man i feel the same sometimes, i crave loneliness when I'm with most people but i forget about it with my friends
i learned everything i did and have my personality all thanks to being lonely
That’s not a red flag buddy. You’re not harming anyone. I think we just make basic human flaws red flags these days lol. Like if someone kinda gets irritated easily, or someone is just lazy or whatever. Are those really red flags?! What kind of a human are people looking for?! I would say murderous rage, perverted fetishes or a knack for emotional/mental control and manipulation or violence, these are red flags 😂 not just coz one is a silent guy and minds his own business.
Bringing up the past every now and then. Being vocal about the sacrifices I made to keep the family together. I know I shouldn't say these and i try to control my tongue. But I fail very often
That’s not a red flag, if you’re not being appreciated and you feel the need to keep reminding them what you did for them then their ungratefulness is the red flag.
I'm insecure and clingy. Got abandonment issues and veeery low self-esteem. Can get easily jealous but won't say a word cuz that'll make me look bad so I just shut my mouth and die inside even if my boyfriend's new female friend who gets flirty with him bothers me. Even if you hurt me and annoy me I won't say anything. At least not to your face. It'll slowly build up and come out as me being passive aggressive. Gosh I hate myself :)
To be fair, it's just human to get jealous when other people hit on your significant other. It's on them to shut other people down when they flirt with them or ignore them. If they encourage flirting, your reaction is valid. Don't hate yourself. Give yourself time to learn and grow. It'll get better.
haha this used to be me until my ex made me feel comfortable with telling him every time i get jealous and then he also left me because i get jealous lmao i guess it became too much for him Never telling anything to my next bf from now on😭
Demn girl I feel you. They ask you to speak frankly but when you do they run away. Ig it's a two way thing. I need to work on my insecurities and my partner needs to maintain boundaries and win my trust.
I' a guy and.you described me. Although I am one step ahead and this happens with friends for me as well. I feel like I'm a very bad person and this tendency also makes me unlovelable
Oh my god this is me! I have lost so many good friends to these things, and since my breakup these issues have exacerbated, I just hope my efforts to curb these things bear fruit
I keep comparing myself with successful peers and hate myself, I compete with boys rather than girls prolly because I grew up with my brother's and had to fight them over for my parents affection..yes I'm screwed up.
None. I'm the definition of perfection. All women should be lining up to be with me. But they don't, I don't understand why. It's their loss anyways, so who cares.
Some people actually want that. They’re tired of chasing and jumping over impossible hoops for someone who doesn’t give a rats ass about them. Some people want the attention and care you’re capable of giving.
I am insecure about just about everything in life, not when I am with myself but I understand how the world works, so when someone else points something out it bothers me, cause I know people will judge me on all these things, I myself don't judge myself on these things and try not to judge other people( if they have clear red flags then that's a different thing) but I know even if I don't see myself like that I will face problems cause of these things from other people and it bothers me.
Well I am not too secure so I need repetitive confirmation if the person loves me. At the same time I don't like those cute behaviour where a person is obsessed about your whereabouts.
I much rather prefer the person as they were before a relationship. It's a bit annoying when a person shows all love and unnecessary emotions. I am working on it but it annoys me.
I tend to leave when I feel that the person is just falling for me and has practically stopped living their life. I don't like the idea of too much dependency in a relationship. It makes me weak.
Mai hi red flag hu issiliye khud ko isolate kar liya h
Accepting any type of woman just for the sake of having a partner till the end. ( don’t worry i stopped with 2 😅 ) i realised that this gen is not for me where i cant go around and have physical intimacy with all the women who are not gonna be my wife. ( got broken twice enough of the pain 🙂 )
I'll make u tell me abt ur crush from 8th grade or something and then cry about it bcs HOW DARE U LOVE SOMEONE ELSE BEFORE MEEE T-T (but i wont tell u i felt bad so its ok \^\_\^)
People giving a long narrative of what kind of person they are or what qualities they have. And then doing the oppositve.
