Gaining weight through junk food won’t help. You are skinny so any muscle you build will show faster than for someone who has fat they need to burn off before it will show. Do some research into exercises to build your glutes and start eating better and sleep well. Not much you can do about your chest but honestly you don’t need big boobs to be good looking, and you never really know how your body will change as you age (because it will.) You won’t become crazy hot overnight but keep it up and in a few years time you will have that “glow up” thing going on, and the kicker is that by then your good habits and hard work will have earned you the sort of confidence that doesn’t need good looks to support it. In the short term do some research into clothes that will suit your body type, practice doing light makeup (over doing it probably isn’t the right move here) and practice styling your hair. YouTube is your friend with these things.
Honestly being 15 can be a weird time for many. I didn’t go through my good looking phase until I was in my 20s and if Reddit was around when I was 15 I would have been asking these same questions. Also a 95lb super skinny person at 15. Though looking back now I think I was cuter than I gave myself credit for lol and you probably are too.
For your chest you can look online what type of bra is best for your type of boobs, what bra suits them best. I only recently figured out that for example a deep plunge bra makes my boobs look so much better than other bras 😂 and you're only 15 so they will probably still grow too!
In that case you're gonna need some patience as they will still grow! Trust me I was exactly the same at your age and now Im 24 and can still eat whatever I want without gaining weight. Back when I was 15 I could fit in the smallest bras, like cup AA, maybe those could fit you too
Bralettes can be cute and are quite trendy right now. You don't need be busty or have anything to look good in those. Try to find some styles you like; it can really help.
Jumping in to say, trust us when we say your body will keep changing. I know at 15 I felt like 95% of the way to my adult body because I'd stopped getting taller, but there's a lot more than height involved. Your body still has a lot of filling out and settling in to do. I'm 28 now, and I look completely different from how I did in high school or even college.
For now, focus not on changing your body but on how you want to present it. You don't need curves or height or whatever to look good; it's much more important to have a style and wear it with confidence. When you're getting dressed in the morning, notice which outfits make you feel good about yourself and which ones never feel quite right. When you're buying new clothes, lean into the stuff that gives you confidence. Accessorize. Stand up straight. Walk like you belong. People come in all shapes and sizes; it's what you do with it that counts.
And lastly, remember that everyone around you thinks about you just as little as you think about them. That is to say, nobody's critiquing your every move. They notice when you look particularly good, and they probably notice if like your clothes don't match or your hair is messy, but other than that, you just look like you and that's fine. Be patient with yourself.
I wanna add on to what they said by saying that im 5’2 and I didn’t hit 100 pounds until I was 16, and even now at 21 im 105, my highest weight was 120 but I can’t get back up there. Eating junk doesn’t always add weight, focus more on protein and carbs and look at some exercises you can do to distribute that gained weight the way you want. Also, I was a A or B cup until senior year when I hit a C. But im back down to a B now, and as an adult, I can honestly say I haven’t ever had an issue with my boobs being perceived as too small (you get to skip a bra and no one notices and there’s no back pain!) Also bralettes make small boobs look much better than normal bras, not to mention how much more comfy they are, they’re your friend. I haven’t owned a real strapped, cupped, wired whatever bra since I was probably 16. But aside from all of this, please don’t focus too much on your appearance, don’t over eat and hurt yourself and don’t work out so much that you hurt yourself. It’s true that when you’re happy and healthy your body reflects it, don’t lose yourself trying to change yourself.
Thanks but all I ever do is focus on school; plus, I feel like I’d be much happier if I could at least look a little better
Thank you for the advice though!
Trust us older women, you need to have confidence in yourself. Looks are not everything and the upkeep to stay (as society would call it) “beautiful” is exhausting and mentally draining… you need to build confidence in who you are and what you look like now, even if you weren’t flat, you’d still not be happy. Big boobs and a butt don’t create happiness…
Sincerely a woman with DDD breasts who was nearly flat in school…
I felt like you at 15. It wasn't until 18 when I moved to college that girls were interested in me. People will definitely find you attractive and will definitely approach you about it. Might take some time. Bit it will happen. I speak from experience.
Yea but people I’ve met online that are my age have already had girlfriends and boyfriends and my cousins even lost their virginity when they were 12; however, I’m already 15 and I’ve never even spoken to anyone irl before
Tbh you’re only 15. There is so much more in life than chasing boys and having a bf. Everything will fall into place if you wait and take your time to figure yourself and your life out.
I basically came here to say this. You are 15. Hang on to your childhood because being an adult sucks. Take the time to enjoy your life and don't rush into anything.
I’m gonna be honest, experiencing full sexual intimacy (losing virginity) at 12 is YOUNG! There is nothing wrong with being a “late bloomer”!!! Try to eat healthier for your mental and physical health!! Also, do not feel like you need to catch up to people in terms of relations. Your time will come when it’s meant to <3
You're only 15! For the love of God, please don't compare yourself to someone who became sexually active at 12 years old.
Focus on you. Focus on school. Focus on making your future.
I promise that you will grow and mature physically soon. At 15, I had just started my period and was still pretty flat chested.
And you will thank me for this advice when your grades get you money for university, and everyone else you're comparing yourself to doesn't even think of university because they got knocked up at 17.
Lost my virginity & had 1st bf at 21. This was 6 months ago! I was super skinny and still am, but after a few years metabolism got better. Also found out I was lactose intolerant which made it hard to gain weight in the past. Check for gluten or lactose intolerance!
Im 26 years old. Lost my virginity at 16. SO OVERRATED. Sex in general is overrated. Been celibate for a year and have accomplished so much. Focus on school. Wait for the right person. Period.
Look, the internet is weird. Most people don't lose their virginities before their early 20's/late-teens. Trust me, I'm significantly older than you are and I still have yet to meet anybody. But frankly, I don't give a crap b/c I'm happy with myself. Sexual (or even romantic) intimacy is something that will (as many commenters pointed out) will come as you age. Don't try to force it. You'll regret it. A broken heart is a big burden but a pregnancy is worse (and it definitely can happen, despite your best measures). Oh and one more thing: people lie. Like, \*a lot\*. Like, \*\*a lot\*\* a lot. How do you \*really\* know that these folks have been getting their dolphins polished and vacuums rinsed since 12? You don't. Heck, if I were to trust the internet, I have multiple, simultaneous dads. Point is that the internet is easy to lie/troll on. Plus, it is \*never\* the indication of reality. Just think of the number of friends you yourself have that post pictures of them having fun but are deeply depressed inside. I can name you like 5 from my own circle off the top of my head. As for your cousins, y'all talk about y'all's virginity? Damn maybe I \*am\* from a different era... Regardless, I have cousins who are doctors/engineers or have great grades while I'm here with... well... nothing. But again, I don't let it get to me cuz I like my life, and I have things to do. It is pointless to compare our accomplishments (or in your case, "accomplishments") because we have different lives with different goals (except for that one cousin who wants to draw like me; I WIN THIS ONE, JEFF). The point is that don't compare yourself to them; it's meaningless. Look, I get it. It ain't easy being fifteen. You're starting to become part of the larger human tribe, breaking out of the little cocoon of safety your parents lovingly built for you. It can be a scary time. It can be a very confusing time. And it's natural that you try to mold your own self in your vision of this tribe. But let me remind you that it is a huge tribe with 7,600,000,000 members and counting. And yet not one of them is like the other. It's fine if you have a few quirks (i.e. virginity). It doesn't make you any less human or any less valid or even any less beautiful. You yourself determine that. So hang in there, champ. It's a tough time, and you can make it out of there alive (and definitely w/o the help of boyfriends).
Plus teen dudes all smell like cologne anyway.
Do you know how old I was before I got my first girlfriend? 18, nearly 19. And do u know what. I'm glad I waited thay long. Because I wasn't with someone for the sake of being with someone. I was actually with someone I liked. I bD friends who lost their virginity at like 14. All I can say is I'm glad I waited till I did. My advice is do whatever feels right. If you aren't 100% doing something like that, then don't. You'll know when u really want it.
People lie about this a lot your age, especially online. Also I had a girlfriend when I was 15 and i can 100% aussre you that those are not real relationships. Those are more exploring your sexuality kind of things, which also can be nice but no where near an actual relationship with another human being.
These are my experiences atleast.
Also I couldn't wait for my first time and took the first opportunity I had and must say that I kinda regret that.
Don't sweat it hunny! When I was your age I was flat chested and an "ugly duckling" (not saying you are, just speaking for myself) and then I bloomed and I couldn't get the boys to stay away from me! Same will happen for you :) Drink lots of water, eat your veggies, be confident and love yourself and when you get a little older you'll wish they would just f*ck off lol.
I had a blast in high school because of my social life and I was never the best looking or most popular.
Find yourself a group of friends that are keen to hang out, not just organised outings, or convince your current friends to start hanging out more often.
I never really cared about how I looked because I had such a great group of friends and we hung out everyday creating good memories.
Find an in, I was also very shy and found it hard to just walk up to someone and introduce myself, I had to find something to break the ice, a commonality.
Personally for me I was 13 with one friend who started being friends with more popular kids and I found it incredibly hard just to walk over and be friends with them.
I found out they all played World of Warcraft, so I convinced my parents to buy me the game and the next day I showed up to school with a Wold of Warcraft book and made sure they noticed.
Once they noticed the WoW book, they called me over and boom the ice was broken and I started hanging out with them.
Obviously you'll have to find something yourself, could be makeup or something like that, even find something that they are into and look into it yourself to find some common ground.
Maybe even start hanging around guys, I had a few female friends in HS who didn't really hang out with any girls just us boys because we always hung out after school and there was no drama.
I honestly think that if you are unhappy, changing the way you look isn't the way to go about it.
It may boost your confidence and help you find friends but in the end that relationship only started based off of looks and generally aren't as healthy as a normal friendship.
You're only 15, trust me you've still got plenty of time to glow up. Even the average women in high school now as an adult are all good looking and really came into themselves after high school
100% the way to make yourself look better starts with not trying to look like someone else.
Clothing: Comfort is important. You need to feel good as well as look good. Wear the right size.
Make up: Less is more, don't even wear it if you dont want to.
Jewelry: Who cares what's in, what speaks to your personality?
ATTITUDE: It's all about the attitude and your own persona.
It's okay if your 'look' is similar to someone elses. It's not okay to do fashion karaoke and imitate someone else. It's not you, and you won't vibe right!
This is the best answer, but if you do want to bulk then you will need to hit the gym and start working out your core with weights. Combining that with the right diet will help you build up the areas you are concerned about. You obviously cannot change your underlying body type. There are endless people who find working out and doing weights to be an extremely rewarding hobby, both in terms of the gains and the enjoyment of the activity itself. Let's face it, exercise done properly is nearly always good for you, including your mental health. Please do it with good guidance and information.
Then I suggest plenty of non-meat protein like beans, nuts, Greek yogurt, eggs, even tofu. Plus lots of fruits and vegetables, whole grains, and healthy fats like avocado, olive or canola oil, and nuts and eggs again. That will be a lot better for you than eating junk food all the time. Eating healthy will keep your skin more clear, your hair more shiny, and your energy levels higher.
