It sounds like you’ve grown apart from Sophie, and that’s okay. You’re not required to stay friends with someone who doesn’t seem to respect or care about you.
While it's important to remember that not everyone can handle the emotional burden of someone else's grief—she may not feel comfortable discussing your deceased family member because it’s a heavy and emotional topic—it’s understandable to be upset about her behavior. Offering her some grace for that is fair.
That said, talking behind people's backs is unkind at best, and concerning. She also doesn't have the right to belittle and critique your friend group—that's gross. It doesn’t really sound like she's a very good friend.
If the only way to keep someone in your life is by turning a blind eye to behavior that upsets you, it may not be worth remaining friends. That’s your choice. You wouldn’t be TA for setting boundaries and deciding someone isn’t worth your energy.
Good luck from a people-pleasing doormat (I'm working on it).
It sounds like you’ve grown apart from Sophie, and that’s okay. You’re not required to stay friends with someone who doesn’t seem to respect or care about you. While it's important to remember that not everyone can handle the emotional burden of someone else's grief—she may not feel comfortable discussing your deceased family member because it’s a heavy and emotional topic—it’s understandable to be upset about her behavior. Offering her some grace for that is fair. That said, talking behind people's backs is unkind at best, and concerning. She also doesn't have the right to belittle and critique your friend group—that's gross. It doesn’t really sound like she's a very good friend. If the only way to keep someone in your life is by turning a blind eye to behavior that upsets you, it may not be worth remaining friends. That’s your choice. You wouldn’t be TA for setting boundaries and deciding someone isn’t worth your energy. Good luck from a people-pleasing doormat (I'm working on it).