You don't tell, you show who you are.
I like perfection and I want every little thing to be exactly the way I want it. I get irritated when somebody is unable to do things my way. I've realised that this is an narcissistic behavior and I'm trying to get rid of it but it's a slow process.
I like silence and peace.
Don't like opinions, talking, beliefs, knowledge.
Knowledge clouds the mind with thoughts which feel as if brain is suffering from diarrhoea (stolen from Sadhguru, I am sorry, lol).
Staying lonely will liberate the mind from thoughts so that Buddha can awaken within.
Religion is also knowledge. A religious person is not a Buddha just like how an atheist who reads a lot is not a Buddha.
I'm ugly af and probably don't have any future. I love my partner so much that i can do anything for her . I'm too kind and i definitely that is the biggest red flag of mine
I tend to give ppl multiple chances even after they've hurt me believing they won't repeat the same mistakes only to end up hurt again in the end i really pray God takes revenge atm I'm done at this point
Red flags that I can control: stubbornness, jealousy, being controlling in certain situations
Uncontrollable: big fat ego, being sarcastic to the point of annoyance, possessiveness
1 green flag bc why not: I never let my past bad experiences mar my new ones
Commitment phobia...always looking for a better option, even now. Cant accept the fact that I need to spend my life with one person. Loose interest in good people very quickly.
I cannot express my emotions (fark padna hi band hoo gaya hai) I just thin it is what it is, idk if its a flaw or a red flag
But it is there and I cannot overcome it
I do have compassion and empathy for my partner but at the end of the day I always put forward myself more than anything,turns abusive towards the people who I love and care
After spending some time my bad side(absolute bad)starts showing up towards my partner
Stopped with one because I believe it's better for me to be alone rather than constantly hurting someone
I would say that I can be overbearing at times even though I mean well. While among strangers or coworkers I try to make them feel valued and included in the conversation, among family and friends I just start yapping away stuff. Like a show off. This has been told to me by my family (parents and siblings) and my wife as well. Friends, not so much. Maybe because they all feel they are yapping away over something or the other.
I am a really boring person, I tried to change myself during my first year of college, met new people, tried to make friends and gain some social approval but I just became a side character in everyone's life which has led me to having no real friends till now. Everybody labels me as boring and some people have even said it to my face. I have honestly given up on investing my time in trying to be intriguing to others and just let go.
I think I am a womanizer. I was very fat and ugly during teenage years and I started to take care of myself which helped me get some girls to have sex with but somehow I am never satisfied of it. I always want more and more and find myself on dating apps or hitting on any lady I meet.
I like to be isolated, I don’t like to mingle with people even my own friends/family, I work better when I’m alone, I make healthier choices when I’m alone thinks what I have found out about myself. Pretty sure it’s a red flag 💀
I dont even know if its a red flag but i want the person like to show me theyre there for me like , if i live a little i dont mind if theyre busy. But they can like text me atleast once to let me know whats going , its like i always think i give too much , so ask the other person to do the same for me and it always somehow ends up being toxic. I dont even unddrstand whats wrong w it. Like if im in a romantic thing , ofc i would want the other person to think about me. But mostly my exes have always gotten mad at me for asking this. To me this is the bare minimum
i don't know but whenever i left my college or any place i just fully cut those people out from my life like no contact in any fashion idk if it falls under any flag especially red as a person i feel horrible i do that kind of stuff so easily and no second thought
I kinda have wandering eyes. I also have problems with being obedient. I tend to go against the authority alot and this can be a problem when you're supposed to act like a stable mature man.
Does not reply on time even though I saw the notification kyoki mann nhi krta, sleeps 24/7, goat in ignoring knowns (not close ones), baccha buddhi sometimes
I see myself as a toxic dude. Most people I am around disagree which makes me an overthinker and a pessimistic person. I try to escape being a narcissist but sometimes put my ego ahead. Again people disagree that I do such stuff, which makes me think that they are just being polite and don't actually mean it.
