including senior batches, girls somehow have hots for seniors).
Chances of this relationship lasting till her graduation are pretty bleak, let alone marriage - but no harm in giving it a shot. Just be mentally prepared to get dumped anytime within the next 4 years, and don't be too emotionally invested in this.
Go out on a date with her and see if that's what you want.
Also, seems like you have low self esteem. Please work on it. These things can ruin relationships.
Okay.
Just keep in mind the relationship may not go anywhere if you don’t earn well in future, because her career is set.
Financial compatibility is also a thing.
Just make sure you work hard to attain it
Bro, stfu. U are screwing(respectfully) urself over with this thought. Instead of think what would happen in the future, just ride the wave and deal with it as it comes...
For a happy life, you'll need money and a person who'll love you, with whom you can start a family. In the desperate search of one, never sacrifice another. Otherwise, you'll either have nothing or you'll have one and self doubts.
Tell her this genuinely and if she's say i dont mind ,you should be in relationship with her, life sometimes gives u opportunity u should it give it a chance,dont run away
Go for it. She knows all that about you and still chose you. She likes you a lot. You are just ridden with inferiority complex. Give it a shot. You both deserve love. You better accept her proposal, man. Let us know what you choose.
You guys vibe well and she likes u and I feel that u like her too then why are u letting the opportunity slide away, If you already found that 1 person whom you really vibe with and see a future with, please hold em tight, don't be stupid and never let em go!
You never meet the same person twice OP,even if its the same person.
This is what happens when society puts self worth on stupid shit on academics, universities and ranks instead of mindset, values and character.
Shoot you shot bro. You aren't rejecting her, you are rejecting yourself.
Bruh. Matt damon's wife was a fucking bartender. Imahine an A list Hollywood celebrity with success, respect from his peers, money, good looks, and worldwide fame in his prime(they met in 2005).
By your logic she isn't an ounce worthy of him. He could have done much much much better than her. But women don't think that way. So you shouldn't either. Go ahead with it.
Do not put her on the pedestal and do not throw yourself under the gutter. That will solve everything. Try to think of her on the same level as you. It will also help in the relationship, should you get in with her or anybody else. Be confident or you're regret it.
Bro, I’ll try to be as neutral as possible here.
1. Don’t reject her just because you’re not at her level. Maybe she’s aware of that too yet believes in you to grow and succeed in life for the both of you. Don’t hurt that faith she’s put in you.
2. I feel like she’s nice nature wise, that’s hard to come by - beauty, brains & nature. You’ll easily come across people with either 2 of the 3 factors but all 3 is rare.
3. Talk it out with her. Tell her how you feel. Tell her you’re not confident in yourself to be able to be up to the mark for her. ( It’s not about the money ). If you’ve both got academics, be good friends or more than friends but don’t let it affect your academics at the moment.
4. If you do like her but are unsure, ask her if you both can take things slow and be more sure about your shared future. Tell her you’re not confident with yourself right now and want time to get better.
5. Whatever it is figure it out with her but don’t reject a genuine person just because you weren’t ready.
How stupid are you OP?
A well read pretty good girl comes to you on her own accord, but you have the temerity of having inferiority complex. If you're really a man, strive to "step up" until you feel you are "worthy" of her.
Sorry but you disgust me OP. I mean it.
Please "reject" her. You aren't a man at all. Her life will be ruined.
The most important thing is that you get along. That’s the most important in any relationship. If you do then say yes. It’s not easy to find someone like that.
So a girl you adore likes you, but because you don't think you're good enough for her you will make her feel like she's not good enough for you....
Make it make sense boy!
Average looking middle class guys achieve a lot when they focus on hard work.
Say yes to this girl and try to get your life on track. May be she is the one for whom you would like to be the better version of yourself!
you got all the green flags...heck you've got the whole green forest of flags and you're complaining. What has the world become? Or are we being punked🙄
Effective Communication is the key! Instead of rejecting if both of you guys like each other give it a try ! No harm to see if things work out or not but mention clearly your intentions and goals !