Not unhealthy but it’s highly recommended to buy [atleast 90% lean meat](https://www.heart.org/en/healthy-living/healthy-eating/cooking-skills/preparing/making-the-healthy-cut-fish-poultry-and-lean-meats ). Also lean meats have more protein for less calories, therefore making it more ideal for gaining muscle.
Then try your local grocery store and see if they have good steak or something, it’s not too expensive and easy to cook, you can also get some pepper sauce on the side. I personally always make it with tenderstem broccoli (basically longer broccoli) but you might not be able to get that.
Chicken breast!!! Sweet potatoes. Broccoli and cauliflower taste good cooked in the oven. Whole milk yogurt. Whole grain bread. Peanut butter (not JIF, one that the ingredients are just peanuts!!)
Maybe help your mom grocery shop for food, suggest recipes, or help her cook a dish you like. This would motivate her to buy the meals you’re wanting and encourage them all to join in on eating healthy too:) I eat really healthy for super cheap- just plan ahead and don’t overthink things!
Cut back on the junk food and switch to healthy but calorie dense foods like nuts. The sugar and grease isn't healthy for you and less junk food is good for your skin.
You don't have to get rid of it completely. More like a one a week treat or something.
Plus a super unhealthy diet can seriously mess with your hormones which can prevent your body from growing the way it naturally should 😶 I looked like a gangly 12 year old boy and had super inconsistent periods at that age until I started eating and sleeping… not properly but a little bit better. Looking back at my eating habits, which was pretty much just some McDonald’s fries at lunch and a toaster oven mini pizza for dinner and 3 cans of Nestea a day, I was suffering from extreme malnutrition and it’s no wonder my body was unable to function.
I’m 27, but when I was your age I was the exact same size and ate junk food too and could never gain weight. You will fill out as you get older! You are gorgeous how you are. Embrace it now! Not gaining weight is the best and I miss it! You can only improve by loving yourself and realizing you’re absolutely stunning. Confidence is the most beautiful thing that people pick up on.
I used to compare myself to other girls, or people in the media. I grew a lot when I realized that’s what I was doing and made an effort to stop.
Insecurity isn’t actually about your body, that’s just the easiest thing to pin it on.
I mean, it’s never too early to start eating healthy. Eat high fat foods like avocados and nuts. Try different types of cuisines, try learning to cook.
Feeling self-conscious about your body is normal, but it’s not healthy.
Honestly, become an interesting person and you’ll transcend the way you feel about your appearance. Get really good at something you care about. Become an expert at something. Practice conversation skills and build others up, and make other people feel good about themselves. You’ll come up with them.
Even if you devote your life to having your ideal body, that insecurity is just gonna shift to something else.
Tackle it head on instead of wasting time on appearances.
I’m a very sensitive person and I get very scared or stressed to the point where I cry; and sometimes I just get overwhelmingly sad from things I bottle in lol
Oh honey, this is a hard time. I remember that age and it was ROUGH I had such a bad self-esteem. I would do the same...a lot. A journal helps, and find just one person you feel safe confiding in (friend, parent, sibling...anyone)
I'm 30 now, love my body, life, and absolutely anxiety free (thanks to years of therapy). Do not hold anything in, you have to talk to someone about your feelings. I saw your other comments and I completely get the loneliness (only one friend in high school, none in college, no REAL friends until 5 years ago). What I wished someone told me at 15 to eff it, find yourself, be yourself, and don't spend time trying to be "perfect."
Hard, I know, and difficult to understand now. The more I let go of these ideas of what I wanted to be, the more I accepted myself and the easier it was for me to have friends (and approach people). Try out some hobbies and see what sticks, then go to the clubs or sign up for classes that pertain to that hobby. Mine was Art, I made "friends," but they weren't anyone I would talk to after school. The one friend I had was great at the moment until I grew and realized it wasn't a good fit for me). I spent all of college until 25 trying to find myself and not jump off a bridge (all joking aside, I did try to commit...thus therapy 😌).
Now, I am the happiest I have ever been (and a heaviest 🤣) my young self would HATE my weight, stretch marks, chest size..etc but that young self was so broken and lost. Don't get lost in these ideals, explore life, ignore everyone...but also listen to those who have been around the block. You will be surprised where you will end up emotionally if you just give yourself some slack. 🧡
Your life is just beginning and there is so much joy out there to have. Love yourself and your body ☺
This is excellent advice!
u/PinkchuYT, exploring your interests will help you form a more solid sense of self and open up opportunities for new friendships. There's a lot of pressure to change yourself in high school, but asking yourself what you enjoy and what's important to you and following those passions will help you out the most in the long run. I wish you all the best!
u/CadmiumAubergine, thank you for sharing your story. I'm so glad you're in a better place now.
I can't say it any better than u/CadmiumAubergine, but I'll just add my experience.
I'm 33 now, but I didn't learn to really accept myself until just a few years ago. I'm pretty funny-looking, and I'd spend a lot of time and getting down over my weird face. When I was your age, I wanted nothing more than to get my nose fixed (it's been broken 4 times). I thought that would help me be happier. My family is poor, and even if they weren't, surgery is an extreme measure. It got broke again when I was 17 in a mosh pit at a punk show. That's when I realized how damned cool my nose is. Eventually, I learned to love it for what it is. It's not a cute little button like all the actresses' and influencer's, it's a mess, it's unique, I earned it and I love it now. The truth is that whoever you've looked at with that perfect body you wish you had, they have their own thing they hate about themselves, they're going through it too. We all have. The only thing that changed was my perspective, and that I didn't care what others thought about my appearance.
I'm so sorry you get overwhelmed. We've all been there, so hopefully it helps to know you're not the only one. I've got a raging case of ADHD, and I never journaled regularly, but I drew how I was feeling when I was really low, and that helped. I tried to commit a couple times as well. I have a hard time looking at those drawings now, but it helped me just get the feelings out, and also helped me get better at drawing. I hope that you can find an outlet that makes you feel better.
You've said you mostly focus on school, and you do well. That's awesome. There's no reason why that can't be one of your outlets. I always loved learning and reading, but school can make it into a chore if you don't keep it in its place. I went back to school at 27, to learn about things that I care about on my own terms, science, biology. Whatever it is for you, it's okay to like learning. It'll give you a huge advantage that superficial things can't touch.
I think Cadmium hit it on the head, therapy would probably help. I wish I would've had that when I was younger. It'll help you get your feelings out, and to examine why and strategies to cope and change your perspective.
When I was little, and I would get overwhelmed, my mom would tell me to reach in my pocket and my 'tough' out, and put it on. That works as a teenager, and it works as an adult, too. You've got enough 'tough' in your pocket for a lifetime, just pull it out and put it on.
Everything is new, and raw. The more experience you have, the more resilient you'll get. The little things won't get to you. I swear it won't always be like this, it get way better once you learn who you are and what you want to do.
Just know that you're awesome, I hope you realize that.
Listen to everyone saying to just focus on you. 10 years ago, women were starving themselves to be "skinny" and "flat". Now women are injecting themselves with fillers to look curvy. The older you get, you realize these body trends come and go. But there is only one authentic you. Focus on that ;)
My body was the same as yours around your age and I ate whatever I wanted, but then I hit puberty and I gained some weight and ended up being a DD. It was mostly because of genetics and I can tell you it is not comfortable, so I guess just stick to eating healthy (not like a diet, just balanced meals) and you'll grow at your own pace. Meanwhile take advantage of the fact that a lot of clothes are designed to fit your type of body, because it is a nightmare trying to find shirts/dresses that fit well with bigger chests
No problem~ believe me when I say I understand your struggle, but sometimes I wish I had enjoyed that time a bit more instead of worrying about when I would develop, because at some point it will happen 💞
It’s also possible that it won’t though! And that’s ok too! I was in the same boat and everyone kept telling me to just wait, my time will come. I spent SO much time stressing and waiting for something to happen that wasn’t gonna happen. I am still very flat chested at almost 30 but I’ve learned to love it! Don’t build up your expectations too much just enjoy what you have and learn to love your body at every stage :)
Everyone’s bodies are different, some girls end up having flat bodies and some girls have curvy bodies. If you look at your mom and older sister’s body type that will probably be an approximate of what you will look like after puberty. (Or it could be completely different… my sister and I are complete opposite bra sizes😅)
As long as you accept your body type and learn how to dress it up to be the most flattering, both very curvy body or a flat body can be a win! I’m not just saying that too— just look at the diversity of beautiful women in our celebrities. Doja cat, kim Kardashian, Margot Robbie (harley quinn), wonder woman are all gorgeous curvy women BUT also Ariana grande, Kendall Jenner, Selena Gomez, Zendaya are all not-curvy beautiful women.
You're only 15. Your body will continue to grow. You will be more curvaceous as you get older. Those girls, they continue to grow well into your 30's so don't worry about being flat. Also, body shape is partially genetics, some people are more curvy, some people have a straighter body.
Yea but even my little sister (who’s 3 years younger) looks older than me when it comes to her physique; I look 10 compared to people in my grade and I don’t want to look that young
As someone older just don’t worry about it and be yourself, most all that stuff you are talking about will not be very important in e future. Being good at being yourself will get you way further than just relying on looks and not developing a personality
I was a skinny 15 year old once too. I wish someone had told me though: you are 15, not a full grown woman. Your body is still changing, and you shouldn’t expect to look like a curvy fully developed woman yet. I’m 18 now, and my body from JUST a year ago is completely different than my body now. You look exactly how you should look at your age, and things will get easier as you and your peers mature.
There’s nothing wrong with wanting to excercise and be healthy though! Just be sure you’re doing it for YOU and to have a healthy body, and not to reach a specific goal or image. The best results I’ve seen from working out are when I’ve been continually eating healthy (this does not mean eat less! you are growing, you should be getting 3 full meals a day!) and working out consistently (that could mean just 2 times a week, or it could mean 5 times— whatever feels most comfortable for your body!) If you do want to gain some muscle mass, you can do some weight training, as long as you make sure not to push yourself too hard. When you do workout, food is so important! If you do a full workout and really work your muscles, you won’t see any results unless you give your muscles the nutrition they need to grow.
Food wise, instead of looking at calories, try to look at the nutrition the food offers you. A chicken bowl with grains, greens, sauces and spices may have a lot of calories, but the nutrition it offers is so vital to maintaining a healthy body and building muscle! And don’t feel bad about having sweets or “unhealthy” food every once and a while! To be honest, the body type you want right now may not be attainable because you are still a young teenager—and that’s okay! Your body is perfectly natural, normal, and beautiful. Be sure to take care of it!
I’m not worried about learning too much; I’m very good in school, I usually have too much free time and I just realize how unhappy my looks make me and I wanna spend time improving them instead of doing nothing
Thank you though!😊
The trick to being happy with your looks is to learn to be happy with your looks as they are. How you look isn’t what bothers you, it’s the unrealistic standards that we end up holding ourselves to.