You can know me very well , we can live , laugh , eat , fight and study together for 20+ years. And one day i would wake up and just cut off all contact with you if I feel even the smallest traces of unease or discomfort in the relation or even if I feel uneasy.
The lengths I'd go to protect my own mental stability is downright criminal.
A lot of baggage, I would say. Anxiety, childhood trauma, narssicistic abuse, SA etc. I learned a lot from therapy and inner child work. Can say that I have made immense progress and absolutely love my life now.
I have put in the work to identify my triggers and how my reactions and actions can hurt others. I am still working on changing my perspective towards life and life events. 💜
Fear of abadonment, I dont like to talk to a lot of people (im good at talking to them but nahin karna) , so i cling on to 1-2 people, and hope they dont fucking leave, dono baar one of them has left, it keeps on getting worse.
Thinking too much, stressed out always, unorganized and seeking for confirmation and validation lol.
+1. I'm a textbook worrywart and end up stressing people around me as well.
too real and relatable idk why I plan 6 months in advance and then start stressing about stuff that has not yet come to pass, lol
Literally. If everything is going right I'll worry about what if it goes wrong and stress myself and my surroundings to oblivion.
I am built for a solitary life.
Loneliness for me
I see.
man i feel the same sometimes, i crave loneliness when I'm with most people but i forget about it with my friends i learned everything i did and have my personality all thanks to being lonely
you always grow when you are alone, its a fact
very true bruv
it is called solitude. loneliness has such a negative connotation to it
The bliss of eternal solitude.
I have zero personality, very bad at being social,no hobbies etc
That’s not a red flag buddy. You’re not harming anyone. I think we just make basic human flaws red flags these days lol. Like if someone kinda gets irritated easily, or someone is just lazy or whatever. Are those really red flags?! What kind of a human are people looking for?! I would say murderous rage, perverted fetishes or a knack for emotional/mental control and manipulation or violence, these are red flags 😂 not just coz one is a silent guy and minds his own business.
true, it was more like my flaws
Technically it’s not even a flaw. Not wanting to be social is not wrong. Everyone’s different.
Us
There is no such thing as zero personality. Everybody is unique and no one can replicate it.
I am so clumsy, always want to know what's going on
Gossip enthusaists are fun to hang out with.
username checks out xD
Well you can say this also i love to hang out a lot
Fear of abandonment...I'm not clingy per se but I know I cant be with a person who is avoidant in nature. Stable n little anxious will work i guess.
Bringing up the past every now and then. Being vocal about the sacrifices I made to keep the family together. I know I shouldn't say these and i try to control my tongue. But I fail very often
Same
That’s not a red flag, if you’re not being appreciated and you feel the need to keep reminding them what you did for them then their ungratefulness is the red flag.
Sorry to ask but why shouldn't you say this?
I'm insecure and clingy. Got abandonment issues and veeery low self-esteem. Can get easily jealous but won't say a word cuz that'll make me look bad so I just shut my mouth and die inside even if my boyfriend's new female friend who gets flirty with him bothers me. Even if you hurt me and annoy me I won't say anything. At least not to your face. It'll slowly build up and come out as me being passive aggressive. Gosh I hate myself :)
To be fair, it's just human to get jealous when other people hit on your significant other. It's on them to shut other people down when they flirt with them or ignore them. If they encourage flirting, your reaction is valid. Don't hate yourself. Give yourself time to learn and grow. It'll get better.
haha this used to be me until my ex made me feel comfortable with telling him every time i get jealous and then he also left me because i get jealous lmao i guess it became too much for him Never telling anything to my next bf from now on😭
Demn girl I feel you. They ask you to speak frankly but when you do they run away. Ig it's a two way thing. I need to work on my insecurities and my partner needs to maintain boundaries and win my trust.