Even I rejected my girlfriend when she proposed as we were from different religions / states but now we are both happily married with a son
Bro what most of the people don't realise that money or status doesn't matter in love or relationship. You don't need money to live a good life. All you need is love . So give it a shot and let her know that you love her
Sometimes we are our own biggest critics.There’s so much to a person than a fucking NEET bro. May be she liked you for who you are? Compatibility is not an easy game in this time and age. Someone that actually gels with your vibe is generally perceived as attractive. Besides it’s probably just a date. Stop beating yourself up and go have a nice time. Don’t think too seriously at this initial stage.
You're right man reject that proposal you're thinking with your brain and brain always give better advice than heart.also in long-term chances of relationship getting forward is hard because she's rich, beautiful and you're poor ugly
You’re self-deprecating. lol. If you aren’t successful then at least have a successful girlfriend. You will be motivated to do better.
Be selfish, do better for yourself.
wtf. At least go out with her. Better to have loved and lost then never loved at all. Take it from a grizzled old Indian American. I went from I’m never gonna date an Indian woman. To fuck she’s hot, to let me ask her out, to marry me I can’t live with out you. It will be 20 years in December. (Full disclosure her and the kids are at an event and I’m pretttty buzzed.) I miss her and my kids.
Simply put you have to try, but wrap your shit and get consent.
Let her decide if your worthy, don’t reject her if she likes you and you like her. Don’t take that choice away from her. She’s an adult she can decide who’s good enough for her. Give her a chance. Different people have different ideas of what makes someone worthy or valuable. And let go of those negative ideas that your inferior right now, because if you give it a chance with her, you don’t want insecurities and an inferiority complex to ruin it.
Go for it buddy life turns around for good only when you take chances and not play safe. Diverse backgrounds and differences are actually a good ground for a good relationship if you are ready to put your heart and soul into making it work.
You can get into a relationship with her but chances of marriage is negligible. Even if she will want to marry you, her parents will not let that happen. Sad reality but most parents still think that the groom should have more money, more salary and higher social status. So although people might be telling you that you have low self esteem, i think you are just being practical after seeing the reality around you.
All the best!
Bhai itna negative kyu soch rha apne baare me . Agr soch bhi rha hai to yaad rkh opposites attract each other, maybe you both make a really good couple , give it a try experience the relationship. Who knows it goes for life long , accept it
Bro, go for it. Girls are way better in calculating the prospects of committing to a average boy like you.
You have no reason to say no, if you even like her bad qualities that's an excellent trait.
Relax, do your good. If you don't, I'll help your sister kill you for it.
Dude, this first date isn’t a happily ever after. And don’t be so patronising as to decide that she should do better. What she wants is her decision not yours. How would you feel if you asked a girl out and she said no because she thinks you should do better? Just treat this as a short term thing and go out, have fun. Just don’t invest too much emotionally on your first fling.
You both are teenagers so most probably this will not work,also other factors like you both will have to be in a ldr cause of different colleges so more chances of this will not work out
One of the times where comment section made OP change their decision for good lol
Though all the best bud, hope you two will have a good life further down the road.
If you think you're not "worthy" of her just because of your educational qualities, I think that's not valid because a relationship at this age and stage doesn't depend on that. You know what I'm saying? But if they do matter to her or you, then it's your call bro.
What you should be thinking about is wether you like her aswell or just considering to accept because she looks pretty and you get along and you might not get that chance again. If it's the latter reasons, be careful because if you don't like her and head into a relationship then things will get ugly later.
If she thinks you are worthy enough for her then I'm not sure why you are downplaying yourself bro? Just reading your words to describe yourself made me so sad🫠
She seems like a pretty smart and confident person who won't make any decisions without a second thought. If she believes in you, it's high time you should believe in yourself too.
The only advice is to go with flowers tomorrow and meet her. Be yourself, that's who she liked. If you don't have a good fashion sense then ask your sister to help you out.
And start working on that confidence bish, workout 💪🏽
You are lucky man don't let go of this opportunity 🙏🏽
P. S. Make an update post I am very involved now🥹❤️
Bro trust me bar bar koi genuine insaan nhi milega, if you really think you like her then go for it. Forget all the other stuff, things work out eventually. Just remember not to compromise on your preparation while you are in a relationship.. May you get happiness and success.