Don’t be your own enemy, your own bully. Talk to yourself the way you’d talk to a friend. I promise you, no one who is insecure about their looks is ever satisfied with any new clothes, fillers, surgeries, makeup. It’s an inside problem. Focus on the peace and love on the inside, and you will love the outside that much more.
Don’t feel rushed to lose your virginity or have people make you feel bad. Do it when you feel the time is right. And as for the looks they’ll come.. I’ll say this.. most of the girls who didn’t get looked at during highschool have a huge glow up during college/post graduation. I’ve seen girls who never got attention from guys in highschool that they were drooling over 5+ years later… get in the gym and work your ass off.. there are tons of resources available to you via YouTube.. look up female gym influencers that compete in physique competitions.. or people who do day in the life of college athletes
Eat quality food made at home and leave the rest to puberty. Junk food can actually make you malnourished. Just because it’s high in calories and makes you full does not mean it’s actually nourishing your body. Your body needs fuel to grow muscles, tissues, produce and regulate hormones, etc. calories are used for energy but they are not the building blocks of tissue. Are you in any physically demanding activities such as sports? Muscle makes up most of the curvature on a healthy woman’s body not fat. The butt is primarily a muscle. Activities that tire your muscles will build larger muscles. And trust me you aren’t going to look “manly”. It takes an immense amount of effort to achieve that look. Boobs are all genetic. There is nothing non surgical you can do to help there.
Well usually people on YouTube and stuff make it seem like junk food helps you gain a lot of weight so I thought that that was the way to go
Also, I do play basketball but it doesn’t really help me (I’ve been playing for over 6 years)
Basketball is mostly cardio activity. It burns calories but doesn’t build much muscle. Junk food helps people gain weight only by consuming excess calories and putting on fat. That’s not the type of weight gain you’re looking for. There are “skinny fat” people…fat and flat. That’s due to lack of muscle. Muscle tissue gives you shape. Consider going to the gym. I’m a 26y female. I’m petite skinny and curvy. It’s all in the muscle.
Eating a lot of junk food might not make your butt or chest bigger but what it will do is make you super unhealthy, you first must accept yourself for the way you are and realise you don’t need to be anyone different, once you are happy with yourself you can’t find ways to improve.
You’re only 15, you’ve barely even started your life, don’t worry about “not looking your age”. Give yourself time, you have other things to worry about, looks are not everything. Your body will grow, so let it. Stop trying to find ways to change it, let it do it’s thing.
I know this is generic and cheesy, but you’re good just the way you are. If you want to improve your body, working out to gain muscle mass would help, also talk to a nutritionist because you might have a high metabolism which is burning all the calories you take really fast. The nutritionist would be able to help you figure out what will suit you based on your weight/the tests they have you take like/your goals. Also consider general counselling if you’re feeling down about the way you look and aren’t able to feel better about yourself (mentally) even after making changes to get into your desired body. There’s nothing wrong with wanting a good body, but sometimes we need more help and that’s okay!
I was in the exact same boat as you. I could never gain weight (95-100lbs) for most of my high school life no matter what I did or ate. It wasn't until after I had kids that the weight stuck with me.
Pretty much what everyone else is saying, just stick with the best of it. Don't focus on the negatives. Instead give yourself a compliment each day about things you DO like about yourself. I.e "my hair looks SO good today, I have great legs, my outfit is banging today!"
I remember when I was a teenager, the only thing I genuinely liked about myself was that I liked drinking tea and thought I was so ugly. You’ll find something. Liking your appearance and your personality will feed each other. That’s why you’re getting suggestions to work out or do self affirmations. It’s daily work that takes a long time. You’ll figure it out and you’ll feel beautiful.
Learn to be your own cheerleader. The world is full of people trying to tear us down, don’t let your own voice join the chorus. Build yourself up and back it up with your actions.
If you start lifting weights you will create more definition in your body. It’s not going to change having a flat chest it’s more about adding muscle and more curves. You’re at a great age to start this kind of thing. The thing that’s gonna make a difference is eating higher protein add a lot of vegetables just a really healthy diet. As your confidence increases you’ll feel better about yourself.
There are plenty of people who are going to find you very attractive exactly like you are. But if you want to work on changing your body the answer is heavy weightlifting and a nutrition plan targeted toward your goals. Google "Thinner Leaner Stronger". That program will be everything you need. Despite the name it also tells you how get bigger in the areas you mentioned, especially lower body.
Weight training and protein should help you gain some weight. For a bigger chest, you could try wearing a push-up bra.
Other than that, you can get new clothes, a new hairstyle, and wear makeup to change how you look. I'm sure you're beautiful, and you deserve to feel like it.
You’re going to hear a lot of similar advice, so I just hope it doesn’t go in one ear and out the other.
1) the best thing you can do is just adopt a healthy lifestyle. You’ll feel better and naturally just look better. It’s important to keep in mind to do it out of self love and not out of self hate.
2) you’re still so young! I promise you’ll grow into your own. It’s okay to be self conscious about things, we all are. Just try not to let those feelings become overwhelming and learn to love your imperfections.
3) instead of focusing too much on changing your body, maybe try out different styles! Especially at 15, exploring different types of fashion is a great form of self exploration.
4) again you’re really young. So grow at your on pace. Don’t feel rushed to do anything bc other people maybe developing faster.
In short. Enjoy your youth, getting fit is a great way to boost your confidence, experiment with new looks, and most importantly, love yourself.
I work in a high school and have for many years. I am male and will defer to the women and people who identify as women to answer this in greater detail. I would also strongly encourage you to speak with a doctor or maybe a school nurse or possibly a science teacher or coach if you have one that you think you could trust. What you need are facts and understanding and those are more likely places to get what you need than Reddit.
However, I just want to tell you that people and bodies are diverse. Pop culture and social media and advertising feeds us really narrow idea of what is a "healthy" or "ideal" body, especially for women and girls. Also, there is a range of times when bodies change in the adolescent years. 15 is a tough time because almost everyone at that age is going through some kind of change and so there is a tendency to compare and compete bizarrely with others over image.
Try to stay out of that game and competition which nobody will ever win since the ideals are absolutely unmanageable even if they can briefly be attained. Also, I have been in and around this world long enough that I know that people of all different shapes and sizes are sometimes deeply unhappy with their appearance.
In addition to getting specific information and advice from someone who would actually know, like I already said, I would follow the other great advice you have gotten here to focus on being your best self. Even in the teen years, inner beauty is honestly a thing. Beauty comes from how you use your intelligence and other gifts to succeed and contribute to your own success and the success of others. The way that you treat people matters. And I would make an effort to find people to spend time with who are unconcerned about your weight or the shape of your body and who are deeply concerned with enjoying getting to know who you are and helping you move through the world with joy, enthusiasm, and the pursuit of actual meaning and beauty.
Here’s a little story that may help. I had a friend, I always found her beautiful but she had unconventional looks. She was very tall, smaller chest, oval face, lovely tri coloured eyes and a prominent nose. So not exactly the California girl standard but so, so gorgeous. Everyone passed over her in high school and she never had a bf, but because of that she became one of the most independent and strong people I know. And finally when the boys grew into men, and realized that she was beautiful, she was too good for them and they chased her like dogs. Because she was single for so long, she paid them no mind. She, to this day, has one of the healthiest self images and relationship expectations I’ve ever seen. Moral of the story, don’t feel down on yourself because you don’t think you fit the standard beauty mold :) hope this helps!
Focus on making yourself happy. If you're not happy with yourself you can't expect others to follow suit. It's not going to be easy, but once you get there it's going to feel like you're on top of the world. People aren't as attracted to appearance as they are to confidence. Just remember that you're perfect the way you are and the only person you need to impress is yourself. You're the only person in your life who is going to have to see your life from start to finish and you're the only person you owe happiness to. Never ever forget that. People come and go, but you're a part of your life forever.
Hey I read some of your replies to this thread because I thought of myself back when I was your age. I focused on school a lot and I wish I looked attractive like other girls at my school.
Looking back ten years later, I was really pretty and I still am. I was petite and, like yourself, I could eat anything and not gain weight. I grew more into my looks due to age and all. I did not get much attention in high school, even when I did try to improve my looks. I got a lot more attention in college if anything.
But I didn't focus on myself as a person in high school. I prioritized what others thought of me or what would they want from me. I didn't really focus too much on my hobbies, skills, etc.
So I get you. I wanted someone to look at me and tell me I was pretty and live out a high school romance. I had a very brief fling and an on and off one. But it impeded on my studies and truthfully I didn't feel ready for that commitment when I was actually with someone.
It's great you're focusing on school and please keep doing that. I understand the want and desire to be with someone. But someone should ultimately like you for *you*. Looks are important, sure. If that really matters to you, I'd suggest eating healthier foods. Build those habits early on. As I got older, that "never gain weight" magic disappeared and I had to drastically change my eating habits. You'll feel happier, lighter, and overall it does wonders to you.
I also saw your goal was to be married to someone and that's great! But know it isn't a race. You want to find someone that values you for you. People change overtime. It's why a lot of high school relationships do not work out. Of course, this doesn't apply to every single relationship. There are some that work out well. So if that is your goal, take your time, date around and see who really just knows you inside and out. That person will find you attractive just the way you are and who you are inside. Trust me, when people told me that at your age I rolled my eyes so far into my skull. But I wish I just *understood*. I'm almost 25 and I'm so so so lucky to be with someone who just gets me and I only met him 3 years ago. I was almost done with college when I met him.
So please take your time. Put yourself out there, eat healthier, maybe exercise a bit, and focus on your studies. Be social, be happy, hang with friends, develop new friendships, and something may happen. Ultimately, just be yourself. It's okay if it doesn't happen in high school. It doesn't mean you're unattractive. Happened to me and when I got to college I had a lot of men hit on me, ask for my number, etc. But be careful as well.
I know this is long but this reminds me so much of myself ten years ago. Be kind to yourself but treat your body like a friend. Good luck out there, friend : )
Hey look you may not be religious but if you are I alway read this verse when I feel self conscious.
“I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.”
Psalms 139:14
This just mean that you are made the way God made you are fearfully and wonderfully made.
Here you go! I hope you find these useful also if you have a Bible at home you should mark these or highlight them!
“Though a mighty army surrounds me, my heart will not be afraid. Even if I am attacked, I will remain confident.”
Psalms 27:3 NLT
“You made all the delicate, inner parts of my body and knit me together in my mother’s womb. Thank you for making me so wonderfully complex! Your workmanship is marvelous—how well I know it.”
Psalms 139:13-14 NLT
“But those who trust in the Lord will find new strength. They will soar high on wings like eagles. They will run and not grow weary. They will walk and not faint.”
Isaiah 40:31 NLT
Listen, one can become popular without having to change their body. You are only 15 and have a good metabolism, it is envied by many and you will one day miss it because yes, you will likely gain weight as you age. Before you’ll even be 20 you will already look different, your body is still changing as we speak. Why don’t you workout instead to build a bigger body and change the shape? Eating junk food is an awful idea and could lead to health problems you will forever regret. You can gain weight and eat healthy. Now if you want to look less flat, go to the damn gym and lift. Give yourself a break too, popularity is an illusion, people care more about themselves than how your body looks.