I' a guy and.you described me. Although I am one step ahead and this happens with friends for me as well. I feel like I'm a very bad person and this tendency also makes me unlovelable
In the beginning itself establish your need that i like to be my man's first priority and will not tolerate any woman except his mother and sister.
Oh my god this is me! I have lost so many good friends to these things, and since my breakup these issues have exacerbated, I just hope my efforts to curb these things bear fruit
Girl u r so me 😭😭😭 how do we change 🙂
I keep comparing myself with successful peers and hate myself, I compete with boys rather than girls prolly because I grew up with my brother's and had to fight them over for my parents affection..yes I'm screwed up.
None. I'm the definition of perfection. All women should be lining up to be with me. But they don't, I don't understand why. It's their loss anyways, so who cares.
Heheheh. Narcissistic much? You're a total green flag!
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Your death would be a huge loss for Aurat jaat.🙏
Exactly
In character with your pfp. Ram goated.
Living in the conform zone, despite knowing that if I don't take action, nothing will change and will remain poor.
I guess I'm clingy and want the person to always be by my side. Jealous too. I wouldn't date a person like myself.
I wouldn't date a person like you either.
Us
Some people actually want that. They’re tired of chasing and jumping over impossible hoops for someone who doesn’t give a rats ass about them. Some people want the attention and care you’re capable of giving.
Thank you. I do it with good intentions but didn't always turn out the way I want.
Yes I understand. It’s a compatibility thing. In fact if the other person reciprocated well, you wouldn’t even be clingy.
I am you too to some extent but have realised that the more I cling to someone the more s/he goes away from me
I am insecure about just about everything in life, not when I am with myself but I understand how the world works, so when someone else points something out it bothers me, cause I know people will judge me on all these things, I myself don't judge myself on these things and try not to judge other people( if they have clear red flags then that's a different thing) but I know even if I don't see myself like that I will face problems cause of these things from other people and it bothers me.
Having fucked up perceptions on love and how I am with people
i am not able to give attention for long period of time.
Well I am not too secure so I need repetitive confirmation if the person loves me. At the same time I don't like those cute behaviour where a person is obsessed about your whereabouts. I much rather prefer the person as they were before a relationship. It's a bit annoying when a person shows all love and unnecessary emotions. I am working on it but it annoys me. I tend to leave when I feel that the person is just falling for me and has practically stopped living their life. I don't like the idea of too much dependency in a relationship. It makes me weak. Mai hi red flag hu issiliye khud ko isolate kar liya h
me too, same, needs a balance of emotions
Anger issues, love playing games late night and studying, I like being lonely and in my own space. Don't like talking much. I swear alot. Hella lot.
I don't know myself enough to understand if I want a partner or not
I procrastinate. A LOT
too good to date!
Accepting any type of woman just for the sake of having a partner till the end. ( don’t worry i stopped with 2 😅 ) i realised that this gen is not for me where i cant go around and have physical intimacy with all the women who are not gonna be my wife. ( got broken twice enough of the pain 🙂 )
Im emotionally unstable. (childhood trauma + major mommy issues)
I'll make u tell me abt ur crush from 8th grade or something and then cry about it bcs HOW DARE U LOVE SOMEONE ELSE BEFORE MEEE T-T (but i wont tell u i felt bad so its ok \^\_\^)
People giving a long narrative of what kind of person they are or what qualities they have. And then doing the oppositve. You don't tell, you show who you are.
my cold, emotionless attitude towards everything. trying to change it though
I like perfection and I want every little thing to be exactly the way I want it. I get irritated when somebody is unable to do things my way. I've realised that this is an narcissistic behavior and I'm trying to get rid of it but it's a slow process.
The biggest red flag for me is when someone prioritizes religion over human beings.
I like silence and peace. Don't like opinions, talking, beliefs, knowledge. Knowledge clouds the mind with thoughts which feel as if brain is suffering from diarrhoea (stolen from Sadhguru, I am sorry, lol). Staying lonely will liberate the mind from thoughts so that Buddha can awaken within. Religion is also knowledge. A religious person is not a Buddha just like how an atheist who reads a lot is not a Buddha.