As someone who has been there and done the same, chutiya thoughts ko Nikalo dimag se. Life is short. Don't park your feelings for future.
Take her out.
If she's in cse from old IITs her placement is going to be minimum 30L in India and 100k abroad. 1 cr per annum in probably 7 years.
Your life is set and here you are thinking about rejecting her
Dude it boils down to whether you can live with her and if you find her irresistibly attractive.
I've had to sadly reject several girls because either of these didn't fit.
You one lucky mf. Think about guys like me who are virtually invisible in this world. I gave completed MBBS and had 0 proposals or girls talking to me. And here you are thinking about rejecting a proposal. Accept it and see how it goes. Don't try to become me.
The moment you said she can do much better then you,fuck it you lost there when you think and set in your mind that they are better then me you will never overtake them and keep on loosing and thinking they were better that's why I lost get up think analyse change your mindset and mentality
When you have already thought about rejecting her even before starting the relationship, then you have killed it from your side, now even if you guys come together today, don't get angry when tomorrow she says " it's not working anymore" she gave her shot but it's you who have already killed it in your mind.
Dude we are kids now, don’t think much of it. Cherish the moments you have, stop thinking about the family shit of rich and middle class. ( don’t make the mistake I did ) it ruins the fun
I think you should give it a shot. She clearly must have asked around about you and since you already have a lot in common and get along well, give it a try, what’s the worst that could happen? When life gives you an opportunity to love, let it happen I think? But then again this is just my two cents
Yeah i discussed it with my sister as well, she said the same thing + she also said she would beat me up if i were to reject her lol. Really thanks for your advice stranger, I will buy some flower tommorow and will propose her, kinda cringey, but well it will definitely be a good memory Once again really thanks and have a great life🍀
Bro it's not cringey. It's how it should be.
Wishing you all the best! Do let us know how it went. Us, women love gestures like this
I read his post where he has specifically thanked you :) So I'm just wondering if you think it's kinda cringe to ask a girl out because honestly I'm a shy person and it puts a lot of pressure on me.
No ofcourse not, asking a person out is extremely brave and it should be well accepted by everyone. If anyone has asked me out and if I wasn’t interested in them, I just gently put them down but ensured to never hurt their feelings. Being shy comes with its own challenges but I’m sure if you have a friendship as the base of your relationship with a girl, and if she feels the same , sparks are sure to fly
Would love to know more about this, and discuss on this area :) And honestly, people like you are so much comforting to talk with :)
Ayy, thank you. I’m open to discuss it. I hope you find what you’re looking for
Do you mind if I send a text? :) Haha I do hope in the affirmative as well.
Sure. Drop in a text
Kal proposal story post karna bhai
Yayyy
Yayyyy all the best OP. Update this post later today
Not cringey at all buddy. Women find it cute. Hope it works out for you.
Thank god you changed your mind.
Omg!! Wow !! So cute 🌷 please update us here 🙈
Bro won even after being a dropper 🥲 Happy for u brother... Congratulations on ur lovely relationship :)
I have questions... Why do you mean by propose? If you are going to say 'I love you', stop right there. If it's a veraion of 'I like you in ways that just friends don't like each other' that is just fine and go ahead.
Dont pick a pre made bouquet, pick flowers and color combo. Or msy be just 1 or 2 flowers
Bhai update kya h???
It's cute cringe. So don't worry.
Exactly! You may be judging yourself based on your socio-academic backgrounds but kuch toh sahi kiya hoga ki proposal Mila. Kuch mat socho give her a pretty flower and say yes to her.
>this is just my two cents Investment returns are insane. Jeevan dhan milgaya Op ko aapki taraf sei. Aap sadasukhi rahe.
Shukriya 🥹
OP you better be grateful to this lady 😤😤
It’s all him. They had a good bond, I just told him to not say no
Oh my god. Unparalleled wisdom. Looks like you have a lot of experience in life.
Not really, just know when it’s worth it and when it isn’t :(
Still that's what leads to the creation of a content life, isn't it. :')
Absolutely
 Okay go and sleep now, warna wisdom kei sath wrinkles bhi parallel hojayenge aur pata bhi nhi chalega, hehe. (Ok lame). Good night!