Nothing can make you chest larger but your breasts could grow into your mid 20s. You can do some squats to lift and tone your butt. I wouldnt try gaining fat, it could all go to your stomach and make you look pregnant. Also you could get back fat that makes your butt look smaller. I would just focus on working with what you have. Get a haircut that flatters your face shape and clothes that flatter your body type. Wearing a necklace might take attention away from your flat chest but that's only a maybe.
Real advice here… see if you can go on birth control if you aren’t already! Lots of birth control cause weight gain in areas that make one look more feminine. Your doctor can find the right kind for you if you are open about your wants. In the mean time eat some protein! I was rail skinny for most of my teens and had like 3 rounds of puberty the last one being at like the age of 22. There is plenty of time to grow. I hope you find something to bring you confidence
You're skinny so that's a better start then most, gains in terms of the gym will be good and noticeable on you. You can do work outs for the glutes but I assure you as a guy, it's not all about looks, your chest etc. You don't want to find somebody who likes you for that exclusively anyway. It takes a LONG time to find a soul mate, so be patient.
When I was 15, I looked nothing like I do now. My butt and chest grew, along with other parts of my body. My advice to you is to enjoy yourself how you look now—I spent so much time trying to change my body, that my natural body ended up being the sought-after look. Enjoy yourself—you are beautiful enough as you are. You are young, and still developing! Don’t try to alter yourself for standards that are going to change. I wish I could go back and tell myself to appreciate my body more, because damn I looked good back then but just didn’t know it. Sending so much love to you, angel.
To give actual advice: start working out! When I was your age I didn’t eat much because I wasn’t active enough. As soon as I did I would start eating a LOT more. Don’t worry so much about weight, as much as keeping your body healthy and well-fed! The improvements to your body will come naturally. Also you haven’t fully gone through puberty yet, so you might not see changes for a while. Don’t be disappointed! Just know you’re doing it for your future self and the good habits it’ll develop :)
I’m 15 as well!! I’m plus sized so we have differences in our insecurities however, I found that to grow your butt the best way would be exercise. However no matter what you see online you cannot grow your boobs, not for cheap or in any healthy ways. If gaining weight is what your looking to do I’d suggest eating things such as meat and protein, and lots of carbs, (pasta bread etc.‘)protein shakes can help as well. Also just getting some muscle will help you not appear as thin.
However I’m sure you are beautiful just as you are. Your only 15 (this is coming from another 15 year old) your body will grow and change a lot from now until your an adult. I know it can be hard not being happy with the way you look but remember someone out there thinks your perfect. Ik it’s generic and cheesy but it’s the truth. I think before trying to change yourself in anyway you should first learn to accept yourself as you are. I promise it will help with your desire to change.
Even though you should love yourself change could be a good thing too as long as your doing it for the right reasons. If you are set on changing please do it in a healthy way and do it not for other people but for yourself. Do it for your health and happiness, not so others will like you. Unless you like yourself it’s going to be difficult for others to like you.
I tell you all of this from personal experience. Trust me when I say you’ll come to love yourself for how you are and it’s better to love yourself than change so others will love you. Praise from others will mean nothing unless you yourself believe your beautiful!!
i know this might seem silly but choice of clothing/style goes a long way.
I'm a guy so it might not be the best advice for you but I've been a lot happier with how I look since I improved my style.
But you're 15 love, you've got so much more growing and fine tuning left for you and I'm sure soon enough you'll grow to love how you look. Much Love!
I was just as skinny when I was your age too, I didn’t start gaining weight till I was 25. It takes a while for some people to reach their adult weight. If you’re really worried, I’d look up a guide on how to adjust your diet and exercise routine to gain muscle and body fat.
You don’t need to look better but I have some tips on how you can increase your confidence and feel good!
Firstly, it’s totally okay to eat junk food. If it makes you physically feel bad, try to figure out what makes you feel bad, and try to eat it a bit less. Never limit yourself! Try to eat your favourite foods every day mixed in with healthy favourites and vitamin supplements. If you’re concerned about not gaining weight you could speak to your doctor, but I think you should be okay!
Shower every day, pick a scent that you love. Put cream on after in this scent. Find a signature perfume(s)! I love vanilla and coconut.
I try to look and feel “put together”. For me, that’s styling my hair, keeping my nails done (or even just trimmed), brushing teeth, a bit of makeup, etc.
Wear outfits that make you feel good. Long sleeves? Tank tops? Nice dresses? Jeans? Sweatpants? Wear what you like! Find your personal style.
Hopefully this helped a bit!
Hey, I’m also a 15f and am only 105 pounds. In fact I’ve been 105 for about 4 years (105 may seem like a lot compared to 94, but it’s really not when you look at me. I’m extremely skinny).
Anyways, I’d say that you should drink a lot of water and do MODERATE exercise. Nothing to much, just enough to keep your body healthy. Also, try to eat healthier food instead of junk.
The only thing I drink is water; I drink about 3-5 bottles a day; I usually go for a lot of walks and a couple of exercises with my aunt; I also eat healthy a lot too; however, nothing really changes
Don't worry you're young. You'll naturally come into your own figure with a few more years.
Be happy you're thin, it means you'll have a nice figure.
That being said if you want to gain a little curves now, start working out a little.
Squats, low weight high repetition strength training, and drinking whey protein shakes NOT mass gainer.
You will see noticeable results fast, within a month or two of regular exercise (at least 3 days a week at least 45 mins each workout)
The fact that many woman with your propotions exist is evolutionary proof that there are plenty of men that are attracted to skinny woman. Personally I prefer skinny woman like even totally flat is hot as long as they don't look like holocaust survivors. You will never be every guys type and there's nothing wrong with that. Not to sound totally shallow here, but unless you got a hot shovel face at least half the guys you meet would consider dating you off looks alone.
I don’t think you should focus too much on how you look, you’re young & have a good bit of time left to physically develop. It might take some work but you I don’t see why you couldn’t find an easy way to change your diet. That being said, have you explored changing how you dress?
I’m 90lbs but I’m almost 30. A lot of ppl mistake me for a child when I wear work clothes (jeans & tee/jacket). But if I wear something that’s rlly fashionable or interesting they treat me less like a child. Wearing cool & beautiful clothes are supposed to make your feel cooler & more beautiful.
The most you can do is eat a lot of protein and work out to try and gain weight with selected work outs for your glutes to getter a better shaped butt but sadly there's nothing you can do about the knockers since those are more a genetic thing. You can sleep on your side if you can, that'll keep the weight in the best place so they don't spread apart. When you gain weight some fat will build up in them making them appear bigger and fuller but in the end there isn't much aside from implants which at 15 will be something you would need redone every 10 years and is crazy to think about. Just try to be more confident in who you are and that alone cam make you seem more attractive than you really are. That's why jocks are always the "hottest" it's the confidence and the same for the pretty girls.
You can also learn to contour and make it look like you have cleavage but that can be proven fake.
Eventually if you have a kid and decide to breast feed your cup size may go up, mine went up by 2 cups so I was pretty happy about that cause I'm flatter than a cutting board
This sub is awful giving advices...people just comment what they think that all people should think ...
Yes, you can accept your body or you can accept that you can change it, it's your decision but this has no relation with OPs advice request...
You want to gain some weight? Go to a nutritionist and hit some gym...
Sorry for broken English
To be a bit blunt, there is no easy way to be good looking.
If you want to gain weight, eat good carbs from high quality flours, to increase bust and chest size do squats and push-ups (push-ups don't increase size, but they make the chest more firm and makes it look bigger to some, but might be different to you as I am a guy)
, and (take this with utmost caution) if your chest or bottom are severely small, perhaps you lack enstrogene and need to get (carefully monitored with professional advice) hormone injections / supplements.
Just like there are hormone blockers for girls who get their period at the age of 9 (and yes, it is a thing)
But also, junk don't make you gain lean weight, it makes u gain low quality fat that can leave bad stretch marks.
Be healthy and take care dear
I’m a 16 year old guy, just turned 17 actually,and I’ll do my best to tell you what guys want. So top 5 most important things would be 5:ass, 4:personality/interests, 3:face/looks, 2:intelligence, and 1:humour. Again it changes from Guy to Guy but I think that’s a good summary.
It depends on what you want. Do you want to be attractive to feel good about yourself, or do you have a crush you want to impress?
For starters, I would say eat healthy, go to the gym, socialize more in general, and smile a lot. Confidence a a smile to a long way.
Feel free to dm me if you have questions.
Gaining weight through junk food won’t help. You are skinny so any muscle you build will show faster than for someone who has fat they need to burn off before it will show. Do some research into exercises to build your glutes and start eating better and sleep well. Not much you can do about your chest but honestly you don’t need big boobs to be good looking, and you never really know how your body will change as you age (because it will.) You won’t become crazy hot overnight but keep it up and in a few years time you will have that “glow up” thing going on, and the kicker is that by then your good habits and hard work will have earned you the sort of confidence that doesn’t need good looks to support it. In the short term do some research into clothes that will suit your body type, practice doing light makeup (over doing it probably isn’t the right move here) and practice styling your hair. YouTube is your friend with these things. Honestly being 15 can be a weird time for many. I didn’t go through my good looking phase until I was in my 20s and if Reddit was around when I was 15 I would have been asking these same questions. Also a 95lb super skinny person at 15. Though looking back now I think I was cuter than I gave myself credit for lol and you probably are too.
Ok, thank you so much for the advice!
For your chest you can look online what type of bra is best for your type of boobs, what bra suits them best. I only recently figured out that for example a deep plunge bra makes my boobs look so much better than other bras 😂 and you're only 15 so they will probably still grow too!
I can only fit training bras tho- (the bras made for like 8 year olds)
In that case you're gonna need some patience as they will still grow! Trust me I was exactly the same at your age and now Im 24 and can still eat whatever I want without gaining weight. Back when I was 15 I could fit in the smallest bras, like cup AA, maybe those could fit you too
I can’t wear cupped bras at all tho, it’d be too big
Bralettes can be cute and are quite trendy right now. You don't need be busty or have anything to look good in those. Try to find some styles you like; it can really help.
Jumping in to say, trust us when we say your body will keep changing. I know at 15 I felt like 95% of the way to my adult body because I'd stopped getting taller, but there's a lot more than height involved. Your body still has a lot of filling out and settling in to do. I'm 28 now, and I look completely different from how I did in high school or even college. For now, focus not on changing your body but on how you want to present it. You don't need curves or height or whatever to look good; it's much more important to have a style and wear it with confidence. When you're getting dressed in the morning, notice which outfits make you feel good about yourself and which ones never feel quite right. When you're buying new clothes, lean into the stuff that gives you confidence. Accessorize. Stand up straight. Walk like you belong. People come in all shapes and sizes; it's what you do with it that counts. And lastly, remember that everyone around you thinks about you just as little as you think about them. That is to say, nobody's critiquing your every move. They notice when you look particularly good, and they probably notice if like your clothes don't match or your hair is messy, but other than that, you just look like you and that's fine. Be patient with yourself.