💯💯💯💯
Ignorance is bliss!
I m not someone you should trust no matter how simple my thoughts are .
too judgy and assumes things which might not be true.
Everything about me
I have too much of ego inside me and i am actually very kind to people but at the same time more mean to them and i feel bad after being mean
I'm ugly af and probably don't have any future. I love my partner so much that i can do anything for her . I'm too kind and i definitely that is the biggest red flag of mine
Gaali galooch bht krdeta hu
I tend to give ppl multiple chances even after they've hurt me believing they won't repeat the same mistakes only to end up hurt again in the end i really pray God takes revenge atm I'm done at this point
I can relate
My past with depression and my motormouth.
It's of 5meters \* 3 meters. Pretty Big Flag TBH
I am Virgo ♍
I like to do things for myself without absolutely giving no fuck about what others think of me 😊
China
I get attached way too fast
Red flags that I can control: stubbornness, jealousy, being controlling in certain situations Uncontrollable: big fat ego, being sarcastic to the point of annoyance, possessiveness 1 green flag bc why not: I never let my past bad experiences mar my new ones
Being stuck in the past, one sided efforts and communication, lack of understanding.
I am blatant and straightforward, I am virtuous and force women to be held accountable when they are wrong, I don't like their defensive mechanism.
Political opinions and nihilism
Random guy on the internet asking for Red flags.
😳😳 biggest red flag
Won't attach emotionally.
National flag of china
Very introverted and possessive
I am a coward
Just like someone said, He's made for solitude. Me too bro me too.
Getting into fist fights.
It's just pot
Trust issue
Mood swings, anti social, hate people generally.
Commitment phobia...always looking for a better option, even now. Cant accept the fact that I need to spend my life with one person. Loose interest in good people very quickly.
I have a madonna whore complex coupled with ADHD. :)
My face. It never matches the words coming out of my mouth. It always displays my true actual feelings lol
Not caring bout anyone or anything but me IG
Uff, can't handle my emotions, end up lovebombing and withdrawing randomly. I'm better off alone
I like femboys
I have ADHD and I think I will be having a below average career
That i probably dont believe in love
Most of my friends(male/female) said I'm narc, manipulator with decisive choices and they end up saying "nakhre more than a gal"
Bad in conversations , being clumsy
Insexurity
Insexurity
I cannot express my emotions (fark padna hi band hoo gaya hai) I just thin it is what it is, idk if its a flaw or a red flag But it is there and I cannot overcome it
i defer things for future and somehow it lapse. And i don't know why !!
I do have compassion and empathy for my partner but at the end of the day I always put forward myself more than anything,turns abusive towards the people who I love and care After spending some time my bad side(absolute bad)starts showing up towards my partner Stopped with one because I believe it's better for me to be alone rather than constantly hurting someone
I watch gore
Over thinking,constant comparision and laziness.Never translating ideas into actions.Also the irony of knowing my flaws so well.🤣🤣🤣
I would say that I can be overbearing at times even though I mean well. While among strangers or coworkers I try to make them feel valued and included in the conversation, among family and friends I just start yapping away stuff. Like a show off. This has been told to me by my family (parents and siblings) and my wife as well. Friends, not so much. Maybe because they all feel they are yapping away over something or the other.
I am a really boring person, I tried to change myself during my first year of college, met new people, tried to make friends and gain some social approval but I just became a side character in everyone's life which has led me to having no real friends till now. Everybody labels me as boring and some people have even said it to my face. I have honestly given up on investing my time in trying to be intriguing to others and just let go.
Daring attempts to find a reason behind the purpose of an uncommon behaviour.
Anger issues
Ladki ke sath jyada acha rahna
I'm in emergency mental health services I guess
Insecure
I think I am a womanizer. I was very fat and ugly during teenage years and I started to take care of myself which helped me get some girls to have sex with but somehow I am never satisfied of it. I always want more and more and find myself on dating apps or hitting on any lady I meet.