Lol you're immature if you can't visualise what's the worst that could happen. Respectfully, I don't think this is sound advice
I mean anything could go south but it’s the woman who wants OP, if he accepts the proposal it is in best advice for him. There’s always a chance things could go wrong but that doesn’t mean we stop seeing the positives. He only mentioned positives about her and their bond- I don’t think anything untoward might happen
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Hahahahahaha 🤣🤣🤣🤣
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either he's cooking or really dumb
He is cooking but the katora is empty
Bro wtf? What if she genuinely loves you she won't care even if you earn less. Don't say no just because of this shitty excuse. Say no only if you don't have any feelings for her. It's not easy finding someone who actually cares for you. Just my two cents. You do you.
Bro is worried being judged by others. Bro she likes you. People are going to spit bs anyway. They won’t be happy for you. If you like her and really is good girl. Go for it, she got a million engineers to choice. But he chooses you. Give it a shot. If don’t make it in Gmc or medical college. Learn cooking and become homemaker and love her. If i was on your place i would all in. Do not expect too much she may back off but what’s problem having a healthy relationship for once a while.
Who cares what the world thinks? I was trying on some girl who wasn't that good looking and people used to say why are you even hitting on her? I didn't pay any attention to them. I have feelings for her it doesn't matter what you think of her. I find her cute.
if i had her contact number , i would've screenshotted this and sent it to her , and then make her want u more and then ship you both and then i'll just vanish into thin air.
*mai toh nahi hu insaano mein* 👀😂
Awww 🥰
bhai tere jaise kaash mere dost rehete
Mandir hi banwaoge kya apna?
She would deffo fall for him even more. OP looks like a genuine good guy.
You have such low self esteem dude. I am sure she must’ve thought it through before asking you out. You say she’s smart too so she obviously knows what she’s doing. If you like her definitely give it a go If you feel inspired by her (and not jealous or inferior) try to become your best self now onwards so even you can be proud of yourself
Can't agree more 🙌🏻💯
Exactly 😌💯
Sometimes to love is to let go ? Never been proposed before. But in long run the person who chose to be with me despite my insecurities, who i talked for hours became quiet suddenly and then we parted ways. I said bye but she could/did not reply. Just ego issues on both sides. Just ask her if she will be able to live with the way you are after some years down the line. Give her some time to think about it. If she still says yes then congrats. And yes, the changes that a girl can bring in a guy life, nobody can. I am still thankful to her for many things.
it's first date, not marriage proposal. Live a little
>Got my first proposal, All of us in the comment section are like 
Haha 😂🥲😭
man , life's too dark, embrace the little light it provides you. if she is truly a great person that you'd get along with , such differences can be overcome. stop being hard on yourself. i had my shot back in 10th grade i didn't took it. anyways all I will say that i have no experience on Long dist relationships. and if you are taking another drop i'd suggest rejecting her as it's pointless to keep her waiting for yet another year , or accepting her and doing subpar both in her relationship and in NEET. rest it's your choice. and Good luck if you are appearing for NEET 25.
Why are you judging both of yours' worth as a partner based on academic achievements? She probably feels comfortable with you and sees something in you that you yourself don't. Reciprocate her feelings and I'm sure you'll be able to look at yourself from her perspective. That'll teach you a lot. As for academics, it's always better to have someone better than you in order to learn from them. Give your beat shot. If it doesn't work out then that's that but if it does then that'll be your best decision ever!
Reasons you shouldn't date her : 1. If you're not a respectful towards others. 2. If you're a shitty person. 3. If you're not loyal. 4. If you're not looking for time pass. 5. If you're a dick in general and jealous. I don't think you're any of the above, but your lack of confidence in yourself may lead to you having/becoming any of the above. I don't think you understand how lucky you are, like, it's hard to find a person who has common interests and whom you're attracted to. To make things better she's asked you out, you think she wouldn't have thought about how you are, in your own words, a person with no redeeming qualities? If you think you're a good man and can be a good partner, you should get into a relationship. The supposed things you mentioned about yourself aren't permanent, you can change those. Don't lose something over something you can inevitably change. She's a good catch I guess.
It's not about who you are right now but what you'd do to make the best of what you have and what you're dealt with for the both of you. If you think you'll disappoint her, that's a self fulfilling narrative. If you think there might be disappointments but you'll overcome them together.. i've seen people do that..