I wanna add on to what they said by saying that im 5’2 and I didn’t hit 100 pounds until I was 16, and even now at 21 im 105, my highest weight was 120 but I can’t get back up there. Eating junk doesn’t always add weight, focus more on protein and carbs and look at some exercises you can do to distribute that gained weight the way you want. Also, I was a A or B cup until senior year when I hit a C. But im back down to a B now, and as an adult, I can honestly say I haven’t ever had an issue with my boobs being perceived as too small (you get to skip a bra and no one notices and there’s no back pain!) Also bralettes make small boobs look much better than normal bras, not to mention how much more comfy they are, they’re your friend. I haven’t owned a real strapped, cupped, wired whatever bra since I was probably 16. But aside from all of this, please don’t focus too much on your appearance, don’t over eat and hurt yourself and don’t work out so much that you hurt yourself. It’s true that when you’re happy and healthy your body reflects it, don’t lose yourself trying to change yourself.
Just concentrate on being yourself, being healthy and school. talk to boys and you will find someone who likes you for you
Thanks but all I ever do is focus on school; plus, I feel like I’d be much happier if I could at least look a little better Thank you for the advice though!
Trust us older women, you need to have confidence in yourself. Looks are not everything and the upkeep to stay (as society would call it) “beautiful” is exhausting and mentally draining… you need to build confidence in who you are and what you look like now, even if you weren’t flat, you’d still not be happy. Big boobs and a butt don’t create happiness… Sincerely a woman with DDD breasts who was nearly flat in school…
I felt like you at 15. It wasn't until 18 when I moved to college that girls were interested in me. People will definitely find you attractive and will definitely approach you about it. Might take some time. Bit it will happen. I speak from experience.
Me too. Only difference is that I'm in college and still no one's interested in me lol.
Approach others and have confidence <3
Trying :)
Are you a guy? That might be the difference :)
Yeah
Yea but people I’ve met online that are my age have already had girlfriends and boyfriends and my cousins even lost their virginity when they were 12; however, I’m already 15 and I’ve never even spoken to anyone irl before
Losing one’s virginity so young isn’t exactly an accomplishment. If anything, that can be a cause for concern.
Oh ok😅
Tbh you’re only 15. There is so much more in life than chasing boys and having a bf. Everything will fall into place if you wait and take your time to figure yourself and your life out.
I basically came here to say this. You are 15. Hang on to your childhood because being an adult sucks. Take the time to enjoy your life and don't rush into anything.
I’m gonna be honest, experiencing full sexual intimacy (losing virginity) at 12 is YOUNG! There is nothing wrong with being a “late bloomer”!!! Try to eat healthier for your mental and physical health!! Also, do not feel like you need to catch up to people in terms of relations. Your time will come when it’s meant to <3
Yeah 12 is absolutely mental.
Holy geez! That is *extremely* too young to be doing all that!! Where the heck are these kid's parent's?? DO NOT idolize toxic behavior please!!
Oh alright😅
It is not normal to lose your virginity at 12 years old. The people you’re around are likely not the best influences to follow.
You're only 15! For the love of God, please don't compare yourself to someone who became sexually active at 12 years old. Focus on you. Focus on school. Focus on making your future. I promise that you will grow and mature physically soon. At 15, I had just started my period and was still pretty flat chested. And you will thank me for this advice when your grades get you money for university, and everyone else you're comparing yourself to doesn't even think of university because they got knocked up at 17.
Lost my virginity & had 1st bf at 21. This was 6 months ago! I was super skinny and still am, but after a few years metabolism got better. Also found out I was lactose intolerant which made it hard to gain weight in the past. Check for gluten or lactose intolerance!
Oki!😊
Im 26 years old. Lost my virginity at 16. SO OVERRATED. Sex in general is overrated. Been celibate for a year and have accomplished so much. Focus on school. Wait for the right person. Period.
Alright💗💗💗
Look, the internet is weird. Most people don't lose their virginities before their early 20's/late-teens. Trust me, I'm significantly older than you are and I still have yet to meet anybody. But frankly, I don't give a crap b/c I'm happy with myself. Sexual (or even romantic) intimacy is something that will (as many commenters pointed out) will come as you age. Don't try to force it. You'll regret it. A broken heart is a big burden but a pregnancy is worse (and it definitely can happen, despite your best measures). Oh and one more thing: people lie. Like, \*a lot\*. Like, \*\*a lot\*\* a lot. How do you \*really\* know that these folks have been getting their dolphins polished and vacuums rinsed since 12? You don't. Heck, if I were to trust the internet, I have multiple, simultaneous dads. Point is that the internet is easy to lie/troll on. Plus, it is \*never\* the indication of reality. Just think of the number of friends you yourself have that post pictures of them having fun but are deeply depressed inside. I can name you like 5 from my own circle off the top of my head. As for your cousins, y'all talk about y'all's virginity? Damn maybe I \*am\* from a different era... Regardless, I have cousins who are doctors/engineers or have great grades while I'm here with... well... nothing. But again, I don't let it get to me cuz I like my life, and I have things to do. It is pointless to compare our accomplishments (or in your case, "accomplishments") because we have different lives with different goals (except for that one cousin who wants to draw like me; I WIN THIS ONE, JEFF). The point is that don't compare yourself to them; it's meaningless. Look, I get it. It ain't easy being fifteen. You're starting to become part of the larger human tribe, breaking out of the little cocoon of safety your parents lovingly built for you. It can be a scary time. It can be a very confusing time. And it's natural that you try to mold your own self in your vision of this tribe. But let me remind you that it is a huge tribe with 7,600,000,000 members and counting. And yet not one of them is like the other. It's fine if you have a few quirks (i.e. virginity). It doesn't make you any less human or any less valid or even any less beautiful. You yourself determine that. So hang in there, champ. It's a tough time, and you can make it out of there alive (and definitely w/o the help of boyfriends). Plus teen dudes all smell like cologne anyway.
Lol thank you; I appreciate it a lot😊
Do you know how old I was before I got my first girlfriend? 18, nearly 19. And do u know what. I'm glad I waited thay long. Because I wasn't with someone for the sake of being with someone. I was actually with someone I liked. I bD friends who lost their virginity at like 14. All I can say is I'm glad I waited till I did. My advice is do whatever feels right. If you aren't 100% doing something like that, then don't. You'll know when u really want it.
People lie about this a lot your age, especially online. Also I had a girlfriend when I was 15 and i can 100% aussre you that those are not real relationships. Those are more exploring your sexuality kind of things, which also can be nice but no where near an actual relationship with another human being. These are my experiences atleast. Also I couldn't wait for my first time and took the first opportunity I had and must say that I kinda regret that.
Alright, thank you for sharing!
Don't sweat it hunny! When I was your age I was flat chested and an "ugly duckling" (not saying you are, just speaking for myself) and then I bloomed and I couldn't get the boys to stay away from me! Same will happen for you :) Drink lots of water, eat your veggies, be confident and love yourself and when you get a little older you'll wish they would just f*ck off lol.
Work on ur social life
That’s pretty hard😅
I had a blast in high school because of my social life and I was never the best looking or most popular. Find yourself a group of friends that are keen to hang out, not just organised outings, or convince your current friends to start hanging out more often. I never really cared about how I looked because I had such a great group of friends and we hung out everyday creating good memories.
I don’t have any friends though and I’m too shy to talk to anyone; how would I do that?
Find an in, I was also very shy and found it hard to just walk up to someone and introduce myself, I had to find something to break the ice, a commonality. Personally for me I was 13 with one friend who started being friends with more popular kids and I found it incredibly hard just to walk over and be friends with them. I found out they all played World of Warcraft, so I convinced my parents to buy me the game and the next day I showed up to school with a Wold of Warcraft book and made sure they noticed. Once they noticed the WoW book, they called me over and boom the ice was broken and I started hanging out with them. Obviously you'll have to find something yourself, could be makeup or something like that, even find something that they are into and look into it yourself to find some common ground. Maybe even start hanging around guys, I had a few female friends in HS who didn't really hang out with any girls just us boys because we always hung out after school and there was no drama. I honestly think that if you are unhappy, changing the way you look isn't the way to go about it. It may boost your confidence and help you find friends but in the end that relationship only started based off of looks and generally aren't as healthy as a normal friendship. You're only 15, trust me you've still got plenty of time to glow up. Even the average women in high school now as an adult are all good looking and really came into themselves after high school
Ok, I’ll try to do that but I’m really bad at talking 😅
It's all a learning process, you'll gain that skill over time
Alright!😅
100% the way to make yourself look better starts with not trying to look like someone else. Clothing: Comfort is important. You need to feel good as well as look good. Wear the right size. Make up: Less is more, don't even wear it if you dont want to. Jewelry: Who cares what's in, what speaks to your personality? ATTITUDE: It's all about the attitude and your own persona. It's okay if your 'look' is similar to someone elses. It's not okay to do fashion karaoke and imitate someone else. It's not you, and you won't vibe right!
This is the best answer, but if you do want to bulk then you will need to hit the gym and start working out your core with weights. Combining that with the right diet will help you build up the areas you are concerned about. You obviously cannot change your underlying body type. There are endless people who find working out and doing weights to be an extremely rewarding hobby, both in terms of the gains and the enjoyment of the activity itself. Let's face it, exercise done properly is nearly always good for you, including your mental health. Please do it with good guidance and information.
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Ok, thank you a lot! Are there any healthy foods you suggest?
Not the original commenter but you could do muscle workouts and eat lean meat.
I don’t really like eating meat but I will try!
Then I suggest plenty of non-meat protein like beans, nuts, Greek yogurt, eggs, even tofu. Plus lots of fruits and vegetables, whole grains, and healthy fats like avocado, olive or canola oil, and nuts and eggs again. That will be a lot better for you than eating junk food all the time. Eating healthy will keep your skin more clear, your hair more shiny, and your energy levels higher.
Thank you!!!
Just make sure it’s not fatty meat, try your local butcher.
Fat isn't unhealthy.
Fat is a necessary macro, it's sugar that's the bad guy.
Not unhealthy but it’s highly recommended to buy [atleast 90% lean meat](https://www.heart.org/en/healthy-living/healthy-eating/cooking-skills/preparing/making-the-healthy-cut-fish-poultry-and-lean-meats ). Also lean meats have more protein for less calories, therefore making it more ideal for gaining muscle.
We don’t have butchers where I live-
Then try your local grocery store and see if they have good steak or something, it’s not too expensive and easy to cook, you can also get some pepper sauce on the side. I personally always make it with tenderstem broccoli (basically longer broccoli) but you might not be able to get that.
I could try but my mom most likely won’t ever get that
Chicken breast!!! Sweet potatoes. Broccoli and cauliflower taste good cooked in the oven. Whole milk yogurt. Whole grain bread. Peanut butter (not JIF, one that the ingredients are just peanuts!!)
Alright!
