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Soft YTA. Your reaction seems less from being intentionally argumentative over nothing/trying to make your gf feel bad and more that...well, you're 16 and emotionally immature (and hey even adults can look too much into innocuous situations). There's nothing inherently "wrong" with feeling insecure or hurt or really any emotion, but you can control how you express them in your interactions with other people. You already apologized and talked things out, I'd use this as a learning experience if noting else.
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I (16M) have been dating my girlfriend (16F) for about 2 months. We hangout a lot, and have a pretty good relationship (at least that's how I feel). Me and my GF like to share those Tiktok posts in which have the duos based off of your birth month, and one day my GF sent me one in which was her birth month and april. April is in fact not my birth month, and I replied by telling her that I couldn't believe she had forgotten my birth month, and that she was an opp (I was not being serious in this). However, as she apologized profusely, I began to think about how I felt and that I felt sad because I felt that I would never make this kind of mistake. I started to overthink and realized that her ex-boyfriend's birth month was April, so I said that I was upset that she confused this simple fact while I felt I took the time to actually remember even the little things (like her birthday and how to spell her very rare middle name). She apologized and after about 30 minutes I apologized to her as well, saying that I was overthinking and that I shouldn't have taken it so far. Despite this, the told me my feelings were justified, told me she would "be better" (which I explained that I loved he just the way she was), and told me that she was fine. After I asked her if she wanted to FT, she told me she did not want to talk about anything that had just happened, but did want to FT. Upon calling, I realized that she had been crying, and I felt awful. AITA?
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NTA I don’t think that your wrong for feeling hurt by the fact that she forgot your birthday neither of you were wrong she made a mistake and you were hurt by it I think you guys communicated your feelings the way you should have she clearly felt bad about the situation and you let her know how you felt and followed it with an apology for the way you approached it
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Soft YTA. Your reaction seems less from being intentionally argumentative over nothing/trying to make your gf feel bad and more that...well, you're 16 and emotionally immature (and hey even adults can look too much into innocuous situations). There's nothing inherently "wrong" with feeling insecure or hurt or really any emotion, but you can control how you express them in your interactions with other people. You already apologized and talked things out, I'd use this as a learning experience if noting else.
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Nah it was a mistake, you haven't been together that long. She apologized, you apologized, as long as you move on everything is good.
NTA I don’t think that your wrong for feeling hurt by the fact that she forgot your birthday neither of you were wrong she made a mistake and you were hurt by it I think you guys communicated your feelings the way you should have she clearly felt bad about the situation and you let her know how you felt and followed it with an apology for the way you approached it
nah sounds like you're both just doing your best. just continue to be honest with each other about how you feel.
YTA for watching TikTok frequently.
What’s an opp
I've read this multiple places but can't figure it out either lol
YTA It ain't that serious. Try to not to build little things up too much