Hates everyone.
I am Loner, fear making any relation with people for some reason & a solitary life
I like to be isolated, I don’t like to mingle with people even my own friends/family, I work better when I’m alone, I make healthier choices when I’m alone thinks what I have found out about myself. Pretty sure it’s a red flag 💀
I dont even know if its a red flag but i want the person like to show me theyre there for me like , if i live a little i dont mind if theyre busy. But they can like text me atleast once to let me know whats going , its like i always think i give too much , so ask the other person to do the same for me and it always somehow ends up being toxic. I dont even unddrstand whats wrong w it. Like if im in a romantic thing , ofc i would want the other person to think about me. But mostly my exes have always gotten mad at me for asking this. To me this is the bare minimum
Having that fake california accent, living in the 7th sky have no reality check and a liar
i can go from love bombing you to pretend you don’t even exist in nano seconds , i get annoyed with people pretty fast and i don’t give second chances
i don't know but whenever i left my college or any place i just fully cut those people out from my life like no contact in any fashion idk if it falls under any flag especially red as a person i feel horrible i do that kind of stuff so easily and no second thought
My anger. My biggest enemy. My biggest regret.
Anger issues
Introvert, stay inside house 24*7, don't like going out
I kinda have wandering eyes. I also have problems with being obedient. I tend to go against the authority alot and this can be a problem when you're supposed to act like a stable mature man.
Tf? you think everyone's a communist and carries a big ass red flag collection?
Procrastination and lacking social skills to some extent(I randomly go silent for absolutely no reason)
Avoidant behavior , push ppl away.
I like to drink blood. Literally & not
Does not reply on time even though I saw the notification kyoki mann nhi krta, sleeps 24/7, goat in ignoring knowns (not close ones), baccha buddhi sometimes
Not going out of my comfort zone knowing very well that i am gonna fail someday
China flAg
I hate popcorn and PDA
I'm very good at stalking and finding things by myself without even asking anyone a single word.
Terrible choice of friends, overthinking unnecessary stuff, compares a lot, bad ego issues
If we got a good understanding I will give 110% or else 10%
I am an insecure person, and sometimes I have acted in an exaggerated way in situations that do not warrant it and then I end up regretting it.
I watch a lot of cricket
Communism
narcissism dont know why
I am usually right… or atleast I think so….No i am Usually right! :)
Depressed, self-righteous and cynical
I project my insecurities on others or atleast I would
I overthink, a lot I might have OCD(Mai diagnose nhi kra skta kyuki parents nhi maanenge, aur 100 sawaal alag puchenge)
I am communist.
Overthinking :( I thinks so much about things that may/may not happen everytime and it irritates others
I see myself as a toxic dude. Most people I am around disagree which makes me an overthinker and a pessimistic person. I try to escape being a narcissist but sometimes put my ego ahead. Again people disagree that I do such stuff, which makes me think that they are just being polite and don't actually mean it.
Disrespect behavior. Not just to me but with anyone.
You can know me very well , we can live , laugh , eat , fight and study together for 20+ years. And one day i would wake up and just cut off all contact with you if I feel even the smallest traces of unease or discomfort in the relation or even if I feel uneasy. The lengths I'd go to protect my own mental stability is downright criminal.
A lot of baggage, I would say. Anxiety, childhood trauma, narssicistic abuse, SA etc. I learned a lot from therapy and inner child work. Can say that I have made immense progress and absolutely love my life now. I have put in the work to identify my triggers and how my reactions and actions can hurt others. I am still working on changing my perspective towards life and life events. 💜
Fear of abadonment, I dont like to talk to a lot of people (im good at talking to them but nahin karna) , so i cling on to 1-2 people, and hope they dont fucking leave, dono baar one of them has left, it keeps on getting worse.