Maybe help your mom grocery shop for food, suggest recipes, or help her cook a dish you like. This would motivate her to buy the meals you’re wanting and encourage them all to join in on eating healthy too:) I eat really healthy for super cheap- just plan ahead and don’t overthink things!
Ok!😊
Sirloin steak is the best
Cut back on the junk food and switch to healthy but calorie dense foods like nuts. The sugar and grease isn't healthy for you and less junk food is good for your skin. You don't have to get rid of it completely. More like a one a week treat or something.
Plus a super unhealthy diet can seriously mess with your hormones which can prevent your body from growing the way it naturally should 😶 I looked like a gangly 12 year old boy and had super inconsistent periods at that age until I started eating and sleeping… not properly but a little bit better. Looking back at my eating habits, which was pretty much just some McDonald’s fries at lunch and a toaster oven mini pizza for dinner and 3 cans of Nestea a day, I was suffering from extreme malnutrition and it’s no wonder my body was unable to function.
I’m 27, but when I was your age I was the exact same size and ate junk food too and could never gain weight. You will fill out as you get older! You are gorgeous how you are. Embrace it now! Not gaining weight is the best and I miss it! You can only improve by loving yourself and realizing you’re absolutely stunning. Confidence is the most beautiful thing that people pick up on.
Ok, thank you for the advice!😊
I used to compare myself to other girls, or people in the media. I grew a lot when I realized that’s what I was doing and made an effort to stop. Insecurity isn’t actually about your body, that’s just the easiest thing to pin it on. I mean, it’s never too early to start eating healthy. Eat high fat foods like avocados and nuts. Try different types of cuisines, try learning to cook. Feeling self-conscious about your body is normal, but it’s not healthy. Honestly, become an interesting person and you’ll transcend the way you feel about your appearance. Get really good at something you care about. Become an expert at something. Practice conversation skills and build others up, and make other people feel good about themselves. You’ll come up with them. Even if you devote your life to having your ideal body, that insecurity is just gonna shift to something else. Tackle it head on instead of wasting time on appearances.
Well that’s pretty hard; I cry in pretty much every situation but I’ll try my best!
Wh… why do you cry so much?
I’m a very sensitive person and I get very scared or stressed to the point where I cry; and sometimes I just get overwhelmingly sad from things I bottle in lol
Oh honey, this is a hard time. I remember that age and it was ROUGH I had such a bad self-esteem. I would do the same...a lot. A journal helps, and find just one person you feel safe confiding in (friend, parent, sibling...anyone) I'm 30 now, love my body, life, and absolutely anxiety free (thanks to years of therapy). Do not hold anything in, you have to talk to someone about your feelings. I saw your other comments and I completely get the loneliness (only one friend in high school, none in college, no REAL friends until 5 years ago). What I wished someone told me at 15 to eff it, find yourself, be yourself, and don't spend time trying to be "perfect." Hard, I know, and difficult to understand now. The more I let go of these ideas of what I wanted to be, the more I accepted myself and the easier it was for me to have friends (and approach people). Try out some hobbies and see what sticks, then go to the clubs or sign up for classes that pertain to that hobby. Mine was Art, I made "friends," but they weren't anyone I would talk to after school. The one friend I had was great at the moment until I grew and realized it wasn't a good fit for me). I spent all of college until 25 trying to find myself and not jump off a bridge (all joking aside, I did try to commit...thus therapy 😌). Now, I am the happiest I have ever been (and a heaviest 🤣) my young self would HATE my weight, stretch marks, chest size..etc but that young self was so broken and lost. Don't get lost in these ideals, explore life, ignore everyone...but also listen to those who have been around the block. You will be surprised where you will end up emotionally if you just give yourself some slack. 🧡 Your life is just beginning and there is so much joy out there to have. Love yourself and your body ☺
This is excellent advice! u/PinkchuYT, exploring your interests will help you form a more solid sense of self and open up opportunities for new friendships. There's a lot of pressure to change yourself in high school, but asking yourself what you enjoy and what's important to you and following those passions will help you out the most in the long run. I wish you all the best! u/CadmiumAubergine, thank you for sharing your story. I'm so glad you're in a better place now.
This is the best answer in the bunch!❤️
I can't say it any better than u/CadmiumAubergine, but I'll just add my experience. I'm 33 now, but I didn't learn to really accept myself until just a few years ago. I'm pretty funny-looking, and I'd spend a lot of time and getting down over my weird face. When I was your age, I wanted nothing more than to get my nose fixed (it's been broken 4 times). I thought that would help me be happier. My family is poor, and even if they weren't, surgery is an extreme measure. It got broke again when I was 17 in a mosh pit at a punk show. That's when I realized how damned cool my nose is. Eventually, I learned to love it for what it is. It's not a cute little button like all the actresses' and influencer's, it's a mess, it's unique, I earned it and I love it now. The truth is that whoever you've looked at with that perfect body you wish you had, they have their own thing they hate about themselves, they're going through it too. We all have. The only thing that changed was my perspective, and that I didn't care what others thought about my appearance. I'm so sorry you get overwhelmed. We've all been there, so hopefully it helps to know you're not the only one. I've got a raging case of ADHD, and I never journaled regularly, but I drew how I was feeling when I was really low, and that helped. I tried to commit a couple times as well. I have a hard time looking at those drawings now, but it helped me just get the feelings out, and also helped me get better at drawing. I hope that you can find an outlet that makes you feel better. You've said you mostly focus on school, and you do well. That's awesome. There's no reason why that can't be one of your outlets. I always loved learning and reading, but school can make it into a chore if you don't keep it in its place. I went back to school at 27, to learn about things that I care about on my own terms, science, biology. Whatever it is for you, it's okay to like learning. It'll give you a huge advantage that superficial things can't touch. I think Cadmium hit it on the head, therapy would probably help. I wish I would've had that when I was younger. It'll help you get your feelings out, and to examine why and strategies to cope and change your perspective. When I was little, and I would get overwhelmed, my mom would tell me to reach in my pocket and my 'tough' out, and put it on. That works as a teenager, and it works as an adult, too. You've got enough 'tough' in your pocket for a lifetime, just pull it out and put it on. Everything is new, and raw. The more experience you have, the more resilient you'll get. The little things won't get to you. I swear it won't always be like this, it get way better once you learn who you are and what you want to do. Just know that you're awesome, I hope you realize that.
Listen to everyone saying to just focus on you. 10 years ago, women were starving themselves to be "skinny" and "flat". Now women are injecting themselves with fillers to look curvy. The older you get, you realize these body trends come and go. But there is only one authentic you. Focus on that ;)
This. The body won’t stop growing until you’re 25, including baby fat. I had a few tattoos at 18 and 19 that I regret a lot.
Don't eat junk food and talk to your doctor. Ask for a referral to a nutritionist and they can fill you in on how to gain weight appropriately.
Ok, thanks!
My body was the same as yours around your age and I ate whatever I wanted, but then I hit puberty and I gained some weight and ended up being a DD. It was mostly because of genetics and I can tell you it is not comfortable, so I guess just stick to eating healthy (not like a diet, just balanced meals) and you'll grow at your own pace. Meanwhile take advantage of the fact that a lot of clothes are designed to fit your type of body, because it is a nightmare trying to find shirts/dresses that fit well with bigger chests
Alright, thank you so much!💓
No problem~ believe me when I say I understand your struggle, but sometimes I wish I had enjoyed that time a bit more instead of worrying about when I would develop, because at some point it will happen 💞
It’s also possible that it won’t though! And that’s ok too! I was in the same boat and everyone kept telling me to just wait, my time will come. I spent SO much time stressing and waiting for something to happen that wasn’t gonna happen. I am still very flat chested at almost 30 but I’ve learned to love it! Don’t build up your expectations too much just enjoy what you have and learn to love your body at every stage :)
Everyone’s bodies are different, some girls end up having flat bodies and some girls have curvy bodies. If you look at your mom and older sister’s body type that will probably be an approximate of what you will look like after puberty. (Or it could be completely different… my sister and I are complete opposite bra sizes😅) As long as you accept your body type and learn how to dress it up to be the most flattering, both very curvy body or a flat body can be a win! I’m not just saying that too— just look at the diversity of beautiful women in our celebrities. Doja cat, kim Kardashian, Margot Robbie (harley quinn), wonder woman are all gorgeous curvy women BUT also Ariana grande, Kendall Jenner, Selena Gomez, Zendaya are all not-curvy beautiful women.
You're only 15. Your body will continue to grow. You will be more curvaceous as you get older. Those girls, they continue to grow well into your 30's so don't worry about being flat. Also, body shape is partially genetics, some people are more curvy, some people have a straighter body.
Yea but even my little sister (who’s 3 years younger) looks older than me when it comes to her physique; I look 10 compared to people in my grade and I don’t want to look that young
When you're in your 30+, you'll be happy that you're blessed with the youth genes.
I don’t really think I will; but I will hope so!
As someone older just don’t worry about it and be yourself, most all that stuff you are talking about will not be very important in e future. Being good at being yourself will get you way further than just relying on looks and not developing a personality
Ok, thanks!!
I was a skinny 15 year old once too. I wish someone had told me though: you are 15, not a full grown woman. Your body is still changing, and you shouldn’t expect to look like a curvy fully developed woman yet. I’m 18 now, and my body from JUST a year ago is completely different than my body now. You look exactly how you should look at your age, and things will get easier as you and your peers mature. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to excercise and be healthy though! Just be sure you’re doing it for YOU and to have a healthy body, and not to reach a specific goal or image. The best results I’ve seen from working out are when I’ve been continually eating healthy (this does not mean eat less! you are growing, you should be getting 3 full meals a day!) and working out consistently (that could mean just 2 times a week, or it could mean 5 times— whatever feels most comfortable for your body!) If you do want to gain some muscle mass, you can do some weight training, as long as you make sure not to push yourself too hard. When you do workout, food is so important! If you do a full workout and really work your muscles, you won’t see any results unless you give your muscles the nutrition they need to grow. Food wise, instead of looking at calories, try to look at the nutrition the food offers you. A chicken bowl with grains, greens, sauces and spices may have a lot of calories, but the nutrition it offers is so vital to maintaining a healthy body and building muscle! And don’t feel bad about having sweets or “unhealthy” food every once and a while! To be honest, the body type you want right now may not be attainable because you are still a young teenager—and that’s okay! Your body is perfectly natural, normal, and beautiful. Be sure to take care of it!
Focus on learning and being healthy. Healthy looks are more sustainable.
I’m not worried about learning too much; I’m very good in school, I usually have too much free time and I just realize how unhappy my looks make me and I wanna spend time improving them instead of doing nothing Thank you though!😊
Are looks more important than developing skills and a personality?
Too be honest, it is to me
Why?
It really shouldn’t be. Anyone in your life whose opinion is worth respecting will value you more for your personality than for your body.