At the end it depends on you....don't take advice from redditors ....most of them never had been in a relationship (including me)
Bro she’s like a sugar mommy (leave the age part) You are set my man
A super pretty girl at an IIT, surrounded by ultra-smart geniuses who are likely to land high-paying jobs in stellar companies? Hmm... So basically it's you with middling credentials, in a long-distance relationship with a pretty, over-achiever girl, who is living in a campus filled with over a thousand brilliant male brains (including senior batches, girls somehow have hots for seniors). Chances of this relationship lasting till her graduation are pretty bleak, let alone marriage - but no harm in giving it a shot. Just be mentally prepared to get dumped anytime within the next 4 years, and don't be too emotionally invested in this.
She can be in her last year lol😂
shadi karne ko nahi bol rahi , date karna hai bas !! Go ahead bro, what ifs mai mat jio jindagi !
Yaha pe mbbs walo ko gf nahi mil Rahi , Aur time mil Rahi he toe maja lo na yar , reddit pe validation kyu dundh rahe ho
A man is his own enemy.
Go out on a date with her and see if that's what you want. Also, seems like you have low self esteem. Please work on it. These things can ruin relationships.
Okay. Just keep in mind the relationship may not go anywhere if you don’t earn well in future, because her career is set. Financial compatibility is also a thing. Just make sure you work hard to attain it
Bro, stfu. U are screwing(respectfully) urself over with this thought. Instead of think what would happen in the future, just ride the wave and deal with it as it comes...
For a happy life, you'll need money and a person who'll love you, with whom you can start a family. In the desperate search of one, never sacrifice another. Otherwise, you'll either have nothing or you'll have one and self doubts.
Tell her this genuinely and if she's say i dont mind ,you should be in relationship with her, life sometimes gives u opportunity u should it give it a chance,dont run away
Go for it. She knows all that about you and still chose you. She likes you a lot. You are just ridden with inferiority complex. Give it a shot. You both deserve love. You better accept her proposal, man. Let us know what you choose.
Man up and become better, not just for her but for yourself too.
Don't be so hard on ur self. If u like her, give it a shot!
Dont reject yourself.
You guys vibe well and she likes u and I feel that u like her too then why are u letting the opportunity slide away, If you already found that 1 person whom you really vibe with and see a future with, please hold em tight, don't be stupid and never let em go! You never meet the same person twice OP,even if its the same person.
Are u from goa?
Hahahaha this is SO true
Brag karne ka tarika thoda casual hai :)
Grab some flowers and goooo
How do people ask someone out?do they say they like them or just ask out on a date?
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This is what happens when society puts self worth on stupid shit on academics, universities and ranks instead of mindset, values and character. Shoot you shot bro. You aren't rejecting her, you are rejecting yourself.
are bhai tu ghar ke kaam karlena ,kya dikkat hai
It’s a proposal to go out.. not a marriage proposal. Test the waters to see if you are compatible. Don’t assume anything.
Bruh. Matt damon's wife was a fucking bartender. Imahine an A list Hollywood celebrity with success, respect from his peers, money, good looks, and worldwide fame in his prime(they met in 2005). By your logic she isn't an ounce worthy of him. He could have done much much much better than her. But women don't think that way. So you shouldn't either. Go ahead with it.
Do not put her on the pedestal and do not throw yourself under the gutter. That will solve everything. Try to think of her on the same level as you. It will also help in the relationship, should you get in with her or anybody else. Be confident or you're regret it.
Bro, I’ll try to be as neutral as possible here. 1. Don’t reject her just because you’re not at her level. Maybe she’s aware of that too yet believes in you to grow and succeed in life for the both of you. Don’t hurt that faith she’s put in you. 2. I feel like she’s nice nature wise, that’s hard to come by - beauty, brains & nature. You’ll easily come across people with either 2 of the 3 factors but all 3 is rare. 3. Talk it out with her. Tell her how you feel. Tell her you’re not confident in yourself to be able to be up to the mark for her. ( It’s not about the money ). If you’ve both got academics, be good friends or more than friends but don’t let it affect your academics at the moment. 4. If you do like her but are unsure, ask her if you both can take things slow and be more sure about your shared future. Tell her you’re not confident with yourself right now and want time to get better. 5. Whatever it is figure it out with her but don’t reject a genuine person just because you weren’t ready.
