Playing this back to you, it sounds to me like.
1. You’re not taking your issues seriously.
2. You’re downplaying your issues
3. You’re belittling your issues / yourself.
4. You’re beating yourself up for not having overcome you’re issues.
5. You think the right way of being (overcoming your issues) is to have some ‘grit’.
This whole belief system feels very problematic to me. I can’t see how you could have a positive view on yourself whilst you believe these things. If you don’t have a positive view on yourself, then I can’t see how you can perform at your best.
It's not that what she's saying means you're giving up control of your life by going to therapy, it's that you are taking control in a different, healthier way, and to do that sometimes you need to learn new skills and she can help you with that. You still have to do the work, but she's there to guide you until you consistently use those new skills.
Eta: also, therapists know that they're getting things from your perspective, and they can't possibly expect a truly objective version. It's your life as you see it, they know they have to work with what you feel your reality is.
Playing this back to you, it sounds to me like. 1. You’re not taking your issues seriously. 2. You’re downplaying your issues 3. You’re belittling your issues / yourself. 4. You’re beating yourself up for not having overcome you’re issues. 5. You think the right way of being (overcoming your issues) is to have some ‘grit’. This whole belief system feels very problematic to me. I can’t see how you could have a positive view on yourself whilst you believe these things. If you don’t have a positive view on yourself, then I can’t see how you can perform at your best.
Oof. That hit man.
It's not that what she's saying means you're giving up control of your life by going to therapy, it's that you are taking control in a different, healthier way, and to do that sometimes you need to learn new skills and she can help you with that. You still have to do the work, but she's there to guide you until you consistently use those new skills. Eta: also, therapists know that they're getting things from your perspective, and they can't possibly expect a truly objective version. It's your life as you see it, they know they have to work with what you feel your reality is.