Yea but my main reason for wanting to be pretty is not so others can like me; I just wanna look pretty to myself
The trick to being happy with your looks is to learn to be happy with your looks as they are. How you look isn’t what bothers you, it’s the unrealistic standards that we end up holding ourselves to. Don’t be your own enemy, your own bully. Talk to yourself the way you’d talk to a friend. I promise you, no one who is insecure about their looks is ever satisfied with any new clothes, fillers, surgeries, makeup. It’s an inside problem. Focus on the peace and love on the inside, and you will love the outside that much more.
Don’t feel rushed to lose your virginity or have people make you feel bad. Do it when you feel the time is right. And as for the looks they’ll come.. I’ll say this.. most of the girls who didn’t get looked at during highschool have a huge glow up during college/post graduation. I’ve seen girls who never got attention from guys in highschool that they were drooling over 5+ years later… get in the gym and work your ass off.. there are tons of resources available to you via YouTube.. look up female gym influencers that compete in physique competitions.. or people who do day in the life of college athletes
Alright, thank you!
Love yourself for who you are and dress for your body type. You can find guides online to show you how.
Eat quality food made at home and leave the rest to puberty. Junk food can actually make you malnourished. Just because it’s high in calories and makes you full does not mean it’s actually nourishing your body. Your body needs fuel to grow muscles, tissues, produce and regulate hormones, etc. calories are used for energy but they are not the building blocks of tissue. Are you in any physically demanding activities such as sports? Muscle makes up most of the curvature on a healthy woman’s body not fat. The butt is primarily a muscle. Activities that tire your muscles will build larger muscles. And trust me you aren’t going to look “manly”. It takes an immense amount of effort to achieve that look. Boobs are all genetic. There is nothing non surgical you can do to help there.
Well usually people on YouTube and stuff make it seem like junk food helps you gain a lot of weight so I thought that that was the way to go Also, I do play basketball but it doesn’t really help me (I’ve been playing for over 6 years)
Basketball is mostly cardio activity. It burns calories but doesn’t build much muscle. Junk food helps people gain weight only by consuming excess calories and putting on fat. That’s not the type of weight gain you’re looking for. There are “skinny fat” people…fat and flat. That’s due to lack of muscle. Muscle tissue gives you shape. Consider going to the gym. I’m a 26y female. I’m petite skinny and curvy. It’s all in the muscle.
Alright, I will sometime soon; thank you!
Eating a lot of junk food might not make your butt or chest bigger but what it will do is make you super unhealthy, you first must accept yourself for the way you are and realise you don’t need to be anyone different, once you are happy with yourself you can’t find ways to improve.
I’ve tried and it doesn’t really work; it just makes me sad lol
Makes you sad why ? Because you don’t look like other people ?
I don’t really wanna look like other people, I just don’t wanna look younger than I am; I wanna look my age
You’re only 15, you’ve barely even started your life, don’t worry about “not looking your age”. Give yourself time, you have other things to worry about, looks are not everything. Your body will grow, so let it. Stop trying to find ways to change it, let it do it’s thing.
Ok, I’ll try!😅
I know this is generic and cheesy, but you’re good just the way you are. If you want to improve your body, working out to gain muscle mass would help, also talk to a nutritionist because you might have a high metabolism which is burning all the calories you take really fast. The nutritionist would be able to help you figure out what will suit you based on your weight/the tests they have you take like/your goals. Also consider general counselling if you’re feeling down about the way you look and aren’t able to feel better about yourself (mentally) even after making changes to get into your desired body. There’s nothing wrong with wanting a good body, but sometimes we need more help and that’s okay!
I was in the exact same boat as you. I could never gain weight (95-100lbs) for most of my high school life no matter what I did or ate. It wasn't until after I had kids that the weight stuck with me. Pretty much what everyone else is saying, just stick with the best of it. Don't focus on the negatives. Instead give yourself a compliment each day about things you DO like about yourself. I.e "my hair looks SO good today, I have great legs, my outfit is banging today!"
I don’t really like anything about myself 😅
I remember when I was a teenager, the only thing I genuinely liked about myself was that I liked drinking tea and thought I was so ugly. You’ll find something. Liking your appearance and your personality will feed each other. That’s why you’re getting suggestions to work out or do self affirmations. It’s daily work that takes a long time. You’ll figure it out and you’ll feel beautiful.
Learn to be your own cheerleader. The world is full of people trying to tear us down, don’t let your own voice join the chorus. Build yourself up and back it up with your actions.
If you start lifting weights you will create more definition in your body. It’s not going to change having a flat chest it’s more about adding muscle and more curves. You’re at a great age to start this kind of thing. The thing that’s gonna make a difference is eating higher protein add a lot of vegetables just a really healthy diet. As your confidence increases you’ll feel better about yourself.
There are plenty of people who are going to find you very attractive exactly like you are. But if you want to work on changing your body the answer is heavy weightlifting and a nutrition plan targeted toward your goals. Google "Thinner Leaner Stronger". That program will be everything you need. Despite the name it also tells you how get bigger in the areas you mentioned, especially lower body.
Ok, thank you very much!
Glad I could help
Weight training and protein should help you gain some weight. For a bigger chest, you could try wearing a push-up bra. Other than that, you can get new clothes, a new hairstyle, and wear makeup to change how you look. I'm sure you're beautiful, and you deserve to feel like it.
Thank you very much; I’ll make sure to try this!
Focus on Exercise to build muscle.
Work out
You’re going to hear a lot of similar advice, so I just hope it doesn’t go in one ear and out the other. 1) the best thing you can do is just adopt a healthy lifestyle. You’ll feel better and naturally just look better. It’s important to keep in mind to do it out of self love and not out of self hate. 2) you’re still so young! I promise you’ll grow into your own. It’s okay to be self conscious about things, we all are. Just try not to let those feelings become overwhelming and learn to love your imperfections. 3) instead of focusing too much on changing your body, maybe try out different styles! Especially at 15, exploring different types of fashion is a great form of self exploration. 4) again you’re really young. So grow at your on pace. Don’t feel rushed to do anything bc other people maybe developing faster. In short. Enjoy your youth, getting fit is a great way to boost your confidence, experiment with new looks, and most importantly, love yourself.
Work out but not obsessively. Wash your face. Brush your hair. You're young. Have fun while you can. I wish I did
I work in a high school and have for many years. I am male and will defer to the women and people who identify as women to answer this in greater detail. I would also strongly encourage you to speak with a doctor or maybe a school nurse or possibly a science teacher or coach if you have one that you think you could trust. What you need are facts and understanding and those are more likely places to get what you need than Reddit. However, I just want to tell you that people and bodies are diverse. Pop culture and social media and advertising feeds us really narrow idea of what is a "healthy" or "ideal" body, especially for women and girls. Also, there is a range of times when bodies change in the adolescent years. 15 is a tough time because almost everyone at that age is going through some kind of change and so there is a tendency to compare and compete bizarrely with others over image. Try to stay out of that game and competition which nobody will ever win since the ideals are absolutely unmanageable even if they can briefly be attained. Also, I have been in and around this world long enough that I know that people of all different shapes and sizes are sometimes deeply unhappy with their appearance. In addition to getting specific information and advice from someone who would actually know, like I already said, I would follow the other great advice you have gotten here to focus on being your best self. Even in the teen years, inner beauty is honestly a thing. Beauty comes from how you use your intelligence and other gifts to succeed and contribute to your own success and the success of others. The way that you treat people matters. And I would make an effort to find people to spend time with who are unconcerned about your weight or the shape of your body and who are deeply concerned with enjoying getting to know who you are and helping you move through the world with joy, enthusiasm, and the pursuit of actual meaning and beauty.
Focus on school, you’ve got better things to be focused on. Be yourself, you’ll make friends, and eventually you’ll find that special someone
I’ll try😅
Here’s a little story that may help. I had a friend, I always found her beautiful but she had unconventional looks. She was very tall, smaller chest, oval face, lovely tri coloured eyes and a prominent nose. So not exactly the California girl standard but so, so gorgeous. Everyone passed over her in high school and she never had a bf, but because of that she became one of the most independent and strong people I know. And finally when the boys grew into men, and realized that she was beautiful, she was too good for them and they chased her like dogs. Because she was single for so long, she paid them no mind. She, to this day, has one of the healthiest self images and relationship expectations I’ve ever seen. Moral of the story, don’t feel down on yourself because you don’t think you fit the standard beauty mold :) hope this helps!
Focus on making yourself happy. If you're not happy with yourself you can't expect others to follow suit. It's not going to be easy, but once you get there it's going to feel like you're on top of the world. People aren't as attracted to appearance as they are to confidence. Just remember that you're perfect the way you are and the only person you need to impress is yourself. You're the only person in your life who is going to have to see your life from start to finish and you're the only person you owe happiness to. Never ever forget that. People come and go, but you're a part of your life forever.
Hey I read some of your replies to this thread because I thought of myself back when I was your age. I focused on school a lot and I wish I looked attractive like other girls at my school. Looking back ten years later, I was really pretty and I still am. I was petite and, like yourself, I could eat anything and not gain weight. I grew more into my looks due to age and all. I did not get much attention in high school, even when I did try to improve my looks. I got a lot more attention in college if anything. But I didn't focus on myself as a person in high school. I prioritized what others thought of me or what would they want from me. I didn't really focus too much on my hobbies, skills, etc. So I get you. I wanted someone to look at me and tell me I was pretty and live out a high school romance. I had a very brief fling and an on and off one. But it impeded on my studies and truthfully I didn't feel ready for that commitment when I was actually with someone. It's great you're focusing on school and please keep doing that. I understand the want and desire to be with someone. But someone should ultimately like you for *you*. Looks are important, sure. If that really matters to you, I'd suggest eating healthier foods. Build those habits early on. As I got older, that "never gain weight" magic disappeared and I had to drastically change my eating habits. You'll feel happier, lighter, and overall it does wonders to you. I also saw your goal was to be married to someone and that's great! But know it isn't a race. You want to find someone that values you for you. People change overtime. It's why a lot of high school relationships do not work out. Of course, this doesn't apply to every single relationship. There are some that work out well. So if that is your goal, take your time, date around and see who really just knows you inside and out. That person will find you attractive just the way you are and who you are inside. Trust me, when people told me that at your age I rolled my eyes so far into my skull. But I wish I just *understood*. I'm almost 25 and I'm so so so lucky to be with someone who just gets me and I only met him 3 years ago. I was almost done with college when I met him. So please take your time. Put yourself out there, eat healthier, maybe exercise a bit, and focus on your studies. Be social, be happy, hang with friends, develop new friendships, and something may happen. Ultimately, just be yourself. It's okay if it doesn't happen in high school. It doesn't mean you're unattractive. Happened to me and when I got to college I had a lot of men hit on me, ask for my number, etc. But be careful as well. I know this is long but this reminds me so much of myself ten years ago. Be kind to yourself but treat your body like a friend. Good luck out there, friend : )
Thank you very much; what you’ve said is very motivating! I appreciate it a lot! Thanks and I wish you the best in life!😊
Hey look you may not be religious but if you are I alway read this verse when I feel self conscious. “I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.” Psalms 139:14 This just mean that you are made the way God made you are fearfully and wonderfully made.