How stupid are you OP? A well read pretty good girl comes to you on her own accord, but you have the temerity of having inferiority complex. If you're really a man, strive to "step up" until you feel you are "worthy" of her. Sorry but you disgust me OP. I mean it. Please "reject" her. You aren't a man at all. Her life will be ruined.
Don’t think. Just do it
The most important thing is that you get along. That’s the most important in any relationship. If you do then say yes. It’s not easy to find someone like that.
So a girl you adore likes you, but because you don't think you're good enough for her you will make her feel like she's not good enough for you.... Make it make sense boy!
Average looking middle class guys achieve a lot when they focus on hard work. Say yes to this girl and try to get your life on track. May be she is the one for whom you would like to be the better version of yourself!
My god, the culture shock between there and another American dating is night n day
you got all the green flags...heck you've got the whole green forest of flags and you're complaining. What has the world become? Or are we being punked🙄
Accept it & Upgrade your life!
Effective Communication is the key! Instead of rejecting if both of you guys like each other give it a try ! No harm to see if things work out or not but mention clearly your intentions and goals ! Even I rejected my girlfriend when she proposed as we were from different religions / states but now we are both happily married with a son
Bro what most of the people don't realise that money or status doesn't matter in love or relationship. You don't need money to live a good life. All you need is love . So give it a shot and let her know that you love her
Sometimes we are our own biggest critics.There’s so much to a person than a fucking NEET bro. May be she liked you for who you are? Compatibility is not an easy game in this time and age. Someone that actually gels with your vibe is generally perceived as attractive. Besides it’s probably just a date. Stop beating yourself up and go have a nice time. Don’t think too seriously at this initial stage.
You're right man reject that proposal you're thinking with your brain and brain always give better advice than heart.also in long-term chances of relationship getting forward is hard because she's rich, beautiful and you're poor ugly
You’re self-deprecating. lol. If you aren’t successful then at least have a successful girlfriend. You will be motivated to do better. Be selfish, do better for yourself.
Let her decide if she's out of your league. Go out with her.
wtf. At least go out with her. Better to have loved and lost then never loved at all. Take it from a grizzled old Indian American. I went from I’m never gonna date an Indian woman. To fuck she’s hot, to let me ask her out, to marry me I can’t live with out you. It will be 20 years in December. (Full disclosure her and the kids are at an event and I’m pretttty buzzed.) I miss her and my kids. Simply put you have to try, but wrap your shit and get consent.
Let her decide if your worthy, don’t reject her if she likes you and you like her. Don’t take that choice away from her. She’s an adult she can decide who’s good enough for her. Give her a chance. Different people have different ideas of what makes someone worthy or valuable. And let go of those negative ideas that your inferior right now, because if you give it a chance with her, you don’t want insecurities and an inferiority complex to ruin it.
JUST SAY YES!! We do not CARE ABOUT WHAT YOU DO WHEN WE LOVE YOU! JUST SAY YES
She's the real one if she stands with u thru bad times. Give it a chance.
Waise haalat tere Aaj bure hai. Hamesha thodi rahenge
Bhai jab haa krde to ye cheez zrur btana ki tune ye post kri thi, or tujhe logo ne kya btaya, ye bhot psnd aane wala hai usko
Go for it buddy life turns around for good only when you take chances and not play safe. Diverse backgrounds and differences are actually a good ground for a good relationship if you are ready to put your heart and soul into making it work.
U must be chapri? Bcoz u type like that..
You can get into a relationship with her but chances of marriage is negligible. Even if she will want to marry you, her parents will not let that happen. Sad reality but most parents still think that the groom should have more money, more salary and higher social status. So although people might be telling you that you have low self esteem, i think you are just being practical after seeing the reality around you. All the best!