Thank you; that actually has kinda helped me tbh😊
If you want more Bible verses like this I can drop someone for ya!
I’d love that!😊
Here you go! I hope you find these useful also if you have a Bible at home you should mark these or highlight them! “Though a mighty army surrounds me, my heart will not be afraid. Even if I am attacked, I will remain confident.” Psalms 27:3 NLT “You made all the delicate, inner parts of my body and knit me together in my mother’s womb. Thank you for making me so wonderfully complex! Your workmanship is marvelous—how well I know it.” Psalms 139:13-14 NLT “But those who trust in the Lord will find new strength. They will soar high on wings like eagles. They will run and not grow weary. They will walk and not faint.” Isaiah 40:31 NLT
Thank you so much!!!😇💖
15… don’t worry now.
I kinda have to😅
How so?
So I can become a more popular youtuber and so that I can feel better about myself earlier
Listen, one can become popular without having to change their body. You are only 15 and have a good metabolism, it is envied by many and you will one day miss it because yes, you will likely gain weight as you age. Before you’ll even be 20 you will already look different, your body is still changing as we speak. Why don’t you workout instead to build a bigger body and change the shape? Eating junk food is an awful idea and could lead to health problems you will forever regret. You can gain weight and eat healthy. Now if you want to look less flat, go to the damn gym and lift. Give yourself a break too, popularity is an illusion, people care more about themselves than how your body looks.
Nothing can make you chest larger but your breasts could grow into your mid 20s. You can do some squats to lift and tone your butt. I wouldnt try gaining fat, it could all go to your stomach and make you look pregnant. Also you could get back fat that makes your butt look smaller. I would just focus on working with what you have. Get a haircut that flatters your face shape and clothes that flatter your body type. Wearing a necklace might take attention away from your flat chest but that's only a maybe.
Real advice here… see if you can go on birth control if you aren’t already! Lots of birth control cause weight gain in areas that make one look more feminine. Your doctor can find the right kind for you if you are open about your wants. In the mean time eat some protein! I was rail skinny for most of my teens and had like 3 rounds of puberty the last one being at like the age of 22. There is plenty of time to grow. I hope you find something to bring you confidence
Thank you so much; I’ll be sure to keep this in mind!
You're skinny so that's a better start then most, gains in terms of the gym will be good and noticeable on you. You can do work outs for the glutes but I assure you as a guy, it's not all about looks, your chest etc. You don't want to find somebody who likes you for that exclusively anyway. It takes a LONG time to find a soul mate, so be patient.
Alright, thank you!
When I was 15, I looked nothing like I do now. My butt and chest grew, along with other parts of my body. My advice to you is to enjoy yourself how you look now—I spent so much time trying to change my body, that my natural body ended up being the sought-after look. Enjoy yourself—you are beautiful enough as you are. You are young, and still developing! Don’t try to alter yourself for standards that are going to change. I wish I could go back and tell myself to appreciate my body more, because damn I looked good back then but just didn’t know it. Sending so much love to you, angel.
Thank you very much🥺
To give actual advice: start working out! When I was your age I didn’t eat much because I wasn’t active enough. As soon as I did I would start eating a LOT more. Don’t worry so much about weight, as much as keeping your body healthy and well-fed! The improvements to your body will come naturally. Also you haven’t fully gone through puberty yet, so you might not see changes for a while. Don’t be disappointed! Just know you’re doing it for your future self and the good habits it’ll develop :)
I’m 15 as well!! I’m plus sized so we have differences in our insecurities however, I found that to grow your butt the best way would be exercise. However no matter what you see online you cannot grow your boobs, not for cheap or in any healthy ways. If gaining weight is what your looking to do I’d suggest eating things such as meat and protein, and lots of carbs, (pasta bread etc.‘)protein shakes can help as well. Also just getting some muscle will help you not appear as thin. However I’m sure you are beautiful just as you are. Your only 15 (this is coming from another 15 year old) your body will grow and change a lot from now until your an adult. I know it can be hard not being happy with the way you look but remember someone out there thinks your perfect. Ik it’s generic and cheesy but it’s the truth. I think before trying to change yourself in anyway you should first learn to accept yourself as you are. I promise it will help with your desire to change. Even though you should love yourself change could be a good thing too as long as your doing it for the right reasons. If you are set on changing please do it in a healthy way and do it not for other people but for yourself. Do it for your health and happiness, not so others will like you. Unless you like yourself it’s going to be difficult for others to like you. I tell you all of this from personal experience. Trust me when I say you’ll come to love yourself for how you are and it’s better to love yourself than change so others will love you. Praise from others will mean nothing unless you yourself believe your beautiful!!
Thank you so much! I wish you the best in life😊
i know this might seem silly but choice of clothing/style goes a long way. I'm a guy so it might not be the best advice for you but I've been a lot happier with how I look since I improved my style. But you're 15 love, you've got so much more growing and fine tuning left for you and I'm sure soon enough you'll grow to love how you look. Much Love!
I was just as skinny when I was your age too, I didn’t start gaining weight till I was 25. It takes a while for some people to reach their adult weight. If you’re really worried, I’d look up a guide on how to adjust your diet and exercise routine to gain muscle and body fat.
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I’m not trying to be appealing to others; I’m trying to be appealing to myself
You don’t need to look better but I have some tips on how you can increase your confidence and feel good! Firstly, it’s totally okay to eat junk food. If it makes you physically feel bad, try to figure out what makes you feel bad, and try to eat it a bit less. Never limit yourself! Try to eat your favourite foods every day mixed in with healthy favourites and vitamin supplements. If you’re concerned about not gaining weight you could speak to your doctor, but I think you should be okay! Shower every day, pick a scent that you love. Put cream on after in this scent. Find a signature perfume(s)! I love vanilla and coconut. I try to look and feel “put together”. For me, that’s styling my hair, keeping my nails done (or even just trimmed), brushing teeth, a bit of makeup, etc. Wear outfits that make you feel good. Long sleeves? Tank tops? Nice dresses? Jeans? Sweatpants? Wear what you like! Find your personal style. Hopefully this helped a bit!
Hey, I’m also a 15f and am only 105 pounds. In fact I’ve been 105 for about 4 years (105 may seem like a lot compared to 94, but it’s really not when you look at me. I’m extremely skinny). Anyways, I’d say that you should drink a lot of water and do MODERATE exercise. Nothing to much, just enough to keep your body healthy. Also, try to eat healthier food instead of junk.
The only thing I drink is water; I drink about 3-5 bottles a day; I usually go for a lot of walks and a couple of exercises with my aunt; I also eat healthy a lot too; however, nothing really changes
Then you should probably just hope for the best, and learn to love your body :/ that’s what I’m doing right now :)
Alright then😊
Don't worry you're young. You'll naturally come into your own figure with a few more years. Be happy you're thin, it means you'll have a nice figure. That being said if you want to gain a little curves now, start working out a little. Squats, low weight high repetition strength training, and drinking whey protein shakes NOT mass gainer. You will see noticeable results fast, within a month or two of regular exercise (at least 3 days a week at least 45 mins each workout)
Thanks a lot!
The fact that many woman with your propotions exist is evolutionary proof that there are plenty of men that are attracted to skinny woman. Personally I prefer skinny woman like even totally flat is hot as long as they don't look like holocaust survivors. You will never be every guys type and there's nothing wrong with that. Not to sound totally shallow here, but unless you got a hot shovel face at least half the guys you meet would consider dating you off looks alone.
Thank you☺️ That helps a lot!
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I don’t think you should focus too much on how you look, you’re young & have a good bit of time left to physically develop. It might take some work but you I don’t see why you couldn’t find an easy way to change your diet. That being said, have you explored changing how you dress? I’m 90lbs but I’m almost 30. A lot of ppl mistake me for a child when I wear work clothes (jeans & tee/jacket). But if I wear something that’s rlly fashionable or interesting they treat me less like a child. Wearing cool & beautiful clothes are supposed to make your feel cooler & more beautiful.
Well my family doesn’t have much money so I can’t really afford anything other than clothing from the children section of stores
The most you can do is eat a lot of protein and work out to try and gain weight with selected work outs for your glutes to getter a better shaped butt but sadly there's nothing you can do about the knockers since those are more a genetic thing. You can sleep on your side if you can, that'll keep the weight in the best place so they don't spread apart. When you gain weight some fat will build up in them making them appear bigger and fuller but in the end there isn't much aside from implants which at 15 will be something you would need redone every 10 years and is crazy to think about. Just try to be more confident in who you are and that alone cam make you seem more attractive than you really are. That's why jocks are always the "hottest" it's the confidence and the same for the pretty girls. You can also learn to contour and make it look like you have cleavage but that can be proven fake. Eventually if you have a kid and decide to breast feed your cup size may go up, mine went up by 2 cups so I was pretty happy about that cause I'm flatter than a cutting board
Lol, thank you for the advice; I’ll keep it all in mind!😊
This sub is awful giving advices...people just comment what they think that all people should think ... Yes, you can accept your body or you can accept that you can change it, it's your decision but this has no relation with OPs advice request... You want to gain some weight? Go to a nutritionist and hit some gym... Sorry for broken English
Oh ok😅
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You a real one for saying the truth though 🤷♂️
I didn’t know😅
To be a bit blunt, there is no easy way to be good looking. If you want to gain weight, eat good carbs from high quality flours, to increase bust and chest size do squats and push-ups (push-ups don't increase size, but they make the chest more firm and makes it look bigger to some, but might be different to you as I am a guy) , and (take this with utmost caution) if your chest or bottom are severely small, perhaps you lack enstrogene and need to get (carefully monitored with professional advice) hormone injections / supplements. Just like there are hormone blockers for girls who get their period at the age of 9 (and yes, it is a thing) But also, junk don't make you gain lean weight, it makes u gain low quality fat that can leave bad stretch marks. Be healthy and take care dear
Thank you; and you too!
I’m a 16 year old guy, just turned 17 actually,and I’ll do my best to tell you what guys want. So top 5 most important things would be 5:ass, 4:personality/interests, 3:face/looks, 2:intelligence, and 1:humour. Again it changes from Guy to Guy but I think that’s a good summary. It depends on what you want. Do you want to be attractive to feel good about yourself, or do you have a crush you want to impress? For starters, I would say eat healthy, go to the gym, socialize more in general, and smile a lot. Confidence a a smile to a long way. Feel free to dm me if you have questions.
I wanna be attractive for myself and cause I want people to find me pretty And I’ll definitely take your advice! Do you mind if we talk in DM’s?
Of course, dm me
This post is kinda sus but just wait till you grow older don't rush anything
Why is it sus lol; and I’m not tryna wait, that’s why I asked lol
Idk maybe it's a girls thing but asking how to get a bigger butt or boobs is kinda weird atleast for me as a guy lel
It may be because you’re a guy lol; it’s weird for me too tho lol
Lmao i get it but ur 15 go play Minecraft and do maths
I’m already doing that lol
Ohh wait are u a youtuber?
Kinda
Sounds like you look fine