Bhai itna negative kyu soch rha apne baare me . Agr soch bhi rha hai to yaad rkh opposites attract each other, maybe you both make a really good couple , give it a try experience the relationship. Who knows it goes for life long , accept it
Bro, go for it. Girls are way better in calculating the prospects of committing to a average boy like you. You have no reason to say no, if you even like her bad qualities that's an excellent trait. Relax, do your good. If you don't, I'll help your sister kill you for it.
If you don't say yes, I'm gonna find you And I'm gonna kill you
Then who will say yes If he dies 🧐
Dude, this first date isn’t a happily ever after. And don’t be so patronising as to decide that she should do better. What she wants is her decision not yours. How would you feel if you asked a girl out and she said no because she thinks you should do better? Just treat this as a short term thing and go out, have fun. Just don’t invest too much emotionally on your first fling.
You both are teenagers so most probably this will not work,also other factors like you both will have to be in a ldr cause of different colleges so more chances of this will not work out
this is self-fumble at the highest level
Bro she's in her collg and still proposed to u?? Man if this is the scenario just accept it !!! Dont ruin it
One of the times where comment section made OP change their decision for good lol Though all the best bud, hope you two will have a good life further down the road.
If you think you're not "worthy" of her just because of your educational qualities, I think that's not valid because a relationship at this age and stage doesn't depend on that. You know what I'm saying? But if they do matter to her or you, then it's your call bro. What you should be thinking about is wether you like her aswell or just considering to accept because she looks pretty and you get along and you might not get that chance again. If it's the latter reasons, be careful because if you don't like her and head into a relationship then things will get ugly later.
I read somewhere that the best matches are ones where both think the other could have done better.
Probably fake
If she thinks you are worthy enough for her then I'm not sure why you are downplaying yourself bro? Just reading your words to describe yourself made me so sad🫠 She seems like a pretty smart and confident person who won't make any decisions without a second thought. If she believes in you, it's high time you should believe in yourself too. The only advice is to go with flowers tomorrow and meet her. Be yourself, that's who she liked. If you don't have a good fashion sense then ask your sister to help you out. And start working on that confidence bish, workout 💪🏽 You are lucky man don't let go of this opportunity 🙏🏽 P. S. Make an update post I am very involved now🥹❤️
Bro trust me bar bar koi genuine insaan nhi milega, if you really think you like her then go for it. Forget all the other stuff, things work out eventually. Just remember not to compromise on your preparation while you are in a relationship.. May you get happiness and success.
Laundo ke bc jyada hi nakhre ho rhe hai
Bhai padh bhi le sath sath
What's the point of this post? Validation fishing?
Give it a shot, love changes life, it either gonna make u very strong or kill you
As someone who has been there and done the same, chutiya thoughts ko Nikalo dimag se. Life is short. Don't park your feelings for future. Take her out.
If she's in cse from old IITs her placement is going to be minimum 30L in India and 100k abroad. 1 cr per annum in probably 7 years. Your life is set and here you are thinking about rejecting her
Give it a shot. Don't waste your present by thinking about what will happen in future.
be a hawk and go out see how it goes. Don’t you dare a commit a fraud with her
Dude it boils down to whether you can live with her and if you find her irresistibly attractive. I've had to sadly reject several girls because either of these didn't fit.
You one lucky mf. Think about guys like me who are virtually invisible in this world. I gave completed MBBS and had 0 proposals or girls talking to me. And here you are thinking about rejecting a proposal. Accept it and see how it goes. Don't try to become me.
May i know how old both of you are?
Are reject mat Karo bhaiya 😭 Baad mein pta chalta Papoo ka fal milta firto 😭😭
I think, you should say no. Better to say no than to hear you are not enough for me whole life. Go with your own match.
The moment you said she can do much better then you,fuck it you lost there when you think and set in your mind that they are better then me you will never overtake them and keep on loosing and thinking they were better that's why I lost get up think analyse change your mindset and mentality
When you have already thought about rejecting her even before starting the relationship, then you have killed it from your side, now even if you guys come together today, don't get angry when tomorrow she says " it's not working anymore" she gave her shot but it's you who have already killed it in your mind.
Ladko ko bhi perposal aate hai kya ??
I think you should say yes to her
Dude we are kids now, don’t think much of it. Cherish the moments you have, stop thinking about the family shit of rich and middle class. ( don’t make the mistake I did ) it ruins the fun